How to Learn to Heal Attachments and be More Happy in Relationships and Life [Episode #900]

This week’s topic: How to Learn to Heal Attachments and be More Happy in Relationships and Life

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Summary

In this conversation, Kimberly Snyder discusses the topic of attachments and how they impact our well-being. She explains how attachments can be unhealthy and rob us of our personal freedom. She shares her personal experiences about healing attachments and becoming more self-reliant. Kimberly emphasizes the importance of awareness and introspection in identifying attachment patterns. She provides tips for healing attachments, including practicing the heart-aligned meditation and building resilience. Kimberly highlights the connection between attachments and overall health and encourages listeners to prioritize their own well-being.

 

 

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STUDIES AND LINK ON TOPIC

Causes of Bad Moods

Stress and Life Events:

• Research has consistently shown that stress and significant life events, such as job loss, relationship problems, or health issues, can trigger bad moods. A study in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine (1981) found that daily hassles and minor stressors have a more significant impact on mood than major life events.

 

Sleep Deprivation:

• A study published (1996) in the journal of Sleep found that sleep deprivation negatively affects mood, cognitive performance, and motor function (Pilcher & Huffcutt, 1996).

 

Diet and Nutrition:

• A study in Nutrients (2016) highlighted the relationship between diet quality and mental health. It found that poor dietary habits, like high intake of sugar and processed foods, are linked to increased symptoms of depression and bad moods (O’Neil et al., 2016).

Effects of Bad Moods

Cognitive Function:

• Bad moods can impair cognitive functions such as memory, attention, and decision-making. A study in the Journal of Emotion (2001) showed that negative mood states can lead to more analytical and less intuitive thinking.

 

1. Physical Health:

• Research in Psychosomatic Medicine (2002) that chronic negative moods can increase the risk of cardiovascular diseases and weaken the immune system (Kiecolt-Glaser et al., 2002).

 

1. Social Interactions:

• A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology demonstrated that bad moods negatively affect interpersonal relationships, leading to increased conflict and reduced social support (Gotlib & Hammen, 1992).

 

Strategies to Manage Bad Moods

1. Exercise:

• Numerous studies have shown that physical activity is effective in improving mood. A meta-analysis in Psychosomatic Medicine (1998) concluded that exercise significantly reduces symptoms of depression and anxiety (Craft & Landers, 1998).

 

1. Mindfulness and Meditation:

• Research published in JAMA Internal Medicine indicated that mindfulness meditation programs can improve mood and reduce stress (Goyal et al., 2014).

 

1. Social Support:

• A study in the American Journal of Psychiatry (1985) found that strong social support networks can help mitigate the effects of stress and improve mood (Cohen & Wills, 1985).

 

Long-Term Impact and Prevention

1. Gratitude Practices:

• A study in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2003) found that individuals who regularly practice gratitude experience improved mood, greater well-being, and reduced symptoms of depression (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

 

1. Healthy Lifestyle Choices:

• Research in BMC Public Health (2008) demonstrated that a combination of regular physical activity, healthy eating, and adequate sleep contributes to long-term mood stability and reduced incidence of mood disorders (Khaw et al., 2008).

 

1. Professional Help:

• A study in The Lancet Psychiatry (2016) emphasized the importance of seeking professional help for persistent mood issues. Psychotherapy and medication are effective treatments for mood disorders (Cuijpers et al., 2016).

 

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Kimberly Snyder (00:00.718)
Namaste loves and welcome back to our Thursday Q &A show. Today we’re going to be talking about attachments and specifically how to heal attachments and be more happy in relationships and life. This is in our emotional well -being cornerstone, but this actually has a profound impact on our diets, on our physical body, on our food choices, on our spiritual well -being. Everything very much is related.

And I can say as someone who is a recovering perfectionist, I’m also someone who is a recovering attached person, I shall say. We’re going to get into defining this more clearly today when we talk about different attachment styles. But in a nutshell, attachment means that we place our idea of safety, security, fulfillment, love on something outside of ourselves.

So this can create really unhealthy, as you can imagine, attachments and relationships with those close to us, whether it be with your partner or friend or your child or a loved one. This can create really unhealthy relationships with food. When we rely on food to make us feel better, to make us feel soothed, when overwhelm comes or stress or big emotions and feelings. And so basically, attachment is a way that we rob ourselves of our freedom.

And a lot of times we don’t realize that we are attached until this gets pointed out to us, or ideally and hopefully, I hope that this show brings light to attachments in your life. I talk about attachments in my next book, and there’s a lot of scientific data around how to free yourself from attachments, which I’ll get into in the book, in The Hidden Power of the Five Hearts, going through heart coherence and how we can heal ourselves and how important this is. But on today’s show, I will be giving some…

additional research and tips that I hope from my heart will really support you in this topic. Because the truth is that as I started to heal attachments, I started to see where I placed too much into my first child. I placed too much into my partner and I started taking that back and learning how to really self soothe and regulate myself and be with myself. I became so

Kimberly Snyder (02:26.862)
much more healthy and energetic and just my everyday moments, not just, you know, these big experiences or having a party or an event, but in everyday moments, I was happier and I felt free and I felt lighter. And I really would want you to experience these benefits. And so we can eat really well, right? And we can create friendships with people that we really admire, we really like to be around and so on and so forth.

But unless we become aware of where we have crossed the line into attachments versus just being connected to other people, connected to the foods that we like, connected to certain things, we’re not really free. And so we can keep our level of health and vitality and fulfillment and peace and joy and all of these things that we want. We can keep a lid on that instead of opening out into the vast expanse, this incredible potential that is there for all of us.

to take advantage of, to tap into. So I’m really excited to get into our show today. A little reminder that over on our website will be the show notes. Reminder that you can watch me on YouTube. I’m here looking in your eyes or you can continue to access our podcast wherever podcasts are. Please leave a review if you’re enjoying our show. It’s an amazing way to support and keep the podcast going. Please share the show with anyone that you think would benefit, a coworker, a friend, a loved one.

be a particular topic or just share the show in general. We appreciate it so much. And you can also ask questions for me for these upcoming shows over on the website. We have a new product out I want to share with you. It’s created with so much passion and love of the plants and research called the Glowing Greens Powder, the GGP, which you can add into your glowing green smoothie or you can just mix on its own. So check that out as well.

All right, let’s get into our show today. And our question comes from Frida, who lives in Nevada. Frida, thank you so much for being here, part of our community. It’s so important that we share. It’s important that we ask questions. We remain curious because that’s how we continue to grow. And your question is, I have been so disheartened with my level of attachments in my relationships in life. What can I do to be less attached and heal my past wounds, emotional wounds?

Kimberly Snyder (04:49.326)
So Frida, once again, thank you so much. The fact that you are aware of these attachments is huge. I wasn’t aware of my attachments for a really long time. I share about this more in the next book, but I heard of the term attachment parenting. So I actually defended my closeness with my son. He was with me all the time. Every time he was awake, I was paying attention to him. So I had to work at night and only do podcasts when he was napping and I refused to get any help. Right? So I didn’t…

want to think of myself as being attached. It sounded really unhealthy, but attachment parenting sounded loving and it sounded like a really good thing. So I kind of hid behind that. But then over time, my heart showed me the way that there was a line that was crossed. It was too much. Real love should be free. It shouldn’t be depleting. There shouldn’t be this sense of loss or sadness or separation if we spend even a little bit of time apart.

There has to be this free flow of things coming and going. So consider for a moment where you don’t feel so free in a relationship, or that could include a relationship with a thing. Let’s say you get really off kilter if your coffee shop is closed and you can’t get your favorite chai or your favorite latte. Consider if you feel really attached to someone you’re dating. And so it really affects your moods if they don’t text you back or you don’t get any communication from them versus able to feel.

self -sustaining in your own strength and your own power and your own resiliency. So attachments rob us, like I said, of our freedom. And the good news though is that as we become more aware of them and where they come from and why they’re there, which we’ll talk about now, we can start to become more free. We are only free if we live a life of connection and not attachment. This…

Connect this attachment leads to desperation. It changes our behavior. It makes us feel more frantic. It takes away our harmony, takes away our peace. It makes us feel that we have to grasp for love, for validation, for feeling good enough from the outside. And none of these things are actually true. A study on attachment styles and close relationships in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that secure attachment,

Kimberly Snyder (07:10.446)
is associated with better communication and lower conflict. Anxious attachment, which is that desperate, I need to be closer, I need to talk to you. And avoidant is the opposite. When we avoid and we create more resistance, more separation, more closed downness, tend to be linked with lower relationship satisfaction and more conflict. So.

When we are in balance, and Arya Veda would call this sattvic, when we are self -sustaining, when we know that we are in charge of our own happiness, we’re not in a victim mindset, we’re not desperately trying to get something from other people, this is when health is created. Health both in the relationship and physical health. Why? Because being in attachments is unhealthy. It takes a lot of drama. It takes a lot of energy out.

It sucks energy. It means that we are always outwardly focused. How could I get closer to that person? How could I get them to talk to me more? How could I get more, more, more from the outside? When we are in this connection, which is what secure attachment means, it means we’re not overly needy, we’re not desperate, we feel content within ourselves. We may like to enjoy experiences with others. We like to be with others. We choose who we want to be around.

But we are not needy and desperate. Again, this is the path forward. And we’ll talk about in a moment how we get there. But it’s important to even be aware of these attachment styles. Insecure attachment styles, which means anxious or avoidant. This is in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, was created maladaptive behaviors and distress.

difficulty coping with relationships in general. So when we’re anxious, again, it means that we haven’t found a way to feel that safety and security within us. Now, this is always possible to access. And sometimes from the past, we didn’t have that sense of deep security within ourselves. I know I had to develop it over time in my own life, but it’s there. We can access it through our hearts, through our true self. Our heart is a gateway to the true self.

Kimberly Snyder (09:28.334)
heart coherence means that we start to slow down, we take some deep breaths and we connect to the heart, which will send more messages to the brain than vice versa. Messages that are more of security and calmness instead of disharmony and chaos. So there’s a lot more I have to say about this, but I wanna state here and now that no matter what happened to us in the past, and though sometimes therapy or professional counseling may be warranted,

we can regain the sense of inner security. Until we do that, we’re gonna find a lot of grasping and reaching outside of ourselves and our relationships, and it’s never gonna be completely healthy. It’s never gonna feel really good. And we’re going to struggle to create healthy home life, a healthy family environment until we heal this. Avoidant attachment means that we are not really able to create that security.

So we kind of shut down or we close off a little bit. Someone’s in our life, but we are not able to allow the closeness in. And this may be because we’re scared of getting hurt or we don’t feel again that deep sense of safety and security within ourselves. So we don’t allow the security, this secure connection to build. And either way, this can lead to a lot of relationship trouble.

Attachment -based therapy can help to reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety and improve family relationships. So this is from the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, showing that attachment styles need to be highlighted. We need to talk about this and then we can start to get help. We can start to create healing. If we do not talk about attachment styles, if we’re not even aware of them, we can continue these patterns through our adulthood.

and create the same scenario over and over again. Have you ever felt like you’re in a different relationship with a different person, but it’s playing out in the same way, or you’re having the same fight over and over again with a friend or a loved one or a parent? It’s likely, or part of this could be because you’re attached instead of connected. So in my life, one relationship, the relationship with my older son,

Kimberly Snyder (11:51.502)
highlighted that I was attached and it started to heal across my life. So sometimes one pathway in raises your consciousness and then you become aware of, hey, I need to create more safety and security in myself. I need to learn to regulate and soothe my own nervous system. I need to learn how to be here for myself and not abandon myself. So I started to just more and more go into my heart, practice the heart aligned meditation, which we’re sharing.

This week, what we shared last week is part of our seven day challenge and you can also access the tracks on there. We have tracks for children that are in the QR code in the back of the Chilla Gorilla book, which are really powerful for deep self connection. Right here in the middle of life is your heart and this communication, there’s 40 ,000 neurons in your heart, your heart’s a brain. We’re not trying to disassociate, we’re not going to a different place, we’re not going to relax, only to come back in the middle of life feeling hyper vigilant or stressed out.

We want to learn to be there for ourselves moment to moment. We do that through the heart. We do that through some of these meditations. We do that when we start to notice that our heart rate is up. We’re starting to go into that pattern. We’re starting to desperately wanting to reach out to someone or something that is a similar type of unhealthy pattern. And we pause. We come back and we remind ourselves that we are safe and secure. You can really have this conversation with yourself. For me, I go into my heart.

and I allow my heart to guide me. I move away from my thoughts first. This is really how I heal detachment. And I would just shift into my heart and I would let these big feelings come and go. I wouldn’t try to push them down. I wouldn’t eat right away. I wouldn’t pick up the phone right away and call my best friend or do the things I used to do in the past. I would challenge myself to sit a little bit more with these big feelings and big sensations. And then they would pass. And then I would feel…

stronger and more confident time and time again that I could handle these things by myself, that I did have more strength inside of me than I realized. And I had given my power away by constantly going to the outside world. Now, years ago, I would do this, I would self -soothe with food and then I would feel so bad that I eat so much that I would throw up the food. I didn’t have the tools for sitting with myself.

Kimberly Snyder (14:12.334)
and being with myself. And these are tools that we can develop at any stage in our lives. And when we do that, we become less dependent on other humans and other people and things outside of ourself and food to self soothe us, to soothe us. So we become confident in a real way, confident in a way that feels its own, we feel our own strength and our own power. And this makes us more resilient in relationships. It makes us.

take in what someone said or what someone did, calm ourselves and then be able to express in a much more clear and impactful and efficient way what we need or how we feel about something or how something’s not okay with us or what we would like instead in that relationship. And this really changes so much.

So communication and relationship quality was studied in the Journal of Marriage. There’s actually a journal on marriage. I love this. And it shows that when we are actively listening and asserting our needs, this is absolutely critical from reducing conflict and maintaining high quality relationships. As I just mentioned, when we are so tied to someone else,

The health and the healthy boundaries tends to disappear. We become frantic. This inner chaos creates an imbalance in your hormones. It creates a very real stress response, just as we would feel stressed out if we were in fight or flight, if a lion was attacking us. We become so desperate. We’re checking our phone over and over again to see if they texted us. We are hypervigilant. We’re looking around. We’re feeling desperate. This reduces our health.

And there’s a lot of amazing research that I’ll be sharing again in the next book with these graphs and these charts showing that just a few moments of going into this chaotic stress response can disable and reduce our immunity by six hours for six hours. So instead, when we feel free from someone else, it means we do not need them. It doesn’t mean that we don’t love them, but it means that we become self -reliant.

Kimberly Snyder (16:33.678)
It means that we become the anchor for ourselves. This is such a powerful gift of health that you can give yourself. This is a foundation for elevating your overall wellbeing. Again, this is where everything is so interrelated. You can eat really well. You can exercise every day. You can go to the gym. You can do all these classes. You can do all this stuff. But if you have attachment in your life,

and your emotions are in this constant upheaval based on what someone else is doing or how they’re behaving or not feeling avoidant or anxious around other people or things in your life, whether they be experiences or foods or whatever it is, you are not free. And when you are not free, you are not healthy. And that is the bottom line. So it’s so, so important that we really talk about this. A study in the American Journal Association found that,

When we’re more resilient, we’re able to build emotional resources and strengthen bonds. A study in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that higher levels of self -compassion are associated with lower levels of anxiety and depression. So we want to be compassionate. When I started to see that, hey, there’s something a bit unhealthy going on here. And it was hidden for a while under the guise of being a really great mother. But I could see that it’s healthy to have more time to myself. It’s healthy.

to get a babysitter sometimes. It’s healthy to be apart sometimes when he was really young, you know, or quite young. I started feeling this attachment in the last little while. This went on for, you know, six, seven years, I would say, before it started to really heal and I started to let go more. And he was my first love, my first real…

unconditional love and it felt very precious. And I could see that from my childhood, I didn’t have that same deep sense of security in myself. So it carried over into adulthood and it just started to affect me in different ways, including this attachment. And so as I started to see it, I started to create so much, first there was definitely grief and challenges and big feelings would come up and I cried.

Kimberly Snyder (18:52.43)
and I would sit with them and I did see, I did talk to a counselor a bit about this who specialized in attachment. But what happened was that I became, and I became, I was self compassionate, but I started to become really, really resilient as well. I started to feel so strong and this changed my relationship, not only with my son, but it started to heal any attachments in my relationship with my husband.

I started to heal attachments with my best friend who I over relied on to talk to me about everything. It was a bit attached. I needed him to help me feel better in many circumstances. And I started to be able to conquer these uncomfortable feelings by myself. And we can all learn to do this. So I’m going to share more about this from the heart’s perspective through this five part journey in the five hearts, which I’ll be sharing with you soon. But today.

I’m going to leave you with some tools in the next part of our show in just a moment. Because this is really, really, really important. I mean, there’s so much research around this. We want to learn to find this emotional comfort within ourselves. So let’s actually do jump to that part. Let’s go to the tips now. So listening to this show is a very important first step because it sheds light and awareness.

on the idea of these different attachment styles. We need to understand if deep down in our intuition and our hearts, even though it may be challenging to see that we have been attached, that it’s gone beyond just connection. There’s a sense of anxiousness. There’s a sense of needing someone or something else or to be in a relationship or to need this person’s approval, to need their attention in order to feel okay. And if something outside of ourselves doesn’t work in the way we want it to work, we start to get desperate or anxious.

or we can’t, on the other hand, we can’t feel really connected to someone because it doesn’t feel safe or avoidant. First, we need to be aware. And part of that can be journaling or reading a little bit more in line about attachment styles or reflecting, sitting in quiet moments, taking an inventory of your life and different relationships and seeing where you may or may not be attached. Introspection is one of the greatest ways to progress. I’m paraphrasing here, this is one of the statements of Paramahansa Yogananda.

Kimberly Snyder (21:14.382)
great yoga guru who brought yoga to the West and shared so much powerful wisdom with us. He said, we gotta look at ourselves. We have to introspect. If we don’t, we keep leading the same patterns over and over again. And we’re making ourselves suffer. So we wanna be aware, we wanna reflect. And then we want to consider any issues from our childhood that could affect our attachment style today.

So I had a lot of work around this. I did a lot of reflection. I moved beyond anger, beyond blame, with more neutrality and seeing that whilst my mom was doing her best, she went back to work when I was very young, just a few days old, a few weeks old, I was two weeks old, I think, it created some abandonment issues in me. And just being able to learn about what happened without blame, without charge.

without anger, moving beyond that because it doesn’t help anything. It will only rile yourself up and you cannot change the past, but we can learn from the past. So I encourage you to look into some of childhood patterns that may have happened before you were five years old. What was going on with your caregivers? What was going on with your parents? What was going on in your home environment or in your school? And is there anything that feels unresolved or stuck that affects your relationships today? Reflect, write about this.

And you may want to see a professional therapist or counselor to help you work through some of this. But it very much could affect you to this day, even as an adult in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. So that’s a really critical part of healing attachment. You want to then start to find more self -reliance and resilience. And how do you do that?

you start to connect back into yourself. And this is where I have more and more tools that I’m creating to support you because I have been through this process, just as I have been through the process of healing myself from bloating and getting my hair to grow back and healing my acne. And I’ve always shared with you what’s worked. I have healed attachment to a large degree and I want to share with you how to do this. So the heart aligned meditation really helped me because

Kimberly Snyder (23:37.614)
Even if I did certain other types of meditation in the middle of life, I would feel triggered or I would feel anxious and want to get back to connecting with that person. And the piece of my meditation would be gone. But the more I connected to my coherent heart, the more I was able to calm my nervous system to go into parasympathetic, the more I was able to change the perceptions and thoughts in my head.

and be there for myself in the middle of everyday life, be able to soothe my nervous system right in the middle of everyday life. So this means that you build your coherence capacity by doing the heart aligned meditation, which we studied and research at least four or five times a week. It’s only eight minutes long. And then as the Hidden Power of the Five Hearts book comes out in a few months, but you can pre -order it in a few weeks, there are amazing tools, evidence -based, so much science behind these tools and research.

that you can do in the middle of your life in three to 10 seconds, which means as you get into the old patterns, and I’ll tell you this now without reading the book, but some things you can start to do now is you sit with yourself and you just focus on regulating your breath. You can focus on your heart when big feelings come up so you don’t feel this impulse to call that person right away, to go into that same person of anxious, same pattern of anxiousness. my gosh, why haven’t they called me back? When are they going to come home? Why are they late? Da, da, da, da, da.

taking so much energy, creating so much stress inside of your body. Instead, you show up for yourself and you get more used to this resilience inside of yourself, which gives you a different kind of confidence and knowing that you are the anchor for yourself and you are always connected to spirit. You’ll have a deeper sense of connection to this higher intelligence that does not need outside people.

It does not need outside entities like food or your pets even, or this job title, or whatever gives you a sense of security that’s layered on top of your true identity, this essence inside of you. So we want to connect to that essence more and more. And the more we do that through real introspection and journaling and meditation and the heart aligned meditation, you start to feel more of a sense of resilience.

Kimberly Snyder (25:59.182)
You start to become more compassionate. You start to understand yourself more. Awareness grows. This is the real type of mindfulness that is very useful. You become mindful and aware when you’re starting to go into an old pattern. When you don’t feel safe when something happened and you go to call your friend again or you get obsessed about, you know, being with that guy every single second or that person or…

Whatever it is, you’ve got to look at your own patterns. It’s different for every single one of us. For me, it was a sense of anxiety. If I turned away for a second to write an email and I wasn’t paying full attention to my child, or I had to do something where I had to be away from him for just a moment or a little bit, it was starting to become apparent. It was just too much. It was wearing me down. He needed some more independence as well. And then this great healing started. And I have to tell you that…

We are closer than ever. We have a deep, deep mother -son bond, but a lot of this unhealthy stuff, this attachment has dissolved and it’s freed us. And there’s more lightness and just joy and being together. And there isn’t this seriousness, which would come in sometimes. There’s just this free flow pivoting with life, harmony, going with the flow. It’s really beautiful.

And this is the type of openness and expansiveness that we can invite into all of our relationships. Now, as I said, being aware of attachment in one relationship can help to heal the other ones. It can help to raise your consciousness level and make you more aware of how this may be playing out in other areas of your life. And it can be tremendously empowering, tremendously enhancing to your personal freedom. And I really…

want that for you because I think if we’re free, our energy expands, our vitality expands, your skin will look better, you’ll sleep better, you’ll have more immunity. Everything works together. Your digestion will be better. You will feel happier. We need to talk about these things. And so attachments are a key part.

Kimberly Snyder (28:11.63)
of freedom. And so we’re opening up the body, we’re opening up the pathways, we’re opening up the circulation, we’re opening up our endocrine system, we’re opening everything up, we’re starting to bypass more of this unnecessary drama and these relationship entanglements, which don’t have to be so dire, they don’t have to be so dramatic. So consider all of these things. I’m going to pause here because we talked about…

some really important things here. Take a look, you can research more about attachment styles if that helps you reflect, journal, think about in your life where things have crossed away from connection, being really connected to others and entities like food into attachment and perhaps seek out a professional counselor or therapist to help you in this way. And then take time to find tools to help you regulate yourself, to find that strength which is always inside you.

When you are really secure in yourself, you can create that amazing secure attachment with others. This is something I speak of from personal experience. This elevated my health to a whole new level. The more I learned about attachments and how to heal them in myself. Attachments are talked about a lot in yoga because when we are attached, we cannot rise to the highest levels of consciousness. Our meditations will be impeded. Our levels of inner freedom, samadhi.

Connecting to the true self being a Jiva Mukta one who is free and liberated cannot happen because we are so enmeshed in the world and the delusion in the Maya in these false ideas that we need others to be happy and content We do not we can enjoy them. We can have fun experiences with others. We can love them They can love us, but we need to be free at the same time So, please check out our website for the heart aligned meditation tracks more information

Please, I’m so excited for you to read the upcoming book, The Hidden Power of the Five Hearts. Planning an early seed here, look out for information on our newsletter. It starts to get out into the world. And for those of you that have little ones, please start to, and also for yourself though, for adults, please share the gift with them of inner resilience by reading them the Chilla Gorilla and Lake Yuma Journey to the Heart book, which is all about this inner resilience and this power that grows from within. So I send you so much love.

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