How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts [Episode #602]

This week’s topic is: How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts

We all go through these shifts in life, which feel constricted, smaller and tight, as opposed to the expansive times, which feel really happy, joyful, and cheerful. As we go through these natural shifts as humans, we want to have tools and strategies for navigating life when it does feel difficult and how we can process difficulty.

It’s not about pushing down feelings or pushing them away because then they often come back or they come out in different ways, such as anxiety, food cravings or difficult digestion and many other ways.

We really want to process and then move forward. This is something that I’ve been thinking about for the past four years, and especially from losing my mom and going through some big life shifts, leaving a relationship and so on. So I definitely have been through difficult times personally in the last few years, especially.

I know it’s a particularly trying time for a lot of us with the pandemic and with a lot of shifts, there may be shifts in your job and your work. This is such a beautiful, deep topic. And I can’t wait to get into it today and provide you with some practical tips and tools to help get you through it.

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[Questions Answered]

Sad Girl  – Santa Cruz, CA 

When I love, I love deeply. There is a part of me who has a tendency to hold on to past loves long after the relationship has ended; I’ve noticed that I hold onto both the qualities of the person, and aspects of how the relationship was. The wise one in me knows this is silly, as these relationships are over, and the things I am holding onto are no more. What are some practical ways that I can practice letting go of what is now in the past and truly move forward?

Deb – Texas

While the world adjusts to the lifting of masks I’m still having a hard time. I’m exhausted from feeling worried and want to be able to move forward past covid but still living in fear. Any tips you can give me?

Ali – Kentucky

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and have been crying ever since. I want to be able to get past this breakup knowing I’ll meet the right person someday. How can I find joy now? Please help Kimberly. :(

Leanne – Montana

How do you get past difficult shifts, Kimberly? I lost my father about 6 months ago and am having a hard time finding any joy in life. I’m thankful I have my mom but the sadness seems to cover all the good. 

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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties. And welcome back to our Thursday, Q&A podcast. Our community show where all the questions come right from our amazing, beautiful community and our topic this week is How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts. So this is, this is a big one. This is a deep one. We all go through these shifts these times in life, which feel constricted and smaller and tight, as opposed to the expansive times, which feel really happy and joyful and cheerful. So we go through these natural shifts as humans, of course, and we want to have tools and strategies for navigating life when it does feel difficult and how we can process difficulty. So as we’ll get into today, it’s not about pushing down feelings or pushing them away because then they often come back or they come out in different ways, such as anxiety or food cravings or difficult digestion and many other ways.

Kimberly: 01:02 So we really do want to process and then move forward. This is something that I’ve been thinking about for the past four years, over four years, especially from losing my mom and going through some big life shifts, leaving a relationship and so on. So I definitely have been through difficult times personally in the last few years, especially. And I know it’s a, it’s a particularly trying time for a lot of us with the pandemic and with a lot of shifts, there may be shifts in your job and your work. So this is such a beautiful, deep topic. And I can’t wait to get into it today, although I already started getting into it.

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Question #1 around the topic of: How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts: When I love, I love deeply. There is a part of me who has a tendency to hold on to past loves long after the relationship has ended; I’ve noticed that I hold onto both the qualities of the person, and aspects of how the relationship was. The wise one in me knows this is silly, as these relationships are over, and the things I am holding onto are no more. What are some practical ways that I can practice letting go of what is now in the past and truly move forward?

Kimberly: 02:49 All right? All that being said, let’s get into our topic today. How to celebrate life even during difficult shifts. And our first question comes from Sad Girl who lives in Santa Cruz, California. And she writes when I love, I love deeply. There is a part of me who has a tendency to hold onto past loves long after the relationship has ended. I have noticed that I hold onto both the qualities of the person and aspects of how that relationship was. The wise one in me knows this. As silly as these relationships are over and the things I’m holding onto are no more, what are some practical ways that I can practice letting go of what is now in the past and true move forward.

Kimberly: 03:39 Sad girl, sending you a big virtual hug. First of all, my love. I just feel it in your question. I feel the emotional just torrent of feelings going on inside of you right now. And I think this is a very common tendency to hold on to the past or to project into the future. Of course, um, sometimes we do both. Sometimes we have a tendency to look back. Sometimes we have a tendency to look forward, but either way we are not in the here and now as you so aptly put in your question, we are not meant to live in the past. And I think it’s, uh, in some ways it’s a positive human quality to mostly remember positive things and to tune out more of the bad things in general, but this nostalgia doesn’t serve us. If it covers over the fact that the relationship wasn’t working and the fact that you weren’t feeling fulfilled your partner, wasn’t feeling, feeling fulfilled.

Kimberly: 04:47 You weren’t moving forward in a way that felt good to one or both of you. So there’s, there’s real pain in human relationships. I mean, human relationships are complicated because we are all complicated humans. We have layers of emotion, layers of our being. And when you put the two of us together, it can feel entangled. It can feel like there’s a lot coming up within us. That can be triggered by the other person, but actually it’s all coming from inside of us. And so when we get past a relationship, when, when things break apart, it’s a good, it’s a good idea to process and to sit in the feelings that are coming up. So rather than just going to the thoughts, you know, like you were saying, going to the qualities of this person, this person was so loving and they were so understanding, go beyond the words and just sit, create some space to sit in the feelings that may be sticky or a little bit darker, and you don’t have to name them like, oh, there’s loneliness, there’s attachment there’s.

Kimberly: 05:57 And that you can just really allow yourself to feel what is rising up in you. And this is really the deepest process of letting go. We are not able to fully let go of feelings and emotions, which means energy in motion. If they stay trapped in us and we don’t face them. Now, most people don’t want to face the bad feelings, which is why we have Netflix and Twinkies and cookies and alcohol and all these other ways, these things that are there, but can be abused when we use them for distraction, or we use them for quelling our negative feelings. But in reality, we know that’s just a temporary pushing down and it doesn’t really go away. We aren’t able to let go. So as I said earlier, the, this energy can manifest and things like acne, things like inflammation in our body because our body takes on the energy of the mind and is very much influenced.

Kimberly: 06:57 Our hormones are influenced inflammation, digestion, everything is so intertwined. So we don’t want to do that to our bodies. And we don’t want to do that to our, our mindset. And also when we don’t process, that’s when the grief stays, that’s when the sadness stays, it ends up getting prolonged and extended and we end up feeling more depleted. We feel sad, or it becomes this cycle. So the way out of it, sad girl, my love is through it. And this is the process I went through during my difficult breakup was to sit in it for a time. It doesn’t mean we sit in there forever, but we sit in the feelings. If we sit in the thoughts and we lament and we go back and we obsess, then that keeps it going. So I’m not talking about thinking, this is the part where we need to differentiate feelings and thoughts.

Kimberly: 07:53 Thoughts are in your head and you can keep telling yourself this sucks. This isn’t fair. It shouldn’t be this way. And it keeps the energy going and going in contrast, when we let go of the thoughts, and then we just dropped down into our body, we can feel those feelings, which again, can feel sticky and dark and lower in negative. But as humans, we are meant to feel the whole range of human emotions. And so by feeling them deeply feeling, we process them and then we can let them go and they may come back and we process and let them go. And I’ve talked about this book many, many times. I’m going to say it here again. The wonderful book, letting go by Dr. David Hawkins. It’s a wonderful psychologist that teaches us that when we feel the feelings deeply, it usually lasts only about 10 minutes or less.

Kimberly: 08:43 And it’s like a well, so we keep feeling processing, feeling and processing, and eventually we get to the bottom. So what I would say sad girl is to create some space for that. It could be in the evening. It could be on the weekend. It could be in the middle of the day. If you can create some space and just ask yourself, how, how can I process this sadness? Where is this sadness? How do I feel sadness? You know, any question that resonates with you and then just sit quietly. You can lay back. As I often do, I put my hands on my heart, I close my eyes and I wait. And usually after a couple of questions like that, it starts to stir the feelings and they start to come up to be felt. And I wait in that position until I ride it out.

Kimberly: 09:33 I wait until I really feel and feel and sit in it and then it washes over. And then I’m here in the present moment. So I recommend trying that practice, that girl, and also present moment practices, mindfulness, really coming back to your breath when you’re doing the dishes or you’re walking the dog focused on coming back, coming back to the present. And of course, meditation to sit in that expansive now moment. And we have, I have so many guided meditations now that are free over on the Solluna app, putting them out once a week. Now, practical enlightenment meditation, which is the process that I like to teach and also in our website. So I have that support for you, my love. So feel your feelings come back to this moment, meditate and know that going through this as part of the human experience. And as long as you don’t turn away, as long as you sit in it and go through it, you will work through it.

Kimberly: 10:35 You will be stronger from this and you will have a whole new expanded perspective. So it can really be a positive in the end, my love. And then you’ll have deeper understanding of yourself and you will be able to in the future, attract a more aligned mate and aligned person to your energy now, because this process of feeling and processing gives us more depth, and it allows us to connect more deeply in future relationships as well. So sending you so much love, sad girl, and keep in touch with us and I’ll see you through it. And also on the other side.

Question #2 around the topic of: How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts: While the world adjusts to the lifting of masks I’m still having a hard time. I’m exhausted from feeling worried and want to be able to move forward past covid but still living in fear. Any tips you can give me?

Kimberly: 11:42 All right, let’s get now into our second question, who comes from Deb in Texas. And she writes while the world adjusts to the lifting of masks and putting masks back on, I’m still having a hard time. I’m exhausted from feeling worried and want to be able to move forward past COVID, but still living in fear. Any tips you can give me. So Deb, thank you so much for this question and thank you so much for being part of our community. I, I really took your question and I can feel and understand that there is a lot of fear right now, and a lot of exhaustion and it’s sort of on the collective scale, isn’t it globally? I think so many of us are feeling this burnout and we’re just tired of this whole thing. So one thing that I recommend to you is to really sit and contemplate, where does real safety and security come from truly? Where does it really come from? And I have sat with his question myself, and I’ve pondered this deeply. And the answer is it comes from the inside. It comes from our ability to rise up and to adjust to whatever life throws, our way safety and security can never come from the outside world, which is always shifting and changing and throwing curve balls our way and never feels stable.

Kimberly: 12:55 It’s like being on the surface of the ocean. Yet, if you go deeper, deeper down into the ocean, there is that ocean bed on the bottom, that’s fluffy and soft and safe, safe to land. So what I recommend Deb is this whole thing may be going on for a while. And then there may be the next thing. And then something happens to the job market or something weird happens to the weather patterns. All of this is outside of our control and it’s outside of ourselves. So it’s always going to feel stressful if we’re trying to rely on the outside world to create that stability, that it can never give us it’s too unreliable. So what we want to do is what we have to do to create that equanimity is to go onto the inside. That is the only thing that’s reliable. That is the only thing that is stable.

Kimberly: 13:46 And I’ve learned this myself, you know, just, you know, pandemic aside. Um, I’ve gone through a process within myself where I can look back and say that I’ve really relied on other people sometimes to sooth me and to make me feel better and especially, but my best friend calling him all the time and saying, Hey, on such and such happened, is it going to be okay? What do you think? What should I do? Dah, dah, dah. And it’s nice to have support. Of course we need community. And there is room for some of that. Yet at the same time, we can learn to be our own guides of safety through whatever is going on. And how do we do that? How do we create that? Self-reliance we connect on the inside. We connect to the deepest parts of ourselves, what the yogis called, the true self.

Kimberly: 14:38 We connect in meditation. We connect and stillness. We connect with our breath. And if this resonates with you, it’s part of our spiritual growth, which is about awareness. We can take it to the level of also connecting to, to spirit inside of us, spirit, all around the stable, the most stable energy, the force of creation. You can use the word universe, source God, whatever resonates with you. I like to say spirit. And I also say God personally, but I know a lot of us like to say life or universe or whatever. But when we connect to this deeper energy, which comes from meditation, we realized that food, the surface of life, through all the ups and downs, there is a stability that we can tap into. There is a stability that we can connect to. And again, the analogy of the ocean is one that I love so much because you can feel it right.

Kimberly: 15:32 Most, all of us have seen the ocean, or we’ve seen pictures of videos of the ocean. I once went, um, when I was backpacking in Mongolia, deep, deep in the Gobi desert, I met this family that, um, no, I had this translation book and Google translator, and I was communicating with them and they had no idea about the ocean. It was so beautiful. It was so pure. They had just, you know, nomadic people that had lived around there, their village, through the space with their animals, probably around 12, 12 mile radius. And they didn’t know, they’d never heard of America. So I drew them this map of, you know, Mongolia, here’s China and here’s this ocean of water. And here’s an Erika was trying to describe the ocean. It was amazing. So anyways, the point is most all of us though, at this point have seen the ocean, any of us listening to this podcast and you can feel how choppy the energy on the surface is, is, you know, where we get tossed around.

Kimberly: 16:28 So what we need to seek is not trying to find a stable part of the ocean on the surface, because it’s always going to, it has the potentiality to always get choppy. We need to go deeper, deeper, down deep to that ocean bed. And this means going deeper into our own resiliency, deeper into our own strength, deeper into our own ability to soothe ourselves. And again, that comes from self-connection stillness, meditation. These are the most powerful practices, especially meditation, because it means we connect in. We can find that peace as the breath slows, as, as the thoughts start to settle down, we don’t fight them or resist them. But then we realize, oh my gosh, there’s this deeper part of me. And this part, that’s so strong. This part that can get through anything, even if the masks come on and off again, even with all the stuff going on in the news, knowing we cannot control that, but we can work on strengthening our inner state.

Kimberly: 17:24 That is where that is the only place where real safety and security comes from. So I’ll echo again, dad, what I said earlier in the last question, too sad girl, please check out our guided meditations. Um, also in the Solluna app and also on our website, I’ve created something called our practical enlightenment meditation process, which I find highly effective. It is inspired by my yoga guru, Paramatta, Honsa, yoga Nanda, who talks about using energy, using the body, using well using DD programming to get through fear and limited beliefs. So it’s a three step meditation process. And again, there’s so many free meditations on there. There’s a great one, Deb in the folder called trust, the trusting life meditation. And I really recommend that one to you. Part of this is trusting that there is a bigger picture beyond the days, the day in and day out, the negative news here and there, there is something much bigger.

Kimberly: 18:25 And so this trust is important to develop and the trust comes from again, connecting on a deeper, deeper level on the inside. So check it out. Remember that when we tune out, when we were turned outward all the time, it’s always going to feel stressful. But if we have the ability to do an inward and go inward and, and strengthen that we’re going to continuously feel more and more safe in our lives. All right, my love, I send you a huge, huge hug over there to Texas. And please keep in touch with us. I’m so grateful you were part of our community and sending you so much love.

Break

All right. My loves. We have two more questions for you guys. We’re gonna take a short break. And when we come back, we’ll get right into it.

Question #3 around the topic of: How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts: I recently broke up with my boyfriend and have been crying ever since. I want to be able to get past this breakup knowing I’ll meet the right person someday. How can I find joy now? Please help Kimberly. :(

Kimberly: 19:27 All right. My loves, we are back from our break and we have two more questions for you guys on this topic of how to celebrate life. Even during difficult shifts. Our first question comes from Allie who lives in Kentucky and she writes, I recently broke up with my boyfriend and have been crying ever since. I want to be able to get past this breakup, knowing I’ll meet the right person someday. How can I find joy now, please help Kimberly. Oh, Allie, my love, oh, I feel it. I feel, I feel that pain. I know that pain and I feel it. And so I just want to acknowledge you right now, going through this. And you’re listening to this. I want you to feel, I have my arms wrapped around myself and I’m sending you this hug because I know how hard breakups can be. It’s one of the most crazy hard, difficult things as humans we go through. And when I went through my big breakup a few years ago, which was some months after my mom passed away, did feel like the world was crashing down on me and it really did not feel good.

Kimberly: 20:48 What got me through is the process that I described above to sad girl, that feeling and being present and waiting for the washes of paint to, to move and then sitting in and again and again and again, and that was important. The other way that I started to move energy was walking and getting outside in nature and being on the beach, being in the mountains, hiking and finding that real energy of resiliency and stillness in nature. And I would often start a hike, feeling sad, feeling off. And by the end of the hike, the energy would be moved a bit sometimes not all the way. Sometimes I would feel cheerful. Sometimes I would still feel it, but it wouldn’t be as strong. So I think movement and energy are really important. I think community is really important. Lean on your sisters, lean on your friends, lean on our Solluna circle.

Kimberly: 21:52 If you want to join us, we are here to support you. We support all our members so much, and I love our members so much and it’s such a wonderful sisterhood. We just had our zoom last night and it was so beautiful to hear from everybody. So I invite you personally to join for community. And what I did was I wrote a list. I wrote a letter, you know, a letter list, whatever you want to call it on a piece of paper. And I, I put in the now moment in the present I wrote, I am so grateful and you know, this not right away after the breakup, but after some months when I felt my heart opening up again, I wrote, I am so grateful for this amazing, amazing man I have now attracted in who is kind and strong and loving and honest.

Kimberly: 22:44 And I wrote all the qualities that I wanted and understands me and sees me. And I see him and I feel connected deeply. And I, you know, all the things that I really wanted and you know, my last partner I was with was a, is a wonderful person. We just didn’t have that kind of connection. So I wrote it in the now moment. This is who I’m attracting now. And then I folded it into a little piece, little square, and I put it in a plant in my love corner. So there’s different schools of functional way. But the one that I follow is when you enter a room, it is the corner to the left, the immediate left. So think about a square. So there’s lower left, upper left, upper right. Lower left. So imagine if you walk into a room, it’s the lower left corner in the school of functionary that I, that I subscribed to.

Kimberly: 23:33 So I had a little a plant there and it was a flourishing plant. So I put that piece of paper describing exactly the partner that I wanted in the plant. And I put over that piece of paper, uh, of rose quartz rock. And I would see it sometimes. And I would sort of, you know, I train myself to feel that excitement like, oh, this person’s coming, but it wasn’t like the top of my mind. I just put it there with that intention. I felt strong about it. And I didn’t think about it too much. And I knew, I knew that I was working on myself and I knew that I was raising my energy and that I would be able to attract the right person. And when I started to feel lonely, I started to doubt it. I would come back to my breath, come back to my practice, come back.

Kimberly: 24:18 And this is, this is where again, I feel so passionate about sharing the meditations that I do because this process inspired by yoga Nanda helped me get through everything. So the trusting life meditation, I think might be really good for you, Allie, or some of the ones that touch on love to connect in with that energy, because it is our inner state. It is the love inside of us that attracts the love outside of us. And so we just need space with a breakup. You need to work on yourself, recenter, meditate, come back, go outside, go on nature, find community. And yes, you will find love. Love, finds love. So if you remain in your loving state, Allie, you will attract that person, but do not feel desperate, do not feel it has to come right away. Sit in this, take the learnings, know that it is going to be okay.

Kimberly: 25:13 My love time will pass. You will grow and evolve and the right person will come for you as you align to your own highest truth. And then you will find someone. This is what happened to me. The heavy story is that I wasn’t really going out and specifically looking for someone. I felt very relaxed. I was starting to feel very centered in myself. And then I met John, my husband now at a dinner party randomly and right away I could see him and he could see me. And he saw me. He sees me in a way that no one else has ever seen me, Allie. And that’s what you deserve too. So we need to sit and to allow that space of deep healing to come, and then we can attract that partner. So take that time for yourself. My love, I send you all the love in the world. You will get through this. You will be stronger from this and time will heal. So keep in touch with us. And I can’t wait to hear as you progress, as you find your strength and eventually as you find your love of your life would love to hear about it.

Question #4 around the topic of: How to Celebrate Life Even During Difficult Shifts: How do you get past difficult shifts, Kimberly? I lost my father about 6 months ago and am having a hard time finding any joy in life. I’m thankful I have my mom but the sadness seems to cover all the good.

Kimberly: 26:24 All right, my love. Thank you. And now we’re moving into our last question who comes from Leanne and she lives in Montana and she writes, how do you get past difficult shifts? Kimberly? I lost my father about six months ago. And I’m having a hard time finding any joy in life. I’m I have my mom, but the sadness seems to cover up all the good Leanne. I know this feeling too. I, my heart goes out to you. I know how difficult it is to lose a parent. And I understand that this healing is going to take some time. And for me, when I lost my mother, I felt the healing common waves. And to this day, it’s been four years. I do tear up. I do cry fairly often, sometimes about it. And then I go for stretches and periods where I don’t cry. I can talk about my mom’s Sally and I don’t cry.

Kimberly: 27:23 So it’s, it’s a complex process and it definitely goes in waves and it goes and shifts. Um, so the grief process is, um, intricate, intricate, and complex and mysterious and deep. So these are the times Leanne where, you know, sometimes it feels like the darkness is overwhelming, but I promise you that these emotions again, which means energy in motion, if we continue to feel and feel they will move when we sit and then distract or, um, we don’t fully feel, we just kind of like try to avoid in some way, or we keep thinking and prolonging instead of feeling we talk and talk and talk things out. There’s a time for talking and there’s a time for sitting and feeling. And so I recommend giving yourself all the space resting as much as you can. So this may be the time to rely on some sleep aids temporarily, naturally aids like CBD for sleep.

Kimberly: 29:25 Um, no herbal teas, you know, even though you may not want to take it, long-term even melatonin. Certain things, um, are important because I know when this happened with my mom, when my mom passed, I didn’t sleep very well for a long time. And we need that deep to just help us to support us through the period of processing. So there’s some great CBD out there right now that I know can really help with sleep. You may want to look into that Leanne. And then I would just, you know, also all the tools I mentioned earlier, sitting in nature, going outside, you may want to take a few days and take a sacred pilgrimage to a near natural spot. That means a lot to you to do a special ritual or meditation, putting flowers into the ocean, or, you know, bearing something sacred in the, in the land.

Kimberly: 30:18 Anything that feels, um, that resonates with you, ritual and energy can also help with healing I find as well. And so I also remind you that it does get easier the first year and to my mom’s passing was really tough. It does start to get easier. The joy will start to come back and remembering as well, that when we are in grief, just that little reminder that the soul of your father is in a beautiful place. I truly believe the soul of my mother is in a beautiful place. So we have to learn to let go and let that soul continue to evolve. And to know that love never goes away. Love is everlasting. And so then we can have our experience and they can have their experience wherever they are. And it’s okay. We never forget the love. The love is always there and we have a debt.

Kimberly: 31:13 We can create a different connection with them. I feel a deep connection with my mother. I feel her energy. And I know she is watching over it’s different than when she was in the physical body, but it is still a beautiful relationship and one that I will hold on to forever for the rest of my life. And so I like to talk about her now with the children and tell stories, and it keeps that energy alive in a beautiful way. And at the same time, when I pray and connect with her, I, I connect with joy and I say, mama, I know you’re in a beautiful place. And I’m so happy for you. Please send love to us down here on earth, where it’s not always so easy, but in the spirit worlds, I send you so much love.

Kimberly: 32:02 So, um, there you have it again. Sometimes the grief does come up and, um, it it’s okay to feel emotional. It’s okay to feel and to be authentic with that. And it’s okay to feel darkness. Sometimes. I think we’re trying to believe with all of us to be happy and joyful, and it doesn’t, you know, and I call this podcast the feel good podcast. It’s not about just feeling happy. It’s feeling connected. It feels good to feel all our feelings. It feels good to feel the range and to feel, and also to feel the process starts to get easier as well, which will be on the horizon for you. My love. So take all the time. You need sleep as well as you can process meditate out, go outside, rely on your community. Join our Selena circle. If you feel called to, we are here to support you as well. And remember that this will not last forever.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly: 33:05 All right. My loves, this is the deep one. This is a big one. And if you’re going through something right now, personally, I wish you all the love and all the support in the world. If you’re going through a non difficult period, please revisit this podcast. When you do, if you need a reminder, please just keep these tools in your arsenal because all of us go through the ebbs and flows of life. And there are always going to be ups and downs. The quote of the week that I want to leave you with is the sun always comes out again and it feels even brighter and more nourishing after a dark patch. It is true. We go through darkness and then when the sun comes after that time, after we rebuilt or stronger. So it means we can take an even more light as long as we really let ourselves fully feel.

Kimberly: 33:56 We heal. If we don’t let ourselves feel, we hold onto wounds and we get smaller and we let light less light in. So that’s why feeling allows us to strengthen and rebuild and the deepest biggest way. So I love you so much, and I’m so grateful for you and for our community. Please keep the questions coming. You can submit them on Instagram, also on our website, mysolluna.com. And please remember all our offerings are over there. Products, amazing supplements, high-performance skincare, digital courses, our meditations, our Solluna circle. There’s so much over free on the website and also our Solluna app, which I encourage you to check out. It’s free in the app store. I’ll be back here Monday for our next interview podcast until then sending you so much love, take great care of yourself. Remember you are unique and amazing, and the world needs you. I love you and see back here soon.