How to Help Our Kids Thrive Through Meditation with Emily Fletcher [Episode #543]

How to Help Our Kids Thrive Through Meditation with Emily Fletcher [Episode #543]

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This week’s topic is: How to Help Our Kids Thrive Through Meditation with Emily Fletcher

I am so excited to have my very special guest, Emily Fletcher, who is a best-selling author, leading expert in mediation for performance and founder of Ziva Meditation. Listen in as Emily shares why our thoughts are not the enemy, how to heal the body through life’s transitions and ways to start your kiddos on the path of healing with their very own meditation practice.

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  • Moving through difficulties in your life and what to tell yourself…
  • How to get to that place of stillness during meditation….
  • Why thoughts are not the enemy and how to use meditations to give your body rest to heal…
  • Meditation with our kiddos and the positive impact this has on them…
  • Showing up with our practices even when going through difficult transitions…
  • Emily shares her big wants for this year…
  • Ziva Kids Meditation and how to help your kids thrive…

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Emily Fletcher on the Feel Good Podcast with Kimberly Snyder.

About Emily Fletcher 

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and best-selling author of “Stress Less, Accomplish More: Meditation for Extraordinary Performance.” A leading expert in meditation for performance, Emily’s highly acclaimed Ziva technique is a research-proven, transformative daily practice that combines mindfulness, meditation and manifesting to alleviate stress, build resilience, and heal your body on a cellular level.

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Kimberly: 00:01 Hey Beauties. Welcome back for our Monday interview podcast, where I have a special guest for you today. Her name is Emily Fletcher and she is an author and the founder of Ziva Meditation, and also Ziva Kids’ Meditation. And today we’re going to be talking about how to trust life more and how to embrace what is coming at you in life, no matter what it may be.

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Kimberly: 00:25 I am so excited for our show today, but before we dive into it, let’s give a little shout out to our fan of the week who is with us, dah, dah, dah, dah, her name is Jess@TransformYoga. And she writes, “I am such a grateful fan of yours, Kimberly. As a yoga studio owner and teacher, I’m so inspired by your topics that are so relatable. I love how you go beyond the surface of things like cravings and digestion, and really dig deep for the reasoning behind it and how to make manageable changes to live a more joyful and healthy life.” Thank you.

Kimberly: 01:03 Thank you, Jess@TransformYoga so much for being our fan of the week. I send you so much love, so much gratitude and prayers for your yoga studio, wherever it may be, whatever city it may be. We need those tribal spaces, those wonderful community spaces, which are so healthy for everybody. So, thank you for doing what you do and thank you so much for being on our community.

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Kimberly: 01:27 And Beauties, for your chance to also be shouted out as the fan of the week, for me to read your beautiful words, please head over to iTunes and leave us a review, which is free and easy and just a wonderful way to support the show. While you’re over there, please be sure to subscribe to the show and that way you don’t miss out on any of these interview podcasts or our Thursday Q&A community show as well.

Kimberly: 01:48 All right. All that being said, let’s get into our interview today with Emily.

Interview with Emily Fletcher

Kimberly: 00:44 You know what, love, I really do love that image of Durga. I don’t know how much you connect to the goddesses, but we did a jewelry collab a couple years ago with… Do you know Satya?

Emily Fletcher: 00:54 I do, yes.

Kimberly: 00:56 We did it and it was based on Durga. And Satya said to me, “Oh, no one’s ever asked to do Durga before.” And I said, “When I went to India, she was my primary archetype that I associated with because she was just strong and she had the resourcefulness of eight arms.

We discuss Durga and how we connect to this protective mother of the universe

Emily Fletcher: 01:12 The thing I love about Durga is that I feel like that’s what’s happening collectively right now. It’s like mother nature is like, “Uh-uh, uh-uh. You all need to get it together.” And she’s giving us the stern, firm warning, but it’s like if we don’t listen, Kali’s going to come out. And then we would be wise to listen to Durga while she’s still in this maternal, protective, loving mode with the stern warning, because none of us want to see full-blown Kali.

Kimberly: 01:36 I mean, I do think it’s been a really beautiful period for re-evaluating for people to really get down to the layers of their lives and see what can dissolve and what we want to put more energy into. How has quarantine felt for you? First of all, where are you quarantining, love?

Quarantine during COVID and how this has changed relationships

Emily Fletcher: 01:54 Well, I’m in Brooklyn. I’m in an apartment and I would say that almost everything in my life is burning to the ground. All my friends are gone. New York City has transformed. My relationship is changing. My director of operations just quit. My studio is empty. It’s just like… I don’t know if you’ve read Untamed by Glennon Doyle, but there’s a chapter called Let It Burn. That’s what the phase that I feel like I’m in right now. It’s like when you’re in the chrysalis and the-

Kimberly: 02:25 [inaudible 00:02:25]. The burning is the space for the Phoenix to rise up.

Emily Fletcher: 02:29 Yes. Yes. I’ve had images of butterflies. I feel like I’m being accosted by butterflies, which is that winged emergence out of the… But the acid, it’s the actual acid that has to dissolve the caterpillar into goo. You have to dissolve everything to fully be able to emerge as the new thing. I’ve been pretty public about a lot of personal transitions that have been going on in addition to pandemic and everything else.

Emily Fletcher: 02:56 But I had a student reach out and they’re like, “Look, I don’t know exactly what’s going on, but I can feel that it’s big. And I can feel that you’re moving through it. It’s like you’re the gray wizard, Gandalf the gray wizard in Lord of the Rings.” He’s like, “You’re holding onto the edge of the cliff. Right now you’re letting go and you’re just facing your fears. And you’re going to emerge as the white wizard with more powers to be able to heal yourself and others.” I’m not a huge Lord of the Rings fan, but it felt accurate for this phase.

Kimberly: 03:25 Well, tell me, love, because I feel that it’s really hard for most all of us to fully let go before we get to the next phase. We want to cling to what feels familiar, what feels safe. Even though if there’s one thing this pandemic has showed us, is that safety and security really has to come from inside of us. But as a meditation teacher, as someone who really does promote the idea of mindfulness, in your personal life, what do you tell yourself? What are the ways, when you’re trying to grasp on, when it’s really scary, what are you telling yourself, or what are you doing?

Moving through difficulties in your life and what to tell yourself

Emily Fletcher: 04:01 Well, there’s a couple of things. On the surface level, I can look to my past and see that every time someone has quit, every time a relationship has ended, every time someone has died, it’s led to huge growth. It’s led to huge healing. It’s led to a massive uplevel. So it’s like, why would I expect the future to be wildly different from the past? If this pattern of destruction really does lead to creation, why would I fear that sopping now? And that brings me some comfort on the surface on intellectual level.

Emily Fletcher: 04:32 But on the deeper level, I would say that I think that fear, that holding on, wanting to be attached to the illusion of control is really not trusting ourselves and not trusting God or not trusting what I call the capital N, nature. And so, that seems to be my big work right now, is that I call myself a recovering codependent, meaning that I could please everybody else and want to put everyone else’s happiness before my own.

Emily Fletcher: 04:58 I historically would avoid conflict at all costs. And going through a lot of these challenges, I’m having to trust myself in a new way, not trust my coach, not trust my therapist, not trust my lawyers, but trust myself. That has been a massive challenge, to be honest. It’s bringing up all these little girl fears and all this trauma.

Emily Fletcher: 05:20 But, to me, it seems like this whole COVID thing, this whole pandemic is either an opportunity for us to really look at our trauma and our triggers and let it burn, let it dissolve, or if we don’t look at it, it’s going to add another layer to the catalyst.

Emily’s Ziva Meditations and how to get to that place of stillness during meditation

Kimberly: 05:36 How, love, when there’s so much going on in your life, and probably a lot of thoughts, when you say to meditate, how do you actually try to push the thoughts away or not follow them, I guess? The Zen, the monkey mind.

Emily Fletcher: 05:53 Well, that’s one of the things I think is so special about Ziva, is that in Ziva, thoughts are not the enemy, and you don’t have to push the thoughts away, and you can have a monkey mind. You can have all of those thoughts. One of the things that we use is just a tool to de-excite the nervous system, to actually give the body rest and slow everything down so that you can get to that place of stillness, so that your brain is actually producing dopamine and serotonin, which are bliss chemicals, so that you start to feel centered, you start to feel like you’re more connected with nature.

Emily Fletcher: 06:23 And then, the beautiful thing that happens is that you start to realize that all those thoughts during the meditation are actually stress leaving the body. That one reframe of like, “Oh, these thoughts are not the enemy of meditation. These thoughts are an indicator that my brain and body are healing from past stress,” can change your whole meditation practice. And so-

Kimberly: 06:42 I agree. What we resist persists. It’s an easy cliched line, but it’s true. I think the times or in the beginning when I would get mad when thoughts would come in… Or, for me, it was really hard to sit in Shavasana. When I would do a yoga class, I would look at the clock and say, “When is this over?” It’s the focus on the thoughts.

Why thoughts are not the enemy and how to use meditations to give your body rest to heal

Emily Fletcher: 07:08 Yes. I think because so many people are going around and saying like, “Just clear your mind, just clear your mind, just let the thoughts go.” Instead of educating people that, hey, meditation is actually a detoxification process. It’s a purification process because we all can access enlightenment right now. It’s just, are we purifying the mind? Are we purifying the body?

Emily Fletcher: 07:27 When you start to see that, Oh, meditation is actually here to detox my mind and body, and that these thoughts are an indicator that stress is leaving. You stop resisting them. When you stop resisting them, you actually stop resisting all the feelings that they’re pointing to and you just feel it. Like I find that meditation does not clear your mind, but you do feel more clean afterwards. I have a sex analogy here where it’s like, you wouldn’t go into a sex act and be like, “Okay, orgasm.” Orgasm is a result of-

Kimberly: 07:55 Well, sometimes my-

Emily Fletcher: 07:58 Sure, but we’re not dating those guys.

Kimberly: 07:59 Yeah, exactly. Those are not on our list of highly sought ought partners.

Emily Fletcher: 08:06 They have not been studying Tantra. But even for a man, you would need like a minute of actual sex before orgasm happens. So, to go into meditation and think, “Oh, the point is to clear the mind,” it’s like, “No, you might have a clear mind as a result of your meditation practice. But that doesn’t mean that the technique involves clearing the mind.” So, actually, with Ziva, it’s all about surrender. It’s all about letting go. It’s all about giving your body rest that is five times deeper than sleep.

Emily Fletcher: 08:35 When you give your body the rest that it needs, it knows how to heal itself. The cool thing here is that it’s healing itself, not only from stress from today, but all the stuff we’ve been accumulating for our whole lifetime and possibly even previous generations,

Kimberly: 08:49 Just resetting. Well, my guru, Emily, I don’t know if I shared this with you, is Paramahansa Yogananda. So I’ve been practicing Kriya now for over 13 years. What’s really helped me is my mind is very active, like a lot of us. The preliminary Kriya techniques use mantra and they use repetitions and breath work. So you’re giving the mind something to focus on. When I found I was able to latch on to that, it just helped me, like we were saying, instead of trying to push away, I just got absorbed into a different flow. So many different [crosstalk 00:09:23]-

Emily Fletcher: 09:23 Yeah. We also use mantras at Ziva, but I think they’re a bit different than how it is in Kriya yoga, meaning that it’s not… With these mantras that you’re not focusing or chanting, so it’s not quite as active. These mantras are called Bija mantras, which means seed mantras. So [inaudible 00:09:40] what you eat, you plant it, but then you let it take root. And after a while, it’s not even a seed anymore. It’s not even a mantra.

Emily Fletcher: 09:46 As you know, mantra means mind vehicle, so it’s not about the vehicle. It’s about the fact that it started to de-excite the nervous system and induce this deep healing rest. And then, to go back to the earlier point we were making, is that when you give your body rest, it knows how to heal itself. And then the stress starts to come out in the form of thoughts. So instead of being like, “Oh no, I’m a bad meditator.” You’re like, “Oh yes, thank you and goodbye. Thank you and goodbye,” which allows more surrender, more ease, less effort.

Kimberly: 10:18 Well, one thing I think, Emily, that’s interesting about the way some people talk about meditation today, I was at a talk with my only coauthor, Deepak Chopra, and he talks about going to India with his teacher Ramana Maharshi. No, not Ramana Maharshi.

Emily Fletcher: 10:35 Maharishi Mahesh Yogi.

Kimberly: 10:37 Thank you. I love Ramana Maharshi. My friend was just… Not to go on a tangent, but he just went to his ashram in India as well. Separate guru. But anyways, he said there was this conference on meditation and for 12 hours, people were talking about all the stress-reducing effects. And then, at one point, Deepak’s teacher tapped him on the back and said, “What is this stress? What are they talking about?”

Kimberly: 11:04 So it’s true. When you look at the ancient masters, meditation was about oneness. It was about unity. It was about connecting in, and you become… Because stress is really just a perspective about events. It’s not the events themselves. They weren’t doing it to reduce stress. It’s not mentioned in the scriptures anywhere, but now that becomes such a primary focus, I find, when people talk about meditation, is it helps with stress, whereas, for me, I think that’s more of a after effect. And the focus is really centering and unity and going into that oneness.

Emily Fletcher: 11:38 Yeah. I mean, I think this is so beautiful and I thousand percent agree with you. I think the only difference here is who you’re talking to. Like your audience is likely more interested in oneness and unity and really opening up their heart and being connected to the divine, which is amazing. And that’s ultimately where we’re heading all of us. My audience tends to be skeptical, pragmatic high achievers that are just like, “Will this make me more money? Will this get me laid?” And so, it’s just like I’m just speaking to people where they are. I’m like their [inaudible 00:12:09] drug.

Kimberly: 12:10 Well, I think it’s like yoga. And yoga in the asanas sense. When I used to teach asanas, it’s like if people want to come and they want to have great abs, great. They’re still showing up and they’re coming, and maybe they’ll open up to something else. But if people are coming to do the asanas to merge, then, you know what, we’re all going the same place anyway.

Emily Fletcher: 12:28 That’s right. Like it’s not like you’re going to feel worse after you meditate. It’s not like you’re going to be more selfish after you meditate. You’re not going to feel worse after a yoga class. So I really don’t care why people start meditating. I just care that they do it.

Kimberly: 12:40 It’s just interesting because there is such that focus, and you’re right. Our mindset in the modern world is so much like, “Eliminate stress. I want to do all this anti-aging stuff versus merging.” Whereas, for me, I found the more I focus on the merging, the other stuff just takes care of itself. But people are where they are.

Emily Fletcher: 12:59 I philosophically totally agree. It’s like what you put your attention on grows, and you want to water the flowers, not the weeds. So if you’re moving towards unity, if you’re moving towards heart open expansion, increasing your state of consciousness, the stress is going to take care of itself. Right?

Kimberly: 13:15 Totally.

Emily Fletcher: 13:16 It just will.

Kimberly: 13:17 You’re right. I love that idea about meeting people where they are. I think that’s really important because all or nothing, whether we’re talking about food or meditation, turns people away. It’s one of the reasons I never really use the word vegan. I’ll say, “Eat more vegetables or eat plant-based,” because even the word vegan can really polarize people as well.

Emily Fletcher: 13:35 Yeah. And even the word meditation. I feel like I’ve built my whole career on wrapping the very powerful medicine that is meditation inside of this candy coating of like, “Hey, you’re actually going to be more productive, less stressed, have better sex. So I think for your audience, I would be like for their really skeptical cousin, for their boss that’s like, “No way would I do meditation,” or soon, hopefully, for their kids because we’re about to launch, as I messaged you a little while ago, we’re about to launch the Ziva Kids.

Emily Fletcher: 14:05 Even with the kids’ training, I find that I’m, I’m using a similar approach in that I’m framing this as a tool, like, “Hey, if you love soccer, this thing is going to help you be better at soccer. If you lift dance, great. This is a tool to help you be better at dance.” I’m not necessarily framing it with kids of like, “Oh, you’re going to union with the divine,” which is awesome. But they’re already union with the divine.

Emily Fletcher: 14:26 They already are in this beautiful flow state and present moment awareness and sense of wonder. And so, for them, it’s not about stress. I definitely don’t want kids to think like, “Oh, there’s something wrong with me. I need to meditate to fix my anxiety.” It’s like, “No, no, whatever you’re into-

Kimberly: 14:41 It’s so natural. It’s amazing how the baby’s eyes keep rolling back. I watch it with Moses now who’s just a couple of years old. I took him into the monks at the self-realization fellowship, and with my older too. And they said their consciousness is still turned up at the third. How old is your son, Emily?

Emily Fletcher: 15:01 He’s two and a half.

Kimberly: 15:02 Oh.

Emily Fletcher: 15:03 He’s going on like 12. It’s shocking. I mean, I know I’m biased, but I just think he’s so advanced, but it’s so awesome.

Kimberly: 15:12 How are you guys dealing, being in Brooklyn? The parks must be closed? There’s germs everywhere. Like what do you guys do?

Emily Fletcher: 15:19 Parks are open. Parks are open. Playgrounds are open. We go outside to the park every day. Thankfully, our apartment’s big so he can run. We actually can play Chase, which has an open space. And so-

Kimberly: 15:32 It’s cold there now, isn’t it?

Emily Fletcher: 15:33 It’s cold, but we just have a snowsuit. We’ve got a Patagonia snowsuit, hat, mittens, and we go outside and run as much as possible. The other blessing of this for me is that Jasper is not… All he wants to do is hang out with mom and dad. He doesn’t really care that much about friends right now. Pretty soon that’s going to start to change. And so, I’m just counting my blessings that he was not in school and that right now, really, he just wants mom and dad. So it’s been a very… There’s been a lot of blessings.

Kimberly: 16:04 I think it depends on the child, Emily, because my son is four and a half and he still just wants Momma all the time.

Emily Fletcher: 16:11 Yeah, it is.

Meditation with our kiddos and the positive impact this has on them

Kimberly: 16:11 We have a little pod here, so we have friends around. I mean, I think children are all different. They’re different natured. My son is so… We’ve always been so physical and we’ve had a lot of contact. So he craves that still, which is really good.

Emily Fletcher: 16:28 I know you said you’ve been meditating with both your kids since they were born. Can you tell me about that and how you have them sit with you? Because I’m just so fascinated as we launched Ziva Kids, to give people tips and you’re a professional.

Kimberly: 16:42 I mean, I think that just the way that we naturally are, I think kids love to read because we read to them and they see us read. So I have been meditating around them. They’ve watched me. They’ve done it with me since, I mean, you could say since conception, since I’ve been pregnant with both of them, and I used to teach Sunday School actually at the SRF Center, the Self-Realization Fellowship Center in New York.

Kimberly: 17:06 So I had some great teachers teach me, with the little ones, just even for a minute or two, like what your third eye is and how to just relax and how to breathe. So it’s very, very basic. But even with both of them, while I’m nursing, I’ll go into those states and I’ll do the breathing with them. And then, Bobby, since he’s little, he’s been fascinated. We do have a lot of deities around the house, pictures of the gurus.

Kimberly: 17:30 Ever since he’s little, he knows Shiva. He knows Buddha. He knows everybody. And he’s just interested in the stories of India. So I tell him a lot of stories as well. He knows the story about Ram and Sita and demon Ravana. He knows the story of Hanuman. Moses’s middle name is Hanuman. I think that just explaining to them, there’s a storytelling aspect, which makes them understand the context, and then just how good it feels.

Kimberly: 18:00 I teach about how it feels really good to just sit and breathe, the way it feels good to eat healthy food. I think just doing it together, it’s another activity that we do as a family. And they do want to do things with the family all the time. So-

Emily Fletcher: 18:14 Yeah. Actually, I do find that, let’s say, you want a longer practice, 20 or 30 minutes or something, would you just say like, “Hey, mommy’s going to meditate. You can join if you want,” or would you give them activities or?

Kimberly: 18:23 Oh yeah. No, my practice is separate to when I meditate with them, usually like in the evening after bed or in the morning. If I set E up with some toys and I’m nursing or something with Moses, my medications are usually at least 20 to 30 minutes. But then when I sit with them and I’m focusing on them, unless I’m nursing, usually Bobby can meditate for five minutes.

Emily Fletcher: 18:46 That’s amazing. That’s so great. So great.

Kimberly: 18:50 Yeah. Then I think, how you speak about mindfulness too, it’s also just a way of life. I talk to them about the animals and about nature. I mean, we’re lucky we live here in Topanga. Do you know Topanga, Emily? Have you been-

Emily Fletcher: 19:03 A little bit. I mean, I think actually when you and I met at dinner at Jeff’s place in Topanga.

Kimberly: 19:07 Yes.

Emily Fletcher: 19:07 And that was one of the-

Kimberly: 19:09 Yes.

Emily Fletcher: 19:09 Yeah. It’s also how many times I’ve been there. Yeah.

Kimberly: 19:12 So that’s like 10 minutes up the road, but we live with oak trees and redwoods, and just this very nature place. And so we talk a lot about the connection of everything. We sit outside and we listen to the different birds. We talk about how it’s important for the environment. That’s one of the reasons we don’t eat animals. Just all these different things. We talk about just being mindful.

Kimberly: 19:34 One day they will choose, of course, if they want to be plant-based or not, how they want to live their life. But I want to give them this consciousness of really knowing what they’re eating, really knowing what they’re doing, like really questioning things so that they can choose for themselves when they’re older.

Emily Fletcher: 19:51 So beautiful. One of the things we keep beating the drum on Ziva Kids is that our kids are going to do what we do, not what we say. And so, they’re watching our example. They’re watching our state of business, they’re watching our energy. And so, I love that you are, I mean, obviously so committed to your own wellness and your own energy. So you’re modeling that, but then also aware of the fact that they’ll have to choose for themselves, that you can teach them and share with them and open their eyes to things and send them an invitation.

Emily Fletcher: 20:19 But at the end of the day, it’s still, they have to want it. They have to have that worthy inquiry and it’s their choice. Whereas I think a lot of parents, they come to me, they’re like, “Well, how do I get my kids to meditate?” And then you become the meditation police. And it’s like, “Well, really, step one is clean your own house,” because if you’re stressed, then your kids are going to feel stressed.

Emily Fletcher: 20:37 But a beautiful by-product I’ve seen is that as adults start to take responsibility for their own mental and physical wellbeing, Kate, there’s a beautiful surprise benefit of this. One, it feels better for the kids because they are inherently narcissistic, meaning that they think that the whole world revolves around them because they have to, for protection. So if Mommy’s angry, it’s very hard to not take that personally, “Oh, well, I must have made Mommy angry. Daddy’s sad. That must be my fault.” That’s just the way we’re wired as children.

Emily Fletcher: 21:07 What I’ve seen is that when parents start a daily meditation practice, the kids start to see, “Well, oh, Mommy didn’t meditate today, and so she’s a little cranky. But that’s not my fault. Oh, daddy didn’t meditate today. He must be angry because of that. Not because of me.” And then our kids actually become our gatekeepers. Like, “Hey mommy, why don’t you meditate, because you’re a lot nicer after you do that thing.” I just love the kids policing us as adults versus us policing the kids on like, “You have to meditate today,” because then it’s… Nobody wants to be told what to do when to do and why to do it.

Showing up with our practices even when going through difficult transitions

Kimberly: 21:40 Well, Emily, going back to what we spoke about earlier about this flow connecting life, real life, for me, one of the greatest challenges of my life, it was a period of time when Bobby was not even a year old, my mom passed away really suddenly.

Emily Fletcher: 21:58 I’m so sorry.

Kimberly: 21:58 And then, a short time later, I broke up with Bobby’s father, so I became a single mom. And that was the time where I really had to root into my practice and also being authentic, but also being strong. So I didn’t want to hide feelings. If he saw me cry, I would say, “Momma misses Lola,” which is the Filipino word for mother. I didn’t want him to see me make a fake face, and I wanted him to feel my authenticity. So, can you share a little bit, I know you were going through it, as much, as little as you want to share, Emily.

Kimberly: 22:37 But I know you going through some life transitions. So can you share how you’re able to show up to take your practice into life, to be there with your son, but to be authentic to your own feelings and to yourself?

Emily Fletcher: 22:52 Yeah. Thank you so much for asking that, and thank you for leading by example because I think sometimes we get into a misperception that being strong for our kids means lying, “Well, they just have to be happy all the time.”

Kimberly: 23:04 Yes.

Emily Fletcher: 23:05 Everything’s good all the time, and that’s a lie. Kids are way more energetically sensitive than I think we even realize. And certainly more energetically sensitive than we are, again, because they have to be for survival. And so, something I’ve learned through like the RIE parenting method, R-I-E, [inaudible 00:23:19] parenting. Yes, you’re being respectful to your child, but you’re also being respectful to yourself, which means that if Mommy needs some space, then that’s okay.

Emily Fletcher: 23:28 You can say, “I’m going to take a few minutes for myself. You know what? That hurt my feelings. I’m going to take a moment.” Obviously, anything can go to extremes. It’s interesting because my default mode is just placate and make everybody else happy and don’t worry about myself. It’ll all be fine. And so, it’s taken a lot of courage and I’ve had to give myself a lot of permission to feel what I’m feeling and to be honest about what I’m feeling.

Emily Fletcher: 23:56 And because everything is changing so much, it’s really put a spotlight on present moment awareness, that like right now, I have so much time with my son. Right now I have my beautiful apartment. Right now I have all these things that I’m afraid of losing at some point in the future. So it’s like, “Savor them, savor them. Enjoy each passing moment because it’s all fleeting.” So I think in these times of huge transition, you could either spend your entire time worrying about what may or may not happen in the future, which is just that old control muscle. Or you can choose to be here now. I mean, just hyper presence. Each smile [crosstalk 00:24:40]-

Kimberly: 24:40 It’s the real training the mind, isn’t it?

Emily Fletcher: 24:42 Yes. Each bite of food, each new discovery, each new verb that he conjugates, where it’s just everything becomes a present moment celebration. And that’s the one I’m choosing. I have been very proud of the fact that I feel like my energy’s been very clean around him, and it’s not fake. It’s that I’m genuinely thrilled for every second that I get to spend with him.

Kimberly: 25:02 Wow. Yeah. I think that is a real training because, like you said, Emily, we’re used to thinking about, “Oh my gosh, what if this changes in a couple months or next week?” The fear muscle, as you said, control and fear are the way that a lot of us have been trained to be in the world and to look at things.

Emily Fletcher: 25:22 Yeah, or even to think that it’s responsible. Well, I’m responsible because I’m worrying about these things that are stressful. It’s like, “What?” Why are we being prematurely sad and scared about something that hasn’t happened yet? Yes, strategize. Yes, check in with your gut. Yes, make decisions based on information, but don’t wish away the now. Don’t worry away the now.

Kimberly: 25:44 Well, one thing too, Emily, when I was going through especially the grief with my mom, it would be in waves. It would feel like a huge tsunami would come over me. And back to that idea of not resisting, I would really feel it and it was such pain. I felt like my heart was being squeezed. Sometimes it felt like I couldn’t breathe. Sometimes I would sob hysterically.

Kimberly: 26:05 But then it would pass, and then it would keep happening in waves. I would let myself feel instead of saying, “No, no, no, come back to calmness.” So there is a time and a place for feeling big feelings too.

Emily Fletcher: 26:18 Yes. I think that if that wave comes in front of your kids, I think it’s okay to honor it. But it’s also probably a good idea to say like, “Hey, you are safe, I’m safe. This is not your fault. This is just Mommy missing Lola. This is Mommy sad about whatever you’re sad about.” But I think that it really can be a two-way street of teaching. In Ziva Kids, we created this puppet. His name is Z Bunny and he’s training to be a superhero.

Emily Fletcher: 26:44 We created him with some folks from Sesame Street. But everyday, as he’s training to become the superhero, some things come up, challenges come up. He gets scared. He gets angry. He gets sad. And so, these we represented, just like you said, of like storm clouds. We call them the stormies, and there’s the sad stormy, the angry stormy, the scared stormy. The analogy that we use is that just like on a cloudy day, the sun is always shining.

Emily Fletcher: 27:07 Same thing. When those big feelings come, your stillness, your security, your joy, your bliss is always there inside of you. And so, just like our kids are learning from us, Mommy can feel these big emotions and move through them, I think we can learn from them in the way that we speak to them, the way that we teach them. Like when my son has emotions, he feels them fully. When he has temper tantrums, he rages. When he’s sad, he cries. And then one minute later, he’s playing-

Kimberly: 27:37 I know. Isn’t it amazing?

Emily Fletcher: 27:39 Yeah.

Kimberly: 27:40 It is really amazing how… And then, Emerson will just move on as if nothing happened.

Emily Fletcher: 27:46 Yeah. And it’s like, “Well, how much of our lives as adults are we spending being like, “I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m fine.” And we’re just wasting so much energy repressing our emotions, versus to your point, if you just feel the wave of grief when it comes, then probably seven to 15 minutes later have a really good, ugly cry, you’re probably going to feel a lot better.

Emily Fletcher: 28:06 And so, it’s so funny because I just sent an email out today about these exact things. I was with a friend over at New Year’s, and she’s a bit of a witch, like just very big energy, has done decades of work on herself. Has the capacity to really see all of me and hold all of me. Just being in her presence, just feeling held by her, just feeling safe around her, gave me the permission and safety that I needed to have a massive catharsis, just a big old ugly cry.

Emily Fletcher: 28:33 Because I knew that she had made me… That she wasn’t scared of my fear, I really let myself go there, and I just felt it, and felt it, and felt it, and felt it. She just kept encouraging me, like, “Feel it, feel all of it, and then see if you can meet it with love that is even greater.” I thought that that, just that one sentence gave me full permission to have the catharsis that my body was creating. And then to know that there was access, that I have access to love that is bigger than any fear, any rage, or any sadness. And that felt like a really powerful, both intellectual learning, and visceral healing.

Kimberly: 29:11 Yeah. The love is much more powerful than trying to control, which keep things small. I found that these waves would come… When I was with Emerson, when I was with my son, I was so focused on him. But it was the quiet moments. It was the nights, a lot of times, for me, when I put him down to bed and then there was stillness, and then it would start to creep up.

Kimberly: 29:34 I never had these big, huge sobs in front of him. I don’t know. I wouldn’t want to scare him with that, but there were times where I would get sad and do a little cry and then he would know that’s Lola, that has nothing to do with me. So anyways, it’s organic for all of us, but I think healing from my mom’s passing… And I never say she died because that’s another conversation. We feel her, we’ve seen her all around, is more about you really teaching me, it just cracked me open because I am someone that has appeared strong, has appeared to have it together, will repress a lot.

Emily shares her big wants for this year

Kimberly: 30:13 I think one of the root causes of my years and years of constipation was really just holding in. So it was very healing in that way.

Emily Fletcher: 30:22 Good for you. It’s to rewire those things, which usually come from some sort of childhood trauma, I mean, this is the work. This is why we’re here. I think if we see the global transition as an opportunity to really look at what code needs to be rewritten, like what traumas are here, that we had to create survival mechanisms to get through. But maybe those tools that got us through the trauma aren’t serving us anymore as adults, or perhaps even inhibiting our expansion and connection with the divine.

Emily Fletcher: 30:52 That, to me, is the whole name of the game. Like that’s the human syllabus. Like, “What tools to get you here?” But you might have to put those tools down and get some new tools. I just want to applaud and recognize your bravery for giving yourself permission to surrender, and to release, and to trust.

Kimberly: 31:10 Thank you, my love. I’m interested, this year, coming up, Emily, professional goals aside, personally, what are some of the things that… I don’t like resolutions, even the word goals, but what are some of the things that you’re putting energy to or attention in your life, whether it’s creating more of that unity, or more peace, or more resilience? What are some of the things that Emily wants this year?

Emily Fletcher: 31:34 Yeah. My big one is trust, and I feel like I’m in a masterclass right now on trust. When I said I’m being accosted by butterflies, that, to me, is what it represents. Yes, this rebirth, yes, this emergence, but they’re just antennas and wings that are listening to God and flying, listening to God and flying, and bringing joy everywhere they go. And so, I feel like my antenna to other people is very strong. Was, again, a survival mechanism.

Emily Fletcher: 32:01 But my antenna to God, my antenna to myself could be strengthened. And so, yes, you can take other people’s opinions. Yes, you can take other people’s guidance. But at the end of the day, we’ve got to drop down and listen to ourselves. I have to listen to myself. So that’s my big thing. I’m moving into trust myself, trust God, trust myself. And community is really big. To be honest, it was very sad, very devastating, to like 24 of my friends in my core group all left New York last year. And it’s like-

Kimberly: 32:31 Did you think about going as well or no?

Emily Fletcher: 32:34 Well, I’m open to it, but there’s some circumstances around that, so I have to-

Kimberly: 32:40 Sure.

Emily Fletcher: 32:40 There are some factors, but on the spiritual plane, we can move mountains. I’m open to another location. We’ll see. But either creating community here in New York or going to a place where I can really have strong community is very important to me. I’d also really love to have another kid, which feels really exciting. I can see her, feel her. I know her name. I barely-

Kimberly: 33:07 Oh, you feel a girl’s going to come in next.

Emily Fletcher: 33:09 Yeah, I think so. I can feel her very strong. I rarely get visions. I’m very intuitive and I can feel yes or no, but I don’t normally see visions. But I can see her and feel her and I know her name. It’s very fascinating to see how that’s going to play out. Yeah, and joy. It’s so simple and it sounds almost cliche, but you don’t have to wait until you’re done suffering in order to have joy. I think we’ve got to remember this through this pandemic. We don’t know how long we’re in this for. And to be like, “Oh, when the pandemic’s over, then I’ll be happy. When the pandemic’s over-

Kimberly: 33:48 Or when I get married, or when I have a kid, or when I lose 10 pounds.

Emily Fletcher: 33:52 I make a million dollars or have a million followers on Instagram. It’s like that day… Then you’re just going to want two million. So it’s joy now, joy even through the transition, joy even through the pain. And so, there’s that duality is something I’m living into this year.

Kimberly: 34:12 I love that. That is one of the most powerful lessons, that it doesn’t have to be all perfect and neat. Some of the things that we strive for as a society, the fame and the money, and when people get there, they still have the same issues. They still don’t have the peace or the joy. So whatever looks shiny and pretty from the outside, it’s still really about our inner state. No matter if we are struggling with some very real issues or our life looks so-called perfect on the outside, it’s really about the inner state.

Emily Fletcher: 34:45 The more we’re cultivating that, the more we trust ourselves, like the more you can access your bliss and fulfillment internally, which obviously meditation and diet and movement, these things are up to us. These things remind us that my fulfillment is here now. You do become less attached to how the outside world shows up and looks.

Emily Fletcher: 35:04 You become a little bit less ready to control it all because you realize that, well, this can change. And still, fulfillment is here. This can change and still joy is here. And so, I’m certainly not perfect at it. I still love my illusion of control. But it’s waning every day. I’m surrendering and trusting more and more every day.

Kimberly: 35:25 That’s beautiful. For all the mommas out there, and I know this must have been inspired by… Sorry, what is your son’s name?

Emily Fletcher: 35:32 Jasper.

Kimberly: 35:33 Jasper. I have met Jasper once. He must have been like eight months or something.

Emily Fletcher: 35:39 Yeah, he was about eight months. You’re right.

Kimberly: 35:41 Or maybe 10 months. When you start walking?

Emily Fletcher: 35:44 At about a year, but he was just about to walk then, right? Or was he walking? I can’t remember.

Kimberly: 35:49 I can’t remember. I thought he was kind of walking, but maybe… I don’t know.

Emily Fletcher: 35:53 I think I was there for the LA book launch, which would have been in like March. So he would have been like eight, eight or 10 months. I don’t know. But I do remember he was wearing a bow tie and maybe a little like fedora.

Ziva Kids Meditation and how to help your kids thrive

Kimberly: 36:04 I do remember meeting your son. That was beautiful. My son was already in that mode of bedtime. He must have been two. I don’t know, whatever. I’m very bad with [inaudible 00:36:17]. Anyways. The point is you’ve started the Ziva Kids meditation program, which is amazing. How do we find out about it?

Emily Fletcher: 36:52 What Ziva Kids is, it’s meditation to help your kids thrive. It’s for ages four to 14. So there’s actually two different trainings. One is called Play, and that’s for kids four to eight.

Emily Fletcher: 37:14 One is called Grow, and that’s nine to 14-year-olds. It’s very much like a TV show, meaning that we made it really entertaining. So we worked from folks with Sesame Street and Harvard child psychologists. We want kids to come back to it if they want to, but it’s also designed to make them self-sufficient. So after they move through the seven days of training, they’re going to have mindfulness, meditation and manifesting to take with them for life. So it’s not like you have to go log into an app or be on technology every day.

Emily Fletcher: 37:42 Yes, we use technology to get it in their hands, but then after that, it’s tech free, which is awesome. So people who want to find out about it, they just go to zivameditation.com/kids.

Personal tips surrounding the Four Cornerstones

Kimberly: 38:09 Interesting. Well, we’ll link to that in the show notes as well. Thank you so much for creating an amazing tool for kids. To wrap up here, Emily, I’m going to ask you a few questions that I ask all my guests. First is, at Solluna, we have our Four Cornerstone philosophy for true beauty and wellness, we call it, which is food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. I’m going to throw the cornerstones at you one by one, and if you could say one thing, one tip maybe that’s helped you, or one thing you’re working on, or one thing you want to share about each of the cornerstones with all of our beauties. First one is food.

Emily Fletcher: 38:46 Yes. Food, for me, has been adding in a lot of raw fats. So coconut oil and raw honey, can be very grounding.

Kimberly: 39:19  I do a lot of coconut milk, a lot of coconut oil.

Emily Fletcher: 39:33 Got it. Okay. What was the next one?

Kimberly: 39:53 Next one is body, which is sleep, exercise, how you move your body.

Emily Fletcher: 39:59 I’ve actually just started working out with a trainer. I’ve never had a physical trainer. I used to be on Broadway for 10 years, so I used to dance and sing for a living. So [inaudible 00:40:07] been very in my body, used my body as an instrument. But I’ve never had a physical trainer, and I’ve built a lot more muscle than I’ve had historically. And that has been interesting. It’s changing my consciousness a bit in that I feel like the more muscle I have, the more courageous I’m becoming.

Emily Fletcher: 40:22 That is really exciting, because I feel like my tendency because of that butter is to go into fear, to go in that fight or flight, and having more muscle’s awakening a bit of Pitta, a little bit of warrior, where I can bravely move into confrontation, which is a challenge for me.

Kimberly: 40:40 I love that. And then emotional wellbeing/mental health, which could be… We talk about journaling. We talk about community.

Emily Fletcher: 40:49 Well, for me right now that is catharsis, like creating support structures and time and space for friends that I feel like, like I mentioned with my friend, that have the capacity to hold me to a place where I feel safe enough to purge. I’m just in a phase of life right now where there’s a lot that needs to come up and out. And so, that, for me, is the emotional healing is, do I have a container that’s safe enough?

Emily Fletcher: 41:12 Sometimes that’s a journal, sometimes that’s a therapist. Sometimes it’s a friend. But just knowing what you need to make you feel safe enough to let that stuff come up and out. Just like a kid at the end of the day, you hug your child and they’re like, “Mom, this happened,” it’s not your mom that’s making you cry, it’s that the kid feels safe enough in his mother’s arms to release. I think that we, even as adults, need to our people, find our support systems that allow us to feel safe enough to cry.

Kimberly: 41:38 100%. The last one, love, which we’d spoken about extensively is spiritual growth. So meditation, stillness, you obviously have a meditation practice.

Emily Fletcher: 41:48 Yeah. I mean, the meditation part is huge, but the thing that the meditation is leading to is connection to the divine, and therefore trusting the divine.

Kimberly: 41:58 Yes. And the trust is a big, big word for you.

Emily Fletcher: 42:01 Yeah, bae. It is my year for 2021. Trust, trust, trust.

Beauty and what it means to Emily

Kimberly: 42:05 And then, last question, my love, we talk a lot about true beauty here in our community. Beauty has been in three out of my five book titles. So I’ve explored this concept a lot. And what I’ve come to find is that true beauty is really about our connection with divine, with ourselves, that shines out of us. It’s not about features. Tell us your perspective of beauty.

Emily Fletcher: 42:29 Well, it’s so interesting of what you just said. Like, if you are connected to the divine and connected to yourself, that changes the lens through which you see everything.

Kimberly: 42:38 Totally.

Emily Fletcher: 42:39 And so, like, I can tell my students sometimes that like, “Well, I don’t want you to follow me on social media,” or, “I don’t want to be friends on social media,” because I can tell if they’re meditating or not, because a meditator is like, “Look at the reflection on this hair clip. It’s so beautiful.” And versus if they’re not meditating, they’re like, “This morning a bus got mud on my jacket, and then my coffee spilled, and [inaudible 00:43:02]. Aren’t Tuesdays terrible?”

Emily Fletcher: 43:03 I’ll be like, “Hey, how’s the meditation going?” And you can just see whether or not they’re seeing the beauty in everything or if they’re constantly feeling in frustration. That to me is 100% indicative of your state of consciousness. So to me, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But really what that means is what lens are you seeing the world through? Are you seeing the world through a lens of stress? Are you seeing the world through a lens of bliss? If you see it through a lens of bliss, then you really do see that God is in everyone and everything.

Kimberly: 43:36 It’s so true. I feel like it starts out with this very surface idea of beauty and appearance. But then the longer you go and the deeper you go, it really becomes about energy and you start to just feel, and you could see people’s light and everything does change. So thank you. That is a beautiful way to phrase it. It’s been wonderful having you on here, Emily. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. We will link beauties to all of Emily’s information over in the show notes. Sending you so much love, Emily, to cozy. Keep cozy in New York, across the way. Stay nice and warm and sending you so much love.

Emily Fletcher: 44:11 Thank you so much for everything you’ve created, for having me. My whole team was so excited about this. They love you. They love your work. But just know that your impact is well received and very appreciated, and it’s an honor to be here with you.

Kimberly: 44:24 Thank you so much, my love.

Kimberly: 01:55 All right, Beauties. Well, I hope you enjoyed my interview today with Emily, as much as I enjoyed doing it. Be sure to head over to the show notes over at mysolluna.com to get further information, as well as links to other podcasts I think that you might enjoy. And be sure as well to check out our Solluna app, our brand new app that I’m super passionate about, which you can get right in the app store for both Androids and iPhones and you’ll get more information about our Tribal Solluna Circle, which is ramping up. I’m so excited about it. I’ll see you back here Thursday for our next Q&A community show. Until then, sending you a huge virtual hug. So much gratitude, so much love. And see you back here soon.

What is Happiness and is it Achievable? [Episode #542]

What is Happiness and is it Achievable? [Episode #542]

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This week’s topic is: What is Happiness and is it Achievable?

A lot of us wonder about happiness. I think it’s something that’s become a big discussion point for the past few years. There have been different documentaries, research studies and books about happiness. It shows that as time goes on, we start to go deeper and deeper into ourselves. We start to really question what life is about and realize that it’s about our day to day experience and how we feel.

It’s not just about our side measurements, like how much money we have or how big our retirement account is or how many followers we have or just material things. It really has to do with our inner state.

I’ve realized how precious the peace and the joy that comes from within is, and really, how few people actually have it. It’s something that we can all tap into and we can create. For me, it’s been the journey of taking a holistic approach with our Four Cornerstone approach with food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. If we just try to approach it from one aspect, then we don’t really get the best results.

Happiness is something that I think is our birthright. I think our natural state is to be alive, to be joyful and to feel free. This is an important topic and this is something that we can all work towards.

Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!

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Debbie – Texas

Kimberly, can you share what is happiness to you? I mean, it seems to come and go and I wonder how much of it depends on our own mindset?

Taylor – Massachusetts

So much unhappiness comes from others. How can I find happiness without turning into some recluse?

Cora – Alabama 

I have a business that’s dependent on social media for its survival. However, I tend to receive comments where people say I’m faking my happiness. How can I separate myself from this negativity so that I don’t lose my desire, passion and happiness?

Luke – UK

Is happiness sustainable?

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties, and welcome back to our Thursday Q and A Community Podcast where our topic today is What is Happiness and is it Achievable? So a lot of us wonder about happiness. I think it’s something that’s become a big discussion point for the past few years. There has been different documentaries about happiness, there’s been even research studies, there’s been different books. So it just shows that as time goes on, we start to go deeper and deeper into ourselves. I think we start to really question what life is about and we realize more and more that it’s about our day to day experience and how we feel. And it’s not just about our side measurements, like how much money we have or how big our retirement account is or how many followers we have or just material things. It really has to do with our inner state.

Kimberly: 00:54 And as I’ve gone on, I realized how all precious the peace and the joy that comes from within is and really how few people actually have it. And it’s something that we can all tap into. We can all create it. For me, it’s been the journey of taking a holistic approach, our four cornerstone approach, which is food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth, which we will talk about in our show today because I think if we just try to approach it from one aspect, then we don’t really get the best results.

Kimberly: 01:26 And so happiness is something that I think is our birthright. I think our natural state is to be alive and light and joyful and to feel free. So we’ll get into it today in our questions. I will say that for me, the journey… Ooh, my wellness journey, which is now well over a decade has included not just letting go of blow, letting go of acne, but also just increasingly feeling lighter and lighter and lighter and just having much more joy in my life. So I really think this is an important topic and this is something that we can all work towards.

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Question 1: Kimberly, can you share what is happiness to you? It seems to come and go, and I wonder how much of it depends on our own mindset.

Kimberly: 02:52 Okay, let’s get into our questions today. I’m very excited about hearing what you guys have been wondering about happiness. The first question comes from Debbie, who lives in Texas, and she writes, “Kimberly, can you share what is happiness to you? It seems to come and go, and I wonder how much of it depends on our own mindset.” So Debbie, thank you so much for bringing this up. So I think that for me, it’s hard to talk about happiness as a goal. I always talk about joy. And joy for me is deeper than happiness. But I think when most people are trying to feel happiness, what they’re really looking for is joy.

Kimberly: 03:38 And the difference is joy comes from inside of you and it comes from a very, very deep place of being connected to spirit inside of you, which is the source of your confidence and your true beauty and everything else. And when we have that connection, then to your point, Debbie, it doesn’t matter what happens outside of us. Things can crash and fall and burn and changes happen and COVID comes and we may lose our job and someone dumps us, but we still have that deep, deep sense of inner security. Happiness also feels good, but happiness can be dependent on outside things. Happiness can be fleeting. So if we attach our happiness to how much we weigh or this particular job or getting the validation from this particular boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever it is, if those things change, then our happiness levels can change.

Kimberly: 04:34 So to me, my goal is joy. And to me, that is from inner connection. And we really, really strengthen that with our meditation practice. It is the way to access deep joy. But with our other cornerstones, I would say our emotional wellbeing cornerstone, it’s also important to feel joy from true connection to others, for instance. So I think establishing a really strong community, a really strong tribe is very important to our joy because energy transfers and we’re meant to be tribal. We’re meant to be communal. We’re meant to share with other people. But the key is sharing with other people that are positive and will help uplift you as well.

Kimberly: 00:01 So when it comes to community, I will say that we have been building an incredible community over in our Solluna Circle. If you want to join us, if you’re listening to this, then you probably very much do fit in with our tribal circle and our discussions every day. And we do virtual circles every month. So you can check that out over at the Solluna app, which you can download. I’ve got Bubby here on my lap, and he is playing quietly. We’ll see how quietly he can play here as we go through the show. Real life working mama. And our next cornerstone is body. And I think that we are meant to be dynamic, passionate, alive beings, and so when it comes to joyfulness, besides meditation, besides having a tribe, it’s also really important that we move our bodies and we sleep, we take care of ourselves, we go for walks, preferably in the sunlight, or in a gym, if that’s really your only option right now. And I think that’s really important too, because it fosters that dynamic energy that is us, that is our true nature.

Kimberly: 01:11 And then food wise, food does play into joyfulness, because our physical, our mental and emotional beings, spiritual beings, everything is interconnected. So if we eat in a way that opens up our bodies, it opens up our energy, it opens up our just cellular potential and our light, if you will. It really does make a difference. It does impact our meditations, which is one of the reasons that the yogis always talk about diet, and that was the first reason I became plant-based actually, was from going to India, to journeying there, to learning about meditation, and that was when I became plant-based initially. And then, of course, I learned more about the health part, the aspect of elevating health and detoxification and the environmental consequences. But really, it was the energy part that really drew me in, and I will say it does make a tremendous difference.

Kimberly: 02:02 So when we live this lifestyle, we’re able to access more and more of that joy. And to your point, Debbie, it doesn’t come and go as easily with outside circumstances. Maybe we come outside and it’s annoying. We got a ticket on our car, some parking ticket, but it doesn’t have to tank our day. We can take it in stride. We can take a breath and deal with it and move on. Traffic, arguments with coworkers, or whatever it is that comes up in life, when we have that inner anchor, when we’re living this life, the Four Cornerstone Life, we just feel a lot more grounded and we don’t come undone as easily. So that’s why all these practices are so, so important. And I will say on the app, there’s free meditations as well if you guys want to go check them out, some beginning meditations to get you started.

Question 2: So much unhappiness comes from others. How can I find happiness without turning into some recluse?

Kimberly: 02:49 All right. So our next question comes from Taylor, who lives in Massachusetts, and she writes, “So much unhappiness comes from others. How can I find happiness without turning into some recluse?” So I think this is a great question, Taylor. I think that it is very true that human relationships, we need them, we love them, but they can be tricky. It’s like that U2 song, With or Without You. Sometimes there’s people, relatives, family members, dear friends that can drive us crazy, but we love them to pieces. And every one of us comes with different triggers and different wounds and different things that we bring into our communication in relationships. So that’s why they can be tricky, sometimes someone doesn’t mean to offend us or piss us off, but they touch on a sensitivity. For me, it’s about being heard and being seen. So if somebody triggers that, then I either become passive aggressive, or in the past I would, because now I’m a lot more aware of it.

Kimberly: 03:51 Or I would just shut down or maybe say that I didn’t like that person that much, I would avoid them. Whatever it is, there’s a lot of complications that can come in. But I do believe that when we anchor in, there’s a couple of things here. When we anchor into ourselves, we don’t need other people as much. It doesn’t mean that we don’t like them, it doesn’t mean that we don’t love them, and it doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be around them and share life, but we don’t need. So what that means is we start to drop expectations from this person needing to be the person that makes me feel validated, makes me feel good, makes me feel seen. We don’t need it as much from other people because we can give it to ourselves. So in my healing journey, as I started to validate myself and I started to connect in and I started to know from my core that what I was saying was valid and what I was saying was important and had validity because I have validity.

Kimberly: 04:57 Then even if people interrupted me or ignored me or glossed over what I was saying, it didn’t bother me as much. And now it bothers me very little, because we realize that when we put so much expectation in other people, we give our power away, it means that person has the power over us to make us upset, thank you, my baby, to make us upset or to change our mood, or to really just throw our minds for a loop versus that stability in that equanimity that’s talked about so much in yoga, that idea that when we are calm and we are centered and we are connected to ourselves, other people can come and do their behaviors and come from wherever they’re coming from in their journey and they don’t affect us so much. And so the joy and the happiness, I’ll say happiness because it’s a more colloquial term, it’s something that we hear more about in everyday life. But really what I’m talking is that deep, inner joy that supersedes happiness, but that feel good feeling inside of us.

Kimberly: 06:03 It can be a lot more stable the more we anchor in with those cornerstones that I was just discussing with Debbie. It can feel not like something that we’re grasping for, not like something that’s fleeting and always just coming and going, but something that we really, really anchor into within ourselves. I will say that a great way to anchor in practically, food wise, something you put into your body, are these hot elixirs, these warm elixirs that we talk about a lot. And we have a new recipe every month in the Circle. There’s tons of recipes over on our site as well, mysolluna.com, and there’s something about making a warm elixir, stirring in different herbs and different ingredients. The one I have right now is heavy, milky, fatty, hemp milk, or coconut milk. Just the fat feels really stabilizing right now, so it will feel stabilizing in your body. And then I like to put in ginger and shatavari, some are Ayurvedic herbs, ashwagandha. I have a little herbal mix. And then sometimes I put some raw honey.

Kimberly: 00:00 So I think that really, when we start to give ourselves that love that we’re seeking and that validation and everything else that we can give to ourselves, our relationships naturally start to improve. We start to come from the place of how can I give you love? How can I help? Because I’m good, I don’t have so many needs. I don’t have so many expectations for other people. And it’s a really powerful place to come at relationships and it will transform your relationships. So it’s true when we talk about beauty from the inside out, how this glow comes from the way we take care of our inner space and our gut health and what we eat, and also how we’re meditating and how we’re processing our feelings. And also beautiful relationships I believe are built from the inside out because when we come from that place of deep acceptance of ourselves, again, we just don’t put so much pressure on our relationships to fulfill us.

Kimberly: 00:55 We don’t need so much from our relationships. So they’re more relaxed. We’re able to enjoy them more. We don’t have to take everything so seriously and what people say so seriously, it’s not so dire. We can just enjoy the relationships and laugh. And if someone says something that’s hurtful or does something that pisses us off, we can say, “Oh, look at that, maybe they have a wound in that area or that’s just where they are right now and whatever.” We just don’t take it so personally, whereas if we’re in a place where we haven’t yet connected to that deep inner light, we haven’t started meditating yet, or we’re not following the four cornerstones, then we end up feeling a lot more that things are personal and that doesn’t feel as good.

Break

Kimberly: 01:40 And it does put a lot more trickiness, if you will, on all of our relationships. So, great question so far, my loves, we are going to take a short break and we will come back to answer two more of your questions on what is happiness and is it achievable?

Question 3: I have a business that’s dependent on social media for its survival. However, I tend to receive comments where people say I’m faking my happiness. How can I separate myself from this negativity so that I don’t lose my desire, passion and happiness?

Kimberly: 02:02 All right, loves. We have two more questions for you guys on this beautiful topic, which I think affects all of us. Day to day, we all want to feel feelings of elation and joy, I think is really what we’re ultimately seeking versus fleeting happiness. But I’m using those terms a bit interchangeably because I think more of us are used to hearing the word happy, but I think what we’re really looking for is a deeper, deeper level of anchored in joy. So let’s keep talking about it. First question comes from Cora in Alabama and she writes, I have a business that’s dependent on social media for its survival. However, I tend to receive comments where people say I’m faking my happiness. How can I separate myself from this negativity so that I don’t lose my desire, passion and happiness. So Cora, thank you so much for your question.

Kimberly: 02:57 I think that when we are in the world of especially social media, we have to really be anchored before we go in there, because it is sort of like the Wild West and people that have different feelings and different triggers and different wounds can immediately write a comment. They can project it out in a very direct way. And so we have to protect ourselves before we go into that sort of space and let ourselves be affected by other people so much. Because again, the truth is that everybody has their own triggers and they have their own wounds. And it has nothing to do with you. If you put out something and someone reacts to it in a way that doesn’t feel good to you, but it’s really triggering something in them. So the first thing I would say is to just make sure that whatever you’re putting out, that you feel good with what you’re putting out.

Kimberly: 03:58 So that’s the first thing. If you feel that you’re coming from a pure place, if you’re spreading goodness in whatever way, inspiring other people, then you can know that as truth within yourself. And if you go through this and you think, “Oh, well, maybe some of this doesn’t feel as good to me. Maybe I’d rather post these pictures,” whatever it is, but just get clear with yourself. And if you are clear, once you’re clear, then you have nothing to worry about with other people. So what happens is if you get some negativity, you can just let it roll off, like water off a duck’s back. You can read it, you can feel it. You don’t want to suppress it. But if something stings a little bit, you can let that sting come through and then you digest it and you let it go.

Kimberly: 04:49 And you think, “Oh, that hurt a little bit. But obviously they were misreading my intention, my intention wasn’t about ego or anything like that. I was really trying to inspire someone or I was trying to put out some goodness here.” And so if you’re coming from that pure place, then you can really just sit back, feel the feelings, let them go and remind yourself that everybody is coming from a different place. So it’s not your job to try to get that person to understand you. Right now they probably won’t and that’s okay. There’s always going to be a percentage of people that may not. And this is something that I have dealt with myself when I started doing national shows and started talking about being plant-based and not drinking diet soda, and all sorts of things. There were people that were triggered by that.

Kimberly: 05:39 And so in the beginning, I just remember being this very happy-go-lucky person starting out, just starting to write books, starting to get national TV, had a big website. And then I started getting some criticism for things that I thought were so basic. And it really threw me for a loop. And I had to really just sit back and digest that and understand that it wasn’t something that I needed to be taking so personally. So that’s what I would say to you Cora love is just to stay anchor to your truth.

Kimberly: 06:14 Don’t let it affect your passion. Let it roll off like water off a duck’s back and realize that the more you stick to your truth and you put things out, anchor to yourself, do your cornerstones, do your meditation practice, breathe into your body, eat good food, surround yourself with positive people in your tribe. And that negativity that’s out there will not affect you as much, sending you a big virtual hug. I know that’s not much fun, but those things will come and go. And again, it’s not your job to try to appease everybody.

Question 4: Is happiness sustainable?

Kimberly: All right, so our last question comes from Luke who lives in the UK and he writes, is happiness sustainable?

Kimberly: 06:57 So again, I think that we’re playing with words a little bit here. I think that happiness that is dependent on how much money we have. What we look like, our parents, our job, anything external, anything outside of our energy space is not sustainable. If it’s only attached to those things, they will come and go. But there’s a far, far, far, far deeper energy that we can all access. It’s deeper than happiness and it’s the joy. And again, I think that sometimes we get these terms confused, but joy is a much, much, much deeper experience. And we can access that joy from our meditation, from our four corners stones, from connecting in. And we can access that joy by being love, by giving more away, by being generous with other people, by focusing on serving other people. And then that gives us a continual source of joy.

Kimberly: 07:58 And when we give more, it is true that we feel more energy. So instead of anchoring our happiness to, “Oh, look at how beautiful my skin is today.” Or, “Look at how great my life is. I have the perfect job now,” or whatever it is, it’s great to enjoy those things. But if we think that’s our only source of happiness, we are bound to have ups and downs and major fluctuations and feel like frustrations as things start to go away because those things will definitely ebb and flow. But the joy that comes from anchoring in, breathing, being so connected to our inner space, we are carrying as Yogananda would say, a portable Eden, the Garden of Eden around us, this beautiful paradise inside of us, so that any situation we will feel a sting if obviously something happens, we get dumped or we get fired, or these things will affect us, but they won’t affect us as deeply.

Kimberly: 08:58 We know that there’s a part of us that can never be taken away. There’s a part of us that doesn’t ever need to be validated. There’s a part of us that doesn’t need other people. We don’t need the expectations. We don’t need them to give us love, to feel the love, to feel the power inside of us. And the more we meditate, the more we live this lifestyle, we feel that. So again, food wise, eat foods that are clean, that open up the body, that don’t congest the body, reduce or cut out animal products, cut out oils that are difficult to digest, stick with coconut oil or cold pressed oils, raw on salads, try to avoid vegetable oils, heavy animal fats. Have warm elixirs that open up the body, open up digestion. Body-wise, get some good sleep. Take your probiotics, your SBO probiotics to support your gut health in a very sustainable, very holistic way, your gut health will affect your hormones and your neuro-transmitters and so much.

Kimberly: 09:59 Make sure you’re walking and exercising and moving your body. Emotional wellbeing wise, anchor into a tribe, into an anchor, into a community, have space to process your feelings, have some tools and journal. And again, these are all things that we talk about in our circle, which is over on the app. And then finally, as I’ve been speaking about all along, it’s really important to prioritize your meditation practice and to anchor into it and to make it part of your daily life, morning and evening. Even if it’s a couple of minutes, each time to start, but the more you do it, the more you start to find and access this inner world, which has beneath the surface. So it’s beneath this turbulent world where everything’s changing, including how you work, including how you look and work and how much money you make and what other people are doing.

Kimberly: 10:46 There’s this inner space underneath that you can access. And that Luke, my friend, is sustainable when you start to access that and it starts to grow. So at first you may feel like your meditation are really restless and maybe even useless, but then you find that you, as you go on, they start to go deeper and deeper and they become more sustainable. And it really is a game changer when you start to access that. So I love all of these questions my love, thank you so much for participating. If you guys have other questions, make sure that you ask them over at [mycylinder.com 00:11:19], where we look at all your questions and put them into topics. And a lot of us have the same question. So hopefully your question will get answered or other questions that will support you in your path, which of course is the goal of our show.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly: 11:34 Before we sign off today, I want to leave you with a quote of the week, which is something that, two words, very simple I wrote, but I actually said it in the show today. But I want to remind you of this concept, which is be love. So you want to be love. You want to embody it. It’s a very powerful essence. It’s a very powerful energy that radiates out. When we try to get it from other people and relationships, we try to get it from validation from the outside world. We start to get desperate and starts to change our behaviors. We start to get thrown off course. We’re not as authentically ourselves versus being love. We can choose to be it, it’s an action, we can give it to people. We can emanate it, we can radiate it. We can be loving with ourselves.

Kimberly: 12:16 We can even bring love to every situation, we can bring love to the way that we make our food, the way that we interact with other people, be love instead of trying to get love. And that will be the game changer of your life. It’s all inside of you, all this beautiful power in your heart where your true beauty resides as well. I thank you so much for being part of our community and I send you so much love. We will be back here Monday for our next Monday interview podcast. So then take care and lots and lots of love.

How to Tap Into the Power of Your Pelvic Bowl with Tami Lynn Kent [Episode #541]

How to Tap Into the Power of Your Pelvic Bowl with Tami Lynn Kent [Episode #541]

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This week’s topic is: How to Tap Into the Power of Your Pelvic Bowl with Tami Lynn Kent

I am so excited to have my very special guest, Tami Lynn Kent, who is the author of Wild Feminine, Wild Creative & Mothering from Your Center and the Founder of Holistic Pelvic Care & training program. You’re going to learn about the pelvic bowl, about this part of our body and our energetic center and how it affects your ability to be creative and empowered in your life.

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  • Tami shares some backstories on raising three boys and the male energy when her healing work is female dominant…
  • The differences in raising girls versus boys…
  • What the feminine is and how to be in touch with it…
  • Tami and I discuss how we define beauty…
  • How to reconcile with the heart opening when it comes to our creative power…
  • What the pelvic bowl is and how to take care of it…
  • Learn to heal some of this ‘wanting to control’ everything…

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Tami Lynn Kent is the founder of Holistic Pelvic Care for women and author of Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body. Tami is passionate about empowering women in health & teaching them how to cultivate their creative energy in all stages of life through her practitioner training programs and personal sessions. She is also a mother to three beautiful sons.

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Kimberly : 00:01 Hi Beauties. Welcome back to our Monday interview podcast. I am very excited for this podcast today. Our guest is someone who I tracked down after I read her book and became very interested in her work. Her name is Tami Lynn Kent, and she is the author of Wild Feminine. She’s the founder of holistic pelvic care and training programs around her whole philosophy.

Kimberly : 00:26 So today, you’re going to learn about the pelvic bowl, about this part of our body and our energetic center and how it affects your ability to be creative and empowered in your life. Her work is fascinating, and I cannot wait to get into this interview with you today and to share it.

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Kimberly : 01:14 All right, Everyday Lunchtime Listen, well, thank you so much for your review. I am so grateful for you and for being part of our community. I send you a huge virtual hug and thank you again so much. And Beauties, for your chance to also be shouted out as our Fan of the Week, for me to read your beautiful words, please leave us a review on iTunes, which is free and easy and just a wonderful way to support the show.

Kimberly : 01:39 While you’re over there, please be sure to subscribe to the show and that way you never miss out on any of these amazing interviews, our solo cast shows or our Thursday Q&A community shows. All right. All of that being said, let’s get into our interview today with the incredible, fascinating Tami Lynn Kent.

Interview with Tami Lynn Kent

Kimberly: 00:00:35 Yes. So, thank you so much, Tami, for coming on. I am-

Tami Kent: 00:00:39 For sure.

Kimberly: 00:00:39 … fascinated with your work. I have been very excited for this interview. I read your entire book I think over a weekend, which is a lot for me because-

Tami Kent: 00:00:52 You just dove in. Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:00:55 I dove in. I’m also a boy mom.

Tami Kent: 00:00:57 Oh, you are.

Kimberly: 00:00:59 Our baby is about six months, and then we have a four year old boy too.

Tami Kent: 00:01:07 I’m just seeing what it looks like. So you know that, and yeah, you’re in the early… So four year old is like the wild thing face. They’re like…

Kimberly: 00:01:15 Wild and with the pandemic there is no preschool for him now.

Tami Kent: 00:01:20 Oh my goodness.

Kimberly: 00:01:21 It was a lot during the pregnancy, of course, and the aftermath. But I also value this time. I feel like it’s magical that I get to be with him so much. But it’s been a lot. And your book came to me at a time where there was just so much going on for me. And I’m writing my sixth book right now, in the process, had the baby, running the business, doing the podcast, and then this book came in and there was all these messages about the left, which we’ll get into, and the yin and the beingness.

Tami shares some backstories on raising three boys and the male energy when her healing work is female dominant

Tami Kent: 00:01:54 Yeah. For sure. There’s so much. Yeah. Oh, God. And I always feel, it’s funny, people will say to me like, “Too bad you didn’t have a girl.” because I’ve got three boys, and really, this pertains so much to males too and it’s like the women are actually more whole in a lot of ways because they have permission to look at all these different things. And it’s amazing how the feminine gets shut down in males really early on.

Tami Kent: 00:02:18 You’ve probably seen it a little bit, but I feel like I started to see it when my oldest went to school, and not as much in preschool, but in kindergarten and then beyond it was like, oh, the world is going to shut you down in your feminine and not even realize, especially, I mean, this is a whole nother thing, but it’s like from a feminist perspective. So it’s like strong girls and you think there’s a lot of good messages, but then there’s this shutting down that’s happening, yet we want males to be strong but then we’re shutting down the part of them that is sensitive. There’s so many layers to that.

Kimberly: 00:02:49 Tami, how old are your boys now?

Tami Kent: 00:02:52 Well, I have a 20 year old. And I was just going to ask you, because he’s ba… Yeah. He is back from college, living. We have an ADU thankfully. We built this little house because of the pandemic, so he’s working. He’s online and he’s also doing music, which is really awesome. So there’s a whole bunch of stuff happening there. But he’s lifting weights right below me. I don’t think you can hear it.

Kimberly: 00:03:13 [inaudible 00:03:13] but I’ll let you know if he does. It’s so funny.

Tami Kent: 00:03:17 He’s like…

Kimberly: 00:03:18 My husband is a weight lifter too.

Tami Kent: 00:03:18 Speaking of male energy. Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:03:21 And speaking of the male energy, Tami, it’s so funny when you were saying that because recently I was talking to my husband about feeling to his body. And that’s a very foreign concept to him. I think comparing the spectrum of a lot of males he’s more in touch with his feelings, but he started to feel this deep uneasiness in his core, in his stomach, and he just said, “I didn’t even know that was there. I didn’t know there was so much in my body.”

Tami Kent: 00:03:48 Oh, my God. Yeah, I mean… I’m just trying to make the lighting better in this room. It’s a little dark. But there’s so much, and I didn’t realize how much. So I have a 20 year old, a 17 year old, and a 13 year old. So I’m in definitely the older mom vibe, which is another… It just keeps going is all I can say. The things I’ve witnessed, it’s just a trip.

Tami Kent: 00:04:11 I think the early part is them having a container with someone who’s in tune with their body, and a lot of males don’t have that. And so I didn’t realize how much my boys would need to be held and want to be touched, and that continued all the way up until about when testosterone hit and then they were kind of like… distance. And they still snuggle with dogs and I think it transposes into relationships and stuff, but they needed a lot of touch and so much of it is unconscious, those early couple years from zero to four.

Tami Kent: 00:04:42 When I work with women’s bodies I’m often doing healing in that realm, but then because I… I mostly work with women, but I can work with men’s energy, I just don’t really have time, but I have males so I get to witness how sensitive they are but how less verbal. They can be verbal but it’s like… So I guess part of the secret of healing males is having mothers that give them permission to be touched and held in their body. So that’s where their safety comes from first.

Tami Kent: 00:05:10 And I nursed and touched and held and we did a lot of co-sleeping, and not that you need to co-sleep or anything, but it was just a lot of body contact and a body permission. And so when that gets shut down, which you get shut down for a lot of men because the mother isn’t comfortable in her own body and then pushes them off too early, they don’t have a container. And I think they find it sometimes through a partner later, but it never quite feels grounded and safe.

Tami Kent: 00:05:37 And one thing I feel really good about is my boys all have a really good connection to that center point. And I can say since I was there that I know how much was given for that, but it’s… this is so many threads, but when my oldest was one years old I caretaked another daughter, I mean, another girl with a friend of mine who we were like trading, so I got to be with a little girl, and it was interesting because we were together every week for about two years, this little one, and I got to hold her and touch her. And I was a lot more comfortable with touch. I guess later when I saw her when she was older we chatted and she didn’t have any really memory of being in our home, it’s like, because it was from a certain age. And so much of our-

Kimberly: 00:06:45 Wow.

Tami Kent: 00:06:45 … early time is founded on that contact yet we don’t have conscious memory of it.

Kimberly: 00:06:51 So, Tami, I want to say that, when you were saying there’s so much that resonated with me, I nursed my first son to almost four until I was so pregnant with this one that my doctor was like, “Oh, it’s probably a good idea to stop now.” And then we just moved Moses out of co-sleeping in our bed at six months. We were just keeping each other up so much. But this idea of touch has been very central to my mothering. And I wasn’t sure if it was because we parent sometimes to heal ourselves, and I didn’t receive a lot of touch as a child.

The differences in raising girls versus boys

Kimberly: 00:07:26 So I guess my question for you, we’re talking a lot about giving touch to your boys, do you think that is the same for girls, because you didn’t have a daughter? But I was also really curious because in Wild Feminine you talked about there was a point in your life where you didn’t want to have a girl, you actually loved having boys, so can you talk a little bit about that too and then also raising girls.

Tami Kent: 00:07:49 Yeah, sure. I would say I think I was afraid of my own wounding and my own wounding around the feminine, and boys somehow seem safer. This is all unconscious. But that’s why I think I end up on this journey with the feminine really delving and I’m really exploring it and then realizing it pertained to the males just as much, just as much to the boys as to the girls, it just has a little different shape to it. So I think females often get it co-opted so we think… Like I thought lipstick and high heels, that was feminine, it can be, but it’s when it comes from the inside.

Tami Kent: 00:08:22 So the thing I started to differentiate as I worked with women’s bodies, as I came into contact with my own body, as I had sons, was that feminine is a way of receiving energy. So feminine is a way of downloading energy, and it’s where all creativity comes from I would say. So it is something that artists and people who create are in touch with, and there is an element of color and brightness to it.

Tami Kent: 00:08:48 Before I was in touch with the feminine personally I wore more black and tan. Those were my go-to colors. And I actually love black. I love black as a color in clothing, but I just wasn’t even aware of color. And so as I started delving into the feminine then I would go through phases of color, like blue, like this bright turquoise or red and just everything started… I was like this bag is not bright enough for me. And so I started to understand from the inside what an artist might feel like or someone who has kept the feeling of artist alive. They’re just like, everything is a lot of color.

Tami Kent: 00:09:26 And when I saw this in my children, so like little girls sometimes will be sparkly, princess, all that kind of… So mothers do shape this. So there’s a level of responsibility or curiosity or whatever you want to call it. I always think we should be really loving with ourselves and not be judgmental, because mothers get enough of this, but there is a place where we can protect it and bring it forward, and it’s in that early time.

Tami Kent: 00:09:51 So mothers have a different, depending on their own relationship, and you’re right, your wounding impacts a lot of things, so some mothers are like, they love that sparkly energy and they celebrate it, others are like, oh my god, you shouldn’t be a princess, you should be a knight or… So there’s all kinds of ways we reject or work with these things. And I think the more we can be free in it the better, but we have to do our own healing.

Tami Kent: 00:10:14 And so with my boys I think all this was unconscious for me that I just hadn’t really delved into it. So once I started to delve into it and play with it and then realize that boys had it, it was a permission level for them too of their own beauty. And so all of my boys love their own style, their own expression, and there was a lot of permission to explore that. And still I feel like I have to hold it open, because at first they were very free in it, whether they’d put on costumes or they’d like [inaudible 00:10:45].

What the feminine is and how to be in touch with it

Kimberly: 00:10:46 Tami, I got to tell you, my son hasn’t worn clothes, I think, in 14 months or 15 months. He has a million costumes. And I’m really surprised how many people say to me, “Oh, wow, you really let him wear costumes all the time.” It doesn’t feel weird to me. That’s what he wants to wear. Who cares? He’s four, just let him wear what he wants.

Tami Kent: 00:11:07 That’s a beautiful expression, keep that open as long as possible. The world will shut it down, so it’s like the more you can keep it open… And it starts in the home where you have permission.

Tami Kent: 00:11:16 And I tell a story in Wild Feminine about pink boots, my oldest son picking out pink boots and that story. But I thought it was so awesome but the store person was pretending they were out of his size, but I was like who cares, of course, and I thought we were all good and then I came home and my husband was like, “Why did you let him pick out pink boots?” And I just felt so shut down, but then I realized he was trying to protect him because he had the male experience of walking in the world and being shut down.

Tami Kent: 00:11:42 So, again, there’s so many layers of growth around this, but for me it started out, I’m going to just keep this open for my son, and then it was through my husband’s eyes, oh, I see, right, they’re going to run into all these layers. And he was trying to prepare him so he wouldn’t get hurt. And then we had lots of dialogues around, well, how do we prepare him to actually encounter it and keep part of himself intact and not just shut it down for safety, and oh, so many layers. But the conversation just keeps going.

Tami Kent: 00:12:11 And there is a lot around touch. And what I noticed, so I just got to parent one little girl for a little while for a couple years, she was in my heart, this little one, but what I’ve noticed-

Kimberly: 00:12:20 How old was she at the time?

Tami Kent: 00:12:22 What’s that?

Kimberly: 00:12:23 How old was she, Tami, when you are talking?

Tami Kent: 00:12:24 She was six months older than Nick. So Nick was six months when we started, she was a year and we had this relationship for about two years. Still she’s near and dear to my heart, beautiful young woman now, but amazing how much they don’t really recall from that period when we had a chance to sit, because they went separate ways because they were in different schools and you know how life goes. And so we got together later when she was about to go to college and they just had almost no memory and I had held them and touched them, everything.

Kimberly: 00:12:52 But their memory is deeper.

Tami Kent: 00:12:55 Totally. Okay. There is a memory because she reached out to connect, but there isn’t a conscious memory. And so it’s another reason why I feel so protective of that time and space, even around diapering and things like that, I wanted it to be always loving and positive language so that they wouldn’t feel shamed. And there’s so many layers to this. And what you were saying earlier about the co-sleeping, I always think, yes, we might repair our wounding through touch with our children but when it’s child-led, when the child is craving, I think really we’re wired for touching connection.

Tami Kent: 00:13:28 And I remember listening to this talk from this man who, he’s an amazing photographer who did some of the last photos of tribes around the world that were maybe more isolated and not as much contact, and they’re these beautiful pictures where he got permission to come in and photograph, but I listened to him talking one time and he said that someone was asking him, “How were you changed by this experience?”

Tami Kent: 00:13:50 And he said, “Well, one of the things was contact and bed sharing, and when I came into a tribe everyone slept together and they expected to sleep with us.” And so he had to shed his Western concept around that and then came to love it. And they came to, as a family, he had two daughters that they grew up through this process, and they came to really have a family bed. And that was the experience.

Tami Kent: 00:14:12 And so I think in a way we’ve shut down what is normal and so this is a repair, but it is hard to find the way. It’s like, what is normal if you don’t know what it is? So there can be a way we repair through wounding, but at the same time children will lead searching for touch. Touch and contact for them is like food.

Kimberly: 00:14:30 It’s a nourishment.

Tami Kent: 00:14:31 It’s nourishment. And I think we’re in a touch deficient culture in the Western world and so it’s about shifting that lens. And what I found was my kids soaked up as much as I could give pretty much. And so the difference might be though for a mother, I want to make sure mothers always feel permission, if you’re not getting sleep, it’s not like what you should do… You should sleep with your child, you should wear your child, it’s also honoring your own boundaries and your own needs. So, some people just don’t sleep well with their child.

Kimberly: 00:15:03 Yeah, I mean, it got to-

Tami Kent: 00:15:04 So there’s that.

Kimberly: 00:15:05 … the point where for the first six months it was fine and then he just did very much feel childlike. He just felt more fussy, and then, why don’t we put him in his own crib? He just rolled over. That was the first day. It was like, thanks, mom, for my space. So I think every child is different.

Kimberly: 00:15:21 And one thing, Tami, you were talking about struck me, when you said, “What is really normal?” So I look at my son Emerson, my older, that I was telling you about that wears costumes all the time, but he wears costumes or he prefers to be completely naked.

Tami Kent: 00:15:35 Naked.

Kimberly: 00:15:35 I just think, oh my gosh, where was that point where we started to have body awareness, because he doesn’t have… He just comes home, if we’re out somewhere wearing a costume, he just peels everything off, he peels his underwear off and he just loves to… We live here in the mountains. I feel protective of that. At some point he’s going to school and it is weird, so that kind of… I don’t know, I feel a little sadness about knowing that innocence is going to end at some point.

Tami Kent: 00:16:04 Yes. Yeah. I think I had to make peace with the way the world is whereas I think some of those stories and what I share is my early awareness, was, oh, I’m going to keep this open, but I’m only one imprint in many.

Tami Kent: 00:16:16 So the beautiful thing about being a mother that’s aware of the power of the feminine, so meaning that space where all children feel their beauty, feel their connection to the mystery, feel alive, that to me is what the feminine is. It can be sparkly or lipstick or color for someone, but it’s not when the outer world puts it in, it’s when you feel it from the inside. So, the more you can keep that open for the early years as a child the better, because then they have a secure foundation in it.

Tami Kent: 00:16:44 And if you don’t even know what I’m talking about, that’s why I wrote Wild feminine, to help all people pick that back up again, like what is my relationship with the feminine? And my hope is that we come more into relationship, because when you’re in touch with the feminine you have less need to take that beauty from someone else, you really feel your own.

Tami Kent: 00:17:05 It is in everyone. It’s everyone’s birthright to feel that aliveness. So keep it as much as you can, and then, yes, the world will have its impact. And it has just offered a lot of rich dialogue, and I’ve had to make peace with it and also trust my children’s strength that they will navigate it in their own ways.

Tami Kent: 00:17:23 And part of having sons is I don’t understand the full experience of being a male in this culture, so I share and I try to keep that door cracking open and that self love and that connection to beauty and creativity and all that. And then when they run into barriers around that or judgment we dialogue, but sometimes they have their own take on it or their own way of working it out. And so part of the growth is really trusting that they can do that too, that they have the capacity to work it out in ways for themselves.

Tami and I discuss how we define beauty

Kimberly: 00:17:52 So, Tami, you’ve used the word beauty a few times, which is something that we explore here a lot in the community, something I’ve explored a lot in my journey of thinking. The world talks about beauty out here and hair products and how skinny we are and all this stuff, but now for me when you think about Yogananda and Rumi and the spiritual meaning of beauty, to me beauty is about connecting in with our essence, with our unique expression of the divine inside of us. It’s such a different way of looking at beauty than most of us have been raised. How do you define beauty, Tami?

Tami Kent: 00:18:28 Yeah. I mean, I think of beauty as the mystery and the life force that moves through every person. So it really is-

Kimberly: 00:18:34 It’s really inside.

Tami Kent: 00:18:34 It’s spirit. It’s like it’s the breath. And so much of what I do even… so here I am a pelvic floor physical therapist working in the bowl, often working on issues even [crosstalk 00:18:44]-

Kimberly: 00:18:44 Which I want to talk about next, we haven’t even gotten to.

Tami Kent: 00:18:46 I know. Well, there’s so much there. But that’s what I work on, right? But I feel like what I really do is give people permission to feel and receive their beauty. So it’s such a needed repair because it has gotten into this external way. And this is even part of the repair of the feminine, is a lot of people aren’t in touch with their own essence and so we become marketed to and there’s all these things. And…

Kimberly: 00:19:12 That’s right.

Tami Kent: 00:19:13 … not that you can’t enjoy some products and things, but it’s that the more you realize it’s your birthright, it is the divine force that moves through you. It’s the breath of life, and it’s meant to move through you and move you into your work in the world and your connections with others. And so it’s really about permission and access to that I would say.

Kimberly: 00:19:33 Beautiful. So, Tami, I was reading your work and there’s so… Again, it was just lighting up so much in me because I have a yoga background, I’m a yoga practitioner and teacher and it’s such a big part of my life. And I feel that so much of my meditations is focusing on my third eye, opening the crown, opening up the heart, the anahata chakra, and then I think, oh, the “lower chakras”-

Tami Kent: 00:20:01 Oh my God.

How to reconcile with the heart opening when it comes to our creative power

Kimberly: 00:20:01 … the muladhara, svadhisthana, yeah, that’s there, but I never valued it as much. So I guess my first question to you before we get really granular with the pelvic bowl is the muladhara is the root, svadhisthana is the sacral. It seems the pelvic bowl works within those two areas. And I guess my first question when we talk… You talk about so much of our creative power and our radiance coming from here, how do you reconcile those centers with the heart opening, the third eye opening that’s such a big part of yoga and other practices?

Tami Kent: 00:20:35 Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I think the more I’ve worked on the body the more I look at it from an oriental medicine perspective of the chief flow through the body. So, of course, I am a Western trained physical therapist and there’s a specialty of that called women’s health physical therapy, which people may or may not know about, I mean, I didn’t even know about it till the last little bit of my graduate training.

Tami Kent: 00:20:56 And I’m super excited because I love midwifery and all things that are female, but there’s also a lot of baggage around particularly our pelvic bowl which I explore in a lot of different ways. But what I found was also there was this power and this beauty in the space and it was more about how do we access it, how do we clear this off. And so I started looking at the ch’i or the life force that moves through the body.

Tami Kent: 00:21:20 And one of the ways that I think maybe I can explain it, might be helpful, is there’s three deep reservoirs in the body, there’s the head, the heart, and the bowl, and they sync up. So it’s like the third eye, the heart-

Kimberly: 00:21:33 The heart, the bowl. Okay.

Tami Kent: 00:21:33 … and the bowl and the womb. So there’s a really powerful ch’i connection between the heart and the womb. And in oriental medicine it’s said that women have two hearts, the heart in the chest and the heart in the pelvis. And if you think about it, those organs are very similar, the womb and the heart, they have even a similar shape. And where does our heartbeat start? It starts in the womb, right? So our heart is deeply connected to the womb, and so sinking those up. And that’s another-

Kimberly: 00:22:01 And so, Tami-

Tami Kent: 00:22:01 Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:22:03 … does the head include the throat, the throat chakra?

Tami Kent: 00:22:05 I mean, I think of it as a connecting point. So I really think of it like a reservoir and then a river, and then a reservoir, and then a river, and then a reservoir. That’s how I tend to think of it. And so-

Kimberly: 00:22:15 So the river would run through the solar plexus, the [crosstalk 00:22:18].

Tami Kent: 00:22:19 Exactly. And you can think of the different chakras for sure, but the deep reservoir is really… The third is so powerful in how we vision and it helps if you line these three up.

Tami Kent: 00:22:31 So women were the visionaries for the tribes, and so we are the ones who really see on different levels, which is why, I think you were asking me a little bit about daughters and sons, there’s many genders, so I won’t even get into that layer, but just if you have a daughter or if you have a son, daughters do have this capacity, and I think a lot of transgender folks do too, this ability to be centered in their… to take the vision and the love and the creativity. And it’s why communities often orient around a female, because we have this ability.

Tami Kent: 00:23:04 And so when you sync up your head, so your inner vision, with what you love, with then the root, what you’re creating, that’s how we move forward into a time where we’re really taking care of the community in ways that honor the feminine for everyone.

Kimberly: 00:23:22 Wow.

Tami Kent: 00:23:23 And I do think you’re right, people have been either too spirit or too body and they’re not… If you’re totally in your body you can’t even feel spirit. What’s the mystery? I mean, it’s hard to access. And then other people are so in the mystery and the spirit but they really can’t get down to the body, and we’re supposed to run through. Spirit comes down, body comes up, and they meet and mix in us.

Kimberly: 00:23:50 It took me a while to get that, Tami, because, like I said, I was always up here and I felt very comfortable in meditation being up here until I started realizing we’re meant to be having an embodied experience that is not really in my body. So then when I started to connect, and there’s a lot of work I’m still doing around here…

Tami Kent: 00:24:10 Yeah, absolutely. Of course. Yeah.

What the pelvic bowl is and how to take care of it

Kimberly: 00:24:12 So maybe could you explain a little bit, Tami, about… People listening are probably like, what is the pelvic bowl and-

Tami Kent: 00:24:18 I know.

Kimberly: 00:24:18 … integrated pelvic care? Can you explain a little bit, because it does span that root and that sacral. Tell us about it please.

Tami Kent: 00:24:27 Yeah. [inaudible 00:24:28] my model here, I guess I would just say maybe look up the anatomy a little bit. There’s a couple things, one is, so when I first came into women’s health physical therapy I was working on symptoms. So women can have symptoms with the pelvis. So they can have urine leakage or they can have pelvic heaviness or they can have postpartum issues or they can have-

Kimberly: 00:24:47 Prolapsed uterus.

Tami Kent: 00:24:47 … pain. Yeah, prolapse pain. There can be symptoms that drive the care, right? And so then I started working on women’s bodies, and what I really found was a deep lack of care and that the symptoms had maybe gone on subtly in a long time and now they were to the level that they needed care. The deeper issue is the lack of proper care for our bodies as women on so many levels that may be too much to get into, but really we need to have better care with our bodies.

Tami Kent: 00:25:20 The other thing is to say, I think the patriarchy, which is not male or female, it’s a system that doesn’t include respect and honoring of the feminine, has subtly cut off the power by shaming and traumatizing this space. So we don’t even want to go there, right? We don’t want to go down in the root. And so on a subtle level it might be, uh, my period, or, uh, that part of the body, or the over-sexualization or the trauma, but it creates a disconnect.

Tami Kent: 00:25:50 And so I got to sit in the pelvic bowl with woman after woman after woman after woman who really wasn’t present because of many factors. And so there was this deep disconnect and also a complete lack of awareness of how to take care of that space.

Tami Kent: 00:26:04 Okay. So when I was working that’s what led me, even though I was in a repair mode, a fixer mode, into a deeper question of, I could feel the power in the space and my question was, why aren’t we here, why aren’t we here? Well, that’s a very long, probably ancestral, answer. So the antidote is to come down to the bowl, get to know it, and start taking care of it. And so one piece is just looking up the anatomy and get to know the muscles a little bit. And I teach women the anatomy of the pelvic space, and oftentimes it’s the first time they’ve really thought about it.

The concept of over-sexualization in peoples work

Kimberly: 00:26:40 But, Tami, I want to get into that because I did try your vaginal massage. Before we get in you said something very interesting, which was, you hit on this concept of over-sexualization which we see rampant in society today. So there’s tremendous power here but can you explain a little bit. There’s some women that are like, “I’m a feminist, so I’m allowed to be naked and to be overly sexual.” And then there’s some people that may not realize that they’re leading with that all the time that their work is so tied up in their sexuality. So, [crosstalk 00:27:15].

Tami Kent: 00:27:16 Yeah, I mean, the key piece in all that is embodiment. And many times I’ve worked with women who felt or thought they were empowered but actually they were subtly abusing themselves. And they were seeking valuation through a trade, like I’ll give you this, can I be valued? So an embodied place would be I am inherently valuable, I am inherently already have everything I need and therefore I’m moved creatively to share myself, and that’s a little different. It just has a different quality.

Tami Kent: 00:27:49 And so that’s where I think it is tricky, because people might feel like they’re empowered, but they’re actually lacking. And some of that you have to just read energetically, I mean, I would have to work with each person so we can’t generalize too much, but every person might look within themselves, am I seeking value for something I already have, am I trying to trade…

Kimberly: 00:28:11 Right. And they’re not in touch with the fact that they already have that. So it’s like slowly, slowly let me show more, let’s say, on social media, let me take off more clothes, trading it for likes, attention, money, whatever.

Tami Kent: 00:28:26 And the problem is-

Kimberly: 00:28:26 It’s such a big thing in our society, Tami. I worry about younger generations of girls that are getting on social media so young.

Tami Kent: 00:28:31 Right. Well, and they’re not embodied so they’re not even really protected. The other thing is, so if you’re really embodied in your feminine, you have your own inner feminine, your own inner masculine, your own inner masculine will protect that feminine. And so often, in that case, you’re not embodied so you’re not even in touch with how you really feel in your feminine. The feminine tends to be more private, at least part of the… in a cyclical way, and needs internal checking.

Tami Kent: 00:29:00 And it’s very much a contact with self first, so if you’re too external… And there’s different personalities and ways of working, but a lot of times people are moving out of wounding rather than true form. And when you’re moving out of wounding it means you’re seeking something that you feel like you’re missing on a deep level, and it can be that desire for… If you didn’t get a lot of contact you seek it in this way. I hold this with a lot of love because I’ve sat with more than 10,000 women, so I’ve-

Kimberly: 00:29:29 Oh my God.

Tami Kent: 00:29:30 … heard everything you can imagine. And so many women feel, I mean, are moving from their wounding patterns rather than their true authentic nature. So it’s about repairing that so that you get to download what you’re seeking out here, you get to download, and then it’s a different movement. Yeah. It’s a different movement, has a different quality to it.

Kimberly: 00:29:52 It’s true. It’s an energy that you can send sometimes, it’s hard to put into words, but there’s something that feels different when someone’s coming from, as you said, an embodied place of sharing versus almost like a desperate seeking. It’s different.

Tami Kent: 00:30:09 Right. And I think for some people sexuality is their journey and their path. They’re working these things out in different ways. So it’s not necessarily a negative thing, it’s just… Ideally people can get more in touch with their own needs and their own feminine container so that they are not actually adding to their wounding, because sometimes that is happening too.

Tami Kent: 00:30:31 And so, I mean, I’ve worked with women that work as strippers, and there’s a range, you can’t ever say all these people are like this. I’ve worked with a range of women too, women who feel pretty embodied in that experience to women who are really working out of trauma, past with trauma and kinds of things. And, in general, when you are in that realm you’re going to get a lot of projection on you too that isn’t necessarily healthy, and so whether or not you’re protecting yourself properly. There’s just so many… We could go down a rabbit hole with that.

If we all have wounds from our childhood

Kimberly: 00:31:06 Working with 10,000 people, would you say it’s a true statement that everybody has some sort of wound from their childhood?

Tami Kent: 00:31:13 For sure. Yes. Also being in a female body there’s just history of wounding to the female body. There’s a deep dishonoring of the female body. Really. Okay. So, there’s so many things to this, but women’s bodies are sacred, we are the downloaders, we are the ones that download life and we also download the energy. And so when I’ve talked to more native people who are living a little bit more intact there’s a few places where I found that there’s a whole belief of literally the women are downloading the truth.

Tami Kent: 00:31:47 So, for example, I talked about this in my TED talks, I thought it was important to have this perspective, but Don Eligio is a healer that was a Belizian shaman, and he worked with a teacher of mine, and it’s a long story, but he told her something that I asked if I could pass on in my books, and that was that his people used to sit around the fire in the morning and listen to the dreams of the menstruating women for guidance.

Kimberly: 00:32:15 [crosstalk 00:32:15] that in the book a little bit, just the seer.

Tami Kent: 00:32:17 Yeah. I put it in the book and I put it in the TED talk because it blew my Western mind. It was like, first of all, I have to come through my own layers of… There’s a lot of disconnect and shame, and you go try to get a menstrual product and it’s all about perfume because of the smell, and there’s just lots of subtle layers that separate us from the power.

Tami Kent: 00:32:34 So hearing that story of the leadership of the village listening to the dreams of menstruating women, it’s like imagine that, imagine our leadership in this country listening, saying, “Hi, you have knowledge coming through you.” That just blew my mind in so many ways, because the patriarchal system says the knowledge is outside of us, it’s not in us. And there are subtle parts to that and there are traumatic parts to that. But reclaiming your own download capacity and understanding the womb is a portal is a major shift. And when you do that you just move from a whole different place.

Tami Kent: 00:33:12 So a lot of my work, I rarely see women in contact with that, very rarely. It’s rare that someone comes in with that, even when we’ve done lots of spiritual work and energy work, because, like you were saying, a lot of it’s up here but not down here, or they’ve done tantra work and it’s super sexual but it’s not necessarily connected to spirit. And so it’s just so rare. So a lot of what I do is help women sort through that baggage that is ancestral, it is cultural, it is subtle messages, it is outright trauma, but it’s all dissociating us from this powerful place.

Tami Kent: 00:33:52 So the hope and the beauty is that I’ve seen countless women reconnect to that place and have it change the orientation of their lives. And I believe we’re in a time where this is going to become more the norm.

Kimberly: 00:34:04 I feel like, Tami, that a lot of shame that women hold already we come into this life, like you said, maybe it’s a precursor from the past from ancestral or just limiting beliefs is held in the pelvic bowl in the woman’s body.

Tami Kent: 00:34:18 Absolutely. I mean, I think a lot of it’s directed there and that’s why in some ways women are equal perpetrators, because they get it onto… whenever you have something on your body then you sometimes turn into that. We talk about men being perpetrators, but actually, sometimes men are more allies, because they want to honor the female body, they haven’t been in the bodily experience of that shame.

Tami Kent: 00:34:44 And so, yeah, there’s a way that it gets encoded on you and it takes even more strength to turn it around and shift it and move it. But I think that is one reason too that in the TED talk I did, The Vagina Whisperer: Moving from Shame to Honor in the Female Body, I talked about talking to my sons about menstruation. And I share a family story about that, how I did it and kept it light.

Tami Kent: 00:35:11 I would just say watch it because it’s too much to probably talk about, but taking the shame off and shifting to honoring of the body is in so many micro levels throughout so many things. It’s teaching young women how to honor their cycles and what that means and how… They might retreat, they might not want to be out on the soccer field when they’re a young female, or they can, but it’s their choice. So they really understand that. And then it’s talking to the young males about the power of the female body.

Tami Kent: 00:35:40 And so I share in the TED talk how we talk about talking to our girls, but what about talking to our boys about this power? And even I talk to them about being gentle and thoughtful because it’s not easy to bleed. And in that way I was subtly reorienting them back to understanding this is a place of knowledge. So it’s women re-embodying that and clearing that off and it’s also teaching males to shift their perspective so that everybody can come to a place of honoring the female body because if we do that that will be a major shift back to-

Kimberly: 00:36:13 Major.

Tami Kent: 00:36:14 … honoring the feminine. Yeah.

What integrative pelvic care means and how to get started

Kimberly: 00:36:15 So let’s go back to pelvic care for a moment, Tami, because there’s so much now, the shame, this energy we hold. And I’d love for you to talk about more detail about what integrative pelvic care means to you. One thing I did try was the vaginal massage and the exercises, and I felt it a little bit hard for me to understand what a tight muscle was in there and what was loose. So I was in there exploring, and I said, “I don’t know if I feel tight. I don’t know if this is normal.” What do you say to people that don’t get the chance to get in to see a practitioner such as yourself?

Tami Kent: 00:36:53 Right. I know. I think it’s bound to be awkward, I would just say that. Start with the awkward of it. You don’t know what you’re doing really. And-

Kimberly: 00:37:01 Except for putting in a tampon I’ve never really been in there.

Tami Kent: 00:37:06 I know. Okay, and so part of repairing that connection with the body is understanding the anatomy and then taking care of the space. And one of the big ways of taking care of the space is being more connected and aware, and body work can help that, so using your own touch and doing a non sexual massage so you really work more on the muscles. So, the clitoris is more towards the top of the pelvic space but if you go deeper into the vaginal opening there’s muscles, and they sit like this, like if you took your two hands like this, and they’re at the base of the pelvic bowl.

Kimberly: 00:37:38 The bowl.

Tami Kent: 00:37:38 There’s two hemispheres, yeah, they’re thin muscles and they go on each side, and they remind me a lot of the top of the shoulder blade. You can get knots in the middle just like you get knots here in the middle of these muscles. And so starting to just feel and touch and be in contact in a non sexual way, that’s the beginning. And it can bring up feelings, it can bring up the awkwardness, it can also bring up shame, but just continuing to work with it.

Tami Kent: 00:38:02 Just like you would rub your shoulders, you could rub your root. And if people feel even shame around that that can be from early shaming where, let’s say, maybe you were nude and someone told you, “What are you doing?”, like that, or children will often touch their root because it’s grounding. You’ll see them touch themselves and well meaning adults will go, “Don’t do that.” And it’s okay to lovingly give children guidance so they aren’t out in the world thinking they can do whatever whenever, but it’s the tone and the honoring that comes with it.

Tami Kent: 00:38:32 And so you have to think back through when you’re even touching yourself, you’re probably working through some unconscious layers, and it is awkward. And I describe how to do the self massage in the book but because I answered a lot of questions in that chapter sometimes people then make it too mental. So it’s really about connection. It’s really about breath.

Kimberly: 00:38:51 So how long is this supposed to be? When you’re massaging your shoulder sometimes you take an hour to work out those knots.

Tami Kent: 00:38:56 I know. I mean, even just a couple minutes. I like to do it in the shower, so I am alone. First of all, I’ve have three children, they’re always coming in and things like that, so I knew I’d be alone usually in the shower. And so, it could be a couple of minutes where you check in.

Tami Kent: 00:39:11 And this gets into a bigger discussion, but the two hemispheres are roughly the left hemisphere tends to be more than feminine, the right hemisphere tends to be more the masculine. And this is has to do with brain hemispheres, and it’s a lot, you probably have to look about them and read chapter four on that to understand it more. But I looked at lots of different ways people were encoding and patterns and started to understand, oh, the left side has to do more with the right brain, that’s that fluid, intuitive, creative download which is the feminine. And the masculine is the left brain, right side, tends to be more the linear, logical, let’s get things done, it’s very rewarded in this culture.

Kimberly: 00:39:47 [crosstalk 00:39:47].

Tami Kent: 00:39:47 And so people will have imbalances in those two fields from their family, but also from the culture they live in depending. And so it’s about getting to know those two sides, it’s about starting to connect. And then just in general because we are out of touch with seasons, we’re moving too fast too much of the time [crosstalk 00:40:05].

Kimberly: 00:40:04 And we talked about the daily rhythms.

Tami Kent: 00:40:06 The daily rhythms, maybe not as much this year, but in general we’re out of touch with our body pace and our body rhythms. There’s a lot of stress and congestion in the root, so even just connecting, getting, like you said, from the head down, bring your breath and awareness, that can help with reembodying, that can help with health.

Tami Kent: 00:40:26 It is a place where I’ve found people hold a lot of tension, just like the jaw, so the pelvic space, and there’s a lot of reasons for that, one is not living seasonally, another is menstrual products, actually, like tampons often create inflammation and tension. It can be shame, it can be trauma, but we want to shift that by caretaking and connecting.

Tami Kent: 00:40:47 So, I like to keep it simple. It’s like these are big issues, right, but if we can keep it simple of just starting to touch your root, starting to connect with your root, starting to say hello. And then as you get into a deeper relationship it will actually dialogue with you. The body has a lot of wisdom that we can start to hear. And it’s different than the head voice.

Tami Kent: 00:41:04 When I have women talk to their root it’s usually slower and more simple. It’s like a beautiful mother. She loves fresh food and a beautiful home and cozy things. That’s the womb energy. And so people will say, “Is that it? I should rest more or I should… ” It’s like yes, but are you listening to that part of yourself or are you marching along?

Tami Kent: 00:41:27 So the root will have a different quality to it and a different tone, but as you start delving into it, that… For me when I started changing into that it changed my whole life, I mean, it is where all of my work and creativity and inspiration started to come from, so it was a very bountiful place once I cleared off the debris and the layers that were in the way and worked through the awkwardness and started to get more connected.

Tami Kent: 00:41:56 For me it’s like surfing. My son’s a surfer, so I love that analogy, but I’ll get a download and then I’ll move when it’s time on that download. And so I didn’t just write Wild Feminine, I wrote three books, I read Wild Creative, Mothering From Your Center and Wild Feminine because there was so much to say-

Kimberly: 00:42:15 Well, I can’t wait to-

Tami Kent: 00:42:16 … about this repair.

Kimberly: 00:42:17 … read the other ones, Tami. So now that you’ve been doing this work on yourself for a while, are you doing the vaginal massage weekly, daily?

Tami Kent: 00:42:28 Yeah, I mean, I would say it varies, and that’s where it’s about really being in touch with your body. So when we first went into lockdown and all of that there was a lot of disorientation for everybody, and so that is a time where the root really helped me get anchor and get clear and stable. Everything’s changing around us, so I would up my pelvic root work just to get that center point. And then now it might be once a week.

Tami Kent: 00:42:57 Whenever I feel stressed I usually will check my root, and for me, again, the shower is really easy but you can do your own massage or whatnot, I just happen to… Now I have my son’s back around, they’re just all over the place, like here we are in our house. But I would say I don’t even need the physical because my energetic connection is so strong, so that is both helpful to clear tension but it’s also a practice to get you more energetically linked.

Tami Kent: 00:43:24 When people say grounding they’re really often not really there. So even touching the external part of your bowl and really seeing, are you down there, that’s how you get grounded. So for me it is a practice that I use a little bit every day, and then when the ship is going then I use it more, because I know that my body has wisdom and access to downloads from the stars, from the spirit realm. I mean, it isn’t just for downloading babies, it is for downloading the new patterns and the wisdom of what’s coming in for the next phase.

Kimberly: 00:44:01 So, what you meant by that is in the beginning it helps you connect physically, oh my gosh, there’s tightness and you breathe, but over time there’s less actual physical that’s needed and you can just connect energetically to release tension?

Tami Kent: 00:44:15 Yes, absolutely. Absolutely.

Kimberly: 00:44:18 Wow. And so, Tami, I used that word too, download, and I feel, again, the meditations are coming through here, but then you’re saying the creative is… Is it that flow you were talking about down the river into the womb?

Tami Kent: 00:44:32 Yeah, it should come all the way down, and it does…

Kimberly: 00:44:34 So in the womb’s where it’s being birthed into this world?

Tami Kent: 00:44:37 Yeah. And so for you it’s getting a little bit blocked in your heart, and that is common, and that might have to do-

Kimberly: 00:44:45 You’re saying for me personally?

Tami Kent: 00:44:47 Mm-hmm (affirmative)-.

Kimberly: 00:44:48 Wow.

Tami Kent: 00:44:48 I can see you when you’re doing it, it’s coming down and it’s not getting through a little bit, and that is not you-

Kimberly: 00:44:54 [crosstalk 00:44:54] my heart too.

Tami Kent: 00:44:55 I know. And that’s not you personally, that’s from wounding. That is what happens, it’s a process to get fully embodied that usually starts from our early time. So what I would say for you, which would be really good, in Wild Creative I talk about doing our own birth field repair, which comes from years of work with mamas and babies and, it’s a long story, working with birth trauma and the download.

Tami Kent: 00:45:22 So, for me, so I used to work a lot on baby’s bodies and then I started working on the mamas and I didn’t… The babies aren’t holding on to anything, so if the mamas will shift it the babies don’t need anything. But then when we’re grown up we have maybe established patterns, right?

Tami Kent: 00:45:35 And so it’s like when you are born there is a field that dilates, that opens for you to come in. So it’s not just a womb dilation, there’s a spirit door dilation, and you probably experienced this when you birthed your babes. And then there’s a download that comes through that door, and this is where I think we talk about the spiritual movement through the chakras and things like that where we’re really talking about coming into our bodies. So the energy comes down, touches the crown on the head, and it goes through the body all the way down to the feet and then you’re walking around on the earth. And we can also pull nourishment up the other way [crosstalk 00:46:11].

Kimberly: 00:46:11 Yeah, I was going to ask. It comes up from the birth too.

Tami Kent: 00:46:14 It’s both, and I think it takes practice to really move that ch’i back and forth because… There’s just too many things to say about that, but one is-

Kimberly: 00:46:25 And we need to have another podcast.

Tami Kent: 00:46:27 I know. I mean, we don’t give children enough contact. So what you were saying I can also relate to. It’s like we don’t get enough contact. So I try to repair that for my children, but we’re really trying to make up for a tribe. It was Sobonfu Somé, I don’t know if you’ve heard of her work. She’s from the dagara tribe in West Africa, and she came over and was working in this country. She died a couple years ago, an amazing healer and did a lot of grief rituals in the US because she felt like people were carrying so much grief and not really moving it.

Tami Kent: 00:46:56 But one thing she said that I heard her speak and I thought this is really amazing, she was about four or five years old before she knew she came from one woman’s body. So that meant she had been touched and held, she didn’t know that she came form one woman. Again, blew my Western mind, it’s like, what? That means she was being contacted. And so-

Kimberly: 00:47:16 Very tribal.

Tami Kent: 00:47:17 Very tri… But lots of touch. There can be problems in tribes too, we can’t glorify any one thing, but it’s important to understand what is missing to repair it. And what is missing in Western culture is deep contact from many people in a very loving way that helps you come into your body. And so when you don’t get that you tend to meet more up here. And you’ll see a lot of people walking around like that, especially in the yoga community where it’s like spirit even though they’re doing bodywork practices.

Tami Kent: 00:47:47 So it’s a practice to just keep working with, and one of the practices that I’ve developed from working with women is a repair of that birth field where you open that doorway and you really download it through. And I write about it in Wild Creative for adults, because in the mothering book that I wrote I talk about repairing birth trauma because that’s a passion of mine for women. I think everyone should have access to the birth field of that child, regardless of the birth they go through, and there’s medicine that I’ve written in there. But then grownups are always like, what about me, what about my download? And so Wild Creative I write about that.

Tami Kent: 00:48:18 And you can work on it just by feeling the ch’i come down and then work on it. It comes easily here and then just rub that heart and invite it to keep moving down and then down to the bowl. And as you open up and practice accessing the lower parts it will start to flow more, but it’s a practice because it wasn’t necessarily given to you as a child.

Kimberly: 00:48:42 Well, two things, Tami, I have endless questions for you, but you talked about many people touching the child, what if that’s not possible? I mean, I’m always touching my boys but we don’t live in a tribal society, none of our family lives in LA.

Tami Kent: 00:48:56 Yes, I know. You do the best you can and you have a lot of compassion for yourself. And so I think-

Kimberly: 00:49:02 [inaudible 00:49:02] is just primarily the parents touching.

Tami Kent: 00:49:04 Yeah, I mean, that was our reality. That was our reality. And so, it was good enough, our kids are all very relationship oriented. They all seek peer relationships, and they have strong and deep connections. I wish I had pulled in more people earlier on, now, that’s one thing I would say. Maybe when you’re out of COVID and you have nursery school or things like that I would just pull people in a little bit more. I think we maybe even didn’t notice that it was just us, we just filled those spaces, but the more contact they have with people, the better, because they learn different things from different people.

Tami Kent: 00:49:43 And even if it’s a tutor relationship or a coach relationship or just looking for those mentors that might be able to be, they don’t have to necessarily be touching them, but they’re contacting them. Because my younger son I’ve done a lot more with tutors, he’s had some learning needs and things like that, but those tutors have become beloved people in his life, and I’ve noticed how they’re giving him a container. So it doesn’t always have to be physical touch, because that just may not work, but contact.

Tami Kent: 00:50:10 So whatever your children are in, maybe they’re into drama and you pull in those people, maybe they’re into sports and you pull in those people. I wish I’d pulled in more of that earlier and not necessarily tried to be everything, but, at the same time, that’s the reality we’re living in. And my thought is my children will be more whole and hopefully that will go forward as we work to repair that. Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:50:36 You’re so perceptive, obviously, when you were talking about my heart, I try to lead with my heart, but I do feel there is a bit of a numbness for me with the root, and you talk about ancestral work a bit her in Wild Feminine. And when I think about my lineage, I come from a non… I’m half Filipina, and the Philippines is a very traditionally matriarchal society.

Kimberly: 00:51:01 So I actually come from a line where the mother in the family was the breadwinner, and my mother was that way, and my grandmother was that way. So she was the head. My grandmother’s really, really tough, and so there was this sort of, how do we say it nicely, like a turning away from the nurturing feminine, just that real tough, that right side, that masculine. So I feel that ancestrally to connect back to that, the left side, where you say just being still in this, not doing this is a bit more challenging. I think it is for a lot of women.

Kimberly: 00:51:32 And you talk about [inaudible 00:51:33] lawyer, the female lawyer and she needs to connect to that side. So, when we have this ancestral DNA, is it clearing it, is it integrating it, is it awareness? The healing takes place across time, space dimension. Tell us a little bit about that [crosstalk 00:51:51].

Tami Kent: 00:51:51 Yeah, I think it’s so individual, and this is where you have to go in and do your work. And I will say as I was working on Wild Feminine, writing Wild Feminine, I started noticing how much ancestry and lineage played a role. And I was dumbfounded, because, again, in the Western world it’s just you and what you see and not as much like… Actually, in Asian culture there’s a little bit more honoring of ancestors or awareness for that. So you’ll see these intact threads here and there, and what I thought of as these quaint rituals. I think that’s how it’s seen in the Western world.

Tami Kent: 00:52:25 I ended up going down to Day of the Dead when I was 19 and celebrated it in a village just accidentally, and it’s [inaudible 00:52:34]. I was with my friend. We were down at Universidad de Guadalajara and we were… We wanted to go see this festival and we ended up there.

Tami Kent: 00:52:40 Of course, being 19 we didn’t plan and there were no hotels and we ended up basically with no room. And so we ended up in the graveyard that night with the people celebrating, which was probably a cultural hiccup, but also so beautiful because we were children and they were so embracive. But that is the first time I felt ancestral energy that was intact, and it blew me away. I was used to, again, in America the cemeteries are kind of… And actually, I used to always be drawn to cemeteries as a kid. I was a strange child in that I think I knew something was there.

Kimberly: 00:53:12 By Western standard I know.

Tami Kent: 00:53:14 Yes. Right. I was more intact in some ways. So in America they’re just so lonely feeling, and so this was anything but that. It was warmth, and there was this sweetness, and it was like the spirits were coming forward because there was a bridge to meet them. And it was like the most loving, warm experience just being in that. And so that’s what it is, it’s about working with that spiritual energy and always… So what I can see in you is you’re one of the bridgers. You’re from this line but you are very heart centered. I don’t know if you’re a Leo, but you have that kind of like…

Kimberly: 00:53:55 I’m Aquarius.

Tami Kent: 00:53:56 Okay, Oh, wow. Well, welcome to your time then because that’s that. You must have Leo in your field because your heart is so prominent. And that is often when you’re called to do something, it’s like that’s part of your calling, is to go where the wounding was. And it isn’t even your wounding, but you’ve embodied into the structure of your family.

Tami Kent: 00:54:18 And what happens is when we embody we have a choice to dissociate from the family or come into our own truth. And it’s hard to… It’s like you can reject the family and then try to embody but then you stand without a history, or you can try to embrace the family but then you feel restricted to that family pattern. So bridgers try to do both. They try to embrace the family and bring in that and then also expand the potential. And that’s a high calling, and it is a lot of work. And so there’s no one answer to what you’re asking, it’s really individual and I think it’s very much on the ground.

Tami Kent: 00:55:01 It’s what I wrote in Wild Creative actually. It seems like a lot of themes are coming up for you for Wild Creative. Wild creative is how do I live a life embodied with the feminine values? And when you have ancestral work like that you have the freedom to work on it in different ways than your mother line. And I would bet you those women did that more out of survival than in true. There’s a warrior energy that I can feel that is really part of the tradition and powerful but it also is somewhat out of survival, that they had to step into that.

Kimberly: 00:55:34 Survival and lack and getting past poverty, which is my lineage very much.

Tami Kent: 00:55:38 Yeah. So there’s more truth behind them of what that energy really is that you’re trying to bring through, and so sometimes it takes a few generations. It’s sort of like I would say for black Americans in this US time, they’re moving past the wounding of the past in order to come into the more fullness of who they are. And, again, it’s like your family, your mothers and grandmother had to move in a certain way just for survival, and so you have the freedom to move beyond that pattern-

Kimberly: 00:56:09 Totally.

Tami Kent: 00:56:10 … and start to reclaim more of the original.

Tami Kent: 00:56:12 I would bet you there’s some powerful medicine behind that. That’s a reaction to a circumstance, but behind that is almost a regal energy. There’s other things back there that you would be reclaiming. So you’re asking me what is it, it’s a lot of deep prayer and work with energy where for me… So, this goes forward to say that I now spend time in prayer everyday, and especially this year when we’ve been in such a transformational time.

Tami Kent: 00:56:41 So I have a little medicine wheel with the directions that I go out, and I say prayers to the ancestors on a regular basis. And I talk to the spirits of the land and also my ancestors, but all the ancestors, just asking for their strength. And that’s why there’s a whole chapter in Wild Feminine and there’s a prayer to the ancestors, because those things aren’t quaint rituals, those are powerful ways to draw and repair energy.

Tami Kent: 00:57:04 So it isn’t one thing for one person, it’s like sometimes you could lean towards that line and draw through more strength that your mother and grandmother couldn’t because they were too busy surviving. So you can go and pull more energy from that, and part of that is an energetic download, part of that is working through prayer, part of that is working through the seasons and maybe setting intentions around that, another is just honoring who you are and what you’re doing, that you’re bridging this and you’re more than what you see, you’re really the download of these different threads and these different tapestries.

Tami Kent: 00:57:37 And each one of us has our piece of work to do. So it’s like this is your piece and then your children will have their piece and your two children will have two different pieces. They won’t be the same piece, and they draw through the lineage in different ways. And so in the chapter on Wild Feminine I talk about lineage energy. And when you want to really strengthen the flow of some aspect of your lineage delve into the music and the food and the cultural aspects that might awaken that in you.

Tami Kent: 00:58:07 So, I did some different things. I know very little about my ancestors and so I had to really do this on an energetic spiritual level. I would feel into it. But my son just did this too, he’s like, “Don’t we have an ancestor from Scotland?”

Tami Kent: 00:58:19 And I was like, “Yeah, we do.”

Tami Kent: 00:58:21 And what’s crazy is that ancestor happens to be buried just a few miles from us in a weird circumstance of things. So-

Kimberly: 00:58:26 Wow.

Tami Kent: 00:58:27 … he’s there, and he said, “I want to go visit him.” And so we went and we did prayer, and we did tobacco, and we blessed him. And then my son wanted to know more about the name and the Scottish pattern that goes with that clan. And I said I happen to have it because a few years back I pulled it out. And so he wore it for a little while.

Tami Kent: 00:58:47 And it’s that kind of thing. It’s like you’re delving into the sensory part of it, which is often through food and music and language and tradition even if you weren’t raised with that. And some of you you might be raised with some aspects of it, but it’s like bringing that forward and then strengthening it and bringing the beauty while also doing some repair around the wounds, which you might just do through ceremony or ritual or prayer for those who came before.

Learn how to heal some of this ‘wanting to control’ everything

Kimberly: 00:59:13 Wow. So many tools, Tami. Again, I think I’m not alone in connecting more with the right side versus the yin left side. And in this anxiety epidemic today, which I think is so much worries and so much wanting to control, so talk a little bit about control in the book and this tightness versus allowing and surrendering which feel like very yin feminine qualities. What are some of the ways in your work that we can learn to heal some of this wanting to control everything?

Tami Kent: 00:59:47 Right. I mean, first of all, I think is always lead with compassion and just honoring. So this, again, this would be chapter four in Wild Feminine. You have to understand the feminine and the masculine tendencies, and again, these are not gender, these are tendencies and energies.

Tami Kent: 01:00:01 And so the feminine is more the being stayed and the download, but it happens when we feel safe and we feel like there’s space. And the right side is more like let’s take it into action, but many of us were raised with that as the primary lead. It should be actually you download first and then you move into action. And so many of us have this divorce in our bodies where we don’t even know that and we’re plugged into external structures and external authorities, like you tell me what’s right, you tell me whether it’s medical.

Kimberly: 01:00:29 Right, validation outside of ourselves.

Tami Kent: 01:00:31 Yeah. I mean, our whole school system, everything is like… over here everything’s external, it’s not internal. It’s not the tribe listening to your bleeding time, I mean, it’s the opposite of that. So part of it is compassion for the ways that we have maneuvered or been raised that maybe turn us away from that naturally.

Tami Kent: 01:00:47 And then other thing to know is in this time one thing that’s happened with COVID is it has forced a feminine time, and so what I mean by that is I usually… When I talk about the feminine I say usually you aren’t in touch with that unless you have a baby or you get sick or you tend someone who’s sick in the Western culture. There’s not a lot of permission for rest and slowing down unless that happens, or you’re forced. Baby pace is very slow, it’s more the pace of the body and how many of us go that way. I mean, I was shocked when I had my first son 20 years ago. It was like I was wired for movement and going and getting things done and it was just like this slam.

Kimberly: 01:01:26 Babies just being.

Tami Kent: 01:01:28 Yeah, but it felt terrible to me. I mean, I was not wired for that. I was not wired for the joy of that and it created a lot of anxiety and I had to work on healing that. And so I think part of it is compassion, just, we’re in a structure that encourages constant going, rewards it, validates it.

Tami Kent: 01:01:45 And then this time if you’re feeling out of sorts there’s so many reasons to feel out of sorts, but one that I’ve noticed as I’ve worked with people’s masculine energy this past year is because all the external structures have stopped there’s been a big pause because COVID and people having to not travel and having to contain and not go to work and not have all these distractions, not go to the gym, not go… There’s all these things that just got stopped, it’s forcing everybody to come back and deal with their feminine wounding.

Tami Kent: 01:02:13 And that’s, I guess, the challenge, is sometimes it’s not easy to just often be, right, because what you first are with are all the accumulation of the needs that weren’t met and so it won’t feel great. It didn’t feel great to me when I was first home with my son, it was like, I don’t even know what this is, it’s so cold and it just didn’t feel good. I was used to movement and being outside the home. And so it’s good to just be compassionate and then start to build a bridge with that being state and start to nurture it. And it might be your early wounding, it might be that nobody was really there when you were little so you started going out here to find connection.

Tami Kent: 01:02:50 So, it’s little bits compassionately of really making that and nurturing in a warm and a cozy space so that it will serve you, and that’s a really good thing to work on this year because the masculine cannot plug into the external structure. So people feel a lot of anxiety about that. And there were a lot of coping strategies that weren’t great, but people might not know that until something happened, maybe they got sick or something. And so this is the blessing in the challenge of this time, is it’s like, hey, stop and just take a moment and really look, and look at what’s there, and clear out what doesn’t serve you.

Kimberly: 01:03:26 Yes. Awareness.

Tami Kent: 01:03:27 Yeah. Develop-

Kimberly: 01:03:28 Reflection.

Tami Kent: 01:03:28 … some habits that are helpful for that. And so I always think The Great Mother is one of my favorite things for anxiety, and for me it’s in the earth. So really developing a habit of something holding that, not just trying to get rid of it, but literally something that meets you and holds it because, of course, and especially those of us that are sensitive, which I’m a little canary and super sensitive, we feel everything and so a lot of things… Things can feel good but things can feel not great too, and so having a container, something to hold that. I like to call in The Great Mother, and for me that is the earth, the trees, the fields, the ocean, to hold me, and that’s one good technique.

If radiance’s are centered in our ovaries

Kimberly: 01:04:09 Tami, I could talk to you all day. I have one last question for you, one last fear. I mean, I have so many questions and we have to have you back please. But I’m going to start with a quote actually, this is on page 127 of Wild Feminine, and you’re talking about ovaries here. And you write ovaries, they, nourish the female body and their health determines a woman’s radiance. So it’s a two part question. I want to ask you about that quote, what you mean by her radiance. Are radiance’s centered in our ovaries?

Kimberly: 01:04:39 And this is part of, we’re about to release a fertility, pregnancy postpartum course in a little while that we’ve been working on, and I just feel there are so many women right now struggling to be able to get pregnant, unprecedented numbers as you know, women trying to do IVF, women doing IVF in their 20s. There’s so much. So, what is going on with our connection to our ovaries, what’s going on with radiance coming from our ovaries, and what are some of the reasons you believe that there’s this… Besides the chemicals and the physical things, what are some of the energetic things that are keeping women from being able to get pregnant easily?

Tami Kent: 01:05:18 Right. Well, so just to back up to the physical for a moment, because I think that’s actually really important to acknowledge. I know really our bodies reflect the state of the earth, and I think we can’t ignore the fact that the poisons and the toxins have gotten to such a level, we’re not escaping that, and it is hitting younger generations partially because it’s a cumulative through time.

Kimberly: 01:05:41 Got it. Yes. Sure.

Tami Kent: 01:05:42 It’s like my grandparents had the joy of health that wasn’t… it was because they hadn’t been exposed to as much. But then they were exposed and that passed down the line, and so I think we can’t really ignore that level, and to bring with it compassion, because there’s such an urgency, like what can I do, what can I do? And so taking off some of the pressure and at least acknowledging there are some real physical challenges, there’s more children with sensory issues and other kinds of things. So there’s that.

Tami Kent: 01:06:12 And then I think really that requires is a team, and it’s challenging because this gets into privilege, but really finding people and if… even just reading books, because that’s a good access point, of understanding how to clear the toxin loads out of our body. So for me that’s been Chinese medicine and naturopathy. Ayurvedic is also good. I think go to the earth medicines to try to help your body.

Tami Kent: 01:06:38 So, part of this is understanding the body’s loaded, so we have to bring in more care, we have to bring in more support. And that’s also true… I have a child who had a lot of sensory issues after a health trauma, and so I really got to experience what a lot of mothers are just having because of toxin exposures to children with sensory issues and things. So I’ve walked deeply with people who really are looking at the next level of gut, brain health and things like that.

Tami Kent: 01:07:02 So you’ve got to find the people that can help you so you don’t think it’s just you trying to figure this out. That’s the masculine model, if I can just go hard enough. So, it’s about bringing the feminine in, which is the knowledge and the earth based knowledge that we’re missing, it’s seeing if you can live a little more rhythmically. One of the things is all the lights and all the computers is really throwing us off, so if you’re having fertility challenges, definitely I would be trying to go to bed a little bit earlier and shutting things-

Kimberly: 01:07:34 [crosstalk 01:07:34].

Tami Kent: 01:07:34 … dimming things down, really working on your exposure level. Energetically, it’s about connection. So we’re still doing it from the mind. Mentally, we’re trying to connect to the body and driving the body, it’s test ovulation and it’s this mental place.

Tami Kent: 01:07:53 So energetically it’s come down to the root and really start to try to build a relationship of listening and connecting and understanding that the womb has wisdom. And you start the dialogue, ask from there, ask your body what is needed and start to connect into that space, talk to the womb, develop a connection, talk to the ovary. The ovaries to me, the womb is like the great mother within and the ovaries are like the girlfriends. So the womb is super steadfast, kind of serious, but really powerful.

Kimberly: 01:08:22 Very wise.

Tami Kent: 01:08:23 Yeah, really wise. And then the ovaries are more chatty, and they’re a little different, the feminine versus the masculine. The feminine might be… really an action can be to rest and nourish yourself and it might seem like you’re not going in the right direction.

Tami Kent: 01:08:38 To get Wild Feminine published I had to track out of the masculine publishing world, high level publisher, this is how we’re going to do it, that did not work at all, major door block. So I switched over to the feminine realm, and that is really where Wild Creative is written too so it might not seem like you’re… It’s like, but this isn’t getting me pregnant. It is a different route. It’s more circuitous.

Tami Kent: 01:09:00 So come over here and start spending time in your pleasure, in beauty, in creativity has nothing to do with what you think because it will bring you more into the feminine receptive realm. And you have to do it without an agenda, which is tricky, because it’s like, you still are like, but I’m not pregnant, what… That’s the masculine, you’ve got to come over to the feminine, it’s more like…

Tami Kent: 01:09:21 And I learned how to walk this deeply in order to bring Wild Feminine out, and I wrote it in Wild Creative. If anybody wants to understand what I mean strategically look at Wild Creative, because it’s how do you go into this deeper, more fluid realm and then you’re still… That’s where you can access the energy of what you’re trying to bring through. It’s just, it is not linear, it is not logical, it’s a whole different flow pattern.

Kimberly: 01:09:45 It comes beyond thinking from a different place completely.

Tami Kent: 01:09:49 Yeah, it’s a lot more intuitive and it’s a lot more… like when you’re in connection with the earth and you move in this deeper, slower way, that’s what it looks like. So it’s that sort of movement. And for me it was a deep spirit journey too. When I’ve been through struggles, like my child’s health issues were a major struggle, so this could be similar to fertility, I went to my body and said I need help and asked for spirit to come through that place, that deeply receptive, deeply intuitive, deeply creative space.

Tami Kent: 01:10:21 And then I took action. So the masculine will be the action. It’s not that you might not have to take action, maybe you need acupuncture, maybe you need some certain herbs, maybe you need to cut your work schedule down, maybe you need to really work on your stress levels. That’s where the action can take place, but it’s read from the left side, from the feminine download and the intuition and the guidance and then you move into an active space with it.

Tami Kent: 01:10:46 You’re not just like, I got to go, I got to do this, I got to do this because someone said do all this things and you’re still in this frantic energy, which I have compassion for because… conception, when you want to have a baby it’s a really deep journey if you’re not able to have that and you start to question like, what’s wrong with me? This is, again, where we have to take the lens to more. It’s what’s happening to the earth, that’s the intensity of what’s going on. It’s like the earth pressures are creating this and we’re having a natural response in our bodies, that doesn’t mean we can’t do work to move through it. Yeah, that’s probably enough.

Kimberly: 01:11:26 We’re so connected, everything’s so connected we can never get away from that, we can’t divorce ourselves from what’s happening on the collective. So, Tami-

Tami Kent: 01:11:35 And just one other thing though, I would say the pelvic bowl is part of our immune system, and that isn’t something we talk about a lot. So, I think clearing, clearing, clearing, clearing, sitting on the earth, doing pelvic massage to really clear and get the energy flowing, salt baths. I would be detoxing and clearing that pelvic space as much as possible, doing self massage even over the ovaries and warming with the breath, movement, all these things is like this is part of our immune system. And I don’t think we think of it like that, so we want to get flow, moving energetically, physically so that we can get the vitality coming back. Okay.

Kimberly: 01:12:13 Tami, you are just amazing. I have so much respect for you and your work, and I’m so grateful that this work is coming through you into the world, especially at a time that I think it’s so needed more than any other time perhaps.

Tami Kent: 01:12:26 Oh my gosh.

Kimberly: 01:12:27 It’s like ah. So, thank you. Thank you so much. It’s been such an honor having this conversation with you truly.

Tami Kent: 01:12:33 Thank you so much. Thank you for tuning in and finding this work and for sharing it with more women, though I feel like this is the secret sauce. When women get this really embodied, imagine, because everything is connected through women, whether it’s a mother or a partner. So when the women get this for themselves, not only do they get more support but it’ll really shift how things are happening.

Kimberly: 01:12:55 It’ll shift our whole communities.

Kimberly : 02:01 All right, Beauties, I hope you enjoyed our interview today as much as I enjoyed doing the interview. For more information on Tami Lynn Kent, please go over to our show notes over at mysolluna.com. You’ll also find links to other podcasts that I think that you’ll like as well as research and other information, and also a direct link to her book, which again is called Wild Feminine.

Kimberly : 02:30 I feel great after that podcast. I feel like I learned a lot and I feel inspired to keep going on our journeys together to keep sharing. So please be sure, again I will mention, to subscribe to our show, that way you don’t miss out on any of this information. You never know which guest or which podcast, which community show is going to really light you up, and also just keep you inspired. That really is the goal of this, to keep taking those small simple steps in your everyday life to keep growing. So we keep growing together and evolving, especially this year, 2021, which is going to be amazing.

Kimberly : 03:08 So thank you again so much for tuning in. I send you so much love. We will be back here Thursday for our next Q&A podcast. Until then, see you over on the site, see you on social media at _kimberlysnyder. I’m sending you so much love right from my heart.

Finding Your Passion and Living a Fulfilled Life [Episode #540]

Finding Your Passion and Living a Fulfilled Life [Episode #540]

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This week’s topic is: Finding Your Passion and Living a Fulfilled Life

This is such an amazing topic to go into the New Year with. As we all know, 2020 was, in many ways, a year of introspection and evaluation. We were forced into quarantine and isolation. We were forced to really look at our lives and re-evaluate.

Now that we’ve created that space to think about what we want to fill back in, what we want our lives to be, what we want to create and what we want to feel like in this upcoming year, we have so much choice. We have so much power.

If any benefit came from 2020, it showed us how things don’t necessarily have to be the way that we think that they have to be. Things can radically change, and we have the power to radically change our lives and to create something that feels amazing to each and every single one of us.

Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!

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Monica – FL 

Hi Kimberly – can you share how you chose the path for Beauty Detox (now Solluna) and what you think the key is to finding your passion?

Jess – NH

Since covid, I feel like I’m stagnant in my creativity and not feeling great about myself. How do I get out of this emotional and mental rut?

Katie – Ohio

I often think of the differences between those who dream and others who are living their dream. I put myself in the category of dreamer and wish I knew how to get out of this comfort zone (or maybe it’s fear)  and actually start creating and living my dream. Help! I feel so stagnant. Any tips on where to get started?

Geovanna – Michigan 

I’ve been writing in several journals over the past few years in hopes of writing my own book but I tend to get in my own head, talking myself out of starting it. I know you’ve written several books Kimberly. Can you share your process in starting, creating and living your passion and how it made you feel once completed?

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties, and welcome back to our Thursday Q&A Community Show, where our topic today is Finding Your Passion and Living a Fulfilled Life. So this is such an amazing topic to go into the New Year with. We are still in that New Year mode and, as we all know, 2020 was, in many ways, I think a year of introspection and evaluation, whether we didn’t choose it, really, but we were forced into quarantine. We were forced into isolation. We were forced to really look at our lives and re-evaluate. So now here on the other side in 2021, it’s just a wonderful time to have that … now that we’ve created that space to think about what we want to fill back in, what we want our lives to be, what we want to create, what we want to feel like in this upcoming year, and we have so much choice. We have so much power. Again, if anything, any benefit came from 2020, it just showed us how things don’t necessarily have to be the way that we think that they have to be. Things can radically change, and we have the power to radically change our lives and to create something that feels amazing to each and every single one of us. So I’m very, very excited about this year.

Kimberly: 01:21 One thing I do want to mention at the top of the show is that we just launched our new Solluna app, and it is amazing, particularly our Solluna Circle Community inside of it, which is my chance to really interact with you on a daily basis. There’s daily tips. We’re doing a live circle every month, virtual circle, so please go check it out. It is wonderful. We have been working on it for a while, so go check it out over at mysolluna.com or in the App Store. You can just search Solluna by Kimberly Snyder as the app, and you can join us over there, and it is amazing. It is one of the things I’m most passionate about right now.

Kimberly: 02:02 Speaking about our topic, a quick reminder, while you’re over there online in cyberspace, please be sure to leave us a review on iTunes, which is a wonderful way to support the show. So I thank you so much in advance, and please also be sure to subscribe to our show. That way, you don’t miss out on any of these Q&A Community Shows, or Monday interviews, and solocasts.

Question 1: Can you share how you chose the path for Beauty Detox now, Solluna, and what you think the key is to finding your passion?

Kimberly: 02:27 All right, so all that being said, let’s get into our first question today. Our question comes from Monica in Florida. She writes, “Hi, Kimberly. Can you share how you chose the path for Beauty Detox now, Solluna, and what you think the key is to finding your passion?” So Monica is sending you a big hug over there in Florida, a state that I love very much. So I’ll share that, for me, the path really unfolded. It wasn’t something that I planned or thought about for years. This wasn’t something that … Some people know very clearly what they want to be when they grow up. I thought I might be a doctor, and then after working in a hospital, I realized it wasn’t my path. So really, for me, it was taking it step by step.

Kimberly: 03:15 When I was a junior in college, I studied abroad in Australia. I remember a big pivotal moment for me was that November when I went to Bali for the first time. I had been to Europe, I had been to different countries with my parents, but I had never been really out of the western world. I remember, even just leaving the airport, everything smelled different, things look different. There was all these little offerings and there was candles and things burning everywhere. I saw families piled onto motorbikes, and it was just so fascinating to me. It blew my heart open.

Kimberly: 03:54 So when the time came to graduate from college, I still didn’t really know what I wanted to do. I got a job to make money, but I knew that I needed to travel more. That was the one thing that really lit up my heart. When I started traveling and it took over three years, my trip was over three years long, I knew, I could just feel in my heart that something was going to come from the journey and it was something that I felt really connected to. It wasn’t something intellectual. It wasn’t something that I could quantify, but it was a feeling that just felt so … I was so sure of that one thing. So I went with that and I kept traveling and I kept traveling. Then when I finally ran out of money and things started to get a little dicey, I started to get a little bit reckless, I will admit. I just felt it was time to come home. I came home and, again, I was just taking it one step at a time.

Kimberly: 04:51 I was passionate about yoga at that point because I had learned about it in India, so I was meditating. I was doing Kriya Yoga, which is Paramahansa Yogananda’s techniques, meditation techniques, and I started to teach yoga. I went to a studio, and in that studio I started to learn more about food. Back then, the studio, the students were into raw food and I was fascinated by this. I also learned about food on the road. I started working for this doctor in the East Village, who also had a cafe and it just started to unfold. I was following what was lighting up my heart and then I started my free blog, and then everything just started growing and growing from there.

Kimberly: 05:37 So I guess what I would say, Monica, is to not worry about one huge overarching plan. Some people say you find the plan and then you work backwards. For me, if you don’t know yet what your big goal is, just to keep listening to your heart and to keep taking steps forward. Those steps might be to order a book and to read a book about something you’re interested in, to learn more about something, or to talk to someone in that field, or to explore, or to just simply spend some more time meditating. If you have no direction at all right now, your heart will start to guide you. Again, to me, passion isn’t something that you intellectualize. It’s not something that you think about in your head. It’s something that arises from your body. It’s something that arises from a deeper place in your mind.

Kimberly: 06:26 So you want to be sure that you’re creating a space to listen. So meditation and after meditation and journaling and doing things like all the introspection that comes from being in our circle, that we do practices every month. We talk about all these things on a daily basis. So we just start planting those seeds so that we can start to foster deeper awareness and deeper feelings about things. So I would say, yeah, create the space. Listen. Listen. Listen to yourself. Listen to your heart. Make sure that you’re meditating. We do have starter meditations over for you on the app and on our website, and just keep journaling, and keep taking those steps forward. That’s the way that your passions will start to arise. These seemingly small steps will start to grow and grow and grow, and eventually you will create a whole new direction and a whole new path or deepen into the path that you’re on. So thank you so much, Monica. Sending you lots of love.

Question 2: Since COVID, I feel like I’m stagnant in my creativity and not feeling great about myself. How do I get out of this emotional and mental rut?

Kimberly: 07:26 Our next question comes from Jess, who lives in New Hampshire. She writes, “Since COVID, I feel like I’m stagnant in my creativity and not feeling great about myself. How do I get out of this emotional and mental rut?” Jess, I think that, again, it’s these times of challenge that drive us deeper. Sometimes when we feel like we’re in a real rut and we feel really stuck, those are the times that come right before a big breakthrough. So it’s like that uncomfortable moment where we start to release, we start to evaluate, we start to go deeper, and then afterwards, on the other side, comes the light, comes the fresh air, comes the new passion and the new direction and the new vitality.

Kimberly: 08:11 So what I would say is to be okay with the now. When we fight the now, when we say, “Oh, I don’t like this. I don’t want to be here,” then we actually create resistance and we stay in that stuckness longer. So right now, what I want you to do is just breathe into this moment and be okay with what has been and what is right now. We can’t control, we can’t force, we can’t push something away that is now. So COVID has happened. Isolation has happened. 2020 has happened the way it is. So, first, we create harmony and peace right now in this moment. We breathe. We do a meditation. We find a way to just create more acceptance of the moment. From that place, then we start to expand. Then we can start to find our creativity again. Then we can start to grow again. But what I have found on my path is if I sit and say, “I don’t like this. I don’t want it to be like this,” then we create more pain and more resistance, whether it’s childbirth or whether it’s trying to, for so long, the creative process. Whatever it is, we struggle more if we don’t accept where we currently are. So we breathe, we stay here.

Kimberly: 09:37 Another thing, Jess, is to get outside. When we’re in a rut, one of the places that we can get deep, deep nourishment is from nature and from going into stillness, and going into the forest, or the park, or the beach, or wherever you have access to, and just taking some deep breaths and looking around and looking at the peace and the equanimity that is nature. I find that my daily walks give me so much space and so much inspiration. Ultimately, I find a lot of creative ideas when I’m just by myself and I’m not forcing anything, but I’m walking in the forest, and I’m breathing and I’m being by myself. So I would just … It’s funny because it’s not prescriptive. It’s not like I can say, “Okay, well, eat some parsley and do 10 minutes of yoga,” and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. It’s more about finding that spaciousness within yourself where you don’t feel like you’re pushing yourself and you don’t feel like you’re prodding and beating yourself up and wishing things were a different way. But I find that deep creativity is born of peace and equanimity. When we’re in this place of openness and we feel receptive, that’s when the great ideas come in.

Kimberly: 10:49 So, first, don’t worry about the great ideas. Don’t worry about the creativity. It will come. But first I want you to just breathe and find some peace right here, right now. Go, just sit in the grass or look at a plant after and before your meditation, and just breathe and notice how the plant is just sitting and being. Watch some birds outside. Just find some real space away from doing, away from evaluating, away from the news, away from numbers, the scale, social media, all this stuff, and just give yourself that space and find the peace. Once you can find the piece then all that stagnation starts to loosen up and then you will start to feel more and more natural inspiration just start to come up and out of you.

Kimberly: 11:37 So let it unfold the way it’s meant to unfold. The less control we put on it, the more we can let it flow through us. At the same time, I would say to nourish yourself, to nourish your digestion. That always helps with stagnation. Make sure you’re drinking ginger tea, having some fresh turmeric in your diet, taking your SBO probiotics and your Detoxy. Take care of your body, but, at the same time, just allow for space. Get off electronics more and more. Allow space away from TV, away from social media, and just give yourself that real deep peace and then see what arises from that.

Break

Kimberly: 12:18 All right, Beauties, we’re going to take a short break and we’ll be right back with two more questions for you, guys, on this topic of finding your passion and living a fulfilled life.

Question 3: I often think of the differences between those who dream and others who are living their dream. I put myself in the category of dreamer and wish I knew how to get out of this comfort zone, or maybe it’s fear, and actually start creating and living my dream. Help. I feel so stagnant. Any tips on where to get started?

Kimberly: 12:30 All right, Beauties, we’re back from our break. The first question comes from Katie in Ohio and she writes, “I often think of the differences between those who dream and others who are living their dream. I put myself in the category of dreamer and wish I knew how to get out of this comfort zone, or maybe it’s fear, and actually start creating and living my dream. Help. I feel so stagnant. Any tips on where to get started.”

Kimberly: 12:55 Katie, thank you so much for your question. I, first of all, I applaud you for this question. I think that even by asking the question, it means that we’re ready to move forward. I’m sure a lot of us have the same question and it’s wonderful to dream and to give yourself the space to dream, but like you said, what can hold us back is taking that next step and the fear of failure, the fear of “I know, I don’t know what to do.” It can create a lot of paralysis. So what we start to do is we start to take small, tiny steps forward and it starts with the morning. It starts with something that’s not even related to your dream per se, but it starts with fortifying yourself. Think about fortifying, creating habits that fortify yourself, your environment, your space around you, so that you are in the strongest, most nourished place to keep moving forward, and it gives you the satisfaction of task completion. So you get that confidence, you get that strength to keep going forward.

Kimberly: 14:00 So the first thing I do in the morning is I meditate and I get centered. Then as I get out of bed, I love to make the bed right away. It just starts to feel okay, complete, and neat and buttoned up, and I’ve done something. It’s very hard for me to function in a mess. It’s very hard for me to not feel stagnant if I am in a messy space. So I really liked the bed made. It’s neat. It’s tucked in. I go into the bathroom, I wash my face. I do my skincare routine, all of that, tongue scraping. So I put myself in this position where I’m feeling like, boom, I’m taking care of myself. I’m completing tasks. I’ve done my morning routine. I go into the kitchen, making the hot water with lemon, making the GGS for the family, taking my SBO probiotics. All these things are fortifying you, and it’s very important that we get into a daily rhythm because successful people have successful rhythms and habits to their day.

Kimberly: 15:01 Yogananda says, “Methodize your life,” so we want to create practices and those practices will start to extend and expand and start to go into your dream and the steps you need to take, but you need to start creating it in your life all around. This is very powerful to understand. How we do one thing is how we do everything. So if you’re already taking care of your house, taking care of your body, taking care of your health, taking care of your digestion, eating on point, you’re doing your cornerstones, food, from a food perspective, body-wise, you have a rhythm for your movement practice. You have a movement, rhythm for your sleep. You’re taking your supplements. You’re taking your Detoxy or digestive enzymes before you eat, so on and so forth. You’re creating these rhythms and it becomes stronger, and energy builds in rhythms. So you’re starting to really, really build your energy and you’re starting to build your confidence.

Kimberly: 15:51 Then when it comes to your dreams, the first step that I want you to do is write them down. There are so much different studies, research. I’ve quoted one in Radical Beauty, another one in Beauty Detox Power. This idea of taking things out of your head and putting it on paper, writing it down with a pen or a pencil, is the first step into really creating your dreams and putting them into reality. If they stay in our head and we don’t even get them down on paper, there’s very little chance that we can start to move them forward. But what you can start to do is you put them in your journal, you write them down, and then you can start to break down those dreams into smaller steps.

Kimberly: 16:31 Maybe you need to take a class. Maybe you need to just buy a book online and read about the subject. Or, maybe you need to just start contemplating a business idea or a plan or product idea that you want to flush out, or a website and you can just start to write things down. The problem with … and I’m a fan of daydreaming and dreaming, I think that’s where things start, but they’re fleeting and they can leave and then you don’t really get to grasp them and build on them. So you want to keep writing things down and then you can start to see, “Okay, maybe I need to have this conversation or seek this person out or, again, read a book on this subject,” or whatever it is. But write it down. Create habits in your life across all four of the cornerstones. So food, body, emotional well-being, that’s part of that writing, part of that journaling. Creating community. Maybe talking about your idea or just having an outlet with community around. I’ll mention the circle again, our Solluna Circle on our app, which is very powerful for this. We do share. We do support each other a lot.

Kimberly: 17:39 Then spiritually just having that space for stillness that I was talking about with Jess. Just to allow the space, allow your energies to start to grow from that place, creating a meditation routine. Meditation is one of the best ways to get past fear. Why? Because it connects us with our true self, which is beyond … I’ll paraphrase the Bhagavad Gita. It’s the soul cannot be withered. It cannot be dampened by water. It cannot be harmed by arrows. There is a deep part of you that is resilient and strong and completely infinite and powerful. So we want to connect in with that part of you, not the small part of you, not the ego that worries that other people are better or smarter, or that you’re not good enough, but the deeper, deeper essence of you. Then that becomes part of your daily rhythm and you start to build and you’d become stronger and stronger from there on in.

Kimberly: 18:37 So it’s very important that you make that space, Katie, and that you just start to write things down. That’s the first thing is, again, we don’t want to overwhelm you with all the different steps, but if you create the process, you create the rhythms, you create the habits and you start writing down, things are going to start to unfold and then we’ll keep talking about the steps that you take from there. But don’t get overwhelmed with 10 steps ahead. Just take care of this and I promise you, things will start to open up for you. Thank you so much for your question. I am here for you. Ask more questions as you get to the next step and we will keep supporting you.

Question 4: I’ve been writing in several journals over the past few years in hopes of writing my own book, but I tend to get in my head talking myself out of starting it. I know you’ve written several books, Kimberly. Can you share your process in starting, creating, and living your passion and how it made you feel once you completed it?

Kimberly: 19:14 All right, the next question comes from Giovanna who lives in Michigan. She writes, “I’ve been writing in several journals over the past few years in hopes of writing my own book, but I tend to get in my head talking myself out of starting it. I know you’ve written several books, Kimberly. Can you share your process in starting, creating, and living your passion and how it made you feel once you completed it?”

Kimberly: 19:40 So I will say, yes, I’m working on my sixth book right now and it has given me enormous, enormous satisfaction. For me, my motivation is about seeing the idea through, and always, always the idea of serving others and helping others. Money has never been my motivation. Of course, we all need to live. We all need to take care of our families. So, of course, we all need to make money. But, again, you know that question, “If you had a billion dollars, would you do anything differently?” I might get some new furniture as I’m sitting here on my couch, I need to get a new couch at some point. Some of the threads are getting a little loose here. Some things like that I might do all at once. But other than that, my day would be the same. I’d be here with you guys on the podcast. I’d be writing my book as usual, and I’d be running Solluna. I’d be doing what I’m doing, which I think is a real, real gift.

Kimberly: 20:41 So I think all the questions that we’ve talked about earlier Giovanna is really relevant here, this idea of following your heart and taking steps forward. I will say that, if you can think of the bigger picture, think of how your idea would help other people as I always did with starting the blog. That was such a huge motivation for me in keeping ongoing when I was tired or when I didn’t think that I had the energy, or I didn’t think that I was enough. I just thought, “Well, what if one person is helped by this? What if someone will benefit from this?” and then it becomes an idea that’s much bigger than you and that will give you the motivation, that will give you the impetus to keep going and to keep striving and to keep moving forward. Because we can often do more. We can dig in and find the energy to help other people even though we don’t have the energy for ourselves.

Kimberly: 21:38 So really just feel into your heart. Think about, imagine who could benefit from whatever project or whatever book that you’re looking to write. For me, that was the energy that kept me going night after night. My first book, the Beauty Detox Solution was my first book. It was definitely the hardest book for me to write in many ways. They’re all challenging. It’s really challenging now having two kids. But that one, the process was … I often start things, in the sixth book as well, I start and I write for a month and then I throw it all out. It’s like my warm up and then I start again. I was disorganized. I remember having a hard time finding different files and my notes and chapters, and the whole thing was … I look back and it was a mess. But I was learning as I went.

Kimberly: 22:29 The thing that kept me going again was this idea of helping other people and it was my will. I feel that we strengthen our willpower when we focus. So that means cutting out distractions, cutting out TV time, social media time. Go on it. Set times like I do. I batch my time. I go in there. I interact. I do all my comments. I post. I post when I have spanda, when I have inspiration, and then I get off. I feel that it takes real discipline to create your dreams as far as you’ve got to want it. You’ve got to stay focused. You’ve got to cut out the things that are taking you off the path. There’s nothing wrong with TV. There’s nothing wrong with social media or whatever it is that you like to do, but don’t let that take over. Don’t let it be this pattern where all you do every evening is watch TV or one glass of wine turns into two or three, and suddenly you’re tipsy every night and you’re not able to read or journal or meditate.

Kimberly: 23:33 Really, we have to be the managers of our own life. We have to be the managers of our own lifestyle. It is us that is responsible for carrying our dreams forward. No one’s going to sit over you and say, “Well, what did you do for your dream today?” We have to get real clear and that vision comes from what I was saying to Katie about writing things down. For me, that has also been a huge way that I have gotten my goals accomplished. I write them down. I revisit them. I’m not someone that just does resolutions or dreams January 1st, and then forgets about them. I’m someone that is constantly revisiting them every few weeks. I rewrite them. I look. I see what progress I’ve made.

Kimberly: 24:13 So introspection is important because if we don’t keep looking at our own dreams and our own goals, no one else is going to do it for us. So we want to just keep that going. We want to keep our goals. We want to stay clear, top of mind. Again, if we don’t have our goals yet, we want to just create space. We want to keep listening to our heart. Meditation is absolutely instrumental in this regard, cornerstone-wise. I will say, food-wise, clarity comes from plant-based eating, from not creating stagnation in our system. Ginger has been such a powerful food for me lately, all the ayurvedic spices. I’ve been having tons of cumin and turmeric. I feel that when we clear our blood, when we’re digesting, when we’re releasing, we are just opening up our body for more ideas to come in. So take your Detoxy, take your SBO Probiotics.

Kimberly: 25:06 I go for a walk every day. I get into nature. That also gives me space. My phone doesn’t work here in the mountains where I live when I leave the property, so I also don’t have any communication. Also, I think space from electronics gives us that openness. Journaling-wise, I journal every day. I write things down. It clarifies my ideas. It’s essential for my process. Then, again, I’ll say it, the meditation part for me is helping me tune in. So tune out of the noise. Tune out of the ego. The ego is the fear-based thoughts. The ego is the not enoughness. The ego is telling us that there’s lack, all of that. I just create that space. That has been my process for over 12 years now, since I got on this journey, really. This is the sixth book now in 10 years or nine years, nine years the Beauty Detox Solution came out in 2021, yeah … I’m sorry, 2011. Dates for me, I mean, I’m a little funny with time. I kind of don’t live in linear time.

Kimberly: 26:12 But, anyways, the reason I’ve been able to keep things going and keep the process flowing is because of just the habits, the things that I tell you, guys, time and time again, because they really do work. Systemize your life. Get out of your head. Connect in. Meditate. Then, from there, write down your ideas and then you will start to take steps forward. Listen to your heart. Get out of the ego. Get out of all the news. Get out of all the noise and find the space and you will be able to live your passions. Each and every single one of us has a purpose. We are here, we are alive because we have a purpose, and because we are meant to grow, we are meant to share with one another and help one another. So your heart will lead you. Your head will create doubt. Your head should be the master of your heart, I believe. So you anchor into your deepest passions and you create that clarity, your heart will lead you forward.

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Kimberly: 27:11 So I love you guys very much. I love this topic, so please keep the questions coming. We’ll keep discussing it here on again on our circle. I’m here for you always. I love to hear your progress and I love to hear your process and we’ll keep sharing. There’s more I’ll say about this topic. We’ll just keep going deeper and deeper and I’ll keep sharing. So I want to leave you with a quote of the week, which is something I said earlier, and I just want to reiterate it again: “How you do one thing is how you do everything.” So if you want to live a life of passion, if you want to live your dreams, approach everything with that passion. Approach how you take care of your body, how you make your GGS, how you’re washing your vegetables, how you’re systemizing your day, how you’re really putting effort into your meditation. Everything affects everything else. Energy is energy.

Kimberly: 28:07 So just remember to bring passion into your daily life, and then passion cannot help but grow into your dreams, into your steps. It’s going to pour out of you. People will feel it energetically. More opportunities will come to you. People will start being attracted because passion is a light that is very attractive. So, again, if you want to live a passionate life, bring passion into all the daily little tasks, things you do, interactions, friendships, ways you take care of your kids, everything. Passion will grow. Passion is magnetic. So speaking of that, Bubby, is getting a little restless. I will get over to him. I send you so much love. I am so grateful for you. I will be back here Monday for our next interview podcast. We have a very interesting, amazing one coming up. I’ll give you a little teaser there next week. Till then, take great care. I send you lots of love. Can’t wait to hear how your passions continue to unfold in 2021, and I will see you back here soon.

Create Daily Rituals and Routines to Fuel Your Health and Achieve Your Goals 

Create Daily Rituals and Routines to Fuel Your Health and Achieve Your Goals 

Happy New Year! 2020 was an interesting year, and difficult for many (to say the least), but I hope you’re excited about 2021 and optimistic about all it may hold for you. 

The new year symbolizes a fresh start, and along with that come New Year’s Resolutions, but the term resolution is often fleeting, and we’ve become disconnected to the deeper meaning. 

If you have read my books or followed my blog you probably know I don’t encourage resolutions. Instead I teach the value of creating rituals. Creating a daily ritual or routine that focuses on the outcome you want will help fuel optimum health and help you achieve your goals this year!

Instead of making a resolution (which so many fail to keep), I encourage you to try something a little different this year in order to manifest true success over the next 12 months and in life. Ask yourself, what do you want to create in the world or who do you want to become? This may feel overwhelming to think about or answer, but it’s easy to get off track if you don’t establish that first. 

Without answering that question, digging deep and coming up with an honest answer that truly resonates with you, you’re likely to get off track, or maybe not even get on track in the first place!

When you don’t know who you want to be in the world or what you are creating, it is easy to fall into activities or relationships that don’t truly support and align with your highest intentions. 

Answering that one question will save you time in the long run. Just slow down and tune into what it is that you truly want to create. Everything flows from that desired outcome. 

Once you’ve established what you want to create in the world or who you want to become, try these 4 rituals that will help you get there. 

Write Down Your Goals if You Want To Achieve Them

I journal daily, it’s an important ritual in my life that has supported so much personal growth. My journaling helps me set intentions for my life and my day, helps me work through my emotions and feelings, allows me to express gratitude, and so much more!  I find it so empowering, that I’ve made it a key exercise every month (based on a new monthly theme) with everyone who is part of the Solluna Circle community. 

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Writing things down makes them feel and be more concrete. It provides a whole new level of clarity. Your ideas become less vague and more defined. You’ve created something that now exists in the world, if only on a piece of paper…so far. You’ve given it some life, and that is a step forward. It also helps shift your focus throughout your day, and you’re more likely to become aware of opportunities. These opportunities are more easily missed if you’re only casually thinking about what you want rather than making it more concrete. 

So, get excited about dreaming big, and voicing it, then write it down. A Dominican University in California study looked at hundreds of men and women of all ages and backgrounds and discovered among the groups, those who wrote down their goals and dreams on a regular basis were 42% more likely to achieve them. If you’re hoping to improve the chances of reaching them even further, share your written goals with a friend. One caveat, make sure it’s a friend who believes in your ability to succeed!

If you need any more reasons to write down your dreams and goals here’s another -you’ll have a better chance of remembering them. This may not seem important (why would you forget your goals and dreams), but it’s easy to forget what we’re working toward when we allow the messages and activities of our daily lives to override our thinking. When you write it down, you’re activating a new dimension of consciousness and focus in your subconscious mind.

Create or Dial In Your Morning Practice 

Have you started a morning practice yet? I’ve been talking about and recommending a morning practice for years. Often our days can start out feeling frazzled and we can feel disconnected from ourselves. 

If you wake and immediately check your phone, start reading emails, instantly start attending to other’s needs, or begin thinking about the long checklist of things you have to do that day, you’ll likely feel like you’re running behind before you even begin. It’s hard to get into a good flow that way, where you feel like you’re starting your day focused and energized.  

How you start anything influences the whole extent of it, and that is true for your entire day! 

A morning practice can anchor you, and help you feel grounded rather than frazzled and chaotic. When I skip my morning routine my day feels more confused, muddled, and I experience dampened energy right from the start.

Schedule Your Morning Ritual and Stick to It

My morning practice has been a part of my daily ritual for years and when I stick to it, I’ve prepared myself to have an amazing day that allows me to be a present momma and to create away! 

You’ll want to create a morning practice that works for you, don’t try to force it but do plan for it. 

Support Your Digestion and Detox Every Morning

I start my day by supporting my body. I drink hot water with lemon, take my Feel Good SBO Probiotics (because gut health is critical for your success on so many levels, including improved mood!) and drink my Glowing Green Smoothie. If you haven’t tried my Glowing Green Smoothie (GGS for short), now is the time. It will give you an incredible amount of sustained energy, allowing you to tackle all of your day’s activities and any stressors or hurdles that arise. 

Related: Dos and Don’ts of the Glowing Green Smoothie

Meditate and Journal Every Morning

My morning practice includes meditation and journaling. I like to meditate and see what comes through for me that day and how it informs my goals. 

Once I’m done meditating my ritual includes writing out my goals for the day (yep, I begin my day by writing out that day’s goals). I don’t put a strict time limit on it, but I do give myself several minutes each morning to center and ground myself and set my intention for the day. Writing down a few words, reinforces my intentions for the day. 

I suggest you create a routine that works for you. It may look a little different than mine, but try to dedicate the first 30 minutes to an hour of your day to it, and be consistent. It’s best when you make it a daily practice.

Create or Dial In a Nighttime Ritual

I was recently asked by a podcast listener which ritual would I never give up, my morning ritual or my nighttime ritual. And although it’s my morning ritual I can’t live without, I definitely promote nighttime rituals for greater physical and emotional health. Nighttime rituals allow us to honor our sleep, and recognize that it’s an important opportunity to support and rejuvenate our mind and body.

Related: If you’re interested in more simple wellness rituals to add throughout your day you can listen to the full podcast episode. 

A good nighttime routine establishes consistency with your sleep hygiene. Sleep hygiene includes not only what you do, but also your sleep environment. When you create a consistent routine you’ll begin to notice the positive effects it has on providing you with true beauty sleep.

Reduce Blue Light at Night

To create a nighttime routine you can do something as simple as turning off electronic devices an hour or more before bedtime. Or at the very least, if you feel you can’t give up your screen time completely before bed, wear blue light blocking glasses. Blue light blocking glasses will help prevent a delay in your body’s internal melatonin production. Melatonin is the “sleep hormone”. It’s the hormone that helps you get drowsy and tells your body it’s time for bed, among other benefits.

Don’t Eat Before Bed

I also highly recommend against eating before bedtime, especially if you want healthy glowing skin. True beauty sleep requires quality sleep. When you eat before bed, your body uses a tremendous amount of energy to digest the food you’ve just eaten while you’re sleeping. So rather than repairing and rejuvenating your entire body, including your skin which is your body’s largest organ, it’s digesting that evening snack or meal.

Do Yoga or Simply Move Before Bed

Simple movement exercises are also great for preparing your body before bed, I do a few simply cat cow stretches before bed. And I usually take a few moments to breathe and be mindful before drifting off to sleep. It just seems to help me get into a calmer state of mind for better rest.

Create a Comfortable Sleep Environment

Also important is to create a comfortable sleep environment. You should feel good sleeping on your mattress and pillow, if they’re old or don’t support you properly anymore, consider swapping them out. A nice clean set of soft sheets does wonders for your rest too. I also like keeping my bedroom environment cool at night (it helps us get into deeper sleep) and run a quiet air filter in the room at night. 

These are just a few ways you can honor the length, duration and quality of your sleep and is all part of a true beauty practice. I talk a lot about Solluna’s Four Cornerstones of True Beauty. If you haven’t read our true beauty guide yet, I highly encourage it. It’s a great guide for helping you incorporate tools and activities ranging from food to body to emotional well-being to spiritual growth. 

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Tap Into the Amazing Wisdom of Your Body

I’ve written and spoken about this a lot throughout the years. I find many people focus on what they’re missing, and work on filling in the gaps, rather than focusing on what they can do more holistically to support their overall vitality and wellness. I believe if you focus on supporting your body’s ability to do what it’s designed to do, you can achieve even greater levels of awareness and health. 

Choose Whole Foods to Nourish Your Body

Instead of taking dozens of supplements to fill in the gaps of a poor diet (often with isolated nutrients that aren’t part of a whole food complex that are easily absorbed by the body), add in whole foods that contain those nutrients instead. You’ll get the bonus of more fiber which also supports digestion and your organs responsible for helping your body detox heavy metals, pesticides, toxins and chemicals. 

Reduce or Eliminate Pesticides and Chemicals From Your Diet

Try to remove as many foods as you can from your diet that contain dyes, chemicals and preservatives that essentially gunk up and slow down your body’s internal systems.  

Choose to Support Your Body’s Digestive System

I get asked often why I never added individual nutrient supplements or a multivitamin or multimineral to my Feel Good Supplement line and I’ve always responded that I focus on products that I believe support the body in a more complete and holistic way. If you take a good sbo probiotic, digestive enzymes and oxygen cleanse aid (Detoxy), you’ll absorb nutrients more effectively which improves mood, energy and overall health. All three work together synergistically for a powerful digestion supporting trio! That’s why I promote them as a Feel Good Starter Kit.

Begin a Daily Meditation Practice

Meditation is another way to tap into your body’s own innate intelligence. So many insights bubble to the surface after I meditate and it helps me resolve emotional unrest or anxieties. It also helps me feel more centered throughout the ups and downs of the day. When you carve out that “me time” and be still you are supporting your adrenal and nervous system. 

I believe daily meditation is the single most powerful way to tune in to your real power, and your real truth. It’s an opportunity to look within and begin to connect to your true, unlimited power to heal emotionally and physically. You’ll notice I mention it as an integral part of my morning practice – it’s that important to me!

I encourage you to start a simple meditation practice (I recommend you begin during your morning or nighttime ritual, but anytime you can fit it into your schedule is beneficial). You can work your way up to a longer practice over time. 

Meditation can take many forms from setting intentions, to praying, to listening to your breath, or practicing other meditative techniques. The form matters less than your consistency to the practice. 

If starting all of these rituals at one time feels a little overwhelming, that’s okay. You don’t need to adopt all four at the same time. Choose the rituals you feel will serve you best, and begin there. Perhaps writing down your goal to create rituals you’ll stick to consistently in 2021 is the best place to start!

Awakening Your True Self into 2021 [Episode #539]

Awakening Your True Self into 2021 [Episode #539]

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Today’s solocast topic is: Awakening Your True Self into 2021

As we launch into the new year, many of us are focused on specific resolutions or goals for 2021. Sometimes, in setting these resolutions, we lose sight of who we are. We forget our true self, even causing us to feel like we’re not enough.

That’s why today’s solocast episode is dedicated to Awakening Your True Self Into 2021. This episode is all about loving yourself for who you are! Yes, changing your thoughts, your old beliefs and the stories you tell yourself can be hard to do. But once you break through and overcome the feeling of not being good enough, you can own your true self and radiate light!

Today I’m sharing tips for awakening and owning your true self, as you radiate light and love into the world. Nothing is more beautiful than authenticity and approaching wellness in our holistic way, especially with our Four Cornerstones. When we are whole, we are healthy, we are energetic, we are our most truly beautiful because we shine with the light and the radiance from within and from our energy, and we are also our most powerful.

Topics Covered In Awakening Your True Self into 2021

#1. My tips for awakening your true self in the new year as they relate to Food, Body, Emotional Well-Being and Spiritual Growth

#2. How your New Year’s dieting and weight loss goals might be negative affecting your psychology

#3. What (free!) techniques you can start today to increase your self-awareness and self-confidence

#4. How you can incorporate mental practices to awaken your true self and boost your authenticity

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Kimberly: 00:01 Hi, Beauty, and happy, happy New Year. I am so excited to be here with you sitting over on the other side into 2021. I am so excited for all of us to have an amazing year and to really start to step into our truth, into our power, and into actualizing all of our heartfelt connected dreams this year. So, sending you a huge virtual hug, no matter where you may be. I love you and happy, happy New Year.

Kimberly: 00:39 Today, our solocast, I wanted to do a solocast and speak to you directly, one-on-one, for our first solocast for 2021. Our topic this week is Awakening Your True Self into 2021. In today’s solocast, I have some really interesting research and studies that really just back up our philosophy and the way that we approach wellness in our holistic way, and especially with our Four Cornerstones, which are food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth, which to me is the most important way that we can really nourish ourselves and to elevate ourselves is to treat ourselves as whole. When we are whole, we are healthy, we are energetic, we are our most truly beautiful because we shine with the light and the radiance from within and from our energy, and we are also our most powerful.

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Kimberly: 03:26 So, there is a interesting study and all of these studies, of course, are over in our show notes over at mysolluna.com, but I want to kick it off from the study from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. It talks about a number of philosophical and psychological theories suggesting the true self and authenticity are important contributors to enhancing wellbeing, increasing levels of self-esteem and meaning in life. So I think that there was such introspection that happened for all of us in 2020 because so much was ripped away and changed and shifted, and we had to go inward to try to make sense of what was going on in our outward changing world. As we go along, this idea of connecting with ourselves is so huge.

Kimberly: 04:24 Also, if you’re interested, we have just launched our brand new Solluna Circle. I can’t wait to give it a quick shout out right here because I was just recording material for it as well. The theme this month is manifesting success, and it’s all about how success is not this outward thing, that is about how much money we have or how many followers you have or how skinny you are, all these things what society tells us as success. For all of us that have hit those numbers and still are like, “Oh, well, that wasn’t it. I’m still searching. I’m still not totally happy. I’m still anxious,” we realized that this idea of connecting with yourself, with your truth gives you so much satisfaction and meaning and purpose.

Kimberly: 05:17 From that deep connection, then you start to create from there. You start to create out in the world, whether it’s in your job and the way that you take care of your family, the way that you conduct yourself in the world, the way that you create your friendships, the way that you do your hobbies, whatever it is, you’re creating from this connected place. It’s disconnection that makes us feel stressed out and it’s disconnection that makes us confused about what to eat and what to put into our bodies and what diet to follow and how to exercise and if we’re in the right relationship. So the more connected we are, we grow in confidence and we grow in peace and we grow in our abilities to manifest because we’re living in our aligned truth and we waste far less energy.

Awakening Your True Self with Cornerstone #1: Food

Kimberly: 06:07 So let’s go further into this topic now by cornerstone. So again, our cornerstones are food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. When we’re talking about awakening your true self, we want to fire up all parts of ourselves because what happens is if we ignore one cornerstone or two, let’s say we ignore our emotions, our emotional mental health, then we often obsess over one or the others. We obsess over our bodies, or we obsess over our food, and there’s only so far those physical cornerstones take us. They are important. All the cornerstones are important, but we need to take this really holistic approach to get the most incredible results, the most incredible feelings of explosive joy and peace, and things start falling into place.

Kimberly: 07:02 The reason I speak about this so passionately is because that’s been the journey that I have found for myself. I used to obsess about food. I used to obsess about my body. When I started taking this approach and treating myself as a whole person, things just started happening and they started to become easier and easier. So every book that I wrote became increasingly easier to write, and goals, let’s say intention started to become easier to create. It doesn’t mean that there isn’t hard work involved in focus, but there just is less confusion and less wasted energy and less turning outside of ourselves. The wisdom starts to rise up inside of you, and it’s very powerful.

Kimberly: 07:56 So our first cornerstone is food. I just want to point out this 2018 study, which again, I will link to in the show notes, where researchers found that calorie counting and self-weighing was associated with an increased risk of eating disorders, while intuitive eating led to favorable eating habits. So this study went on to talk about things popular New Year’s rituals, fad dieting, weight loss goals. They actually hinder your wellness and they negatively impact your mental health. So we’ve been talking about this for a long time in our community, and I just want to highlight that numbers are just one indication and they’re very finite and they’re very, very rigid and we are not rigid beings. We are dynamic beings. And so, when we just focus on plain numbers, we tend to miss out and we tend to suffer more and we tend to use more energy than we need to.

Kimberly: 09:02 What I mean by that is the rigidity of, “I have to weigh a certain amount by the certain date,” where does that lead us? That leads us to just focusing on the number instead of nourishment and the feelings in our body and joyful cooking and joyful eating. When I dropped that myself, it was amazing how my body changed. I did drop the excess weight and I dropped the bloat. There was different factors of course, but I also was able to just never, ever have to go back to it. So even though the outside world maybe buzzing about new fad diets and buzzing about how people are just slashing calories to lose weight, you don’t have to buy into that. The way to awaken yourself from a food perspective is to start tuning into your intuition, start asking yourself, “What does my body need right now? Is it a hot soup? Is it a sweet potato? Do I need to make myself a Power Protein Smoothie?” and to start really tuning into your body.

Kimberly: 10:16 We have a whole support system of hundreds, maybe thousands at this point, but definitely hundreds of recipes that are full of fiber and they’re filling. I promise you, if you really start to fill up with fiber and you start to tune into your body and you start to drop all the numbers and weighing yourself all the time, everything will start to fall into place because feelings, emotions, feeling fit, feeling energized in your body, feeling stronger are far greater motivators than just the rigidity of finite numbers that are constricting and often lead to shame and guilt and all these things, which drag your energy down and can impair digestion, by the way, as well. So just this year, think about awakening to your true self food-wise, which is you are so far beyond numbers. When you think about everything in your life being beyond numbers, beyond limited timeframes and ages and calories and all this stuff, you just open up all this energy for yourself, and it’s a tremendously powerful way to awaken to the truth and the true power that you are.

Awakening Your True Self with Cornerstone #2: Body

Kimberly: 11:33 All right. Second cornerstone is body. A study from the Frontiers in Human Neuroscience and the Human Neuroscience Journal found that deep breathing has a powerful impact on your central nervous system and psychological status, something yoga has always said. But they go on to conclude that deep breathing techniques allowed the subjects in this study to have better control over the biological reactions to external stimuli, increased feelings of relaxation and comfort, and reducing symptoms of anxiety, depression, anger, and confusion. So breath work pranayama, working with this deeper than the breath, it’s working with the life force, but we can say that breathing is part of pranayama, part of one of the limbs of yoga. I’ll say one of the most important limbs, but it’s a tangible limb that I think leads us to the deeper and deeper and deeper aspects of yoga.

Kimberly: 12:36 When we work with the breath, we start to tune in. As this study is saying in scientific terms, but from yoga terms, we’re pulling all our energy from the senses that are always flowing out if we let them. Looking at the news, looking on social media, smelling, tasting, touching, outward, all the stimuli, everything is out here. And so what it means is that we need to direct some of that energy back into our bodies if we are to get the most wisdom possible from our bodies, if we are to be able to listen to our own intuition, which will lead us to the path of our greatest creations and our greatest manifestations and our decisions, “How do I want to exercise? What does my body need today? How can I best take care of myself?”

Kimberly: 13:25 So breathing, embodied breathing is very important. We have different breathing exercises that are part of our meditations over on the site. Every month in our circle, we have a different meditation technique that I create for you. My voice sounds a little bit more subtle today. I just recorded the meditation a little bit ago for our circle this month, and it’s a good one. But just simply this idea of connecting with your breath is something that I’d like you to really consider this year in meditation, but also in your daily life. You can put a sticky note on your desk, breathe. My long term client, Drew Barrymore, has breathe as a tattoo on her wrist, and I remember when she got it.

Kimberly: 14:24 And so, however you want the reminder to be, just mini pauses throughout the day to tune in, breathe down into your belly and put your hands on your belly and you can feel the breath coming all the way down, down, down, down into your belly, into your body, into your core, and that will help you center yourself and that will help you come from a deeper place, a more aligned place of making decisions, a more aligned place of finding clarity for those daily decisions. So use the breath, use it daily, connect with your breath, and you will start to see a much deeper connection with your overall self and your overall intuition.

Awakening Your True Self with Cornerstone #3: Emotional Wellbeing

Kimberly: 15:08 Our third cornerstone is emotional wellbeing. So I have a couple of studies that I want to highlight, and then we discuss. The first comes from a 2018 study, published in Frontiers in Psychology. It found that individuals who practice letting go of negative psychological thoughts and feelings or more successful in relating to their “self” and were aligned with higher levels of wellbeing and adaptive functioning. So negative psychological thoughts sounds a lot to me like forgiveness. Forgiveness is in there. Forgiveness is a very important part of awakening because forgiveness is very heavy and forgiveness drags us down.

Kimberly: 16:00 If we don’t forgive, there’s these energies, these resentments, these parts of us that actually block our energy on all levels. They block our joy. They block us from connecting to others. They block us from digesting. They block us. They create reactions so that our nervous system gets stimulated again, which leads to disruptions in our endocrine system and also our immune system. So, we want to let go. We want to forgive not only others, but we want to forgive ourselves. We mess up. It’s okay. Everybody messes up. So the more we can just practice this idea of forgiveness for small and bigger things, we will start to feel a lightness and we will start to benefit more and more.

Kimberly: 16:47 The next study comes from an NPR interview with neuroscientists, Dr. Branch Coslett. He was discussing this idea that 60,000 thoughts cross your mind every day, and most of which are habitual, repetitive thoughts. So he was speaking in this interview about the importance of silencing the inner critic. Imagine, 60,000 thoughts. Imagine how many thousands of thoughts, if you have this inner critic telling you you’re not good enough, that you’re fat, that you’re not smart enough, you lack this, you lack that, imagine how powerfully bad that is. Imagine how it’s like cutting off your foot. You’re handicapping yourself.

Kimberly: 17:35 The body responds to the mind as well. The body definitely tends to take on auto suggestions for the mind. So the body will start to sculpt to these ideas, whether it’s in the form of holding onto more fat or if it’s even psychologically, not even trying for that idea or that project because you don’t feel like you’re good enough, or just shutting down in so many different ways and shutting down your body, which of course we don’t want. So watch your inner thoughts, pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself. When you start to distance yourself from your thoughts, instead of identifying with them, you can start to pay more attention, and then you start to notice. And then the next step after that is dropping the ones that don’t serve you anymore.

Kimberly: 18:24 It can take practice. I started to notice how much I would say to myself, “Oh my God, your thighs are so fat. You’re so gross. You’re so fat.” I wasn’t aware really what I was saying for a while. I said it very casually, but then I started to tune into what I was saying. And then I started to still say it, but then I was like, “Ooh, I shouldn’t say that anymore.” The awareness was growing. And then eventually, I just stopped saying it. So awareness shines the light of truth and awareness is very important. So just start to be aware of what you are saying to yourself mentally, the things that no one hears you say, and the things that you probably would say to nobody else, and just start really paying attention.

Kimberly: 19:07 The next study comes from psychologist, Gail Matthews, who founded a 2015 study that when people wrote down their goals and intentions, they were 33% more successful in reaching them than those who just mentally noted them. So emotionally, when we connect with ourselves, we are meant to express. We are meant to create. Putting things down on paper is such a powerful way of starting to put our energy out into the world. We’re starting to create outward from our hearts, in our center, and then we put it out. If we don’t, we start to bottle up. If we start to ignore or we get so busy that we don’t really follow our passions, we start to feel stagnant. We start to feel repressed and suppressed, and none of this is healthy for ourselves. Of course, none of it helps us to really actualize and awaken our true self.

Kimberly: 20:04 So, write down your feelings and your dreams and your goals. Keep your journal around, keep it handy, keep it close to you as I do. I actually carry my journal around with me from room to room because I get inspiration and ideas all the time. It’s not linear. I don’t think inspiration works in linear ways. We can’t just sit down and say, “Okay, I’m going to have my best ideas right now in the next five minutes.” So, it is important that we allow the space for spontaneous inspiration to arise and to respect it and to note it. And so, writing it down can be really powerful and really wonderful practice to focus on this year for you.

Awakening Your True Self with Cornerstone #4: Spiritual Growth

Kimberly: 20:51 So our fourth cornerstone is spiritual growth. The first study I want to point out is from the Frontiers in Human Neuroscience. Psychologists have found that meditation can affect brainwaves in a way that increases self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-transcendence. This is something that’s merging more and more, this idea of studying meditation and what it’s doing to our brain. What I love about that is it gives us a concrete idea of how powerful meditation can be. So I actually did a couple of neurofeedback trainings a couple of years ago. When our brainwaves start to become more coherent, we find that we feel more peaceful and we feel aligned and everything just tends to work so much better. We were not self-doubting ourselves when our brainwaves aren’t erratic and all over the place.

Kimberly: 21:51 So spiritually, this idea of really stepping into your meditation practice, deepening it, honoring it, placing as much importance on it as you would on drinking your GGS, for instance, is going to help the flow of your whole life. It’s going to help you connect to yourself. It’s going to give you that space for not doing into just breathing into the beingness of you, which is where your true power comes from anyway. The next study I wanted to point out is a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, where researchers found that by calling ourselves by our own names and using affirmations can help us like ourselves and our bodies more and even make us more successful, allowing us to chase our dreams.

Kimberly: 22:40 So this is interesting, our own names using affirmations. So I guess it would be like, “Kimberly is aligned today. Kimberly is going to create the best meditation for the community today.” They sound silly to you, maybe it doesn’t. If it resonates, I say use it, because why not? Whatever tools work for you were meant to use, and connecting in with ourself, connecting in with our confidence, which comes from our deepest place within us is only going to benefit us as we step into the year. So try it, try doing affirmations, try using your name and see what happens.

Kimberly: 23:28 Then the last study I want to mention comes from the Neuropsychological Journal. Researchers found that visualization techniques can improve your physical and mental performance, increase states of flow, and enhance motivation, confidence, and self-efficacy. So I find that the best time to visualize is after meditation. So you center yourself, you breathe. Then again, we have free guided meditations for you over at mysolluna.com, as well as in the circle. After you meditate, you’re just in this space where you’ve disconnected your senses so you’re very tuned in. This is a wonderful place to visualize your dreams, to visualize how you want to feel, visualize in detail, visualize in clarity and imagery.

Kimberly: 24:19 So again, this just reinforces to me this idea that numbers are never the most powerful place to focus, but rather the feelings and the images and the pictures and these visualizations can really help move you forward. I think it’s important to have some free space to just play around and to see what feels good to you in a visualizing state. And then the parts that start to really resonate, connected to your heart and light up your passions, those are the ones that you can go back to and keep visualizing over and over again, and start to reinforce them and start to draw them forward towards you in your life as actualized reality. So play with visualize. Visualization as well is another powerful tool to carry you into 2021.

In Closing

Kimberly: 25:06 So there you have it, food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. I hope that one or a few of these tips resonated for you in each of these cornerstones, in each of our four cornerstones. I highly recommend that you choose at least one step. How small it is is of no concern. It could be little baby steps, which really start to add up, but spread them over the cornerstones versus just going full in with the food. That way, you have a holistic approach, which will buoy you up more and more because it’s reinforcing this wholeness within you. If you go full force in food and you say, “Oh, well, in a couple of months, then I’ll try meditating,” then I think we just continue to foster imbalance versus again, just from the get-go, even if it’s small steps, it’s okay. It doesn’t have to take up so much of your time, but we are reinforcing wholeness.

Kimberly: 26:04 We are reinforcing our truth. We are reinforcing our power and it’s a really, really wonderful way to awaken your amazing, amazing self in 2021. You are unique. You are so special and powerful, and I love you. I am so grateful that we are connected here again. I want to reiterate how just thrilled I am for the upcoming year and all the things that we have in store and just all the different ways that we can continue to connect and to connect deeper and deeper. So I send you so much love, and I will see you back here on Thursday for our next community Q&A. Till then, take care, so much love, and happy, happy New Year.

Setting Your Intentions for the New Year! [Episode #538]

Setting Your Intentions for the New Year! [Episode #538]

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This week’s topic is: Setting Your Intentions for the New Year!

Happy early New Year. I am so excited for our upcoming year together as a community and to be able to keep growing and sharing with one another. We have so many amazing announcements upcoming for you guys from Solluna.

I hope that you’ve had a restful period between Christmas and New Years. Hopefully this year is a little bit of an inward time where we start to reflect and think about what we want to cultivate and create in the upcoming year and what we want to let go of.

For many of us, 2020 was a year of deep introspection, shifting, confusion sometimes about what’s going on in the world. Unfortunately, I say with compassion, for some of us deep pain and suffering on different levels, including physically and mentally. I think this year is going to be a wonderful shift for all of us. And today I’ll be sharing tips on how we can step with our best foot forward in this new year.

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Susie – Sweden

There’s always so much emphasis on the New Year being the time to make shifts or improvements in our lives. Do you have any tips on how to adjust this thinking so that it’s a practice throughout the year?

Monica – Texas

It’s so hard to think about goals I want to achieve. Is there a better way to view goal setting?

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What is the best way to set intentions for the New Year so we set ourselves up for success?

Karin – Maryland

How much should we attach ourselves to a list of goals or intentions? Should we jot it down and then move on or do we need to actually put it into practice? I don’t want to overthink it.

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey, Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday Q&A community show. Happy early New Year. I am so excited for our upcoming year together as a community, and to be able to keep growing and sharing with one another. We have so many amazing announcements upcoming for you guys from Solluna, including our brand new updated Solluna app, which will house our Solluna Circle, which will include one live virtual circle with me every month, as well as daily tips from me. So I am so excited about this program, and if you’re interested in learning more, please head over to mysolluna.com. I hope that you have had a restful period the last few days, the last week, the time between Christmas and New Years can be, hopefully this year for you a little bit of an inward time where we start to reflect and we start to think about what we want to cultivate and create in the upcoming year and what we want to let go of.

Kimberly: 01:08 And of course for many of us, 2020 was a year of deep introspection, shifting, confusion sometimes about what’s going on in the world. And of course, unfortunately I say with compassion, for some of us deep pain and suffering on a physical level and among mental level and different levels as well. So we want to step with our best foot forward in this new year. And I think that this year is going to be a wonderful upturn, a wonderful shift for all of us.

Kimberly: 01:46 So our topic today is actually Setting Your Intentions for the New Year. And we’re going to be going into some more new year’s ideas on Monday, for our next solo cast. But today I wanted to get into some of your questions about intention setting, and again, how do we really put our best foot forward?

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Question 1: There’s always so much emphasis on the new year being the time to make shifts or improvements in our lives. Do you have any tips on how to adjust this thinking so that it’s a practice throughout the year?

Kimberly: 02:34 Our first question today comes across the ocean from Susie, who is from Sweden. Hello Susie. Sending you love over there. And she writes, “There’s always so much emphasis on the new year being the time to make shifts or improvements in our lives. Do you have any tips on how to adjust this thinking so that it’s a practice throughout the year?” I agree, Susie. I think that it feels a bit contrived to me, to be honest, that it’s always this date of January 1st. And that’s when people sort of think about their resolutions, their goals, their intentions, whatever it is. And then most people abandon them in a few days or a few weeks, and then that’s it. For me, it’s always felt … And I shared this with you guys a few weeks ago. For me, it’s always felt that the biggest internal shift, because it aligns with the external collective shift is really the Solstice, which is around December 21st, if you’re in the northern hemisphere, going into the darker months. And that has always felt like the inward time is starting there.

Kimberly: 03:49 So then the last few years really thinking about that period about deep, deep reflection. But even then I don’t think it stops there. I don’t think it should ever be any tiny amount of time throughout the year that we just reflect, and then we drift along and then we don’t revisit, or again, redefine our focus, our goals, our intentions. So there’s a couple of ways to keep this alive throughout the year. You can think about doing it on the equinoxes and on the Solstices, so you’re going with this flow of nature. And every few months, four times a year, you’re treating it like a new years time to look back on what you had your prior intention and then redefine that going forward. So in that regard, you can, and I highly suggest this, write down what your intentions are. I think it’s very, very powerful to write down your goals and your intentions by your own hand on paper, it’s a way to make them already more concrete. You’re pulling them out of the ether, out of your mind where no one else can see them, and you’re starting to put them on paper.

Kimberly: 05:09 So what I do is I write them down and I fold them up, and then I put them on my altar so that I can see them. And I don’t see the writing because it’s folded up, but I know what I wrote because it hasn’t been that long ago. And then I revisit mine pretty often. So here’s another thing. So you can look at them seasonally, or you can think about going with the rhythm of the moon. So this would be more of a monthly practice, which I think is really, really beautiful, and is part of our DNA, especially as women because we have our menstrual cycles which are aligned with the moon rhythms. And every month on the new moon, you can get out your old intentions. Your prior intentions. They’re not that old. And look them over and maybe write new ones, and that will be your intention for that next period. And sometimes you may find that you don’t need to write new ones because your intentions are carrying forward through several moon cycles, and maybe every new moon cycle you decide to revisit, refine a little bit.

Kimberly: 06:18 So that’s a way to not only keep goals and improvements and intentions top of mind, but it’s also a way to align with the greater rhythms. And anytime we’re expanding beyond ourselves and we’re including the cosmos, nature, what’s going on in a much bigger way, other people, culture, society, how we can benefit others. Anytime there’s this idea of expansion, it’s going to benefit us because we’re not meant to be the small limited beings. We’re meant to expand. So I recommend doing that either on the monthly moon cycle, or seasonally, and that feels a lot more natural. So thank you so much Susie. Sending a big warm, cozy hug in Sweden, a country I hope to visit one day.

Question 2: It’s so hard to think about goals I want to achieve. Is there a better way to view goal setting?

Kimberly: 07:09 All right, our next question comes from Monica and she lives in Texas. She writes, “It’s so hard to think about goals I want to achieve. Is there a better way to view goal setting?” So I think even the whole concept of … Lots of love Monica, I love your question. I want to dive right in. I think that goal setting can come across sometimes as a bit masculine, and it’s this idea of to-do lists and going down in a linear way and achieving this and crossing this off the list. And if that doesn’t feel good to you, then I suggest that you don’t even use that approach at all. There isn’t one way to do things.

Kimberly: 07:55 I feel that intentions, the title of our show today, is perhaps a more holistic way of looking at how we move forward in our life and how we can stay in flow. And that feels more of the divine feminine. And it also feels that … Of course it’s not one or the other, it’s not the feminine or the masculine, but it’s really finding the balance and finding the whole-ism within that and making sure that we don’t feel like we’re going too far in one direction. To an extreme the masculine could just feel very rigid, and to an extreme the feminine could feel a bit circuitous and perhaps unfocused. Again, not literally, but the way that typically we think of the attributes that would fall into either.

Kimberly: 08:54 So if we don’t like goal setting, if that just doesn’t resonate with us, I totally get it. And a way that we can think about intentions that’s very, very powerful is about nourishing ourselves through the four cornerstones as we move forward into the year. And what happens is when we nourish ourselves holistically, we grow into our own power, because our power comes from our wholeness. And so when we do that, we are able to create organically and things in our lives start to fall into place without the pushing and the pulling and the normal prodding that I think doesn’t feel very good about goal setting, or the connotation of it for many of us. So think about deep, deep internal nourishment. And that in turn will allow us to step into our wholeness, step into a deeper connection with ourselves, and in turn, allow us to connect more deeply with other people. And so we start to move just from isolated self care into family care, community care. And we start to feel, again, that expansiveness, which is part of our nature. And the more and more I go along this journey, I realized such a vital, vital part of wellness.

Kimberly: 10:09 So Monica, what you could do is you could write in your journal, food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. And you could just think about intentions for deeply nourishing yourself this year. So food wise really, whatever it is, focusing on whole foods, focusing on home cooked meals, bringing in more seasonal ingredients, checking out some Solluna. New recipes, whatever it is. Body-wise, how do you want to feel in your body? Do you want to try learning a new skill in your body, or do you just want to simply commit to walking every day? Whatever that might look like for you as well. Emotionally, committing to journaling or community time, something like our Solluna Circle, finding times and ways to share and to process feelings. And to have the space to take a step back. Because when things start to pile too closely together, I often find that it leads to stress, and that never feels good.

Kimberly: 11:10 So the last cornerstone is spiritual growth, and your intentions may be to develop or to deepen your meditation practice, to spend more time in stillness, which overlaps a little bit with our emotional wellbeing, just having more space between all the doing. It’s so healthy. It’s so needed. Being in nature more. So whatever that is. So that could be a really nice way to start and just to think about how we want to deeply nourish ourselves and move into more of our whole power this year. And then if it feels good to expand beyond that, then you could think about intentions for using your gifts out into the world, intentions for perhaps what you’re excited about creating or any creative pursuits. And keep it more of that flow way, that very organic way, instead of goal setting, if that doesn’t resonate. So try it Monica, see how it feels to you. Even when I’m telling it to you I feel nourished. I feel like I want to do it myself and give myself a hug today.

Kimberly: 12:21 Because we are meant to really, of course, take care of ourselves. And when we are able to deeply see ourselves in that holistic way, we are able to deeply care for others and everybody just grows stronger and stronger, which of course is the purpose of our community, and I believe the reason that we’re here. To help serve each other. So give it a go, let me know how you do, and I send you so much love.

Break

Kimberly: 12:50 All right Beauties, we’re going to take a quick break and we’ll be back right after the break with two more questions for you on this topic of setting your intentions for the new year.

Question 3: What is the best way to set intentions for the new year so we set ourselves up for success?

Kimberly: 13:04 All right. Our next question comes from Tammy, who lives in Oregon, and she writes, “What is the best way to set intentions for the new year so we set ourselves up for success?” I love this question, Tammy. I think it is a wonderful question. And I will say that I think that the best way to think about intentions is to think about them as an ever evolving dynamic part of your life. Like I was saying in our first question to Susie, it’s not something that’s meant to be rigid. It’s not something that’s meant to just be a one-time thing that you write down and never think about. You never revisit. It never shapes and it never molds. Life is fluid, we are fluid. Every cell in our body, our blood, our electrons, our cells, everything is dancing and moving. And so should the our approach to our intentions. It doesn’t make sense to create something that’s rigid and stagnant when we are not rigid and stagnant beings, it will go against our very nature.

Kimberly: 14:12 So I think the best way to think about it is first of all, to sit in meditation and to breathe, and to connect back in word with yourself, with your body, and pull the senses back in. So the senses going out will see what other people are doing, they’ll see what expectations are of you from other people. It’ll be a lot of noise. It’ll be a lot of stuff out there. And it’s very hard to really create your intentions from truth if they’re rooted in the noise of other people. So what I suggest is really just making some space to meditate and to think about the year ahead, and think about the next step and the next phase for you.

Kimberly: 15:08 So you can think about the year, but again, we know that we are going to revisit this hopefully many times throughout the year. And if I … Sorry, I’m so excited I can’t bring it … How about bring it up again? If we are to sit in circle together, which hopefully we will, these are things that we will continue to talk about every month and circle and to introspect, and to make sure that we’re staying aligned to our truth, and to our voice, and to our bodies and how we can best nourish our bodies food wise, and emotionally, and meditation wise and so on. So I would say to tune inward, and that is first of all, the best step for success, because when you start to write after you meditate, you’re aligning from the inside, not from the outside. So you’re already setting yourself up for success because you are already thinking about or feeling into your own truth.

Kimberly: 16:04 And then the next part would be to, again, not think about things in such a rigid way. So instead of saying something like … And you guys know, I’m not a big numbers person. So I think numbers have a lot of rigidity attached to them. And some people it helps. But for me, I know that when I stopped letting go of numbers and stopped weighing myself, and my goal was simply to just feel radiant and fit and good in my body, my body did open up and responded to that much better than when I was weighing myself all the time. So I would say in your intentions, to think about the feelings and to think about it in a more qualitative way. Versus, “I have to lose 20 pounds in the next 60 days. Numbers, numbers, numbers.” Or, “I have to …” Or, “I want to.” Or, “I must make an extra $10,000 in the next year.”

Kimberly: 17:04 Whatever it is, if that feels good to you, go with that. But if it doesn’t, to think about the feeling of more abundance, the feeling of being more fit in your body, because I think that feelings and emotions are much stronger motivators than feeling like we have to fit these numbers and this rigidity, which can set us up for failure in some ways, because it puts us on that, almost like a tight rope of I’m on or I’m off, I’m perfect or I’m not. And as a recovering perfectionist, I can say very much that is not very fostering to holistic health and healing. But rather, again, going into our emotional body and creating what we want from this less linear approach, and this much more feeling approach.

Kimberly: 18:02 And that may feel a little abstract to you at first, but it’s not. If you think about writing out your intentions, I intend to be fit and to feel good in my body. I intend to draw in more abundance this year. I intend to use my passion for XYZ. For music, for whatever, fashion, for playing with kids, to create more abundance for me. So you can think about it in terms of flow, just a more feeling way. And I feel that that does set us up for more success.

Kimberly: 18:38 And then the third thing I would say, Tammy, is to also break down your intentions into smaller steps. So you can think about it for a period or the big goal. And then you can think about, okay, in Q1 or in this first month I want to read some books about this subject to prepare myself. And then you can reward yourself when you know that you have taken that step. It’s a smaller success, but it’s still a success. And that really feeds your brain. It gives your brain dopamine and feel good chemicals, and it inspires you to keep going. Versus there’s the big goal and there’s nothing else between point A and point B. That can be a very lonely journey to get there. And it feels really good in your body to yourself to give yourself those little steps along the way. So I highly recommend doing that.

Kimberly: 19:33 And try it for yourself. Break down your bigger intentions and think about them in periods. Or like we were saying earlier, if you don’t have overarching intentions right now, nothing’s coming to you that feels organic, just think about it in phases. Think about it in terms of the moon cycles, and we can go month by month and it keeps evolving because we keep evolving, and the deeper we go into ourselves, we will start to change. We will start to … It seems like we’re changing, but we’re actually unfolding more and more into ourselves.

Kimberly: 20:10 So Yogananda, the great yoga guru talks about the mud that’s over the gold that is already us. So what we’re doing is we’re just scraping off the mud. And so that feels like a change as more of the mud put peels off. But really we’re just getting down, down, down into our core, which is really what the whole philosophy of the four cornerstones is meant to help you do. To nourish all parts of yourself in a balanced way, which is the way to keep going deeper and deeper into connecting with yourself.

Question 4: How much should we attach ourselves to a list of goals or intentions? Should we jot it down and then move on, or do we need to actually put it into practice? I don’t want to overthink it.

Kimberly: 20:38 So give it a go. I love you, and I love this question, Tammy. Thank you so much for being part of our community. Sending you so much love and happy new years. Okay. Going to our next and final question. This is from Karin. I like the spelling. K-A-R-I-N. And she lives in Maryland. And she writes, “How much should we attach ourselves to a list of goals or intentions? Should we jot it down and then move on, or do we need to actually put it into practice? I don’t want to overthink it.”

Kimberly: 21:11 So Karin, I think that everything that we’ve talked about up until now really does apply to your question, jotting it down is a very important practice, writing something down, concretizes your ideas, and it helps you self organize your ideas and also clarify them to yourself and clarify them to the universe. I am a big believer in intention, frequency, energy, because I think everything is energy whether we acknowledge it or not. I am a student of quantum physics, and the deeper I dive into learning about quantum physics and quantum mechanics, the more clear it is to me that everything is just pulsating energy waves, and there really is no separation. So what we’re putting out with clarity is we’re sending signals all the time. We’re creating with energy all the time, whether we acknowledge it or not. It’s sort of how they say that something like 90% of communication is nonverbal. We communicate with our energy, with our facial expression, with just the presence that we come into a room. With our gestures, everything is energy.

Kimberly: 22:23 And so when it comes to intentions, we want to treat them as a living, breathing, dynamic energy, not something that we just write down and move on from, but something that becomes part of our life. So what I mean by that is when we were talking with Monica earlier about this idea of nourishing yourself, that’s an important intention I think for all of us to perhaps consider this year is how we can deeply nourish ourselves and bring ourselves closer and closer back to wholeness. Because not only do we feel our best, not only are we our most powerful then, but then we are also able to serve and to help each other more and more. And I think that when … You use this word, Karin, attachment. We don’t need to attach to anything. It’s just a guiding flow, a guiding signal, or one guide post, but then we keep flowing and we keep shifting and we keep evolving. And that’s why I think on the moon cycles, it’s a really beautiful practice to keep visiting your intentions, and to keep thinking about evolving them, rewriting them if we need to, and making them feel really dynamic in our lives.

Kimberly: 23:41 This whole idea of the New Year’s resolution is very masculine. And I think a bit outdated. That we just do something on January 1st, everybody goes around on January 1st, and then everybody talks about it and then it fades away in sometimes a week or a few weeks and a month maybe. And then that’s it. It just feels very stagnant, and it doesn’t feel like it’s a living, breathing thing, which is why I think that approach really doesn’t work for most people.

Kimberly: 24:13 So yeah, I think the way that we can flow into this year and to feel that flow is to not feel attached, to not feel that it has to be resolutions, it has to be goals, but it’s about wholeness and it’s about a much more organic way. And something that isn’t so dire, it’s not so serious because we can revisit as much as we want. And we can keep tuning in more and more. As I was saying to Tammy, it’s important to sit in meditation before we create any of these intentions, because so much will arise up from inside of us. From our truth, from our soul, from our bodies. Our bodies give us wisdom as well.

Kimberly: 24:56 And so to me, not overthinking it at all. It’s more of a feeling, it’s more of your intuition that speaks to you through your body, and you’ll also start to notice that some of the things that you think that you want, maybe it’s what other people want for you. Or maybe it’s just a mechanical thing that you put every year. “I’m going to lose another 10 pounds,” or, “I’m going to lose those five holiday pounds,” or whatever it is. And maybe that’s not really what your energy wants to focus on right now. So let it be so personal to you, let it feel so good to you and your soul that it’s an amazing practice this year, not this rigid resolution way that you may have done other years. And that’s okay, because we keep growing and evolving, and I’m excited to see how differently that feels to you.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly: 25:46 So I’m going to close now with the quote of the week. This comes from Paramahansa Yogananda, who I mentioned earlier, the great yoga guru. And he writes, “True friendship is broad and inclusive.” So I keep it really thinking about this idea. It keeps coming up to me that friendship is not about just the people that we know really well, our inner circle, but really this idea of oneness, this idea of community, this idea that we really are all connected to each other. And so we can be a friend to everybody, and we can include everybody we can share with everybody. This is why I’m so passionate about our circle, because I think it’s really important that we come together regularly. Not just once in a while, but regularly to share and to breathe together and to be together. To love each other and to support each other.

Kimberly: 26:47 And that is, to me, what this is all about. It’s not just, “Here’s me and my little tiny circle and my five best friends and my 12 family members,” but broadening it and broadening it and seeing ourselves more in others, and to see the light in others more. And then we will see the light in ourselves more when we do that. And it’s such an incredible shift to make, I think, and for all of us to start thinking about wellness in a broader way, and love in a broader way, and everything will grow in your life. I promise. Your beauty will grow, your energy, and everything will just multiply. Abundance, everything.

Kimberly: 27:31 So think about it. True friendship is broad and inclusive. And think about that perhaps while you’re creating your intentions. And I can’t wait to hear more about your intentions and the process that resonates with you, and we’ll get into more moon cycles in the circle and so on, and as we go through the podcast this year. Please keep your questions coming. They are wonderful, and it keeps the podcast living and breathing in a two-way conversation. I love to hear how I can support you, how we can support each other in the community. What you’re wondering about. You are so important. We’re all so connected, and I love you so much. I’m so grateful for you. I’m so grateful and excited for our upcoming year in 2021. So happy, happy new year. Sending you so much love, and I will see you back here on Monday.

Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail

Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail

New Year’s Eve is coming up, and for many people, that means ringing in the new year with drinks. But as we know, indulging in alcohol can promote inflammation, dehydrate you and even cause a nasty hangover the next day. So while I’m not against enjoying an adult beverage or two on New Year’s Eve, I’ve created this Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail option for you Beauties, that is sure to warm you up and boost your mood – alcohol free!

This is the perfect beverage to enjoy if you’re trying to avoid alcohol, or you just need a cozy comedown after boozy drinks ;) My elixir mocktail is filled with stress-busting ingredients that promote a happy mood and vibrant body…So you can wake up on New Year’s Day with an unmatched glow.

Dairy-Free? Yes, Please! 

The base of this Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail is coconut milk. If you’re familiar with my philosophy of building True Beauty from the inside out, then you know that dairy is a big no-no, which is why we use plant-based milk for this elixir. For starters, dairy is very difficult for the human body to process. Dairy has two elements that contribute to this:

First Element: High levels of casein is milk’s primary protein. Difficulty digesting protein can cause damage to the intestines and stomach, which can lead to autoimmune and malabsorption disorders and poor health.

Second Element: The second part of cow’s milk is very difficult for humans to digest is lactose—the sugar in milk—which can cause digestive disorders and upset stomach.

Additionally, consuming dairy can cause a host of health issues in humans:

  • Lactose leads to gas, bloating and discomfort—decreasing insulin sensitivity and a precursor to type 2 diabetes.
  • Since casein is the protein in dairy products, this actually promotes cancer in all stages of development.
  • Dairy is extremely acid-forming.
  • Dairy is extremely mucus-forming—slowing digestion—leading to more toxicity being compounded in the digestive tract and throughout the body.

The amazing thing about Mother Nature is that she gave us a whole bunch of plants that we can make “milk” from, like coconuts! Coconut milk makes a deliciously creamy base of this elixir that complements the rest of the warming ingredients. Don’t have coconut milk on hand? No worries! Just substitute with another plant-based milk, like almond or hemp milk ;)

Stave Off Stress with Maca

Maca is the stress-relief star of this Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail! After the year we had in 2020, I can’t think of a better way to send off this year than with a steaming mug of stress-busting magic. A special superfood, we can thank maca for providing us with wonderful mood lifting properties.

Maca powder is actually derived a plant from the broccoli family. ‘Maca root’ refers to the root of the plant, which resembles a cross between a turnip and a big radish. This root is divided into categories based on the color of the root, which can be red, black, pink or yellow.

Maca has an “earthy” taste that balances well with the other ingredients (you wouldn’t want to really eat it plain- at least I wouldn’t!). This magical stuff is great for helping your body deal with stress, balance hormones, feel sexy and boost energy! Yes…kinda an amazing little herb. :)

Using maca daily counteracts negative effects from tension and anxiety and is believed to be a great way for our bodies to adapt to daily stresses.

Warm Up with Ginger

Do you know that ginger is a member of a plant family that includes cardamom and turmeric? It sure is! Like these two spices, ginger is a huge powerhouse that provides tons of benefits! Because of this, cultures all around the world have been using ginger for thousands of years, for its various medicinal purposes. Colds, nausea, arthritis, migraines, and hypertension are just a few ailments ginger commonly treats. However you’re feeling, this Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail will lift you right up!

Energetically, ginger is linked to helping out our lungs and our large intestine in some ancient systems. Ginger is a hot, warming, spicy food, which is why it is a perfect item to reach for when you are feeling under the weather.

The pungent taste of ginger invigorates our intestines, promotes circulation, opens our pores, and expels pathogens from our system. It’s considered a broad-spectrum antibacterial, antiviral, antioxidant, and anti-parasitic properties. Also, ginger is also an anti-inflammatory. It’s an incredible Feel Good beauty food (!).

Ginger is so valuable for pain relief of joint pain, menstrual pain, headaches, and more. You can see why I just had to make ginger one of the star ingredients in this elixir. As you can see, this food belongs in your life and I just love showing you different ways you can incorporate it into your diet!

Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail

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Winter Spice Warming Elixir Mocktail
 
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Serves: 1
Ingredients
  • 1 cup of coconut milk
  • 1 tsp. Maca powder
  • 1½ tsp cinnamon
  • ½ tsp ground ginger
  • 1 Tbs. coconut nectar
  • ½ orange, juiced
Instructions
  1. Warm-up your coconut milk to the desired drinking temperature and pour it into a large mug.
  2. Place all your ingredients into the mug.
  3. Using a frother, froth your elixir to reach a nice foamy consistency and to blend ingredients together.
  4. Sit down in your favorite chair with your elixir and enjoy!
Well, Beauties, let me know if you enjoyed whipping up this elixir by leaving a comment below! Wishing you all a safe, relaxing and healthy New Year’s Eve.

Sending you so much love and gratitude.

Wellness Trends for 2021 with Kate Spies [Episode #537]

Wellness Trends for 2021 with Kate Spies [Episode #537]

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This week’s topic is: Wellness Trends for 2021 with Kate Spies

I am so excited to have my very special guest, Kate Spies, who is editor-in-chief of Well+Good, a health and wellness media brand. Kate begins by sharing her background growing up and her wellness routine into adulthood, how to connect with our spirit, and wellness trends moving into 2021.

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  • Wellness Trends surrounding the Four Cornerstones of food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth…

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Kimberly: 00:00 Welcome back Beauties for our Monday interview podcast. And we have a very interesting episode for you today. I’m interviewing Kate Spies, who is the Editor in Chief of Well+Good, a health and wellness media brand, and I’m very proud to say that I am on the Well+Good Council, that recently launched its 11th Annual Wellness Trends report. And this report has been compiling data for weeks and weeks, and it examines the massive shifts that have shaken up every aspect of the wellness industry, especially this year. How we work, what we eat, the products we put on our faces, the way we rest and how the reverberations of those changes will be felt into 2021 and beyond.

Fan of the Week

Kimberly: 00:46 I loved this interview and I have to say that there is so many interesting things that came up in this trends report, so stay tuned. It’s going to be a really, really good one. But before we get into it, I want to give a quick shout out to our fan of the week. Her name or his name, sometimes I don’t like to assume, is  stellonyc and he or she writes, “Listen, you won’t regret. Not only is Kimberly’s voice so soothing, which is important when listening to a podcast, but her words and knowledge are wonderful. I learn something new each time, which helps me grow as a human being. Love this beautiful podcast.”

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Kimberly: 01:27 Stellonyc. Thank you so much for this amazing review. I’m so grateful. I have my hand on my heart right now. I send you so much love sister or brother, and I’m just really, really grateful that we are in this community together. So thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. And beauties for your chance to also be shouted out as the fan of the week, for me to read your beautiful words, please just take a moment or two out of your day to leave us a review on iTunes. It’s free, it’s easy and it’s just a really great way to support the show and to help other beauties like yourself find this information, which is hopefully going to help benefit and potentially change your life, others’ lives. It’s just such a great way to support. So thank you again.

Kimberly: 02:15 And while you’re over there, you can please also be sure to subscribe and that way you don’t miss out on any of these episodes. Sometimes in the busy hustle of daily life, we forget about things and this is just a way to get that flow going, that continual flow of information and positivity into your life. So that’s a great form of self-care as well.

Interview with Kate Spies

Kimberly: 02:36 All right, all that being said, let’s get right into our interview today with Kate Spies and the Well+Good’s amazing trends report for 2021.

Kate’s background growing up as a kid and into adulthood

Kimberly : 00:00 … nutritionist, they started asking me about digestion, which put me on the path of backpacking for three years and learning about [inaudible 00:00:07] and learning about all these… a different perspective of beauty, being out of the Western world. So Australia feels like this really, just very open-hearted receptive place. Do you think that has played into your interest in wellness now? Or can you share a little bit about what your background was growing up as a kid? Were your parents into, [inaudible 00:00:29], or just different wellness ideas? Or did you come to that as an adult?

Kate: 00:34 Yeah, it’s such a good question, and something I actually talk about a lot, because I think being Australian is exactly why I’m interested in wellness. And it really did start from a young age for me because I really grew up in a family where my parents traveled a lot, and they took us traveling a lot. And that is something that is very Australian, and for those who are lucky enough to do so, a lot of Australians travel.

Kate: 01:01 My parents were both school teachers, so we had big summer holidays off together and they would take us honestly backpacking as well. We’d stay in new hostels in a family room, which was mortifying as a teenager, when you have kind of 18 and 19 and 20-year-old boys around and you are 14-year-old staying with your family in the family room. But at the time, I hated it. Now I look back, and I just am so grateful, because I was exposed to so many other cultures, and thus different ways of expression or different ways that other countries prioritized rest or well being. And then parallel parking at the same time, I was having a lot of tummy issues as a teenager. And fast forward to 18-years-old, I was diagnosed with celiac. And so the combo, I think, of having parents who always prioritized food and nutrition, they’re a little bit ahead of their time in terms of, we ate meat, but we are a plant forward family, I would say, and mom and dad were always very healthy and sun conscious. And then we’re a very active family and spend a lot of time in nature.

Kate: 02:16 So I kind of grew up I guess, in an oldie wellness family, and then was also encouraged. Similarly to you, I had to become very aware of how I nourish myself because of my tummy issues. And Australia, wellness feels like, and I’m sure you had this experience, it feels like more of a way of life than how it’s been commodified in some ways in the US.

Kimberly : 02:43 So wait, when you are traveling, Kate, with your family, where you going to different countries in Asia, it sounds like?

Kate: 02:50 Yes.

Kimberly : 02:50 Wow, beautiful.

Kate: 02:51 Yes, yes. So my cousins at Thai. My uncle married a Thai woman, and so we go and see them right up in the northern hills of Thailand on the border of Myanmar. But then we travel a lot around Southeast Asia in particular.

Kimberly : 03:05 I’m actually half Filipino. I don’t know if you made it to the Philippines.

Kate: 03:09 Oh. We did, yes. Beautiful.

Kimberly : 03:11 So I do feel like Southeast Asia has a very different, which I’ve come to appreciate now, just that being part of my ancestry, just a very different way of looking at the world. It’s like a much more community based way of not like other this idea of stranger. So back to what you were saying about this commodification, this idea. I, as you mentioned, you’re familiar with my story. I did start with tummy issues, and in the beginning, I focused so much on food, but part of my learning and going to all these amazing countries and spending so much time in India is taking this holistic approach, Kate. So we have what we call our four cornerstones of wellness and true beauty.

Kimberly : 03:52 We have food, body, emotional well being, and spiritual growth. So it incorporates this inner part, processing our feelings and meditating and things that I didn’t realize till much, much later. Actually, till kind of recently, to be honest, a few years ago, had a lot to do with my bloating and constipation and my acne. So as we start our conversation talking about wellness trends, I don’t know, Well+Good has always taken this much more holistic perspective, which is why I’m so honored to be part of it and to be just so closely linked to it for so many years. I feel like it’s always honored this idea and it’s always given me the space to really put out content and to talk about things in this holistic way. So I love that, first of all.

Kate: 04:35 Yeah, we love you. And as we’re big fans of yours over at Well+Good. And as you say, we really have always believed and I think even more so moving through the pandemic and then some of the societal reckoning on race after the wrongful death of George Floyd. I think something that we increasingly want to prioritize and we are seeing this in the industry as well as this growing awareness as you say, of mind, body, spirit, soul, emotion. That’s what you need to be well, and we need to also create space for as many communities as possible to have the tools, the knowledge, the means to be able to assess, to be able to kind of be well on all of those different fronts. Because completely to your point, really all of those things together is what contributes to one’s well being.

Kimberly : 05:36 That’s right. I think I get asked in a lot of interviews, Kate, what is wellness to you? And I think for some people, because it’s become so popular in the last few years, it’s easy to think about things we pick up like, “Oh, it’s the food I’m eating,” or, “It’s the workouts I’m doing.” But then if we just focus, because I’ve gone down that path, and we get obsessed about food and our bodies, we often imbalance the inner space, which has a tremendous impact on our hormones, on our endocrine system, on our aging, on everything. So we can’t ignore the emotional part, the mental health, the spiritual aspect of ourselves.

Kate: 06:12 It’s so true, and I think we’ve seen that come to the fore this year. One, [inaudible 00:06:19], they say one in three Americans are recording increased feelings of anxiousness, stress, depression, for very obvious reasons. And I think, as a whole society, we are all becoming increasingly aware of the fact that to be physically well, which I think is the standard definition of being healthy, really to be healthy to have well being, it’s so important to be emotionally and mentally well, as well. Because to your point, the impact on our physical self if your mental wellness is suffering is so huge.

Kate: 07:00 I’ve definitely had times in my life when I’ve been incredibly stressed or not prioritizing sleep and not looking after myself. And not only have I not been in a great place mentally, the physical signs of that have been debilitating. And I think so many people have experienced that this year.

Kimberly : 07:21 I’ll giggle, Kate, because I actually, I talk about this stuff all the time, right? But I had a breakdown about two weeks ago, I hit rock bottom. I have a newborn who’s a couple months old. He’s got a newborn anymore, he’s almost six months. And I have a four-year-old that is not in school. And I’m also writing my sixth book right now. I’m managing the business alone, I’m doing the podcast. So it just hit me, I’m not sleeping, and I get… so I was getting headaches and neck pain and all this stuff that I don’t usually get. So it’s true, I think this is a really perfect time to talk about going into 2021 some amazing trends that are happening and how we can just reflect back and see how we got and perhaps imbalanced in different ways, in 2020. And it was such an unprecedented time, and we all had to cope and pivot and adjust in a lot of different ways.

Connecting with our spirit and what it means for our wellness

Kimberly : 08:12 I’m really interested in hearing. You guys do so much research and so much surveying and so much gathering. So I want to get into it, but the one thing I want to add on to that Kate, when I talk about the cornerstones. And I keep saying this because in the beginning when I was talking about detoxing, because three of my books have the word detox in them. I say it’s about letting go on a continual basis. It’s not this harsh thing you do all the time. And now when I talk about spiritual growth, I also say it’s not just this add on, it’s not religion. To me, connecting with our spirit is understanding ourselves more. It’s the deeper connection to ourselves, whether that’s going in nature, or meditation, stillness, so that we don’t go down the pathway of getting overly anxious of vying for attention in ways that don’t feel authentic. And when we question, why don’t I feel confident? Or when we constantly try to look like someone else or be like someone else.

Kimberly : 09:04 Anyways, that’s, I think, a huge part of wellness. And again, something that I love that Well+Good has embraced.

Kate: 09:10 Yeah, I couldn’t agree more. And I think what’s so important and what you touched on is that it looks so different for every person. For a lot of people that may be a religion, for others, it’s a deep passion for being out in nature. It’s a deep passion for some form of hobby, that to your point brings them back inside themselves and really allows people to get in that flow state, which I think is so important. I think it’s something that’s really hard to achieve in this kind of pervasive hustle culture that the whole of our society subscribes to. And I have really personally this year through the pandemic tried to find moments of stillness and quiet with myself. And it’s not something that I personally find really easy. No, it’s something I really have to work at. And something you said that really resonates with me and I think resonates with a lot of our audience at Well+Good, is it isn’t a do once and never think about again, type thing. It is something that you need.

Kate: 10:19 Your spiritual health is something that you need to work on in the same way as you work on your mental and physical health as well.

Kimberly : 10:28 Exactly. It’s not just this afterthought. This is [crosstalk 00:10:31] if I have a time after I’ve done everything else maybe I’ll meditate.

Kate: 10:35 Yeah, no, absolutely.

We discuss amazing trends that are happening now and reflecting back on how we got imbalanced in 2020

Kimberly : 10:39 Okay, my love. Let’s talk about your wellness trends.

Kate: 10:42 Yes.

Kimberly : 10:43 This is the 11th year you guys have been putting out the forecast?

Kate: 10:47 Yeah, it is. It’s our 11th year, I haven’t been around for all 11, but I’ve been around for a fifth year now. And this one was the epic one like we’ve never done before. Because as you can imagine, the change in all facets of the industry is just, I cannot understate the change the wellness industry holistically is going through.

Wellness Trends surrounding the first Cornerstone: Food

Kimberly : 11:09 Wow. So if it’s possible to somewhat do them in the cornerstones, I’ll ask you and then maybe some fit across a few. But let’s start with food. And as one who is plant based, I’m seeing the side of, oh my gosh, something like a quarter of Americans have already tried all these plant based meats, you hear about it a lot. I am hopeful that more people get. It’s not all or nothing but go towards that way for health reasons and environmental reasons. But my opinion this side. Kate, give me from the research perspective, from your guys’ side.

Kate: 11:42 Well, happily, the research really supports your-

Kimberly : 11:46 All good.

Kate: 11:47 Yeah, your opinion. The rise of plant based eating, I think, as you know, is something that we’ve seen for quite a few years now. But during the pandemic, it really has not slowed down and going to next year, we don’t see it slowing down. Because what we’re seeing food is two things, we’re seeing a back to basics approach and people prioritizing what’s good for their body. And then we’re also seeing people being incredibly aware of the issues surrounding food and nutrition from a societal perspective, and really guiding their food choices based on what they believe. And the environment is such a big one. People are really, there are a couple of trends, like one of the trends that we think is going to be huge in 2021 is upcycled food.

Kate: 12:38 There are a lot of brands releasing, particularly snack foods that are taking what would traditionally be seen as trash, bananas that aren’t good enough in inverted commas-

Kimberly : 12:50 Ugly-

Kate: 12:52 Exactly. Ugly food. Poor ugly food. Ugly but delicious food, but taking those foods and making awesome snacks from them. We’re also seeing more home chefs using that ugly food, that left over produce to cook at home. And again, we’re seeing even more of an increase in this plant based style of eating, both of which really speak to the fact that more and more people are aware of their own carbon footprints and how food in particular really contributes to that. And it’s shaping and guiding their eating, which you and I very much agree on this. I think it’s such a positive thing, in my opinion.

Kimberly : 13:34 I think it’s so important to be conscious of the impact of what we’re eating. And there’s been such a disconnection for so many generations really. As for my son, I’m raising my children plant based, but when they get old enough, they will choose. I say that, I’m not dictating your diet forever. But as young children, as mothers, we do have to guide them. And I say to my son, “I want you to know what it is when people eat meat, and showing him what a cow is, and showing him, oh, it’s very pretty on a plate, but this is actually what it is.” Just so [crosstalk 00:14:06]. And he may choose to eat meat, he may choose not to eat meat, but just to have that awareness, and now in these generations to understand, okay, grass fed cattle, where are they eating the grass, it’s impacting the forests. It’s impacting the environment. And so I think that’s beautiful, powerful, and amazing to see that people are waking up to more consciousness around food.

Kimberly : 14:29 Not just how it tastes.

Kate: 14:31 Exactly. Very, very much so. And I think something that you just said is a great segue into one of the other major trends that we’re seeing moving into 2021, and that’s a really individual and personalized approach to eating. For so many years, we have seen particularly in wellness, the rise of restrictive diet things. There are truly hundreds of them almost that people have been following, and for many years, there have been dietitian influences on Instagram trying to educate their followers that restriction can lead to binging, psychologically damaging guilt and shame, and an increased risk of disordered eating. And in 2020 and moving into 2021, we’re really seeing the fruits of their labor. There’s been a big backlash to high profile diet programs.

Kate: 15:26 We spoke to many, many dietitians and nutritionists in our days and I’m sure you’ll see this as well. People are so interested in mindful eating right now, intuitive eating practices, and I think that there is this real shift away from restriction, and this shift to people making individual choices for themselves, just like your son will do when he’s older. And people being a little bit kinder to themselves, I think, which is, again, something that is incredibly positive.

Kimberly : 16:00 I feel like it’s indicative of the times where all this collapse around us, trust of the government, and just societal upheaval, and the pandemic. So it drives us deeper and deeper into ourselves where we start to say, “Well, where does my safety and security really come from? What is the right thing for my body? What is the right thing for myself?” So I love to hear that versus plant based or keto or paleo or all these categories that feel separated versus what is right for the individual person.

Kate: 16:32 Exactly, because we’re all so different, and we all have such different nutritional needs. And so we’re really hopeful that that’s gripping the common psyche right now. There are new government, food and nutrition guidelines coming in January, and reportedly they are going to really help unpack the big general guidelines and help people change those and interpret them for themselves, which is a really positive step forward.

Kimberly : 17:02 Anything else in the food category you want to add, Kate, before we move on?

Kate: 17:06 The last thing that I think is a really awesome change is this idea of half scratch meals. And also really this love of pantry staples starting to take hold of the world again as well.

Kimberly : 17:20 Did you say half scratch with your little accent?

Kate: 17:23 Yeah, half scratch. I’ll say it with an… half scratch. Does that sound… Yes.

Kimberly : 17:29 [inaudible 00:17:29]

Kate: 17:30 That’s my American way with the hard r. But no, half scratch meals. So we saw so many people going back into the kitchen during the pandemic out of necessity. And I think people enjoyed that for a period of time and enjoyed getting back in touch with great ingredients, and using their pantry and remembering that great things can come from a can. However, also people got really overwhelmed. So many people like you have kids, have a job, or just have so much going on. And to cook three meals a day is a really big ask. And so a lot of brands have come to the table with this idea of half scratch meals, which is when the ingredients are prep for you and really just need to cook and consume. So we’re seeing hungry [inaudible 00:18:19] expands their offering to offer these kind of meals, and just grocery offering a similar kind of kit and lots of different brands will be moving into this space in 2021.

Kate: 18:34 I think it’s a really positive step forward for everyone who is busy and need some help at home.

Kimberly : 18:43 I love that. We’ve had a podcast sponsor in the past send me stuff that was doing ads here, and everything was pre chopped, and it was eating. And the meal prep time was cut down by like 80% or something.

Kate: 18:56 Exactly. We’re seeing a lot of the brands that traditionally had meal prep times of 30 to 40 minutes truly come down to five minutes, because it is just chucking the ingredients together.

Wellness Trends surrounding the second Cornerstone: Body

Kimberly : 19:10 I love it. Okay, so moving to body cornerstone. So anything beyond food,

Kate? So exercise, which I know Well+Good has always been fitness forward.

Kate: 19:21 Yes. So body and physical health, I think is undergoing such a transformation under two big pillars. That looking at our trends holistically, there are so many of them. But there are three big pillars that really stand out to me when it comes to the body. And one is that the fitness industry has just been advanced by what feels like decades. It is truly incredible to say how so many brands have had to pivot because studio fitness was so dominant for so many years. Last year doing our trends moving into 2020, every boutique studio that we spoke to from people offering reformer classes to dense cardio, to functional fitness, like F45, all of them were undergoing massive growth. They were opening new studios around the country.

Kate: 20:22 That paused in March, which meant that every single fitness brand needed to really keep it and think about how they were going to appear digitally. And then even the digital natives, like the Pelotons of the world, suddenly had all of this competition and so had to really think about, okay, so we’ve got these really great robust digital offerings, how do we create loyalty and community in a really meaningful way around our brands? And so moving into 2021, every brand that we have spoken to within the fitness space is really embracing an omni channel approach. So they will have physical spaces and they will be indoors and outdoors, they will have a digital offering, and really prioritize creating community around these digital offerings. They may have hardware and equipment as part of their brand as well. And I think this is the trajectory that the fitness industry was on. But really, I don’t think we would have gotten there for 10 to 15 years had it not been for this, everything being shut down.

Kimberly : 21:33 Do you think Kate, because I’m not in this world, per se. I walk, I do my own self yoga, but it’s interesting to see how people are really into spin classes. For instance, we had [inaudible 00:21:46] on here who co founded SoulCycle, why wheel, She’s amazing. So do you think then people started doing this at home, like the Peloton bikes. Do you think after the pandemic, people will come back, they’ll gravitate more to the community aspect or do you think this is going to disrupt fitness forever?

Kate: 22:03 I think it’ll disrupt fitness forever. I think people have really invested in equipment in their homes. A Peloton bike isn’t cheap, and so if you bought one, you’re definitely going to use it. But I think what will happen is consumers will do bits and pieces of each. And we’re really seeing that probably, well, all of the people that we’ve spoken to through our reporting of this kind of omni channel trends, are saying that they’re seeing digital first. So digital being the thing that most people do most of the time and these IRL experiences definitely still existing, but them being more intimate, more special, maybe something that you do once a week. And it’s really turning the whole industry on its head. It’s fascinating.

Kimberly : 22:55 Do you think this is the end of small yoga studios? Because everybody’s been streaming yoga classes?

Kate: 23:01 I don’t think it’s the… I hope it’s not the end, because I think so many people have love and loyalty for instructors, particularly yoga instructors, because there is that soul connection with a great yoga instructor. I don’t think it’s the end, I think that people will access them through Zoom and through at home stuff, but will still sometimes go into studio as well. I think it’ll take us a while to get back there, though.

Kimberly : 23:30 I used to and that makes me a little sad, because in New York, my yoga community was like my family. When I went to the Dharma Mittra Studio, that’s where I learned to make Dharma’s Kale Salad, one of my fundamental recipes, and my close friends became the people in the community. I think community is shifting as well. People are doing a lot online and the great yoga teachers we’ll find on Zoom, but it is the way that things are shifting.

Kate: 23:59 Yeah, absolutely. And that piece about community can’t be underscored enough in all of the really every brand in wellness we spoke to, whether it was fitness brands, or more holistic wellness offerings, or even food communities. Everyone knows, because this year, we’ve really woken up to self care really being community care. And this goes into a little bit of one of the other cornerstones so we can come back here, but I think even as it pertains to fitness, every brand is thinking about, how do we build these communities that can live both on and offline?

Kate: 24:41 I mean, we saw Robin Arzon, who is the VP of programming for Peloton and one of the lead instructors lead a session early in the pandemic that had, I think it was over a million people who joined. Yes, could have filled Madison Square Garden. And so we are seeing brands really prioritizing community around fitness because like you said, that’s really how so many people have made social connection in the past. And brands know they need to be able to foster them on and offline.

Kimberly : 25:12 Wow. So going back to the physical body for a moment, some of the self care practices that we loved in the past, and including knee massages. I’m not a big facial person, but things where people are touching you have shifted radically. So what if anything, has sort of come in, shifted, replaced trends back to body care?

Kate: 25:34 Yeah, something that we’re seeing that’s really, really interesting in terms of self care is that to your point, a lot of the things or a lot of the practices that… Not practices, a lot of the things and a lot of the interactions with other people around self care had to disappear. And so people have really, I would say, replaced those things with three different really positive forms of self care. And so, one that we’re seeing is this piece around community care and virtual communities and finding support for themselves through connecting with like minded people.

Kate: 26:24 Another thing that is really, really interesting is while the whole kind of shopping, particularly as it pertains the fashion industry, slowed so much through the pandemic. The sale of sweat pants were 80% up right through from March right through to now. And really, I think we have seen so many people embrace comfort dressing as a form of self care. And I think that we have all, women in particular, we all know this, as the society makes us feel like we need to look a certain way, we need to take up a certain amount of space, we need to present to the world in a certain way.

Kimberly : 27:06 We need to wear skinny jeans all the time.

Kate: 27:07 Exactly. Wear uncomfortable hot pants. Why do we do that? And I think that what we have seen is this incredible shift to people dressing for comfort. Like you were saying previously, when everything is chaotic around us, we want nourishment of our bodies. We want to feel comfortable, and we’re really seeing that expressed in the way people are dressing. And every fashion brand that we spoke to from the [inaudible 00:27:36] players like the Athleta’s or the Lulus or the Ellos, right through to high fashion brands like Dior. They’re all creating this casual athleisure. And of course, we know it’s been athleisure all the time for a long time, but now… Yeah, Dior. Now, we’re really moving into this idea of comfort dressing for business, for going out to meals with your friends. And I think it’s super cool.

Kimberly : 28:05 If there are meals out with friends.

Kate: 28:08 Exactly, when we eventually can have hopefully meals out with friends soon.

Kimberly : 28:13 Are you in New York City? Do you live in New York?

Kate: 28:15 Yes. Yes, I do.

Kimberly : 28:18 Oh my God. I can’t even imagine what it’s been like in a city, because here we have an acre of land and I go hiking in the mountains. How has it been for you?

Kate: 28:26 Yeah, awful. I mean, in saying that, March, April, May was so grim in New York City, it’s really hard to describe. I’m sure you can imagine, you’ve spent a lot of time in New York. But when it was so dark and cold, and we’re still coming out of winter. There were sirens all the time. There’s just concrete around you. And it was just, I found it incredibly suffocating. And you’ve seen my home where I grew up. And so I always find it hard being in the middle of a city, but I love New York and it offers so much. But when all that’s taken away, it was very, very tough.

Kate: 29:06 But New York has been lucky in that once we got it under control, once we got the virus under control, as under control as it could be, people have been super respectful about masks and being safe. And so we’ve really been able to get back to a much more normal in inverted commas, life for the last four months, which has been great. So you’ve been able to go upstate and go for hikes or drive down, drive at least to the beach in summer, which has made it bearable. And I just really hope that New York stays on this trajectory through the next couple of dark, cold months.

Kimberly : 29:46 I can only imagine how many people are congregating in Central Park.

Kate: 29:51 Yes. Yes. Oh, totally. I remember the first time I went to Central Park, it would have been in April. Things at ease the little bit, it was a really beautiful day, and I thought, okay, I’ve just got to go and get some greenery. And it was so busy and just I ended up leaving after a pretty short amount of time because I felt like oh, I don’t think I can keep six feet from people, this probably isn’t a great idea. Of course, people wanted to be there. It’s one of the only places that have big green space like that.

Kimberly : 30:29 Shifting back to the body. Let’s talk about sleep. Are there any forecasts about sleep? Because I feel that into the podcasts, I’m getting a lot of questions about insomnia and anxiety, what’s going to happen in the future? And there’s a whole slew of biohacking devices from the blue light glasses, which I wear. Those biohacking thing I really do every night to others. So is there anything with sleep that came up?

Kate: 30:54 Yeah, it’s interesting, because sleep is one of those things that I think, like we were talking about earlier in the chat, people have had this awakening of, “Wow, I need sleep.” Rest is so core to my ability to be a functioning human. And personally, I feel for you so much, having two little kids and doing all that you’re doing, and having that feeling two weeks ago that you weren’t sleeping. I’m very similar, I need eight hours sleep or I cannot function as a human. It is just so essential for me, and I think what we have seen moving into 2021 is this idea of rest as a really political act, which is incredible. So it really started by black leaders and activists in the wellness space and really started by the nap ministry a couple of years ago putting sleep and rest at the forefront of activism. So the body is-

Kimberly : 31:58 Wow.

Kate: 31:58 Yeah, it’s incredible. The body’s wellness is political, and to be well and to be fighting this fight against systemic racism and fighting to make the wellness space more equitable, lots of QTBIPOC leaders are really vocal about how important rest is and how actually taking time for yourself and resting is a form of resistance against the system that has prioritized hustle culture, that has prioritized people burning candles on both ends. And I think that the incredible work that QTBIPOC leaders are doing within the wellness space as it pertains to rest is going to imbue the rest of the industry and hopefully the rest of the workforce. And so it’s such an incredible trend. And as people more broadly are balancing what work is going to look like for the next 12 months, it’s going to be really interesting to see how employers change policies to make sure that people are able to put some boundaries on both physical and mental with work. If their home is their work, how they put boundaries up to allow sleep and rest.

Kimberly : 33:20 That’s right, because I’m of the mindset we don’t need a million different devices. But if we’re working up until the moment we go to sleep, we’re going to be overstimulated if we’re thinking about all these things, if we don’t have some kind of evening practice. For me, it’s taking a shower, drinking an elixir, doing meditation, just like I put my boys down. So now we’re bedtime for each of them. I think that priority like you’re saying will naturally start to balance a lot of people’s sleep schedules without all these devices.

Kate: 33:47 Totally. I agree with you, but for the people who need the devices, they are coming to. Light based wellness is such an area of innovation and one of the big trends we’re seeing is that the Dyson’s of the world and other companies like them are… [PASPA 00:34:08] with its glow light are just getting more and more sophisticated about helping people mimic natural light and helping people regulate their circadian rhythm through indoor lights, because so many people aren’t getting that normal light rhythm that they get you know from the outdoors. So it’s a really interesting space of innovation as well.

Kimberly : 34:32 Oh yeah. No, that stuff, the daytime light, I’m totally on board with. I’ve just heard of some really interesting biohacking stuff with… I can’t even get into all of it but just the devices that are in the bed with you. They help people, it’s great, but some of them are pretty out there.

Kate: 34:50 Yeah, the mattresses and the tracking every… I’m someone who, because I love sleep so much get a bit anxious about sleep and so I’m like you. I cannot have a device necessarily like tracking as I sleep in my bed.

Kimberly : 35:10 Yeah, I’m with you on that. I mean it’s a natural function obviously, but we live in some ways a very unnatural world.

Kate: 35:20 Yes, absolutely.

Kimberly : 35:21 When you think about of CBD, Kate, it was such a big trend for a while and sometimes I hear about it a lot in spikes and bursts about the innovation for sleep products, for instance. Do you think it’s kind of on the way out, or do you think it’s just growing? What’s your opinion on it?

Kate: 35:40 It’s an interesting question, and we had this conversation in the lead up to trends because really, for the last three years, we’ve had some big CBD trends. So at first it was just that CBD is coming and it’s in everything. Then it was kind of other forms of binoids that were really taking hold of the industry. And this year, I honestly think the growth is very much plateaued, we get far fewer questions from our audience about CBD. For me, it feels like it’s now an ingredient that is used across the wellness world like turmeric or like matcha. It really is still very popular and many people are using it, we actually have a trend about supercharged seltzers and a lot of seltzers now have CBD in them for various different uses for calming the mind and anxiety as such. But I think there is a growing awareness in wellness in general, particularly through the pandemic, that people really want things to work.

Kate: 36:45 And so I think for the people who have tried CBD and it works, they will stick with it, and it’s still popular, but people are becoming more and more skeptical, or I guess questioning of which supplements they use, which vitamins they use, what really works for them. And I think that it kind of slow down the real flurry around CBD and the idea of getting it in everything from a supplement right through to a body crane through to your shampoo. That kind of frenzy is slowed a bit.

Kimberly : 37:19 Yeah, I feel it’s just like with supplements or skincare if they sprinkle in a little bit of an ingredient, but you’re not really experiencing the benefit. And for me, what I had always heard and my personal experience was that a lot of the CBD or CBD products were very under dosed. So I wasn’t really seeing a big impact either way. So then purchasing something, it’s not working, then you just fall off.

Kate: 37:44 Exactly, that’s such a good point. I think because that part of the industry is so under regulated, people can give you as much or as little as they feel like putting in a product. And so to your point, it’s really hard for people to know exactly what they’re getting and thus how effective it is or even because they may be just having a really small dose of something.

Kimberly : 38:08 That’s right. So adaptogens. You’ve mentioned these filters, everybody started talking about ashwagandha and different adaptogens, and it’s something that’s been around for a while, the medicinal mushrooms.

Kate: 38:21 Definitely. We are seeing those. I think that you and I and other people who have been in the wellness world for quite a few years, medicinal mushrooms feel like old use. My team brought mushrooms as one of the ideas for the 2021 trends. And to lift the curtain a little bit, what we do before a trend idea even moves into consideration, there have to be kind of between three and five really robust data points. So the team will pitch a trend and they’ll have to have spoken to three expert sources, they will have to have some information about how the market size is going to grow or about how consumption has grown before we even discuss that idea being part of trends. And mushroom had all these really strong data points on growing even more over 2021, both the medicinal adaptogenic forms but also just like chateaugay mushrooms, just mushroom every day kind of culinary mushrooms.

Kate: 39:30 I think what has happened and what we will see continuing to happen into 2021 is wellness is known about the superpowers of mushrooms for a really long time and it is really reached the mainstream. And so we’re seeing medicinal mushrooms in again seltzers, we’re seeing them in protein powders, we’re seeing them added just to so many different products.

Opinion on clinics that carry psychedelic mushrooms

Kimberly : 39:55 So the other kind of mushrooms are the psychedelic mushrooms, the [crosstalk 00:39:59]. What is your opinion, Kate, about more clinics? And I think is it Colorado that legalized?

Kate: 40:08 Yes.

Kimberly : 40:08 Private and clinics and things that go beyond?

Kate: 40:14 Yeah. It’s such an interesting space, and I think that in terms of mental health and managing mental health issues, everything has to come from somewhere. That’s a bizarre thing to say, but I’ll explain. I think that many of the SSRI drugs that people take help manage depression and anxiety, they obviously had to be created and tested at some stage and then tested enough that they were proven safe to be released to the community. And I really think that the testing and the exploration of things like psilocybin is so positive, because if scientists who are great at what they do… I have a lot of trust in science, and I think that these trials, clinical trials that are happening, the years of research that have gone into this, if those methods work for even a few people to help them manage their mental health in a way that’s really right for them, that’s so positive, in my opinion.

Kimberly : 41:19 Amazing. Yeah, and I think it will continue to rise as more people become aware as to these alternatives over pharmaceutical drugs. So this brings us into our third cornerstone, unless there’s anything in the body one that we missed.

Kate: 41:35 One quick aside, self pleasure is self care. Just a huge trend really positive for all women and fans, I think. We are just seeing so much of our community being more explorative about their sexuality, and I’m like, “Go for it. Enjoy.”

Kimberly : 41:57 We actually had Alexandra [Fanon 00:41:58] here, [crosstalk 00:41:59]. And she’s wonderful. And we had this whole conversation about that, and that is a form of empowerment. And that is very important, I think, for people to connect with all different parts of themselves, including their potent sexual nature.

Kate: 42:14 I couldn’t agree more. We love Alexandra, we love Dame, they are referenced in this trend, and we’re all about it. We think it’s so, so positive.

Wellness Trends surrounding the third Cornerstone: Emotional Wellbeing

Kimberly : 42:25 I love it. Okay, so we’re getting to our third Cornerstone, which is emotional well being/mental health. We talked about to some extent, the community aspect, and also some of the alternatives like psilocybin. Any other ones you want to add to that?

Kate: 42:40 I think one of the most positive trends that we’re seeing in 2021, falls into this cornerstone, and that is the huge rise of teletherapy. I think teletherapy is such an amazing thing, because it just takes away some of the barriers that have stopped people getting the help that they need. I am a big fan of therapy, and I think that it’s so important for people to feel like they have access to a professional to discuss their mental and emotional health. And teletherapy not only is now offered by almost all therapists, it is in the government, various levels of government are working to make sure that it is in part covered by different insurance plans, which is obviously a key piece and is really important.

Kate: 43:37 We’re seeing that therapy traditionally has been a very whitewashed space, but we’re seeing the rise of different therapy platforms and directories to help various communities, particularly QTBIPOC communities find therapists with cultural competency that are able to give them the help and treatment that they need. And so across the board therapy is getting more accessible. We’re seeing a lot of different platforms offering text therapy, which is really interesting. You’ve been able to text your therapist, while you’re lying in bed. It feels like something that is going to be really positive. And we’re just seeing this space being blown wide open, and it is so necessary and going to be incredibly positive for access moving forward.

Kimberly : 44:33 I think we hear a lot or I hear a lot about anxiety, but then I was reading something recently about the huge rise of depression. And of course, there’s a link there. But I mean, I just think of suicide depression is something that has risen during the pandemic, and for people to have access to this help is obviously critical and crucial and incredibly an important trend as we go into the year, so people don’t feel isolated. They’re already isolated through the pandemic and that there isn’t someone to really express their feelings and emotions to on that level.

Kate: 45:10 Exactly. The isolation pace is really key, and what both this rise of virtual communities and really having a virtual community out there for literally everyone through to the rise of teletherapy and virtual access to professionals, has just meant that people have been able to connect with either a community or a professional in a way than never before. And to your point, during a time of just such upheaval and such an insanely difficult time, I think this access is just so important.

Kimberly : 45:52 How do people know who to go to? Are there any directories where you can find more about teletherapy?

Kate: 46:00 Yeah, absolutely. Psychology Today is really great, because they truly do have so many different providers, and it will let you know right there on the platform if they offer virtual therapy. Alma is a really great resource as well, and similarly is a directory that helps kind of show whether someone is offering virtual therapy or not. And it just helps. I think traditionally, people have found therapists through word of mouth, which is great if it’s someone you trust, but therapy is so individualized. And so being able to really assess individual practitioners for yourself, read their bio, read their different focal points, I think is really, really important.

Wellness Trends surrounding the third Cornerstone: Spiritual Growth

Kimberly : 46:53 100%. Okay, love. So moving into our fourth cornerstone spiritual growth, which we spoke about earlier, is anything to me that connects us back to our true self, our essence, whether that’s meditation or nature? You mentioned a trend in people in New York city going out.

Kate: 47:11 Yeah, we’re really seeing on the nature front, we are seeing lots of people leaving cities, not just for day trips, but for good. I think that people have really used this time to assess what’s important to them and what’s important to those they live with, or their families. And we’re seeing a pretty mass exodus from big cities. And then for those of us who can’t necessarily just pick up and peace out and leave the city, the growth in indoor plants is huge. It’s really huge, and that is something that we will see continue in 2021.

Kate: 47:56 There are so many new brands launching in the space, but also a lot of the different brands that maybe once had one small shop in New York or one small shop in LA are expanding to have more locations and also going online. They’re really expanding their range of plants, because a lot of the experts in this space that we spoke to said, for a period of time, it felt like the general population could only handle one kind of player that wasn’t too tricky and it was pretty hard to kill them. And now they feel that lots of us have graduated up a step and we can start looking up more complicated, more needy plants. It made me so happy to just see that as a whole society, we’ve gotten so much better at looking after our plants. And so now we’re going to be given more different types, and I think it’s just such a great indicator of how much people have become, or maybe being reminded of the fact that being in nature is so, so important for the soul.

Kimberly : 49:03 Is the growth in just house plants, Kate, or is it in home herbs, home growing, or hydroponics like growing some of your own food?

Kate: 49:12 Truly all of it. Exactly all of the above. Indoor plants, outdoor plants, the gardening, and then herbs and being able to grow things in your kitchen as well. And I think this really ties back to that trend of upcycled food where people want to grow their own food and then be able to use it kind of top to bottom. And really, I think what you’ll see as we talk about all of these trends is some of the huge ideas that underpin nearly all of them is people getting back to basics with their wellness on every different facet. People really caring about the planet and knowing that we can’t be well if the planet isn’t well, people reinvesting in their community and understanding that the best form of self care is surrounding themselves with others that care about supporting them as much as they want to be supportive as well.

Kate: 50:05 And then also, this real push for better health equity and better equity, inclusion and diversity in wellness across all different verticals. And really, every trend ties back to those ideas, and it’s absolutely no different in this cornerstone of spiritual health.

Kimberly : 50:24 Wow, is there anything else you want to add in this cornerstone? I feel like you’ve given us such rich, amazing information already.

Kate: 50:32 I think that’s probably the main thing. The last thing that I think is one of the most important trends for 2021, and it does fall into this cornerstone, but also the others, is wellness for kids and wellness for teens. We are seeing just so many new players entering this space and really good growth for brands that have already existed in this space. It makes sense, they’re the next generation. Hopefully, they save us all and save the planet. And I’m sure as a mom of two little kids, this is something that’s really important for you. But the idea of little kids being able to understand why activity is so important, being able to practice yoga, or being taught mindfulness in schools just feel like a really, really positive thing.

Kimberly : 51:26 I mean, I think about how different really our society would be if we were all taught meditation at my four-year-old’s age.

Kate: 51:31 Yes.

Kimberly : 51:32 And just having those tools to connect back in versus following their peers, and you just took it to over extended level and just doing what other people are doing, trying to look like other people. I think everybody kind of goes through that self exploration in their teenage years. But having those tools make all the difference.

Kate: 51:52 I agree. Yeah, I totally agree. And that, I feel, there are many other trends, but I think that we really did a good job of covering the most important ones.

Kimberly : 52:05 So where can we see the whole report?

Kate: 52:08 Yes, on wellandgood.com. I would love people to go and read the whole report, just months and months and months of research, reporting, writing, editing, fact checking, went into all of these trends. And so it made my heart so happy if people read them in full.

Kimberly : 52:26 Of course, and we will put a link to these also in the show notes over mysolluna.com so you guys can click directly to the trends report.

Kimberly : 52:34 Okay, thank you so much for putting this together, for being here with us, for sharing your wisdom and coming from such a place of authenticity and passion. It’s so obvious that you really care and that you love… It’s not just a job, but that putting this forward into the world is really going to help a lot of people feel their best. So thank you so much.

Kate: 52:53 Oh, thank you so much. Thank you for having me. We love you, and we’re just so happy to be able to put this in the world and I really do hope if it even helps one person feel better, or make a game plan for how to feel better in 2021, that is what we’re here for. And I really am very, very passionate about that. So thank you for your kind words and recognizing that.

Kimberly: 02:50 Well, Beauties I hope you enjoyed my interview with Kate as much as I enjoyed interviewing her. And I hope you enjoyed hearing about all these super interesting trends. The wellness trends that have been building and will continue to affect us into 2021 and beyond. I really loved to hear about the mindfulness and especially the teletherapy and the fact that emotional wellbeing and mental health, which is our third cornerstone here at Solluna, is really starting to blossom in our society in a larger way.

Kimberly: 03:29 Anyways, there’s just so much that I loved here. I hope you enjoyed it. Remember to head over to mysolluna.com for our show notes, including research, information links to other podcasts that you might enjoy, as well as all our other offerings. I will be back here Thursday for our next Q&A podcast, our community show. Till then take great care of yourself. I send you so much love and I will see you back here soon.

Ways to Center Yourself and Limit Stress [Episode #536]

Ways to Center Yourself and Limit Stress [Episode #536]

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This week’s topic is: Ways to Center Yourself and Limit Stress

When we think of centering ourselves to me, it’s about finding our authenticity, our connection to ourselves, our voice, our grounding and our own energy centers. It means that we stop overvaluing the outside world and over-seeking validation. We stop getting so thrown off by other people’s opinions and their ideas.

The next part of our topic is stress and there’s so many events, constant, tumultuous changes and the ups and downs of life. Everything can feel stressful if we let it. Stress is really about our perspective of things, and it’s not about the actual events.

We just stay very rooted and very connected, and it’s a very powerful and very peaceful way to live life.This is a topic that’s close to my heart, and I’m really excited to share more what’s worked for me and how I’m able to become more centered in my life with you.

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Greta – London 

I have been struggling with letting go of the past. Particularly with events, where I feel like I have been wronged. Couple of years ago I had a really hard time in my workplace and got caught up in a situation, where I was wrongly accused of breaking the rules by a coworker and I ended up terminating my contract as a result. The same incident led to a situation where I lost one of my life-long friends, who did not believe me and turned her back on me. I still feel outraged, sad and resentful of all the people there, but I would like to finally move on. I just can’t shake these feelings. What should I do?

Roxanna  – Mexico City

My grandma is very ill with covid and I am devastated to see her like this. I know you went through loss and a difficult illness with your mother and was wondering if you could give me any advice please.

Bonnie – Santiago

I just love your work and find your GGS works wonders for my belly (digestion). Also a great way to get lots of veggies in for this vegetarian. :) I would really appreciate any advice on what to do for hair loss. I’m 37 and having a bit of stressful time and now my hair loss is an additional stressor! Any advice would be so gratefully received.

Teresa – FL

I have so much social anxiety, even prior to coronavirus. How can I stop this heavy feeling in my chest and be able to cope when going out in public, even around my family?

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Kimberly : 00:03 Hey Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday community show where our topic today is ways to center yourself and to limit stress. I’m very excited about our topic today, which is so timely. And I think it’s something that we all need to tune into right now. But first of all, I just want to say Merry Christmas Eve, whether you celebrate Christmas or not, whether this year has been a big shift for you and your holiday plans, or not. Probably more likely, yes. It is just right from my heart to your heart. I just want to send you so much love, which I think is really the true message of Christmas, of love and connection, and really our ideals and our hopes to open up more and more to unconditional love and especially starting with ourselves. So this whole concept of centering yourself, let’s take it from the abstract to something much more concrete.

Kimberly : 01:00 So when we think of centering ourselves to me, it’s about just finding our authenticity, finding our connection to ourselves, finding our voice, finding our grounding, finding our own energy centers. So it means that we stop overvaluing the outside world. We stop over seeking validation. We stop getting so thrown off by other people’s opinions and their ideas, which can make us turn in circles like a dog chasing its tail. When we’re centered, we can be respectful of course, of other people’s opinions and ideas, but we feel a lot more grounded. We feel confident. We feel a lot more clarity and that runs true for all of our cornerstones. So the way that we eat, the way that we take care of our bodies, the way that we process our own feelings and in turn, let go of other people’s stuff that sometimes can feel like it’s been put on us.

Kimberly : 01:59 We can decide to create healthy boundaries and also decide that we don’t need to take on other people’s stuff anymore. And spiritually, we start to connect more to spirit inside of us, and that is the most centering practice of all. We start to feel the strength and the power of who we really are and that all this surface stuff that we focus on so much is actually just a tiny, tiny percentage of who we are and what life can be. So the next part of our topic is stress and there’s so many events, constant, the tumultuous changes and the ups and downs of life. Everything can feel stressful if we let it. So stress is really about our perspective of things, and it’s not about the actual events. So we’ll tune into that more as we go through the questions, I’m very excited about this topic. This is something that I feel that I’ve been on my own personal journey for and throughout for many years, because things used to bother me a lot more and things used to feel a lot more stressful.

Kimberly : 03:04 But as time’s gone on and I’ve gone deeper and deeper into my practices, and I’ve gone more and more inward, it doesn’t mean that I become this reckless and hermit that doesn’t talk to anyone, that doesn’t connect. In contrast, when we strengthen our inner relationship, it becomes much easier to be in the group and to feel oneness and to feel unity and to feel connected to other people and to drop judgment, and to just feel centered as we move through life and we move through again, other people’s ways of living and their different values and their different opinions. We just stay very rooted and very connected, and it’s a very powerful and very peaceful way to live life. So this is a topic that’s close to my heart, and I’m really excited to share more what’s worked for me and how I’m able to become more centered in my life with you.

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Question 1: I have been struggling with letting go of the past, particularly with events where I feel like I have been wronged. A couple of years ago I had a really hard time in my workplace and I got caught up in a situation where I was wrongly accused of breaking the rules by a coworker, and I ended up being terminated as a result. The same incident led to a situation where I lost one of my lifelong friends who did not believe me and turned her back on me. I still feel outraged, sad and resentful of all the people there, but I would like to finally move on. I just can’t shake these feelings. What should I do?

Kimberly : 04:43 So, all that being said, let’s get going with our first question here. The first one comes from Greta who lives in London and she writes, “I have been struggling with letting go of the past, particularly with events where I feel like I have been wronged. A couple of years ago I had a really hard time in my workplace and I got caught up in a situation where I was wrongly accused of breaking the rules by a coworker, and I ended up being terminated as a result. The same incident led to a situation where I lost one of my lifelong friends who did not believe me and turned her back on me. I still feel outraged, sad and resentful of all the people there, but I would like to finally move on. I just can’t shake these feelings. What should I do?”

Kimberly : 05:26 Greta, thank you so much for being vulnerable and for sharing right from your heart. There is so much resonance in this question. I can feel that there’s a lot of energy, a little, a lot actually of just repressed, stagnant energy that is ready to come out and you can feel it too, which is the reason that you raise this question, and you said in your question that you are ready to move on. So, there’s this interesting saying that I came across once and I can’t remember if it was Dr. David Hawkins or Michael Singer or some other author that said this, but it was the idea that lessons are the way to grow. It’s like someone knocks on your door and if you don’t answer the door, then that person keeps knocking.

Kimberly : 06:16 So, what’s interesting about your question is you mentioned that something happened and then a similar thing happened, and there is so much depth in this question. So first of all, I want to talk about a little bit of a forgiveness technique, which I think will release a lot and help prevent some of that energy from having to come back, and back, and back at you because you’re holding it. So it’s almost like a magnet. We are magnets by the way, for all sorts of things. Frequencies lined up. This is something that quantum physics very clearly talks about, this idea of matching frequencies and energy. So below the surface, below what we think is all solid, is actually pulsating energies and energy waves and energy fields, and like energy tends to match up.

Kimberly : 07:04 So I’m going to give you a little bit of a forgiveness technique in just a moment. But the next thing I want to say is to really sit with this, and this could be something that you do in your journaling practice, but sometimes we attract something on the outside that matches a belief that we have about ourselves on the inside. And sometimes it’s because we feel all the different variations of feeling not enough, feeling not good enough, feeling that we don’t deserve something that we have. So, we feel something in the inside and then our experience on the outside matches it.

Kimberly : 07:41 So I don’t know if that’s part of this situation, Greta. I would just offer it to you and see if you can sit with this wrongfully accused, is there something in you that is holding on to some guilt for something else? It may not be this situation. Is there something in you that’s holding onto this idea that you’re small and you deserve to be punished? It could be from your childhood. It could be from, depending on your belief system, another life. It just could be a feeling inside of you, but I would sit with it and I would address it. And as far as just bringing light to it. [inaudible 00:08:25] talks about our shadows. And if we aren’t able to see part of us, then it doesn’t become embodied. It doesn’t become integrated. And so it becomes this disowned part of ourselves that we can’t really see, but yet it keeps affecting our lives in different ways, including situations that will match it.

Kimberly : 08:44 So I would just sit with this because there seems to be guilt and punishment somehow in this question and these situations. So I would sit with that Greta. Now back to this idea of being wrongfully accused, which is very, very tough for any of us to take in. And this is a version of a forgiveness practice that I learned about in my bio neurofeedback training that I did a few years ago in Sedona. So what you want to do is you want to find a quiet seat and you want to just take some deep breaths into your body and just start to center yourself, meaning tune inward. Tune out distractions and noises and just tune into your breath. And then I want you to recall the incident. So you can think through the incident just to help conjure up the feelings.

Kimberly : 09:36 And then I want you to let all of the thinking go for a moment. And next I want you to feel what is going on in your body. This is very important. This is the lesson of learning the wisdom of our body and learning to really tune into feelings versus thoughts. So just feel what arises, where it’s arising. Is it in your gut? Is it in your throat? Is it in your heart? Is it an ache in your back and just tune in, tune in and let the feeling come up and rise and feel very intense because you had recalled the incident, until it starts to wash over you, which could take its own time. Just let it start to settle down in its own time. When that happens, there’s a little bit more thinking.

Kimberly : 10:24 I want you to recall a lesson or something positive that actually came from the situation. Now this can be tough, but it could be, “Okay I learned not to do that again or I learned to be more open in the beginning and share more, so it didn’t go down this pathway of misunderstanding,” or whatever it is. You can just think about a positive lesson that you’ve learned and you can place your hands on your heart. And you can say deeply to yourself out loud or inside, internally, I forgive XYZ, the people involved and I also forgive myself. Just sit in that, just sit and let it wash through you. So it’s a powerful process if you really let yourself think of the incident, then switch to feeling, then switch to finding a lesson, then switch to choosing forgiveness.

Kimberly : 11:30 Because I think sometimes we want to skip to forgiveness, but there’s all this energy that’s still in our body that hasn’t been processed. Because a lot of times when we’re hurt and something happens, we get angry or sad about something. It’s encrypted in our bodies. It stays. And so we don’t really fully let go, unless we let that full process of emotional digestion take place, just like we need to physically digest. And sometimes I will say for deeper incidences, I’ve had to do this several times. So there’s only so much that your body can process at a time. It depends on the depth of intensity of the incident. But I have had situations I’ve done them three, four times until finally I felt like I had fully let it go. So try that Greta. You don’t want to carry that heaviness, holding onto resentment, holding onto anything really burns us. It really affects our energy. It’s very heavy. And so it’s important now to think about this and to process it. Hopefully you’ll have some time to do this before we go into the new year. So it’d be beautiful. Please keep in touch with us and let us know how you go with that process. I send you so much love and I feel a great deal of lightness and freedom on the other side. And so I cannot wait for that for you sister.

Question 2: My grandma is very ill with COVID and I’m devastated to see her like this. I know you went through loss and a difficult illness with your mother. And I’m wondering if you can give me any advice, please.

Kimberly : 12:50 All right, next question comes from Roxanna when she lives in Mexico City, hr I love this. We’re having an international show today. Roxanna writes, “My grandma is very ill with COVID and I’m devastated to see her like this. I know you went through loss and a difficult illness with your mother. And I’m wondering if you can give me any advice, please.” Roxanna. I send you so much love and a big hug. It is very difficult, of course, to see our loved ones go through any sort of suffering. It brings up feelings of helplessness. It brings up feelings of anger, for me was the first thing I felt. Why is this happening? Why is it happening to my mother? Why am I losing her so young, like all this stuff. And then of course it goes into sadness and grief and pain, and there’s many, many levels to this. This is an intense, intense life lesson of trust and surrender.

Kimberly : 13:55 And what I found in my journey with my mom being very sick, by the time we discovered she had cancer, she was already in stage four cancer. The cancer had metastasized to other organs and I could stay angry, and I knew that that was an option. And there was a moment of flailing around and researching and really believing that I would be able to save her with all my knowledge about healing people and the fact that I had worked successfully with other people that had cancer. But then it became clear that it was not going to happen for her pathway. So I think that there is an element here where we trust spirit and we trust the divine and we have to get to a place to get to peace where we trust that there’s something so much bigger than what we understand and what we know, and beyond what we want to fight for in what we consider our world. There is a much bigger cosmos in the multi-verse.

Kimberly : 15:17 So I had to really, this really strengthened my spiritual practice. I went deep into prayer. I went deep into meditation and I had to learn to let go and to surrender to spirit. And I stopped praying for her to get better, which was my initial prayer. And I started praying for her peace of her soul. And I prayed to God, “Whatever your will is, let it be done for the good of all and for her spirit.” And when I did that, I felt so much lighter for me and for her. And I also was incredibly blessed to be able to have held her in my arms as she transitioned. And it gave me much comfort to see that she wasn’t going to suffer anymore, and I also felt much relief in feeling her spirit move. It moved out of her body and I felt it just move across the bed, the hospital bed. And it was 100% clear to me that she didn’t die. I don’t believe any of us die. I personally believe that our bodies die, but that we continue and we go through different iterations of formlessness. The spirit goes on. We don’t know exactly what happens, but I do not think any of us ever dies. So I was able to witness that and that gave me great strength.

Kimberly : 16:49 So I would say to you Roxanna to trust and to pray and to pray for peace and to pray for your grandmother’s ultimate peace, whether she remains in this body for much longer or not. We don’t know. But we do know that we can pray and we can give her a love and we can help her transition, or we can help her strengthen through that love if she is to remain in this body. So I will say that letting go and that surrender into knowing there’s something so much bigger is really what’s going to give us the strength to get through these difficult times with loved ones and those close to us and things that really, really matter to us. And it also became clear to me when I was letting go that so much of the pain and the grief was because I was going to miss her and I wanted her to be around, and I wanted her to be around my children and help me and see them grow. And that was really about me, and it was not about the peace of her soul.

Kimberly : 17:53 And so I had to step back and learn a different kind of love, a much deeper love, an expansive love, which was love for peace. Love for the divine love, for the universal plan, love for my mother’s soul, even though she wouldn’t be here for me in the same way. So it’s a big one Roxanna, and I pray for you and your family and that we are all able to continue to strengthen our trust and to fall back on that, because that’s something that you will always, always have. No matter what happens, you will always have your faith. You will always have spirit. You will always have your connection to spirit. So, thank you so much for your question. Again, big prayers to you. Big love, big hugs, and thank you so much for being part of our community.

Break

Kimberly : 18:45 All right loves, we have two more questions for you guys. We’re going to take a short break and I will be right back.

Question 3: I just love your work and find your GGS works wonders for my belly and my digestion. Also a great way to get lots of veggies for this vegetarian. I would really appreciate any advice on what to do for hair loss. I’m 37 and I’m having a stressful time and now my hair loss is an additional stressor. Any advice would be so gratefully received.

All right my loves two more questions on this topic, ways to center yourself and limit stress. The first one comes from Bonnie in Santiago and she writes, “I just love your work and find your GGS works wonders for my belly and my digestion. Also a great way to get lots of veggies for this vegetarian. I would really appreciate any advice on what to do for hair loss. I’m 37 and I’m having a stressful time and now my hair loss is an additional stressor. Any advice would be so gratefully received.”

Kimberly : 19:27 Bonnie, thank you so much for being in our community and I send you so much love, and I love to see the burgeoning wisdom within you. You mentioned the stress and so intuitively you know that stress is related to your hair loss. And I love that we are expanding the conversation because our cornerstones are food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth. And as you guys know, I started in my career with such a focus on food and I love food and I will always love food. But I started to see how important it is to talk about our lifestyles and our health and our wellness in a holistic way. And I could no longer just talk about food. And so it’s all these other parts of us that affect everything. We can go very far in food. We can drink the GGS and we can drink hot water with lemon. But we also need to take a step back from a cornerstone perspective. So, remember stress is because of our perspective of things.

Kimberly : 20:26 So from a cornerstone perspective, let’s take it … actually, this is a perfect question. Food ways, keep up with our nutrients, keep drinking lots of water. Hair loss can sometimes be affected by dehydration. So in these winter months when things are drier, make sure you’re drinking plenty of water. Make sure another wonderful, wonderful hair food is nutritional yeast, which will give you the full spectrum of B vitamins, which are used up in stress. And of course we need all the B vitamins, not just the biotin, but B12 and B3. So I load my soups up with nutritional yeast. I put it on my salads. It’s just a wonderful, wonderful ingredient to work with.

Kimberly : 21:07 Body-wise what you want to do is you want to give yourself a little bit of stimulation that the hair root. So go ahead and give yourself a little bit of a massage there and the Ayurveda practice that I talk about sometimes it’s very centered on the feet and the hair, as Ayurveda says those are the two most important places. So you can put a little bit of sesame oil into your hair, and then you massage with your fingertips, and that helps to bring circulation to the root. So that’s something you can do body-wise. Emotionally, this is where we need to let things out, let them flow through you so they don’t get stagnant. Stress has a tendency to build and to congest and to close down energy pathways. So you want to process your feelings. You want to journal. You want to make sure that you have a tribe around that you can connect to.

Kimberly : 21:53 Now, can’t help but say here we are launching our Solluna app in January you guys, very soon. And there is a whole Solluna Circle, which is very different from our first iteration of the circle. It is based on connection on a daily basis, weekly basis. So I will be interacting very, very often in that group. I will be with you guys a lot. Actually, there are daily tips and daily guidance, as well as a virtual live circle with me every month. So I can’t encourage you guys enough to come join me in the circle. It’s going to be amazing. I’m going to put my whole heart into it. So that’d be a way to really have a tribe of like-minded sisters and brothers who will come and we’ll hold space for you. And there’ll be an opportunity for all of us in the circle to participate.

Kimberly : 22:43 So emotionally it’s a big, huge part of stress is to feel the feelings as we talked a little bit with Greta, with forgiveness. We need to process our feelings and sometimes we need guidance to do that, and we definitely need space. Our fourth cornerstone is spiritual growth, and here’s where we just want to make sure that we’re taking the time for stillness. We’re carving out times just to sit and to breathe and to meditate. And again, in the circle, there’s going to be new meditations every month. We also have free meditations over at mysolluna.com if you’re looking for some guidance, when we center ourselves into ourselves, which is really through meditation, the most powerful practice, then the stress starts to slough off us. We realize that it’s just been our perspective and not the actual events and that we can really start to manage it much better, when we tune in and we recenter. So try all of those things, Bonnie, and that will help your hair come back for sure. And remember with the sesame oil for the hair massage to use a very clean, unrefined, organic sesame oil, of course, because it’s going to be going into your hair follicles into your scalp. So give it a try, let me know how you do, and I send you so much love.

Question 4:  I have so much social anxiety even prior to coronavirus. How can I stop this heavy feeling in my chest and be able to cope with going out in public, even around my family?

Kimberly : 24:01 All right, our next question comes from Teresa and Teresa lives in Florida .and she writes, and of course lots of love there. Florida is a place I love very, very much. I used to spend a lot of time in Florida and I have a little house there and I will go back to it after things settle down. Moses has not been there, but Bubby has spent quite a lot of time. And she writes, “I have so much social anxiety even prior to coronavirus. How can I stop this heavy feeling in my chest and be able to cope with going out in public, even around my family?” I love this question. Teresa, this is a wonderful question and I think if we’re honest, a lot of us have different levels of social anxiety. I know I’ve experienced it myself sometimes. And it has to do with not feeling comfortable, completely with ourselves. So we feel like there’s this energetic distance between us and other people. We have so much self judgment that we feel that other people may be judging us too, and judging what we’re saying and judging how we look.

Kimberly : 25:12 But the root of social anxiety is self judgment. It is being very harsh with ourselves. And I have found in my journey that working on that and working to really love myself and to know myself and to connect with myself is the antidote. When we do that, we start to draw judgment of other people. And then we start to realize that other people aren’t really judging us. Everything is a mirror to ourselves. And what we feel about ourselves very much shows up in the world around us. So, then we also realize that we’re so connected to ourselves. We’re so connected to everyone else that we don’t feel like the outsider. We don’t feel like we don’t fit in into the group, which again, which is part of this whole social anxiety phenomenon.

Kimberly : 26:06 So what I would say to you Teresa is to breathe, really breathe into your body, right now. And to breathe down into every cell of you and to remind yourself right here, right now that you are a divine, an expression, a unique expression of the divine and that you are pure light and energy and love at your core. And that there’s nothing missing. There’s nothing lacking. There’s nothing horrible about you. There’s nothing that needs fixing. It’s just about embodiment and about breathing into the truth of who you are and the true beauty that you are already.

Kimberly : 26:57 So when we take the time to remind ourselves of this, and there’s so many practices around this that I’m going to be sharing in the circle because I’ve taken such a deep dive into self love, and I’m ready now to share it with you guys and with the world. But I will say that spending the time to understand what judgments you have for yourself, you could even write this in your journal. I judge myself for, and see what comes up. For not being a good friend, for being mean to my mom, for cheating on my boyfriend a few years ago, for whatever it is that comes up for you. For not doing enough, not being a good enough sister, not being a good enough mom. Whatever it is, just see what judgements come up and then let them be there.

Kimberly : 27:47 And look at the page and then remind yourself that everybody is going on a journey of life, and everybody has ups and downs, and everybody has foibles and missteps and mistakes and things. And just remind yourself that despite all this stuff you judge yourself for, underneath you are still whole and complete, and the divine lives in every cell of your body. And you are incredible and stunning and amazing and beautiful just as you are. And now it will take some time to integrate this, but just keep reminding yourself and keep meditating, because that is the space of non-judgment. That is a space of we go deeper and deeper into connecting with our bodies and to connecting with ourselves in such a deep level that it surpasses the mind and it surpasses all this mental crap and BS that we hold onto and these justifications and the stories we tell ourselves. And we start to draw deeper and deeper and deeper into our knowingness and knowing how amazing you are Teresa, and knowing that you are a gift to the world and you bring a light, an expression of light that no one else can bring.

Kimberly : 28:55 So this does take time and it does take focus. But just start by breathing down into … imagine you’re sending light into all the cells of your body. Hold your hands on your heart, hold yourself. We can hold ourselves through this space of, we can mother ourselves back to wholeness. And just keep breathing and then do your meditations, and you will start to go deeper and deeper into that knowingness, which again is not something that we can think through. It’s not an intellectual concept to absorb. It is a knowingness that needs to be embodied, and there’s a big difference. So we’ll keep working on it. Keep reminding yourself, Teresa, Tessa sorry. You’re reminding me here of mother Teresa. I think so many of us go through this hero’s journey of not knowing ourselves and then back into knowing ourselves.

Kimberly : 29:51 And I’m looking at the page. Your name is Teresa. I was right. I was feeling just all this love, and sometimes I feel your energy through the questions. So the names just go out of my head. But it is a process, but I send you so much love sister, and I look forward to being with you on this journey as we continue together to deepen our relationship to ourselves. So I love you so much, and I love all you guys so much. I feel like our community is incredible, and I feel so lucky to walk with all of you.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly : 30:24 The quote of the week is very simple, “You validate you.” And what I mean by that is you connect in and you don’t need anybody else to validate you. You don’t need anybody else to tell you that you’re okay, that you look enough, that you are enough. Once we keep going deeper and deeper into our practices, we realize that you are the one that validates yourself, and that becomes the energy that is reflected out in your outer world. So we’ve talked about this in different iterations. So funny, I write these quotes and then I don’t read the questions that it always seems to line up. When Greta was talking about the situation coming up, what is inside of us? What feeling are we holding onto inside of us that is then mirrored in the outside world? Or what is the stress that we’re holding on to inside of ourselves, that can manifest in hair loss and digestion issues and all these sorts of things?

Kimberly : 31:21 So just remember to tune in and love yourself and give yourself the validation that you’ve always been looking for and we can continue to work towards that. So I send you so much love. I’m so grateful for you. I will be back here Monday for our next interview podcast. Until then sending you lots and lots of love and take great care of yourself.

Ayurveda and Purpose with Sahara Rose [Episode #535]

Ayurveda and Purpose with Sahara Rose [Episode #535]

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This week’s topic is: Ayurveda and Purpose with Sahara Rose

I am so excited to have my very special guest, Sahara Rose, who is an Ayurvedic practitioner, speaker and host of the Highest Self podcast. Listen in as Sahara shares her Ayurvedic perspective on how to create more balance, connecting with the feminine, and how to define your purpose.

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  • Ayurvedic perspective on how to create more balance body-wise…
  • Whether you should focus on numbers within Ayurvedic medicine…
  • Sahara’s Ayurvedic background and how she embodies this more holistic perspective…
  • How to connect with the feminine, in both men and women…
  • We discuss how we personally define our purpose…
  • Breaking down what Kapha is Ayurveda…
  • Sahara shares Ayurvedic concept offerings when it comes to our Four Cornerstones…

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About Sahara Rose 

Sahara Rose is an Ayurvedic practitioner, speaker and host of the Highest Self podcast. Sahara is on a mission to remind people of their highest selves so they can share their gifts with the world and raise the vibration of the planet. She is the author of the book Discover Your Dharma: A Vedic Guide to Finding Your Purpose

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Kimberly: 00:01 Hey Beauties, welcome back to our Monday interview podcast. I hope you are staying cozy and safe and grounded as we are now in the full height of the holiday season, and you are not, hopefully, getting so wrapped up in the details, but remembering, reminding yourself that it’s really about staying in that loving, connected space with yourself, giving yourself a break, sticking with your practices. Speaking of which, we have a very special guest for you today. Her name is Sahara Rose, and she is an Ayurveda practitioner, speaker, and an author, and she has an upcoming book called “Discover your Dharma.”

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Kimberly: 00:39 We’re going to be talking about practices, and especially for this time of year, in how it relates to our purpose and expanding some of these Vedic concepts. I’m super excited to get into the podcast today, but before we do, I want to give a quick shout out to our fan of the week, who is a man, who was one of our brothers. I love it. His name is lukestreet91, and he writes, “You need this. This podcast is great.” Luke, brother, I am so happy you are here. I feel that our mail base is growing and growing, and it makes me really happy because ultimately we all come from source. Ultimately, know what is gender anyway? What does it really matter? It’s another form of, in some ways, creating duality and separation. At the core, we connect on so many similarities that we have the divine feminine and divine masculine in each of us anyway. I am really, really excited that you’re here, and thank you so much for your amazing, amazing review. I send you a huge virtual hug, no matter where you are. Thank you.

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Kimberly: 01:53 Beauties, for your chance to also be shouted out as the fan of the week, please just take a moment out of your day and leave us a review on iTunes, which is free, and easy, and just such a great way to support the show. Just like Lukestreet91’s here, it can literally be one sentence. It’s one sentence, and then the thumbs up emoji. I love that. While you’re over there, please be sure to subscribe to our show, that way you don’t miss out on any of these interview podcasts or any of our Thursday community shows. All right, all that being said, let’s get right into our interview today with Sahara.

Interview with Sahara Rose

Kimberly: 00:00 It’s great to connect with you, finally. We’ve been talking a bit and we’ve met at some events.

Sahara: 00:06 Yes.

Kimberly: 00:07 Yeah. The universe has brought us together. So, it’s great to be here and thank you for being flexible with the time. I’m trying to juggle so much right now with the baby and a four year old who’s not in school and we just started creating a sleep schedule.

Kimberly: 00:23 So, right now the baby is napping and my four year old is eating breakfast. So, thank you.

Sahara: 00:29 Well I’ve been following your posts and I just want to commend you and all mothers right now. You guys are seriously the embodiments of the Durga energy, of just the warrioress with the eight arms doing it all and I know you already have been embodying her with your books and your career and it’s just a whole other level of showing me and so many people what is possible. So, thank you for showing that and being the exception.

Kimberly: 00:54 Thank you so much. I think it’s great when we can share our struggles too. It’s been a challenging year and there is just so much that’s gone on for all of us. We’ve had to shift, we’ve had to adjust, and I know you’re an Ayurvedic practitioner as well, Sahara.

Ayurvedic perspective on how to create more balance body-wise

Kimberly: 01:12 I tend to really go out of balance with my Vata and it’s Vata season right now. So, trying to do all the other more things to get balanced. Can you share a little bit about what is going on right now just body-wise from an Ayurvedic perspective and how we can create more balance first of all, because I just think a lot of us are feeling that wind energy, we’re just feelings things pick up right now.

Sahara: 01:42 Yeah, totally. Vata is the air energy and it’s like this physical back-to-school season that we all feel of when fall comes around we’re changing, we’re shifting. We’re shifting identity. We’re shifting habits, we’re shifting relationships. This year in particular, I feel like a decision that could have taken us five to 10 years, we made this year.

Sahara: 02:04 It was like catapult, sort of things moving so much faster which is beautiful and allows us to basically shift timelines and is super overwhelming because it’s all happening at once.

Sahara: 02:16 That Vata energy spirals and spirals like that tornado and if we don’t have that balance of that grounding, that moisture, then it can essentially cause us to create a tornado in our minds, the anxiety, the insomnia and then physically qualities of air.

Sahara: 02:32 So, feeling cold, dry. I know you live in Topanga, which is already like in LA it’s its own climate. It’s much more fall.

Kimberly: 02:41 I think there’s four or possibly five micro climates in Topanga. So, I actually live in the more tropical one. There’s a lot of natural springs here. Whereas if I go 10 minutes down the road, it’s really interesting, my friend’s place feels like the desert. It’s this very interesting micro climate place.

Sahara: 03:00 I love that.

Kimberly: 03:00 A little like LA.

Sahara: 03:01 Yeah. I just moved to Miami, so your environment is so important because I’m also pretty Vata and I need the moisture. I need it otherwise I will get super, even eggs and that type of skin. That’s great. I’m wondering when you were choosing your home, were you like, “I need to be in this more tropical micro climate verse the dry one because of my Vata.”

Kimberly: 03:23 Yeah. I think that I loved the ocean. I used to do ocean walks, beach walks every day. I used to live down in Venice and I just felt the pull. I’m more of a forest person, the mountains. So, I felt really clear about where I wanted to live.

Kimberly: 03:39 Sure, probably I’m half Filipino. So, in my most natural essence I would live in a full tropical place like Thailand or the Philippines, but not right now in my life. This does feel a lot more moisturizing than other parts of LA.

Sahara: 03:59 Totally. I think we’re realizing right now how much our environment impacts us. We’re spending so much more time at home and we’re realizing the little things, like that little clutter that’s been in the corner for way too long or maybe you’re walking with your feet on the cold tile. Or these little things that can constantly be making our bodies feel cold, out of balance, or even just be creating energetic imbalance in the room.

Sahara: 04:23 So, so many of us right now, which is really beautiful, are rethinking how can I create more of this soothing, cozy, warm environment in my home so it doesn’t feel like I’m … I think a lot of us we never thought about it that much until this year. Your home is kind of like you sleep and you go. Now we’re like, “Wow, how can I create a sanctuary for myself that really creates the grounding and the energy that I need to show up?”

Kimberly: 04:49 Thank you for bringing that up. I think it’s so important because you’re right, a lot of people just kind of go and through their busy day they don’t think about their home space. I’ve been really interested in sanctuary for a while and then when I was studying with Dr. Jay, I don’t know if you know my Ayurvedic teacher as well?

Sahara: 05:05 I’ve heard him on your podcast but I don’t know him.

Kimberly: 05:08 Okay.

Sahara: 05:08 Yeah.

Kimberly: 05:08 But there is this, which I only did one class in Rasashastra, am I saying that right? The Ayurvedic …

Sahara: 05:14 Vastu shastra, yes.

Kimberly: 05:16 Yes. Do you practice some of those principles?

Sahara: 05:19 I do some of it. Vastu shastra was the original form of home energy sciences that Feng Shui is based off of just like Chinese medicine was based off of Ayurveda in year 800 A.D. That’s when Chinese medicine came to be from India.

Sahara: 05:34 But some things in Vastu shastra like Feng Shui are super technical and it’s hard. Unless you’re designing your home from scratch, can you make sure it’s facing the north or all of those things.

Kimberly: 05:44 And it’s closer to the roof and all these things.

Sahara: 05:46 Exactly. But some things I do. One thing in Vastu shastra is the doshas do impact you on a home level, but even the plants that you have.

Kimberly: 05:54 Yeah.

Sahara: 05:55 So, a lot of us in California have cactuses. That’s very trendy. It grows outside. Cactuses are kind of like the wellness home aesthetic.

Kimberly: 06:05 Exactly.

Sahara: 06:05 But it’s something in Vastu shastra that they don’t recommend because they say that it will create spiky energy in your life and to always have plants that have more of that soft, luxurious, leafy energy like a money tree or a fiddle leaf tree, et cetera. That’s going to create more abundance and softness in your life.

Sahara: 06:25 Once I learned about that, I was like, “Okay, I’m not going to get any more cactuses. I’m going to go for the luxury trees and try to create more of that in my life.”

Kimberly: 06:32 Totally. I think it’s like we take what makes sense to us. Because I’ve heard there’s so many Feng Shui way of schools and some say the cactus brings strength and resiliency. So, I think there’s all these systems. People are always asking me, I’m sure they ask you too, what do I follow? They get confused.

Kimberly: 06:50 I say ultimately listen to your own instinct and your own gut because I think it’s just like astrology or certain things they can give us guide points, but ultimately we want to tune back in.

Sahara: 07:03 Absolutely.

Kimberly: 07:04 Otherwise I’d be redecorating my house all the time.

Sahara: 07:05 I know. You’re like, good for the Vastu shastra, Feng Shui this. Yeah. That’s the thing too, what’s your personal energy when you look at that thing. Some people really like cactus. They really love a little bit of mess. They really love a lot of eclectic color.

Sahara: 07:18 For other people, that makes them feel energetically off. Sometimes the only way we can know is through trial and error, see how it feels. Then the thing is a lot of people we don’t realize when something feels off until it’s gone or until we’ve made that change.

Sahara: 07:32 So, it’s to have more access to your intuition. How am I feeling when I’m in this space, when I’m eating this food, when I’m having this type of conversation. Feeling energetically in my body what does expansive feel like, what does contractive feel like.

Sahara: 07:45 So, then when I’m doing these different things in my life, I can tune in, is this making me feel more expansive or more contractive.

Whether you should focus on numbers within Ayurvedic medicine 

Kimberly: 07:52 That’s one of the reasons, Sahara, that I have always taught people not to focus so much on numbers. Coming from someone that was obsessed with calorie counting and the number on the scale. Then I threw out my scale and then I just stopped counting and it make such a difference because I think when we focus on numbers, that’s what we’re getting our information versus tuning in.

Kimberly: 08:15 First we have to even understand this concept that energy can’t be measured by the finiteness of numbers. Ayurvedic medicine you don’t really see numbers talked about very much at all, do you?

Sahara: 08:28 Absolutely. Well I think that for us we’ve grown up in this system that has taught us to measure everything. That we need facts, data, analytics, research. We have, as children and you see this yourself probably with your own kids, we’re very intuitive, inquisitive, playful, curious. But then we enter our institution that teaches us to show up in different ways.

Sahara: 08:50 So, we think if someone told me that this is good for me, then I’m going to do it. If someone told me to do this, then I will do it. We allow authority to dictate our decisions rather than ourselves. So, it really is.

Sahara: 09:03 We all have different starting points. So, for me and also for you is your physical health. For someone else it could be through their skincare routine or through Reiki or through Arbology or something. But we all get to the same place of where is this actually taking us, what’s the purpose of it, what’s the purpose of this overall health?

Sahara: 09:23 It’s so you can radiate as your fullest expression. Then when you begin to do that, you realize that wow, one person’s decisions definitely don’t make me radiate at my fullest self and it gives you more permission to say, “Hey, love what you’re doing. Also, not for me.”

Sahara: 09:41 Then this systems like Ayurveda give us more language to then understand and have a framework of oh, maybe the reason why that wasn’t for me has to do with the Vata or has to do with the Pitta, the Kapha, et cetera.

Sahara: 09:53 But really it’s just giving language and terminology to something that we’re already intuitively feeling.

Kimberly: 09:59 I feel like we do intuitively feel. But like you said, the way that many of us have been raised or these systems or Western medicine can teach us to silence those voices. I see my sons, especially the four year old, the baby is just this little baby. But the four year is so intuitive and he says things that are so wise and I don’t want to turn it off.

Kimberly: 10:20 So, I always try to encourage him to listen to himself. But I’m interested in your background of how you came here because I think it’s important we just kind of see our roots and we see the pathway. It’s interesting to share our journeys.

Kimberly: 10:34 I’ll say at Solluna we have something called our Four Cornerstone philosophy, which is food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth. What I loved when I started learning about Ayurveda was this aspect of incorporating the elements of our feelings and our emotions and what’s going on in the mind and mental disturbances.

Kimberly: 10:53 That’s not really how I was raised. So, for me the pathway into wellness really was food because I was constipated and I was blotted and food was so tangible I could pick it up and I could hold it and I could smell it.

Kimberly: 11:06 But then I went down the pathway and after a few years I realized oh, the emotional part and the spiritual part, which is to me the most important, but this connection with ourself was really lacking.

Kimberly: 11:19 So, I discovered that through this whole journey and working with so many hundreds and hundreds of clients, but it wasn’t the way I was initially raised. I was raised Catholic, so there was this prayer part and then there was the food part, but it wasn’t integrated.

Sahara’s Ayurvedic background and how she embodies this more holistic perspective

Kimberly: 11:35 Anyways. Back to you, were you raised with an Ayurvedic background or tell me a little bit about your child life, your home life, how you came into embodying this more holistic perspective.

Sahara: 11:47 Yeah. I can totally relate and I’ll share also in this story how I came across your work specifically. When I was a child just like yourself, definitely it was not healthy. My parents, my mom especially would tell me this is warming, this is cooling, a lot of Ayurvedic principles. But I never-

Kimberly: 12:03 Yeah. Sorry. Where did you grow up and are your parents Indian or?

Sahara: 12:06 Yeah. My mom’s ancestry is Indian. My dad’s Iranian.

Kimberly: 12:10 Okay.

Sahara: 12:12 I grew up hearing that in Persian culture, Indian culture it’s really like the qualities of the food mattered. And the way that we speak to everything, it’s cooling, it’s warming. Not so much the doshas, but more of just the temperature wise, which also exist in Latin culture, different African cultures, et cetera.

Sahara: 12:30 My mom would give me lentils and give me all these stews and I hated it and I really wanted to fit in with the other American kids in my school. So, I saw what they were eating and I was like, okay, if I just eat lunchables and macaroni and cheese and peanut butter and jelly, then I’ll fit in. I definitely don’t look like anyone else, I didn’t even speak English when I first came to school. So, I did everything I could to assimilate to Western culture. So, that got me …

Kimberly: 12:55 Where was your school, where were you as a child?

Sahara: 12:58 Outside of Boston.

Kimberly: 13:00 Okay.

Sahara: 13:00 Yeah. So, it was very white.

Kimberly: 13:04 I grew up in Connecticut and I was also the non-white person.

Sahara: 13:07 Yeah, exactly. So, I was like okay, I definitely don’t look like anyone but I can eat like them. That made me addicted to it. Once you start sipping the Kool-Aid, you really start craving it. So, I became overweight, I had all sorts of allergies, which later led to asthma.

Sahara: 13:23 Every time I would actually go outside, I’m sure you remember in Connecticut all the sun, I would get such an asthma attack that I couldn’t play outside. So, every day when it was recess I would get sent to the principal’s office, I would have to sit in the principal’s office and wait for the kids to come back inside.

Sahara: 13:38 I was like serving a punishment for a crime I didn’t commit. But because my body was so disconnected from earth, that it would literally have this response. My mom would tell me, “The only way you can get through this is to go outside.” I was like, “Are you crazy? Are you trying to kill me?”

Sahara: 13:54 I hated outside. I was afraid of it. So, I had so many asthma attacks growing up. Then eventually when I was in high school, I actually remember this, I was at Sephora, you know when they do these little makeovers. The makeover girl was like, “Check out this book. It’s by this woman, she talks about Glowing Green Smoothie®.”

Kimberly: 14:12 Oh my God.

Sahara: 14:14 I was like, “What is this? This is so cool. You could just … You can put all these things in a smoothie?”

Kimberly: 14:19 Wow.

Sahara: 14:19 I remember that and seeing yourself, it was such a pivotal moment of like, wow, you can be a goddess and beautiful and not like the nerdy, nutrition freaks. That was really, that’s why it’s so amazing talking to you today.

Sahara: 14:31 I was telling my husband, I was like, I so remember that moment when I went to Barnes & Nobles and picked up your book. I was like I’m going to start doing this. I started to learn everything I could about nutrition and that helped me feel physically better, which later brought me very deeply into yoga.

Sahara: 14:49 From that yoga journey I was on, it brought me into Ravenism, which I know is also a part of your journey.

Kimberly: 14:55 Yes.

Sahara: 14:58 Then I started Vikram vegan. I was like, “No, no, no.”

Kimberly: 15:02 I think it works for a time for a lot of us.

Sahara: 15:04 Exactly.

Kimberly: 15:05 I felt great the first year. But then the second year as you probably know well, I just started wanting hot soup. So, it’s always a mix. I know Ayurveda will also say no to the smoothies although Dr. Jay has adapted it. He recommends smoothies.

Kimberly: 15:21 I don’t really drink them cold and I always have hot tea first. We just …

Sahara: 15:26 Yeah, exactly. I started to go into different raw vegan food, learning from David Wolfe and all these different people. In the first eight months I felt amazing and then I was also in very cold icy Boston. So, my body began really shutting down.

Sahara: 15:41 It started for me not getting my period anymore. Having a really hard time digesting food. Losing a lot of hair, a lot of weight. Feeling so shivering cold all the time. I didn’t get my period at all for over two years.

Kimberly: 15:55 Wow.

Sahara: 15:55 I had all sorts of digestive issues that I started to go to many gastroenterologists, endocrinologists. I couldn’t sleep, I had really bad insomnia and they just kept prescribing me more medication.

Sahara: 16:08 They would say, “Take an antidepressant medication for your digestion.” And all of these different medications. Hormone replacement therapy, everything you could imagine. I got a blood test to check my hormone levels and I was at zero. Zero estrogen, and three testosterone. My body went into menopause.

Kimberly: 16:27 Were you diagnosed with anything like PCOS or anything?

Sahara: 16:30 It wasn’t PCOS. Now we know PCOS is so much more than the cyst. But it wasn’t an elevated testosterone, it was basically what happens when your body goes into menopause, you just stop producing any type of hormone anymore.

Sahara: 16:43 So, from that place of constantly getting injured, going through everything that a menopausal woman is going through when I was 21 years old, and every doctor telling me, “Oh, just microwave ice cream and drink that every night to help yourself gain weight.” Do you want me to get diabetes? Because they were just like calories in, calories out. You need more calories so drink this kind of Ben & Jerry’s every night. Or again take more medications.

Sahara: 17:09 They were like, “Yeah you’re definitely never going to be able to have kids but don’t worry, you could do IVF or you maybe get a surrogate or something.” It wasn’t a thing for them.

Sahara: 17:19 I realized that I had to take matters into my own hands. That’s when I really begun started different ancient health systems and going back to Ayurveda. I remember doing this Ayurveda quiz and by then I was doing IIN and I did this quiz and I learned about Vata. I was like, “This is me to a T.” Not just physically from the hormonal imbalance, digestive bloating, gas constipation, but mentally creative, idealistic, think outside the box, wants to travel.

Kimberly: 17:49 Can be spacey.

Sahara: 17:50 Spacey. I was like wait, this is the story of my life. How come no one has told me about this. So, I just became obsessed. I need to know everything I can about this health system. At the time I was going back and forth to India already.

Sahara: 18:03 I was teaching Calpin Sanitation in the slums of Delhi. Raw vegan in India, which is unheard of. They used to call me the cow because they had never seen anyone eating greens before.

Kimberly: 18:12 Wow.

Sahara: 18:13 That’s when I decided to sign up for Ayurveda school there. From learning about Ayurveda, it really felt like re-learning a language that my soul once learned and so many things to me were like wait, that doesn’t make sense. You want me to drink all this milk? All this skim? Oh my God.

Kimberly: 18:29 Yeah, did you cross over back into dairy?

Sahara: 18:32 That was really tough for me because I didn’t want to. I really wanted to stick to plant-based but they were telling me it’s never going to work out. This is essential to Ayurveda and especially the way Ayurveda is practiced in India is more traditional.

Sahara: 18:48 That brought me on this journey of how can I take these guidelines of Ayurveda which feel so true and keep it plant-based and take account how much our food system has changed since then.

Sahara: 19:00 In India, I realize it makes total sense. They didn’t have avocados and coconuts in North India. So, they needed to have the neighborhood cow’s milk and just so many things about Ayurveda I was like, “Wait, why can’t you have mushrooms.” Learning how to do with the British rule and the psychedelic mushrooms, right?

Kimberly: 19:17 Yes. And also the cows in India are so sacred and they’re treating as such. Then when you look at the way dairy cows are treated here and the hormones and it’s just a completely different world from …

Sahara: 19:29 Totally. Most cows in India have a better life than we do, right?

Kimberly: 19:32 Exactly.

Sahara: 19:34 Flowers, adornment.

Kimberly: 19:37 They go to the Gangas when they die. But yeah, Yogananda Miguru says sometimes we need to update things. That’s the one part. I can’t even stand the smell of ghee, personally.

Sahara: 19:49 Me too. I still don’t eat it.

Kimberly: 19:50 Tons of other fats. But the dairy thing for me has always been a little bit of a separation from Ayurveda. But yet I take the parts that make sense to me just like any system I don’t completely embody the whole thing. But there are such … There’s amazing wisdom to take from it.

Sahara: 20:11 100% and it’s really the guidelines that are universal. These are things that will never change. These archetypes we will forever see them. I realize Ayurveda through this journey of healing myself, that it’s so much more than physical health, but it’s really noticing the physical symptoms in your body and taking them as cues of where are you out of balance in your life.

Sahara: 20:31 I realize I was disconnected from my feminine energy. I wasn’t connected to my body. All of these deeper spiritual and emotional aspects began showing up for me. As I became more grounded and rooted and strong in who I was, my body also began to shift. That’s what led me to really begin studying Ayurveda also from a spiritual perspective, how these doshas are related to our purpose, to our dharma, and seeing all of these beautiful Ayurvedic principles as a framework so you can elevate into your higher self.

Kimberly: 21:04 I love that you brought up the feminine, the divine feminine and the goddess archetype that you talked about. I usually have some goddesses on my desk.

Sahara: 21:13 Yes.

Connecting with the feminine, in both men and women

Kimberly: 21:13 But I have Lakshmi and Saraswati usually when I’m writing, and Durga. I have my most favorite statue of Durga from Varanasi. Can you talk a little bit about connecting with the feminine, which is in both men and women because I think we do with in this very masculine society, where there’s to-do lists and pushing.

Kimberly: 21:39 I definitely fall into that as well and we’re sort of rethinking everything now with this pandemic and our connection with ourselves. We have more time and space as we manage to be home and to connect back in. What is connecting to the feminine inside of you mean?

Sahara: 21:55 Yeah, absolutely. In Vataic terminology we call it Shiva and Shakti. Shiva is the awareness, it’s the container. In Vataic mythology, Shiva was actually this god who went up to the Himalayas and he meditated for thousands of years to achieve the awareness that we are all one.

Sahara: 22:19 He is that feeling that when you’re deep in meditation and you’re just nothing and everything at the same time, that is that Shiva energy that we all have inside of ourselves.

Sahara: 22:29 Now Shakti is the dance of life. This to be immersed in all of the things. To be embodied. I like to think of the difference between spirit and soul. Spirit is ethereal, it’s universal, it’s formless.

Sahara: 22:43 Whereas the soul is in the body, it’s in the heart, it’s with the children, it’s with the earth, with the blood. So, a lot of us especially in feminine bodies, but also it could be people binary masculine or non-binary bodies are feeling this desire to connect more to that feminine Shakti embodied wild expressed side of ourselves.

Sahara: 23:04 It’s interesting because spirituality is definitely growing but the way that we have been taught it is still coming from such a masculine and patriarchal system of you do what your guru tells you and you do a meditation practice, which is to be detached from the world.

Sahara: 23:21 Just the … Think of a man cave. I know your husband just made his karate man cave in your basement or your garage. I saw you comment about that.

Kimberly: 23:28 Yeah. It’s so cold plunge sauna. It’s just the ways … It’s a complete like bio hacking area over there.

Sahara: 23:36 That’s what the Shiva wants. It’s like let me get away from the kids for a sec and be in my solitude and be in my warrior energy. Whereas the Shakti is like, let me see how the plants are, let me see how the kids are, let me talk to my friends, let me be with the food. I just want to dance through life.

Sahara: 23:52 This is the creative life force that exists inside all of us. It’s the energy of becoming, whereas Shiva is the energy of being. We all have both. It’s not to just only be on one side, however the feminine hasn’t had an equal time at the mic.

Sahara: 24:11 Right now when we talk about the rising of the sacred feminine, it’s not to replace the masculine, it’s very different than the “feminist movement” because it’s about embodying your feminine energy that doesn’t want to leave the world or meditate enough that it can handle it.

Sahara: 24:28 It wants to actually be on the grounds and making this world a better place while enjoying her time here.

Kimberly: 24:35 One thing I always says Sahara is equalness doesn’t mean sameness. So when you say men and women are equal, masculine and feminine is equal but it doesn’t mean the same because when you mentioned the feminist movement, there’s aspects where it feels a little bit hardened to me.

Kimberly: 24:50 I’m going to open my own door, I’m going to do it all myself and I think there was a time and a place where women were really fighting to get the vote and to get equal pay and to get these elements. But now we’re in a world, like you said, where we can embody both and they’re not fighting each other. There is this marriage, this intertwining.

Kimberly: 25:14 We can really incorporate and integrate both inside of us, that I think is important to say. It’s not replacing one, they’re not fighting each other, but there is an important place for both.

Sahara: 25:25 Absolutely. It’s all about the integration and in Ayurveda we have these both sides of ourselves that are really dancing with each other. So, it’s great for listeners to notice where do I feel maybe more comfortable?

Kimberly: 25:37 Yeah.

Sahara: 25:37 What is my go-to. Maybe you’re spending a lot of time in your masculine energy of kind of like getting things on your to-do list, slaying each day, and that’s wonderful. But where can you just sing, be, create, express.

Sahara: 25:51 I think a lot of times our society trains us that our worth is defined by your productivity. So, when we don’t have that anymore, we feel like well I must be nothing. But in the times of the village, the women were actually often the ones in power and they were the ones who were more connected to where the village was actually heading from a big picture scenario.

Sahara: 26:11 I believe right now this new paradigm shift that we are entering is going to see the value of the feminine both inside of ourselves and also bringing women leaders to rise who haven’t divorced themselves from the side of themselves but have rather integrated it in.

Kimberly: 26:28 Yes. Yes. Just to close the loop on your story, this whole period in your life where you stopped having your period, I assume it has come back.

Sahara: 26:40 Yes. My period is back.

Kimberly: 26:44 Everything got re-balanced and now you moved to Miami and perhaps in the future would be interested in being a mother yourself or not. That’s another interesting topic. I find more and more friends and colleagues deciding not to have children, consciously.

Kimberly: 27:00 Because they’re feeling their creativity and their fulfillment in other ways. Obviously there isn’t one exact way, not everybody needs to go through the parent experience.

Sahara: 27:10 Absolutely. I think more people are getting that choice. For me kind of my period came back after a year of really trying. A lot of cooked foods, grounding foods, sweet potatoes, things that had natural estrogen in it, tahini, dates.

Kimberly: 27:25 Yes, all those amazing yams.

Sahara: 27:27 Exactly. That really helped but also changing my exercise practices. I was doing a lot of Ashtanga yoga at the time, which is a quite masculine and intense practice, to more of the dance, more of just the grounding, spending time in nature.

Sahara: 27:44 Then for me the shift really happened too of realizing my purpose, my dharma and having those Vata aspects of myself, not be like ah, why do I keep changing my mind, why can’t I stick to one thing. But seeing those as my gifts and my strengths.

Sahara: 27:59 Once I really reclaimed that all in, I was able to bring the other doshas into balance. Take action on those ideas, ground them, and went on to write books and podcasts and speak and so many things that I believe that all of our souls require the exact curriculum that we needed to embody our dharmas, our purposes.

Sahara: 28:20 So, if it wasn’t for those experiences I wouldn’t have cultivated the strength, the awareness. I wouldn’t have even been interested in this type of stuff. So, I needed to physically go through it to call me back into the importance of being aligned with my body and seeing it as a bridge to other things such as feminine, masculine energy, living your purpose and giving gratitude to my body for being that vessel that I get to have this human experience through.

Kimberly: 28:47 Yes. Yes. Well it was inspiring to hear. We get a lot of questions around female cycles. In a couple of months we’re releasing a fertility pregnancy and post-partum plant-based course, which I’m really excited about.

Kimberly: 29:01 Because so many of us go through that imbalance. I went through it, you went through it. Yeah, to know that the body with its vast intelligence can come back and there is so much potential for healing once we embrace our wholeness.

Sahara: 29:17 Absolutely.

We discuss how we personally define our purpose 

Kimberly: 29:18 This period has upended a lot of us. I know your new book is about purpose. It seems like a really perfect time for us to all interest back and to go back in. First of all, how would you define purpose because sometimes, I’m actually writing about this a little bit in my new book to, for some people it’s wound up in their family. My purpose is to serve my children, my husband, not in a servant sense but of course in a love sense day-to-day or some people think my purpose is tied to my vocation, what I’m doing, or my community. How would you define it?

Sahara: 29:58 Yeah, it’s beautiful because they’re all valid. Your dharma is so much more than your job or one role that you play. It’s really your soul’s expression. It’s the big reason why you’re here.

Sahara: 30:09 It’s the red thread that will connect anything it is that you do in your life. It’s who you are. It’s that Kimberly essence that you’ll bring to everything it is that you do.

Sahara: 30:17 So, thinking of it more as like a mission statement of I’m here to raise consciousness or bring beauty to this world or connect people back to their hearts, et cetera. Now, throughout your life you’ll have different manifestations of how that shows up.

Sahara: 30:32 Now some of us who are more Vata, more Arya creative, will probably feel like we’re having multiple lifetimes in one. We will have a lot of ideas that you feel, right?

Kimberly: 30:42 Yeah.

Sahara: 30:45 Yeah. That’s part of the Vata’s dharma is to create, to be a channel, to be thinking about the future, what’s new, what is to come, to be that usher for the experiences waiting to come through.

Sahara: 30:56 The Vatas we say that an idea is not yours but rather exists and it’s waiting to come through. So, it will land in the crown chakras of whomever can bring it to life. Now, this doesn’t mean every idea that you have you have to bring to life, that takes an intuitive through your third eye is this for me, is it not, speaking it through your throat, feeling it through your heart. Action it through your solar plexus, finding the joy through your scroll and birthing it through your root.

Sahara: 31:27 Where Vatas often get stuck, and I know this myself, is we have so many ideas that it can sometimes feel like a lot of wheel spinning. But then when you aren’t taking action on them, it’s very easy to start something new.

Sahara: 31:41 So, they’ll have a lot of things that they may have begun and not things that they have finished or closed that loop on. So, if you are someone who’s really Vata, the trick is to take action on one thing, bring it to life, give it that energy, that focus, before you usher off to the next idea. That’s that Pitta stage, the buyer, the transformation.

Kimberly: 32:03 You’re saying keep directing back to the one thing because the tendency is let me start this and then I’m interested in this. When that Vata tendency comes, there’s a self-discipline and it may not feel innately a true tendency, but to train ourselves to focus on one task.

Sahara: 32:22 Yes, absolutely. I think a lot of times it comes with the fear of well I don’t want to choose the wrong thing or I don’t want to not do this.

Kimberly: 32:30 Well there are so many things.

Sahara: 32:32 Exactly. It’s not that if you chose one thing and you bring it to action you have to discard the rest. But you actually shift so much as a person when you take something to action and the process of writing a book or getting a business of the ground that it will bring so much more experience and also shift the way that you’ll show up for that thing in the future.

Sahara: 32:51 It’s like you can’t be pregnant with one baby, eight months pregnant, one-one month pregnant, one-four months pregnant. It requires very different things from your body. Letting that dharma, that vision come to life, seeing it to fruition, being the channel of it through your chakras, and then when you’re ready bring the next vision to life.

Kimberly: 33:10 Interesting. Well I did share with you Sahara when I was 34 weeks pregnant, very pregnant and that’s around when the baby turns, so his head comes down and it rests near your root chakra, I just had this vision, this download for this new book that I’m writing now.

Kimberly: 33:31 I felt like I really couldn’t ignore it. I was pregnant but there was all this pregnant, creative energy, so I just wrote a little bit, and then I had a scheduled Zoom call and it just happened like that. I think three days before I gave birth and I signed my book.

Kimberly: 33:44 But in this case now I’m in this situation where I have a baby, a newborn baby and I am writing book, which does feel like a baby. I hear what you’re saying. Sometimes there’s a little overlap, there’s a little, right, and for sure I am feeling a big depleted now, a little bit imbalanced although I’m getting my sleep back.

Kimberly: 34:06 But sometimes there is such a call that the timing may not line up and sometimes you have to go for it at the same time.

Sahara: 34:14 Absolutely. I see that same energy channel that pushed your baby out has pushed this book out. It really is the same. I feel like your baby’s dharma is this book in a way. It’s like very interconnected of your baby being like mom, this book is coming with me. It’s almost like the sibling.

Kimberly: 34:33 Yes. Yes.

Sahara: 34:34 I feel like it’s that same energy that you’re in of bringing this new vision to life that is coming in the creative lens and then also in this very human lens. I’m excited to see how it turns out. I feel like they’ll really be intertwined and supporting each other.

Kimberly: 34:52 Yes, thank you. It does feel so connected. Again, I think this is a wonderful time to bring forth and you defined that really beautifully, this period where people are introspective and this idea that dharma kind of overlays on top of everything. So that essence is how you can be a mother and how you can bring it to how you make food or whatever your vocation is. Is that one of the essential teachings of your book is?

Kimberly: 35:17 Again we think of things like okay if I get the promotion I become a partner in the law firm. That’s my purpose. But that is a bit more specific, isn’t it?

Sahara: 35:28 Absolutely. The Pitta people might really feel like it’s my job, it’s my role. They have a lot of energy that they want to bring to action. So, it can be very defined by their productivity, by the things that they usher out into this world.

Sahara: 35:40 So, Pitta people really do love to focus on a project. That actually gives them this essence of feeling alive. They need to always have a direction, a goal that they’re moving towards.

Sahara: 35:52 That’s part of their dharma. That’s part of why they’re here. It’s not to overcome that and try to just be nothing. To use that energy and to not be overly identified with it as well as if I’m not constantly creating the next thing, then I musth not matter.

Sahara: 36:07 So, the Pitta people their medicine really comes in stepping into the Kapha energy, that earth energy, that grounding.

Kimberly: 36:11 Yes. Let’s talk about Kapha.

Sahara: 36:11 Yes.

Breaking down what Kapha is Ayurveda

Kimberly: 36:12 We haven’t talked about Kapha so much. Talk a little bit about that. That feels really nice and very balancing.

Sahara: 36:20 Yeah. That Kapha is the sacred pause. It’s really the space between the inhale and the exhale and it’s really what 2020 has been about. Globally sitting in that Kapha space of how am I in my body, in my home, in my four walls and really looking at that. Like how we start our conversation.

Sahara: 36:39 These are all the topics of the Kapha. A person who’s very Kapha is someone who is really calm, they see their dharma as their relationships. They are someone who may really say I really feel like my dharma is to be a mother. Or to be a wonderful friend. Or an incredible coach or a therapist.

Sahara: 36:58 Oprah is such a great example of this. Of even when she’s on a massive stage, she’s sitting on a chair next to a person and having a really deep conversation. That’s when she comes alive. The Kapha might look around and see, “Oh my gosh, this person is doing all of these things and I don’t have five legs to my business, so I must not be as successful or ambitious.”

Sahara: 37:23 But their purpose may really just come with getting deeper and deeper in their conversations and relationships and roles. That is part of their purpose. However, often you’ll hear and I’m sure you hear with other mothers, especially when their children grow up of I must not have a purpose, I’m just a mom. I only did that and feeling like that wasn’t enough.

Sahara: 37:46 So, if you don’t feel like that was enough, that’s probably a sign that there’s something either greater out there for you that came from that role of motherhood or to re-shift your mindset around being a mother.

Sahara: 38:00 For people who are really Kapha, I say go into the Vata, the dream, think big for yourself, imagine. Oftentimes we want to go from the Kapha right into the Pitta of okay, I’ve been out of the game, how do I take action.

Sahara: 38:12 But it’s to let yourself think big, let the idea come to you and then from that place you’ll feel so passionate about it that you can’t help but to take action. Then we enter the cycle again. It’s this beautiful compass to move through life. This Vata idea, Pitta execution, Kapha re-evaluation and then we begin it again.

Kimberly: 38:35 As you’re speaking it’s funny because I can see that executed that through my team because I’m very Vata and then we have really important Kapha energy. Katelyn as our GM I call her our earth mama because she’s so gentle and calm and grounded and she’s managing everything and we have Pitta on the team too.

Kimberly: 38:56 So, I think it will rise when you’re creating your business how you chose because if we have are just all Vata people, then you probably won’t have ideas.

Sahara: 39:05 Won’t have ideas, yes exactly. We can look at it in terms of our team, in our terms of our relationships. Maybe two very Pitta people in a relationship can be really intense and then snap at each other. Or two Kapha people might never want to go do something new. So, even looking at that balance in our relationships, our friendships, I honestly see the world through the lens of the doshas and that’s why I love it so much because it helps us give this language, these patterns that we subconsciously notice and be like, “Oh, this is what’s showing up and then here are all of the food lifestyle meditative practices to support me where I am.”

Sahara shares Ayurvedic concept offerings when it comes to our Four Cornerstones

Kimberly: 39:41 I love how specific you are to the doshas and these Ayurvedic concepts which are ancient and beautiful. We do have these Four Cornerstones, food, body, emotional wellbeing/mental health, and spiritual growth.

Kimberly: 39:56 I wonder if you could share something that you’re … It’s hard to give a general recommendation for everyone, of course with different doshas. But something that you would want to offer on each of those cornerstones either as a more universal concept or something that’s personal to your journey right now. Just one type of focus. Food-wise, we know it’s Vata in all of us is one thing.

Sahara: 40:21 Yes. Food-wise definitely the warm beverages. I know people are … Juicing is such a big trend. I think juicing is super incredible and every time I’ve tried it first thing in the morning as recommended I go exactly back to my Vata tendencies.

Kimberly: 40:36 Yes.

Sahara: 40:36 I know for myself I have to have something warm in the morning, getting my digestive fire going, and then do the juice. That is for everyone regardless of the season, and something that I think will really help us get more benefit from the juice as well.

Kimberly: 40:51 Okay. So hot beverages love it. Body-wise. Body is anything not food-based, sleep, exercise, supplements.

Sahara: 41:01 Yeah. Body I love dance as a spiritual practice. For me that has been such a gateway to connect to that feminine within. It allows you permission to let your body move you instead of your mind telling your body how to go.

Sahara: 41:14 Even if you don’t feel like a dancer or you don’t want to learn choreography, it’s not about that but it’s really about playing music and letting your body guide you and it really connects such a beautiful connection of seeing that your body has its own wisdom, it’s in communication with the music and it really helps you.

Sahara: 41:31 In Vata and so many [inaudible 00:41:34] et cetera, temple dances have always been such a divine offering and using your bodies to be expressions of the mudras, which are different energy centers. So play your favorite song, maybe it’s your favorite high school song or really beautiful sacred song and let your body dance.

Kimberly: 41:53 You don’t have to be in front of a mirror, you don’t have to video tape it and put it on Instagram.

Sahara: 41:58 Yeah, you don’t have to put it on Instagram. Yeah.

Kimberly: 42:00 Just for yourself, I love that. Now emotionally, emotional wellbeing, mental health.

Sahara: 42:06 For me the biggest thing has been going into my ancestors, my ancestral lineage. Oftentimes the things that are showing up for us in this lifetime have to do with our ancestors meaning our parents’ relationship with their parents, their relationship with their parents, et cetera.

Sahara: 42:20 You’ll often notice that those exact same wounding, traumas, et cetera, are being passed down inter generationally. We are the generation that is choosing to do the work on this.

Kimberly: 42:32 True.

Sahara: 42:32 So, for me going deep into my lineage of child marriage, my grandma was even in a child marriage and a lot of females and going into that and how that has shown up in potentially in myself of limiting beliefs in myself and also how to move past it if it shows up has been tremendous for my emotional health.

Sahara: 42:54 There’s a practice called family constellations, which is a form of kind of like a therapeutic healing that you can do with your ancestry. So, I did that this year and then both of my parents did it on their own as well and it was so healing for our relationship.

Kimberly: 43:09 Wow. Wow. That is a huge one. I think a lot about this idea of parents were doing their best and they were parenting us with their wounds, which usually came from so many generations back.

Kimberly: 43:22 So, for whatever reason we are called, any of us listening to this, there is this call to wake up and to understand ourselves more in our wholeness, which means taking a look at those wounds and tendencies and reactions and processing them and understanding them more instead of just distracting, numbing and then passing it on again.

Sahara: 43:47 Exactly. It was so helpful for me because I’m not a mother yet but I want to be one day to become aware of those things so I don’t pass it along to my children and have us be a continual pattern.

Sahara: 43:58 Everyone is going to have something that comes up for them. So, I definitely recommend this. There are so many great books out there, et cetera, but ancestral healing is a big one.

Kimberly: 44:06 Yes. Sahara I have to say as a parent I feel like I mother my sons the way that I would have wanted to be mothered. I had great parents but again everybody has their stuff. Just like telling them and you’re loved for you, you don’t have to do anything for love.

Kimberly: 44:21 You can really heal yourself as a parent, something I didn’t realize before I became a mother. Something that you have to look forward to of course.

Sahara: 44:29 Yes, I love that. I really believe it’s such a great opportunity to re-parent ourselves and to also have compassion for where our parents are at too.

Kimberly: 44:37 For sure. For sure. Then our last cornerstone is spiritual growth, which I think sometimes the word spirituality kind of trips people out. I’m not talking about religion. You understand this. Or dogmatism. To me it’s really the pathway to understanding yourself in a more deep way, the true self, as Yogananda says or the divine within us. Our unique assets.

Kimberly: 44:59 So, we talk about meditation so much here in our space. What is the one recommendation that you’re personally working on or you would recommend out in a more universal way?

Sahara: 45:12 Yes. What I would recommend for anyone is to really dive deep into why am I here. Because if we don’t ask that question, then we’re going to forever look for things to entertain us, distract us and it feels like such a big question that we often don’t ask because we don’t know the answer.

Sahara: 45:28 But really dive into what are my gifts, what are my strengths, what are my talents, what makes me feel like I’m coming alive? A good little question to ask yourself is if you have no idea what your purpose could be, if a friend it texting you saying I need your advice on something, what do you think that text is going to be about? Like for you Kimberly, if you get a text from a friend, I need your advice, what do you think they’re going to ask you for?

Kimberly: 45:55 If you ask me five years ago, most of my texts were coming from my clients. It would be under the guise of food, like what should I eat, what should I do. But it was always from the beginning, Sahara. Now I had this language as we were talking about the language of aryu, the language to talk about what my work has really been about, which is about bringing people back to wholeness.

Kimberly: 46:15 So, underneath it, when I start to talk to them, they’re really nervous about something, they’re feeling anxiety. So, it’s really about helping someone feel better, feel their wholeness. So, today it’s shifted away from food. People come to me more for how do I feel better about this situation or this person said this. So, it’s an anxiety in the mind.

Kimberly: 46:36 It’s been the same thing although the surface questions may shift. But it’s really about coming back to wholeness.

Sahara: 46:43 I love that. That’s your dharma.

Kimberly: 46:46 Yes.

Sahara: 46:47 It’s so beautiful because sometimes it’s hard for us to say it but then it’s so easy for us to recognize in other people. So, just think of what do people come to me for and I guarantee it’s related to your dharma.

Kimberly: 46:59 That’s beautiful, beautiful way to simplify it and it’s practical and it’s something that doesn’t feel esoteric but feels applicable.

Sahara: 47:11 Yes.

Kimberly: 47:11 Thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom here. I know your new book is coming out soon or this year.

Sahara: 47:18 Yeah. Discovering your Dharma comes out January 5th. You can get it on my website. I am SaharaRose.com/dharma. I also have a dharma archetype quiz that you can take which I feel like your dharma archetypes are visionary, nurture, and teacher. But there’s a quiz that you can take that will help you.

Kimberly: 47:37 I will for sure.

Sahara: 47:39 That will help you discover your dharma archetypes. Yeah, so grateful to be here. So grateful for the impact you’ve made on my personal dharma. Truly it feels like a full circle moment and I can’t wait to interview you on my podcast soon too.

Kimberly: 47:53 Amazing love. Thank you so much for your time. You always done your beauty, and yeah. So much love to you sister.

Sahara: 48:00 Thank you.

Kimberly: 02:51 All right, Beauties, hope you enjoyed that interview with the lovely Sahara as much as I did. Remember to check out her new book, we will have links to it as well as links to other podcasts you might enjoy, and other resources over at our show notes, which are at mysolluna.com. Thank you again so much for being part of our community. Be sure to take great care of yourself now, it’s a bit of a tender time with the whirlwind of the holidays around us, and the weather getting a bit colder now, but remember that you can maintain the strength and the resiliency of your inner space. It’s a great time to dive deep into your meditation practice, and also to your self-care practices in all of the corner stones, food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth.

Kimberly: 03:37 I send you so much love, and we will be back here Thursday for our next Q&A community show. Until then, take great care, and again, big virtual hug.

How to Stay Spiritually Present During the Holidays [Episode #534]

How to Stay Spiritually Present During the Holidays [Episode #534]

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This week’s topic is: How to Stay Spiritually Present During the Holidays

When we talk about spirituality or spiritual growth, we’re really talking about being connected to your true self and really living your life from that deep place of connection. This will help you to understand and connect to yourself and others and to really connect to the true beauty, confidence, uniqueness and power that’s inside of you and to see it in others.

In order to stay at that grounded place of connection when there are so many details to take care of during the holidays, we need to make the choice that we do want to stay spiritually present. To continue to honor ourselves, staying grounded and rooted as much as possible during the holidays and into 2021.

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Cheyenne – Northampton, UK 

Hi Kimberly, Please help! Everyone at work is bringing in cakes, chocolates, chips and dips and more every day. Because it’s free (and delicious) I can’t seem to resist! Yesterday I had your GGS and was so proud, but then I went and ate 4 large slices of fresh cream cake (and chips)! How do I resist? Thank you!

Emma –  U.K.

I’ve started working with ceremonial cacao and I’m wondering how this fits with the beauty detox lifestyle? It’s been suggested to start the day with cacao and meditation but would it be wrong (digestion wise) to have the GGS after this?

Samantha – Canada

I really do expect the impossible from myself when it comes to the holidays and seem to forget what it’s really all about. What can help bring me back down to earth?

Brandta – LA

Can you share how you stay spiritually present throughout the day, especially now, when it seems more important during the holiday season?

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday community Q and A podcast where we have a fantastic topic today. It is How to Stay Spiritually Present During the Holidays. And when we talk about spirituality, when we talk about it as one of our cornerstones, spiritual growth, we’re really talking about being connected to your true self and really living your life from that deep, deep place of connection which helps you to understand yourself and to understand others and to connect with others and to really connect to the true beauty and the confidence and the uniqueness and the power that’s inside of you and to also see it in others. And so we start to feel more unity as we look around us in the world and as we continue to live our lives instead of division and separation and it really starts to transform our whole lives. As the topic relates to today, how do we stay at that grounded place of connection when there are so many details to take care of during the holidays?

Kimberly: 01:06 I know that I have gotten in a little bit of a flux here, just trying to figure out with Bubby and Moses to an extent, I mean he’s only a few months old. But Bubby, the gifts and the wrapping, and he’s so excited about Santa and making sure we have the vegan cookies and the carrots for the reindeers and just making sure everything’s really special. And I’ve already started to do Zoom holiday events with family members and people. I don’t know if you guys have gotten into that yet, but anyways, there’s a lot of detail around the holidays. Even though of course this holidays is different than other holidays, there’s still a lot of stuff that goes on. So how do we stay grounded? How do we connect back in and feel that peace in the whirlwind of life? And we’re going to get into all of that today. Really excited to hear what you guys have been wondering about.

Kimberly: 02:05 I’m also very cozy right now in my basement. Well, it’s like the bottom floor of the house. It doesn’t go underneath the ground, but it’s the bottom floor and it’s where I shoot all these podcasts. And I’m really excited to share that I’m getting the walls painted right around the new year or maybe right before the new year and I’m decorating the space. I’m going to add plants. It’s pretty utilitarian right now, there’s a lot of equipment. My printer is down here. My FedEx equipment or supplies are here.

Kimberly: 02:36 There’s one big crystal, there’s some books, but I’m really making it cozy and wonderful for our new circle app that is launching that I was working on today where we’re going to have live circles, live interactions, just this amazing community feed. That’s going to be part of it and I plan on shooting all the circles, the virtual circles down here. So I want to make it really amazing and cozy for you guys. I’m going to bring in some materials, I’m going to bring in more crystals and candles and just some really nice blankets so we can all feel as much as possible virtually because we know love and connection does transcend time and space, that we can just feel that coziness through the screen.

Kimberly: 03:22 So I’m really excited about that and I also have my baby monitor next to me right now. Just want to share quickly before we get into your questions and of course your topics that it has been such a huge, huge shift for me in the past now about 10 days since we decided to move Mosey into his own space, into his own room. He’s in his own nursery now. He was in our room, in our bed for his first six months. And then right around when he turned six months, 10 days ago, we decided to move him out.

Kimberly: 03:55 And now we’re both sleeping through the night, almost, there’s maybe one wake up. But his stomach is much larger now and so the last time we nurse and he eats at night, he’s carried through until, still wakes up pretty early around 5:00, but I’ve got to tell you guys, this is a lot better than it could have been or it has been. And it all came from that power of decision. It came from that power of choice. I decided I needed rest. I needed to shift my life and the details fell into place.

Kimberly: 04:28 So that’s sort of my overlying idea that I want to lead as we go into this topic is first we need to make the choice that we do want to stay spiritually present. We need to make the choice that we’re going to continue to honor ourselves and stay as grounded and rooted as possible and stay authentic to ourselves during the holidays and into 2021. Because if we don’t make that choice, other people make it for us and other people will make a choice about your time and your energy and how your life looks. So it’s just really important when as we start to get into this to really focus on, first of all, how powerful you are and that you do have this ability to choose. And you do have the ability to really create the day-to-day experience of your life, a lot of it from the internal state.

Kimberly: 05:31 And I know a lot of it seems like, “Oh, well, there’s all these external forces,” and that’s true. There is a lot going on outside of us, but when we choose, we step into a new reality and we start to shift our internal space. We start to feel empowered because we made those choices and those decisions and then things start to align on the outside. Even though we can’t control everything, it’s flu season and the weather might be cold and it may be rainy and all these things might be happening, but the power of choice is always the first and most important step or one of the most important steps but definitely the first step to step into a new reality and to improve your life. And in the case of our topic here to stay present and grounded and strong within yourself.

Question 1: Hi Kimberly, please help. Everyone at work is bringing in cakes, chocolates, chips and dips, and more every day. Because it’s free and delicious, I can’t seem to resist. Yesterday I had your GGS and I was so proud, but then I went and ate four large slices of fresh cream cake and chips. How do I resist? Thank you.

Kimberly: 06:24 So the first question comes from Cheyenne and she lives in North Hampton, UK. Hello Cheyenne. I wish I could say this question With a British accent because I absolutely adore the British accent and I have spent quite a bit of time over there and lived in Richmond just around outside London. I guess it’s part of London, the greater London area. I lived there once for about four months and I also did a semester at Oxford. So I really do love the UK. I also traveled through Scotland extensively, a little bit in Wales. But anyways, love the accent, love all you guys over there. The question is, “Hi Kimberly, please help. Everyone at work is bringing in cakes, chocolates, chips and dips, and more every day. Because it’s free and delicious, I can’t seem to resist. Yesterday I had your GGS and I was so proud, but then I went and ate four large slices of fresh cream cake and chips. How do I resist? Thank you.”

Kimberly: 07:29 Well, Cheyenne, thank you so much for your question and for your honesty and also for the details. I can just imagine the piles of goodies that are around you and the temptation that’s around you that may feel very different than other times of the year. This is the time of course where more people like to bring in and they like to share. And that can be challenging of course, because one of the things I do is I, first of all, just try not to keep junk around. I will say that it does creep in sometimes. My husband got, he knows I love pretzels, you guys know I’ve had this long, long craving history with pretzels. But when he goes to Costco sometimes he surprises me with this huge bag of pretzels, even though I’m like, “Please don’t buy them,” but then I end up nibbling on them and I have been lately. So anyways, it happens to all of us.

Kimberly: 08:24 So first of all, Cheyenne, I would say, don’t beat yourself up so much. This is a unique time of the year. And so you don’t want to get down on yourself too much. At the same time, we want to make sure that you’re feeling your best and that you’re staying your strongest, your healthiest, your most energetic and you just feel really good within your body. So let’s take this one to the four cornerstone approach, which is food, body, emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth. Because when it comes to indulgence in sweets and foods and food cravings, this holistic approach is so applicable.

Kimberly: 09:05 And when I wrote The Beauty Detox Power, which is my third book, a couple of years ago, it was amazing. I was just starting to delve into this whole topic about food dependency and addiction and cravings and it was amazing how much research there really is around the psychological linked with the physical and the somatic and the layers and layers of our being that end up being very intertwined. And food is a form of energy, food can shift our mood and food creates a taste in our mouth which creates an experience which can take us out of a situation and leave us feeling elevated or heightened. It can do many, many things, but it’s important that we remember that it’s just one source of energy and there are many, many others.

Kimberly: 09:57 So in the cornerstone approach, let’s start with food. I will say Cheyenne, I’m so proud of you as well that you drank your GGS and I think that’s wonderful. I would also say to make sure that you are maintaining some food practices and beverage practices as you go into work to fortify yourself. So maybe you need to pack a lunch or figure out what your plan is and stick to that, eat that first before you allow one treat into your mouth or even one bite in. Because what happens I’ve found with clients over the years is once they start, “Oh, I’m just going to take a little nibble of this,” then it can escalate for some of us depending on our time and our vulnerability in the situation and we end up eating those four pieces when we just really wanted one, but then it just started snowballing.

Kimberly: 10:54 The difference is if you’ve eaten a really good lunch, let’s say this time of the year I imagine it’s quite chilly in the UK, so a nice big bowl of steaming hot soup. Maybe you had some avocado toast as well, whatever you have for lunch, you put that fibrous filling meal into your belly. Then you may have a treat on top of it, but you’re not going to be able to stuff yourself like this hot air balloon. Everybody says there’s room for dessert. You can still have a good amount of sweets, but if you’ve eaten a very good portion size of healthy food, it’s sort of like how I would say the vegetables are the bulletproof vest. If you’re going to have a big piece of something, pizza or meat or something heavier, have a lot of veggies with it to just help it digest better and to give yourself fiber, which helps to push the food through and also helps to just fill you up.

Kimberly: 11:51 So food wise, Cheyenne, I would say before you go into work, do your morning routine, drinking your GGS, your hot water with lemon, take your SBO Probiotics and then have your lunch. Or if that food’s around just really just commit to, “I’m not going to have it until I eat my lunch,” or whatever your food schedule is, “Until I eat my healthy food and then I can have it afterwards.” And right away, that’s going to start to cut back.

Kimberly: 12:17 Body wise, it is important right now to just feel your body. When we become disconnected with our body, we start to have all these little stresses and anxieties build up and we don’t know what’s going on, but it starts to accrue in our bodies. And right now you’re going to work in the middle of a pandemic, it’s cold and there’s all this stuff going on. So it’s really important that you do something like a yen yoga practice maybe for 10 or 15 minutes before you go to work. We also have our Beauty Detox Power DVD or download. It’s just saying DVD because we sold it as a DVD for the first year when people still used DVDs. Not that long ago, four years ago I think is when it came out, but still things have shifted rapidly. Or whatever, some kind of self-practice or something that you like and you could do some stretching just really to connect with your body. Or to go for a walk, so walking is wonderful for boosting your circulation and just feeling your body. Moving your body is a wonderful thing as well.

Kimberly: 13:21 Now, third cornerstone is emotional wellbeing, and I would encourage you here Cheyenne, to just journal and to take some time to really process your feelings this time of year. You haven’t mentioned anything about stress, but usually when people are eating very large amounts of food, it’s because there’s some form of an emotional unmet need. So it could be comfort. It could be love. It could be feeling connected, which is at the root of a lot of things. It could be just feeling worried and stressed.

Kimberly: 13:56 So just take a step back and take a breath and journal, just freeform write for five minutes. I can’t help but mention that in our new circle app as well, we’re going to have weekly journal prompts. So that’s going to be wonderful when that comes, but in the meantime, to just have this honest space to reflect and to see what may be going on with your feelings. You could just ask the question, “Why am I self soothing with food?” Just ask that question or write it down in your journal and then just spend the next few minutes seeing what comes up, processing.

Kimberly: 14:31 And then spiritual growth, our fourth cornerstone, is to center yourself. And of course we talk about meditation a lot here, but I would take it to a micro mini meditation where before you start to train yourself up, before you put that food into your mouth, you put one hand on your heart, one hand on your belly and you take some deep breaths and you just connect in with your body and you connect in with your body’s needs. And you can start to slow down so you don’t go into that automatic overdrive of stuffing all the food into your mouth. You slow down, you take a breath, maybe say a word or two of gratitude, or one or two things you are grateful for, and that can help reset.

Kimberly: 15:12 It can help us, “Ah, what was I going to do? I was going to just eat that whole bag of cookies? I don’t need that.” It’s just a way to self-center, self-correct. It doesn’t always work 100%, but I always find that when we take these sacred pauses and instead of rushing from one thing to the next, working really hard, “I’m going to stuff my face with all the pizza.” If we were to pause in the middle and just take a couple deep breaths, often that can just help settle us, let our shoulders relax, dissipate some stress, and potentially help us to abate and avoid some of this over stuffing. So try that approach Cheyenne and remember not to beat yourself up too much. And if it’s possible to get away from all that temptation, do your best, but remember that it’s just a limited time of the year. So don’t beat yourself up too much and I send you so much love.

Question 2: I started working with ceremonial cacao and I’m wondering how this fits with the Beauty Detox slash Solluna lifestyle. It’s been suggested to start the day with cacao and meditation, but would it be wrong digestion wise to have the GGS after this?

Kimberly: 16:11 This question comes from Emma, who is also from the UK. I wonder if we’re having like a kind of a UK day here. Hello, my beauty out there. You heard all I said to Cheyenne, I’m in love with your part of the world. And your question is, “I started working with ceremonial cacao and I’m wondering how this fits with the Beauty Detox slash Solluna lifestyle. It’s been suggested to start the day with cacao and meditation, but would it be wrong digestion wise to have the GGS after this?”

Kimberly: 16:42 So I love this. I love ritual and I love ceremony. And when I was doing live circles, we would add the element of elixir. And I did do one or two rituals with ceremonial cacao, but mixed in with some other things, mixed in with some Ayurvedic herbs and I put my own spin on it. But I’m a big proponent of ritual and ceremony to focus us and to focus our energy on something that is of very clear intention. So I think that’s really beautiful. I will say that I’ve had many different types of cacao ceremonies. I’ve been in ceremonies where the base is water. I’ve also been in a circle once where it was the cacao was mixed with an incredible amount of coconut oil and coconut milk. So it was very, very fatty to help ground the properties of the cacao. So there’s a lot of variety here.

Kimberly: 17:56 I would say that if you feel that it is, and of course I love the meditation, which I encourage all you guys to do with or without an elixir, with or without the cacao of course. And this app will have meditations every month. There’ll be a whole backlog of other meditations. And you can also check out our free meditations, we have a seven day free meditation starter series over at mysolluna.com. So please get into meditation, whether it’s that or another form that you resonate with.

Kimberly: 18:24 So the question is about having GGS after this. What I like about this idea is always to start with something hot, to start with a hot elixir. So for me, it’s often hot water with lemon and ginger. I’m actually sipping on ginger tea right now. So the idea of a hot beverage is always great. I say too if this cacao ceremony is feeling good in your body, then that’s wonderful. If the cacao is made with water, then you could do your GGS not too long afterwards and I think it would be fine.

Kimberly: 18:59 If it’s a very fatty cacao form of the ceremony that you are partaking in, like I was saying, there was one that I couldn’t even drink a third of this little glass because it was so much oil and it was so much coconut milk, that you would want to wait probably at least 45 minutes or an hour just because that fat is going to sit and it’s going to feel quite heavy. That was a pretty extreme cacao ceremony. Most of it’s in the middle, but you want to allow some time and just let things settle in and intuitively feel your body. But again, the main thing is that you’re doing this ritual, which is so beautiful and powerful with the meditation. So don’t worry too much. I don’t want to take that away from you or put any sort of worry in your head. Enjoy your practice and then just take a little bit of time and have the GGS afterwards. So think about it that way and I think it will work for you beautifully.

Break

Kimberly: 19:59 All right my loves, we are going to take a short break and I will be right back in just a few moments.

Question 3: I really do expect the impossible for myself when it comes to the holidays and seem to forget what it’s really all about. What can help bring me back to earth?

Kimberly: 20:08 All right Beauties, we are back from our break and we have our topic today, how to stay spiritually present during the holidays. Our next question comes from Samantha who lives in Canada. And cold, beautiful Canada, sending you a warm hug Samantha. She writes, “I really do expect the impossible for myself when it comes to the holidays and seem to forget what it’s really all about. What can help bring me back to earth?”

Kimberly: 20:38 So thank you so much my love for this question. And I think it’s very easy during the holidays to get caught in the cyclone, to feel like, “Oh my gosh, there’s so much to take care of. There’s so much to do,” and then to run from thing to thing to thing. And then this is often when we feel burned out, “Where did the day go? What am I doing with my life? The holidays suck,” all this stuff comes up.

Kimberly: 21:05 So I will say Samantha to really anchor in, as I mentioned earlier, but here again, the power of intention, the power of choice. Now on a micro level, not just for the entire holiday season, but every day grounding into your intention. So you could create an intention for the whole holiday season, through this period or this month or whatever feels good to you. Something like, “My intention this holiday season is to remain rooted in love and the spirit of connection and giving,” or whatever you want to create for the holiday. I’m going to root into that.

Kimberly: 21:48 And so what you could do is you would start your morning practice, as we mentioned, putting a hot elixir in your body, meditating. And if you could spend a couple minutes journaling, what I often do is I write my intention right at the top of the page, “My intention for the day is blah-blah-blah.” So you could say, “My intention for today is to stay grounded and loving during the holidays,” or whatever it is. And then you can journal a little bit about gratitude and you could shift your focus to all the love that you have, which helps to pour more love out of you.

Kimberly: 22:21 So that instead of just focusing on ribbon ties and which cookie recipe you’re going to make, which of course are details and they’re fun too, but getting caught up in all that you can focus on, “Oh, maybe I should call my aunt Linda and just tell her how much I love her this holiday season. I haven’t spoken to her in a while. She’s probably a little lonely.” Or you could just slow down and look right into your child’s eyes and give a big smile and just say, “I love you for you and I’m so excited we get to be here for the holiday together.” Or you could just slow down and look at yourself in the mirror and say the same thing.

Kimberly: 23:03 So it’s all about really, really connecting with intention and letting go of, as you said, this impossible list. I’ve fallen prey to this as well, believe me, this never ending to-do list, this never ending hustle of getting more and more done. And it really doesn’t feel good. Let’s be honest, yes, I might get more done, but at the end of the day, I’m burned out. And sometimes I just feel reactive and snappy and I’m too tired to do a really long meditation, which I like to do sometimes. And I will just say to just really get clear about your intention, bring that clarity and that focus. And when you do that, the details tend to take care of themselves and it’s a really powerful way to approach anything, including the holidays. So thank you so much Beauty for your question and for being part of our community, sending you so much love.

Question 4: Can you share how you stay spiritually present throughout the day, especially now when it seems more important during the holiday season?

Kimberly: 23:58 Now, our next question comes from Brandta who lives in LA and she writes, “Can you share how you stay spiritually present throughout the day, especially now when it seems more important during the holiday season?” So Brandta, I hope I’m saying your name right, or Brandta. Love it, very unique spelling, Brand and then T-A. Love, love, love. Love to you Beauty and I love this question because you bring up an important point, which is that it’s throughout the day. And I was just speaking to Samantha’s question about starting the day with intention and getting really clear.

Kimberly: 24:38 So that holds for this question as well and that’s really an important part of my practice. Even when my boys are both in the bed, as they are every day pretty much by 5:00 AM. And even when, you know I’ve got to say, sometimes I glance at my emails. It’s a lot going on. I don’t skip my meditation and my journaling because I know that if I do, I get thrown off. So the way that we start the day Brandta is a very important way to start to regulate the pace and the flow of your day.

Kimberly: 25:18 Then throughout the day, I do little check-ins now because I got pretty imbalanced a few weeks ago. If you guys follow me on Instagram, you saw I kind of played out that whole story where I hit rock bottom and just felt like, “What the F am I doing?” Like running myself ragged, like what is going on here? So for me now, I really think about the pace of the day and what is dictating it and where it’s coming from. And I do little check-ins. So I do mini meditations. I close my eyes, I put my hands on my heart or on my belly, and I just take a couple deep breaths. And so sometimes my mini meditations are a minute.

Kimberly: 25:58 And what I did today was I, it’s still a little warm here, quite warm as you know Brandta in LA. So I took my socks off and I just went on my lawn and then just took a couple of breaths. And I also, for me in the middle of the day now, when Moses is napping for his second nap, I go for a walk and it just reinvigorates me. It recenters me. I try to go in stillness, or sometimes I listen to mantra and sometimes I just love to hear the birds around. I almost always do it by myself, sometimes hubby does want to tag along for part of it and I love it to see when he wants to process something himself. And then a quarter of the way in I’ll say, “Okay, I love you. I’ll see you at home.” Because to me, those walks are really, really sacred and it’s being in nature and it’s another deep, deep form of a spiritual practice to me.

Kimberly: 26:57 So I have my nature time and my exercise time. I can accomplish two in one during those walks and it just feels wonderful. And again, the holiday season, the stress of that, of now, or other times, it’s just so important that we maintain these practices for ourselves. And then in the evening, again, mini meditations, breathing, checking in, hand on heart. What’s my body feeling? Just really asking these questions repeatedly to yourself as you get into a flow and then doing your walk. For me that 12:00 to 2:00 window is a really good time to break up the day. If you have any sort of liberation in creating your schedule, I think that’s a really nice time. Ayurveda says it’s, and some could say there’s a lot of interpretation with Ayurveda, but for a lot of our body types, it’s an ideal time to actually exercise is in the middle of the day when the sun is at its peak.

Kimberly: 27:58 So if you can, do your morning practice, get focused in work or your kids or whatever your flow is, and then if you can break up the day to reset and recenter right in the middle of the day. And then you have your evening practice and your evening meditation so that way you have the anchor in the morning, the anchor in the evening, and an anchor in the middle of the day, as well as the mini meditations that you could bring in. And I have put some mini meditations over on Instagram if you guys are interested. You can check them out and I will continue to post more. So wonderful topic you guys, I love this. I love that we can stay connected to each other and support each other during the holidays, during the busy-ness, during the hustle and the rush and the whirlwind, but to stay centered and it’s like we can be this eye of the storm.

Kimberly: 28:47 We can still stay grounded. We can still stay connected to ourselves. We can still maintain our practices, even though some things may go off the rails a little bit. And even though as Cheyenne was saying, we may indulge and that’s okay. Maybe we have a little bit more alcohol, maybe we just indulge in other ways, whatever it is. We may feel a little bit off, but as long as we’re maintaining our day-to-day practices for the most part, as long as we’re checking in with our body, we’re still going to stay centered. And on the other side of the holidays, we’ll have a much easier time getting back on track even if we got off a little bit or a lot. That’s okay, we will get back on. We keep moving forward and the ship keeps on sailing and we keep on evolving and unfolding these beautiful journeys for each of us.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly: 29:43 My thought of the week that I want to leave you with today is this simple one that I wrote right before the show and it does connect back in. It was something that I was thinking about is such an important topic to drive home. This overall idea about staying spiritually present is connecting inside and connecting inside is love, is everything that we’re searching for. So my thought of the week is if you are alive and breathing, then you are enough. If you are alive and breathing, you are enough.

Kimberly: 30:24 Just a little reminder that we don’t have to get caught up in the hustle. And your loved ones will love you whether you make every detail perfect or not and whether you do everything on your to-do list or not. You’re here, we’re here, this life is a gift. Every breath is a gift and you are enough just as you are. So I love you very much. I will be back here on Monday for our next interview podcast. Have a wonderful, wonderful weekend. Take care of yourself. Keep that beautiful breathing. Take it one step at a time and I will see you soon. So much love.

Carrot Apple Spice Soup

Carrot Apple Spice Soup

Boy, do I love a good soup during these winter months! My new Carrot Apple Spice Soup is one of those warm and comforting meals that always brings a smile to my face and energizes my spirit. I love that soup can be enjoyed by itself or paired with a salad for a heartier meal. Plus, it’s so easy to make a double batch and freeze half to have on hand when life gets crazy! With two young boys, I’m always happy to have a little help around mealtimes.

Unlike many other blended, creamy soups, this Carrot Apple Spice Soup does not contain dairy or any inflammatory ingredients. In fact, it’s full of amazing, healing ingredients that promote digestion, reduce bloating and boost the immune system. After eating this soup, you’ll feel pleasantly warm, satisfied and nourished! Wanna know more of why this soup is so magical? Keep reading to find out…

Healing Carrots

The star ingredient of this Carrot Apple Spice Soup is, of course, carrots! These bright orange root veggies possess strong cleansing properties that are extremely effective in cleansing our livers. When our livers are functioning well, toxins can be removed from the blood.  Our bodies are thus aided in transporting nutrients to our whole body. This includes our skin health!

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Carrots contain calcium, potassium, iron, fiber, vitamins B1, B2, B6, C, K, and biotin—amazing skin food, with beautifying properties! They also boost your immune system, improve digestion, and detoxify the body. Carrots provide loads of other vitamins, minerals and phytonutrients that work together to boost overall health.

An Apple A Day…

In this Carrot Apple Spice Soup, apples provide a subtle sweetness for an extra layer of flavor. Apples may seem like a basic, everyday fruit to you, but I personally love them just the same. They are deliciously juicy and an incredible beauty food.

It’s no wonder apples are one of the main ingredients in my Glowing Green Smoothie®! It would be a huge disservice to your body and your health to avoid this fruit!

Here’s one reason why: Apples have a special type of soluble dietary fiber called pectin that is particularly cleansing to your inner system. This is outwardly beautifying as well.

Because our small intestine doesn’t absorb fiber during digestion, it goes to the colon where it promotes the growth of good bacteria. It also turns into other helpful compounds that circulate back throughout your body. In addition, apples have been linked to lowering cholesterol levels, aiding weight loss, and providing antioxidants to the brain.

Anti-Inflammatory Turmeric 

Turmeric gives this Carrot Apple Spice Soup its glowing yellow-orange color, and infuses it with loads of healing properties. Turmeric is the dried powdered rhizome of Curcuma longa, a plant in the ginger family. In numerous studies, curcumin’s anti-inflammatory effects have been shown to be comparable to the potent drugs, such as, hydrocortisone and phenylbutazone- as well as over-the-counter anti-inflammatory agents. Unlike the drugs, curcumin produces no toxicity.

Recent research suggests that curcumin may also provide a well-tolerated and effective treatment for inflammatory bowels, assist in improved liver function and lower cholesterol levels. Both of which aid in capturing and removing toxins and eliminating them from our bodies. These steps are crucial for keeping the bloat at bay!

The list of healing powers attributed to turmeric can go on for days (or volumes, as in Ayurvedic texts), but one of its main roles is in its ability to preserve youthfulness and beauty. Curcumin and other components in turmeric arrest cellular aging by capturing free radicals that cause DNA damage and is also a powerful ant-inflammatory agent.

While this may be enough to convince us of our need to consume this root, let’s not forget that by adding turmeric to our diets, we will also be contributing to making our skin glowing and beautiful!

And I love how the age-old wisdom of Ayurveda is backed up with modern science. It just shows the wise Ayurvedic sages knew what the heck they were talking about!

If you’ve made it this far into the post, you’re probably getting hungry! So, I’ll leave you here with the recipe, Beauty. And leave me a comment below letting me know what you think after making it ;)

Carrot Apple Spice Soup Recipe

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Carrot Apple Spice Soup
 
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Serves: 4-6
Ingredients
  • 6 large carrots, peeled and cut into rounds
  • 4 apples, peeled and cut into wedges
  • 2 cups of butternut squash, peeled and cut into wedge
  • 2 shallots
  • 1 tsp. turmeric
  • 1 tsp. paprika
  • 10 sage leaves, finely chopped
  • 2 Tbs. coconut oil
  • 4 cups of vegetable stock
  • 1 cup of coconut milk
  • 2 sprigs of thyme
  • Sea salt, to taste
  • Freshly ground black pepper, to taste
Instructions
  1. Preheat your oven to 400 degrees.
  2. Lay carrots, apple, and squash on two baking sheets. Drizzle with a tablespoon of coconut oil and transfer into the oven. Roast for 25 minutes, until everything is soft and golden.
  3. In a large soup pot, heat up a tablespoon of coconut oil and saute shallots for several minutes. Pour in your vegetable broth and sprinkle in turmeric, paprika, and sage. Simmer for 2 minutes then remove from heat.
  4. Once your carrots, apple and squash are finished roasting, transfer them into the soup pot
  5. Using an immersion blender, blender together your roasted items with your broth until your soup is nice and creamy,
  6. Stir in your cup of coconut milk and simmer ingredients together on low for 3 minutes.
  7. Serve up in your favorite soup bowls. Garnish with a sprig of thyme, sea salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste. Enjoy!
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Healthy Steps Towards a Healthy Pregnancy [Episode #533]

Healthy Steps Towards a Healthy Pregnancy [Episode #533]

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Today’s solocast topic is: Healthy Steps Towards a Healthy Pregnancy

As someone who went through two very healthy pregnancies and as the mother of two thriving young boys, I am very passionate about the topic of fertility and pregnancy.  I am so excited to share some of the best steps towards a healthy pregnancy on today’s episode!

There is a lot of misinformation and confusion out there about the “right” things to do and eat when you’re pregnant. It can be overwhelming and exhausting. I know the feeling first hand!

That’s why today we’re going to cover a lot of tips and information about simple steps towards a healthy pregnancy, that you can start today. I love nothing more than to help support mamas-to-be everywhere in this beautiful cycle of pregnancy. So let’s dive in!

Topics Covered In Tips for Healthy Steps Towards a Healthy Pregnancy

#1. Top nutrition tips for keeping you and your baby the healthiest during pregnancy

#2. The importance of exercise during pregnancy

#3. How prenatal yoga can reduce depression in mothers

#4. How to reduce stress and anxiety, which can increase risks during pregnancy

#5. How spiritual growth can contribute to a healthy pregnancy

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties and welcome back to our Monday Solocast Podcast, where I am very excited about our topic today, which is healthy steps towards a healthy pregnancy. And there is so much I want to say about this topic. In fact, in just a few months, we’re going to be launching a very comprehensive fertility, pregnancy, and postpartum course. But in the meantime, I wanted to leave you with some information today that hopefully you’ll be able to utilize in your own body, whether you are thinking about having a baby right away, or in five years, or 10 years, or maybe you’re just interested in this topic and you never want a baby. I think that this is great information for all of us.

Kimberly: 00:48 And we all come in contact with nieces and cousins and even grandchildren that are thinking about conceiving. And it’s great to be able to share some of this. And even if we don’t have such people in our lives, it’s something to consider because this ability to create healthy life means that, in any case, we are building our vitality, we’re building our vital life force inside of us. So again, even if you’re not in the boat of wanting to have a baby anytime in the near future or beyond, I still think this is a really interesting topic for you to listen to.

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Kimberly: 01:27 Before we get into it, though, I want to give a quick shout out to our fan of the week. Her name is Living Well With Nick, and she writes, “Kimberly Snyder is incredible. Kimberly Snyder inspired me to transition to a plant-based diet years ago and I haven’t felt better. She is such a beautiful soul and radiates such genuine, positive energy in all that she does. Thank you for sharing your wealth of knowledge with us, Kimberly.” And thank you so much, Living Well With Nick, for your beautiful, beautiful shout-out. I love you and I send you so much love over the airwaves if you’re listening to this. I have my hand on my heart and I just so appreciate you, sister. And thank you so much for being in the community.

Kimberly: 02:13 I also have to tell you guys that this, I can just see, as this show continues to go on, it’s amazing how we all continue to evolve. Even a year ago, or a few years ago definitely, but a year ago, it would’ve been really hard for me to have read this Fan Of The Week Review. My voice would have changed. I would have cringed. I would have felt a little bit embarrassed to say Kimberly Snyder’s incredible. So I think that, like all of us, we continue to evolve and I’ve certainly grown a lot in my self-love. And I just feel like when I take this in, I take it in as oneness. And I know we’re all connected, so it doesn’t feed my ego, in a sense. It just makes me happy that I can be of service.

Kimberly: 03:08 And I also know that when we see love and light and beauty in someone else, it’s because we’re feeling it inside of ourselves. It’s a matching energy. So remember that. When you’re admiring someone else, there’s something inside of you that matches that. And otherwise you wouldn’t be able to see it. So thank you again, Living Well With Nick.

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Kimberly: 04:00 All right, so let’s get into Healthy Steps Towards a Healthy Pregnancy. And I’m going to be talking about these tips from our four cornerstone perspective. Our cornerstones, again, are food, body, emotional well-being, and spiritual growth. And I really love to approach everything from this perspective, because I think it’s really important that we look at things in a holistic way because we are whole beings. And when we honor that whole-ism within us, then we honor our true selves. That’s when we access our true power, our true beauty, our true confidence, all these things that we’re looking for.

Kimberly: 04:37 So sometimes we think we can get it from the outside, and there’s more procedures, or products, makeup, or workouts, or whatever it is from outside of ourselves. And we do need some stuff outside of ourselves. I’m a huge believer in great skincare. That’s why we have our Solluna Feel Good high-performance skincare and our SBO probiotics. But I don’t think we need that much. I think we pick and choose things that are effective. And then the rest, we just kind of let it be. We don’t have to be on this treadmill of constantly feeling like we need to buy more and seek out more and just be this slave to more and more and more. We can honor this wholeness within us. And then everything starts to tie together. And it’s very much as true from a pregnancy standpoint.

#1 Cornerstone Perspective Towards a Healthy Pregnancy: Food

Kimberly: 05:30 So let’s go through it cornerstone by cornerstone. I’m going to start with the food one. So there’s quite a few nutrition studies here that I want to highlight a bit of. And remember that all of this is also in the show notes, which are over at mysolluna.com. And remember, as well, that this is just a little tiny peek, a few things I wanted to highlight. There’s a bajillion times more information in our course that we’re going to be launching in just a few months. So if you’re really interested in this topic, I highly encourage you to check that out as well. So let’s talk about food, though, and some really interesting things that have come across.

Kimberly: 06:10 So it’s really important that you’re getting folic acid into your diet. And the CDC recommends 400 micrograms of folic acid for women of child-bearing age, and 600 micrograms during the last five months of your pregnancy. This is the CDC, “We want to make sure that we are getting folate from food, which is the food-based form of this important nutrient, before we even think about getting pregnant.” We want to start establishing it now. And guess what one is, one of the best sources, is dark leafy greens, i.e. drinking your GGS, foundational and important. And so if you’ve been doing that all these years, you can know that you’ve already been starting to lay really important foundational groundwork for your body when you are ready to get pregnant.

Kimberly: 07:03 So I’ll share that I didn’t think about getting pregnant until I got pregnant both times. I’m fortunate and very grateful that it happened very easily for me. But also, I had been doing this work. I had been balancing my body. I had been having the GGS and a lot of healthy foods for a long time. So it’s just important that we start to lay down that foundation now. And so I can’t stress enough how wonderful that will be for you.

Kimberly: 07:36 While we’re pregnant as well, it’s really important that we don’t try to follow any sorts of diets that constrict macronutrients. So I want to say that I’m a huge believer in healthy whole food based carbohydrates, both in the preparation of pregnancy so you’re building up your energy reserves, and while you’re pregnant. A study published in The Journal of Nutrition showed that low carbohydrate diets while you’re pregnant can result in lower birth weight. And we don’t want that. So you want to just make sure that you’re nourishing yourself and remember that carbs are not evil. They’re not the enemy. You just want to properly food combine them, and you want to eat the best and highest and most whole forms versus a bunch of flours and sugars.

Kimberly: 08:24 Now, National Institutes of Health shows that prenatal vitamins are very important, as does a 2019 study from the JAMA Psychiatry journal. This is pretty obvious, but I want to point this out because I don’t always talk about taking so many supplements. Now, this kind of crosses into the body one, but I just want to say that if you’re thinking about getting pregnant, you want to get in a good prenatal right away and just make sure that you’re taking it regularly. And also make sure that you’re taking some DHA, which is always good insurance. It’s a healthy fat from algae. So those are two supplements that I definitely recommend.

Kimberly: 09:08 Now, according to information published by Oregon State University, the recommended daily allowance for calcium is a thousand milligrams per day throughout your pregnancy and lactation. And I will also say, with all these studies, before you get pregnant, so in your fertility period as well. Now, remember, calcium is not best sourced from dairy. Dairy is acid-forming, and can actually result in a calcium loss. The best sources of calcium are plant sources, like hemp and kale and hemp seeds, hemp milk, broccoli. For instance, two cups of hemp milk, which you can easily get by having a big Power Protein Smoothie, is 60% of the general RDA calcium recommendation. So right there, boom, you’re getting a whole bunch of calcium. It’s very easy to get calcium from plant-based foods. You just need to be a little bit more mindful of it.

Kimberly: 10:07 Now, another interesting study I wanted to point out is a 2019 study from the Current Developments In Nutrition journal. And this studied protein intake of pregnant women. And they found that animal protein intake may be associated with negative outcomes of insulin sensitivity of their children, and plant protein intake may be associated with positive insulin sensitivity outcomes. So there is so much more I could say about this topic, but I want to tease it with this study to show and bust through the myth that you need to eat animal products, meat while you’re pregnant, or while you’re trying to get pregnant. Not true.

Kimberly: 10:47 I have been plant-based now for over 12 years, before, during, after having my babies. I got pregnant very easily. My babies were both about nine pounds, big, healthy, very healthy babies. So there’s a lot of nutrient density and lower toxicity advantages that come from being plant-based. If you don’t want to be fully plant-based, at least largely plant-based is a very powerful way to nourish yourself and your body and baby while you’re pregnant. So again, it’s hard for me to do this a little bit because I could go on for hours and hours about any of these topics, but just remember that we have that pregnancy course coming down the road. For now, these are important guidelines to keep top of mind.

#2 Cornerstone Perspective Towards a Healthy Pregnancy: Body

Kimberly: 11:32 Now let’s move to our body cornerstone. Here, there are also some really wonderful studies that show how important it is to keep your body moving while you’re pregnant and before you’re pregnant. I will say that I am a huge fan of natural movement. So I like to do yoga. That feels good on my body. I don’t like to push myself. I don’t like jump back anymore regularly. Like things that feel jarring, I just don’t really do. I also like to walk. I like to hike. I used to do beach walks when I lived down Venice, near the ocean. Now I live in the mountains. So I do mountain walks. Not really hiking per se, but a little bit of hills. I think it’s really wonderful. I walked my entire pregnancy.

Kimberly: 12:21 And studies from the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology found that women who exercised during pregnancy have shown benefits, such as decreased gestational diabetes and shorter postpartum recovery time, both from C-sections and vaginal deliveries. So we want to continue to move our bodies, which is our natural form of being-ness. We’re dynamic beings that are meant to flow and move. And then down on the micro level, on the cellular level, we are always moving. There’s always cellular activity that’s flowing and moving around. So I encourage you to keep moving in ways that feel good to you.

Kimberly: 13:01 I also encourage you to not introduce new forms of movement while you’re pregnant. Now is not the time. So don’t start getting into spin or rowing or something that you’ve never done before. You want to continue your practice, rest when your body tells you to rest, and keep it pretty chill. Some people really push themselves in pregnancy, but I’m a big believer it’s a time to just chill and go inward and really honor your energy, and remember that you’re creating life, and it’s so amazing and powerful. And what you’re doing is really wonderful. So yeah, I highly recommend that you do something that just feels nourishing and in flow for your body.

Kimberly: 13:49 Another study published in the BMC Psychiatry journal found that prenatal yoga can reduce a mother’s chances of depression and is effective in managing depression in pregnant women. Along with that, this is really interesting, a study of 4,500 patients and their children found that a mother’s depression while pregnant can increase the child’s chances of suffering from depression later in life by one and a half times by age 18. So this just shows how important our emotional and mental well-being is, which we’ll get to next specifically, but how doing yoga and moving and connecting with our bodies and just having that space to be with our bodies is so important for us and it’s important for baby. So again, all these tips, I’m recommending that you get more connected and in tune with your body and take the steps necessary to lift yourself out of depression as best you can before even trying to get pregnant.

Kimberly: 14:54 We have some really great depression focused podcasts, which we can link to in the show notes, from some really amazing researchers and doctors and those that focus on depression. So I’ll refer to the experts in those subjects. But I have some great podcasts that I recommend to you if you’re going through something like that. But just remember that we really want to work with that before we get pregnant, ideally. And then, if you do find yourself having some tough moments while you’re pregnant, you feel some depression while you’re pregnant, to really pay attention to that. And just remember that yoga and breathing and walking and nature and sunlight, all of these are very therapeutic in that regard, as well as paying attention to your emotional well-being and spiritual growth, which we will get into now.

Break

Kimberly: 15:42 So our third cornerstone is emotional well-being and mental health during pregnancy. First, I want to take a quick break though. I could just plow right through, but we have a short break for you guys. And when we get back, we will get into our last two cornerstones on this topic, healthy steps towards a healthy pregnancy.

#3 Cornerstone Perspective Towards a Healthy Pregnancy: Emotional Well-being

Kimberly: 16:36 All right, Beauties. We are back from our break and we have two more cornerstones for you guys. The first is our very important emotional well-being/mental health. And I can’t stress this enough. When you are looking to get pregnant, first and foundationally, and also while you’re pregnant. I’m a huge believer that our mental state really does affect our fertility levels. And there’s so many ways our mind impacts our body, including our hormones. I think it impacts our ovulation. I think it impacts, really, our chances of getting pregnant and sustaining the pregnancy in a healthy way. So again, so much more that I will say about this in our pregnancy course.

Kimberly: 17:27 But just for now, I want you to remember that tuning into your feelings, processing, journaling, connecting with your tribe, with our tribe here, these are all really, really important ways to spend your time during pregnancy and before pregnancy in your fertility period. So Systematic Review, and I love this. The Systematic Review published in the Mindfulness journal explored meditation, pregnancy and mental health outcomes. Across the board, mindfulness-based practices were found to be beneficial for anxiety, depression, perceived stress, and levels of mindfulness during the perinatal period. More on that in a second.

Kimberly: 18:12 And then another study I just want to highlight, it comes as a report from the Journal of Psychology and Health, that also found that mothers who have high levels of stress or anxiety during pregnancy are more likely to deliver their babies at preterm or low birth weights. So imagine, what we’re feeling, the baby is feeling. And stress hormones just, again, impact the way that you’re able to hold the baby. And the baby can feel that. And maybe in some ways, it’s just not the healthiest environment for the baby. No blame. We’re all doing our best. But it is so wonderful when we focus on ourselves so you feel good and baby feels good. And then baby is going to hang out in there longer. We give baby the best chance of doing that to really going to a full-term pregnancy.

Kimberly: 19:05 Now I talked about meditation here a bit and mindfulness, which we usually talk about in the spiritual growth cornerstone, but I think there’s crossover here because this whole concept of mindfulness is so important that we’re paying attention to our feelings, when we start to get overloaded with stress, when things start to feel like too much, when we need to ask for help. Especially when we’re pregnant, especially when we’re preparing for pregnancy. It’s really, really wonderful, really important that we actually take action and take steps towards doing that. And I just feel like it’s really wonderful when we feel wonderful for our pregnancy. When we feel open and expansive, we allow life to come in. When we feel stressed and constricted, I don’t care how well you’re eating, I don’t care if you’re taking all the right supplements and doing all that, it affects everything. It will affect your pregnancy.

Kimberly: 20:10 So just make sure that you’re paying attention to your stress, you’re creating healthy routines, journaling, time spending with your, just being-ness with your partner, relaxing, laughing, drawing, doing crafts. I’ve recently started to really give myself the space for fun reading. I love reading. If you give me a day where I can do whatever I want to do, besides spending time with my family, I will spend it reading. So for me, that’s like my dream day. I love it. I love it. So probably why I love to write books too. So just spending time just being and letting yourself play and have that playfulness and that space to be creative. So that’s why I mentioned drawing and painting.

Kimberly: 20:55 Having a baby and getting pregnant in the first place are very creative endeavors. So I think the more we nourish the creative space within us, it’s just helping to bring that forth. And it’s highlighting that energy instead of the more masculine going down the list of to-dos, which I fall into at times. I want to get a lot done. But there’s a real power in that being-ness in that creative space that I really love, and I think is so, so powerful during this period of your life and of your journey, fertility and pregnancy, for sure.

#4 Cornerstone Perspective Towards a Healthy Pregnancy: Spiritual Growth

Kimberly: 21:31 So our last cornerstone is spiritual growth, and there’s a very interesting study here I want to highlight. This comes from the 2019 study published in the Iranian Journal of Nursing and Midwifery Research, which found that healthcare providers who support and understand the spirituality of the pregnant women they care for found great benefit. This was a qualitative analysis, but they found that mothers who had a connection to their inner voice felt more responsible towards taking care of the spiritual being within their wombs, which boosted their overall well-being during pregnancy. This, to me, goes back to connection, which is what spiritual growth is all about. It’s not about religion. It’s not about rules and dogmatism, at least the way I think about it. To me, the spiritual journey is about how we understand ourselves and connect with our true selves more deeply.

Kimberly: 22:29 And I believe that spirit is inside of all of us, whatever word we want to use. Love, God, the universe, Lord. Whatever word, it doesn’t matter. But there is something that’s very powerful inside of us, and it manifests in many different ways. It manifests as our uniqueness. It manifests as our inner voice, our gut intuition. And I think, when we start to connect with that, we feel really aligned. And we feel powerful. We feel whole. And that will boost our well-being during pregnancy. That will definitely allow us to just feel grounded as we go through these different phases. And that, again, does very much include fertility.

Kimberly: 23:18 So I think it’s important to connect to that inner voice, to have space, to have time for your meditation practice, to have time when you’re pregnant to just put your hands on your belly and to connect with that being. And also, at the same time, to connect with your own heart. So it’s an interesting time because there’s two of you in there. So connect with yourself, connect with baby, and do both. And when you’re in your fertility moments, really connect with that beautiful, amazing, strong, powerful body of yours, and do that before you really take the leap into pregnancy.

In Closing

Kimberly: 23:50 So I love this topic. I hope you got some interesting ideas. And remember that there was a lot of studies I rattled off today, but they’re all in the show notes as well as some helpful resources, such as the depression focused podcasts that I listed off that we’ve done here on the show and some other podcasts that may be very helpful to you. And I just want to call out that we do have those free meditations for you over at mysolluna.com and they will be a big part of our upcoming Solluna app as well. So be sure to check that out. I think it’s so important and I want to offer you as many resources around it as possible.

Kimberly: 24:28 Before we get going, let us do our quote of the week, our quote of the day. And this one’s a very, very simple one, but I want you to, if possible, unless you’re driving right now, to just close your eyes for a moment and put your hand on your heart and then just remind yourself, the thought of the week is in the form of an affirmation this time. It is, all the love that I’m seeking is inside of me. All the love that I’m seeking is inside of me.

Kimberly: 25:03 So when we just love ourselves, when we feel that the source of love is inside of us, we just become brimming, brimming with love and then we can give it out. Then our body is in the more coherent state as well, which is a powerful, powerful boost, I believe, to fertility, healthy pregnancy. We have more coherence between our brain and our hearts. We are able to release heavy emotions like guilt and shame, which affect everything, including our neuro-transmitters and our hormonal balance and possibly even our ovulation and fertility. So just affirm to yourself that you are loved, the love you are seeking is inside of you. You are amazing. And that’s really important to keep in mind as we continue this beautiful fertility and pregnancy journey together.

Kimberly: 25:58 Now, I also want to remind you, if you’re listening to this and, as I said at the beginning of the show, if you never wanted to get pregnant in the first place, you can see how a lot of this information still very much applies to you and hopefully is super helpful to you as well. So I send you so much love. I’m so grateful for you. And I am incredibly honored to walk this journey with you. Whether we have been walking together for a long time, or maybe we are new friends on the path, please know that I’m grateful for you. Please know that I’m always here for you. Please know that I authentically do this because I care.

Kimberly: 26:39 So there’s so many different ways to connect with me. On Instagram at _kimberlysnyder. It may take me a few days, but I actually right now do go through every single comment. So I will read your comment on there. I’m listening all the time to your questions which come in for our Thursday Q&A Podcast show. Also, the upcoming app is going to be a really big way to connect with me. So I can’t wait for all of this. I can’t wait for just the journey to keep unfolding together. Sending you lots and lots of love. And I will see you back here Monday for our next interview podcast. Lots of love.

Tips to Avoid Gaining Weight this Holiday Season [Episode #532]

Tips to Avoid Gaining Weight this Holiday Season [Episode #532]

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This week’s topic is: Tips to Avoid Gaining Weight this Holiday Season

This topic comes up pretty much every year, however, this year is a very different year because of the pandemic. In the past, our tips around not gaining weight have to do with how we best navigate parties, get togethers, and the food and alcohol that we’re exposed to at these events that we may not usually be as exposed to.

This year, due to being in some sort of lock down or quasi-lock down situation, the weight gain has more to do with stress eating, boredom or just having more access to all these other foods because we’re home a lot more. The tips and the topics are going to shift a little bit, depending on where you live and who’s in your close inner circle where there may be some sort of get together.

I’ll be sharing tips that will really highlight both situations and something you can take in as we go into 2021. And hopefully things start to open up and we have more access to our villages as it becomes more safe to do so.

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Julia – FL

How do you prepare for the holidays Kimberly? Would love to know your secret to staying healthy and in shape?

Deb – GA

Last year I gained 5-7 lbs between Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. How can I set healthy limits for myself so I can avoid the guilt and shame that comes with over indulging.

Meg – Alabama 

Honestly the Holidays are an emotional time of year for me and they tend to be spiritually and emotionally draining. How can I stay centered within myself as I often end up also feeling bloated and heavy due to all the stress and poor food choices I make.

Pam – NJ

If you had one suggestion for heading into New Year feeling balanced and on track what would it be? I’ve already gained 15lbs from COVID so the normal Holiday weight gain isn’t even on my mind. I need to get situated with how to prepare for the new year and make some changes.

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Kimberly: 00:01 Hey Beauties, and welcome back to our Thursday Q&A segment, our community show, where our topic today is Tips to Avoid Gaining Weight this Holiday Season. This topic comes up pretty much every year, but this year is a very different year, as we all know, because of the pandemic. So in the past, our tips around not gaining weight have to do with how we best navigate parties and get togethers and food and alcohol that we’re exposed to at these events that we may not usually be as exposed to.

Kimberly: 00:37 This year because most of us are in some sort of lockdown or quasi-lockdown situation, the weight gain has more to do with stress eating or just boredom or just having more access to all these other foods because we’re home a lot more. So the tips and the topics are going to shift a little bit, but there are some through lines that really… Because depending where you live and who’s in your close inner circle, there may be some sort of get together.

Kimberly: 01:10 So the tips that we’ll focus on throughout the show will really highlight both situations and something you can take in as we go into 2021 and hopefully things start to open up more. We start to have more access to our villages as things hopefully become more safe to do so. I’m really excited to hear your questions that have all come right from you guys. I always, always am listening. I always love to hear what is going on with you and how I can best support.

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Kimberly: 02:07 And that way you always have access to our community shows and our interview podcasts, and you never know which one is really going to strike you in a way that is life altering and life shifting. And that’s why it’s so important to stay on top of getting the flow of shows coming in, because sometimes we get busy and we forget, all of us. All right. All that being said, let’s get right into our topic today. Tips to avoid gaining weight this holiday season.

Question 1: How do you prepare for the holidays, Kimberly? I would love to know your secret to staying healthy and in shape.

Kimberly: 02:37 First question comes from Julia, who lives in Florida, and she writes, “How do you prepare for the holidays, Kimberly? I would love to know your secret to staying healthy and in shape.” Thank you so much for your question, Julia. I think that the holidays, they start to come up and there’s always lot of… It just feels like there’s more activity and there’s more things to do. So I’ll say for myself, right now I’m so busy as I’ve been sharing with you guys over on Instagram.

Kimberly: 03:11 I’ve had a tough couple of weeks personally with the sleep and just always being there for Bubby and playing with him all day and then working and writing a book, because he’s not in school with the pandemic and all. So it’s been a lot for me, I will say. And then on top of that, for the holidays, even though there aren’t so many get togethers, even putting together our holiday card and organizing all the addresses to send them out to felt like a big thing and also just getting presents for nieces and nephews and cousins and organizing all that, and then the mail outs.

Kimberly: 03:53 I mean, it’s still a lot, let’s be honest. Whether we are more isolated or not, there’s all these details. And then a lot of my relatives are talking about Zoom holiday parties and just organizing schedules. So it’s always a lot. For me, what I’ve been really focused on, Julia, is this core concept that we have here at Solluna, which is that our power and our health and our wellness and our beauty all lies in our wholeness. When we start to feel fragmented, when we focus only on some parts of our lives and we ignore others, we actually weaken ourself.

Kimberly: 04:35 And that’s when we become susceptible to drinking too much caffeine. That’s when we become susceptible to feeling a bit of a breakdown, which I will share with you in a moment how I got through my breakdown over the past few weeks. That’s when we just start to lose our sense of self and our focus and our power. We want to really focus on the Four Cornerstones. The cornerstones are designed. It’s a system that’s designed to remind you that you are a whole, beautiful, complete being and that you need to nourish yourself in each of these areas.

Kimberly: 05:11 And if you don’t nourish yourself in one of the areas, then the other ones will suffer. So for me, the area that I have been not nourishing myself in as much is my body cornerstone. I do eat pretty consistently most of the time. It doesn’t mean I eat perfectly, but I eat pretty consistently. I still have periods where I love to eat a lot of chocolate, where I… I have to admit, a little bit more. Pretzel eating has crept back in. It’s been my go-to since I was a teenager in times of stress.

Kimberly: 05:47 But if I give into some food cravings like that, I don’t really beat myself up. But the part that I’ve really, really suffered in is my sleep, which does fall into the body cornerstone. And I haven’t valued my sleep. I have valued my children and my husband and my work and the book, which I am so excited to share with you when it comes out, when we start pre-selling next October probably, next fall. But in the midst of all that, I just have not been sleeping. I mean, period.

Kimberly: 06:22 So that was a big wake up call for me when my body started to break down and I started to get headaches and pain in my shoulders and just was drinking caffeine. So it just shows that whatever cornerstone we start to feel lacking in, then our bodies will tell us or something will come up that will really point us to the path that we have to get rebalanced. When it comes to holiday weight gain, a lot of us seem to falter in the food category, meaning that we end up eating treats and overeating and having bigger portion sizes and eating a lot.

Kimberly: 06:58 And I believe that’s because a lot of us tend to ignore the emotional cornerstone strongly. So let me say the cornerstones again before I get too far ahead. It’s food, body, emotional well-being, and spiritual growth. So think about it. Emotionally, there’s a lot that comes up in the holidays. There’s old memories that may be good, but may not be so great. There are relatives that you have to interact with. Maybe it’s over Zoom this year, or maybe it’s in person in other years or other times. There is loneliness that sets in or expectations that get shattered.

Kimberly: 07:33 When we create expectations, we often do set ourselves up for disappointment. There are so many reasons. And then all the shopping and the organizing and all that stuff, it creates a lot of stress. The way that I prepare, Julia, is to really dial in the nourishment in all of the areas. And for you guys, to think as we go into the holiday season, which is the one that I need the most nourishment in right now? So I say, again, the emotional well-being one is a big one for a lot of us, because sometimes we don’t pay attention to our emotions and feelings.

Kimberly: 08:09 We pay attention when we’re hungry a lot of the times. We pay attention when, “Oh geez, my arm’s looking a little bit more flabby than I want it to look. Maybe I need to lift weights.” But it’s easier to ignore the emotional and the spiritual cornerstones because we don’t actually see them with our physical eyes, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. It doesn’t mean that they aren’t completely impacting our physical bodies and our happiness and our peace and so much in our day-to-day experience.

Kimberly: 08:38 I want to start there and I want to say, as we go into the holiday season, how are you managing your stress? I want to ask all of you. For me, I had to really come back to self-care practices that helped me. I needed to create more space for reading just for fun, which I completely let go out the door. I was either taking care of my kids or my husband, who in some ways is, many of you ladies will understand this, sort of a child, my partner, but I love him. We take care of each other in different ways, or it was working and writing.

Kimberly: 09:22 There hasn’t been much time I would say since August when I really started writing the book that there’s been any downtime for me, and it really caught up. For me, it’s allowing that space just to be, which is really healthy for our emotions and our feelings and just our energy levels for our spirit. This crosses over into the spiritual cornerstone as well when we honor ourselves so much that we realize we don’t have to be doing and doing all the time. We’re enough just being us. I think that’s really healthy and important.

Kimberly: 09:53 I also journal, and I really value just connection time with my husband and the other regular person I talk to almost every day is my best friend. Just having that space and that time, however that is, connecting with your tribe or allowing yourself to be more space, journaling out your feelings, it’s critical. And that, in turn, when we have our feelings, we can process them. That alleviates so much of the holiday food cravings and the holiday overeating.

Kimberly: 10:27 Instead of putting a bandaid on top and saying, “Yeah, just start chewing on the gluten-free cookies instead of the regular cookies,” let’s take a step back and wonder, why are we eating so many cookies in the first place? And it’s often a nourishment issue with the soul, with ourselves, with our deeper selves. There’s something that we need to recognize. And when we’re not getting our needs met, as I’ve said all along, we tend to get an imbalance in one of the cornerstones. Julia, think about…

Kimberly: 10:57 As I say this a lot of shows, write on a piece of paper, draw a vertical line and a horizontal line to create quadrants. And if you put food, body, emotions, and spirit into those four quadrants, how are you nourishing yourself right now? Food wise, ingestion wise, I’m making more elixirs. And body-wise, I’m taking more time for sleep. I’m just giving examples. Emotionally, I’m spending more time just being, having creative time or chill time or whatever. I’m journaling more. And spiritually wise, I am spending more time in my meditation practice.

Kimberly: 11:36 I would just say for me, I try to keep monitoring myself. But again, when we’re so close to it, we can not see sometimes. I was so close to myself that I got imbalanced. I’m not saying I’m not impervious to any of this, but I did take a step over the past week and I’ve really reprioritized and reevaluated so much. We’ve moved Moses out of our room, out of our bed, into his own crib, into his own room. We started getting him on a sleep schedule, which has been huge. I haven’t been pushing myself as much with the writing.

Kimberly: 12:10 I’ve given myself some more downtime. It’s just I gave myself Avianca the other day, which I hadn’t done in weeks, like a full Avianca with the warm oil, and it just felt amazing. I know that if I’m doing this and taking care of myself, even though it doesn’t feel like I’m getting as much “done” in a day, in some ways I’m getting more done. I’m more efficient, and I have more energy that I bring to each project and I bring to each moment. Actually the way that we measure how much we’re getting done isn’t always so linear.

Kimberly: 12:44 It’s not always just checking things off a box. Those are my tips for you, Julia. Again, if we’re balanced, then you will feel a lot more grounded as we go through the holidays. You won’t feel like you’re moving from point A to point B because you’re nourishing yourself in all the areas. Again, body-wise, that’s the cornerstone I got imbalanced in, and I take my SBO Probiotics every day, digestive enzymes. I take Detoxy every day or every other day, especially in Vata season right now where everybody tends to get more constipated.

Kimberly: 13:21 I’m pretty much taking Detoxy every day. I do my mountain walk every day. What else am I consistent body-wise? Yeah, so I’m getting exercise and movement and I’m taking my supplements. But again, my sleep was really, really off. It’s just a good time to step back at this point before we go into the full blown holiday season and just to evaluate and see where we can nourish ourselves. And I truly believe that will help you stay really balanced, more balanced and nourished than you would otherwise as we go through this season.

Question 2: Last year, I gained five to seven pounds between Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s. How can I set healthy limits for myself so I can avoid the guilt and shame that comes with overindulging?

Kimberly: 13:59 Thank you so much, Julia. I love this question. I’m sending you so much love in Florida. All right. The next question comes from Deb, who lives in Georgia. She writes, “Last year, I gained five to seven pounds between Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s. How can I set healthy limits for myself so I can avoid the guilt and shame that comes with overindulging?” Deb, this is sort of a build on to the last question with Julia, which is, I would ask yourself, what happened? What goes on for you usually in the holidays, right?

Kimberly: 14:36 I think for myself in the past, I have overindulged because I think to myself, “Oh my gosh, look at all these treats. Look at all this food I never usually eat,” and then I go overboard. But since then, over the last few years, I do let myself have regular treats. Sometimes they’re in food form. Sometimes they’re not. Sometimes it’s in massages and having space to stretch or getting a facial. Sometimes it’s in the chocolate and the treats, our Beauty Detox Solluna treats, that I eat fairly regularly, to be honest.

Kimberly: 15:14 I mean, I have some sort of treat every day, whether it’s a square of dark chocolate or a larger dessert, so that I don’t really feel guilt and shame for overindulging because I don’t feel the need to do it. I would just say, Deb, to step back and think, why are you overindulging? Is it because you deprive yourself the rest of the time, or is it because there’s so much stress around the holidays that food becomes your go-to? Which in that case, I would say, make sure you’re getting outside, getting fresh air, walking.

Kimberly: 15:46 Georgia, I think it’s moderately cold, but hopefully not too icy cold that you can’t take some walks or get outside and just reset your body and reset yourself. Nice warm baths, hot elixirs. I would just say to make sure… And everything we talked about with Julia, meditation connecting in. So for me, as busy as I get, I never give up my meditations. I’ll give up my sleep, as I did the last few weeks in a very unhealthy way. I will sometimes not eat as slowly as I could, but meditation for me never goes out the window.

Kimberly: 16:21 Because if I give up my meditation, then I’m really screwed. Guilt and shame is also such heavy emotions. I will say, Deb, that if you don’t want to go on this seesaw where you’re having the indulgences and then going into the depths of guilt and shame, it’s better to just go into the day with balance and set the pace for the day with your morning routine, your morning ritual, and then to give yourself little treats instead of depriving yourself, especially innocuous ones like dark chocolate here and there or some delicious elixirs made with plant-based milks.

Kimberly: 17:03 And then I will say that maybe you won’t feel the need to overindulge as much. And I would encourage you to do that exercise that we talked about with Julia where you write on a page or in your journal your four quadrants, and you think about deeply, you connect in with yourself, and you think, how can I really nourish myself right now? What do I need emotionally to feel balanced and re-grounded and de-stressed? Maybe it’s just time. Maybe it’s just more rest, sitting on the couch.

Kimberly: 17:34 Maybe it’s more time to read fun books or to do crafts, or to have time to just hang out with your friends on Zoom or FaceTime. Again, let’s not focus on the one thing front of us, but to just keep pulling back. Because I know for me, when I pull back and I was able to see, oh, my constipation wasn’t just about the fact I was eating dairy, it was because I was holding so much anxiety in my body. I didn’t have a healthy outlet for releasing the feelings. So it just kept building and building up in my body.

Kimberly: 18:13 And when I started to let go of feelings, processed them and let them go, I was actually able to let go regularly, physically. So it’s important that we all introspect and we remember that we are whole beings, our powers and our wholeness. We don’t want to treat ourselves as fragmented beings, just creatures that eat and have to hyper focus on what they’re eating and how to best control their eating, but how can we actually nourish ourselves so that we don’t feel the need to overeat in the first place? This is a journey for a lot of us.

Kimberly: 18:47 It was for me. It will continue to unfold, but I will say that that’s a very powerful way to go into this. And then from a practical standpoint, just don’t keep so much junk at home right now. Maybe you get one of those… I love cookies too. And when it was hard for me to be in the house without treats and not overeat them, I would just get those individual vegan cookies, those pretty big ones, but I would get one at a time and then kind of maybe eat half or sometimes I would eat the whole cookie, but it was better for me than having a whole bag of cookies at my disposal.

Kimberly: 19:25 Just think about what you want to nourish yourself with, allow for some treats, because I don’t believe in deprivation, but also don’t overstock the treats in your home. And that should be easier this time of year because, again, with the shutdowns and less get togethers, there should be less food that you need to source anyway that you wouldn’t usually source for parties and things. Thank you so much, Deb, for your question. I love you and sending you a huge hug in Georgia.

Break

Kimberly: All right, Beauties. We have a short break.

Question 3: Honestly, the holidays are an emotional time of year for me, and they tend to be emotionally and spiritually draining. How can I stay centered within myself, as I often end up feeling bloated and heavy due to all the stress and poor food choices I make?

Kimberly: 19:55 And when I get back, we will have two more questions for you guys. All right, Beauties. Here we are, two more questions on our topic of tips to avoiding gaining weight this holiday season. The first one comes from Meg, who lives in Alabama, and she writes, “Honestly, the holidays are an emotional time of year for me, and they tend to be emotionally and spiritually draining. How can I stay centered within myself, as I often end up feeling bloated and heavy due to all the stress and poor food choices I make?”

Kimberly: 20:27 Meg, sending you so much love, my sister. And also, I love this question and I love that you’re using this language, this very introspective language of spiritually and emotionally draining. You can see already that those two cornerstones for you are ones that we want build up, and we want to focus on that so that you don’t end up overindulging in the food, which does happen for most everyone that ignores their emotional well-being and their spiritual well-being.

Kimberly: 21:01 Staying centered within yourself is really important. When we feel bloated and heavy, again, we’re using the means of food in a way that isn’t what food’s meant to be, which is, of course, nourishment and sometimes it’s gathering and love. We prepare food with love for our family members. But when we’re over eating the food, then it just means that there’s a bit of an imbalance there to pay attention to.

Kimberly: 21:31 I would say, again, the best way to get centered is to commit to a regular meditation practice, morning and evening, sitting and breathing, letting your shoulders relax, feeling your breath come into your belly, getting centered in your body, getting out of your mind and your thought patterns, but actually getting centered in your body. And this is so powerful. This will help you go into your day. You’ll be less reactive. You’ll be less focused on food cravings.

Kimberly: 21:58 You will be able to nourish yourself through the little ups and downs and stresses of life, so your go-to doesn’t always just have to be food. I will also say that it’s important emotionally to take care of yourself with the stress, instead of just this… I want you to look at your patterns. What is your pattern through the day for dealing with stress? Do you numb, or do you actually self-sooth and process? Numbing is food. Numbing is just turning on Netflix or drinking a bunch of wine at the end of the day. And there’s no right or wrong here, right?

Kimberly: 22:34 None of us are like the emotional police, but we want to look at our motivations. We want to look at the why behind what we’re doing. And if it’s starting to feel unhealthy and imbalanced your patterns, let’s just create new patterns. So instead of just watching TV at the end of the evening, maybe there’s space for meditation and journaling and reading or talking, having like a deeper conversations that have just surfaced, but a little bit deeper maybe with a loved one, a close one. Oh my gosh, I’m so excited, you guys.

Kimberly: 23:13 Sorry, I couldn’t help but bring up because I had a call earlier today about our new Solluna Circle that we’re launching in January, which is going to be a true community space. And besides our live Zoom Circles that we’re going to have digitally every month, there’s going to be interaction from me and the community on a daily basis in the form of an app. So it’s going to be really amazing for all these times when we feel lonely and we want to connect and we want to have deeper conversations and really, really talk to each other and really connect with each other.

Kimberly: 23:44 That’s going to be a really great space and offering that I can’t wait to share with you guys. Practically, Meg, I also say to make sure to keep your digestive enzymes around to help ward off bloating. Try to keep your meals as simple as possible. Sometimes we do reach for food and that’s okay. We’re all in the journey. So try to not eat so many heavy things at once. Try to just have simpler meals, vegetables and quinoa or lentils or soup.

Kimberly: 24:15 This time of year is really wonderful, and stew, and try to just nourish yourself in all the cornerstones so that you feel the energy and you feel the motivation to make better food choices. I feel that when we get stressed or depressed or anxious, that’s when our food choices really start to tank. The remedy, of course, is to step back and to nourish ourselves holistically before we even get to that point. Sending you so much love, Meg. I totally, totally hear you and I feel you and just keep nourishing yourself.

Question 4: If you had one suggestion for heading into New Year’s feeling balanced and on track, what would it be? I’ve already gained 15 pounds from COVID, so the normal holiday weight gain isn’t even on my mind. I need to get situated with how to prepare for the new year and make some changes.

Kimberly: 24:51 And I really hope that you feel more balanced as you go through these holidays and beyond, because this is really a journey that continues. All right, beauties. I’m loving these questions so far. We have one last one from Pam, who lives in New Jersey. And she writes, “If you had one suggestion for heading into New Year’s feeling balanced and on track, what would it be? I’ve already gained 15 pounds from COVID, so the normal holiday weight gain isn’t even on my mind. I need to get situated with how to prepare for the new year and make some changes.”

Kimberly: 25:23 So, Pam, I love this question and I think that, again, the weight gain that you’ve mentioned and COVID and just this unprecedented situation that we all find ourselves in has been a tremendous stress on all of us in different ways. I felt the stress. The stress, for me, because I’m pretty isolated already in this little mountain hamlet where I live, with very little people around, is just getting used to having Bobby home all day without school and juggling so much. There’s so many different ways that the pandemic has affected us.

Kimberly: 26:05 And I didn’t really address it until my body started to break down months later after absorbing it and absorbing it and having another baby in the midst of all this. I will say that the number one suggestion is to center yourself on a daily basis with your meditation practice. And I talk about this a lot, you guys, now because I 1,000%, 2,000% from the bottom of my heart know and believe that this is the number one most important activity that you can do for yourself to create transformation and to create all the outer changes that you’re looking for, whether it’s losing weight, whether it’s having better skin.

Kimberly: 26:50 It tends to balance everything. Because when we center in with ourselves, we start to relax into ourselves. It’s hard to understand maybe if you haven’t yet experienced it. But coming from someone, your trusted friends, AKA me, that has been through this journey, I’ve been on the meditation journey for at least 12 years, and I still continue to go deeper. And it was completely restless at first. But what I can say is, as I continue the journey, I feel centered. I don’t need as much from outside of myself. So that means I’ve gotten so simple in my food and my lifestyle.

Kimberly: 27:30 I mean, I just go for walks and eat simple food and hang out with my family. And I don’t need to buy as much I feel like. I don’t need all the fancy foods, although sometimes I have fun with recipes. I eat a lot more simply than I did even a few years ago. My number one suggestion is to commit to your meditation practice as your number one New Year’s goal and to make it consistent. Even if it’s a few moments in the morning, in the evening, I highly recommend that you commit to that. For me, it’s the first thing in the morning.

Kimberly: 28:07 I sit up right in bed, babies and all, surrounded by them, and I breathe, and I connect, and I do my techniques. And we have free meditations for you over at mysolluna.com. We will have meditations every month, and you’ll get the other meditations from the previous month over on our new Solluna app that we’re launching, as I mentioned, in January. Whatever form of meditation resonates with you, find one, stick with it, commit to it, and you will find that 2021 may just be your most powerful year ever.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly: 28:36 Meditation has the power to do all of that, to connect in with your true self, with your beauty, and with you, actually with you. Thank you so much, Pam, for this question. I love you, and I see you. I can feel your energy behind the question. I know there’s this beautiful soul that’s just looking to get re-centered into her own strength, and meditation will very much help you with that. This ties in with my quote of the week, which I always write. And I don’t read these questions beforehand because I want them to feel really the power of the now.

Kimberly: 29:15 Spirits working through me when I read your question for the first time and there’s this spontaneous energy that comes up versus something that feels rehearsed or preplanned. I really do like to just feel the questions in the moment, but it does match. As always, we are also connected with the quote of the week, which is, “The only way to really know yourself and to love yourself is to spend time with yourself.” By that, I mean your true self. So we spend time with ourselves in meditation, in stillness, in quiet walks in nature.

Kimberly: 29:47 If we’re surrounded by noise all the time, if we’re surrounded by the news and television shows and movies and all these other things, then we don’t really get to know ourselves, and in that knowing process comes the unfolding of self-love, which we talked about earlier this week with our podcast with Julie Piatt. Which if you didn’t get a chance to check it out, please do because she really is a beautiful embodiment of self-love.

Kimberly: 30:16 Almost coming into her sixties. She’s an amazing unfoldment of how the wisdom and the power especially of us women, men too, the divine feminism, both of us, all of us. But it continues to unfold and it can be like this garden that gets deeper and richer and more just evolved. The meditation is my core, core recommendation as we go into holiday season. I’m with you. I will be providing more and more meditations, because I do believe that they are the single most important thing we could be spending our time on.

Kimberly: 30:56 I love you very much. Thank you so much for being here with me. Thank you so much for being in the community. I will see you on Monday for our next interview podcast. Until then, take care and so much love.

Embodying Self-Love with Julie Piatt [Episode #531]

Embodying Self-Love with Julie Piatt [Episode #531]

This week’s topic is: Embodying Self-Love with Julie Piatt

I am so excited to have my very special guest, Julie Piatt, who is a best-selling author, renowned chef, artist, musician and healer. Julie has so much wisdom to teach us about really, truly loving ourselves, which I think is key for all of us as we move through the world. As we focus on our goals, our families, our dreams and our aspirations, self-love is the key, and Julie is an amazing teacher in this regard.

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  • How to preserve your self-care and creative pursuits while being a full-time mom…
  • Sisterhood versus competition, duality and separation…
  • Ways to embody self-love…

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey, Beauties, and welcome back to our Monday interview podcast. I am super, super excited to share our very special guest with you today. Her name is Julie Piatt, and she is a best-selling author. She’s a renowned plant-based chef, artist, musician, and healer. She just created an amazing new plant-based cheese brand called SriMu, And she’s a wonderful spiritual teacher. She is 58-years-old and she just embodies self-love. She has so much wisdom to teach us about really, truly loving ourselves, which I think is key for all of us as we move through the world, as we focus on our goals and our families and our dreams and our aspirations. Self-love is the core, is the key, and Julie is an amazing, amazing teacher in this regard. So can’t wait for you to hear our interview today.

Fan of the Week

Kimberly: 01:00 Before we get into it, I want to give a quick shout out to our fan of the week. His or her name is MWL1970, and he or she writes, “I look forward to each Feel Good Podcast and find them very timely. The topics are exactly what I’m looking for in my holistic health and wellness journey. The rich content is simple, meaningful, real, and relatable. Kimberly’s wealth of knowledge in living a vibrant plant-based lifestyle, as well as integrating and addressing the importance of mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional wellbeing, is made evident through her podcast episodes, books, recipes, products, and social media posts. It is such a delight to listen to Kimberly each week, and more importantly, to be part of such a positive community of like-minded health seekers. Thank you, Kimberly, for genuinely speaking from your heart and spreading love and joy to the universe, much gratitude.”

Kimberly: 01:48 Well, MWL1970, Thank you so much for such an incredible heartwarming review. I have my hand on my heart right now. I really took that in and thank you so much for that. I am so grateful for you. I’m so grateful you’re part of the community, and that we have this space to connect and to walk the path together. I send you so much love and so much gratitude back to you.

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Kimberly: 02:17 And Beauties, for your chance to also be our fan of the week, also for me to read your words for me to connect with you, and also to just support the podcast, thank you so much in advance for your review. It doesn’t have to be as wonderfully elaborate as this wonderful review, it could just be a sentence or two, but if you can please leave us a review over on iTunes, it will take a minute or so, and it’s a great way to support the show. So thank you so much in advance. While you’re over there, please subscribe to the show. That way you don’t miss out on any of these interview podcasts or our Thursday Q&A community shows. All right, all that being said, let’s get right into our fantastic interview with that fascinating Julie.

Interview with Julie Piatt

Kimberly: 00:00:01 Thank you so much. It’s great to connect. I think we’re neighbors. I’m in Topanga.

Julie : 00:00:07 Oh, my god. Yeah. We’re completely neighbors. I love Topanga. I’m just off of Malibu Canyon.

Kimberly: 00:00:13 Oh, wow.

Julie : 00:00:14 Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:00:15 Wow. Well, I’m …

Julie : 00:00:17 We have to meet in person when we can.

Kimberly: 00:00:21 I love that. I briefly met your husband at commune. I think we crossed paths a little bit.

Julie : 00:00:28 Oh, that’s right. He told me that he went up there. That’s so cool.

Kimberly: 00:00:33 Yeah. We did. I recently did a course with them. It was nice.

Julie : 00:00:36 It’s good.

Kimberly: 00:00:37 Yeah. We’ve done our cornerstones. There was meditation, spiritual aspect, and then some food, which is …

Julie : 00:00:43 Oh, cool. Love it.

Kimberly: 00:00:45 This means I’m really drawn to your work. I know you incorporate a lot of spirituality, too.

Julie : 00:00:51 Yeah.

Julie’s influence and path as a spiritual teacher

Kimberly: 00:00:52 In reading your bio, non-judgment and neutrality, it struck me as a little bit Buddhist, or can you tell me a little bit about what your … I guess you could say yogi as well. My teacher, Yogananda, does talk a lot about neutrality. Can you tell me a little bit about your path, your spiritual teachers, your influence?

Julie : 00:01:14 Yeah, definitely. I mean, I’ve never called myself a Buddhist. I joke that a Buddhist is a little too subtle for me. I’m more for the yogi. I want the nirvana, the complete explosion of creativity. Buddhist is a little bit calm, I guess.

Kimberly: 00:01:36 A little bit stoic.

Julie : 00:01:37 It’s a little stoic. I’m looking for a little more juice. But no, no, no, I really don’t align with any -ism. No lineages. I mean, I’ve had many lifetimes in a yogi, in the Vedic lineage, an extraordinary amount of lifetimes. I am truly a yogi and carry that Vedic frequency. You mentioned Yogananda, who is a very dear ally of mine. I dedicated my house to him.

Kimberly: 00:02:08 Wow.

Julie : 00:02:08 All my land, many of my mystical journeys. I’ve had experiences with him through the veil, but never through the self-realization center. I went there once. I’d like to get initiated in Kriya. The brother told me that I had to claim Yogananda as my one and only. I said, “Well, that’s out of alignment for who I am.” They didn’t give me the Kriya initiation. But, yeah, I’ve always felt Yogananda very, very close, and have had quite a few profound experiences with him.

Kimberly: 00:02:46 Wow.

Julie : 00:02:46 That must be the link that’s …

Kimberly: 00:02:48 That’s amazing. Yeah. My whole next book is about his teachings and bringing them into the modern world.

Julie : 00:02:55 Wow. That’s amazing. How crazy. Bless you. Wow. That’s really, really gorgeous. Yeah. Actually I had an experience that was really profound and that was that I have been a singer since I was age six, in my knowingness of who I was. To the point at one time, there was a Christmas performance, and I woke up with a flu. I didn’t tell my mom because I wanted to get there and get on the stage. I couldn’t stand up. They took me to the infirmary.

Julie : 00:03:34 My first grade teacher came in to see me and it was a past life connection, my first past life connection with her. We just saw each other and knew each other from another place. Her name was Sally Brown. She came in to see me and I told her, “You’re just going to have to go on without me.” I remember her smiling and holding back her joy. But as a little six-year-old, I was serious about that.

Julie : 00:04:04 Then my whole life continued, and I never pursued music, because my older brother who’s 17 months older than I am, he is actually a rock star. He played with the Wallflowers and also with Lucinda Williams guitar player all these years later. But I made this distinction like, “Well, he’s doing music, so I’m not going to do music. I’m going to do something different.”

Julie : 00:04:26 I did everything different my entire life. But a lot of creativity, like screenwriting, and sculpting, and painting, and interior design, and fashion design and just all these things that I’ve done in my life. Then in my 40s, I suffered the breakup with a guru of mine. He was an occult master. Occult means hidden, for anybody that’s listening. We were using dark room meditations and connecting with energies beyond the veil and doing a lot of past life regression work. I did over 300 past life regression processes … two-year period.

Julie : 00:05:13 Through this, we ended up having a severance between us. Divine Mother made it very swift like she chopped my arm off without me looking. It was a very violent separation. He served me illegal summons and accused me of stealing from him, which was his following, which is ridiculous anyway. But it was just the furthest thing from what I was doing.

Kimberly: 00:05:44 That’s about as violent as you can get. Illegal. Being served.

Julie : 00:05:46 Yeah. I had met an Indian master, who I felt was a master in body, also of the Vedic lineage. I thought he was going to be very happy about this, because we had spent all this energy trying to connect with these type of beings. Instead, I was very naive. But he was very jealous and upset about it. It just shocked me. I thought we were all going to be holding hands and singing Kumbaya together.

Julie : 00:06:16 That wasn’t what he wanted. But in the end, it was actually really just as everything exactly what I needed, because I needed to get clear of that lineage immediately to move into my next step. The reason I’m telling you this process is at the end of that time, I went down to the Yogananda Ashram in San Diego.

Kimberly: 00:06:38 Yes.

Julie : 00:06:38 It’s in Encinitas. I went meditation. At the time, I had wanted to produce like a modern rock mantra musical offering. But I was not going to be the singer. I was going to find other singers and they were going to be doing it. What happened is, I went into the shop down there. There was a harmonium that I saw and it was literally getting bigger and smaller and bigger and smaller. It was calling me like, “Buy me. Buy me.” I wasn’t doing music. I wasn’t singing. I wasn’t doing anything.

Julie : 00:07:18 I didn’t have the money to buy it. It was $1,300. I didn’t buy it. I went into the silent meditation and it wouldn’t leave my consciousness. It was hurting on a wheel. I finally frustrated, went across, slapped it down on American Express, put it in the closet, showed my friend in silence. Like, “Look at what’s in my closet.” When I had this severance with my teacher, I suffered this tremendous heart ache, and it was such a separation, because I couldn’t talk to anyone about it, because it’s not that common to have this close relationship with a guru or a teacher.

Julie : 00:07:57 We had been doing all these very in-depth practices and all these type of things. I was just really suffering. In the middle of the night, I would wake up and I would play the harmonium to clear the pain, the hardness out of my heart from this breakup. That is when my music opened up, and just started riding through me.

Julie : 00:08:23 That harmonium many years later, an Indian repair-maker of harmoniums, I sent the harmonium to get repaired and he contacted me and said, “In all of my life, I have never seen a harmonium like this.”

Kimberly: 00:08:43 Wow.

Julie : 00:08:43 He said, “Can I buy it from you?” Because it’s old, it’s like from another time. It’s not like the harmoniums you see. I told him this story, and I said, “No, I’ll never let it go because it’s connected to Yogananda, and I feel as if it’s my harmonium from another lifetime, and another time … is with him.” I often say about this experience, “Was that teacher my enemy, or was he my greatest teacher?”

Julie : 00:09:11 Because from this loss, I accessed my music. Then I would go on and become a musician with my boys and which was an amazing experience for a mother. But anyway, Yogananda is very connected to me.
Kimberly: 00:09:28 Oh. Well, he probably brought us together in some way, in some vibrational level.
Julie : 00:09:36 Surely. Surely.

How to balance being an entrepreneur, a mom and still have time for the creative side in you

Kimberly: 00:09:39 Julie, we started off quite mystical which is stuff that I love to talk about. But a little bit on the practical level. You mentioned being a mom. I had to be honest. I’m trying to keep my eyes open. My five-month baby is giving me a run for my money right now. He’s … was sleeping. We have a four-year-old who’s not in … another boy who’s not in school because of COVID.

Kimberly: 00:10:02 These two boys are just the love of my life. But it’s challenging with a podcast, with a business, with writing this book. Then I look at you who looks so calm, and I know you have four children. Tell us about how you balance your work. You’re an entrepreneur. You have a company. You’re a musician. You do million things. You create all these recipes. You have cookbooks and you have four kids. How do you do it?

Julie : 00:10:34 Well, I just want to recognize you and honor you for being in the state of this beautiful mother consciousness.

Julie : 00:10:48 Yeah. I mean, really, I often work with my clients when I’m doing session work. The first thing that we need to do as mothers is to stop, and to really sit inside the divinity, the beauty that you have taken by becoming a mother. I always talk about when we become mothers there are two births that happen. It’s the birth of the baby and the birth of the mother.

Kimberly: 00:11:16 Yes.

Julie : 00:11:18 You are carrying this frequency. Before any of us achieve anything, or write any books, or take on any social causes, the fact that you exist at all is a miracle of creation. The fact that you have brought these two beautiful evolved beings into the field of humanity has uplifted all of creation. In the modern way, it’s already enough.

Julie : 00:11:50 You’re already enough. You’re more than enough. You’re being honored and valued and really met with reverence of this beautiful, beautiful stage of your life of what you’re holding. I guess what I would say is that’s the first step to how I do so much. I mean, I would say, I had a beautiful monk. Are you familiar with Vidyadhishananda?

Kimberly: 00:12:20 No.

Julie : 00:12:23 Vidyadhishananda is in body, and he’s a monastic, from the Vedic lineage, and connected to five lineages. He’s actually in Santa Barbara. He has a website called hansavedas.org. It is a pure Vedic lineage transmission. That is the most powerful of anything in body that I’ve come into contact with.

Julie : 00:12:55 At one time, he was telling me, he said, “SriMati.” He said, “Some people might find you a little overly creative. Because when you’re merged with Divine Mother, when you’re really in this frequency, we are these goddesses with all these arms.”

Julie : 00:13:17 Right. Right. Really, it’s the feminine frequency is essentially eternally creating, always. We’re never not creating. We are life-givers. This is the feminine energy in any body, whether you’re male or female. The feminine frequency is eternally creating. I think the key maybe, for me, is the self-acceptance at the beginning. Really cultivating that embodiment of who you are, the love of who you are, and the fact that you’re already perfect. You’re already realized.

Julie : 00:14:02 Then from that, I operate my … my energy flow is like a sphere. Some people they’re like, “I made a goal, and I made a list, and I’m going to go out.” Yeah. That’s very not new world for me, not new paradigm. The new paradigm is we’re in the frequency of embodiment. I share these techniques in my mentorship program, Water Tiger.

Julie : 00:14:29 Water Tiger is a way to no way, a path to no path, because every single person’s journey in life will be unique to you and you alone. You can look to Yogananda for inspiration. We can look to each other for inspiration. But ultimately, at the end of the day, there’s only one of you in the entire omniverse. There’s no one after you that’s coming to fulfill what you’re doing. As mothers, the first thing the first thing that I talk about is to recognize your mothership as your highest Sadhana.

Julie : 00:15:07 That means if there’s vomit being spewed, if there’s sleepless nights, if these hands are always on you, and you have no moment for yourself, if you’ve had challenges nursing, if you’re not feeling patient, if you’re feeling distracted, if you’re feeling lost, all of these things are your Sadhana.

Julie : 00:15:31 If you can make changing your baby’s diaper the most sacred thing in your life, if you can make being woken up repeatedly, so you’re exhausted, if you can make that your sacred path, then you transform the entire experience. You will ignite more compassion, more love, more capacity.

Julie : 00:15:59 Getting back to the sphere, because you’re a mother, and because we have to take those moments of creation when they arise. It’s almost like it’s a big moving ball of spheric energy. You just follow the flow. When the space opens up, you step into that creative expression, and then pull back in, and that flow continues, and then you step into it again. But I think it’s a lot of maybe little movements when you’re a mother, that then down the road amount to the completion of a project, let’s say.

Julie : 00:16:41 But you have to be able to take those little moments, and really embrace your motherhood as the greatest Sadhana of your life.

Kimberly: 00:16:51 Thank you, Julie. It’s beautiful to think of it in a much more, because we’re used to hearing the linear pathway versus a much more soft and, like you said, circular way. I totally agree with you that we’re on our own path. What would you say about … I’ve recently started to unpack how much our ancestral lineage can also play a part. As I become a mother, how much I’m influenced by my mother’s mothering, and she was doing her best. But she also did the opposite.

Kimberly: 00:17:26 She went back to an office when I was three weeks old. I’ve gone the other way, which is whenever my sons are awake, I’ve never had a nanny. I don’t like to hand them off. I want to be the ones with them and playing with them, which means I’m working around the clock. I’m writing till late at night and in the morning and naptime. I don’t really get to rest because I feel I started to step back and say, “Where did that idea come from?”

Kimberly: 00:17:51 It was because my mother had to always be away. Then I always want to be there. Then if I’m not, then I do have this guilt. It’s come so much from the women around me, and again, the ancestral lineage. It is my path. But then there’s this influence that I think we all feel well.

Julie : 00:18:13 I mean, this is a really important thing. In my session work, I deal with the clearing of family lines, ancestral lines of many miasms. Not something as far as a choice of where one place is, one’s energy, which you’ve just shared with me. But let’s talk about sexual molestation, addiction, abuse, very large traumas of abandonment of pain that humanity is carrying at quite a large percentage. I would say probably 92% of my clients have been sexually molested as children.

Kimberly: 00:18:53 Wow.

Julie : 00:18:54 It’s absolutely. Yeah. I mean, it is out of control what has been done to the sexual frequency of the human being, which is the most powerful and most sacred energy that we have within our life. But what I would also offer you is we do need to take responsibility to be the ones that clear the miasm, or the unease or dis-ease from the family lineage. This is the moment to clear it.

Julie : 00:19:26 A lot of times, the way that I work with people in session is I look for the biggest trauma. The thing that they’ve never really told anyone, the thing that they maybe haven’t even faced themselves, because they just brushed it over and moved on and were like, “That’s okay, I can handle that type of thing.” Because within that trauma, are the keys to your freedom. Because if you can face it and go within it, and claim your sovereign right as a free conscious being.

Julie : 00:19:59 To release that you not only heal yourself, but you heal all your generations. They say seven back, seven forward. But I’m working in a multi-dimensional model, that we are actually multi-dimensional beings having a simultaneous experience. I think the healing goes much more vast than that. How I talk to my people that come to me is, it’s a change of perspective.

Julie : 00:20:29 How about if we look at ourselves, we were so brave, and so courageous, that we agreed to incarnate into a family, constellation or grouping that would provide these evolutionary experiences, even though some of them are horrific. Because we were the ones that were like we love humanity so much, and we love the earth so much, that we’re going to go through that hell, because we’re going to take responsibility to clear it, and that’s going to clear all humanity.

Kimberly: 00:21:05 Wow.

Julie : 00:21:07 The trauma is key right now. There’s not that many. I don’t think there’s enough modalities to actually access it and clear it and truly clear that out. The other thing that I will offer you as a mother, we’re all informed by our past. We look at what happened in our own life. We’re like, “But we don’t want to do that. We’re going to be different, and do it differently.”

Julie : 00:21:34 That’s amazing. Now that I’m on the other end of motherhood, my youngest is 13, my oldest is 24. I’ve got two girls that are in their teenage moments.

Kimberly: 00:21:47 How is that going?

Julie : 00:21:49 Oh, my god. If I only could make a documentary, but they would never talk to me again. No. I mean, it’s hilariously human and lively. Every single point of emotion that you can hit on the bell curve, it’s just epic. I mean, I would just say it’s epic. Now that anytime, if you come over there, maybe some intense screaming going on, which I’ve been … I have one of my children. Mathis, who is just five people in one body. She was born that way, and she rocked my world.

Julie : 00:22:29 That’s why I homeschooled my girls and created an educational system and book and a memoir, which I haven’t finished, because I’m at the end of that. I still haven’t come through the experience. I need to digest the whole arc, so that I can really share what’s happening. But what I’ve come to understand is that no matter what you do, no matter which path you choose, if you choose holistic food, if you choose homeschooling, your child will rebel against you, and will take their differentiation, which is a part of the human journey.

Julie : 00:23:11 Also, the part of the human journey is to experience the separation from source, which is this constriction and suffering. Excuse me. You’re at this beautiful, pristine, sweet moment of just being merged with your babies. You should just be there. I don’t want you to worry about this or whatever. But I’m just saying, just be yourself in every aspect of what you’re doing and understand that likely, your children will separate.

Julie : 00:23:47 My daughter, who we basically watched discourses on the Bhagavad Gita. She was meditating. I mean, we had this entire mutual experience. About a couple months ago, in one of her emotional moments she told me, “All of those spiritual experiences, they meant nothing to me. I just wanted to be with you. But they didn’t really mean anything to me.”

Julie : 00:24:16 I’m like, “Okay. Well, that’s amazing.” I have to deal with … I’m thinking to myself, like, “You have no idea what we went through together.” But then later, she’ll come in and tell me, “You should write a book on parenting.” She’ll come in and say, “You should have had nine children, Mom.”

Kimberly: 00:24:36 Wow.

Julie : 00:24:37 It goes through the whole thing. But I’m just saying there is no perfect way to mother or to parent. You have to allow the child to find their own truth. They will reject you at some point, which is something else I’m going to write about, because it’s this really, hilariously, horrific moment of life when you’ve been the mama … and I know all the mother’s laughing. We’ve been the mothers. I mean, look at you’ve been up all night. You’ve been woken up repeatedly, constantly. It’s superhuman what we do as mothers with the children.

Kimberly: 00:25:17 Yes.

Julie : 00:25:18 Then to think that you get to an age when you’ve been a dedicated mother present, loving, unconditional. Mathis transforming more than anybody in my entire life. I’ve been married three times and deeply in love five. But that daughter of mine, that baby just rocked my world, because she wasn’t having any of society, none of it. She’s transformed me more than anyone else. We have this deep, deep relationship.

Kimberly: 00:25:48 She is your third child or your youngest?

Julie : 00:25:51 She’s going to be 17 in a month. Yeah.

Differentiating raising boys from raising girls and is if each child is their own soul

Kimberly: 00:25:55 Julie, do you notice … No. Each child is individual, of course. But as the mother of two daughters and two sons, and I only have experience with sons, do you think there’s anything we can categorize? It is different raising boys than girls, do you notice a difference? Or do you really just see it as each child is completely their own soul?

Julie : 00:26:17 Well, I think there’s a big revolution or evolution going on in the children. What I would tell you is that my idealized idea that I was going to give birth to a girl and she was going to be like me was completely shattered, just blown into a million pieces. She looked more like her father when she was born. I think that it might be prevalent. Maybe it’s a nature thing.

Kimberly: 00:26:43 Let me say that …

Julie : 00:26:44 You say something.

Kimberly: 00:26:45 The father can recognize the child. Yeah.

Julie : 00:26:49 I don’t know. Some crazy thing like. We will change that. But no, I’m kidding. But my two girls, well, first of all, my Jaya, she’s non-binary. She does not want to be genderized, if that’s a word. She doesn’t want to be categorized. She is making me refer to her in this “They” pronoun, which I blow it every day. I call her my sweet girl every day. She’s like, “You did it again.” I’m like, “Okay, I’m sorry.”

Julie : 00:27:23 Then I tried to talk to her a little bit about, I was like, “Okay. Does this mean that are you attracted to girls?” I’m trying to figure it out. She’s like, “Mom, this has nothing to do with sexuality.” I’m like, “Okay. Just teach me because it’s very confusing.” She’s non-binary. She’s very, very, very unique, a very gentle soul, unconditionally loving with old people and animals beyond.

Julie : 00:27:54 She’s an amazing actress. Stole the stage. Shocked everyone. I had no idea many times. She has very limited energy. She’s what’s called a projector in human design. I don’t know. Are you familiar with human design?

Kimberly: 00:28:10 A little bit. Yes. She’s a projector type.

Julie : 00:28:14 She’s a projector. She has limited energy, which means she can only really learn for five hours at a time. If she goes to a party, it takes her a week to recover.

Kimberly: 00:28:25 Wow.

Julie : 00:28:26 She likes to be in her own room, her own space. She likes to eat food alone. It was quite expansive to get her chart read to really understand because all the rest of us we’re all generators. You’re probably a generator. We’re 70% of the human population, which means we have endless energy. We’re always creating, always doing things.

Kimberly: 00:28:51 Yes.

Julie : 00:28:51 We have one projector in our family, and also my nephew, Harry is also a projector. Their entire purpose of life is completely different than ours. That’s important. I think this is important as mothers to get your Vedic chart read for your children, and to get a human design reading for your children so you know who you’re raising, because not all of us are the same.

Julie : 00:29:13 Rich will be like, “I’m worried about them, worried about them. Are they okay?” I’m like, “Jaya, is not like us. She is not like us. Stop trying to make her like us.” Then Mathis, she’s five energies in one body. She’s not a typical girl profile. I think I got two very unique girls that are new prototypes or …

Kimberly: 00:29:46 Wow.

Julie : 00:29:47 … new like of people. Yeah.

Kimberly: 00:29:49 It was boy, boy, girl, girl?

Julie : 00:29:51 Right. Excuse me. It’s a different dad. Somebody said, “How did you get two boys and two girls?” I’m like, “Different dad.” Yeah, my boys were just textbooks, amazing, easy. But my girls are not easy, but not for the typical stereotypical reasons.

Kimberly: 00:30:22 You said they separate from us. They reject us. Even as consciously as we try to raise them, would you say, Julie, that every child has some form of trauma. I mean, there’s the obvious trauma, there’s the sexual molestation, or the physical abuse. But then as I go down this pathway of trauma, it comes in many forms, maybe being ignored, being a latchkey kid for many years is a kind of trauma, these subtle forms.

Kimberly: 00:30:49 Do you think no matter how well we try to raise them, there is … I don’t say we screw them up. But there’s trauma that they experience, because that’s their soul’s journey.

Julie : 00:31:01 I think it is a human journey to experience the separation. You know what I mean? Listen, the life is vast. It could be an amazing relationship that you could have a mother, child that are just in love with each other until the death. That’s totally happens. You know what I mean? But I would say that everyone came to experience the separation. You will find the trauma in the life no matter what the life looks like. You know what I mean?

Julie : 00:31:36 You’re looking for that contrast, so that you can find out who you are. But what I will say is I do feel that from age birth until seven, eight, or nine, you have all the influence to give them unconditional love, good nourishing food, healthy relationship with electronics, close relationship with nature. You have those years. After age 12, you don’t have that anymore. They’re not really listening to you.

Kimberly: 00:32:12 It’s their foundational?

Julie : 00:32:14 Yeah. It’s foundational. In my homeschooling model, it’s more of an unschooling model. I really feel passionately. I never use that word. I feel strongly about allowing someone to feel themselves, to find themselves. For instance, Mathis as a baby, she would stay up till 1:00 in the morning. Rich and I were all exhausted. Our three-year-old would be like, “Good night.” Leave her in her space. She was very, very sensitive, extremely sensitive.

Julie : 00:32:55 She definitely was likely on a spectrum, but I never had her diagnosed because I didn’t want her to have that reality. I made a world that said, “Yes” to her as much as possible, and kept no medication, did it with essences, and foods, and a lot of work for me, a lot of presence for me. I feel like Mathis didn’t let go of me for eight years. It was a victory. She required a lot of me.

Pursuing creative projects

Kimberly: 00:33:26 Was that a time in your life, Julie, where you weren’t able to pursue more as many of your creative projects? Did that come later, or were you still writing at that time, and doing your music?

Julie : 00:33:38 Well, I was going through financial collapse over a nine-year period with four children and Rich. We were in a process of transformation. It was a deeply spiritual time of mine. You might say that on the surface. But actually, my music came through me and I recorded two albums with my boys during that seven-year process.

Julie : 00:34:04 I gave birth to my fourth child during that process. I created an art show. I had an art gallery showing with these massive tree photos that I did, that were 4 by 10 feet.

Kimberly: 00:34:19 Wow.

Julie : 00:34:20 I managed to sneak in creativity. But when I was pregnant with Jaya, I was so sick with all my kids when I was pregnant. I was so sick with Jaya that I wasn’t okay for seven months. I couldn’t even unload the dishwasher. I was just in agony. Then I woke up and I was like, “Oh, I feel okay. I better shoot the album cover for my first album because I wanted to do it with me.”

Julie : 00:34:48 I was body painted like a tree and superimposed into this tree and I’m pregnant with Jaya. It’s the cover of Mother of Mine which is on Spotify and iTunes. I did manage that. I think I managed some very profound expressions of creativity. But it was a lot of vomit, and sleepless nights, diapers.

Kimberly: 00:35:13 Yeah.

Julie : 00:35:14 Just the whole thing. I mean, it’s superhuman. I’m [crosstalk 00:35:16]

Kimberly: 00:35:17 … life.

Julie : 00:35:19 It’s so incredible. It’s so, so, so incredible. Just to share with you like a little window. Now Mathis, like the other day … Mathis decided to … I fostered art in Mathis because she loved art. When she showed interest, instead of getting her a little paper, I got her a huge canvas, a four by eight foot pallet, and just let her go crazy on it. She would be painting in her underwear, and she wrecks every space she gets into.

Julie : 00:35:52 I mean, she has a studio now here that she lives in. It’s 600 square feet, and it’s just full of concrete and rebar and sculpture and paint and glass. I mean, she lives in her artist studio. It’s so messy. It’s beyond my mess quotient. I can’t even deal with it. But anyway, she got herself into one of the most prominent art schools in the country. It’s called LACHSA. She was completely unschooled until fourth grade.

Julie : 00:36:26 Then she found this school and she applied and she worked a year and a half on her portfolio and got into the fine art department. But the challenge is that it’s very academic. They have academic from 8:00 to 12:00, and then art from 12:00 to 4:00. She’s suffering because the academia is not in her divine design. She’s a multi-dimensional being. She can’t do one, two, three, four. But she’s making herself do one, two, three, four.

Julie : 00:36:55 It’s brutal for her. She’s not sleeping, but she loves the art and she’s not missing. She’s told me, “Mom, I need it. I wish you had gotten me a diagnosis.” But she just wants the diagnosis so the teachers have more patience with her. She doesn’t want to take medication.
Kimberly: 00:37:14 Right.

Julie : 00:37:17 She’s happy with some of the choices that I made. Then she’s having trouble with. She’s in a very diverse community. She has friends all over the city in LA. LA is a huge city. She judges us for being privileged. Yeah. That’s another thing. But I’m really inspired. She’s got a great social conscience. I think she’s going to go into a new form of politics.

Julie : 00:37:51 I just know this clairvoyantly through an Oracle that I work with. She’s got tremendous heart, but she’s like a hurricane. Literally, like a hurricane. That’s my daughter.

Kimberly: 00:38:03 Wow. I love how you say this with a smile and all the hilarious … the words you use to really see the humor in it. It’s so inspiring, honestly. I just feel my shoulders dropping when just to talk to other mothers that are doing it and in that mix. The children are themselves. We do our best. But it’s going to unfold the way their life path is also meant to unfold for their learning.

Julie : 00:38:30 It is and we have these moments and lots of tears, and especially the pandemic. I mean, oh, bless our children, all of us. Can you imagine being a teenager in a pandemic? I mean, it’s the absolute worst thing possible for that age.

Kimberly: 00:38:49 Oh, sure.

Julie : 00:38:51 Right? But I know when Mathis has her moments, and we’re crying and we’re sitting in the car, having these emotionally heated conversations. I feel her pain, and I believe in her. There’s nothing she has to do to prove herself to me. I already know who this being is. I know who she is. I just tell her, “I’m so good with me. I’m so good with myself,” because I gave her everything I had, literally.

Julie : 00:39:30 Not in a way of sacrificing myself. I didn’t. But I literally designed a motherhood relationship with my kids. It was my biggest offering of devotion and love and creativity. They’re going to be unhappy with some of that. But at the end of the night, I told her, it’s like, “I can die now, and I am so good with me.”

How to preserve your self-care and creative pursuits while being a full-time mom

Kimberly: 00:39:54 I love it. That’s level of confidence. How do you do that? Then you said you didn’t sacrifice. How were you able to preserve your self-care, your time with your husband, your creative pursuits with … because there are times I have to admit where I do feel like I’m sacrificing right now. I’m sacrificing sleep. I’m sacrificing any free time. I mean, I don’t use that word. But it’s a lot. It’s a conscious choice and a decision I’m making.

Kimberly: 00:40:28 But I do feel at times in this period, I am feeling a little lost within myself. I don’t know if I’d use the word sacrifice. But I’m struggling with a balance. I feed them. I make all these things. Sometimes I think, “Oh my god, I forgot to feed myself.”

Julie : 00:40:45 Oh, yeah. That’s an amazing thing. How many times any mothers who are listening to this, how many times I had a fork on my way to my mouth, actually in transit to my mouth, and it never made it there.

Kimberly: 00:41:02 Exactly.

Julie : 00:41:03 Right?

Kimberly: 00:41:03 Exactly. How do we do it? How do we give the love and not sacrifice the self?

Julie : 00:41:09 It’s very, very challenging. I mean, it’s not easy. I think it’s harder in today’s society, because we used to have villages. We used to have extended families around that would help out. I didn’t have two husbands that were mister, moms, neither one of them. I mean, Rich wasn’t it and neither was Lou. I was the mom. Actually the name of my new band is called Mom God.

Kimberly: 00:41:39 I love that.

Julie : 00:41:40 Isn’t that a great name?

Kimberly: 00:41:42 Amazing.

Julie : 00:41:43 Yeah. Because as a mom, you’re god, you are god. Because your children, Rich would be in the kitchen, and he would like get a cookie. They would be like, “Mom, can Rich have a cookie?” Literally. I would just laugh because they were just like, “She’s the god of our universe. She says what it is about every single thing.” I guess what I would say is, if you really can embody that in a devotional way … Somebody asked me a question about discipline.

Julie : 00:42:16 They’re like, “I’m not disciplined, and you’re so disciplined, and you do prayers and spiritual fires in the middle of the night.” The thing is, is I’m the most undisciplined person I know. I hate discipline. I don’t live any two days the same way ever, never. I don’t even really know … I have this map of all the things that I’m working on. Then I feel into the energy of the moment of what is appropriate. I might not know if I’m going to somebody’s event until five minutes before I’m leaving.

Kimberly: 00:42:53 You live by intuition?

Julie : 00:42:55 Total intuition and total guidance. I do want to just give a little teeny gentle word of caution. About being a mom with little babies, when you’re trying to hit the modern world in such an expressed way, you know what I mean, and not giving time for you. I will tell you that if you do not take care of your body, and if you do not make time for your body, your body will get your attention.

Kimberly: 00:43:29 Yes. I’m already starting to feel that with the headaches and the pain. It’s coming. It’s made me step back. Just this week, Julie, to think, “Oh, gosh, maybe I’m going to move the baby out of our bed now that he’s about six months, almost six months.” Yeah. The body will talk.

Julie : 00:43:49 You have to. Also to understand, I think another thing that might be helpful to moms is this time is so precious. So, so precious. You’ll never get these moments back.

Kimberly: 00:44:05 Yeah.

Julie : 00:44:06 You’ll never get that moment when that consciousness is looking at you in the middle of the night through those pristine eyes. It is a grace and an honor and a privilege for you to be a mother and to be a mother of healthy babies. To be a mother at this moment in the planetary precession and transformation, it’s not like any other time in history.

Julie : 00:44:35 I want to remind you that a life takes many years to become my dear. It’s not happening this year. Your maturity, your awareness of spirituality, your embodiment, your ability to be a wayshower is not realizing this week, this year, two years. It takes a life to become an entire life. I thought I was going to be doing everything that I’m almost doing when I was 30. I’m 58 years old right now.

Julie : 00:45:13 Now, it is like I’ve never been more fit, more embodied, more creative, more aligned with who I am. What I would offer to everyone is what is more beautiful than a being that knows itself, a being that at home?

Bringing sisterhood back together versus competition, duality and separation

Kimberly: 00:45:39 Julie, I’m obsessed with your energy. I just can’t stop staring at you. I can’t help but ask. We talked a lot about the mother aspect. But just you as a woman, you in your confidence, in your presence, there’s a lot for … take out the mother aspect. But for women today, we live in a very image-focused society, social media, Instagram, which, I say, comparing often leads to contrasting, which often leads to competition amongst women, and cattiness, and taking little digs, all this.

Kimberly: 00:46:15 The sisterhood has been in many ways disrupted very much in modern times. What would you say to women about that love and that beingness and bringing sisterhood back together versus competition and duality and separation?

Julie : 00:46:35 Yeah. Well, I feel that very, very strongly as an issue in our culture. It’s been propagated or, I don’t know if that’s the right word, but it’s been put into the field. Because we were taught that the most important thing is to get a man. I once made a comment early. I don’t know. I said, “I have this idea for a screenplay. It’s about five best friends, that were best friends at children, and how you follow them through their life, and how they all deceived and betrayed each other.”

Julie : 00:47:16 Somebody said, “Oh, that’s so negative.” I was like, “It’s actually not negative. It’s just true.” It’s just actually true. I could also say that as a being, I’ve been energetically created to do a lot of transformation with the masculine. I did it with my husband. I’ve counseled a lot of men over the years. I mean, they come to me for the transformation. Even Rich has seen it over the years. It’s like, he’s just … it’s remarkable how many men come to me.

Kimberly: 00:47:47 Wow.

Julie : 00:47:51 I’ve never really been in the girls club. I was never really invited into the girls club until I had children. When I had children, then I was invited in and it was a very, very sweet. It was a very amazing experience. But I think what happens is that we’ve fallen into this narrative, and it comes without giving to ourselves first. Listen, I’m an artist. I create beauty in my life. I care very much about the way that I look. I spend time taking care of my skin. I eat well. I do whatever I can that’s noninvasive.

Julie : 00:48:36 I’m fully embodying youth in my form. That’s part of my mission. My daughter last night, she filmed me for a school project. I had no makeup on. It was in her dirty studio. I was like, “Let me see.” She’s like, “You look beautiful.” She’s like, “All my friends are just going to talk about how young you look. That’s all they talk about all the time.” I was like, “Okay, I’ll take that for my 17-year-old.

Kimberly: 00:49:01 I love it.

Julie : 00:49:02 A little more. But I guess, I think that every single thing comes down to giving yourself what you need first. One of the practices that I do in Water Tiger is mirror gazing. The most profound practice that we can do is sit in front of a mirror and gaze at the third eye point, between the eyebrows and up, maybe an inch, maybe a half inch, and actually fix your gaze and breathe and be present with what is.

Julie : 00:49:38 Naked is best to really get clear with what is the technology that you’re sitting in, and can use to start to receive yourself as an emanation of divinity, and can you vow to yourself the way that you have to your children. Can you make your own inner child, your human form, your heart, your tender heart? Can you make that the most important relationship of your life, more important than your children, more important than your husband?

Julie : 00:50:20 Every single decision that you make should be considering that child first. Because if you continue to ignore her, and you take care of your kids, take care of your husband, take care of your social media following, write the book, then have friendships. Where is she? Have you talked to her? What is she need? What is nurturing for her? What is the most supportive for her?

Julie : 00:50:50 If you don’t take care of her, she’s going to become sick. She’s going to become angry, resentful, hurt. Then that is what you’re going to be sharing with your children. It’s like we have it backwards. Just with spirituality. It’s I’m going to do everything on my list, and then last spirituality. No. It’s the other way around. It’s spiritual connection first, and then you second.

Julie : 00:51:20 It’s very confusing, because we’ve been taught to believe that sacrificing ourselves means that we are pleasing, nice. What I want to say, altruistic. No. It’s not. Sacrificing yourself is not spiritually divine. It is in fact the opposite. You are in this life in this body. The more we can develop that sacred connection, then suddenly, when we are taking care of ourselves, then we can be a sister, then we can, because we’re so full. We’re just so full.

Julie : 00:52:07 There’s no pain. There is no competition. There’s no competition when you’re seated inside yourself. There’s only one of you in the entire omniverse. The eagle isn’t trying to convince the deer that it’s better to have wings than it is to have hooves.

Kimberly: 00:52:29 All that separation comes from the pain and the wounds within that person that’s not loving themselves enough?

Julie : 00:52:36 Yeah. You hear it in every single spiritual tradition. It’s the seeker went on the journey and found out it was inside all along. I mean, that story. I would say that how many of us can look at ourselves in the mirror and say, “I love you?” Or how many of us can look at ourselves in the mirror and say, you are divine. You are an emanation of God consciousness. I love you. I receive you. I serve you. I celebrate you. Thank you.

Julie : 00:53:07 Thank you for breathing for me. Thank you for allowing me to have this podcast with Kimberly. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. Instead, we’re saying, “Oh, I got a gray hair coming in. Oh, wait, I see a wrinkle. Oh, I shouldn’t have eaten that cake.”

Kimberly: 00:53:26 Oh, she’s just skinnier than me.

Julie : 00:53:28 Yeah. Look how pretty she is. Look how pretty they are. Oh, I wish I had blue eyes. I mean, if you and I were having lunch together for the first time. If I spent our time together telling you that I wish you had … your hair is okay, but I wish it was red. I met this other person who had really beautiful eyes that were blue. I think like, “Do you think you would have lunch with me again?” No. You wouldn’t. But we talk to ourselves that way every day.

Kimberly: 00:54:00 Totally.

Julie : 00:54:01 Thoughts are things. We are shaping our reality. If you want the world to celebrate, you celebrate yourself. If you want the world to receive you, as a divine creator, then be a divine creator and be in your beingness. In that beingness and that embodiment and that alignment, you become this magnetic beacon, basically. No one can take it from you.

Julie : 00:54:28 No one can take away your blueprint of what your divinity made you to be. There’s only one of you in the entire multiverse. For goodness sakes, how precious is that?

Kimberly: 00:54:42 Wow.

Julie : 00:54:43 So precious. It’s not about anyone else outside of you, because there’s only one like you. Yet humanity is always trying to find this consensus, these incessant conversations on podcasts of what’s the right diet? What’s the right dress? I mean, it’s so ridiculous.

Kimberly: 00:55:08 It is. I wish every human, every being could hear your message, and really take it to heart. Because you think about how much time is spent, and also elevating celebrity, and fame, and all these people trying to look like someone else, and to be like someone else, instead of turning the energy inward.

Julie : 00:55:28 Yes.

Kimberly: 00:55:29 Really fostering that inner life.

Julie : 00:55:33 What a beautiful life? What a beautiful the force, let’s say the breath that is breathing all of us, created us, each completely individual. There’s no two one of us alike. No two one life form is alike. Our mission is to know ourselves. How awesome is that? Here, I’m 58. My mission every day is to embody more of who I am fully. I am exploring my body as a work of art, as a work of divine technology.

Julie : 00:56:14 The more that I can express art through every level of what I’m doing, that feels like success if you were going to say, success, or maybe realization in terms that you and I resonate more. But it’s the realization of who you are, of all those unique attributes that make you unique. When realized, blesses the whole. Spontaneously blesses the whole.

Julie : 00:56:50 Some people might hear me and they’re confused, because they’re thinking I’m talking about a narcissistic journey. No. It’s beyond the personality. I was telling somebody, I was talking to my son yesterday. We took a drive together. He’s 24. I was talking to him about all of the seeking, you’re a fellow seeker. We have this thing that makes us search for the spiritual, search for that.

Julie : 00:57:24 I was laughing at my ego once when I was going through financial collapse. I was being judged harshly, and also transforming the planet and my family and my daughter who was on the spectrum and my husband and fighting for my house, which I won in the end after five years of not being paid for it.

Julie : 00:57:44 But during the time in a down moment, my ego wanted to be realized. I was like, “This is going to turn and they’re going to see that I was right. I wanted to be verified in my ego, because I was in so much pain.” Then I contemplated a little further and then I laughed, because I realized that when I was at that point that my ego wouldn’t need it anymore. When I came to that level of realization, there would no longer be that aspect of ego.

Julie : 00:58:18 Then there would never be a realization for the ego. I just had to laugh, and go, “That’s so funny.” I don’t know if that answered your question.

Kimberly: 00:58:29 It more than answered it. It more than answered it, Julie. I could literally bask in your magnetism forever, and drink by the water because it’s different when you hear people talking about it versus embodying it. I guess the last aspect I want to ask you about is how you take that being talked about it in motherhood, being within yourself, and then how you take it into the business world.

Kimberly: 00:58:58 As an entrepreneur myself, and I’m always introspecting and thinking how can I be the best leader to my team? I know you have, is it SriMu, am I saying it right?

Julie : 00:59:08 SriMu. Yeah. SriMu.

Kimberly: 00:59:10 … is amazing vegan cheese company and other ventures. How do you take that into leadership where there’s goals that you had your own deadlines, there’s practicalities, and then there’s also the individual light in essence with each person. I try to allow space for each person to have their own creative ways of doing things.

Kimberly: 00:59:34 But of course, there are some practicalities. Projects that need to be done and deadlines again. What advice would you have to maintain that presence in the business world?

Julie : 00:59:47 Yeah. That’s a good question. Well, I mean, again, it’s everything that I do is for the expression of divinity. SriMu is a global mission of awakening. I believe it is a frequency and it is. My friend, [Inqu 01:00:07], gave me a beautiful quote after he received SriMu. He said, “SriMati, after I ate SriMu, I felt like a better person.

Kimberly: 01:00:17 Wow.

Julie : 01:00:20 Everything the way that I formed the company is from a spiritual point of connection. I have certain rituals and certain company practices. For instance, in SriMu, first of all, the titles of my team, the people that make the cheese are called Sacred Makers. I made them Sacred Makers. I didn’t make them achieve anything to receive the title of Sacred Maker. I gave them the name first and allowed them to live into it.

Julie : 01:00:58 Whoever touches the food, as we know in Vedic lineage, is they are the highest vibration, the most important people. Because who makes your food is the greatest ingredient in the food that you’re eating.

Kimberly: 01:01:09 Yes.

Julie : 01:01:11 We have a company practice that we take 13 breaths in presence before we touch the cheese. Everybody comes in, and they breathe either on their own or in a group. It’s a way to, again, bring this reverence of this connection with nature. We also have nature sounds infused in the kitchen along with orange blossom essences that are diffused into the air. We try to really be conscious of why we’re doing SriMu. SriMu is an impact company.

Julie : 01:01:45 It is serving our bodies, our children’s future, our planet and our animals. It is a mission of nonviolence. It’s a mission of sustainability for the planet, and a mission of health and love of the body. My job is as the spiritual head, I do a lot of alchemy and a lot of fires. I use the element of fire. I use this in conjunction with the business. I have spiritual practices that I use as a framework.

Julie : 01:02:29 That then the other technical or practical issues come in under that. The same way that I was just talking about spirituality is not the last thing. It’s the first thing. I begin with that framework to create that container. Then I have some really extraordinary teammates. My managers are called Flowmasters. They’re Chloe Stein, Bekah Rife, and Aaron O’Neill.

Julie : 01:02:58 They are just a dream team of … Chloe’s a nutritionist, chef, vegan chef. Bekah is a vegan chef, but has a lot of experience in tech. She’s also a desert whisperer. Then Aaron is a production master. I don’t know. They’re pretty mature. They believe in the mission. They’re devoted to the mission.

Julie : 01:03:25 This is the other thing. It really is a planetary mission. It’s not just like, “I’m Julie and I want you to work for me.” It’s like we were all serving, creating a new timeline on planet Earth. I think that that mission orientation when it’s true makes all the difference in a business.

Kimberly: 01:03:50 Yeah. It’s anchoring everyone around the central purpose, which is so much bigger than each individual.

Julie : 01:03:56 Yeah. Exactly. Also in a business sense, is that I have given each of them equity in the business as well. I mean, Chloe and Bekah worked with me for three months ahead of time. Aaron came in and he’s just been a master at production. This is a big, big, big vision, and I can’t do it alone. They are key people that are on the ground. They’re actually making the cheese.

Julie : 01:04:28 They’re not management or executive team. It was important to me to include them and stream them in that way. It’s theirs as well

Kimberly: 01:04:39 Wow. It’s so beautiful, Julie. You have such an incredible energy. I feel so honored to have this conversation with you and to share it out. What is the best way for people to get in touch with you or to learn more? You mentioned, Water Tiger and then SriMu.

Julie : 01:04:58 I have my global website which is juliepiatt.com, J-U-L-L-I-E-P-I-A-T-T .com. You can find everything on that site. But if you’d like to check out the cheese flavors directly and see everything about my devotional offerings for life, they are artisanal, amazing, fall down on the floor high end, black labeled cheese. It’s srimu.com, S-R-I-M-U .com.

Julie : 01:05:26 Yeah. If you’re looking for some mentorship, I have a monthly Water Tiger group. It is a way to no way. I am not advocating interaction between the group because we have enough external things that are pushing us or pulling our attention. But it’s about connecting you with the truth of who you are. There are techniques of embodiment that are my own, over my years of working in Vedic traditions, yoga, breathing, meditations, activations.

Julie : 01:05:58 Those are visualizations that you can do at your own pace. There’s no order. It’s a sphere. You can jump in and pick what works for you. Just make your life a success because you are the one you’ve been waiting for. I believe in all of us. I believe in you to find your way into living your most authentic expression of life. Because how could it be otherwise you’re a divine emanation of consciousness?

Julie : 01:06:30 That’s my message that we are beyond enough. We are so much more than we know. I’m sharing my life experience with the devoted intent that it may help you to find your own truth. I am not a guru. I am not accepting responsibility for anyone else’s life. I have many creative expressions that are still waiting to come. But it’s an honor and a privilege and a pleasure to have this moment with you, Kimberly. Thank you so much.

Kimberly: 01:07:04 Thank you so much, Julie.

Kimberly: 03:02 All right, Beauties. Well, I hope you enjoyed hearing from Julie as much as I did. She is such a wise teacher, a woman that has embodied this concept of self-love, which I think is, perhaps, the most fascinating thing about her and the reason I just loved this interview and love talking to her. We will be back here Thursday for our next Q&A podcast. Be sure to head over to mysolluna.com for the show notes. If you’ve never checked out the show notes, we have links to articles and information and other podcasts and products and things that you may be interested in. There’s a lot of rich content over in the show notes, as well as recipes and meditations and lots of other things. I send you so much love, so much gratitude. Thank you so much for being part of our community, it means the world to me. I will see you over there. I’ll see you on social @_KimberlySnyder. Until then, lots and lots of love.