How To Manage The Gut Shame Feeling Connection with Dr. Will Cole [Episode #769]
This week’s topic is: How To Manage The Gut Shame Feeling Connection with Dr. Will Cole
I am so excited to have my very special guest, Dr. Will Cole, who is a bestselling author, health advisor and functional-medicine expert and the host of The Art of Being Well podcast. Listen in as Will shares why food alone is not the cause of weight problems, the dangers of perfectionism in the world of health, Shameflammation and what it means, and so much more!
- The either or approach regarding mental health and physical health…
- Why food alone is not the only cause of weight problems…
- Shameflammation and what it means…
- Dangers of perfectionism in the world of health…
- Competitiveness and comparison and the effects on your nervous system…
- The commonality between all of these health problems…

About Dr. Will Cole
Dr. Will Cole is a leading functional medicine expert who consults people around the globe, starting one of the first functional medicine telehealth centers in the world over a decade ago. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing a functional medicine approach for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal imbalances, digestive disorders, and brain problems. He is also the host of the popular The Art Of Being Well podcast.
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Kimberly: 00:02 Namaste loves and welcome back to our Monday interview show where I am so excited to have one of my favorite repeat guests back. Dr. Will Cole, who is a leading functional medicine practitioner and an author, and he has a new book out called Gut Feelings Healing, the Shame Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How you Feel. So I absolutely love this concept. I love this book. I love Dr. Cole. But in this new book, he’s actually correlating showing the relationship with research and teachings around two of our cornerstones, body and emotional wellbeing and food and spiritual, um, growth. All of them are interconnected, but here we’re really showing how our guts and our feelings are truly interconnected. And I will say, as Dr. Cole mentioned in the interview, my interview on his podcast around when you are more than you think you are, came out actually inspired a Vick Yoic yogic philosophy section in this new book. So I’m really excited about this holistic approach to gut health, to feeling good in your life and what part of that shame, guilt, heaviness, actually plays in our wellness across the board, in our physical wellbeing and our gut wellbeing and beyond. So it’s a pretty profound conversation. I’m very excited to share it with you. But before we get in.
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Interview with Dr. Will Cole
Kimberly: 01:31 We have the amazing Dr. Will Cole back with us today. Welcome back. Will. I’m so excited to chat with you.
Will : 01:47
Kimberly: 01:55 I know. And then we have this dedicated time. I feel very excited and honored. Get to pick your brain with questions I know many of our listeners share. And I was chatting with you before the podcast and I said, sincerely from my heart, of all your books, of anything you’ve put out, this one is the most exciting one, I think.
Will : 02:17
Kimberly: 02:31 And it’s out here today. We’ll be linking to it in the show notes. The title is Gut Feeling, Healing the Shame Fueled Relationship between What You Eat and How You Feel. So this is so intimately tied to everything, I believe. Well, you know, I’ve been, start, started as a nutritionist, but then started really going into meditation and spiritual offerings because I realized that there was only so much I could help people with food. And there was, as you talk about in the book, we can have really great diets, but then there’s still so much chaos that can happen in the bodies when we start to consider mental health and stress and all these other factors that weren’t really talked about in the past.
We discuss the either or approach regarding mental health and physical health
Will : 03:14 Yeah, no, it’s definitely, you’re right. And it’s a, it’s a intimately part of my job as a functional medicine doctor with my patients is that we had to deal with both sides of that coin. And I think we fall short when it’s like an, when it’s an either or approach when it’s like mental health and then physical health. But the reality is mental health is physical health. And it’s something that I really get to talk about in the book. And it’s title, gut Feelings. It’s the gut and the feelings. It’s the physiological and then the psychological, the mental, emotional, spiritual stuff. And both sides are important, you know, and I see people that have underlying gut problems or have chronic Lyme disease or mold talks and something like that, or environmental toxicity that’s going to impact how their brain works, right? It’s gonna impact things like anxiety and depression and fatigue. So if I’m one of those people where that’s an issue that I have to deal with something underlying physiological that’s driving inflammation, that’s impacting how minor neurotransmitters are signaling, I could be, you know, doing all the mental, emotional work, therapy, et cetera, but it’s not gonna get rid of high toxic load or underlying gut problems in my body. But then conversely, there’s so many people that eat, like you said, eat the perfect food. They’re like, they’re, they’re, they’re living in whole foods in a one and like going to
Kimberly: 04:32 All, they’re spending all their money on doing all this organic food
Will : 04:34
Kimberly: 05:29 And what I love about the book as well is it’s very grounded in research. And I feel like a lot of this research wasn’t talked about, wasn’t seen. You’ve really great. Done a great job. Well, of compiling it. So we say, oh my gosh. And there’s this part in the book, which I’ve intuitively felt for years and years working with people, seeing them, as you said, eat well, um, eat a plant-based diet or, you know, cleanse or do all these different things and still have weight problems. But there’s a part in the book where you talk about you sometimes these weight problems are because of chronic stress at work and toxic relationships constantly putting us in fight or flight. So it’s not about the food alone, it will never just be about the food.
Why food alone is not the only cause of weight problems
Will : 06:09 No, I mean, and the studies are very clear on this. It’s not just me saying it in a book or, and certainly I have a lot of clinical experience with this, but it’s very much researched that when your body’s in a state of stress, I mean stress, chronic stress is associated with a lot of different health problems. But one of them is the impact it has on hormonal signaling, how it impacts insulin, how it impact cortisol levels, how it impact leptin levels. And these are things that we can quantify on labs and see things like insulin resistance and leptin resistance and cortisol dysregulation, right? And how it really kind of puts the body in that sort of protection mode. And it’s, it’s sort of an evolutionary mechanism, but it’s not sustainable for long-term health. It’s not sustainable for feeling great, you know, having optimal energy and just having healthy metabolism. So as I said in the book, chronic stress is the ultimate junk food, right? Mm-hmm. And you, if you’re eating the, like a beautiful salad and chugging back smoothies and kombuchas and, but serving your body a big slice of stress every day, that’s raising inflammation levels just as much as that food that doesn’t love you back. Hmm.
Kimberly: 07:20 Well you, you used a really interesting term in your subtitle, shame, and then also this term you use in the book shame, inflammation. Can you talk a little bit about that specifically?
Will breaks down what shameflammation is
Will : 07:32 Yeah. So it’s shame formation is my term for pat two patients about how the mental, emotional, spiritual stuff symbolized by shame, right? And we talk about the research around shame, which is really fascinating, but how sh things, negative emotions or emotions that are sabotaging to the human body, like shame and stress and trauma, how that impacts our physical body, i e the inflammation part of sha inflammation and raises inflammation markers like high sensitivity C-reactive protein or homocystine levels, another inflammatory marker that we measure for patients. And, and other ones like other immune markers in the gut. Like, uh, calprotectin is one that we see a lot, um, really spiked high because of this hypervigilant immune response in the form of chronic inflammation, which is a product of the immune system. And it’s, again, it’s the people that cleaned up their diet, they’re super clean, they’re doing all the things they’re quote unquote supposed to do as far as nutrition is concerned, but are re either reliving a past trauma that’s not resolved or, and or dealing with in a current stressful circumstance in their life. Whether it’s unhealthy boundaries at work, unhealthy boundaries with certain relationships. And it’s sort of, it’s feeding that, as you said, that sympathetic fight or flight stressed state, which really disregulates a lot of things in their body internally. But then the ripple effect is a lot of dysregulation in their life externally with the relationships, et cetera.
Kimberly: 09:05 Hmm. So this word trauma, it’s, you know, I read it’s, it’s in your book as well and, um, other books I’ve been reading about and now we’re starting to understand how pervasive it is. I think some researchers have said there’s 75% of Americans have, you know, beyond covid, which was a stressor trauma for all of us, but things like neglect in our childhood. And so I, you know, you read this stuff well and you’re like, oh gosh, I definitely have trauma. Am I screwed? Am I gonna, I mean, I’m aware of it now. You know, a lot of people say this to themselves. Have you seen patients really heal their childhood things that have happened and their health improves in dramatic ways? I mean, I know it’s not all or nothing, but you know, it’s sometimes we read this stuff and we’re like, oh God, it’s, it’s a little bit discouraging. So maybe you can give us some hopeful news,
Helpful news when there’s so much that is discouraging
Will : 09:56
10:44 And one of the things that we have for initial consultations, we have every patient fill out a lot of health history stuff, right? It like more in-depth things that we ask in functional medicine. But we all, one of the things, one of the areas that we look at for every patient is something called the adverse childhood experience or ace, their ACE score. And we get really personal about psychological abuse growing up, physical abuse growing up, sexual abuse growing up. Was there alcohol or drugs in the home growing up? What was your parents’ relationship growing up? And we know from the studies, and I talk about it in the book, how people that have higher a scores are more likely later on in life to be, have things like autoimmune conditions and metabolic issues and hormonal problems. So, you’re right, it’s quite sobering and heavy to say, wow, many of us will be like, man, I’m screwed.
11:36 Like what? I didn’t even ask for any of this stuff. And I am, the odds are set stacked against me. Um, and it’s absolutely true to say that some of us have a more arduous journey than others. This’s no way around it. Yes. It’s just the, the, the state of the world. But I see people all day long for the past 13 plus years in telehealth and functional medicine overcome the seemingly insurmountable and ultimately as trauma can be inherited. So can healing. Yes. And I see people healed not just themselves from these things, but their children. And if they choose to have them and their children’s children and generations to come, breaking that cycle of pain, breaking that cycle of dise, breaking that, that cycle of disorder both physiologically and externally too. So they’re bringing about homeostasis balance Hmm. Symmetry and synergy into their life. So the research is very clear that you can calm down these hypervigilant states, these hyper proinflammatory states through the gut and the feelings, the physical, physiological, and the psychological. So again, it’s, it’s, it’s a untangling. It’s not, it’s a process. It’s a deepening. Healing is certainly non-linear. And my patients tell you that. But it’s one, it’s, it’s the path that you have to go on if you want to overcome these things.
Kimberly: 13:03 Well, and at least we’re having this conversation, right? Because in the past if people didn’t even know they had trauma, there was no discussion about it, there’s this building frustration, right? I’m doing all this stuff, why isn’t it working? What’s wrong with me? So for me, well I, you know, I, I didn’t understand a lot of this for a long time. You know, my immigrant parents, my mother’s an immigrant from the Philippines doing their best hustling. There was a level of neglect, a lot of love, but just a lot of, you know, left aloneness. Mm-hmm.
The dangers of perfectionism in the world of health
Will : 13:55 Yeah. So I talk a lot about, in the book about orthorexia, which is a problem within the wellness world, right? It’s like, um, yes. The end stage, right? But then it’s really just like any disordered eating, there’s an orthorexic spectrum where you may not be diagnosable with orthorexia, but you know, intuitively there’s something not yeah, healthy about my relationship with food or exercise or whatever. Anything within wellness. And there’s this sort of shame and obsession and anxiety and dread around wellness. And I see things that are very great tools be abused, things that even make sense for that person. But there’s such a sense of dread and obsession and anxiety around it that it’s really sabotaging any good that it could do. Because yeah, as I say in the book, you can’t heal a body. You hate, you cannot shame your way into wellness. You can’t obsess your way into health.
14:51 And that is true. So the perfectionism can look different ways for different people, but it’s definitely a problem within the health and wellness world. And whether it’s orthorexia or just this sort of hyper perfectionism right around something where they become obsessive about it, I really think it’s the antithesis of sustainable wellness. It’s just, it’s not gonna be sustainable for most people because of that frenetic energy or if it is quote unquote sustainable, it’ll end up being such a source of dread and misery that you will, it’ll really sabotage all the potential good benefits that it could bring you. So we have to start again, this is more complex than me just saying it with my words, but we have to start shifting our paradigm around these things and unpacking our intention and why, of why we’re even doing this. So you read the books that, you know, but like a lot of the conversation that I wanted to have with the reader is just saying like, why are we doing these things and within wellness? And start to shift it towards using self-care and practices within wellness as a form of self-respect. And saying like, can we do these things and get all the amazing benefits that’s in the science, but do it with a way, with a place of from, but do it from a place of grace and lightness. Because uh, I think like the biohacking world’s wonderful, but a lot of lay people,
Kimberly: 16:08 Lot of lack in there. Right? Like, I’m not enough.
Will : 16:11 Yeah. Right. It’s so much. Always more and more is always better. Yes. And sometimes it’s not more, sometimes less is where you need to go. And streamlining and simplifying your life is the most self-care, like loving, nourishing, healthy thing you can do,
Kimberly: 16:25 You know, with the perfection of as well, well this, this drive, this constant pushing. It’s never enough. This competitiveness. I
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