How to Make Your Dreams Come True with Blues Clues Creator Angela Santomero [Episode #871]
This weekâs topic: How to Make Your Dreams Come True with Blues Clues Creator Angela Santomero
I am thrilled to share my conversation with you here today with the amazing Angela Santomero who is the author of the new book, Life Clues, Unlocking the Lessons to an Exceptional Life. Angela is an amazing creator. I am so excited to chat with her specifically about her creative power and birthing these incredible Emmy Award winning shows such as âBlueâs Cluesâ and âDaniel Tigerâs Neighborhood.â What I love about her new book is that it gives so many useful tips aboutâŚ..
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Topics Covered
03:00 Angelaâs inspiration to help children through television
06:27 Maintaining integrity and values in childrenâs television
08:33 The importance of saying goodbye and showing respect
10:29 The timeless nature of the clues in Angelaâs book
12:20 The power of accepting and loving oneself
13:52 The importance of truly listening and seeing others
15:34 Being upfront and authentic in relationships
20:15 The value of slowing down and doing nothing together
23:45 Embracing beingness over doingness
24:32 Intrinsic motivation and staying inspired
26:07 Maintaining a Vision
27:17 Balancing Vision and Feedback
28:30 Overcoming Challenges
29:16 Finding Inspiration and Solutions
30:46 Learning from Childhood Experiences
31:35 Empowering Childrenâs Voices
32:06 The Impact of Personal Loss
33:34 Seizing the Moment
35:19 Transitioning Traditions
36:37 Parenting Teenagers
37:47 Teaching Life Lessons
39:21 Being Present
40:43 Managing Screen Time
43:54 The Importance of Playfulness
46:03 Maintaining Joy and Authenticity
47:23 Remembering to Pause
About Angela Santomero
Angela C. Santomero, Creator & Executive Producer of Daniel Tigerâs Neighborhood, Blueâs Clues, Blueâs Clues & You, Wishenpoof, Creative Galaxy, Super Why, etc has been changing the way children watch TV for over twenty years. She is the Creator & Exec. Producer for award winning kids and family content for PBS, Nickelodeon, Amazon Studios, Apple, Paramount +, etc.
With a Masters in Child Developmental Psychology from Columbia University Teacherâs College, Angelaâs vision for integrating educational curriculum into entertaining content for kids led her to cĐž-create, executive produce and head write Nick Jr.âs landmark series, Blueâs Clues.
Malcolm Gladwell referred to Blueâs Clues as âOne of the stickiest TV shows EVERmadeâ, in The Tipping Point.
In 2022 Angela went on to Write & Produce the Paramount+ live-action/ animated musical comedy film, Blueâs Big City Adventure. Paramount+/ Nickelodeon received one of their highest number of streams for the blockbuster film!
Angela is the recipient of the prestigious Peabody Award for Outstanding Childrenâs Programming as well as several gold and silver Parentsâ Choice Awards.
Her book PRESCHOOL CLUES: Raising Smart, Inspired and Engaged Kids in a Screen-Filled World (Touchstone) was released April 2018. In 2019 Angela wrote RADICAL KINDNESS (foreword by Deepak Chopra). In February 2024, Ms. Santomero penned her third book for adults, âLife Clues: Unlocking the Lessons to an Exceptional Lifeâ
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Kimberly Snyder (00:01.08)
Namaste loves and welcome back for our Monday interview show. I am thrilled to share my conversation with you here today with the amazing Angela Santomira, who is the author of the new book, Life Clues, unlocking the lessons to an exceptional life. Angela is an amazing creator. I am so excited to chat with her specifically about her creative power and creating these incredible things.
Emmy award -winning shows such as Blueâs Clues and Daniel Tigerâs Neighborhood, all of us parents. And I think most people in general have heard of these shows. And what I love about her book, which is really digestible, really accessible, is that itâs really from the heart. And I could feel, I could just feel so much incredible connection. Thereâs so many useful tips in this book.
Angela continues to create to this day. Sheâs so passionate. Sheâs incredible. And those of us that know these shows know that thereâs so much heart, thereâs so many lessons behind these characters that sheâs created. And also she shares in this book how she was able to put her dreams into reality in the first place, which are all topics that we get so many questions here on our Feel Good podcast about. So Angela, thank you so much for being here with us today. We are so excited to chat with you.
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Angela Santomero (01:28.846)
excited to chat with you as well. Iâm a fan.
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Kimberly Snyder (01:32.122)
And I will say that Iâm waving if you guys can see this, our show is now up on YouTube. Weâve had the show for years on Apple, Spotify, wherever you listen. So if you love to listen in while youâre walking your dog or driving, of course thatâs available. But if you want to watch us have our conversation, you can also check it out on our YouTube channel. I also want to say that we will have the show notes today show as always on mysolluna.com.
You can check out direct links to Angelaâs work as well as other shows I think you would enjoy. Recipes, articles, guided meditations, everything is over there on our main hub, mysolluna.com. All right, all that being said, Angela, wow, when we put these shows together in a sentence, Blueâs Clues, Daniel Tigerâs Neighborhood, thereâs many others that youâve created as well, it feels so impressive and amazing that youâve been able to take these ideas and put them into a format that so many millions of people can see. And I love how in the beginning of the book, you talk about one of your guiding stars was being an advocate for children in a business run by adults. And so thereâs another part of the story that I love. You talk about how one of your friends was working for Sesame Street.
So then you just got this idea to help children through television. Tell us a little bit about these seeds, these incredible inspirations you had, and then your journey to help. I mean, itâs such a big topic, but some of the parts of making this an amazing reality.
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Angela Santomero (03:17.582)
Oh, thank you. I come from a family of educators, of teachers, and so I was around it for so long. I was an avid reader. You I was just someone who enjoyed getting all the information. And as a babysitter, a preschool teacher, I was always around kids. And so bringing both of those things together and realizing the power of media, right? I was a big Mr. Rogers fan.
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Kimberly Snyder (03:42.242)
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Angela Santomero (03:42.382)
As a little kid, I have a little brother who was born when I was 14. So I watched him watch his shows. And I thought, wouldnât it be amazing if we could put the very best curriculum into the medium of television and figure out how to link everything. At the time we were talking about in the research I have in masters in child development, weâre talking about how television, you know, when youâre watching something on video, youâre not necessarily reading, right? So how do we celebrate both? How do we, how do we do that? And so.
That became just a question that I had that I continued to research to figure out what could we do? How could this work? And then when one of my friends in the psychology club in college said he was going to go work at Sesame, I was like, oh my God, thatâs how everything could come together. But no, I did not get the job at Sesame Street, even though I interviewed like three different times for the same position. So my dreams were, that was it, it was over, but.
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Kimberly Snyder (04:27.202)
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Angela Santomero (04:38.658)
Obviously when one door closes, another one opens and Nickelodeon was really brand new and they were figuring out their identity. And so I got to work in the research department there right out of school. And so everything kind of started to bubble up from there in terms of watching how the business works and how much it would be like how much like it would be amazing to be that kid voice and that advocate at a table of executives who are making decisions for kids television. And there were very few of us, you know, who really had that mindset. And so I think it really did give me like a different kind of approach to getting into media.
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Kimberly Snyder (05:17.146)
Was this happening before or after you became a mother yourself?
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Angela Santomero (05:21.934)
Itâs a great question before, way before. So it was, so it was just, I would get that question all the time. Like, how is it that you can really think about what a four -year -old makes, what makes them laugh, what makes them think? And, you know, I studied them and I love them. Theyâre just so brilliant. Little kids, the idea to give them a voice and make sure theyâre heard was just kind of something Iâve always wanted to do. And I didnât have kids untilâŚ
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Kimberly Snyder (05:24.204)
Wow.
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Kimberly Snyder (05:35.02)
Yeah.
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Angela Santomero (05:49.006)
with Blueâs Clues was already in production for maybe about seven years and we were transitioning from Steve to Joe and I was transitioning into being a mom.
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Kimberly Snyder (05:58.906)
Wow. And then Iâm getting goosebumps. I love the story in the book where you shared how you were at some kind of meeting or celebration for Fred Rogers. And he came in and you were so emotional because he had been such a inspiration to you. And they said, oh, you know, Angelaâs created Blueâs Clues. And he said, this is one of the only shows that I like, you know, that moment of. And but also what struck me is in a world where, um,
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You know, as a parent, so careful. My kids watch very little still. We go to Waldorf. We donât have screens. We donât own TVs. So weâre very introducing it very, very slowly. But thereâs so much entertainment and things that are flashy and can catch attention and just to sell ads. But you kept this integrity of I want these characters to be kind. I want there to be lessons. And you found a way to integrate that your message, your inspiration, even in this world where thereâs so much media and so many choices. So did you have to really, I imagine in boardrooms and when things were getting created, you really had to stand behind those principles, right? Because things can get compromised, especially when thereâs viewers and dollars at stake.
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Angela Santomero (07:15.822)
Totally, and I think that what we tried to do, what I tried to do, is bring that silence, that pause, that slowed down message to our, to Blueâs Clues was the first show, right? And so that really cut through what everything else was on television, right? All of the, and I donât want to say everything, but there was a lot to be said about Kidsâ TV in terms of flashy, as youâre saying, and a little bit more, and we just calmed it all down.
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Kimberly Snyder (07:24.28)
Mm -mm.
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Kimberly Snyder (07:37.482)
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Angela Santomero (07:41.43)
differentiating factor. And I was also a firm believer in research because thatâs where I come from. And so I would take scripts into classrooms and read them to kids and understand what was working and what wasnât working and also what they were learning, what they werenât learning. But for the network, it was an insurance policy. Itâs like, I can see if there are problems, I can fix it before it gets to air. So we knew.
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Kimberly Snyder (07:51.788)
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Angela Santomero (08:04.942)
that the show was already getting some momentum even before it was on the air. We knew the content was going to work, you know? And so I think that was also important, of course, for someone who had never done TV before to make sure that they understood that what we were trying to do was going to at least have a sense of being successful as well. Because we do know that the network, you know, it is a business, right? And so I had to know that if we can make it work for Nickelodeon, we could keep making more of ourâŚ
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of our shows, we could keep saying what we want to say to kids. And the first season of Blueâs Clues, if you watch it with this mindset, itâs like everything Iâd ever want to say to kids for these 20 episodes in case I never get to do it ever again. It was that desperation. And we ended up, of having 10 seasons. So it was an amazing to be able to sit back and say, OK, what do we want to say to kids now? And how do we segment it every season?
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Kimberly Snyder (08:41.506)
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Kimberly Snyder (08:56.634)
Incredible. And now youâre writing these profound lessons to share with everyone, to share with adults, to share with the world. And I love, in the beginning, you also said kids are our greatest teachers. And a lot of the ways in which you framed the language for the beginning of The Clues, which I loved, I read the entire book about, you know, buddying up and you can do anything you want to do.
Thereâs things that you know, weâre taught as children or sometimes naturally come forth in children and they can get dampened down or, you know, just different parenting styles or whatever happened to us. So itâs funny, Angela, when the way I parent my kids, sometimes I tell them things and I feel like Iâm telling myself or my inner child or how I might have wanted to have been parented. Itâs almost like Iâm reinforcing and shifting my own childhood through my kidâs childhood. So.
Anyways, I really connected to a lot of what you wrote here. And I love how thereâs 20 clues and itâs easy to get through each section. So for anyone thatâs a busy person, you could read like one or two clues a day and sort of contemplate it or sit with it. My first question though is, are these clues one, like now where youâre sitting at this, you know, in this juncture in your life, would you say that these clues are different from when you started blues clues back in the day, or have these been your guiding principles for a few decades, years now?
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Angela Santomero (10:29.9)
You know, they were, they were part of my handy dandy notebook for years in the sense of things that would continue to come up, right? And so there are so many different kinds of these messages that are still relevant to my adult children. You know, I started realizing that I needed them to manage disappointment in a way that was fruitful, right? And sometimes when you couch it in nostalgia, you couch it in a little bit of a safe kind of jingle that feels a little silly or funny or whatever.
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Kimberly Snyder (10:44.186)
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Angela Santomero (10:58.542)
we can diffuse with humor, then theyâre more likely to remember that message and take it in and put it in their own way. And I just started to realize that these are all things that we can remind ourselves as well, right? Because we can get so caught up in everything thatâs going on and life is hard and weâre so busy. How do we find the joy? How do we remember the journey, right? And itâs hard. Itâs not an easy thing. And so when I went back to look through the themes that just continued to resonate over 25 years.
I came up with these 20 that I felt are the most important that you can then think about not only when youâre talking to your preschooler, but talking to your inner child as you get older, as youâre going through all of these lifeâs big, messy situations.
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Kimberly Snyder (11:40.794)
Incredible. And I love how the first one, it starts right off the bat, and this was one of my favorites, is I like you just the way you are. And you talk about how Fred Rogers and Mr. Rogersâ Neighborhood would emphasize this. And in a world now, Angela, with social media, and thereâs so many visual comparisons, and thereâs so much lack -based thinking or ideas or feeling like we have to be something other than we are more than ever, we need this message that who we are is more than the surface. Itâs more than the numbers. Itâs more than what we look like. And I love that you start the book off this way.
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Angela Santomero (12:20.878)
It was something that I needed to hear so much as a preschooler. It was just a beautiful message to have him, Mr. Rogers, Fred Rogers, look directly to the camera and look at me and say that. It just, it really was something that struck me about how amazing that kind of message is. And of course, in real life, thatâs all we want to say to people and our actions. And when weâre having these conversations with kids and with other adults, itâs like, Iâm accepting you. Iâm liking you just for who you are. Thereâs no judgment.
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Kimberly Snyder (12:33.24)
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Angela Santomero (12:48.11)
Thereâs unconditional love and support for the network that we have. And itâs amazing how much we need to say those words. Like thereâs an assumption that we of course love you, of course we care, but sometimes we donât say it. And just those words are as powerful, right? As a hug, as you know, all of those things. And so itâs just really, itâs really important. Itâs been something that Iâve carried with me since I was little.
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Kimberly Snyder (12:56.352)
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Kimberly Snyder (13:10.938)
Mmm. To feel, you also talk about to being seen and being really heard, which I think a lot of us donât really fully experience in childhood. And itâs not because, you know, our parents were bad, everyoneâs doing their best, but sometimes people donât get that from a child, from their childhood. So it gets passed on intergenerationally, or perhaps theyâre busy or not fully present. You cover all these topics. One of the things you say is you can really show love by really listening to someone and really hearing them and seeing them child or adult or whoever. And what a gift it is when people hear and listen to us.
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Angela Santomero (13:52.906)
Completely and even especially when we donât necessarily share the same views, right? And so having that conversation and listening to understand why someone is feeling a certain way or understanding why, you know, somebody is being upset that day or grumpy or why is grandpa, you know, like just asking the questions and being in that moment to truly feel that that you feel understood too, right? Because if you have a different point of view, youâre really in that.
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Kimberly Snyder (13:58.424)
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Angela Santomero (14:20.918)
conversation and trying to understand and instead of argue. And I just find that to be something that can bring us together versus separate us, which is of course what seems to be happening more and more.
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Kimberly Snyder (14:33.498)
I noticed that you use the word heart quite a lot in the book, which is where my work is going and my next few books are about Angela. And you just organic, I donât know if you realize how much you wrote it, but itâs organically coming from this deeper place. Like you said, unity, connection versus separation and what that would do for the world. The more of us tune into that. And then kind of going out, these are sprinkled throughout the clues. I was just writing some of my favorite moments here, talk about the importance of saying goodbye. And which, which I think is, you know, indicative of deeper things, really respect and showing up. Because a lot of times parents will try to sneak away and oh, you know, let me just get theyâre playing, let me leave at this moment, but actually authentic and being upfront and showing up and really saying whatâs going on. So thatâs what the
The clue is entitled, but thereâs more to that, isnât there?
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Angela Santomero (15:34.254)
Yeah, and I think the idea that weâre respecting that time and that weâre not taking you off guard and it might make it harder for me, letâs say, as that parent who is dealing with separation anxiety, it might make it harder for you in that minute. But the better that you can make that transition transparent, the more likely that that kids will grow up without that level of fear or separation anxiety or realize that grownups will come back, know that theyâre taken care of, theyâre good, theyâre okay. All of those things are so important. I also feel that peopleâs true colors are seen during some of the most conflict of moments, right? And so how something is handled when people are let go, how somethingâs handled when thereâs bad behavior going on. And thatâs kind of all part of that level of respect and understanding that I feel so passionately about.
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Kimberly Snyder (16:17.812)
Exactly.
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Kimberly Snyder (16:27.002)
Itâs character, right? We hear a lot about nowadays people ghosting people on dating apps, or, you know, my husband had a situation with a trainer where he just didnât show up and then nothing was said. And this never feels good when we arenât really being upfront and honest. Thereâs a lot of character building.
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Angela Santomero (16:49.312)
No way.
Absolutely, and I think that, you know, thereâs nothing we can, we canât learn from any of those situations. And if we are empaths, letâs say, I am now worried that something happened to you, you know, like now Iâm invested in like what happened that canât be something that you just left or ghosted or didnât show up. And I get very much so that feeling of, again, respecting like, okay, it didnât work out for us. I know thatâs hard to hear, but you need to know, you know, like whatever that is, itâs so much easier when we put it on a table and we can.
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Kimberly Snyder (17:02.298)
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Angela Santomero (17:19.61)
digested and itâs not easier for you the one whoâs got to say the bad news necessarily, but itâs in the long run. In the long run, youâd want the same thing back, right?
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Kimberly Snyder (17:29.466)
Yes, I mean, this goes deeper and deeper. Thereâs a lot of people that, you know, in the past, Iâve also done this in the workplace and personally where itâs hard to say goodbye or end a relationship. So you end up staying in longer and then itâs not good for anybody. Right. The healthy thing is to see it, to face it and to just have that courage to stand up for whatâs right, because ultimately you can free yourself and the other person. So thereâs many layers to these clues.
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Angela Santomero (17:31.726)
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So many layers. I mean, as a people pleaser, itâs so hard, right? But when you have those boundaries, it actually gets you to the decision way faster and people do respect that more. Itâs like when youâre managing a group of people and you want to take everybodyâs voice in, but then you have to make that decision, right? And I think that the more you belabor it, the less clear it becomes and youâre wasting everyoneâs time if you think of it that way, as opposed to, I heard everybody, this is the direction we need to go in.
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Kimberly Snyder (18:03.094)
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Angela Santomero (18:26.478)
Itâs, you know, I wrote another book previously was called Radical Kindness, because thereâs such a difference between being nice and being kind. And so thatâs that kind of point of view about what we need, how we need to shift that thinking.
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Kimberly Snyder (18:34.252)
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Kimberly Snyder (18:40.922)
And when youâre really in your heart intelligence, you can be strong and you can also say what you need to say to get your needs met. You donât have to be trampled upon. You can be very clear in your boundaries. And I think thatâs an important differentiation. People think, oh, if Iâm loving and kind, then I have to say yes to everything, or I canât walk away or whatever it is. Say no, and thatâs not true, is it? We can be resilient. We can take care of ourselves and be loving.
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Angela Santomero (19:07.63)
And thatâs part of the self -care, right? If weâre saying yes to everything for everyone else and youâre exhausted at the end of the week or the end of the day or whatever, because youâre running around after everyone else, then youâre not taking care of yourself. And that will happen in physical, obviously, ailments, but also in your, itâll start to eat away at your point of view about things, right? You notice when people are overstretched and the level of stress.
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continues to rise or their level of patience goes down, right? And so itâs like all of that kind of needing to fuel your own pump, is that the word? To fuel your own car too. Itâs a big sure, yeah.
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Kimberly Snyder (19:45.538)
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There was in the chapter called Do Nothing Together, the recharge. I love this chapter because early on in being a parent, my kids are three and seven now, Angela. People parent in different ways and some people like to schedule a lot of things, a lot of classes, a lot of play dates. And I am more of an introvert. We moved up here to the mountains and we have space here. We also have a farm in Hawaii.
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Angela Santomero (20:00.686)
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Kimberly Snyder (20:15.386)
And my older son is more of an introvert as well. And so first I thought, oh, Iâm supposed to schedule all this stuff. And then I sort of realized, and COVID helped me step back and say, you know what? I donât have to. And even on the weekends, you know, we do things, we go to birthday parties and things, but a lot of times we just love playing at home. And Iâll say to him, you know, what do you want to do today? And he almost always says, I want to stay home today. And we do so much. We play outside, we make up games, we play a lot of chess.
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And I think thereâs something so freeing and healthy to really follow our gut and not just do what other people are doing, other parents or, you know, in general, our peers.
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Angela Santomero (20:56.718)
Completely, I find that thereâs so much social energy that it takes to go throughout your week that in order to have a slow down on the weekends versus filling them up in the same way that we fill up our week, itâs just a detriment even to our family bonding. Our girls are now 23 and 20 and we still have that sensibility of like we need a little bit of like a letâs all come together.
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Kimberly Snyder (21:02.828)
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Kimberly Snyder (21:09.474)
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Angela Santomero (21:23.374)
kind of calming moment as opposed to running around and doing a million things, which of course there are days we do that, but it is, itâs, I call it a pajama day. When we can have a pajama day, itâs my favorite.
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Kimberly Snyder (21:32.034)
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Kimberly Snyder (21:35.77)
Exactly. And also why, and you talked about sometimes we deprioritize things that make us happy. And thatâs always made me happy is be, I love being home. Iâm a homebody. And then I start to question, where did we get these ideas? Where did we take on ideas? You know, the weekend has to look a certain way, or Iâm supposed to say yes to everything, whatever that programming was, wherever we are, we can step back and reevaluate, which is, you know, one of the beauty of your books and these clues is giving us an opportunity.
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to question and say, hmm, I donât have to do this. It was such an amazing moment when I was like, I donât have to do all these millions of play dates. Thereâs no reason.
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Angela Santomero (22:14.382)
Itâs so true. Thereâs no reason. And also people that fill you up versus drain you, right? And so thereâs some of that FOMO, not just for us, but for our kids. Like if I donât take my kid to that exact soccer practice, theyâre not going to be necessarily as good as the next person. And youâre just like, I need to get out of that mindset. There are seven, you know, like stop. And so thatâs, you know, I notice now whatâs interesting is the bond and the connection that we have as a family.
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Kimberly Snyder (22:22.028)
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Angela Santomero (22:44.002)
because we spent that much time together, right? And I really do see that being a little bit of a difference. Thereâs no, you know, everyone does what they do, but I do enjoy knowing now that as adults that thereâs still, you know, that bond there that I think is really, itâs just, itâs really important that weâre all there for each other. Not that, you know, the kids donât fight and not that thereâs all this craziness, but there is that, you know, thereâs a beautiful moment of knowing that you can be in your space and be just yourself and not have to.
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Kimberly Snyder (22:46.838)
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Angela Santomero (23:14.038)
You know, be socially aware every two minutes. You know what I mean?
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Kimberly Snyder (23:17.818)
Thatâs so priceless. Just this beingness masks off. Here we are. And not the doing, the doingness. So one thing I noticed when I was going through your book, Angela, Iâm a student of Paramahansa Yogananda, which is what my last book was about, his teachings for modern life and yoga. And there were a lot of concepts that really did overlap this beingness, not doingness, which was so prevalent as a message in your book.
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And then also I wrote down this in number six, specifically include number six, which is called use your mind, but you go into, you know, consistency and moving forward with your dreams. And this is a term that Yogananda called, which is dynamic will saying when you want to do something, when you want to create something, you have to decide it. And then you have to be consistent. Itâs not like, Oh, I wanted to come up with these shows and it just kind of fell from the sky. There was a consistency. You talk about step.
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by step moving forward, but we have to keep that focus as well. Can you talk a little bit about that journey? And Iâm sure there were times where, you know, for all of us, itâs like, oh my gosh, this is a huge mountain to climb to get to this goal and what kept you going and how you stayed inspired.
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Angela Santomero (24:32.494)
Yeah, thatâs a great question. No, intrinsically motivated is something that we talk about a lot. The idea that I donât want to be after you to practice the piano. The idea that you want to be practicing the piano would be the goal, right? And I think thatâs what happened with me is the sense that what I was passionate about and what I wanted to do, I was intrinsically motivated by it. There was a moment when we were doing starting Blues Clues before it was on the air and I had this feeling that this has to work because I cannot go back.
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to my other job. Like this is the most amazing thing, like having this ability to write something and see it come to fruition. And so because every step of the way was fascinating to me, even though it was hard, right? It was still really, I wanted to solve the problem. I want to figure it out. And as you can imagine, right, thereâs the product, thereâs the show that youâre really working on in that script. Thereâs the audience, which is the kids. And then thereâs the network, which is a completely different audience that you need to.
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get them on your side and understand that this would be an investment worth making. And so, you know, each step, the idea that my village grew, you know, there were people that I could call on, that I could talk to, that I didnât pretend to know all the answers, you know, really try to consistently make sure that I knew, you know, to the best of my ability, what was, what, what, what success looked like, you know, what does that look like for each, for each place? And then before you know it, itâs six years later, you know, which is,
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Daniel Tiger took six years to make it to go from fun, you know, first concept to on the air, because thatâs just how thatâs different with regard to public television. And you need to get the funding and consistently talk about your vision and your message. But again, if youâre in it and you believe in it so much, it is like the time kind of goes and itâs a different thing, right? Like your first show versus your.
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Kimberly Snyder (26:07.354)
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Angela Santomero (26:25.422)
Second, in like a book, itâs the same thing. Itâs like when you have it and youâre able to spend a little more time writing the next one as opposed to everything is writing on this one thing. Itâs like you never want that in any part of your life. You want to have a little bit more of a village or community, right? So that, you know, you can fall back on something if it doesnât necessarily work or that it takes way longer than you thought that it would. But yeah, itâs experiencing that journey. And for me, thatâs what kept me going.
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Kimberly Snyder (26:54.842)
What can you teach us? What lessons can you teach us about holding true to your vision? You had a real strong guiding light with these characters, what you wanted to say, and then also working with this larger community of the network and people that had different ideas and people that were funding things. Where was that balance in this process for you?
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Angela Santomero (27:17.966)
Um, the balance came from the research, I think itâs from my knowledge and expertise and point of view. Right. And so when I knew the answer, like when I had studied and I put, letâs say the specific show in front of kids, in front of parents, in front of teachers, right. And so teachers were my favorite because they didnât watch TV, they didnât like TV. And so if they liked what we were doing, that was a whole other level of endorsement. Right. And so I would collect that information and I would show.
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So a lot of what we had to do was prove. And I wasnât, you know, and I was like, all right, Iâll do it. Like, I know this is what you need to do in order to continue with your vision. And so I would consistently prove it, whether itâs research or we did a video side by side of Blueâs Clues that got us ultimately to pick up because the show was so slow. The show was paced very slowly. And so we watched the kids watching as theyâre talking back to the screen and that changed everything.
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Kimberly Snyder (27:48.09)
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for the network to be able to see what we were doing. And again, you canât have any ego about any of the work. Itâs just, you have to do what you need to do in order to get the support that you need to make it happen.
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Kimberly Snyder (28:30.362)
Well, there you go. You said it right there. You need to do what you need to do. So itâs figuring it out, doing more research, getting, you know, taking it step by step. If we really want something to happen, we figure it out. You find the ways to turn nos into yeses and to get over these humps or these little challenges that come up. Thatâs amazing.
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Angela Santomero (28:54.926)
And thereâs so many different ways to do it. So sometimes this, you know, and itâs probably never A to B, right? Like you have to remember that sometimes itâs zigzag and sometimes itâs around and back again or take two steps forward, two steps back, right? And so thereâs so many different ways to approach the end goal. And so I think that flexibility is also really, really important.
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Kimberly Snyder (29:16.986)
So when you would feel frustrated, Angela, or just a little depleted, or maybe frustrated things were taking so long, what were some of your tools? I mean, you talk about so many different, you interweave different specific tools in your clues. What were some of the things that kept you moving forward in a tangible way towards really creating these amazing shows and your dreams?
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Angela Santomero (29:42.638)
You know, I think it, I wasnât afraid and, you know, having the people around you to cry and to vent and to lose it for a little bit. You werenât afraid to just kind of have a pity party for a minute or for as long as you need in order to then see through it. And a lot of times the quiet and the pausing and the, and the switches, why I find it so important in that quiet space. Thereâs so, so many ideas and brainstorms and ways to do things.
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Kimberly Snyder (30:01.74)
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kind of emerge and I think thatâs what would happen. I would get emotional and then I would sit with it for a bit and all of a sudden, and I believe in science from the universe, right? All of a sudden Iâd be having coffee with somebody and they will share something that will help me think about something in a different way. And so itâs amazing like that, that when you can trust in your vision and you can think it through, and again, it might not have looked the way I thought it was gonna look.
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but it was another way, another way in, another way to go that I think made a huge difference.
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You mentioned your parents were educators. Were these certain life skills and clues that your parents taught you? Or did you learn along the way to find stillness? And are you a meditator now? Itâs kind of two separate questions.
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Angela Santomero (31:01.582)
I mean, Iâm big on yoga and Pilates, meditation I love, but not necessarily all the time. I have to have a little bit more of a practice of it, to be honest. But no, my parents were not like that. I came from a very loud Italian family who would ask a question and then answer it. You know, like there was never a pause and it was constantly like an adult driven. They meant well, they, you know, itâs a big Italian family, but like,
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the kids with the kids and the adults with the adults. And I remember thinking, but Iâm smart. I have a point of view. I want to hear, you know, you need to hear what I have to say, you know, all of that stuff. And so thatâs, that was definitely part of it, of that feeling of kids are smart and let me, you know, and what they have to say is really interesting because they see things from a different point of view. So I think it was one of those.
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of answers and I think I found a lot like as a babysitter, as a sister to a you know itâs like all of those moments of being around kids and realizing that when you do ask them a question and you wait for them to answer they say the most amazing things.
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Kimberly Snyder (32:06.81)
I see the most amazing things. I also want to say, Angela, we do share this experience later in the book when you shared that you got to be with your mother as she passed from cancer, which is an experience I also had six years ago when I got to hold her for those last breaths. And it was huge and life -changing. Iâm sure it also changed your life andâŚ
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changed the way that I loved and looked at everything and it was such a gift. So, sorry to hear about your mother, but what led as well to so much flowering and opening in your heart.
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Angela Santomero (32:41.326)
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Kimberly Snyder (33:24.6)
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experience right now because I spend so much time and Iâm really present and you know they say long days but you know of course we all get distracted we all get busy but thereâs a real call to where are we all going where are we all hurrying to where are we trying to get to because life is moment to moment here this is where we create this is where itâs at.
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Angela Santomero (34:26.624)
I believe that and I do think so itâs been two years with my mom and I remember thinking like, okay, she died at 75. So if I have God forbid 20 years left, what am I gonna do? Like Iâm done with waiting for the rainy day to do something. Itâs like in your means if you can stop and have that adventure and see that friend and go on that trip, whatever it is, itâs like just wanting to seize that moment and I agree. Itâs like even now.
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Kimberly Snyder (34:41.624)
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Angela Santomero (34:56.184)
itâs such a gift to be with your adult kids when they have, you know, when youâre all together and have time, because you know every shape of the way it changes, you know, your relationship consistently changes. And so, yeah, I agree with you. And again, as a working mom, itâs like holding on to those moments were so important to me as well. But yes, the days are long and the years sometimes are short.
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Kimberly Snyder (35:16.698)
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Was it hard for you, Angela, when your daughters became teenagers or tweens and they started to just not be so into Halloween? I canât even imagine now, because itâs going to come, but Halloween is such a huge deal and Christmas goes on for months in advance, prior getting ready. What was that transition like for you?
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Angela Santomero (35:41.774)
Itâs such a great question because how we transitioned it was to turn it for the kids. So we started, as they started to get too old for Halloween, we started to do bigger things for the neighborhood kids. And so it became them helping them, which was amazing, right? Like being able to see their faces when they would get so excited. And so they became more like with us trying to help and give out whatever we were doing with the kids. It was, we made it an event.
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Angela Santomero (36:10.286)
And itâs the same with the holidays. Itâs like making it an event, making it a little bit more wish fulfillment, knowing that, you know, they have grandparents on my husbandâs side that are still around and making it beautiful for them, having what they want. Like it just kind of turned into that moment organically. Weâll see. Thatâs how itâs been now. But yes, as teenagers, I just saw them as, not that it wasnât hard, because it was, but theyâre big preschoolers. They still have tantrums.
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Kimberly Snyder (36:37.602)
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still feel so itâs their prerogative. They need to do what they want to do, you know, all of those things. And thatâs how I would deal with it was I would look at them and Iâd be like, Oh my god, thereâs sheâs hope is six feet tall, but sheâs still four, you know, oh my god. Six feet tall. I know. Itâs fascinating. Iâm just five. So yeah.
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Angela Santomero (37:05.12)
towering over. Itâs amazing. Yeah, itâs so, but there, you know, again, thereâs so much that theyâre teaching us, right? This generation is an amazing generation of kids. And itâs fascinating.
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Kimberly Snyder (37:18.17)
Well, because thereâs a section in the book where you talk about some research, grounding it around, we want our kids to be nurtured and loved. But if we overprotect them and they donât get to learn the life lessons, they can grow up insecure. And thatâs such a hard line, I think, for parents to say, well, you know, am I crossing over and taking their life lessons away? Was that a challenge for you as a mother?
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Angela Santomero (37:47.118)
Yeah, of course. I mean, itâs also such a challenge when you send your kids out in the world and theyâre learning lessons that you had nothing to do with, right? And how you handle those sad, sad moments of people saying not kind things or not advocating for your child or, you know, like all of those things. And you just have to figure out how to turn it into a lesson, right? Like, no, thatâs not what someone should ever say to you, but letâs, what can we do, you know?
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Angela Santomero (38:14.094)
So, I mean, my thing was to make sure that we could talk about all of it, because they found it really hard to talk about things that they thought we would be disappointed in or upset by. Like, they didnât want us to be upset. And it was just like, as weâve always talked about, that we canât help what we donât know. And so, it was always, what can we learn from this? How can we do this? I wanted them to see.
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Kimberly Snyder (38:35.414)
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find the solution. I wasnât one of the moms who would call the other moms and be like, wait a minute, your child did this. You know, they needed to figure out that for themselves.
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Oh my gosh, itâs so funny because my older son is seven and heâs really into chess. Heâs starting to play tournaments and I just, I can just, you know, I have to just, you know, why I get so excited for him and I donât want him to be disappointed. I can start to see, Hey, thereâs lessons heâs going to have to learn. As long as he stays in his character, he has tools and you know, theyâre going to learn what they need to learn. And we need to give them that autonomy. Otherwise itâs interfering and itâs not good for anyone.
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Angela Santomero (39:21.39)
Totally. And also, I donât want to take the fun out of it. You know what I mean? Like, the reason that heâs into chess, Iâm assuming, is because thereâs such a, you know, itâs like when you can be so good at something, itâs just so amazing and you donât want to like, and thatâs how we were, the oldest is a drama kid. And so she was up on stage and Iâm like, sheâs really good. Like, what are we going to do about this? And itâs like, donât take the fun out of it. You know, like just let it be fun.
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Yeah. Wow. Itâs so itâs just thereâs so much thereâs so many lessons, like you said in your book, how we learn from kids and we continue to learn from them at any age. And so that I love hearing from parents who are a little bit ahead how beautiful it still is. Itâs just like an unfolding garden. Itâs just a little itâs of course, dynamic and different. And thatâs a good thing.
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Angela Santomero (40:06.766)
Oh, totally. Absolutely. And the bumps are bumps and God knows, you know, you see them and you feel them and then youâre like, okay, what was I like at that age? You know what I mean? Like youâre trying to think about everything, the tools youâve given them. And then I remember some of the things that I did at 16 and youâre like, okay, I need to re, you know what I mean? Cause theyâre so emotionally smart too. And they have so much, so many tools at their disposal and emotionally theyâre still the same as we were at 16. Cause itâs a child development.
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You may have to emotionally develop at the same rate, if not slower because of everything weâve all been through with COVID. You know, things have slowed down a little.
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Kimberly Snyder (40:43.034)
So how do you manage with your daughters and in your philosophy with screens, Angela? Because youâre a creator, youâve created really powerful, amazing messages. But then thereâs also the flip side of screens where it can be too much, it can be too fast, thereâs so much social media. What is some of your philosophy around that?
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Angela Santomero (41:01.132)
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Yeah, I feel like we can talk about that for hours because at the beginning itâs co -viewing, itâs watching what I think theyâre emotionally ready for, even if that meant that they werenât part of the conversation at school the next day, right? And that was really important and being able to talk about everything that they were witnessing so that we can just talk about it and then we can kind of shed our point of view about it. And then with social, it was like, how do we use it as a tool?
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Kimberly Snyder (41:19.544)
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Angela Santomero (41:34.094)
to take photographs, to, you know, what are you using it to learn? What are you using it to see? But I know that, you know, thereâs an addiction there. I know that it doesnât nest. I can tell in something that my daughter has read that is putting her in a bad mood, you know? So itâs like, how do you shield from that? And itâs really, to us, itâs been media literacy. Itâs been trying toâŚ
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Kimberly Snyder (41:48.952)
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Angela Santomero (41:56.686)
and itâs not easy, but trying to have them realize that nobodyâs life is perfect and that youâre seeing this bit of the Instagram photo, youâre not seeing, you know, the entire messiness that probably was there before, you know, all of those things to try to talk about what image somebody wants. Itâs the same thing when weâd walk down the serial aisle and be like, if it has a character on it, theyâre trying to sell you something, you know, like trying to understand the reasons that people are putting stuff out there, but itâs a challenge. Itâs definitely a challenge.
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Well, and then back to the first clue, I like you just the way you are. Weâre all unique. We have this amazing true self -energy. We donât have to be like anyone else. So the more we establish that, I think as parents in ourselves, as humans, parent or not, and then your child sees you, the more we are living that, and then we can teach it to them. It starts to create that resiliency, even in screen time, mania.
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Angela Santomero (42:52.174)
Yeah, thatâs the hope. Thatâs the hope.
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Kimberly Snyder (42:53.85)
more and more. Thatâs all we can do, right? I mean, the world is what it is. Itâs amazing, even though we donât have a lot of screens in our life, Angela, we know we drive around, weâre not totally hermits, and thereâs billboards, thereâs things they see, and then theyâll be like, oh, you just canât shield them from everything. So itâs just these tools that we can start to create from our home environment.
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Kimberly Snyder (43:23.802)
So I love this one clue about playfulness because life can feel really serious, right? Competitive, I need to get this career, I need to get into this graduate program, Iâm, you know, this or this. Tell us a little bit about even in, you know, I imagine the TV space has a lot of competitiveness trying to get on air, competing for showtimes. How did you maintain that playfulness and why do you think itâs so important in the first place?
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Angela Santomero (43:54.35)
I think itâs so important because of our own joy. Itâs our own feeling of inadequacy or when we donât know everything and we donât need to know everything. You know, as an adult, for some reason weâre put in this position and we think we have to know all the answers and we donât. And so that to me is part of the playfulness of I am going to admit it if I donât know this, Iâm gonna get the answers. Iâm gonna be active in finding the answers and figuring it out, but Iâm gonnaâŚ
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still show how much Iâm passionate or love about what Iâm doing, right? So thatâs where the playfulness comes from. Itâs like, I take this very seriously because this is my job, but I also love what Iâm doing and therefore thereâs a sense of play to me means that Iâm choosing to do it. Sometimes the word work versus play kind of gets a littleâŚ
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So itâs that sense. And then also having, you know what I mean? And having that playability, right? That feeling of like, donât take it so seriously. Letâs try to figure out a solution to this because thereâs always a solution. And yes, it could be devastating. Iâm not saying there isnât news thatâs devastating, but how do we make the most out of that moment or that time or figure, you know what I mean? And thatâs been kind of another part of the play versus life being so heavy and real and how can weâŚ
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and we kind of shift it to be our own compass for the joy.
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Kimberly Snyder (45:18.746)
I think thatâs a really powerful piece of advice because earlier we were talking about the ego and Dr. David Hawkins, whoâs one of my favorite authors, he writes about the ego being grim and humorless. But when weâre in our heart, when weâre in our true self, we can be flexible. We can see, you know, something funny, even if, you know, things didnât go our way, or we can find the lightheartedness in something and it keeps us in lifeâs flow. But the ego is very rigid.
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gets very serious. So when weâre trying to move our ideas forward, when weâre trying to work with others, if we clamp down on that sort of rigid energy, I donât think it brings about the same type of collaboration and the flowing results that we want.
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Angela Santomero (46:03.502)
No, and I think that, you know, keeping people around you that share that same vision and morals or whatever it is that weâre trying to do, especially for writers on my shows or producers, you know, that rigidness would never work. You know, here we are trying to, you know, write a story about a four -year -old talking tiger. And for me to be like, nah, dah, dah, dah, like thereâs no, you know what I mean? We have to have find the joy while weâre writing this beautiful little.
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you know, story in order to then have it exude through the screen. And I think that is what you feel and that is what you see, you know, when you can tell if somebodyâs loving what theyâre doing versus, you know, not.
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Kimberly Snyder (46:44.762)
Well, thatâs what I felt in your book. Iâm getting goosebumps again, Angela. I felt the heart and the authenticity. And I do think that was a big miss, you know, the big piece of the puzzle why your shows and your projects were so successful, because itâs authentic. There was this through line. It came through. Canât manufacture love and connection and authenticity. You either are or you arenât. Right. And so what I love about your work, what I love about your clues, thereâs this underlying message of notâŚ
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second guessing yourself and not undermining your values and that you can hold to those and you can be successful.
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Angela Santomero (47:23.106)
hope, right? Thatâs the hope. Yeah.
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Kimberly Snyder (47:26.33)
Well, youâre living it. Youâre living proof of it, Angela. And thank you so much for sharing just a little piece of your wisdom. I loved, again, how The Clues here and Life Clues, itâs such an accessible book. Itâs one that you can read over weekends, but you can also take a lot longer and sit with each message and journal about it. Is there anything that we didnât cover in any of The Clues or in general about the book that youâd love to share with us, Angela?
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Angela Santomero (47:54.798)
I know, I think we really had a lovely conversation. I always try to end with remembering the pause, remembering to take a minute. And thatâs my favorite one, I think, out of everything in the book with regard to the clues. So thatâs something that I love to talk about as well. But thank you so much for how insightful you were. And I loved your questions and this conversation.
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Kimberly Snyder (48:19.224)
Angela, weâll take a pause.
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Just to be in this connection, to be with a real embodiment of creator, kindness, love, bringing these characters forward, which have helped so many children. Iâm so grateful and thank you so much. And I did love your book so much. Tell us where we can find out more about you and where everyone can get this book.
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Angela Santomero (48:47.342)
So Amazon, everyone can get the book, amazon .com and wherever books are sold. And Angelaâs Clues on social, on TikTok, on Insta and through my website is angelesclues .com.
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Kimberly Snyder (49:00.546)
Angelasclues.com, amazing. Well, we will link to this in the show notes. We will link more to Angelaâs work directly to the book as well, to say whatever books are sold, of course. And we will be back here Thursday for our next Q &A show. Thank you so much for tuning in. You can keep your questions coming for that show on our website. Once again, mysolluna.com, sending you all so much love, so much peace, and see you back here soon.
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