How to Find Your Personality Type of the Enneagram with Dr. Deborah Edgerton [Epsiode #893]
This weekās topic: How to find your personality type of the Enneagram with Dr. Deborah Edgerton
Hi loves and welcome back to our Monday interview show. I am so excited, thrilled for our very special guest today. Today we have Dr. Deborah Edgerton, who is also known as Dr. E. And she has written this incredibly wise and interesting, fascinating book on Enneagram, the Enneagram system, which you will explain to us today. I am brand new to this system and was instantly fascinated with Enneagram made easy: Explore the nine personality types of the Enneagram to open your heart, find joy, and discover your true self. Dr. E., thank you so much for being here with us today.
Dr. Deborah Edgerton Best Selling Book
Topics Covered
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Enneagram System
02:30 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Integration
06:38 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone for Growth
10:07 Exploring the Nine Personality Types of the Enneagram
15:46 Embracing the Power of the Divine Feminine Energy
31:58 Introduction
32:11 Exploring the Heart Center Types
34:09 Understanding the Inner Critic
35:09 The Importance of Validation and Approval
36:02 The Desire to Fix Others
43:34 The Power of Introspection and Community
About Dr. Deborah Edgerton
Deborah Threadgill Egerton Ph.D. is an Internationally Respected Psychotherapist, Best-selling Author and Unity and Belonging Advocate for the Healing of Humanity. Affectionately referred to as Dr. E, she has attained IEA Certification with Distinction for her groundbreaking utilization of the Enneagram in the realm of bridging historical divides. Her work is dedicated to dismantling marginalization and transcending the divisive practice of āotheringā.
Dr. E serves as the President of the International Enneagram Association and extends her coaching and mentoring expertise to a diverse spectrum of individuals, including best-selling authors, top-tier executives, spiritual luminaries, accomplished therapists, and a myriad of thought leaders, each hailing from distinct and varied backgrounds. In her multifaceted roles as Consultant, Coach, Mentor, and Spiritual Teacher, Dr. Egerton guides humanity toward harmonious unification.
Dr. Egertonās debut book, Know Justice Know Peace was featured on Amazonās #1 Best Seller in New Releases. Dr. Eās most recent book Enneagram Made Easy is a guide to exploring all facets of the Enneagram and provides a deeper dive into each of the nine personality archetypes. The Enneagram Inner Work Journals are now available as a collection of nine companion workbooks designed to complement the insights found in Enneagram Made Easy.
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Kimberly Snyder (00:00.802)
Hi loves and welcome back to our Monday interview show. I am so excited, thrilled for our very special guest today. Today we have Dr. Threadgill Edgerton, who is also known as Dr. E. And she has written this incredibly wise and interesting, fascinating book on Enneagram, the Enneagram system, which you will explain to us today.
I was brand new to this system and instantly fascinated. Enneagram made easy. Explore the nine personality types of the Enneagram to open your heart, find joy, and discover your true self. Dr. E., thank you so much for being here with us today.
Deborah (00:47.074)
I am so happy to be here with you today, Kimberly. Just delighted.
Kimberly Snyder (00:53.062)
So Dr. E, we connected, it was like the universe brought us together in the lobby of a hotel when we were both there for the Hay House conference. And it was this instant connection. I could feel your heart. I could feel your energy. And I just said, whatever this woman is writing about, I want to know, I want to read her books. It was like a light went on.
Deborah (01:20.782)
I agree totally. I came back and I told my team, I said, I met the most amazing woman and we just had this instant connection. And I canāt wait to be on her podcast because Iāll get to see her again and weāll get to have a great conversation.
Kimberly Snyder (01:40.714)
And I feel, first of all, thereās so much language that I, the way that you speak, Dr. E, and the way that you write is so resonant with everything I believe in. Youāre talking about the true self, which was the subject of my last book. Youāre talking about opening the heart, which is the subject of my next few books. So it feels like though we are coming together and rising up because itās not just one of us thatās gonna help this collective, that many hearts have to come up. And you,
have been dedicating your life to this rising energy, this rising collective consciousness of humanity. You have this vision. Tell us about your vision of what society could be like Dr. E. As more of us turn to the heart, as more of us turn to this self-awareness and this work.
Deborah (02:30.486)
Well, you know, Kimberly, one of the interesting things about us as spiritual beings in human form is that we forget that weāre really here for each other. And in reality, if everyone remembered that, we wouldnāt have the chaos and confusion and the suffering that we have in the world.
If each individual person, rather than focusing just on what we want as individuals, if we recognize that there is a way to open our hearts and to understand that we need to embrace and love one another. And one of the things that I teach that many people are not aware of
is that we have three centers of intelligence. Itās not just our brain, itās not just our thoughts, but thereās the wisdom of the head and the wisdom of the heart. And then of course, the wisdom of the body, which culminates in our instinctive center and our gut. And sometimes the choices that we make, you can see where we bypass the heart.
Kimberly Snyder (03:46.571)
Yes.
Kimberly Snyder (03:58.795)
Yes.
Deborah (03:58.826)
you know, weāll have a thought, weāll make a decision, weāll think about it, but we wonāt run it through the heart center, you know, and we wonāt wait to see whether our intuitive center says, thatās a good way to go, you know, thatās what I call the full body yes, you know, my mind experiences it, my heart feels it, and my
Kimberly Snyder (04:19.38)
Mmmm
Deborah (04:26.346)
The wisdom of my gut says, yes, this is the way to go. That is a missing piece for much of humanity. One of my mentors, Russ Hudson, talks about this. He says, why be one third of a person? Why go through your life just being one third of a person, living out of one third of your intelligence, of your being?
Kimberly Snyder (04:28.962)
Mmm.
Deborah (04:56.53)
So the Enneagram brings that into play, into focus, that we have these three centers and theyāre all designed to help us to make loving, kind, rational responses to life, circumstances, rather than irrational, reactive, unkind actions.
Kimberly Snyder (04:56.748)
Yes.
Kimberly Snyder (05:11.811)
Hmm.
Kimberly Snyder (05:20.662)
Mm. I love this so much, Dr. E. Itās so alignment with everything that I truly believe. And this wisdom that youāre bringing forth, before we get into more details around your system, you mentioned itās pulled from many different wisdom and spiritual and religious traditions from around the world. Thereās this convergence around the heart and tapping into the true self. And as you mentioned, when weāre one third of a person, we see whatās happening in society today.
where thereās massive confusion, thereās massive separation. So many people say to me, Dr. E, I donāt know what direction to go in. I donāt know what to do with my life. I donāt even know when Iām hungry, right? And so then what happens is we keep going outside of ourselves, we follow what everyone else is doing on social media, weāre just running around in circles and the fulfillment, the love and the connection.
all the things that we really want in life. Itās like weāre going through these emotions and living very unfulfilled lives. So what youāre creating here, what youāre giving us is a tool to heal that and not just get from point A to point B, but actually come in with this wholeness that is our birthright.
Deborah (06:38.134)
Thatās correct. It is so much our birthright because actually, I define the enneagram in terms of energy. And so there are nine different points on the enneagram, and each of them has a distinct energy. And weāre born with one of them being our dominant point, the point that we lead from. And whatās so important about that is, you know,
I laugh because I call this the blueprint to your soul and the operating manual that you wish you had been born with. But whenever you find it, then you donāt have to sort of stumble around in the dark trying to figure out who am I and whatās my purpose and why am I here. You go deeper and deeper into the unfolding
Kimberly Snyder (07:15.831)
Mmm.
Deborah (07:36.534)
coming home to your authentic self. I say to people all the time, this concept of creating new versions of yourself. No, let that go. In reality, stop trying to be a version of anything. Be authentic self. You were created the way that you are for a reason. Andā¦
Kimberly Snyder (07:56.627)
Yes.
Deborah (08:06.282)
Whoever youāre looking at thinking that you need to be that person, or you need to embody that personās persona, no, thatās not you. Itās like trying to put on someoneās clothing that are too big or too small. You are enough exactly as you are, and you have a path that you can follow.
Kimberly Snyder (08:19.251)
Mmm.
Deborah (08:35.05)
that will lead you home to being comfortable with, number one, loving yourself, incredibly loving yourself, and two, recognizing that you belong. Never, ever, ever should we let anyone determine whether or not we belong. Thatās our choice.
Kimberly Snyder (08:50.582)
Mmm.
Deborah (09:03.786)
Thatās our decision to make. And in reality, unless you come home to yourself, you can never experience the true sense of belonging because if youāre not connected to yourself, you canāt really connect fully with anyone else.
Kimberly Snyder (09:17.454)
Mm-hmm.
Kimberly Snyder (09:25.49)
Thatās right. And nothing fills that hole as much as weāre trying to create more money or success or followers. Itās just, itās like, it just feels like youāre still paddling around on the surface.
Deborah (09:39.486)
Thatās correct. You know, thereās the horizontal plane that we all have to navigate here in the world. But part of our lifeās journey is really to integrate and go deep and understand the vertical plane, the integration of all parts of ourselves, the integration of our mind, our body.
Kimberly Snyder (09:58.897)
Mmm.
Deborah (10:07.522)
and the integration of self-love, which is not pampering, but really seeing ourselves, flaws, beauty, confusion, sometimes undecided and conflicted between our heads and our hearts and accepting and embracing all of who we are.
letting all parts of ourself know that they belong, that they serve a purpose, and releasing, itās really important, releasing false narratives that we create about ourselves and about others, letting that go. Thatās how you get back to a sense of truly understanding that you belong, you belong to yourself, you belong in the world.
Kimberly Snyder (10:39.73)
Mmm.
Deborah (11:04.53)
You have a place, you have a purpose, and you have incredible power should you choose to step into it.
Kimberly Snyder (11:13.314)
Hmm. Well, Dr. E, it sounds so vast and immense. A lot of the things that hold us back have to do with fear, right? And so one of the things you talk about in your book is self-preservation. And thereās also many different ways that we can enact control because weāre trying to play it safe, right? Whether thatās, Iām going to stay in this really safe relationship or
Iām just going to try so much at work because Iāll just stay in this very cushy place I can be, um, and just, just keep ourselves small and all these different pathways. So what would you say to someone that says, well, I want to listen to my heart. I know Iām not playing to the fullest ability, but Iām scared, or this is what feels familiar to me. And so, you know, I like to feel like Iām in control of my schedule in all these different ways.
How does someone break out of that? Letās say theyāve been living that pattern for 20, 50, 60 years or more.
Deborah (12:16.31)
Yeah, true, very true. I look right at that person and I say, in very, very clear language, there is no growth inside your comfort zone.
Kimberly Snyder (12:32.583)
Mmm.
Deborah (12:33.406)
There just isnāt. If you want to stay in your comfort zone, then you can stay there and you can stay there afraid of being outside of the comfort zone. But if you want to grow, if you want to really live life, not just exist, but truly live.
And especially if youāre curious about your purpose, your contribution, you know, what were you put here for or what can you do to make the world a kinder, gentler place, then do it afraid. Step out of your comfort zone and do it afraid and recognize that all you need in terms of resources is the capacity.
to let go of the fear and to just see one step, one step ahead and to take that step. And once you recognize that you can take that step, then you can begin to move forward. But the whole notion of living your life inside of a safe little bubble and being small in that little bubble is a recipe for disappointment.
You know, it is the life not well lived that makes you feel the most that it might have been a life wasted.
Kimberly Snyder (14:13.006)
Mm.
Deborah (14:15.55)
Get out of your comfort zone.
Kimberly Snyder (14:17.674)
I love that. And thatās a direct message. And when you were using the word bubble, Dr. E, I canāt help but think about this song that Paramahansa Yogananda sang and taught us, which was, you know, I am the bubble, make me the sea, right? This little world, but once that pops, you realize this potential, this vastness of the true self of who we really are. And yet so many of us cling to our little, you know, safety mechanisms.
Deborah (14:47.978)
Exactly. You know, Miriam Williamson talks all the time about how we are not afraid of being powerless. Weāre really afraid of our own power. And how important it is to own our power and to step into it. I think that this is particularly important in this season of time that weāre in right now when it comes to women.
Kimberly Snyder (14:59.529)
Right.
Deborah (15:18.502)
of looking at what it means to step into our power and looking at people who identify as non-binary and of course men, also understanding that there is a time for the, what I refer to as the divine feminine energy to really rise and to show up in the world.
And weāre there. Weāre at that place right now where every woman, every human who supports the divine feminine and who wants to see the evolution of all of us as a species, it wants to see us elevate our consciousness. Itās time to pay attention and to step into our power and to find out what our purpose is.
Kimberly Snyder (16:12.662)
Mm.
Deborah (16:15.53)
You know, we all have one. I talk about the world as a mosaic. And each human being is a bright, shiny, brilliant, beautiful tile in this mosaic. And there are places where the mosaic is not quite complete. And itās because there are people who havenāt stepped forward to put their tile in place.
And once you put yours in place, then everyone around you that their tile belonged in that section, then they can fit their tiles in as well. But we donāt have to all be alike. We need to be able to shine with the uniqueness of our authentic selves and to love and embrace our own authentic self.
Kimberly Snyder (16:46.306)
Beautiful.
Deborah (17:16.246)
and the authentic self of those around us.
Kimberly Snyder (17:20.042)
Hmm. What a beautiful perspective shift, a framework to see us working together as one art piece, because one thing Dr. Ian, I get goosebumps when youāre talking about coming into our power and helping each other rise up. Thereās the other energy, which is competitiveness, judgment, which you talk about throughout your book. You know, itās just these, these energies, which
make us look out through our eyes and think that weāre competing with other women in particular, or we judge if someoneās going a different path. And they actually hurt us. They keep us small when we engage. And thatās part of what youāre talking about with the shadow side of different personality types and the different points. Can you speak about kind of going more into the light side?
Deborah (17:56.246)
this.
Kimberly Snyder (18:12.274)
and how that can shift us away from these darker tendencies.
Deborah (18:16.714)
Well, you know, itās one of the reasons that I love that I was gifted the finding of the Enneagram because it takes, it gives me a way to actually help people see that, you know, you have this personality archetype that your whole being is, you know, created around. And
you have a choice of how that energy is going to grow. You can either use that energy for good, or you can use it for chaos, confusion, and disruption in a bad way. So to be able to know what your energy is, your dominant point is, your enneagram type, is to look at the composition of
Kimberly Snyder (18:51.606)
Mmm.
Kimberly Snyder (19:00.718)
Mmm.
Deborah (19:16.074)
your personality structure and to begin to understand how you move through the world. Once you understand that, then you can see the high vibration and the low vibration of your energy. And you actually have something that you can point toward. You know, the shadow side of every human being is something that has to be looked at.
has to be accepted and has to be worked with. But when youāve done that work, where are you landing? What does the high side of you look like? And how do you maintain a high vibration in terms of actually caring, not only about yourself, but about others? So I think it might be useful just to demystify that a little bit.
Kimberly Snyder (19:48.692)
Mm-hmm.
Kimberly Snyder (19:57.787)
Mm-hmm.
Deborah (20:15.082)
There are nine different types on the Enneagram. And if we just run through them very quickly, just say, eight, nine, and one are body types. We are prone to action, kind of like to get things done. But the eight energy is strong leadership, charge the hill energy.
Kimberly Snyder (20:17.411)
Yes.
Kimberly Snyder (20:30.187)
Mm-hmm.
Deborah (20:43.326)
The nine energy is the peaceful, letās bring us all together. Donāt disturb my peace and help me create peace. And the one is sort of the moral compass, do the right thing, care about the suffering, the pain, the confusion, but we can actually do something about that to heal humanity if we all come together and.
just do the right thing, act with a strong moral compass. Two, three, and four, when we look at the high vibration of those types, theyāre heart types. They reside in the heart center where our feelings are. And what I can tell you about two, three, and four is that in the heart center at point two, you have beautiful humans whoā¦
really live to not only be open to receiving love, but to give love, and to put as much love as they possibly can out in the world. At point three, you have people who are called the twos or the givers, the threes or the achievers, and at point three, there is this quest for success and for
Thereās a lot of ambition and thereās a lot of wanting to be the best. But the high side of that is itās also wanting to mentor you into being your best and to know that to be successful and to define success in compassionate and loving ways. At point four, we have the holders of the beauty in the world. We have people that
Kimberly Snyder (22:27.062)
Mmm.
Deborah (22:37.002)
have deep empathy and compassion for the world and for themselves as well. And they want to be unique. And their struggle is sometimes just around holding the pain and suffering of the world. But what they do with it is the creatives. They bring beauty back into the world because their experience of suffering
is transmuted into something creative and lovely and wonderful. And then we have five, six, and seven, which are the head center. And at point five, we have people who can look at the world and see all the ways that things are connected. And with that beautiful gift, they can actually
Kimberly Snyder (23:11.787)
No.
Kimberly Snyder (23:28.003)
No.
Deborah (23:33.418)
you know, focus and investigate and understand how to really embody knowledge in a really deep way, you know, not this surface horizontal stuff, but really a deep integration of how what happened in the past is connected to whatās happening in the present and where it may go in the future. And thatās the gift of the mind of a five.
Kimberly Snyder (23:57.11)
Mmm.
Deborah (24:03.182)
radiant energy of love and loyalty and preparedness, a structure of being able to understand that you have to have ways of doing things and understand how to do them and to be prepared for what inevitably might go wrong. And when six energy is in the picture, you can prettyā¦
Kimberly Snyder (24:24.571)
Mm-hmm.
Deborah (24:31.302)
Well, rest assured that at the high vibration at six, if something goes wrong, theyāre prepared to deal with it. And they prepared not only for themselves, but for you as well. And then we come to point seven, where we have the enthusiast and at point seven, you have people who their energy is about joy and freedom, and they bring that energy with them.
Kimberly Snyder (24:39.524)
Okay.
Deborah (24:59.726)
into the spaces where they navigate. And the beauty of the energy at point seven is all about innovation and we can do it and we can do it differently. And we can also do it joyfully. And we can do it with a level of freedom and excitement and passion that itās an energy that is unmistakable.
Seven can walk into the room and lift the whole vibe of everyone thatās there. So itās beautiful to see these energies, but we have all nine of those energies within our own being. And one leads, one is definitely our home base, but we can do a much better job of learning how to play with all of those energies within ourselves.
Kimberly Snyder (25:41.902)
Mm.
Kimberly Snyder (25:57.634)
Thank you so much for that overview, doctor. And in the book, of course, you go into much more detail. I have a question. We do have a central point, but it shows, if you guys are watching this on our channel, if youāre listening to this, Iām holding up the diagram on Dr. Eās book on page four. And letās say this one is your lead. Are there two other points? I think you call them wing points or sort of secondary energies.
Deborah (26:23.926)
So, keep holding that up so Iāll explain something. On either side of your dominant point are something that you call wings. So, point nine, nines have an eight wing and a one wing. So those are the types that kind of help to flavor the way that your particular dominant point shows up.
Kimberly Snyder (26:36.83)
Ah.
Deborah (26:52.938)
I always refer to it as your dominant point is the energy or the steak or the main course, but the wings are the seasoning that you choose to put on it. So you know, some people like teriyaki, some people like, you know, a little extra olive oil, you know. So the wings are the seasoning.
Kimberly Snyder (27:10.423)
Got it.
Deborah (27:21.29)
the lines and the arrows that are on that diagram, those are your stress and growth points. So if you look at eight, eight has a line that goes to two. That is the growth point for an eight whoās a really kind of tough leader, you know, strong, solid, resilient. But whatās behind all of that,
at the highest point at eight is the most innocent, pure, soft, beautiful heart. And then the five from eight to five, you see another line, that is the stress point. So when an eight is stressed, they will go to the stress point of five. And if they go to the low side of five, thereās a lot of anger.
Kimberly Snyder (28:01.336)
Yes.
Deborah (28:20.618)
frustration and resentment. But, and itās sort of like, it can be very vengeful, but if an ape can pull themselves up to the high side of the energy of a five, where they become focused and they look at what all of the details and the real facts are, then they can soften their hearts and move over to their growth point and go to two.
where theyāre embracing empathy and compassion and love. So itās a journey and each of us, when we begin to navigate that journey, unlike personality assessments that give you a bunch of behaviors, what the Enneagram gives you is the why you do what you do. And then when you start looking at that,
Kimberly Snyder (28:56.077)
Mm.
Deborah (29:19.166)
Youāre on that journey for life.
Kimberly Snyder (29:21.89)
Hmm. I love this Dr. E. Letās bring this more to life. And Iāll share a little bit more about me, Dr. E. And maybe you can, for our listeners and our viewers, kind of give some information who know me quite well. So Iāll say I read through your book, Dr. E. And the ones that sometimes itās hard to self, you know.
Deborah (29:39.082)
Yes, yes.
Kimberly Snyder (29:49.078)
diagnose ourselves or place ourselves, but the ones that definitely I felt like, okay, this is me somewhere in here were the heart ones. And Iāll share with you that I did have a, you know, core wound as a child feeling not seen or heard. And I experienced abandonment loss quite early, not literally, but my mother had to go back to work when I was about two weeks old.
And she was traveling very far and commuting. So I think very early on, I sort of felt abandoned, left on my own. And my parents are great people. They were trying their best, of course, but there was just a lot of hustle. Right. So I was left on my own a lot and I was a latchkey kid. So there was that core wound. And so I definitely associate, you said thereās the wings. I donāt know if itās helper or achiever. So early on.
Thereās always this one to help. And thatās where Iāve
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