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And this is a really big topic. It’s a hugely important topic because self-judgment leads to feeling bad, feeling guilty, and feeling shameful. It has a very visceral, very powerful impact on our health, our wellness, how we look, our energy, our ability to be successful in our work and in our career, and even getting along with others.
This is a huge part of wellness – finding peace within ourselves. This is inspired by my new book, Recipes for Your Perfectly Imperfect Life. This is a huge, huge topic in this book. I talk about research studies, anecdotes about all these different topics. Then it refers to different foods and recipes that correspond in the back that your body can help support you when you’re going through something in your mind.
For instance, when we’re getting through guilt or self-judgment, we want to feel into our body. Food, like ginger, for instance, expands circulation and metabolism can be really helpful for helping us get out of our head and into our body.
This is an amazingly different book and if you pre-order your copy now, you’ll also get tons of bonus materials, which is only available through the first week of launch. You can download your bonus materials right away and get started. The bonus materials have videos and audios really focused on getting passed body shame.
Self-judgment is something that interrupts our peace and interrupts our health. I didn’t really figure this out for a long time, but all judgment starts with self-judgment. One of the first steps that can be really helpful is to notice how much you’re judging the outside world. Look at how much we’re labeling. Understand how much we’re talking about it. Listen to how much we’re making casual comments about people’s clothes. Or labeling this as bad or good when we’re watching TV or whatever.
It’s just the beginning of retraining a pattern. Just like retraining ourselves to have Glowing Green Smoothie® for breakfast instead of an egg sandwich. It gets stronger over time. I noticed this because I used to be super judgy all the time. And when I started saying, “Oh, that’s a judgment,” and I started just trying to stop saying it out loud, it became easier to get judgment out of my life.
All judgment starts with self-judgment. We can stop judging so much outside and then we don’t have all that harshness and the labels that we’re bringing into our lives. It can help cool down the judgment all around.
Again, all judgment does start with self-judgment. So we can work that way with food and work from the outside in what we’re putting in to create beautiful glowing skin. We want to work from the inside when we do practices like meditation, and de-stressing, moving our bodies, that also helps create beautiful skin.
The food’s coming in. We’re using great skin care products, of course, but it’s multi-faceted the way that we want to approach things. Same thing with judgment. We’re stopping the judgment going out. We need to work on loving ourselves. How do we do that? That’s one of the hardest things to do.
I just have to say, quickly, this book was meant to be a children’s nutrition book. But after my mom passed, this is what the book turned into. A book about healing. Going deeper into wellness. Feeling good. Feeling connected to yourself. Because I realized after she passed and it was like this sword that sort of cut through that I woke up.
So many people that are into wellness, clients and readers, and myself, we can go through all the stuff. We can be a certain way, we can eat right but if we don’t feel good, then none of it really matters. Feeling good means we’re not judging ourselves. It means we feel more peaceful. We feel we can connect the fact that we’re perfect and imperfect at the same time.
The perfection is just from existing, from being ourselves and being alive. The perfection doesn’t come from what we look like or what we do. If we’re trying to get perfect from the outside stuff, we’re always gonna be miserable because there’s always gonna be more, more, and more.
We can connect back to this peace from meditation. Again, all the bonus materials really center on that. You can start doing this today. Just changing your perspective. Some of the things that we talk about in the feel good circle. The outside stuff doesn’t have to feel as serious or as dire because we’re already to connected to perfection in here.
All I can say is today, meditating, breathing, and trying to connect to this idea that there’s a perfect part of you that you don’t need to add on to, or try to grasp for, or create – it’s already there.
Trying to catch yourself if you’re judging others or if you’re making comments that don’t need to be there. It will start to feel a lot more peaceful if you just get that out of your life. Don’t read gossipy magazines. Don’t read gossipy websites or buy into mean comments online, on YouTube, or whatever. Just cut it out and notice how it starts to dissipate from your life – including as you’ve partnered that with really working on self-love and meditation.
Judgment will start to go away and you will start to feel so much more joyful, and peaceful, and happy, which is your birthright and your natural state.
Sending you so much love. I’ll see you back here soon. Till then, take care. Lots of love.