This week’s topic is: How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace
I think that no matter what we’re doing in our lives we all ask ourselves, what is it that we really want? What are we really seeking? What are we really doing here? And I think at the heart of it is joy, love and peace. Also, freedom, which in Sanskrit is enlightenment, which means the freedom to move past limitations that are often self-imposed that keep us small.
When we achieve more levels of freedom, letting go of our smallness, letting go of over-identification with the ego, we naturally open up more and more to this joy, love and peace. That is our birthright.
This is a very important topic for us to discuss and I’ll be sharing practical tips for really integrating these teachings into your life, because this is the game changer. When we claim our power back and the joy and the love and the peace coming from inside of us, it means that we can come from our truth. It means that we can be guided in our actions to align to what really feels right and true to us.
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Isa – CA
I was talking to my son the other day and he said something along the lines of, what is happiness anyway and that it’s impossible to have. Can you share a few simple tips I can share with him (and myself) to find more joy and happiness? Though I know 50% of the time we are to expect things in life to not always be great but the other 50% there has to be some good in life. I look forward to hearing your thoughts!
Elena – Pennsylvania
I picked a fight with my partner the other day and not sure it was about him at all. I love him but why is it that I can get so pissed at him at the wrong times and how can I be better at managing these outbursts?
Hannah – Alaska
Hate to admit it but I have a difficult time focusing on things that I can’t control, like my kids’ choices in life, and it’s really taking a toll on me. Is it possible to find a balance so that I feel I’m part of their lives without taking over their lives?
Penelope – Colorado
I feel so restless with working from home and having three kiddos to care for. My husband works outside the house and helps when he gets home but I’m just so irritated all the time and there’s barely any peace or sweet times between the two of us. How do you manage running a business while taking care of your two boys and managing the household? Where do you find joy in your daily life?
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Kimberly: 00:01 Hi loves and welcome back to our Thursday, Q&A podcast where our topic this week is How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace. I think that no matter what we’re doing in our lives, all the ways that we try to acquire things, or we want to get a certain position at work, or we’re trying to create certain structures, things, whatever it is underneath it, all we ask ourselves, what is it that we really want? What are we really seeking? What are we really doing here? And I think at the heart of it is joy, love and peace. And I would add to that list, freedom and the freedom, the Sanskrit word for, and part of that is enlightenment, which means the freedom to move past limitations that are often so, uh, self imposed that keep us small. And when we achieve more levels of freedom, letting go of our smallness, letting go of over identifying with the ego, we naturally open up more and more to this Roy Love and peace.
Kimberly: 01:04 That is her birthright. And I have a lot to say about this topic as someone, myself, that has found peace elusive for many years, that has tried to find that love and that joy outside of myself in so many different ways and where I stand today, there’s been a gr a great amount of self-work. First of all, a lot of self-reflection over these years. And I can say now truly a great deal of taking back of my personal power, because we realize more and more that this love, joy and peace is actually not something that we have to get outside of ourselves. But it’s something that we Tru learn to awaken more and more within ourselves. And that is the most empowering thing that you can do is we start to realize that, oh, I can meet my own needs. Largely I can find this joy, love and peace inside of me in whatever situation I happen to be in.
Kimberly: 02:04 It’s not dependent on externals. It’s not dependent on the surface. It’s not dependent on what I look like. I don’t have to get to a certain place first before I can and start enjoying my life. But we start finding this magic in the now moment within yourself, within your body, within this here and now, before we go any further, I’d actually love to read you this passage from my new book, that as I started to get into the topic today, this really reminded me of something that I wrote about in the new book called you are more than you think you are, which is out now. And it, and I write when we tried to get love from side of ourselves, attachments arise, we all want love since it is our true nature and feeling love is an inherent need. That longs to be filled sometimes to the point of desperation, we might make decisions that move us very far away from our authentic selves. This may include staying in a relationship for security, because you are afraid of being alone, overly valuing your body as your source of worth. To try to attract a mate, continuing to give lots of energy to a friendship you have outgrown or not really being yourself to try to please your parents.
Kimberly: 03:24 And it goes on and on. And essentially what I’m talking about here in the book and meditation is that we are working towards this experiment experience of enlightenment, the freedom of peace and love. That is our true through identity. And so this is the last little part I’ll read here. I write. We can know love is growing in our lives from internal markers. These markers include feeling more joy, patience, kindness, compassion, and connection to ourselves and to others all around us. External markers, such as how many are followers you have, how many people think you’re hot and how high you climb up in your field will never be the true indication of love. Love. Doesn’t keep score. Love is not selfish. Love is always patient love is always kind and calm. So we’ll get more into this today. This is a very important topic for us to, to discuss.
Kimberly: 04:26 And also I will share practical tips as always for really integrating this, these teachings into your life, because this is the game changer. When we claim our power back and the joy and the love and the peace coming from inside of us, it means that we can come from our truth. It means that we can be guided in our actions to align to what really feels right and true to us. Instead of, as I was just reading to you actions that move us away from our truth, because we’re trying to get that love. And, you know, it can move us into this, you know, sense of, um, frantic in the and desperation. And then we start to limit ourselves more and more. We make choices that don’t feel good to us, but it’s just because, you know, perhaps we have limited understanding of love up until this point, or we’ve been working with some, you know, limited beliefs and we don’t have the full tools.
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Question #1 around the topic of: How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace: I was talking to my son the other day and he said something along the lines of, what is happiness anyway and that it’s impossible to have. Can you share a few simple tips I can share with him (and myself) to find more joy and happiness? Though I know 50% of the time we are to expect things in life to not always be great but the other 50% there has to be some good in life. I look forward to hearing your thoughts!
Kimberly: 07:06 So let’s hear right from our community, starting with Isa who lives in California. Hello, my California NA neighbor sending you lots of love wherever you happen to be in this beautiful state. I’m down in around LA hope to see you an event.
Kimberly: 08:08 Thank you so much. My love and you write, I was talking to my son the other day, and he said something along the lines of what is happiness and that it’s impossible to have. Can you share a few simple, I can share with him and myself to find more joy and happiness though. I know 50% of the time we are to expect things in life to not always be great. The other 50% has to be some good in life. I look forward to hearing your thoughts. So ISA Issa, perhaps, maybe ISA, thank you so much. My love, thank you for this very candid, honest question. And for sharing, you know, this conversation between you and your child. And when I, when I hear this, you know, it reminds me of myself years ago when my happiness was really tied to things that would happen outside of me, some things I could control more of like, you know, studying for a test and getting a good grade, but some things were definitely not beyond my control, like in a soccer game.
Kimberly: 09:07 If I happened to be the one score, the goal or not, I would try wouldn’t always happen. Right? So then I would feel happy if I did really well or, or, you know, what I described as being well. And then I would feel, you know, lower in my self worth. I would feel anxiety. I would not feel good enough if things didn’t turn out to be the way I wanted them to. And so this went on for many years and then I, you know, continued to live out these patterns, validation, and approval. It coming from achievement, things that I could show. And then I, I went on and I described this, I’ve shared this story here before a bit. And also in the new book, I went backpacking and I went to India and I started to learn about a whole other way of reframing joy and happiness.
Kimberly: 09:53 And it seemed really foreign and actually really, really out there when I started to learn about it, which was that happiness and joy really do come from the inside. And it took me a long time to start to really warm up to that concept and embrace it. But where I am here today, ISA, I can say that we can all learn to connect, to love, joy, peace, happiness, all of this in a very different way. This is something that is a truth. So it means it is true for every single one of us humans. It’s not that some people can access it. And some people can’t. I believe that this is our birthright. It is part of the true self. It is part of who we really are. Now that being said in a practical sense, yes, some people have experienced more trauma. Some people have more seriousness, more heaviness in their natural cadence in their natural personality that they came into this life with, but still underneath all of that and the personality traits and the behaviors and things that have happened.
Kimberly: 10:57 We can still go to this place of deep connection, which is where love and peace lives. The second part is that there is the practicality in life of taking care of ourselves materially and physically. And I believe it was the New York times. I can’t remember exactly what year this article came out, but I remember reading an article in the New York times where had actually deduced down the number, you know, between 50 and 70,000. It may be different today, but this is, you know, what it was when I read this article years ago, where when you have that amount of financial freedom beyond that, it doesn’t actually affect your happiness. They had found some way to scientifically measure this or surveys or whatever it was. So this means that yes, we need, we wanna get out of the, the daily struggle, you know, especially we wanna be sure that we can feed ourselves and we have shelter and that’s super important, but beyond a certain level of, um, you know, uh, physical safety beyond that, the, the, the, the joy and the peace that we seek, and the love is not tied to the amount of money that you have.
Kimberly: 12:11 You know, again, past that the, that threshold label level where you feel good and safe day to day, right? It’s not tied to all this stuff outside of us that we thought it was when we believe that it is, that is the ego, the false self, the pseudo soul, the mind chatter, the voice of fear in your head saying, you have to get more you to acquire more. You have to do more in order to get what you want. And actually it’s not true. I think this is part of the indoctrination of our society, which in some ways wants to keep us in the system and keeps us churning out work and keeping the whole machine going. Because when we start to, the more we start to wake up to the truth, that is that all that we are seeking is actually inside of ourselves.
Kimberly: 12:59 The less tied we are to the external world, the less that we need this, you know, UN you know, just fulfilling this constant need to, to acquire more, buy more, get more in order to feel enough it’s starts to, to dissolve it starts to melt away. And so what I would say here, I said, is that the truth is that you can start to feel and experience these qualities from the inside through. Well, the VAD system teaches two ways, the main two ways, number one, the teachings. So I would express to your son, I would, first of all, dive into it yourself. Some of the things that I’ve shared in the new book that have helped me break free of the limitation, that happiness is dependent on circumstance or on things going my way or on things working out exactly as I want them to.
Kimberly: 13:59 Right? That’s the egos way of trying to control things. It’s the egos way of seeing things. So the teachings that I share are that actually love is a consistent state of being that we can start to tap into and underneath everything that’s happening in the world and in our lives underneath all of that is this, this resource of peace and joy underneath the surface. So think about the surface of the ocean, where it’s choppy and the waves are breaking, and there’s so much happening. But underneath, as you go dive, you take a duck dive, or you go underneath, there is this calmness and this stillness. So what we wanna learn to do is understand, first of all, these teachings from the great Yoki from the vadas, they teach us that this can be true. This can be found inside of us. They teach us the difference between the ego and the true self and how we can learn to start to identify more and more with this really expanded place inside of each and every single one of us.
Kimberly: 14:59 So, first of all, the teachings and understanding that there is this way of living life, this very empowered, expansive way that is not tied to externals. It’s not tied to have happenings. And the second part is the experience of knowing that the experience of feeling that, and we do that through our daily practices, namely meditation, where we take our energy and instead of intention, instead of always focusing it outwardly, we start to tune it inward. And once we start to focus our energy inside, right, then we can start to connect to this divine part of us, the soul, the universe, this really expanded part. I keep saying that because the ego is small and limited and makes us feel, you know, we’re a victim of our circumstances. But when we tap into this formless part of us that is connected to everything, and this is something you have to experience, you know, this is why I’m such a proponent of even that five minute, seven minute daily morning meditation practice.
Kimberly: 15:59 It starts to give you a little bit of that glimpse of freedom, of this expanded way of living, where we can feel joy, even in the messiness of life, we can feel peace, even if there’s a lot of chaos and things, aren’t going our way. I do a lot of mini Medi mini meditations. ICEP because sometimes I get overwhelmed. Sometimes I feel myself getting reactive and impatient, and it’s times to take that pause, even if I go to the bathroom. And I just kind of hide from my family for a couple moments, just to take a breath and a pause, and then we can start to access with more regularity, with more connection directed inward. We start to access that deep joy and peace inside of us underneath all of it. We start to anchor to that and we start to bring that up and forward even in the messy, really crazy days.
Kimberly: 16:49 So what I encourage, first of all, I would read the book. I said, because I go into detail about this or any sort of teachings that will really lay this out. So you wanna learn it. You want it to be in your body and in your language of your own heart first, and, you know, create your own practice. And then once you, you feel more integrated with that truth, then you can really teach that to your son. Hey, you know, things may not be going well at school or with your friends, but inside you can still find joy and peace. It is not tied to what’s happening. And maybe you can even introduce a sort of meditation practice with your son, even if it’s a few minutes to start or teach him some breathing, really simple breathing techniques like in and out for four or whatever it is.
Kimberly: 17:34 So he has more tools for connecting to his interstate in his true self. And this is such a beautiful service that we can give to our children. So let me know how you, how you do ISA and let me know how we can continue to support you. I send you so much love and, and peace and really, um, good vibes for finding all that peace and joy inside of you.
Question #2 around the topic of: How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace: I picked a fight with my partner the other day and not sure it was about him at all. I love him but why is it that I can get so pissed at him at the wrong times and how can I be better at managing these outbursts?
Kimberly: 17:34 I’ll write my loves. Let’s move to our second question now, which comes from Elena, who lives in Pennsylvania. And Elena writes, I picked a fight with my partner the other day, and I’m not sure was about him at all. I love him, but why is it that I always get so off at him at the wrong times, and how can I be better at managing these outbursts? So thank you so much. My love for your question.
Kimberly: 18:20 And I think this is something that we can all identify with. Sometimes it’s the people that in our, our, in our closest circles that unfortunately bear the bronze of any sort of inner conflict or inner pain that, or anger inside of us that we can project out. So what we wanna do is first of all, we want to intro respect and we want to learn our patterns. So this is true across all of our cornerstones food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. For instance, when you start to see a pattern of eating, where you get really anxious about something at work. So every day from three to four, o’clock you find yourself binging on sugar. That’s a pattern that we start to break apart and we start to see, okay, how can I support myself before I went to that step? And awareness is a really powerful part of that.
Kimberly: 19:14 It’s just creating that awareness of the pattern in the first place, bringing it out of the shadow element of shadow work here. So we can start to see it and really start to understand what’s underneath. So I would say that I would start to, first of all, journal about this Elena and see what happened with, with the fight the other day, something can trigger us and it’s, you know, on the surface and it deserves a certain amount of energy, but if it gets to be this whole huge blowout fight, it wasn’t really about the fight or that one thing like you were saying, it’s all the built up emotional suppression repress inside of us that causes these outbursts. So the way I started breaking this pattern of picking fights with my best friend business partner and husband, which are the people that were, you know, in my inner circle that would sometimes bear this brunt.
Kimberly: 20:10 You know, even if it was just like pickiness or, uh, um, a little bit of impatience or however it is, we know when we are off in our energy, we know when we are not expressing that love inside of us, out into the world, it means that we just wanna take a pause and we wanna make sure that we are, um, still we’re. We come back to a neutral state. We want to regulate our bodies before we start to speak. And before we go into these, um, experiences and incidences that we later have to clean up. So, first of all, I would say, you know, starting to pay attention to the body and just noticing when you’re about to go into an outburst, when you are about to go into a fight, you will notice that the beginning of the pattern is a feeling in your body.
Kimberly: 21:01 For me, it’s a feeling of tightness and my gut. Then I start to notice my breath speeding up and my heart’s starting to race. So these are signs that we know that something has triggered us. A wound has been triggered or something is off. And these are the times Elena, it’s really important to take that pause and to take that breath and let your body reregulate before you speak, because that could be a very dangerous time where you might get pulled into a fight or into something. You know, that isn’t, isn’t what you want. We’ll just sum it up like that. So I would say, you know, start creating that awareness in your, what what’s going on in your body before it escalates. And before you speak or write an email or text or pick that fight, just allow yourself to really come back to a more neutral play resonant in your body and regulated in your heart rate and your breath before you go forward and put out actions into the world.
Kimberly: 21:58 And, you know, we’re not gonna be perfect with this. Sometimes we are gonna have those reactions, but then, you know, we learn and we keep moving forward. We clean up the mess. We apologize. We do what we ever, whatever we have to do, keep moving forward. The second part that I started to say is the journaling, and this was really big and major for me. I started to journal about these sorts of fights and altercations. What happened? What was I feeling? What triggered it? So I’ve used this example before, but I’ll, I’ll repeat it here or because it really bears, um, repeating for this example where I noticed that I would, you know, get mad at somebody, almost pick a sort of fight or just kind of tune out to them or, you know, have, um, you know, just a block, whatever it was, if someone would interrupt me.
Kimberly: 22:52 Oh yeah, it was like a in interruption or sort of a talking over, or sort of a, not a dismissal. If I had spoken about something at length and it was sort of like onto the next thing, it really felt like a deep wound because I started to tune into the feeling of my body. It started to feel like the squeezing feeling. It started to feel, you know, I noticed it was really, it really bothered me. And then I would often create that, um, you know, annoyance or that you use the word here, Elena, that off at that person. I would project that out. But then I started to look at why, you know, the trigger is never about the other person. Life is neutral. People are neutral. We can create healthy boundaries. We can choose to spend time with people that aren’t in alignment with our values or they speak unkindly or whatever it is.
Kimberly: 23:38 But for the most part, you know, we can respond to things, but if something is really us off, it’s because of something inside of us. So then I would start to journal about incidences like this and times when I would notice that feeling rise up inside of me. And so then it became clear in my own detective work that, oh, you know, this feeling of interruption is triggering this deeper wound that, you know, I’m, I’m not able, I’m not worthy to be seen and heard. You know, some of the neglect that came from my childhood had created this real wound in me where when I would speak, it was so vitally important to me to be validated and to be seen. So when people didn’t see me in the way I thought that I wanted to be seen, I would go into that, you know, that not enoughness.
Kimberly: 24:27 And then I would project it out. I would, I would create that distance with that person or pick a fight or whatever it was. But again, when I started to journal, I started to see the truth that the wound inside of me was something that I could rise up and meet with my own love, with my own adult, understanding that I can give myself the validation. I can proof of what I’m saying. I can love myself. And with that came great healing. And with that introspection came great, uh, a much greater level of peacefulness in my relationship with my partner. So I had to own my stuff. I had to see it, and then I had to own it. And then I could reflect back to my partner when he had at stuff that he was projecting on to me. So it becomes this really powerful way of starting to dig down and release, digest, metabolize the patterns, the beliefs that just don’t serve us anymore.
Kimberly: 25:21 So sit with that, Elena, that’s the very beginning of really starting to break these patterns. I go and into this in a lot more depth in my new book, you are more than you think you are in certain chapters, and this is a topic that I definitely cover. So I encourage you to read it in the order that I wrote it, because it is that sequential part one part two part three, part one, moving past the blocks so that we be really powerful here. You know, there’s a block, there’s something inside of you. That’s, um, caused emotions to sit and stagnate instead of flow through. There’s a block in there that’s causing this pattern of projecting out and fighting an anger. And then part two is where you start to embody more of this freedom, this space of neutrality and intuition and witnessing and not judging and peacefulness. And then part three is when we start to create and manifest from that deeper, more empowered place. So I’m really excited to share more with you, Elena. My love, please keep in touch with me. This is something I resonate with because I’ve, I’ve really, you know, gone through it myself. So please stay connected. Please check out the new book, you know, please keep the answers, the questions coming, anything, any other ways I could support you? Thank you so much. My sister and so much love.
Kimberly: 26:37 All right. My loves all my other loves. We have a little break right here right now. And when we come back, we will be with you for two more questions on this important topic, how to level up your joy, love and peace.
Question #3 around the topic of: How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace: Hate to admit it but I have a difficult time focusing on things that I can’t control, like my kids’ choices in life, and it’s really taking a toll on me. Is it possible to find a balance so that I feel I’m part of their lives without taking over their lives?
Kimberly: 27:28 All right. My loves. We are back from our break. We have two more questions for you about leveling up, love, joy, and peace in your life right here right now. And our first question comes from Hannah, who lives in Alaska. First question back from the break and hello, Hannah, my Alaskan Beauty, my dream one day a dream is to do one of those cruises around Alaska, where you can see the beautiful fjords and creatures and Elks and the magic there. So sending you so much love, maybe we will meet in Alaska one day and you ask, I hate to admit it, but I have a difficult time focusing on things that I can’t control, like my kids’ choices in life. And it’s really taking a toll on me. Is it possible to find a balance so that I feel that I’m part of their lives without taking over their lives?
Kimberly: 31:14 Hannah, thank you so much for your question. And this is really about a, of all I wanna say as a mother, I could totally get it because we care so much about our kids. Really what this boils down to is connection instead of attachment. So what I mean by that is when we start to connect more and more to the true self. So this is the part of you, Hannah, that is always stable and calm. This eternal part of you that is intelligent and loving and creative and, and wise, this is the resource. This is the part of us that we connect to more and more through our practices, our daily meditations, stillness, just taking time to go inside. The more we connect to the true self, it means we are anchored to love, peace, enjoy more and more.
Kimberly: 32:10 And it starts to bubble up from inside of you. It starts to come up inside and out into your life. So it’s almost like we have this beautiful, um, elixir or what the yogis called the Sam, Rita, the nectar inside of you. That’s consistently nourishing you. So we wanna work on that self connection on the inside, because then what happens is because we are transforming our relationship with ourselves. Instead of just being on the surface to this deeper part of us, it means that this self connection influences all our other relationships. It means that we can be with people, including our children and feel connected to them. So we feel this beautiful love rise up inside of us, cuz the love comes up inside of us. The love rises up inside of them and we enjoy the these beautiful experiences and just being together and watching and giving advice and guidance as it’s needed, but just being there as a support now, but still being autonomous and they can be autonomous and we can be autonomous attachment is a very different thing.
Kimberly: 33:14 Attachment starts, starts to cross over the healthy boundaries into, you know, as you’re, as you’re writing here, Hannah, just being overly involved in someone’s life journey. And I gotta tell you that path is very, very exhausting and it leads to a lot of strife, struggle, wasted energy. And then like you said, because we can’t control those things. So that attachment comes from the ego. It comes from when we are identifying with this surface place. And so we, when we’re on the surface, we can’t access the depths of the love and peace inside of us. So then we be, we create these frantic desperate ways of trying to get the love and peace from other people. So the, the cure to this is starting to understand, you know, where we may be overly involved, where attachment has come in versus connection. So healthy connection is, you know, we allow free will we don’t cross over into control.
Kimberly: 34:16 We express our needs and we have to put up healthy boundaries sometimes to keep in what we want in our lives, right? With certain people. But we don’t have to get all this stuff from them. So it’s starting to understand Hannah that the, what you’re seeking is inside of you. So I will say again, the new book is speaking right to of what you’re talking about here. I really encourage you to read it, but also just starting to focus on your beautiful morning practice, the GGS, SBO, the Solluna SBO probiotics, hot water with lemon, but especially giving extra breath, extra time to your morning meditation and your journaling practice. Start to get to know the real Hannah, the Hannah that is beyond the label of, you know, the beautiful label of being a mother. The Hannah that is beyond all these labels, the Hannah, Hannah underneath everything, the true self of Hannah.
Kimberly: 35:17 And I promise you that the more time we spend just going inside and connecting and seeing what lights our up and following the breath and creating this union, which is really the goal of meditation is union between the small self and the divine inside the love, the joy and the peace will start rising up in you so that the attachments start to soften and they start to melt. You realize this was just a limited tool of the ego, a way that the ego was trying to control and manipulate the external world, but we don’t have to do that anymore. We focus on the internal world. And the funny thing is we start to attract more and more people that wanna come in, people are attracted to that love and that light. So we don’t have to try to chase. We don’t have to control so much. We just let it rise up out of us, inside of us and out of us. So focus on your practices. My love focus on interconnection and this healing with attachment will come.
Question #4 around the topic of: How to Level Up Your Joy, Love and Peace: I feel so restless with working from home and having three kiddos to care for. My husband works outside the house and helps when he gets home but I’m just so irritated all the time and there’s barely any peace or sweet times between the two of us. How do you manage running a business while taking care of your two boys and managing the household? Where do you find joy in your daily life?
Kimberly: 36:14 All right, let’s get into our next question. My loves with Penelope who lives in Colorado. Thank you so much. My love for being part of our community and you write, I feel so restless with working from home and having three kiddos to care for my husband works outside the house and helps when he gets home. But I’m just so irritated all the time. There’s barely any peace or sweet times between the two of us. How do you manage running a business while taking care of your two boys and managing the household? Where do you find joy in your daily life?
Kimberly: 36:49 Penelope? I understand the hecticness, the craziness of doing so many different things. So my heart goes out to you. I send you so much big warm hug, mama. You’re doing it. You’re amazing. Just that acknowledgement of it’s a lot, right? It can feel like a lot. It can feel that overwhelm and, and just, you know, trying to get so much done in a day. And so I will say that number one, I, I think it’s really important that we take a look at our day to day lives and our schedules, and we start to see what’s really important and where we wanna put time and energy, but in other ways where we can outsource and share resources. So what I mean by that is, is there a way to share, um, you know, taking care of the household, running the household, can you do more management on the weekends or you can share some of that with your husband, or can you even find ways to outsource things, you know, which may or may not be possible, like cleaning help or whatever that may be. So really dialing in your day to day time and seeing if you can share resources, which could include a shared nanny or a babysitter sometimes with your kids to give yourself that space and that sanity, or again, things around the house like cleaning.
Kimberly: 38:22 The second thing is clarifying what you would like, what, what you would like to create in your day to day life. Is it more space? Is it more time? Is it more flexibility? Is it you going outside of your house, more spending time with your friends or working outside of the house? So it’s really important that we start to clarify our needs. So for me, and I’ll, you know, pause for a moment and speak to those things for me, it’s, you know, it’s clear that I, my first job is being a mother. I love being with my boys and my second, but you know, part of my life is all this, you know, work and the messaging and the things that I love to put in the world between my books and this podcast and Solluna and all of that, the collaborations and the creations, but because there’s so much full and those two things, the management of the house I do outsource, you know, I’m very fortunate and grateful that I do have a housekeeper and she’s able to, you know, help with the cleaning, the cooking.
Kimberly: 39:27 She does my recipes and she, she runs errands. And that’s something that I’ve worked to create, just looking at my life and seeing, you know, do I wanna put my energy and my attention. So they clarified my needs. I have a need for stillness. I have a need for my spiritual practice beyond all of those things. I have a need to be by myself sometimes. And so I had to create the schedule and the way that, you know, the, the work and the house flowed, instead of just trying to take everything on, I did that for some periods and it really didn’t work well for me. So I just felt like everything was breaking down and the multitasking was destroying the quality of everything that I was trying to create. So I had to get really clear and I had to figure out the resources and the structure, the refor resources to port my own needs.
Kimberly: 40:19 So I would say Penelope, you know, first of all, clarify, what is it that you want? Do you want more time with your business? Do you want more time with your kids and outsourcing some of the household stuff get really clear what you would like to create and then start, you know, write it down, like journal about this, really dig in without any imagine if there was no restraints, what would you like to create in your day to day life? What would, what are your goals? What are your dreams? And then you could start to see in this now moment, what is possible. So maybe you can’t get a housekeeper or, you know, cleaning help right now. But like I said, you can start to share more with your husband, or you can start to, you know, batch more things on the weekends so that during the week you have some more time for yourself, your practices, your stillness, whatever you’re working on, try to find ways to, you know, share babysitters.
Kimberly: 41:10 So you have more space if that’s, you know, one of the goals, but we can’t, um, we can’t really create what we need to meet our needs until we have that real clarity. So with clarity rises joy, right? Because when we’re muddled, when we’re giving mixed messages, when we’re feeling frustrated, but we’re not expressing our needs, we, we push down that joy. We push down the piece because we’re just so caught up in the chaos that’s on the surface. So again, more space, more stillness, less doing, I think, is so important to loved peace joy, because otherwise we can’t really feel it. It’s subtle things on the inside are more subtle and experiencing. They need space around them to feel it. So we don’t wanna just rush to the next thing. So spend some time creating the clarity and then seeing what’s possible in this moment and also what you would like to work towards.
Kimberly: 42:05 And you could have that discussion with your husband. I would like to have a day that’s just for me, or I would like to get some cleaning help at some point, or I would like to be this way. And so there’s the moment we wanna find acceptance and peace right here and find, okay, what is the direction? What is the path right now? And then we’ll also start to loosen up a lot of energy and excitement, hopefully empower you start to organize what’s happening now. And then we can see, okay, I would like this to be, so how can we work towards this as well? And so, you know, it became clear that I needed, as I took on more stuff, more, another book to write and you know, other projects that are going on right now, it became clear that I needed more of that help.
Kimberly: 42:47 And my husband and I discussed it and we, you know, figured out how we would do it together. So communication clarity, really seeing, identifying your needs that you wanna meet is part of this empowerment. It’s part of, um, you know, living life in this free, you know, more freedom and more, um, expansiveness. We don’t have to live out the same patterns. We don’t have to just take it and take it and, you know, go through life, feeling the frustration and the heaviness because we’re not expressing. So get clear, identify what you want, what you need in your life. Journal about it, write it on paper, communicate. And I gotta say it one more time. There’s a lot of journaling practices in the book that are so helpful for clarifying this Penelope, um, especially chapter 19, which is called you are a creator. So let me know how you do.
Kimberly: 43:45 Ooh, let me know how things continue to unfold. As a busy working mom, myself, I understand. And it’s so important that we take the time to feel what our needs are because as moms, we’re the one managing and running around and we’re so busy and we give and give and give. But I promise you, then when you start to clarify your own needs, it will start to open up energy. Your kids, your husband will benefit from that deep fulfillment and satisfaction that comes from inside of you. So thank you so much, Penelope. My love. Thank you for being part of our community, sending you so much, much love. Please keep in touch with me. And I would love to hear how you continue to, to go along and your life opens up.
Thought of the Week
Kimberly: 44:30 So I’d like to leave us with a quote. This one comes from Paramahansa Yogananda chapter 21, page 2 43 of you are more than you think you are. “When you go beyond the consciousness of this world, knowing that you are not the body or the mind, and yet aware as never before that you exist—that divine consciousness is what you are. You are That in which is rooted everything in the universe.” As we go deeper and deeper into our self connection, with the true self, we realize that love, peace, joy, our ours, to claim from the insight. And while we of course will enjoy the things on the outside, in, in relationships, we don’t have to be so dependent on them. This love, peace and joy is possible to access from the insight. And as we tune in more and more of our attention in meditation and other practices, inwardly, we will feel that joy, peace, and love starting to come up and out of us in our day to day life.
Kimberly: 45:37 So thank you so much. My love for being part of our community. I send you so much love, peace and joy. I look forward to connecting with you more. Please check out the show notes in mysolluna.com, where we link to other articles, podcasts, meditations, recipes. I think you would enjoy. Please check me out on social at underscore Kimberly Snyder so we can stay connected. Please check out the Solluna app. The Solluna Circle are amazing online community. You are more than you think you are the new book, which I talked about already. So many, um, creations I have to support you, which really is my life’s intention. So I’ll see you soon. Now. I must stay peace and love.