Master Your Mindset with Michael Pilarczyk [Episode #981]

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In this engaging conversation, Kimberly interviews Michael Pilarczyk, a bestselling author and entrepreneur, about his journey from a challenging childhood in communist Poland to becoming a successful mentor in mindset and personal development. Michael shares insights from his new book, ‘Master Your Mindset,’ emphasizing the importance of resilience, stillness, and a positive money mindset. He discusses how personal experiences shaped his approach to life and business, highlighting the significance of gratitude, service, and the environment in fostering personal growth. In this conversation, Kimberly Snyder and Michael Pilarczyk explore the transformative power of gratitude, mindfulness, and personal mastery. Michael shares insights emphasizing the importance of taking small, actionable steps towards a more meaningful life. They discuss the significance of meditation, shifting focus from negativity to positivity, and the necessity of clarity in personal growth. The dialogue highlights practical strategies for breaking negative cycles and reprogramming the mind for a more fulfilling existence.

About Michael Pilarczyk

Michael George Pilarczyk is a mindset and mindfulness teacher, author, and speaker in the fields of consciousness, self-development, leadership meaning, spiritual growth, and personal and business success. As an expert in reprogramming thought patterns, he has helped many people experience more joy, peace, success, and happiness by breaking through limiting beliefs and fostering new insights. From 1992 to 1999, Michael was a popular radio DJ on the number one Dutch station, Radio 538. He also worked as a Dutch MTV VJ and hosted national television shows.

After founding several companies and selling his media business in 2007, Michael took a sabbatical to pursue a lifelong dream, of sailing along the Mediterranean coast for seven years. He has authored bestsellers Dancing in Heaven (2014), You Become As You Think (2021), and Design Your Own Life (2024), selling over a million books. Michael is married to Cindy Pilarczyk-Koeman. They live on Mallorca, a Spanish island in the Mediterranean Sea. They are the founders of Masterminds Academy and the Meditation Moments app.

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Website: https://mistermindset.com/about/

Episode Chapters

Episode Chapters 

00:00 Introduction to Michael Pilarczyk

02:32 Michael’s Journey and Resilience

06:11 The Importance of Mindset in Business

09:50 Finding Stillness in a Busy World

13:55 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs About Money

19:01 The Power of Gratitude and Service

23:46 The Role of Environment in Personal Growth

24:58 The Power of Gratitude

27:18 Taking Action for Change

28:51 Mindfulness and Meditation

30:30 Shifting Focus and Energy

32:51 Living a Meaningful Life

35:21 Breaking Negative Cycles

39:24 Reprogramming the Mindset

43:44 Sharing the Message of Meaningfulness

 

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Transcript:

Kimberly Snyder (00:00.873)
Hi everyone, welcome back to our Monday interview show. I am so excited for our very special guest here with us today all the way from Europe, from the beautiful island of Mallorca, Spain. Michael Pilarque is a European bestselling author, an entrepreneur, a mentor in mindset, personal success and self-development. He has a wonderful new book out called Master Your Mindset live a meaningful life, which provides a 12 step strategy. He is a living embodiment of the work he teaches. He was born in communist Poland, and a lot of his work is shaped by his personal journey of resilience and vision. Michael, thank you so much for being here with us today. I’m so excited to chat with you.

Michael Pilarczyk (00:50.882)
Thank you, it’s my honor.

Kimberly Snyder (00:53.959)
You know, I’m really excited to hear a little bit about how your story really informed your focus now in your life talking about mindset, right? Because, you know, we all have challenges. My mother grew up in the Philippines, you know, quite poor, and she was able to make her way here to the United States. And then some people in certain situations sort of say, well, you know,

My situation in life is this, and they sort of don’t try or they give up. So before we get into your book, can you share a little bit about how your personal journey brought you to this book and your work today?

Michael Pilarczyk (01:35.822)
Yeah, well, we all have our own story. mine, as you said, began in Poland. I was two years old when my parents wanted to move to the Netherlands. It wasn’t so easy. It was in 1969, 1970. We were not allowed to leave Poland. And it was a big struggle. My mother was only 22 or 23 years old.

Kimberly Snyder (01:57.513)
Mm.

Michael Pilarczyk (02:05.076)
And for her, it was a struggle and she was allowed to leave the country. And they also let my father leave the country, but you know, the communist said, but the child cannot go because they knew they knew the parents wouldn’t leave the kid alone. So it was a big struggle. And it’s not really funny, but the funny fact is that my mom passed away last month.

Kimberly Snyder (02:17.566)
What?

Kimberly Snyder (02:21.767)
Kimberly Snyder (02:32.937)
Mmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (02:33.172)
And during the past weeks before she died, she started telling me all these stories from when we were living in Poland, when I was born in the first two, three, four years of my life. And I really learned another part of my parents, but also another part of my own life because they’d never told me those stories before. It was a pretty tough life in the beginning, but eventually.

They managed and we moved to the Netherlands where I grew up with my grandmother. And one day I listened to the radio and my big dream became becoming a radio DJ on national radio, which I, I made happen when I was 18, I had a national radio show and I worked for MTV, the Netherlands. I met a lot of celebrities, really fun time. was.

You know, in my early twenties, and then I made a stupid mistake because I always saved all my money because, know, when we grew up, we didn’t have much. So my grandmother always told me you have to save, you know, for, for later, you have to think about your future. You have to save your money. So I always did. And then one day when I was 29, I had some friends and they told me it better invest all this.

savings in the stock market. Yeah. And I had no clue what I was doing really. You know, it was a tough lesson. I invested all of my money and I lost everything within four months and even more because the bank had given me a loan of I don’t know how much, but too much.

Kimberly Snyder (04:01.794)
no. We can always have this next. Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (04:27.24)
And within four months, it was all gone. And I was left with 2 million in debt. I was 29. You know, I thought I had the greatest life. I was happily married, although my wife was seriously ill. But you know, we had a great life. Everything was fantastic. And then suddenly everything was gone and I was deep down and depressed. And I even

Kimberly Snyder (04:34.622)
Wow.

Michael Pilarczyk (04:57.848)
thought of, you know, why should I live longer? Why shouldn’t I just stop living? Because I had no vision for the future. But then, I make it a short story, I met my business mentor, he’s Mr. Dan Pena, he was entrepreneur, business coach, he was a multimillionaire, he made

Kimberly Snyder (05:09.938)
Hmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (05:27.246)
millions in oil in, I think in the eighties. And then I went to a seminar of him. I went to his castle. He lives in, in Scotland now. And he taught me within a few weeks, almost everything I needed to know to start a company, build a company, buy companies, and eventually sell companies. So in the end, after I think it was five years.

I built a company, sold it, made some money. I could, you know, pay back the bank, had some money for myself, and then I could start my life over again.

Kimberly Snyder (06:10.889)
When he was teaching you this, was it very practical business knowledge or was he also teaching you about mindset and honing into your intuition? Because I imagine a lot of, I mean, I know if I’m an entrepreneur as well, a lot of the decisions are quite intuitive as well. It’s not always so black and white.

Michael Pilarczyk (06:16.216)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (06:31.372)
No, no, both, both, but he is very practical. the steps I wrote down in my book as well. It’s based on his principles. It’s based on mindset. a lot of what I do and what I teach is based on the principles of Napoleon Hill, and grow rich, the laws of success. so it’s, it’s partly mindset, which is very important.

Kimberly Snyder (06:33.416)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (06:40.809)
Hmm.

Kimberly Snyder (06:52.382)
Right.

Michael Pilarczyk (07:00.248)
But it’s also intuition. It’s also listening to your heart, know, listening to your inner voice, being in contact with your, with your own awareness, not only acting from your, from your head, but also with your heart. And, yeah, if these are in balance and you have some luck because we’ll need some luck now and then I think you can,

Kimberly Snyder (07:02.599)
Yes.

Kimberly Snyder (07:07.665)
Yes.

Kimberly Snyder (07:18.877)
Beautiful.

Michael Pilarczyk (07:30.456)
come a long way in this life.

Kimberly Snyder (07:33.019)
Yeah, I mean, and also, by the way, before we move on, is your wife, was she okay from her illness?

Michael Pilarczyk (07:38.786)
Well, she’s, she’s, she was in her early thirties and she was really seriously ill. And one day when, when we were on, on IC, the doctor told me chances are not really high that she will survive, but she is a medical wonder because she’s in her early sixties now and she’s still alive. We separated.

Kimberly Snyder (08:06.249)
Wow.

Michael Pilarczyk (08:08.852)
after a few years, but we’re still very close friends and

Kimberly Snyder (08:15.4)
Beautiful.

Michael Pilarczyk (08:15.822)
Yeah, let’s say we had a tough time back then. I was really young. was 25, 26. For me, it was really hard to handle the situation, you know, with the financial problems, the problems in relationships, her illness, my grandmother died. So you can imagine that for me as a young guy, life was pretty chaotic.

Kimberly Snyder (08:27.037)
Of course.

Kimberly Snyder (08:41.095)
yeah. Yeah. But again, back to the journey that brings you to where you are today and having so much to share with others. So one of the things, Michael, that I really noticed first when I was looking through your book and your steps, I loved how you start to really bring it back to having time for stillness and silence. I was just talking to my husband about this yesterday because

Michael Pilarczyk (08:45.408)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (09:08.925)
He has offices in different countries and he’s always like texting at night and just all over the place. And I said, you really need to carve out time. And even for me, Michael, it’s really valuable as I’m a working mom, I have two young kids, but I really find this stillness is where I do get my best ideas and I feel recharged. But a lot of people might say to you, Michael,

I just don’t have time. That’s what people say to me. So what would you say to someone who’s like, oh, this sounds great. And I, you know, I like this idea of stillness, but how do you actually carve it out? How do you make it a priority? How do do this practically, Michael?

Michael Pilarczyk (09:50.092)
It’s a choice, Kimberly. It’s a decision you have to make yourself, you know? It’s like you need to breathe to stay alive.

Kimberly Snyder (09:53.128)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (10:03.241)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (10:05.784)
For me, it’s the same, you know, if you lose this connection with your inner self, if you lose the connection with the stillness within you, you get lost in the noise of other people and the noise of the rest of the world, the outside world. So what happens to most of us, you know, is that we get lost.

Kimberly Snyder (10:18.312)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (10:35.84)
in the noise of the outside world because we have no time because it’s not a priority to take some time for ourselves a few times a day. I think it’s really important for everybody that you take two, three, maybe five minutes, five, six, seven times a day, just a short break. You know, like

Kimberly Snyder (10:59.08)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (11:03.564)
Like a break in a sports game or in a Formula One race, know, the cars have to pit for a moment just to, you know, clear your mind, take a breath, reload, recharge, and then you can move on with focus, with concentration. And if you don’t do that, you lose your energy. So when your energy level drops,

Kimberly Snyder (11:09.469)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (11:32.738)
You lose focus and the problem is you are open to anxiety. get, more feelings of fear, doubt, you know, irritation, all those negative feelings. They won’t help you. So also therefore it’s very important to have a break, take that moment for yourself. You know, you can call it a meditation moment.

Kimberly Snyder (11:44.839)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (12:01.784)
few times a day. And as you said, you know, especially when you were very busy, when you have a business or two or three businesses, you have a family, you have your kids, you need to have time for yourself.

Kimberly Snyder (12:15.953)
Yeah, well, I love that because when you break it into just a few minutes, it seems doable, right? And the natural pace of life is you squeeze it in, you have a minute, maybe I can get this email in or just jamming everything in and that really is the formula for burnout. In heart language, we would say incoherence, right? When you feel that stress and your nervous system is just completely out of whack. So that’s a really…

Michael Pilarczyk (12:38.126)
Yeah, yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (12:45.065)
great practical tip for anyone that says, I can’t just take an hour here or there, but you can take these two minutes. How powerful. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Making the choice, making the intention. So you also talk about, for some people, you and you talked about your story so beautifully, Michael, a lot of people and women, I’ll speak,

Michael Pilarczyk (12:51.212)
Yeah, it sounds so easy, you just have to do it.

Kimberly Snyder (13:13.193)
for when we have a lot of women in our community have limited ideas. I to say everyone, but I could say based on the questions that we get, limited ideas around money, around being able to really carve the path forward that we want, being able to do what we like to do and get paid for it. So you have a whole chapter here about limiting beliefs around money and creating a positive money mindset.

How do we do that if we’ve inherited these ideas and beliefs and scarcity and maybe grew up in families where there was an abundance mindset?

Michael Pilarczyk (13:55.628)
Yeah. Well, we all have been programmed. You know, there is a program running us. So it’s very important to all of us to understand what is the program that is running you. What is your operating system? What does it look like? You know, where does all these limiting beliefs come from? Why do you

Kimberly Snyder (14:03.474)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (14:23.554)
think the way you do, why do you act the way you do? Because your daily life is the result of your way of thinking, your mindset and your daily behavior. So if you want to change your actual daily life, you have to change your mindset and you have to change your behavior. You have to be more disciplined. And if you go to the money mindset,

It’s very important to understand what is your limiting belief according to money. What is the problem with money? know, what, what, feeling do you have deep down inside? If you think about money, is it a negative feeling? Is it a positive feeling? Are you afraid of money? I can give you an example.

A lot of people tell me, no, no, money is not important. I don’t think money is important. Well, money is important in our world. It’s important. You know, we have to pay the bills, we have to pay for everything. So it’s important. It’s not the most important thing in the world, but actually it’s very hard. It’s not likely that you can live and survive without money in our Western world. So it’s important. Doesn’t mean you have to chase

Kimberly Snyder (15:22.759)
Right.

Kimberly Snyder (15:40.744)
Right.

Michael Pilarczyk (15:45.556)
money and you have to be a millionaire to live your best life. But you have to, let’s say, love money. Because if you hate it, what happens with things you hate, you push them away. If you think money is not important, there is, you know, money is energy. Everything is energy. And this isn’t a

Kimberly Snyder (16:02.802)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (16:08.489)
Right.

Michael Pilarczyk (16:14.958)
washy thing, it’s just really like it is its physics. So if you push the vibration of money away and you keep it, you know, out of your zone, it will never come to you, whatever you do. So you can work hard, you can try everything you can create in your mind. But if you have this negative approach to money, so you

You try actually to keep it on a distance. It cannot come to you. You have to open your arms. It’s the same with love, you know? If you are closed, if you have no space in your area, in your heart, in your energy for another person, no one can come near you and you cannot create, give and get love. It’s the same with money.

Kimberly Snyder (16:47.708)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (17:06.6)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (17:12.391)
Right.

You know, I relate to that Michael, because I think about when I came back from my backpacking journey and I was broke and I was on the road for three years, I had all these adventures, I was living out of a tent in Africa. And then boom, I did start to run out and I it was getting a bit dangerous and reckless. So anyways, after three years, I came back. I remember walking around New York City, I saw it a little bit of money to get this rent control department. And then I got this job that I really didn’t like.

And I had this feeling of lack, like I was always worried about bills and it was like a struggle, right? And then one day, Michael, I decided to shift. said, well, what do I really love? I love yoga. So on the side, I teaching yoga. I love, you wellness. So I started to go back to nutrition school. And if I look back on that time and then everything just started to grow really organically, I had a free blog and then I started getting book deals and working with clients. But for me,

and I didn’t think about it this way, but I started to feel very grateful for every dollar that came in. So I started to move away. You said, you know, we say in our family, H word, the hate word, because I can’t, all my kids, you know, it’s a strong vibration. So we say H word, but, it wasn’t that I H worded it, but I was so focused on lack that it was like that feeling of like, I don’t have enough. It was kind of a yucky feeling. And then.

The gratitude feeling was really nice and warm. It was a different energy. And I don’t know that I consciously shifted about money, but it happened along the way and it did change everything, I feel like.

Michael Pilarczyk (18:55.982)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (19:01.814)
Yeah. Sometimes, you know, when I hear you saying these words, it’s an amazing story. And I have stories like this as well. And I know there’s so many people, even maybe people listening now thinking, yeah, it sounds all so wonderful for you, but that’s not for me. Or they don’t believe what we’re telling, you know, because

Kimberly Snyder (19:02.867)
So, gratitude. Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (19:29.912)
People believe what they want to believe. And that’s very strong because that’s imagination. And as Einstein said, imagination is more important than knowledge. You have to imagine, you have to believe. If you believe it can be done, you maybe can do it. And again, it’s not about chasing money, but money will come if you are on the right frequency.

Kimberly Snyder (19:33.169)
Right.

Kimberly Snyder (19:48.626)
right.

Michael Pilarczyk (19:59.05)
in whatever you do. I’ll try to explain. When I was 2 million in debt and I met Mr. Pena, my business mentor, he taught me how to build the business. I built the business. I sold it ever after five or six, seven years. And then I was financially independent. I was 37 years of age, but still I was deep down and depressed. I wasn’t happy. I was very unhappy. Even I had about $10 million.

Then I went on my sailing trip because that was my long lasting dream. I built a sailing boat, went sailing, but that sailing journey became a journey to inner awareness. I started reading all kinds of spiritual books. I read lots of Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, listened to most of Deepak’s and Wayne’s talks. I was listening to Alan Watts and after two, three years, something changed.

I think I became another person and then I started writing books. I wrote Master Your Mindset. I wrote Design Your Own Life. I started giving lectures. I did my coaching program 10, 12 years ago, I think I started that. And what I was doing back then was helping other people, not for the money, but because I really loved it from my heart.

Kimberly Snyder (21:23.379)
All right.

Michael Pilarczyk (21:29.036)
helping other people, know, teaching other people what I had learned in my life with many highs and lows. And it was so fulfilling. And as you said, I was so grateful that I could be the one doing this, you know, writing the books, lecturing, helping other people. And really, I didn’t do it for the money, but the money came in again. You know, it started flowing.

Kimberly Snyder (21:46.045)
Yes.

Kimberly Snyder (21:56.137)
Wow.

Michael Pilarczyk (21:59.406)
And I really believe if you’re on the right frequency, if you’re in the right track, you’re doing the right thing. You know, you’re following your heart. It’s your purpose. Maybe it’s not for everybody, but there’s always something for everyone. And if you’re on that right track, you will. It’s like falling in love, you know, one day, you know, that’s the right person for you.

Kimberly Snyder (22:16.777)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (22:25.672)
Right.

Michael Pilarczyk (22:25.902)
And it’s the same with business, with work, with your career and with money and it will flow.

Kimberly Snyder (22:33.725)
That gratitude energy, Michael, and also like you said, this intention to serve. It’s one of the things Paramahansa Yogananda talks about who brought yoga to the West. talks about our purpose is mostly service and tuning into our unique talent, our unique voice, the unique expression, the unique way that we can serve, which looks different for all of us. And then the other thing that you said, Michael, that really struck me is that you were filling your

Michael Pilarczyk (22:43.918)
Sure, yeah, absolutely.

Kimberly Snyder (23:02.793)
mind, you were, you know, the nutrition you were giving yourself mentally and emotionally was really uplifting. Wayne Dyer and Deepak, who’s a dear friend of mine, we wrote a book together a couple years ago, but you weren’t reading negative things. I think that’s a really important thing as well. And Yogananda says our environment is so important. You know, when we’re going up, we’re trying to expand, Michael,

watching these days what is coming into our social media feeds, making sure it feels inspiring, the friends that we’re spending a lot of time with, because when we’re shifting our mindset, I’m sure you’d agree with me, we have to watch our total nutrition that’s coming in. Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (23:46.168)
so important. I was at a seminar of Bruce Lipton two months ago and he was telling this story about DNA, you know, and environment. And environment is so important. It’s because a lot of people think it’s all DNA. I’m just the way I am because that’s the way it is. But that’s, it’s, you know, it’s not true. It’s epigenetics.

Kimberly Snyder (23:59.325)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (24:10.235)
or genetics. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (24:14.865)
Yes. Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (24:14.99)
It’s your environment. Partly, you know, partly it is in us. Some small piece of us, we cannot really change. But I think my conviction is that maybe 90 % of your life you can control. You cannot control everything in life, but a lot you can control with your mind and with taking action.

You have to take action, very important. But very important is where you are. Who are the people you surround yourself with? Show me your friends and I’ll tell you your future. And it’s true. It’s absolutely true. know, Jim Rohn always said, you will be the average of the five people you hang around with most. And it’s true. It’s absolutely true.

Kimberly Snyder (24:54.131)
Right.

Kimberly Snyder (24:58.866)
It’s real.

Kimberly Snyder (25:09.969)
It’s so true.

Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (25:13.72)
So yeah, no, no negative stuff. I started reading positive stuff, you know, I was studying all the spiritual books, but my focus shifted from stress and problems and drama to a new future, to gratitude. And I really think gratitude changed my life. I’m so grateful every day. You know, I know we live

Kimberly Snyder (25:38.684)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (25:42.762)
on a great island. We built an amazing property. You know, when I wake up, I face the mountains. We have a beautiful garden. And I’m so grateful every morning when I get up and every night before we go to sleep, my wife, Cindy and I, we ask each other, what are you grateful for today? You know? And if you do that, it’s so simple. You feel that…

Kimberly Snyder (26:02.781)
Hmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (26:09.012)
energy of gratitude, you feel it in your heart, everywhere in your blood, it’s everywhere in you and it does something with you. You cannot be negative, you cannot be angry or irritated when you are in a mood of gratefulness.

Kimberly Snyder (26:26.441)
Right, right. We do that at dinner, Michael, we go around after we say grace and the kids do it too and we all say what we’re grateful for that day. And so if someone is saying, I really want to change my mindset, you know, and your book has these 12 steps. And so you talked about taking action, is it a seat? And then we talked about the two minutes, you know, moments of gratitude. Is it that

Michael Pilarczyk (26:36.024)
Beautiful, yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (26:54.023)
There’s a series of small actions that we take consistently through the day that’s going to turn this boat around, a negative mindset to a more positive one that attracts abundance. Or would you say for someone, you know, just get started and then build more steps along the way? Or how would you recommend they approach a total change if they’re wanting that?

Michael Pilarczyk (27:18.702)
I think it’s easy to start with one question. What would you like to change in your daily life today? Don’t make it too complex. Don’t make it too big. Just today. What would you like to change in your daily life today?

Kimberly Snyder (27:26.505)
Mmm.

Kimberly Snyder (27:34.729)
Mmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (27:36.396)
Because you need clarity and you get clarity by asking good questions, clear questions to yourself, you know? So what would you like to change? What can you do to change that? And if you can change that, what will be the outcome? What will be the end result for you? How will it make you feel? Very important to ask yourself these kinds of questions. In one of the chapters, I think I wrote down about

Kimberly Snyder (27:38.238)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (28:05.678)
30 or 40 of these questions to ask yourself. What did I do today to become a better version of me? What did I learn today? What would I like to learn tomorrow or next week or next month? know, very practical questions to ask yourself to, you know, say, master yourself, personal mastery, master your mindset, and you need some personal mastery. You have to

Master energy level. have to master your discipline. Very important because you can, you you want something, you want everything, but if you don’t have discipline, you won’t achieve nothing. So that’s also important. And a big part of the book is about mindfulness and meditation. We also have our Meditation Moments app.

Kimberly Snyder (28:40.733)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (28:51.208)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (29:03.436)
Because I noticed so many people are so confused in their minds and so busy and never have the two, three, four, five minutes. So I advise everyone try to, you know, you don’t have to listen to me, but if you download the app, can, you can use it for three months for free. You can listen to me for, you know, two, three, five minutes, maybe 10 minutes. If you have time, 20 minutes, if you have more time every day. And if you do that.

Kimberly Snyder (29:08.03)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (29:33.174)
I promise you, if you take a meditation moment for yourself every night before you go to sleep, after let’s say 10 days, you know, I don’t have to explain to you, but you know that something will change for almost everybody. Even if you don’t believe in meditation, it’s just a moment for yourself.

Kimberly Snyder (29:51.228)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (30:00.64)
And I really would advise people to do that because then you will go to sleep with a relaxed mind, a positive feeling, a grateful heart, and you will get up completely refreshed like a different human being the next morning instead of, you know, focusing on all those negative events and negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. It’s very important.

Kimberly Snyder (30:17.385)
Mmm.

Mm.

Kimberly Snyder (30:30.665)
You know, when you were, when you were speaking, Michael, I got this really interesting image. Your voice is really calming and you were talking about, almost, got this image of bringing the flowers in. Like you’re kind of just pulling it in, right? Cause everything feels in the world. can be, feel really confusing. Like you said, a lot of people feel really scattered and they’re constantly looking outward. They’re on TikTok or they’re here, they’re conversation all day and they’re just kind of like the flowers are everywhere.

Michael Pilarczyk (30:43.074)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (30:54.36)
Yeah. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (30:59.965)
so to speak, and there’s this really powerful nourishment that happens when we bring it in. And it’s so simple and small, but like you said, we have to make the choice to do it. Otherwise what happens, then we get caught up in watching Netflix all night until we fall asleep again. And then you wake up feeling heavy and that subconscious programming if you’re watching like detective shows or whatever at night. And so it just keeps this pattern going. So what really struck me about,

your book and these steps is that, and like you break it down to today. And it’s a series of small steps that start to change the course of the ship, so to speak. Like, and then it starts to build momentum. And that’s been my personal experience too, in turning my ship around like, okay, today and now the next day. And it builds, it builds energy. It starts to become more, these positive habits start to become more second nature.

Michael Pilarczyk (31:42.574)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (31:52.76)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (31:59.095)
Do you play golf, Kimberly?

Kimberly Snyder (32:01.235)
So I have played and I’m not the best putter, but I sure like going to the driving range.

Michael Pilarczyk (32:05.346)
Well, I’m the worst player. I’m the worst. But I have a friend, he’s a pretty good golf player. And he told me, if you hit the ball just one millimeter, one millimeter, you know, after 100, 200 meters, it ends up completely in a different direction. So if you just shift, you know, your daily life in just a little bit different direction,

Kimberly Snyder (32:17.181)
Mmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (32:34.634)
Eventually, your life will end up somewhere where you maybe want to go. And that’s very important. First, you have to know where you want to go. You know, if you don’t really know what your…

desire is or where your destination is, what your outcome looks like. Chances are high you will end up somewhere you don’t want to go. So you need to decide for yourself, where do I want to go with my life? And that’s a big question. But in the end, know, and that’s also what the book is about. It’s about living a meaningful life. And that’s different.

Kimberly Snyder (33:13.0)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (33:21.07)
For me, then for you, and we all have another vision on meaning, but ask yourself this question as you’re listening now, what does it mean for you to live a meaningful life? And if you start living your life in a meaningful way, maybe in a more mindful way, and we all start doing that, we will change this planet. We will change life on this planet. We can change the world. And there’s…

a lot going on, you know, in politics and in economics, and we have wars going on. And a lot of people are confused and maybe afraid. And I can imagine, and we don’t have to ignore what’s going on in the world. But if we take more time to go inside, you know, look, look to your inner world, feel your inner world, make that connection.

And if we do that and we start living a more mindful and meaningful life all together, I can guarantee you, we will shift the energy on this planet and life will change for all of us.

Kimberly Snyder (34:30.642)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (34:34.835)
So Michael, what would you say I agree with that? It’s the intention coming from the heart, not just from the ego and the confusion. It can shift over time, right? Because let’s say someone says, Michael, that sounds really overwhelming. My whole meaningful life, all the way, you’re just getting started all the way through to grandkids. But let’s say if someone’s a student or starting out, maybe for them the focus right now is I really want to get my career off the ground. At some point, I’d love to start a family.

Michael Pilarczyk (34:51.886)
you

Kimberly Snyder (35:03.641)
which is different from where I am now. have a family and I have my business, but just, you know what I mean? We can look at it at certain junctures and reevaluate every few years. Or how would you coach someone through that?

Michael Pilarczyk (35:17.806)
step by step.

Kimberly Snyder (35:19.143)
Yeah, and there’s phases.

Michael Pilarczyk (35:21.774)
step by step, you know, if you are the student and maybe you think about starting a family, starting a family gives meaning to your life, you know, creating a family, having a child gives enormous meaning to your life. Taking care of other people, taking care of your elderly, you know, I take care of my elderly father now since my mom passed away and it

Kimberly Snyder (35:32.883)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (35:42.504)
Yes.

Kimberly Snyder (35:48.797)
Hmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (35:49.474)
gives great meaning to my life. You know, helping other people. Just, you know, even if you walk on the street, just give a smile to someone else. It can give meaning to the other person’s life. It can be something small. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (36:06.343)
Yeah, every interaction.

So what happens or what do you do to break out of a negative cycle? Let’s say there’s just, you know, we all have moments. I call it the dark heart moments where we just feel that fear come in or irritation or some reactivity from the past or whatever it is. How do you refresh your mindset?

Michael Pilarczyk (36:32.972)
Let go. And letting go, sounds so easy, but it’s,

Kimberly Snyder (36:34.345)
Mmm.

Michael Pilarczyk (36:41.578)
If your hands are tied and you can’t let, you won’t let go, then you’re always stuck. So you need to let go. Just let go. It’s a choice. Then when your hands are open, you’re open to receive something new. So if you’re irritated or angry, you know, let go. And then you can receive gratefulness, love, joy.

Kimberly Snyder (36:50.44)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (36:59.281)
Hmm… Hmm…

Michael Pilarczyk (37:10.402)
But it’s not so easy. It’s a choice and you have to take action. And I know, know, way back when I was younger, when I was angry, I could stay in that state of, you know, angriness. And I could hold on to it, you know, forever. And I wanted to stay there. It’s like people who are, they’re so addicted to problems, they don’t want to let go.

Kimberly Snyder (37:12.485)
It is a choice, Joe.

Kimberly Snyder (37:27.027)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (37:39.778)
They want to stay in their problems. They don’t want the solution. And that happens when you’re irritated or when you are in a situation that you don’t really like. We all have that, but you need to take a break. what happens? What you can do is take, let’s say one, two, three, four, five deep breaths in and out. You know, just to take a break to step out of

That state of being, that state of negative energy, you have to break it. And you can break it by, you you have to shift your focus. If you shift your focus and you shift your energy, you’re out of the anger. And when you’re out of the anger, you can choose whatever you want. You cannot be angry and happy in the same moment. You know, it’s a state of being. You’re happy or you’re sad.

Kimberly Snyder (38:12.712)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (38:35.882)
joyful or you know, you’re in a negative state of mind. You can break it by being aware of what your state of mind is. So step back, take a deep breath.

Kimberly Snyder (38:48.039)
Right.

Michael Pilarczyk (38:55.19)
See what’s happening and then try it. Really try it. It’s an exercise. Try to move around, shift your focus, think of something different or just do something else. You know, when, when, when kids are little, the grandmother often says, if the children are annoyed or, you know, they’re doing bad stuff, go do something, you know, go do something.

Kimberly Snyder (39:03.689)
Yeah.

Exactly.

Michael Pilarczyk (39:24.62)
Because if you start do something, you break that mindset and you’re out of the negative mindset and you start doing something and you just forget where you are. And I think that’s really true. Start doing something and do something positive.

Kimberly Snyder (39:38.313)
It’s so true to the mind.

Kimberly Snyder (39:44.871)
Yeah, the mind keeps us in those stories, those narratives. Like you said, the anger can keep going. You keep thinking. So for me, Michael, I literally touch my heart sometimes, or I’ll just come here and breathe and get into my body. And that’s helped me so much start to, cause I used to stew a lot and be like, like I replay the conversation. I’d be talking to you, but thinking about something else or be on a zoom meeting or whatever it was. And now it is this habit of

Michael Pilarczyk (39:57.4)
Yeah, me too. Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (40:09.514)
Mm-hmm. Yeah. Keep focused. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (40:13.629)
Like you said, stopping, shifting the focus because then you don’t keep that train going. It’s such a powerful skill.

Michael Pilarczyk (40:21.774)
But Kimberly, I had to learn this myself. It wasn’t easy. You know, it, think it took, it took maybe 10 years really to. Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (40:24.657)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (40:31.335)
Get past the anger. Would you say you’ve pretty much mastered your anger now?

Michael Pilarczyk (40:38.446)
Yeah. Yeah. You know, I’m… I’m… Yeah, I’m mastered stress. I’m… You know, I never have real stress. I’m, you know, sometimes… I have three companies, so things are not always going the way I want. But I’m not… I’m never angry. Never. No.

Kimberly Snyder (40:40.073)
Wow, because it’s a powerful energy.

Kimberly Snyder (40:57.609)
I’m

Kimberly Snyder (41:02.345)
Wow, that is, Michael, that is a powerful, that’s a powerful thing to have created in your life.

Michael Pilarczyk (41:09.548)
Kimberly, now I know you can learn that.

Kimberly Snyder (41:12.679)
That is amazing.

Michael Pilarczyk (41:14.164)
It’s a state of awareness, consciousness, see what’s happening. And before you take the wrong decision, the wrong action, you know, ask yourself, what is the best way to approach this? I can start screaming and shouting, but does it bring me somewhere? It will, it will bring you somewhere, but is it where you want to go? No. So what’s the best solution?

And most of the time it’s not shouting and, you know, arguing. It’s most of the time, okay, take a step back. What’s the best approach to solve this the way eventually I want to have it. I think that’s important. What’s the outcome I want to achieve.

Kimberly Snyder (42:00.915)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (42:07.112)
Yeah.

Michael Pilarczyk (42:07.746)
And therefore I can, I cannot use my anger to fast forward that process. You know, and, and, know, the anger is a negative emotion. It’s a negative energy. So it does something with your inner world as well. It doesn’t make me happy when I’m angry. Why should I?

Kimberly Snyder (42:28.913)
Yes.

Michael Pilarczyk (42:35.734)
You know, there’s so many things to be grateful for. Why should it be angry? It’s like, it’s like framing your focus. You know, we all have the, the, the choice to, to frame whatever you want to focus on. Do you want to focus on anger or you want to focus on the good stuff in life, the beautiful things, the good life.

Kimberly Snyder (42:41.597)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (43:00.381)
Well, I think having that power to introspect as you’re referring to it and ask these questions is really helped again by those small two minute pauses because otherwise we go right into the anger, we get really reactive and then we think it’s justified when it’s really just an old programming. So the pauses help to dismantle the programming. It all works together.

Michael Pilarczyk (43:19.096)
Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, you’re right. You have to discover the programming and then step by step and it will take time. Then you can change the programming eventually as like you want to be programmed. You can reprogram yourself.

Kimberly Snyder (43:29.212)
Yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (43:44.049)
amazing. Michael, thank you so much for sharing some of your wisdom with us and your wonderful new book, Master Your Mindset Live a Meaningful Life. Is there anything else that we didn’t cover about the book you’d like to share? And can you also share with us where we can get a copy?

Michael Pilarczyk (44:04.684)
I think we can copies almost everywhere. for sure. I don’t know. We have to ask the publisher everywhere. I don’t know. You know, we sold over a million copies in, Europe. So here it’s everywhere in every bookstore. so I hope many people in, in the States will read the book as well. And it’s not only because I want to sell a lot of books because, you know,

Kimberly Snyder (44:07.729)
I know I asked that question, but nowadays everywhere, bookstores, online.

Kimberly Snyder (44:20.796)
Yes, beautiful.

Michael Pilarczyk (44:34.56)
I want to share this message. I really hope we can all live a meaningful life.

Kimberly Snyder (44:36.915)
Yes.

Kimberly Snyder (44:40.691)
Well, it’s really powerful hearing from you, Michael, because it’s succinct. There’s accessibility, a simplicity, and an energy that’s coming out of you that really is an embodiment of what you teach. And so it’s so authentic, your intention to support others, your life story is so inspiring. So thank you so much for spending some time with our community. We appreciate it so much.

Michael Pilarczyk (45:04.28)
That’s so kind. Kimberly, thank you so much.

Kimberly Snyder (45:06.835)
Thank you. And everyone, thank you so much for tuning in with us. We will link directly to Michael’s book at mysaloon.com where you can get the transcript for today’s show, the show notes, other articles and shows I think you would enjoy. And we’ll be back here as always Thursday for our next Q &A show. Till then, take great care. Be sure to check out Michael’s book. Once again, the title is Master Your Mindset, Live a Meaningful Life and Sending You Much Love. Take care.