Stoicism in Everyday Life with Ryan Holiday [Episode #485]
This weekās topic is: Stoicism in Everyday Life with Ryan Holiday
I am so excited to have my very special guest, Ryan Holiday, who is a best-selling author, marketer, entrepreneur, founder of the creative advisory firm, Brass Check, and host of The Daily Stoic. Listen in as Ryan shares what moved him to go from studying marketing and the psyche of what motivates people to stoicism and how it can be applied in your everyday life.
- Stoicism and how this came into Ryanās lifeā¦
- Ryanās upbringing and how these philosophical ideas either reinforced or contradicted where he came fromā¦
- Marrying philosophy with business and marketingā¦
- Writing about stoicism and philosophy versus marketingā¦
- The Genesis of Ryan and where his ideas came fromā¦
- Understanding the psyche of people and what motivates themā¦

About Ryan Holiday
Ryan Holiday is a writer and media strategist. When he was 19 years old, he dropped out of college to apprentice under Robert Greene, author of The 48 Laws of Power. He had a successful marketing career at American Apparel and went on to found a creative agency called Brass Check, which has advised clients like Google, TASER, and Complex, as well as many prominent bestselling authors, including Neil Strauss, Tony Robbins and Tim Ferriss.
He is the author of ten books, including āThe Obstacle Is the Wayā, āEgo Is the Enemyā, āThe Daily Stoicā, āConspiracy and Stillness is the Keyā which have sold more than 2 million copies in thirty languages and have a following among NFL coaches, world-class athletes, TV personalities, political leaders, and others around the world. He spends much of his time on a ranch outside Austin, Texas where he does his writing and work in between raising cattle, donkeys and goats.
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Kimberly (00:00): Hey Beauties. Welcome back to our Monday interview podcast. I am super excited for our guest today. His name is Ryan Holiday. Heās a bestselling author, marketer, entrepreneur, founder, and host of the Daily Stoic. He is a super interesting, fascinating guy who has forged his own path. Heās found a way to combine his love of marketing and ancient philosophy. I recently went on the Daily Stoic podcast and loved and enjoyed our conversation so much. And I am so excited to pick his brain today.
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Kimberly (01:40): All right. All that being said, letās dive right into our interview today with Ryan Holiday. Okay. And now hereās the outro. All right, Beauties, I hope you enjoyed this interview with Ryan Holiday. Please head over to mysolluna.com to check out the show notes where we link directly to his website, which is ryanholiday.net. You can learn about his work, about his books. His latest book is called Stillness is the Key, and he has other books, including the Obstacle is the Way.
Interview with Ryan Holiday
Kimberly: 00:16 Ryan, I love talking to you about stoicism, which is actually a topic that I knew nothing about, and then I started reading about it to prepare for our podcast. Itās obviously something youāve written about so much and something thatās a big part of your life. Yoga is the same thing for me and itās just a big philosophy that I keep learning from. I was first interested in yoga when I went to India and spent a couple months there and immerse myself in Ashram. Iām interested in how did you come across stoicism? Itās not nearly as popular as yoga and you seem to be one of the pioneers in actually bringing it back. So how did it even come into your life?
Stoicism and how this came into Ryanās life
Ryan: 00:59 So I was in college. I went to Riverside, which is not too far from you. And I got invited to a conference in West Hollywood and afterwards I went up to the speaker and the speaker was this sort of person I admired. Itās actually Dr. Drew Pinsky.
Kimberly: 01:15 Oh, yeah.
Ryan: 01:17 Yeah. And so I went up to him and I said, āHey, what are you reading? Are there any books you would recommend to someone my age?ā And he recommended that I read the writings of Epictetus, who was a slave in ancient Rome, and from Epictetus I went to Marcus Aurelius. I basically, I asked for a book recommendation.
Kimberly: 01:36 Wow!
Ryan: 01:36 And sometimes the sort of⦠I think this is actually a Zen saying, but sort of when the student is ready, the teacher appears. And I think it was the right time in my life I asked a question. I donāt believe sort of in predetermination or anything, but I do kind of believe in just sort of the things aligning when you put yourself out there, and so for me, it was just the right ideas at the right time. And I think like a lot of this stuff you talk about, real wisdom is sort of timeless and universal and cross cultural, and so you pick up these things and you go. How did this person living in a totally different country, in a totally different world, managed to write this in a way, that it feels like they are speaking to me just like you and I are talking, and that just struck me very vividly.
Ryanās upbringing and how these philosophical ideas either reinforced or contradicted where he came from
Kimberly: 02:28 Was that in alignment with how you were raised? For instance, with me, I was raised Catholic, so when I started learning about some of these concepts, like reincarnation and universality, I thought, āWhoa, this is really different.ā Then there was this sort of internal struggle, and then I had to find the parts that made sense to me. How were you raised and how did these philosophical ideas either reinforce or contradict where you came from?
Ryan: 02:55 Well, I was also raised Catholic, some sort of a lapsed Catholic, but I think like a lot of people, and I wonder if this is why this stuff hit you so hard, is that if you step away from religion or as religion has lost its way over public life, people are really looking. We still need direction. We still need guidance. We still want someone to sort of tell us, whatās right, whatās wrong. I think weāre all trying to answer this question. How should a person live? Right?
Kimberly: 03:28 Right.
Ryan: 03:29 And for thousands of years in the Western world, thatās what religion did. But before religion, before Christianity specifically, it was philosophy that answered that question for people. Itās interesting, the thing⦠Marcus Aurelius lives in the early days of Christianity. Actually, Seneca and Jesus are born in the same year, in the same Roman-
Kimberly: 03:52 Really?
Ryan: 03:53 Yeah. In the same Roman Empire, both in sort of far flung provinces. So thereās a lot of overlap in the philosophy and actually this is what they call now, the Cardinal Virtues, which is courage, justice, wisdom, and moderation are actually⦠Christianity adopts those virtues, but they come to us through Aristotle and then through the Stoics. One of the benefits about writing about Western philosophy here in the Western world is that, religion has kind of co-opted and absorbed a lot of the things. When you kind of go back to the source material, youāre struck with the familiarity, like almost a sense of deja vu because, Oh, thatās actually where they got it from.
Kimberly: 04:41 Ryan, when I listen to you, it almost sounds like a philosophy professor, and you know, in college philosophy was one of those degrees that you kind of do, but unless you want to be a professor, people are like, āOh, thatās kind of a useless degree.ā
Ryan: 04:54 Itās true.
Marrying philosophy with business and marketing
Kimberly: 04:55 But you have found this way to really live this very philosophical life. And then when I read your bio and all the things that youāve done. Youāve done amazing marketing. And you created all these businesses. I mean, youāve done your own thing obviously, but how do you think youāve been able to marry philosophy with business and marketing, and then you just have such an interesting combination?
Ryan: 05:22 Well, itās kind of weird. Itās almost sad to me that when we think philosophy, we think like turtleneck university professor asking these intriguing, but utterly unanswerable questions, right? Like, I donāt know if youāve heard of the trolley problem, which is like, thereās a trolley going down a track and itās going to hit five people and you can pull this lever and itāll move and it will only kill one person. What do you do? And itās like, thatās never going to happen. Right? Or how do we know weāre not living in a computer simulation right now? Right? Thatās one of the sort of questions on the forefront of philosophers lips these days. And that doesnāt tell me what kind of person I should be day to day.
Ryan: 06:11 In the ancient world philosophy wasnāt an abstraction. It wasnāt theories. My next book is actually called Lives of the Stoics. I wanted to look at⦠Thereās a famous book in Catholic circles called Lives of the Saints, where itās like, what did the saints actually do? When were they born? How did they live? And Iām interested in that. Zeno, the founder of stoicism, founds the philosophy after a shipwreck ruins his⦠Heās an entrepreneur and he loses everything. Marcus Aurelius is the Emperor of Rome. Seneca was a playwright and a businessman and a senator. In the ancient world philosophy wasnāt this thing that you did full time. You were a full time human being with a job and philosophy was more like a religion. You wouldnāt say like, āOh, Iām Episcopalian. Thatās what I do.ā
Kimberly: 07:07 Right. Sure.
Ryan: 07:09 Youāre an Episcopalian car salesman, or youāre a Pentecostal insurance broker, or youāre a Catholic stock trader. You could be anything, right? That this is just how you try to guide your decisions day to day, and then you have your profession. And so like in the ancient world, Cato, one of the most famous Stoics, heās the one who challenges Julius Caesar. Heās this great stoic. He didnāt write anything down. And so as a Stoic, heās considered Stoic because of how he lived and the decisions that he made, not what he said. When I write about philosophy, Iām at least trying. Iām not saying I am Cato. I canāt possibly live up to that standard. But what I am trying to say is, itās not like, what are these interesting riddles or paradoxes, or cool theories. Itās how does this stuff help you day to day in your actual life? And in that way, I think the Eastern, Western traditions are really similar. Thereās Buddhist samurai warriors and stuff like that.
Writing about stoicism and philosophy versus marketing
Kimberly: 08:18 Your earlier books, right, even reading some of the titles and then the more recent ones, Stillness is the Key, did you come across stoicism in the midst of your career? Do you find yourself being pulled more towards writing about stoicism and philosophy versus marketing? And obviously youāre an entrepreneur, obviously thereās always this business component, but do you find yourself more passionately focusing on that part of your teachings?
Ryan: 08:47 Yeah. I mean, I think from what you were telling me about your story, I think weāre sort of similar in that you can get really good at something and it can be close to what you want to do, but you have this sort of thing that if you really had your choice, youād only be doing that. I think for me, I was introduced to stoicism very early and then I went on and I had a marketing and a business career. Then I started as a writer and I wrote these two books. And for me, after those first two books, what it was all sort of moving towards, was how can I get self sufficient enough? How can I have sort of enough leverage or control my destiny enough, that I can decide what kind of books I want to do?
Ryan: 09:34 You can imagine when I went to my publisher and Iām sure itās the same with you.
Kimberly: 09:38 Yes.
Ryan: 09:38 Itās like, if you said, āHey, I want to do a celebrity diet book.ā Theyāre like, āDone. Weāll by that right now.ā And then when you say like, āHey, I want to do this thing thatās a little riskier. Thatās a little closer to my heart.ā Like when I went to them with Obstacle Is the Way, which is my bestselling book, I got less than half the advance than I got from my first book, which is about marketing. It was about putting myself in a position where I could do that and not need their sort of approval. For me it was all about getting to a place of self sufficiency so I could do what I felt like I was really meant to do.
Kimberly: 10:21 It really does sound like my journey, Ryan, because my first two books were very food focused. And then my third one, which is called Beauty Detox Power was really about mind and psychology and chakras and really bringing the yogic philosophy. I love hearing that you so successfully bridged over. When you say putting yourself in a position, do you mean that you really put energy into your earlier work, built it up, you had the audience, so you could then go to your publisher say, āHey, Iāll take less money upfront, but this is where my heart is.ā You had that leverage because of your earlier success.
Ryan: 11:00 Yeah. Thereās a great thing I heard from Mark Maron. I love Mark Maronās podcast, and he was saying, he didnāt realize this in show business till later on, but heās like, you really have no power until youāve made other people money. I think thatās an interesting way to think about it. Right? And it was like, what I really thought about was like, okay, ultimately I want to write about ancient philosophy or write about history. I was a research assistant for many years for this writer, Robert Green, who writes these amazing books about strategy and power and history. And so itās like, thatās where I want to end up. Very few people were going to give a 24 year old the opportunity to right⦠No oneās going around trying to hand you your dream.
Kimberly: 11:47 Of course.
Ryan: 11:47 Thatās just not how it is. So I thought more, what is the best first book that I could write. What is the way I can get my foot in the door? How can I sort of announce myself on the scene? So it was, Hey, if I write philosophy books first, I wonāt be able to write marketing books second. But if I write marketing books first, I can always go towards philosophy. And so-
Kimberly: 12:10 You had that much longterm vision?
Ryan: 12:15 There was certainly some explicit longterm vision, but there was also just kind of a gut sense of like what order things should go in, or at least⦠I just talked to two people and they donāt⦠You can get so excited about what you want to do. You also have to think about how does this fit in with the realities of the market. Itās like Casey Neistat, who Iām a big fan of, and heās become a friend of mine over the years. He was like, āNobody is just sitting around, ready to make you a YouTube star or make you a travel blogger, an influencer.ā Heās like, āI had to to slave away for many years doing things I didnāt want to do. And so I could do the things I did want to do.ā I think you have to think about what youāre willing to put up with to get in the position where you can make some more empowered decisions about what you want to do or not do, I think.
Kimberly: 13:11 So stoicism did come early on in your career. And itās interesting, we were just talking on your podcast about reason versus emotion and really⦠I was reading about, I was like, wow, thereās this yoga quality to it, but in some ways, right, we could say itās very different than marketing, which is about exciting people and getting people to make a decision to buy something, to actually shift their behavior.
Ryan: 13:36 Sure.
Reconciling stoicism and marketing as the two parts that Ryan is known for
Kimberly: 13:36 How do you, and I know youāve already said marketing in your own way, which I want to get to in a minute, but how do you reconcile stoicism and marketing as the two parts that you are known for?
Ryan: 13:46 Sure. Well, sometimes Iāll get this criticism, theyāll go like, āWhy are you selling your books? Would Seneca have done that?ā And itās like, āWell, look, Seneca lived on a beautiful estate that was tended by slaves.ā Thatās not the situation that any of us live in, thankfully. The reality is we live in a sort of a world of commerce that might seem a little more transactional in some ways, but is ultimately I think more empowering and freeing, and then it lets everyone sort of compete to do what they want to do. So on the one hand, I accept that this is sort of very different world than the ancient world, and we want to make sure that we take that into account. But the way I think about it as like, okay, in the ancient world, they werenāt necessarily marketers, but they were selling things.
Ryan: 14:37 As I was saying, Zeno was a dye merchant. He sold this thing called Tyrian purple, which was⦠We live in such a time of abundance now that it doesnāt occur to us that even color was rare in the ancient world, and to get the color purple slaves had to gather shellfish, break them open on rocks, and then dry out their sort of guts. It was a painstaking process and thatās how they created the color purple. And because it was so expensive, it was the thing that rich people craved as a way of distinguishing themselves. This isnāt that different than today that people wanting expensive handbags or nice cars or whatever, this is the reality of the world. At the founding of stoicism is a person who has the ability to sell this sort of materialistic item that doesnāt necessarily bring out our best qualities. But at the same time, when he ultimately turns towards philosophy, a lot of those strengths translate over.
Ryan: 15:44 And so famously, Zeno opens up his philosophical school in the Agora, in the marketplace in Athens, because he realizes thatās where the people are.
Kimberly: 15:58 Interesting.
Ryan: 15:59 As I think about this now, people might go, āOh, arenāt you simplifying it?ā What I love about Instagram is that it allows me to reach millions of people with these big ideas. These are people who are not attending philosophy classes at Harvard.
Kimberly: 16:22 Yes.
Ryan: 16:22 Yeah, sure, Iāve had this marketing career and thereās parts of it Iām very proud of and other parts that Iāve written critically about. But I think ultimately where this has helped me as I transitioned to what I do now, it gives me the ability to reach people, to be compelling and to sort of do the kinds of things that I want to do.
Kimberly: 16:44 You can also say to those people, āHey, the people are on Amazon. So I had to write books because thatās where theyāre going to get wisdom.ā
Ryan: 16:50 Sure, sure. Yeah. And again, I think thereās something honest about making something thatās worth something and then people buying it. I donāt like this idea of, āOh, itās so valuable, but Iām going to give it away for free. And because itās free, nobody values it. And nobody hears about it.ā As you said, because my book has made Amazon money, Amazon puts it in front of people. Amazonās algorithm has spread stoicism to millions of people all over the world that maybe otherwise wouldnāt have done it, just like podcasts do, and YouTube does, and Instagram does.
Kimberly: 17:26 Yeah. I love that. I love that. So, Ryan, you created this whole movement on stoicism. Youāre bringing it back. I didnāt know anything about it until I was connected with you. So I, one of the people thatās affected by your work. Thank you very much.
Ryan: 17:41 Thank you.
Kimberly: 17:41 Itās opened my eyes to a lot of things, but even⦠Iām so interested in the genesis of Ryan. When you started out, you were very young. Were you like in your early twenties when you became the marketing director at American Apparel. You were doing things that people were not doing. So can you tell me about, if you can go back to that courage, which I know itās one of the virtues of stoicism. Thinking outside the box. How did you come up with all these marketing ideas? Your first book, is Trust Me, Iām Lying? Is that what that-
Ryan: 18:21 Trust Me, Iām Lying. Yeah.
The Genesis of Ryan and where his ideas came from
Kimberly: 18:22 Trust Me, Iām Lying. That was the first one. So where did all this come from? Where you just⦠Iām still interested in people that have paved their own path.
Ryan: 18:31 Yeah. I certainly wouldnāt describe it as courage. I think there was kind of a raw ambition and a desire to be seen and to do things in the real world that like⦠I remember I dropped out of college to pursue this marketing path, and I remember someone who was encouraging me to do that, they said⦠And they couldnāt have known how seductive this was to say to me, but they said, āAre you going to go back to class and listen to your professors talk about people who are doing things, or are you going to go do the things that theyāre talking about?ā And for me, it was just this sort of raw desire to have impact and to⦠The first time I did something and I saw the New York Times write about it, or the first time I did something and I saw it sort of trending on Twitter or going viral or whatever, that was immensely satisfying to me.
Ryan: 19:32 I think it was connected to some issues I had from my childhood. And just being a 20 something guy who just wants to make their mark on things. I think as I got more philosophical and as I studied these things, I realized how relatively empty that was. But as an outlet for that energy, and at the time that I happened to be doing it, it all sort of came together quite nicely. I think it was actually hard to say like, āHey, Iām going to walk away from this,ā because it was lucrative and it was validating. But for me, ultimately, it was just like, is this the person that I want to be? And that it wasnāt.
Understanding the psyche of people and what motivates them
Kimberly: 20:18 Well, sometimes we might think marketing is connected to psychology and really understanding the psyche of people and what motivates them. And here you are with not a psychology focus, but a philosophical focus. Do you think that was part⦠How does that⦠Iām just trying to wrap my head around it.
Ryan: 20:38 Yeah. I mean-
Kimberly: 20:38 Itās very interesting.
Ryan: 20:41 No. No. Itās interesting. I remember one time I was interviewed by a reporter and I made this sort of comment. I didnāt think about how it was coming off. She said something like, āWhat would you say to people who say, youāre just sort of just doing this to make money?ā And I said, āYou know, I can sell anything. I probably wouldnāt have chosen ancient philosophy for the money or something.ā And the quote is just like, āI can sell anything.ā And the
Ryan: 21:37 I think nothing makes it clear then that our sort of inability as a culture to wrap our heads around Donald Trump. The media seems to think like, āIf we can just show people some more facts about it, theyāll finally wake up and see,ā and thatās not what it is. Heās managed to tell people a story and the critics and his opponents, again, not making a judgment on either side, have not been able to lodge that story with the more compelling one. As I approach this philosophy, itās like this philosophy was working in my personal life, and so what I spent a lot of time thinking about, and when I spent a lot of time thinking about in my books is like, how do you take something that is on its face as unappealing as the phrase stoic philosophy and make it compelling and accessible and interesting to ordinary people or people who think quite specifically that they donāt like philosophy.
Ryan: 22:34 And thatās where I get a lot of satisfaction hearing from people go, āI havenāt read a book since high school,ā or like, āI hate reading, but I read all your books,ā or whatever, to me thatās a sign of success. It means Iām reaching people with things that otherwise they probably never would have gotten through to.
Ryan shares what his purpose is
Kimberly: 22:55 And everybodyās journey, all this marketing, all this financial and commercial success you had obviously contributed to who you are today. What would you say Ryan, now is your purpose? Why is the reason youāre here? What would you like to leave as your legacy at this moment?
Ryan: 23:14 Yeah.
Kimberly: 23:14 Obviously you can change it in a year, but now that you really shifted in your books and what youāre teaching, what youāre focused on, the Daily Stoics, putting out all these amazing quotes, itās very thought provoking, your podcast, whatās your purpose?
Ryan: 23:29 Well, so the Stoics are not actually super big on legacy. Marcus Aurelius just goes like, āWhat good is posthumous fame?ā Heās like, āYou wonāt be around to enjoy it.ā` And my favorite part is he goes, āThe people of the future will be just as dumb as the people who are alive right now.ā
Kimberly: 23:45 Oh my God.
Ryan: 23:45 So he is-
Kimberly: 23:47 What about the idea? Itās not about fame, but what do you want to help people? Make them good.
Ryan: 23:52 No. I totally get what youāre saying. Iām just like, what I think about is less. Yeah. Like, how do I build this thing? Or how do I make this thing? Or how do I achieve a certain thing? I actually, as Iāve gotten better and successful, I think I had kind of picked up this sort of Zen idea of like, trying to be less and less focused on the outcome or on goals. We talked about the Gita earlier. I love this idea. Itās like, only the effort is yours. Like, work done for the reward is not the point, so what I try to think about is first and foremost, like how can I just be what Iām talking about, particularly at home with my family.
Ryan: 24:35 I think my primary legacy or impact I want to have at home. And then the second part, as a writer what gets me going, is the idea of translating ancient wisdom into modern life or bringing it to the modern world. Thatās what I think is my purpose as a writer. Iām not inventing a philosophy. Iām not a philosopher. I think Iām a storyteller or a writer about philosophy, and I take a lot of satisfaction in being able to reach people with that writing.
Kimberly: 25:11 I love that. We talked about the timeless wisdom that comes from these writers as if you know, you and I are just having a conversation. Itās so applicable today.
Ryan: 25:20 Totally. Totally. Itās how can I keep that if this is a 2000 year old tradition, how can I just keep it going a little bit longer? Thatās kind of how I think about it.
Kimberly: 25:35 Wow. And you keep learning, you keep driving into it. How much do you read a day?
Ryan: 25:42 Well, I used to read a lot when I would travel. So Iād be like at home, I wouldnāt read. I didnāt have to have as much of a reading practice because I would have to go give a talk and Iād be gone for a day and a half or two days or whatever. So I tended to be more of a binge reader, but obviously with this quarantine and Iāve had to get more into a rhythm. I usually try to read a little bit in the morning. I try to read when I eat and then I try to read quietly in the evenings before bed. Iām not actually like a speed reader. I donāt read hours and hours a day. To me itās more of a tortoise and the hare kind of a thing. Like if youāre always reading, if you read a book a week, thatās 50 books a year, that starts to add up very quickly, I feel.
Essential go-toās to start your day
Kimberly: 26:29 Ryan, last question, I could talk to you all day, but we talked about here a lot at Solluna, which is the sun and the moon. Itās about rhythms and practices. We talk a lot about a morning routine and a lot of successful people talk about their morning routine, but on a practical note, tell us a little bit about what your process is in the morning starting from, do you wake up at a regular time? What are your essential go-tos to start your day?
Ryan: 26:55 Big morning routine fan. I feel like you own the morning. You have a chance at sort of owning the day. Iāve got two young kids, so donāt need an alarm clock most of the time. I wake up early and then my wife and I get the kids ready. And then I take them for a walk. So we went for a three mile walk this morning, while my wife got an extra hour of sleep. Sheās the one that gets up in the middle of the night if thereās an issue. I take them for that hour in the morning. Then we come home. I write in a journal for a little bit. I sort of do a journaling thing. Part of my routine is I donāt touch my phone for the first minimum of one hour.
Ryan: 27:58 Today I woke up at 6:30 and I touched my phone at nine oāclock for the first time.
Kimberly: 28:04 Amazing.
Ryan: 28:04 I have this sort of free phone time. And then the first thing I do after the journaling, after the walk is I do whatever the writing I have to do for the day is. I want to get started on it. I want to have the thing that requires deep work and focus. I want to do as early as possible in the day, before the interruptions, before email, before texts, before any⦠Thereās a great expression I heard, make before you manage, I want to start the morning with some making time.
Ryan: 28:35 And then only after thatās done, do I start to go, okay, like, what are the things I have to cross off the to do list for today or whatever. And then lately with quarantine, I take my son for a ride or a run at about 12, 12:30, while he takes his nap, and then I get my exercising. So today we took a long bike ride and he slept in the trailer. And then we played in the pool and then this sort of evening, afternoon, Iām getting caught up on work stuff I have to do and then start a whole day over again tomorrow.
Kimberly: 29:11 And do you have a specific place where you do that deep work every day, where you do the writing that puts you in that mode?
Ryan: 29:16 Yeah. One of the things before I had kids, there was a place I do it every day. And then having kids, I try now to have more like routines plural rather than routine, because things can get interrupted. It can be like, Oh, somebodyās sick or somebody is tired. Or in this case, like weāre locked down in a quarantine, stuff can happen. I have like, sometimes I can write in this room, sometimes I go to my office and I can write there. I kind of try to have different places, but I do feel like there is something about the energy of like driving, my office is a short distance away, driving to work, arriving at work, treating it as work, is an important part of it for me.
Kimberly: 30:02 Amazing. Well, speaking of work, youāre really putting out fascinating, interesting work in the world. So Ryan, thank you so much for being on our podcast, for sharing your perspective and your wisdom. And canāt wait for that next book to come out as well.
Ryan: 30:17 Oh, thank you so much. Yeah, weāll talk soon and good luck.
Kimberly (02:18): Weāll also link to some other shows we think you will love, and some other resources such as our free ebook on getting started on our Four Cornerstones of True Beauty. So be sure to check it out over there. Again, mysolluna.com. Thank you so much for tuning in. Sending you a big virtual hug. Super grateful for our connection. For being connected in this community. We will be back here Thursday for our next Q&A show. Till then, lots of love and see you back here soon.
