Today I thought the topic is really perfect, Big Life Changes, which can be both perceived as positive, and so-called negative. If something’s a really happy change or something is more challenging, it still is a level of stress and adjustment in our bodies and in our lives.
We really want to pay attention on how best to nurture ourselves through those times. And I know, of course, right now with everything going on in the world and with COVID, you may have been experiencing some really big changes or in your family. This is a really timely show as well for all of us.
Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!
Sometimes I feel “burnt out” and the physical and mental fatigue will last for weeks. How can I utilize the Four Cornerstones to heal and deal with these changes, but also prevent this feeling?
Arden – Atlanta
I just wanted to start by saying you are a huge inspiration to me and I listen to your podcast all the time! I just got a job at a small healing institute that is based on Ann Wigmore’s lifestyle and principles. After reading about her and reading your book, I got inspired to go mostly raw vegan and plant-based! It’s only been a week or so but I can tell I feel lighter and better. Only thing is I am having lots of detox symptoms like bloating, mood swings, break-outs and low energy. Do you have any advice to help with the transition and do you know how long it should take to start feeling good?
Susan – Vancouver – Big life change from the perspective of working from home?
Since working from home started, I’ve been noticing a lot of hair loss. I don’t know if it has been the case but noticing it more now since I’m home and there is more of a collection of it (vs. being on the floor at work). Is there a way to tell if you have normal or more than average hair loss?
Kara – San Clemente
I lost my best friend of 20 years suddenly this past October, with so much time to think during quarantine I find that some days she’s all my mind can think of. Some moments the tears flow while others I feel happy as if she is still on earth and living her life. Do you have any advice for dealing with a sudden loss and how to ride the wave of emotions?
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Stay connected to your heart, take one step at a time at a time and you will be where you’re meant to be.
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Kimberly: 00:22 Hey, Beauties. Welcome back to our Thursday Q&A podcast where our topic today is Big Life Changes. And I am so excited to be back with you guys. This is actually my first recording since becoming a mom again to baby Moses, who was actually on my lap right now. And hopefully he will stay napping on this pillow, which I have on my lap. If you hear a new little baby purrs, it’s this little newborn who is now about seven weeks old, and it’s been a lot. It’s been amazing. I am definitely of it sleepy still haven’t gotten to that stage where we’re sleeping better.
Kimberly: 01:06 So it’s pretty crazy, but it’s a really joyful sleepy time over here. And I had such a different experience when my first, with my second pregnancy. So I’ll be sharing more with you guys over the next few weeks, but today I thought the topic is really perfect, Big Life Changes, which can be both perceived as positive, and so-called negative. If something’s really happy change or something’s more challenging, it still is a level of stress and adjustment in our bodies and in our lives. And so we really want to pay attention on how best to nurture ourselves through those times. And I know, of course, right now with everything going on in the world and with COVID, you may have been experiencing already some really big changes and or you or in your family.
Kimberly: 01:59 So this is a really timely show as well, I think, for all of us. As usual, we have our general manager of Solluna, Caitlyn, with us on the line who has been with us since the beginning. And she is a base now in Virginia. So hi, K. It’s nice being back on our show together.
Katelyn: 02:19 Yes. I’m so excited to be back together doing the show. It definitely felt weird not having this on the calendar for us to touch base, and do the show for the Beauties. But in that respect, we hope that you guys really enjoyed all of the roundup shows that we’ve featured, the Best Of’s from the last several years, we’re getting close to 500 episodes. So we definitely have a lot of valuable content. So we really hope everybody enjoyed that time while Kim was able to have a lot of one-on-one with her family. And we’re so glad to have you back.
Kimberly: 02:55 Thank you, Cay. It feels great to be back with you guys and sharing and hearing what you write in. Because as we always say, we are one. We are all so connected and a lot of us have the same struggles and worry about the same things. So we are here. We’re listening. We’re here to support you along the journey every step.
Question 1: Sometimes I feel burnt out and the physical and mental fatigue will last for weeks. How can I utilize the four cornerstones of true beauty to heal and deal with these changes, but also prevent this feeling?
Katelyn: 03:16 Yes. And we have some new questions that have come in from the community around this topic. So we’d love to just dive in and see what your thoughts are. So the first question we have from Tia, living in Boston. Sometimes I feel burnt out and the physical and mental fatigue will last for weeks. How can I utilize the four cornerstones of true beauty to heal and deal with these changes, but also prevent this feeling?
Kimberly: 03:47 So Tia, sending you a huge virtual hug. Thank you so much for writing in. Sending you love to Boston. And I will say, we’ve all experienced this awful feeling of being burnt out and it just feels really depleted and just frustrating, I think, and stagnant. And we know that feeling burnt out usually has built up for weeks and weeks at a time of imbalance. So where the Four Cornerstones can be really helpful is that, which are by the way, food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. Where they’re really helpful is to really look at wellness and nurturing our bodies and ourselves in a holistic way. It’s not just about what we eat. It’s not just about food. It’s not just about exercise. But it’s also the emotional, mental health, and the spiritual part of us, which I define as connecting to our wholeness, to the spirit inside of us.
Kimberly: 04:47 It’s not about religion. It’s not even about a specific practice per se, but really just connecting to our essence, which is so far beyond what we look like. It’s so far beyond what we do day in and day out. It’s really just our beingness. And so we want to nurture the cornerstones and also take a survey and see where we may be depleted in particular in one, two, or three of them, or maybe all four of them. So from a food standpoint, I would say, Tia, to really see about nurturing foods. It’s a great plate time for stews and comfort food, as well as easily digested blended food like blended soup and smoothies.
Kimberly: 05:30 From a body perspective, I think a lot of us sit down a lot. A lot of us may be more cooped up with the quarantine. So walking, getting outside, getting fresh air, doing home yoga, anything that feels good in your body is going to help create that balance. Emotionally, because there’s so much potential stress and pressure right now, and feelings of isolation, I think it’s really important to journal, to find friend, a community to connect with, to process feelings, to sit with them.
Kimberly: 06:03 And to do that on a regular basis because that’s often one that gets pushed to the side, and spiritually, as far as connecting with our wholeness, I always like to find times to sit and be, and not feel like I have to run around and to also be in nature and to be outside. I like to sit on my lawn in the morning and physically ground my body. And of course, meditation is a big part of my personal practice. So I think, Tia, just really nurturing, especially the ones that, as we call them out, you can feel are the ones that are more depleted in your body, in your life, to pay attention to them. But to really do that on an ongoing basis because, again, burnout usually takes place after weeks of imbalance. So before we get to that stage, really working to create that whole-ism and that balance in our lives.
Katelyn: 07:02 This reminds me of a teaching that you started talking about years ago of just we’re not defined by what we do and that we can just be, and a lot of times we live in this society where it’s constantly go, go, go. So I think that’s so helpful for us just to be okay. We’re not defined by how good we are at work or how many things we did around the house for our family. But sometimes it’s okay just to sit and do things for yourself because that will help prevent the burnout. I know I’m definitely guilty of that.
Kimberly: 07:33 It’s true. Exactly.
Katelyn: 07:34 Yeah. Keeping that good balance. We have a lot of great articles over on my mysolluna.com, our blog that we’ll link to for you Beauties, if you’re struggling with burnout and fatigue.
Question 2: I’m having a lot of detox symptoms like bloating, mood swings, breakout, and low energy. Do you have any advice to help with this transition? And how long will it take until I start feeling good?
Let’s jump into Arden’s question, living in Atlanta. I just wanted to start off by saying you are huge inspiration to me and I listen to your podcast all the time. I just got a job at a small healing institute that is based on Ann Wigmore’s lifestyle and principles. After reading about her, and reading your book, I got inspired to go mostly raw vegan, and plant-based. It’s only been about a week or so now, but I can already feel lighter and better. Only thing is I’m having a lot of detox symptoms like bloating, mood swings, breakout, and low energy. Do you have any advice to help with this transition? And how long will it take until I start feeling good?
Kimberly: 08:33 I love to hear what’s going on for you. I’m so grateful that we’re connected and I want to just say great. That’s awesome about working at the healing institute. I know that I spent at least five trips going to Ann Wigmore and doing the classes and living there like a retreat. And I loved it. And while I don’t grow my own micro greens now and press wheat grass, some of the things that I learned there, I definitely learned a lot and incorporate it into my philosophy now, what we talk about here at Solluna. So it was definitely wonderful. I too was raw vegan for about two years. And then I really started to miss and crave cooked vegan food, like hot soup and things.
Kimberly: 09:24 So I would just say, Arden, keep listening to your body. I think raw vegan is a really great way to cleanse, and to clean out, and to get recentered. But sometimes for a lot of people, it’s not a longterm lifestyle just because winter comes and you may want something hot, or you may feel that groundedness that comes from cooked grains or cooked veggies as well. So just keep paying attention. I think it’s a great place to be, especially in the summer to answer. Your question about detoxing, when we swing to such a high vibration, a high energy diet, there is that period, which could be a few days. The detox period could be as much as a month for some people I’ve seen where they continue to get the headaches and the breakouts. But on the other side, they do start to feel much more clear and light.
Kimberly: 10:13 So I would say the best ways to support yourself in this transition is to rest, to not push yourself, maybe to go to bed earlier, also to drink a lot of room temperature water, let things flush out. And thirdly, to take Detoxy, which is a supplement we sell over at my mysolluna.com. That’s based in [inaudible 00:10:35] and oxygen, and also ASC [inaudible 00:10:38] which is a potent form of vitamin C. And this is really important because whenever we transition our diet, especially to plant based, which has a lot of fiber, we need support in releasing, and pooping more, and getting it out of our bodies. And so I would say it’s definitely going to help any sort of transition like this. It’s definitely going to help you get to the other side faster and easier. So I recommend that as well.
Katelyn: 11:03 Yes. This could be a whole show on its own, these types of questions. So if you’re looking for more support, be sure to check out today’s show notes. I’ll link a couple relative blogs and recipes we have if you want to check those out and maybe some meditation. All right, Beauties. Well, we will let Kimberly take a short break here, and then she’ll be back to answer the next two questions.
Kimberly: 00:00 … back from our short break and we have two more questions for you on Big Life Changes, which again, can rock your world, so to speak. They can rock your body, they can throw off your digestion. They can feel quite stressful throughout your hormones. Keep you up at night, even if they’re happy and good changes. So let’s keep going, I can’t wait to hear the next two, Kay.
Question 3: Since working from home started, I’ve been noticing a lot of hair loss. I don’t know if it has been the case, but noticing it more now since I’m home and if there’s more of a collection of it being on the floor because I notice it working from home. Is there a way to tell if you have normal hair loss or is this just average?
Katelyn: 00:29 Yes, that’s for sure. So the next question is from Susan, from Vancouver. “Since working from home started, I’ve been noticing a lot of hair loss. I don’t know if it has been the case, but noticing it more now since I’m home and if there’s more of a collection of it being on the floor because I notice it working from home. Is there a way to tell if you have normal hair loss or is this just average?”
Kimberly: 01:15 Hey Susan, thank you so much for your question. I think that there’s a lot of shifts and a lot of changes going on in the world right now and definitely hair loss and stress does affect different parts of our body and it definitely can affect our hair follicles. We’ve all heard this when there’s stress, your hair may turn gray or your hair may fall out. So I think you bringing it up, Susan, probably signals to us that there’s somewhere in your intuition that you feel that something’s a little bit off. Maybe you’re losing your hair more than usual. I think you would notice it, even if you were working somewhere else, you probably would notice it anyway. So I would say average hair loss, they say is about a hundred hairs a day on average. So if you feel like you haven’t changed your routine that much, as far as brushing it … I know a lot of my hair comes out in the brush in the shower because that’s when I actually brush my hair, so I notice it more then. But if you haven’t changed your routine and you’re noticing a great deal more hair loss, I would trust that and just see what else has shifted.
Kimberly: 02:34 So again, I would say this is where emotional wellbeing and spiritual growth comes in, knowing your essence, knowing your place of security and safety is much, much deeper, especially during this time, than what’s going on on the surface, the changing part of life, but grounding into yourself, to knowing that your essence, your spirit is so much greater than all these circumstantial life changes that come in and go. So really connecting with that through a meditation practice would be really beautiful. We have free meditations for you over at mysolluna.com.
Kimberly: 03:11 I would also say making sure that you’re staying really, really hydrated because hair loss often has to do with hydration, from a physical standpoint. I’m not sure if your home tends to be more dry, or you’re just not drinking as much, but that’s also really important. Thirdly, I’ll say that some abhyanga scalp massage is really great for increasing circulation to the hair follicles, which can help to stimulate more growth. So right now, it’s usually coconut oil or an herbalized oil in the warmer months, as opposed to sesame oil in the colder months. So right now just taking some and really massaging the roots of your hair is a really important practice and that can also stimulate hair growth.
Kimberly: 03:54 But again, we want to get to the root cause, the stress, the disruption, something that’s going on that this felt like it started quite suddenly. So we can see how we can deal with that.
Katelyn: 04:06 Yeah, stress really affects everybody in different ways. I’ve had friends that get rashes, or for me I know my anxiety has been off the chart with a lot of the changes I’ve been going through and I would have more cravings for food. So definitely those are great tips for the Beauties to just tune in with what’s going on with them. We have so many resources for you guys, it’s really hard to pack it all into our podcast shows, but if you need more support, we have it over on the blog.
Question 4: Do you have any advice on dealing with sudden loss and how to ride these waves of emotion?
Katelyn: 04:39 All right, we have one more question for you from Kara, from San Clemente, California. “I lost my best friend of 20 years, suddenly this past October and with so much time to think during quarantine, I find that some days she’s on my mind and all I can think of. Some moments, tears flows, while others I feel happy as if she’s still here living with me. Do you have any advice on dealing with sudden loss and how to ride these waves of emotion?”
Kimberly: 05:12 Thank you so much for your question. My heart goes out to you, I give you a big hug. It is not easy to lose someone suddenly when you don’t feel like you’ve had the chance to prepare or say goodbye. I mean, that’s a really big life change, obviously, because I think we just go along day by day and when we realize that life is really fragile and we can’t take anything for granted, that’s a bit of a shock, isn’t it? So I will say from personal experience, because from the time we found out my mom had cancer to when she passed, it was only six weeks. So it was quite short, although I will say that I was with her every day and I flew her out here to LA. She was getting treatment here. I was in the bed with her when she actually passed and that was an enormous gift, to feel the energy shift and to feel that she was still with me, is something I am so grateful for, but it doesn’t make the aftermath easier, there’s definitely a lot of processing.
Kimberly: 06:24 So to your question about dealing with loss, this goes back to the book that I’ve been recommending for a long time, called Letting Go and something I actually talk about in Recipes for your Perfectly Imperfect Life, where I do talk about losing her. I just think it’s really important to feel all your feelings as they come out and to really let yourself go into the feelings without the thoughts. That could mean sometimes you feel a pit in your tummy, you may feel darkness. You may feel extraordinarily sad. You may feel angry. Sometimes you feel happy, you can remember their … Whatever it is, there’s no right or no wrong, but it’s really important to feel. As Dr. Hawkins points out, who wrote Letting Go, if we don’t let ourselves feel, we end up pushing the feelings down and they don’t go away, they end up being encrypted in our bodies and they can come out in digestive issues and resentment and low energy in different ways.
Kimberly: 07:34 So in the grieving process, it’s very important. And this is true for a loved one, or maybe grieving a job loss, or a pet, or an opportunity, or whatever, because we’re in this time, I think it’s important that we don’t limit ourselves. There’s a lot of different ways that expectation and loss comes through our lives. So whatever it is, just really let yourself feel whatever you feel and it usually lasts about 10 minutes, those intensities of feeling, and then it usually subsides. It usually is like a wave and it rolls over you.
Kimberly: 08:09 So I would just say to really allow yourself the space to feel Kara and it can be helpful to journal and to write about your feelings, which is something I do almost every day. Sometimes I don’t feel, or don’t have the words to talk to people. I don’t have the energy to share, but I love to journal because no one can judge my journaling and it’s just very free flow and it feels really healing to me. So those are some things that I would recommend. Again, I send you a big hug, I’m sorry to hear about your loss, but we get stronger from these experiences and I 100% feel that love does not go away, that we stay connected to our loved ones wherever they are. So sending you that love as well, Kara.
Katelyn: 09:03 Well, thank you for those positive messages for the Beauties. I’m sure that resonates with a lot of people with dealing with many different types of losses during these challenging times that we’ve had. So I think it’s always helpful just to hear … have that little bit of validation that how you’re feeling is okay, and you’re allowed to feel that way because it’s odd, we shouldn’t need to be told that, but I often myself too feel like, oh, I shouldn’t feel this way. So it’s just a positive reminder for everyone, so thank you for that.
Thought of the Week
Katelyn: 09:36 Well, as always, we like to end the show with an inspirational thought of the week. Is there anything top of mind for you right now?
Kimberly: 09:45 Yes, Kay. So I’m going to share with you guys, I’m going to actually quote myself a little bit here, which is kind of funny. So this is something that I wrote in a caption from Instagram and it seemed to really resonate with people and it’s something I like to tell myself, which is stay connected to your heart and take one step at a time. I’m paraphrasing here, it’s not exactly I wrote on Instagram, but it’s stay connected to your heart, take one step at a time at a time and you will be where you’re meant to be.
Kimberly: 10:20 So when it comes to big life changes, I think that we all have the tendency to project far into the future and we think, “Oh, well, what’s going to happen now? And how’s this going to affect my big life plan and what am I going to do in five years? Does this fit in? Am I going to have enough money saved? Can I buy that house? Will I be happy? There will I have a baby at a convenient time?” Whatever it is. We can build a lot of stress that way and not necessarily come up with any solutions because we can only be in the now, we can’t know the future.
Kimberly: 10:58 So I will say to ponder this idea of just taking the step today, that feels connected to your heart, to your intuition, to not overthinking things because I think when we overthink and we overanalyze and we get all the input from everybody around us, even well-meaning family and friends, we can get thrown off because our own voice becomes diluted. So just taking those steps and trust that you are where you’re meant to be, and you will continue to progress as you’re meant to be, as long as you connect with your heart.
Kimberly: 11:34 This also helps to eliminate the gap between where we should be, all the expectations we put on ourselves and where we actually are, which of course creates so much suffering. It’s really silly in a sense, because it comes from this idea that we created ourselves. Who’s to say where anybody should be? Especially ourselves, where should we be? We are where we are, we’re doing our best.
Kimberly: 11:58 So again, this relates to big life changes and it just relates to everyday life. Just keep connecting in, keep asking yourself, close your eyes if you need to, put your hand on your heart, connect with your heart and take that one step that you can see right in front of you, what you know is that step. Don’t worry so much about the future.
Katelyn: 12:22 Well, thank you, K. It’s great to be back for our first show, we’ll have many more to come, Beauties. As always, if you want to start submitting your questions, now that we’re back recording, we would love for you to do that. Go over to mysalluna.com/askkimberly or just head over to the podcast tab and you’ll see Ask Kimberly there, submit your question and I’ll be reviewing them on a weekly basis and we’ll be airing them on upcoming shows.
Kimberly: 12:50 Awesome Kay, thank you so much. Thank you for gathering the questions and being such a force in our community, love you and thank you Beauties to writing in your questions. We love to hear what you’re thinking. So as Kay mentioned, please keep it coming, please keep it flowing. Remember that we are also on Instagram for daily inspiration. Mine is at _kimberlysnyder and we have our Solluna one that is up now as well, which is sollunabyks. So you definitely want to follow both. I add, more things from my personal life and insights on mind, and then the Solluna one is where you can find recipes and product information and a lot that’s going on in the Solluna community.
Kimberly: 13:41 So all that being said, thank you so much Beauties. Sending you lots and lots of love. Take great care of yourself and we will be back Monday for our next interview podcast.