Unconditional Love and Tips on How to Come from a Place of the True Self [Episode #659]

Today’s solocast topic is: Unconditional Love and Tips on How to Come from a Place of the True Self

When we’re talking about unconditional love, we are talking about that incredible, expansive, powerful energy of love coming right from your own being and completely transforming your entire life.

It means that we remove the conditions to love that block us and block this bliss in our lives. Starting with the conditions that we put on our own self-love. I can say from my own personal experience, that love was a very conditioned thing for me in my approach, and in my limited belief system with myself and with other people. And I’ve been working on this expansion through the practices and teachings.

And I can say that moment to moment, day to day, the more we open up our hearts, we experience that bliss and real power more and more, and it’s worth everything. I can’t wait to get into our show today. I’m very excited about this topic.

Topics Covered In Unconditional Love and Tips on How to Come from a Place of the True Self

Tip #1. Removing your own conditional approval of yourself

Tip #2. Witness, not judge

Tip #3. Deepening of humility and moving past better, worse, right, or wrong

Tip #4. Meeting the wound and trigger with love

Tip #5. Stay in the expansive self-love space through meditation

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Kimberly: 00:01 Hi Beauty. And welcome back to our Monday solocast podcast, where our topic today is Unconditional Love and Tips on How to Come From a Place of the True Self. And when we’re talking about unconditional love, we are talking about that incredible, expansive, powerful energy of love coming right from your own being and completely transforming your entire life. It means that we remove the conditions to love that block us and block this bliss in our lives. Starting with the conditions that we put on our own self love. I can say from my own personal experience, that love was a very conditioned thing for me in my approach, in my limited belief system with myself and with other people. And I’ve been working on this expansion through the practices and teachings, and you know what we’ll talk of about today, some of what we’ll talk about today, and I can say that moment to moment, day to day, the more we open up our hearts, we just experience that, that bliss, that real power more and more, and it’s worth everything.

Kimberly: 01:16 So I can’t wait to get into our show today. I’m very excited about this topic. It is also, I will say that is this unconditional love. This, this balls that I feel is so healing on a physical level as well, and all levels emotionally and mentally, physically, spiritually. And it has the power to create so much harmony and allow us to create, and co-create in our lives more and more. There’s a power to this. Um, this keep using the word expansive, but this all encompassing love. And today we’re gonna be talking about some practical ways. I have five practical tips for you in increasing this incredible energy in your life, which again, will help to raise your vice, your frequency, your energy, and heal relationships, including your self relationship.

Kimberly: 01:16 Unconditional love is more and more the connection we have to this energy underneath the surface. So we come to identify more with this formless presence, this essence of who we are, if you will. And just as we know that we don’t love people just to, because of how they look that gets old pretty quick. Doesn’t it. We know that it is the essence, this energy, this beingness, that is the truth of really who we are. This eternal expansive part of who we are, not just this, this shell, which again, we have a body, we have hair, we have skin, but we are not to that. We are this soul, this, this formless energy spirit inside of us. So as we learn to connect to that, it means that we see that essence, that presence in other people as well. And so we start to move past the conditions of someone has to show up how they have to talk, how they have to be what they need to believe in for us to love them.

Kimberly (01:07): And so we sink into this place of just recognizing the awe and the wonder of us all, just showing up these different emanations of source. And of course this all starts from within. So what I started to experience as I started to sit with myself and process and, um, reflect and meditate and all the things that I share in the new book, you are more than you think you are. I came to get to know that this energy inside of me was this stable. You know, I use the word resource a lot, just this stable part of me that was always there. I could always tap into it. And I came to grow so much in my self love because I came to know that I wasn’t just this limited outer part that, you know, sometimes annoyed me because it would fluctuate weight this physical body or, or futsing with the outside or the things that weren’t coming in.

Kimberly (02:09): The things that I didn’t have, that I wanted, all of that. And I’ve found that, oh, beyond the ego, beyond this, you know, changing part of me there is this really stable part of me, this re very love loving. This is the unconditional love source inside of me. And so myself love, grew tremendously. And so I believe that the more we spend time in that space, the more we create stillness in our lives and we meditate and we just become aware more and more, which we’ll get into today in the podcast that underneath it all is just love, connection, energy, all of the same source. And so the artificial conditions again for why we should, or shouldn’t love someone why we should, or shouldn’t love ourselves, it starts to dissolve because it’s not truth. And so it starts to emerge and radiate more forward and more and more obvious truth is this expansive, unconditional love. And you will know the truth that you are loved and you are lovable and you love just because of you, the essence of you and nothing that you do, and nothing that you have to look like or how you need to show up. But just because you argue. So it’s a really, really big one and I can’t wait to get into it today.

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All right. All of that being said, let’s get into our show today, which I’m also so excited about where we talk about unconditional love and really coming from a place of living life from the true self versus the ego and the surface.

Tip #1. Removing your own conditional approval of yourself

Kimberly: 05:19 So the first tip that I want to share with view is removing our own conditional approval of ourselves. And so this is something that doesn’t go away overnight, but this is something that requires us sitting with and intro respecting and seeing, what do I really believe about love? Why do I love other people, people, why do people love each other? Why do I love myself? And there are a lot of limited beliefs in there. I think because we have come into so many different, again, just limited ideas from our childhood in our brains, in our adolescent brains, that aren’t necessarily true and don’t necessarily serve us. So it’s really important to move forward that we see what’s in there. We see what we’re creating around, um, and the limitations that we’ve put on ourselves and we’ve put on the idea of love. So removing this conditional approval means, again, introspecting and sitting.

Kimberly: 06:27 There are a lot of practices in the book that I share specifically around this, but just to get you started here, I would say, you know, sitting with your journal and yourself, you know, when do I feel self love and when do I not? And for me, when I started doing this practice, I would see that I wouldn’t feel self love. If something didn’t work out the way I wanted it to, or, you know, something wasn’t as big as I thought it might have big been as I, that I created or somebody, you know, didn’t, um, say approve of me or agree with me or whatever it was. It was all these outside things that would cause me to sort of, you know, it would put a ding in self love or would cause me to falter a little bit. And once I started to become really aware of that, I realized, huh, I am so conditional in the way that I will love myself.

Kimberly: 07:23 Otherwise, you know, if I gained some weight, you know, back in the day or whatever it was, I would really beat myself up. And I started to sit with that and say, you know, I wouldn’t treat a friend like that. I wouldn’t love them less. If they gained five pounds, it doesn’t ultimately matter. So we need to create some real awareness of our whole perspective and our whole philosophy of love until, and then that brings out these limited beliefs from the shadows, some real shadow work here into the light. And then we can start to see the falsity around that. So this is just part of the process. It doesn’t free us up into full self love right away. But just as I explain in the book, we need to move past the fear. We need to see it in the first place until we get into that real place of unconditional love and expansion.

Kimberly: 08:16 So first seeing, you know, why, what, what is it that it, I think is necessary for me to be loved? And then we see that, you know, we, we start to introspect about love and also our relationship with love with others versus self. And so we see that, oh, there actually are a lot of conditions that I put in there. And it does. Doesn’t feel like this free flow love is this, um, you know, not to sound cheesy, but there’s songs that say you love as like a river. And it just flows and flows. Everything is energy. And we can step back and say, as the yogis teach us and specifically Paramahansa Yogananda, it is true. The yogis teach us at the core. We are spirit. That is what the true self is. We are not this, you know, limited sack of bag and bones.

Kimberly: 09:11 We have this limited, we have this unlimited energy, this eternal part of us that will go on. It changes form. So spirit is inside of us. We are not God, but God is inside of us. So it’s like Yogananda says that the ocean can exist without a wave, but the wave is part of the ocean. So when we start to tap into the love and the spirit, our real identity of love and light and spirit inside of us, we start to connect to that more. And we start to remove more and more of these really petty conditions on love. But first we need to connect and intro respect. So spend a little time sitting with that, being in your journal and see what comes up for you, just the beginning of the path.  And so as you sit in introspection, what you’ll find is that the truth will start to come up from inside of you, which is that the reason that you are loved and lovable, and the reason other people are loved and lovable is simply because they are simply because that we are here, a live breathing, unique creation of spirit. And it’s this unique essence that is this unique conglomeration of energy. And we, um, create different frequencies. And we vibe with certain people very strongly. And so it’s beyond the shell. It’s beyond the looks. It’s the essence, it’s the form. It’s the real, you, it’s the authentic you, it is the true self. And so we get to that place of deep knowing from the truth, not just hearing my words and, you know, intellectually understanding it, but experiential deep, knowing through, I’ll say it again, our practices and meditation and stillness and feeling that truth come up from inside of you. Introspection is a very powerful tool that we wanna continue to utilize on our individual journeys, which really helps us evolve and see things instead of just accepting things and accepting beliefs.

Tip #2. Witness, not judge

Kimberly: 10:04 Okay. Our second tip is witness, not judge, because we wanna move towards more and more neutrality. And when I’m talking about witnessing, instead of judging, I’m talking about us, your entire life, your in your life, and also what you witness out in the world with other people and just things and circumstances in general, this is a really, really, really big one. And it just starts with the idea of witnessing more. So you could even put a little card on your desk or someplace you sit a lot on your kitchen table that just says witness, right? So we are so, um, conditioned to judge and that shuts things down and it closes things up and it create, it can create these artificial walls and separations, uh, between us and other people and within ourselves. So next time, you know, you’re walking down the street and you see someone in a beat up car, for instance, instead of saying, oh gosh, like how, how come that person doesn’t just, you know, get that door fixed.

Kimberly: 11:13 You just witness, oh, you know, there’s some broken parts or people coming, you know, through, and you may witness that someone is in a really bad mood, or you may witness that someone is maybe wearing an outfit that you wouldn’t wear. But instead of putting the stories on it that really limit the love, you know, oh, that person, gosh, how could they think that was a good idea? Or, you know, whatever the narratives in our head unconditional is about neutrality is the first step towards unconditional love. Because when we get, when we create more unconditional love, we go beyond thought, we go beyond the, the analytical mind and all the thinking. And instead we drop down into this place of being, and beingness is love and light and just witnessing and moving through and flowing. So the more we recognize the mind chatter, and then we just move attention away into a more neutral observation.

Kimberly: 12:11 That’s why that’s what it feels like to me in my life. As I get outta judgment, more and more, just move attention away. I don’t need to comment on this right now. I don’t need to pull my energy into here. Keep it big, expansive, unconditional love accepts. It accepts where people are. It accepts where we are. And so the more and more neutral we become in our daily life, it means we surrender more and more to just what is instead of putting our own, um, ideas on everything that, that just keeps feeding into the limitations. So it’s important as we flow through, just keep witnessing instead of judging witness, witness, witness, and just OTI, how your body becomes less reactive over time. You don’t always have to be looking and making these comments. And then we realize that a lot of the comments that we’re making, and a lot of the judgments that we’re saying actually comes from this place of trying to create more safety and the safety we’re trying to create.

Kimberly: 13:14 Like I don’t, I wouldn’t be like that, or, oh, I don’t like that. I, this is better da it comes from fear and the fear is trying to keep us safe in different ways, but ultimately the fear also blocks the love and it makes it smaller and smaller and has to fit into certain parameters and ha people have to be a certain way for us to love them. And it also means that we have to be a certain way for us to accept and love ourselves. So it’s this cycle of limitation, struggle suffering instead of just starting to drop it all, just realize how all this stuff, these separations, it doesn’t ultimately matter. Let me remain more in a state of love as I continue to flow through life it again, just noticing, witnessing, perceiving, but not getting drawn into that deeper. Um, you know, with the Yogi, say what Yogananda talks about getting involved in matter and delusion getting caught up in everything, which again, stops the flow of love and its highest and fullest capacity.

Tip #3. Deepening of humility and moving past better, worse, right, or wrong

Kimberly: 14:18 So tip number three is the deepening of our humility. We become more and more humble over time. And this is a huge marker on the spiritual path of true growth. The more humble we become, the more we continue to under to the fact that we don’t know everything and that there’s this incredible divine intelligence that connects all things that is so, so much bigger than any of us and all of us, but yet we’re part of that. But because we are again, a wave in the ocean, we are not the ocean. It means that we don’t know everything. And we also don’t know what’s right for other people. And this deepening of humility means that we’re moving past better, worse, right wrong. And that is a huge step towards opening, unconditional love in your life. Now I’ll use an example. I used to be very clear cut.

Kimberly: 15:23 So to speak adamant about a plant-based diet, meaning like, oh, it’s right to eat plant-based and if you don’t, mm it’s not the right way. It’s not the best thing for the environment. This is the best thing for our health. So on and so forth now, to be clear, I am still plant-based and I still believe that plant-based bot diet is a very powerful way to support your body and the environment in our world and passion for animals. I believe in all of it, but what I’ve removed is the judgment and looking at people that eat some meat as better or worse than better than they’re wrong. I’m right. We don’t need those labels that just creates more separation. I feel I, the plant-based way, right. For my body. And I wanna share that, that, you know, this is a compassionate way of living. This is a deeply nourishing way of living, but I do not wanna create separation.

Kimberly: 16:23 I do wanna create judgment of people that are in a different perspective and believe different things and are in a different place in their journey right now that is not, you know, pushing away is, is not what we’re, it’s not what we believe here in our community over and above individual decisions and lifestyle choices like diet. We believe in unconditional love. We believe in connection. We believe in oneness. So this means that we move towards a place of deep, deep acceptance of other people and their decisions and a deep, deep place of acceptance where we are in our decision making. So this humbling means that we continue to say in our conversations and to ourselves, this is what feels right to me, to me. But we move away from this is right period, because we don’t wanna put that on other humans. Everybody is equal.

Kimberly: 17:20 Everybody is evolving in their own way, in their own timing on their own journeys, but not a single human is above another human. And so again, a very important characteristic of unconditional love is we really, really start to deepen into that truth and that deep knowing, and we can see the darkness over the history of human life, where there were periods, where there was Kings and servants. And, you know, you see it here, uh, too in, um, in modern life or sorry, in, in, in ancient, you know, history and through all the times, there was all these ways that humans would sort of be stratified in different casts and different classes of people.

Kimberly: 18:10 And here, you know, there’s distortion in our world where some people have billions and billions of dollars and some people are struggling to eat and it’s not right, you know, on a fundamental level, some of the ways that society set up isn’t right, but we do not have to buy into it. We don’t have to contribute to it. We remain and continue to remain deeply humble. And that humility, deepens and deepens and deepens because we start to look around and realize, oh, what’s right for one isn’t right for the other. And no, one’s better. So no one’s opinion is more important. No one’s better or worse. We’re all equal. And then when we get to that place, the love grows bigger than any belief system. It grows bigger than, you know, these things that seemed so important. It was our hill to die on whether it’s a dietary philosophy or some political idea or whatever, something at your kid’s school, what, you know, micro macro, we go the belief systems, and then we become so deeply humble.

Kimberly: 19:15 We just look at this other human that’s showing up in front of us and we see this glorious soul. And then we find a way to connect. We find a way to bridge differences because we’re so, so, so humble that it’s the love that creates the bridges instead of focusing on the differences. So humility, humility, humility, and keep adding on to, you know, your sentences and conversations. This is right. This feels right to me. This is what feels right to me. Right.

Tip #4. Meeting the wound and trigger with love

Kimberly: 19:15 Okay. So number four, my fourth tip in unconditional love is meeting the wound and trigger with love and absorbing. So let me break that down. I wrote this down in my notes, it sounds a little bit esoteric, but here’s where I’m coming from with this. First of all, I love the word absorb. I’ve been rereading the and Terry and the Bava Gita.

Kimberly: 20:16 And somewhere along the lines, I don’t know exactly which verse it was, but it was towards the end of the Yoon commentary in volume one. There was the, these passages where the translation from Sanskrit was talking about the absorbing of desires into the one into God inside of us. And there was some, um, there was a passage from who is PMA NA guru. So we could say the peram guru, the gurus guru in India as well. And he was talking about the importance of within ourselves. We start to create this resource, this idea of the true self, which again is past the shell. What we think we are, of what we look like and what our job title is and the money we have, the things that we own into this formless part of us, the true self is the authentic you and is your soul is your spirit is your intuition.

Kimberly: 21:09 And so when we get to this place of, you know, more and more, we meditate, we connect with the true self. It means that as things come up, these, these triggers and these reactions, um, from our childhood, let’s say someone comes along and you really don’t like them, and you don’t know what it is, but it’s probably real related to something that happened in the past, right? We start to absorb more and more of those, uh, like that feeling or the judgment that starts to come in the separation, the triggers, the wanting to push someone away. We absorb it more and more in the power within us of the true self of God, spirit universe, whatever word you wanna use, it just gets, gets absorbed into that. And then again, what it feels like to me that comes up, and then I just focus inside.

Kimberly: 21:58 I focus on my heart, I breathe. And again, there’s a lot more detailed practices I offer in the book. You are more than you think you are. And then what happens is, is around 90 sec after a, about 90 seconds or so it starts to lose that big charge. And it just feels like it’s being absorbed into this much greater energy field. That’s connected to each of us and runs through each of us. So as long as I take that connection with me, that just breathing into, you know, again, below the surface, not getting count up in the thoughts that are surface, but underneath breathing into my heart, it starts to be absorbed that sort of jagged energy just feels like it’s absorbed into this all encompassing Omni power of spirit inside. And it feels amazing. You know, like I was saying earlier, just move attention away.

Kimberly: 22:46 We don’t have to Jack our nervous systems up so much by thinking it’s so important, what somebody said or how they slighted us or how they annoyed us. We don’t have to go repeating it to someone else. This just imbalances our bodies. It keeps the nervous system. Um, again, just, uh, like in that really frenzy state, we will hold onto weight more. We will be more bloated. Our faces will look more a, I mean, these are just some of the physical physi physical, visible signs that we are creating distortion and dysregulation within our own bodies. So what we do is we meet that trigger. We meet the wounds with love. We sit someone’s bothering us or something, you know, triggered us. Try not to let something fall out of your mouth in that moment, try to really sit with yourself and breathe. And again, try some of these practices.

Kimberly: 23:40 Um, you can do mini meditation, check out our free practical enlightenment meditations that we have over on the app or on the site. And we let it be absorbed. We absorb it. So it doesn’t mean we ignore it, or we, you know, just act from that wounded place. We meet it with love. We breathe, we absorb it in and then we can keep expanding, expanding into more and more unconditional love. What we’re saying here is the love inside of me is bigger than this wall that I’m putting up with this person. I believe in unconditional love and some more and more I’m gonna work on absorbing this. So it doesn’t mean that we don’t put up healthy boundaries with people. It doesn’t mean, uh, we need to spend all our time with people that don’t feel aligned. We can still, we can still be loving and firm, but keep those boundaries up.

Tip #5. Stay in the expansive self-love space through meditation

Kimberly: 24:35 And maybe we choose not to spend any time with someone, but we don’t have to continue the story in the narrative. We don’t have to be unkind. We don’t have to gossip. We don’t have to push one down, but we meet. We meet everything with UN with more and more love. So we become less reactive. We absorb the energy there. We become stronger and stronger. The more we move attention away from divisiveness, hate jealousy, unkindness, meanness, all the things that are limited. And we breathe through, we breathe through those, those darker energies inside of us. And then we pop through, into light on the other side. So take that time, the practices to absorb. So we’re not acting from those reactive places. And then number five, stay expansive in the self-love space through meditation. So it’s easy to go through life feeling the, uh, like the walls and like this person’s different.

Kimberly: 25:39 I don’t like this. I don’t like that because daily life really fosters that. I think it’s like all these choices, all these decisions we restaurant, there’s a venue, the million different things, oh, I like this, but I don’t like that. Right. Or, you know, million different classes you can take at your gym and, um, just all these different decisions and, and ways that we judge there’s all these magazines or online magazines where it’s like picking at celebrities or, or whatever. Just all the ways that we, um, are in the limited space of daily life, this, that better worse, da da, da, da. So the way that we create more expansion is we have to sit in a space of expansion regularly to expand that energy. That’s the only way the OGIS have taught us that meditation is concomitant. It goes along with more expansion in our lives, because it’s the time where we tune into the interstate.

Kimberly: 26:43 We’re not just putting our attention outward into the external world with our senses, but we’re turning the energy inward into this place beyond numbers, beyond what we weigh beyond. You know, if there’s gray coming in our hair, or if we had a really bad hair day beyond what, you know, society thinks we’re, you know, so called successful in our job title, all that surface crap, we go underneath all of that. And what we find underneath the surface is the true self. More by more, even though your meditations may start out very restless. As a mind, you start to have this experiential all knowing this is true intuition. Oh, there is so much more than what I thought on the surface. There is so much more to me. I am so much more than I thought I was. And then who you are and what this expansive place is, is the realm of love and light.

Kimberly: 27:42 It’s the realm of oneness non separation. So this is the realm of unconditional love. So what I recommend is meditating in the morning for at least five minutes, seven minutes, which is about what our guided meditations are. And I’m gonna be putting out some programs for longer, deeper meditations for the time that you have to do those, maybe on a Saturday, I do recommend doing at least one longer meditation a week, if possible, and then also in the evening, so that you have this bookend on your day of starting to really tune into this beautiful, expansive love inside of you. This beautiful, expansive love inside of you, that you can access and start to take more and more into your daily life. And so when these things happen and, uh, coworker said this, or, Ugh, I saw this on Instagram, it’s so annoying or whatever it is, the judgment starts to come in. We take a breath. Or two or three, and we remind ourselves that we can sink into this deeper place of on judgment and deep humility.

In Closing

Kimberly: 28:41 Ah, so let’s review our tips, our five tips for helping you move towards this really powerful place of more and more unconditional love. So it’s not yes or no, I have it, or I don’t, as you do these practices, the unconditional love will move, will open up more and more and more and more. So that’s what we’re looking for is consistent effort. And it just grows as an energy energy built over time. It’s, non-linear like I said, it’s not a switch like I’m in it or I’m off it. It’s just something that we continue to build. And the benefits are so enormous in terms of just deep fulfilled, peaceful life. That is true success. And then ironically, you’ll be able to create so much more harmony that this love will start to nurture and really, um, strengthen your efforts and whatever you’re trying to create naturally.

Kimberly: 29:49 So it’s very powerful as well. So our tips are number one, removing your own conditional approval of yourself. So this requires sitting introspecting journal journaling about what I, what are the conditions of love I put on myself. So you can start to become aware of that with your own self love journey and see, oh, would I do that with other people? What, you know, where am I warped in my own self love thinking, number two, as you move through life, remind yourself, witness not judge. And you can put a, a little sign on your fridge or on your desk that just says, witness witness, the more, the less we get pulled out of judging, the more energy we have just that pure formless, unconditional love will flow through everything more and more. And the number three deepening of humility moving past better, worse, right wrong.

Kimberly: 30:44 We start to frame things as this feels good to me, this feels right to me, this feels like the best thing to eat for me. This feels like the best decision to make for me. So we move away from these blanket statements of right wrong, which create conditional love on other people, which is not, not where we’re going, right. We’re going to full love, deep acceptance and deep bliss and peace within our own lives. So number four is meeting the wound and trigger with love and absorb absorbing. So again, it just more and more, we became, we become less reactive. We grow in our own true power and strength. We don’t project out our own pain that we haven’t processed. We don’t project out any sort of hatred or separation. We absorb within the power of the true self with God rising up inside of us through our practices.

Kimberly: 31:37 And we realize, oh, oh yes, I can move through this. I’m gonna take some breaths, move my energy. And a and away from saying something mean or divisive or contributing to that in any way, I absorb that. I’m stronger than that. The love inside of me is so much bigger than any divisiveness or hate. So we keep absorbing and absorbing through the practices. And number five, we stay in the expansive self-love space through meditation, which we wanna also do on a regular basis. So check out the practical enlightenment meditations that we have for you over on the app and on the site. Let me know how you do with these, with these practices, um, and teachings. And again, we go deeper and deeper into this through two ways, wisdom having access of the teachings and the experiential practices, both of which I go much deeper into in my new book.

Kimberly: 32:30 You are more than you think you are, especially in the, you are love chapter, which is a really important chapter. I think for all of us to really shift and reframe love in general and, and the practices we use to shift our entire lives. I mean, for me, that was one of the biggest game changers. And I was driven so much by fear and wounds, and I really didn’t love myself. And it created a lot of struggle in, um, manifesting what I wanted and what I want. And so once I started to really do these practices that I just shared with you so much started opening up in my life. I mean, I’m down in my knees with gratitude for all that this has helped me create. And so I really sincerely hope that for you and your life will open up in so much BLIS and expansion.

Kimberly: 33:25 It is your birthright. Your true self is inside of you. We need to learn to connect to it more and more, which we do in our daily lives. So thank you so much for being part of the community. I love you so much. Please keep the questions coming as well. I’ll be back here with Thursday for our next Q&A podcast. You can submit them over at mysolluna.com, where you’ll also find more information in our show notes like recipes and the meditations. I recommend other podcasts, so on and so forth. So again, thank you so much. I love you. I’m here for you. I’m here to support. See you soon now. Namaste.