This week’s topic is: Staying Positive During Transitions in Life
Transitions are part of life. We know that life is dynamic, but it doesn’t mean that they’re always easy. Even for so-called good, happy transitions or not so happy ones.
I know when I moved into our new house a few months ago, it was exciting to find a house, but it was so stressful. The move, the packing, the details, moving during my first trimester. There was a lot there.
I’m also transitioning into having a second child and really how that impacts the dynamic of the family and Bubby, who is so used to having my full attention for these years and is now having a sibling. It’s a lot. Transitions have a lot of charged energy in them.
There’s practices and ways to train ourselves emotionally and physically to be okay with change, to let go of control more. We thought this was a great topic today. We’ve certainly been getting a lot of questions about it and I’m excited to dive in.
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Emma – Boston
When I make a mistake, I obsess over it and I can’t let it go. No matter how hard I try, it consumes my thoughts. How do I let go, move on and not let anxiety control me?
Erin – St. Louis
How can you overcome emotional trauma and or abuse?
Trish – New Jersey
Having lost my job and being unemployed, not because of the virus, I can’t help, but question my worth. How can I bounce back from this huge shift in my life?
Danielle – New Hampshire
I recently lost a considerable amount of weight. I now have this extra skin that I’m having a hard time accepting. I went through all of this effort to drop the weight for my health and let’s face it, how I look, but then now I have this new insecurity. My emotions are all over the place, which makes me just want to eat badly all over again. Please help.
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Kimberly: Hey Beauties. Welcome back to our Thursday, Q and A podcast where our topic today is Staying Positive During Transitions in Life. So transitions are part of life. We know that life is dynamic, but it doesn’t mean that they’re always easy. And I will say that even for good so-called good, happy transitions or not so happy ones. I know when I moved into our new house a few months ago, it was exciting to find a house, but it was so stressful. The move, the packing, the details, moving during my first trimester. So there was a lot there. And then also now, as I’m transitioning into having a second child and really how that impacts the dynamic of the family and Bubby, who is so used to having my full attention for these years and is now having a sibling. It’s a lot. Transitions have a lot of charged energy in them.
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Kimberly: So we thought this was a great topic today. We’ve certainly been getting a lot of questions about it. I am excited to dive in. Just want to give a quick shout out as always to please leave us a review on iTunes. If you haven’t yet, if you’ve been putting it off, maybe today’s the day. It’s a great way to energetically support the show. So I thank you so much in advance and please also subscribe to our show. It’s a great way to really stay connected. We all get busy. Sometimes you may miss a show, a show that could be really life changing on your journey. So it’s a great thing to subscribe and that way you get alerts for the Monday interview podcasts and the Thursday Q and A podcasts. We have our lovely Katelyn general manager of Solluna on the line with us. She’s based in Virginia and we’ve been doing the show together since the beginning. Hi Kay. Are you stay positive during… Talk about transitions. You moved to Virginia in the middle of COVID, especially like kind of in the peak, I think.
Kimberly: Shortly after getting married, moving away from your family where you’ve pretty much been most of your life.
Katelyn: I always lived in New York. Yeah.
Katelyn: Even though I grew up on Long Island, lived in Manhattan for some years and Staten Island. But you’re still close. I mean, it’s definitely different living down South and like a different state. I was going to say, talk about transitions. We both have had a lot of transitions this year from and early last year, getting married and moving, you bought a house, you’re having a second baby, transitioning. So we are not strangers to this. And I’m glad you brought up because sometimes people say transitions, they think of them as negative, right? Like, “Oh, I maybe lost my job or something traumatic happened that you couldn’t foresee.” But there are those positive transitions that are still, I struggled a bit.
Katelyn: And one of my girlfriends was like, “You’ve been going through a lot.” And I’m like, “Well, I don’t feel like I have the right to complain or say anything because things are so much better than the transitions of the divorce. Right? Or moving because of the divorce or things like that.” Right? So I almost felt like it wasn’t justified, my stress or anxiety during those times because it’s like, well, I should just shut up and be happy. So I totally get it. And I think there are ways to find positivity, but it’s okay to just be in your feelings too. I don’t know if you feel that way, Kay. It’s like we can’t deny ourselves live like, “Well, hey, this is how I feel today.”
Kimberly: Yeah. I think that change can feel… We’re so used to clinging to order and predictability, which is very much the Newtonian science model that we have been raised on. It’s based on predicting the future. So when change happens, our bodies, which like a continuous routine, our bodies like doing things every day, the same way. It can feel unsettling. So there’s practices and there’s ways to train ourselves emotionally and physically to be okay with change, to let go of control more. And to just let things play out, which, my friend Laura says, “It means you never touch the sides. It means you’re just flowing food. You’re not bumping up against.” Imagine if you’re going down a river, you’re not hitting the shores as much. You’re just flowing along and we remain more open to what unfolds versus the stress of trying to control and micromanage everything, which definitely makes things worse.
Question 1: When I make a mistake, I obsess over it and I can’t let it go. No matter how hard I try, it consumes my thoughts. How do I let go, move on and not let anxiety control me?
Katelyn: Yes. Us being recovering perfectionists can relate to this. And when I saw Emma’s question, who’s living in Boston, I knew that this is something that you could definitely help her with. So I figured we’ll dive in. We could start giving our tips and help here to the Beauties. So Emma’s asking when I make a mistake, I obsess over it and I can’t let it go. No matter how hard I try, it consumes my thoughts. How do I let go, move on and not let anxiety control me?
Kimberly: Emma, this is a great question. I think a lot of us struggle with that. So thank you so much for being in our community. And thank you for your question. This goes back to thought patterns, I think, and thoughts versus feelings. The obsession means, and you guys have heard me talking about him so many times, but David Hawkins, he talks about how one feeling or one emotion can manifest in literally a million thoughts. So, that’s the obsession part where… And you actually put it in your question. It consumes my thoughts. You’re thinking and thinking and thinking and justifying and wondering if you should have done a different outcome and beating yourself up. These are all thought patterns in your head. And so the way to let go is literally to ignore your thoughts for a moment, push them to the side.
Kimberly: Thoughts are, “Oh, well I should have done more for that work project. I shouldn’t have just spoken up. I should have done it this way. I should have done it that way.” Because sometimes people are like, “It’s hard for me to tell the difference between a thought, a feeling.” A thought is anything that could be put into words. So all those are constructs already of the mind. We’ve already moved into that step of actual formed words. And if you can put that to the side, Emma, and just sit in your body, in your body, not in your head, but in your body and let yourself feel, which can feel intense for about 10 minutes or a little bit uncomfortable. But if you can let yourself feel in your body, is it in your gut?
Kimberly: Is it in your throat? Is it in your shoulders, in your heart, feel heaviness, a blockage, feel resentment, or just feel like a sticky feeling, it’s a feeling. So it’s hard to put into words, but you can actually feel it in your body. Because when things, anxiety comes, when things get stuck in our being, in our body. See it’s like digestion. We’re meant to eat food. And then we assimilate it. We chew it. It goes down into our GI tract, goes through our stomach, worked on by multiple different and digestive enzymes, goes into our duodenum into the top of our small intestine and the villi pull it into our bloodstream. We get nourished. And then ideally we don’t get bloated. The food keeps on going through to the colon, to the large intestine and then it gets passed out our rectum as poop. Right?
Kimberly: It flows through. But if there is blockages, bloating, indigestion, all sorts of things, it stays in the body. And it’s the exact same thing with events in life. If we can just let ourselves feel it, which is the digestion part, it passes through. But if we try to hold on and we keep it alive with all the thoughts and the things that keep going around and around in our head and we continue to obsess and it continues to affect it. And we’re literally feeding it with our own energy. So again, the way through it is to put the thoughts to the side, let it rise up, feel it completely in your body, which could take 10 minutes or so, and then breathe out and let it go. And when I started doing this, Emma, it was a game changer. When I started feeling things in my body.
Kimberly: It’s one of the major reasons I was so constipated besides the dairy, besides the gluten, all the things I was eating, I didn’t have the skills to really process things. I was a perfectionist. I was trying to control, I was trying to micromanage. I would hold on, hold on. So, that’s the energy of constipation, right? You’re holding on. So when you can just let things flow and open up, anxiety goes way down because you release, you surrender that attempt to control, which never works anyway. Oh, and a great book for this, we brought it up before, is literally called Letting Go by Dr. David Hawkins, where he explains this whole concept. And this is also something that I talk about. If you haven’t checked out Recipes for your Perfectly Imperfect Life, Emma, my last book, there’s a lot about letting go, how that played out in my life with my birth plan, with Bubby’s birth, when my mom got sick suddenly. There’s a lot of aspects where letting go profoundly impacted my life. So those are two good books to check out that we’ll link to in the show notes.
Katelyn: Yes. It’s always great to have those tangible things we can reach out and touch like a book that we can flip to a page. So those are great reminders. And yes, thoughts, I know for me, if I let a thought run, it keeps that energy going where if we squash it, then we’re able to move on. So those are great tips for the Beauties. And I think everybody can relate to not being able to let something go.
Question 2: How can you overcome emotional trauma and or abuse?
Katelyn: Yeah. That’s a common one. All right. So we have another question here from Erin who’s living in St. Louis. How can you overcome emotional trauma and or abuse?
Kimberly: So this is a great question as well. And Erin, I’ll preface this by saying, obviously Katelyn and I are not trained therapists or psychologists. So if you really feel that something is affecting your day to day and I would say it’s a big event because I think trauma can be a series of smaller things that add up. If you feel like you need some professional help, I definitely recommend that. I don’t talk to a traditional therapist myself, but I do talk to this energy healer that I love named Laura and that’s helped me work through a lot of things. So sometimes we do need that supportive person. So I think, there’s so many different forms of therapy, but I’m a big believer in therapy that feels aligned to you. Now, there is a great book for this too.
Kimberly: It’s called Your Body Keeps the Score. And the doctor’s name is a little bit hard to pronounce, Bessel Van der Kolk. I believe he is from Finland or he’s Norwegian and he’s some Scandinavian country, but he was the one that talked about, yes, it’s easy to pinpoint let’s say if you were beaten as a child or you went through some traumatic event, he said, but something like constantly being ignored as a child or not being listened to is actually really potent form of emotional trauma. I want to say it can be a series of smaller, so-called smaller events versus one big event that can really affect our day to day reactions, our relationships, our triggers, all sorts of things. So I think awareness is a really important thing. I think we don’t ever really overcome trauma until we become aware of what it is.
Kimberly: And for me, I became aware when I started paying attention to what made me react. And I noticed, “Hey, I’m not as peaceful as I would like to be because people can throw me off. And what throws me off is when I feel like I’m not being heard and Oh, where does that come from?” I just started again, being aware of it and digging, digging down. And it turns out it was because in my childhood, and again, not to say anything bad about my parents. I think every parent, everybody’s doing their absolute best and there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. There’s no perfect manual. And people come with their own issues into parenthood, but for whatever reason, I just wasn’t feeling heard a lot. I felt like I was, again, whether it was conscious or in my own perception, just I wasn’t heard, I wasn’t seen.
Kimberly: So that led to adult reactions. And then once I could pinpoint that I was able to work with that in my childhood and heal it and expand my perspective and see where parents and caregivers were coming from and seeing that my interpretation wasn’t necessarily their intention. And it was very healing to go into that. So again, I think if you look at how it’s affecting you now and you create that awareness, then you can start to go back in time, so to speak and figure it out how to heal that part.
Kimberly: And then, therapy could be really wonderful in this regard, breathing, breath therapy. A lot of breath work is really powerful at removing trauma. There’s something called transcendental breathing. You can look it up. There may be practitioners near you. It’s something I have also tried and done to release. Because again, trauma gets stored in your body and that book, Your Body Keeps the Score is really great. So sitting with yourself, learning more about yourself can be really helpful with this regard. And this is up the alley of, of course, our Solluna Circle, where we talk about emotional wellbeing and we dive into different topics. And that is also really great for creating awareness as well.
Katelyn: Yes. That’s why we talk about journaling so much to where it’s just putting that pen to paper and the thoughts come out because sometimes we don’t know. Right? If we knew, it’s creating that awareness. You’re talking about that opens up and begins to share the freedom, where I could free myself from this because I know what’s happening versus… I know for me, I used to feel helpless because I wouldn’t know what was causing me to feel a certain way. And now that have more awareness, it definitely definitely helps.
Katelyn: Awesome. Beauties.
Kimberly: It’s the first step. If we’re not aware, then we can’t really heal it.
Katelyn: Yeah, exactly. It’s going in blind versus… Now I have a list because one’s perfect. I still struggle with things and something might come up and I might not catch it as quickly. And I’ll be like, “Oh right. That was triggering this feeling for me.” And I’ll be like, “Oh, I thought I was past that.” So it’s definitely a journey, right? Where it’s, you don’t have to beat yourself up. It takes a while to get there. But just having the awareness, just wanting to get past your emotional trauma or abuse, Erin, I feel like that’s one step to even be aware that you have it. Because for a long time, I didn’t know I had, I wouldn’t consider, it was I had this trauma. Right?
Katelyn: I didn’t look at it that way and it wasn’t able to heal it. So that’s really, really helpful. We’ll link to the books that Kimberly mentioned in the show notes in the first part of the show. Also to our lovely Solluna Circle. So during our break, which we’re about to take, if you want to head over to mysolluna.com, you can check out those resources today, which we created with love for you guys. And we really hope that you check them out. So with that, we’ll let Kimberly take her short break and then she’ll be back to answer the last two questions.
Kimberly: All right, Beauties. We took our short break. We have two more questions for you all on staying positive during transitions in life. Big topic, shifts, change. It’s always challenge. I won’t say always because it gets easier. I can say in my life, it’s gotten easier when we have some tools that we built up, like breathing through, feeling the feelings in our body, letting them pass through. But that’s why it’s important that we talk about these tools because guess what? Change is going to keep on happening no matter what in all these different forms, positive changes, like having another baby, moving to, “Oh, my boyfriend broke up with me all of a sudden.” Or, “Oh, when my mom passed away quite quickly.” There’s just so much change that is a constant in life in a way is the change. So glad we’re talking about this, for sure.
Question 3: Having lost my job and being unemployed, not because of the virus, I can’t help, but question my worth. How can I bounce back from this huge shift in my life?
Katelyn: Yes. For sure. A lot of resistance can come up around change. I think it’s great to talk about it in this dynamic way through our four cornerstones with the beauties. So we have a question from Trish, who’s living in New Jersey. Having lost my job and being unemployed, not because of the virus, I can’t help, but question my worth. How can I bounce back from this huge shift in my life?
Kimberly: This is a great question, Trish. And this is where a lot of us… We talked about this on last week’s show or a recent show, this idea that we tend to define ourselves by external labels a lot. And that creates a lot of stress. So for instance, for women, if we have been defined by our looks and suddenly, we continue, the years go on, maybe now we’re in our 50s, 60s, 70s. If we put our worth into just how we looked and that starts to shift, then we start to question our selves, right? But it’s still external. How we look as external. Our job is ultimately external. What we do, doesn’t define who we are and our beingness. So I love this question, Trish, because I think it’s easy to live in the 3D physical world and to define ourselves by that.
Kimberly: But the reality and the truth is that we’re so much more than all these outer labels. All of that’s going to fade and going to change. So it forces us to question then, “Well, okay, if security and worth isn’t defined by all that, what is?” And that’s where it’s the inner world, the inner spirit, the inner parts of ourselves that we really need to anchor to and hold on to and connect with. For me, and I talk about this with you guys a lot, our cornerstones are food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth. Meditation, journaling, being in nature. Those are some of my biggest, deepest, most important daily practices.
Kimberly: If we live in the world and Dr. Joe Dispenza is a great teacher about this. He talks about people getting up in the morning and going right to their WhatsApp, going right to Facebook, Instagram, email, because it makes them feel safe to be connected to the known world, the parts of the world that is defined. But he says, “What if you got up in the morning and you didn’t go right to those things that create the same and to an extent, the same reality, the same emotions as yesterday.”
Kimberly: So your yesterday is defining your future. What if you sat, as we talk about here in Solluna with our morning practice, and you went into space, spaciousness went into meditation. So in that regard, it’s very powerful to start the day with not putting the emphasis on the externals, on how many likes you have, on what kind of emails you got, but really to connect back in with your breath and your body and your spirit. Right? And sometimes when we say the word spiritual people think we’re talking about religion or practices and people say, “Oh, I’m not really into that.” But we’re not talking about that. We’re just talking about connecting with the beingness part of you versus the doingness part of you. And it’s hard to put into words, but we know who we are isn’t how we look.
Kimberly: And it’s not what job we have. And it’s not how great our hair is. It’s not how much money we have. It’s not how big our house is or anything like that. It’s our inner essence. And I think when you’re going through a transition like this Trish, where you lost your job and you’re questioning your worth, we need to reconnect with that inner essence. Spend some time doing your meditation, sitting with yourself, and then that will help you bounce back. Then you will feel connected. Then your vibration will start to be raised. Then your frequency, you’ll feel more whole. And out of this, you can start to shift and pivot and think, “Oh, well now, I had a intuition to apply for this job, or I’m going to try taking my skills here, or maybe I need to develop this new skill. And then I want to do this, or I want to do that.”
Kimberly: And it fuels enormous energy and direction even when right now you may think you don’t have any. It’s actually inside of yourself. You just need to connect back with it. And we have free led meditations for you guys as well. I just have to say, it’s not just, “Oh, sit there and we’re pushing you out on the raft.” We have great meditations you can find on mysolluna.com.. There’s some in our free cornerstone ebook. There’s mostly ones in our Solluna Circle, which might be really great for you, Trish. And yeah. There’s resources for this, but I definitely think going inward and then reemerging outer in a stronger way in the outer world.
Katelyn: Yes. I’ve found anything that causes discomfort also causes growth. And I’ve had a few friends that have lost their jobs over the years and they’ve reinvented themselves and emerged in careers and doing different things that if that defining moment didn’t happen, their life wouldn’t be where it is now. And they’d actually say they’re so grateful that that shift happened because it drove them to really end up doing what they wanted to do or enhancing another passion.
Katelyn: And it seems hard when you’re in the trenches to be like, “Oh, how could this be a positive?” Or how do I even look at this in another way as Kimberly was breaking down. But most of the time, any of my friends or anybody I’ve personally been in touch with that have gone through something like that, they actually have it be like a big defining moment where they look back and they actually have a lot of gratitude for it happening.
Kimberly: Oh yeah. It’s the hindsight.
Katelyn: Yeah. Definitely. For sure. So definitely our heart goes out to you during this time, Trish, but the community is here for you. We have a lot of resources and we know that you will bounce back stronger than ever.
Question 4: I recently lost a considerable amount of weight. I now have this extra skin that I’m having a hard time accepting. I went through all of this effort to drop the weight for my health and let’s face it, how I look, but then now I have this new insecurity. My emotions are all over the place, which makes me just want to eat badly all over again. Please help.
Katelyn: All right. We have one more great question from Danielle living in New Hampshire. I recently lost a considerable amount of weight. I now have this extra skin that I’m having a hard time accepting. I went through all of this effort to drop the weight for my health and let’s face it, how I look, but then now I have this new insecurity. My emotions are all over the place, which makes me just want to eat badly all over again. Please help.
Kimberly: Danielle, sending you a huge virtual hug. I definitely can feel the potent emotions around the situation. I’m sure that feels really frustrating to have gone through this shift, which was supposed to feel good and then to end up not feeling so great on the other side. So I will just say, first of all, practically speaking, skin can take some time to tighten. It’s like after you have a baby and the skin has to come back or let’s say you do lose a bunch of weight and the skin has to catch up. So I will just say skin is very malleable and dynamic. I would just continue to eat a lot of plant-based very high nutrient foods, like our Glowing Green Smoothie® and lemon water, lots of vitamin C, collagen rich foods, and really nourish your skin from the inside out.
Kimberly: Now, this goes back to what I was saying with Trisha about connecting to your inner essence. This is a transition point. And so if we focus on the positives, you’ve lost a bunch of weight. So your heart, your cardiovascular health, in so many ways, your health has improved and that’s really wonderful. And then you think, “Okay, maybe my skin doesn’t look as great right now, but I’m going to work on eating and practices. You can do a lot of abhyanga, self massage, like all sorts of things to help stimulate the collagen. This isn’t permanent, but anytime we’re going through a shift with our appearance. Maybe we start to get wrinkles. Maybe our hair starts to get gray or whatever. We go into menopause. Like all these different things are going to happen with our bodies.
Kimberly: And if, again, we attach all our worth just to the outside, then I think we really rob ourselves of our true beauty, which is our essence, it’s who we are. And then going back to wanting to eat badly all over again. That’s your go to, Danielle, my love. That’s the energy shifter, the mood shifter that has been your fallback, which is food, which is true for a lot of people. So, instead of just going to that easy go to, this is where we go to deeper practices, meditation, nourishing yourself with a massage, going for a walk, sitting outside, writing in your journal, making an elixir or an herbal tea, finding community, tribe, a friend, you can talk to, someone you can go on a walk with, a family member, just someone that you can bounce things off of, like creating your own support system beyond food.
Kimberly: So remember that skin is one of the most transient things. We can use great products. We can use really wonderful things. We can eat a certain way. And I really do think, I’ve seen this a lot with people when they lose weight [inaudible 00:29:08] talking to one of my clients. His skin was saggy, and then it tightened up. So remember that your skin is dynamic and it will start to transition and to accommodate you over time. So try not to get so focused on that. Try to do your practices right now. And like you said, let’s face it. It’s actually a great time while we’re in COVID and there’s less social functions, you can just be in your inner world and work on yourself right now, anyway. And by the way, congratulations for dropping all that weight because ultimately that is the most important thing for your health and then your skin will catch up. In the meantime, do the inner work. Start to reconnect with yourself and then we’ll go forward.
Katelyn: Yeah. It is challenging. Especially as women, we have these standards everybody holds themselves to that sometimes they’re not obtainable. I know I went through a lot taking out my implants. And like, “Oh, my boobs look weird now. Before they were perfect, because they were surgical. And but I’m like, “Oh, my health though.” I’m like, “I wish I did it years ago because I feel so much better.” So I think when you have those moments of insecurity to hold on to the positive, like how much better you feel because you’ve lost the weight. I know I hold on to that sometimes if I feel a little bit, maybe I miss the feeling of bigger boobs or I feel a little bit deformed in my skin, I just tell myself, “Well, you know what? I feel great though at the end of the day.” And that’s just part of my journey. That’s a scar I wear and I wouldn’t change it because I wouldn’t be who I am now without going through that.
Kimberly: Oh, yeah.
Katelyn: And I’m sure you have things too, K, like where, it’s just like owning it in a way of like this is something I’ve been through and something I’ve just accomplished. I mean, losing a considerable amount of weight is really hard. So as Kim said, you should be really proud of yourself and we’re proud of you for sticking to your health journey and working on yourself. And that’s really all we can do. Just keep at it.
Kimberly: Kate, did your skin, though, from going from having big boobs to not, didn’t it tighten back up?
Katelyn: Yeah. I mean, I have to say it’s been a little over a year since I’ve had the surgery and it’s come… I was swollen and it comes back and they’re okay. Obviously, with the surgery, I think they nipped a little skin. But yeah. It definitely over time, I’ve come back into my body, like more so than if I were to say three or six months after I wasn’t where I was going to end up. So, and even just I’ve lost my body, I mean, over the years, I think at one point I had lost like almost 40 or 50 pounds and my skin and my stomach was pretty loose. And then over time I had to do strength training and try to work out to tighten it. And I still have looser skin. I don’t think I’ll ever have a crazy tight stomach, but I think you can, as you said, like work on skin elasticity and things like that over time.
Kimberly: Sure. Yeah. I mean, I’ll say for me, my things are I have a decent sized C-section scar and the whole birth story, learned a lot from Bubby’s birth that I wrote about in recipes for Your Perfectly Imperfect Life. I think so many people expected me to have this natural home birth. And I attempted that. And for many reasons, including his weight and being two weeks late and having Asian pelvis with a Caucasian man and all sorts of things, I wasn’t able to birth that way. And so now I am very actually proud of the scar in a way. And I love to tell people that I am an advocate for hospital birth actually. I mean, it completely changed my opinion because I think no risk is in my personal opinion, is worth it when it comes to a child. I wouldn’t have learned any of that if I didn’t go through that whole event, okay.
Kimberly: Which was really hard at the time and I have this big scar, but it gave me like a much more open opinion. And I think it was very, growth. It was huge for me.
Kimberly: I’m also self conscious about, I have some acne scars still and a chicken pock scar on my face. And sometimes even to this day, I go back and I’m like, “Man, I actually remember picking at that pimple.” I specifically remember. And I was probably like 17 years old. I wish I didn’t do it. But it’s part of the journey. Our skin, our wrinkles and our scars and our acne scars, it’s just part of what happened. And the more I focus on loving myself and being comfortable with myself, I feel okay with all my skin imperfections. I think skin is such a big thing for women. It’s like our outer shell. It’s what people look at. But it’s true that the more we develop our inner, our natural comfortableness with ourselves and people really feel that, we start to feel more and more beautiful to everyone else, perfect skin or not.
Katelyn: Exactly. I think that really it comes down to what are our slogan, what we always say is like, own your true beauty and feel good.
Katelyn: Just everybody’s dealt a different hand in life and we all have different genetics and different upbringings and different things that have happened to us and what we can and can’t control. So, Kim and I shared a little bit with you guys today of just a couple of things for us. I’m sure if we were sitting in a room with you, like we do, and we were able to have our Solluna Circles and we go around and get to talk to everybody individually, everybody has their moments in their journeys to reflect. And just to hold on to that, whatever transition you’re going through, not to sound cliche, but self love really does get you through. That’s what we teach.
Kimberly: Love it.
Thought of the Week
Katelyn: All right, Kay. Well, before we let you go as always, do you have an inspirational thought for us?
Kimberly: I do. This is in my own affirmation today, which is simple, but I think very powerful, unrelated to this idea of transitions and finding a peaceful way through, a positive way through. So it is I flow and I know I don’t have to force. So when we think about this idea of flow and this water analogy, being in the river, water is the primary natural analogy that’s used in the Dow. I think it’s mentioned 18 times in 81 verses something like that. So, it’s the idea of flowing along and water is very powerful, but it also melds and it adjusts.
Kimberly: And that’s what happens in life with these transitions is things are thrown at us. Things are unpredictable. We end up having to meld and adjust or not. If we resist, if we try to force it to be the way that we want it to be, resistance happens and resistance is stress and suffering. So it’s just a little affirmation to remind ourselves, and I did put this on Instagram as well. This idea of we can choose flow, we can choose more easefulness which by the way, is our Solluna Circle topic in July is living with more easefulness and we don’t have to force. And when we realize that we can relax and feel a lot more, just a lot more easeful in life. And we can have transitions thrown at us and come out on the other side even stronger. And like we said, we’ve learned a lot.
Katelyn: Yes. There’s definitely beauty in the lessons, right. That’s why we’re here, to constantly evolve. So thank you for sharing that beautiful ending here for today’s show. And as always, Beauties, I like to remind you that we go through all of the questions and that’s how we craft the themes for the shows. And we really are interested in what you have to say and what you’re thinking and feeling. So be sure to head over to mysolluna.com and click on the podcast tab. And there’s a section there for you to submit your questions. I am looking at them every week, so please be sure to keep submitting your questions.
Kimberly: Awesome, Kay. Well, thank you so much for gathering the questions as always. Thank you, beauties so much for being part of our community. We love you. We feel very connected to you and our whole Solluna Circle community here. So we’ll be back here Monday for our next interview podcast. Till then, have a wonderful weekend, stay connected, check out the show notes and everything at mysolluna.com. And we’ll see you back here soon. Lots of love.