What is Imposter Syndrome and How We Can Transform It [Episode #962]

Topic: Imposter Syndrome

Hi everyone and welcome back to our Thursday Q &A show. I hope you’re having a lovely week so far. Our topic today is what is imposter syndrome and how we can transform it or transmute it. Imposter syndrome, as we’ll get into in today’s show, is a way in which our tricky minds and our egos make us buy into the lie of self-doubt and not deserving. It’s very mental. And so when I talk about transforming and transmuting this energy through especially this wholeness and this power in the gateway of our hearts, where we come into center, we get out of the mind, and we recenter ourselves in the truth that we are whole and abundant and we deserve all the good that comes our way. And we deserve to have beautiful, amazing accolades and experiences and achievements and successes. And when we keep coming back to center, we keep transforming this very destructive energy of self-doubt into even more of this resonant abundance of grounded self-worth, radiance, and really imbuing more energy into our own vitality instead of depleting it with the mind.

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Kimberly delves into the concept of imposter syndrome, exploring its definitions, manifestations, and personal experiences with self-doubt. She discusses the mental health implications of imposter syndrome, particularly its correlation with anxiety and depression. The conversation also highlights gender differences in experiencing imposter syndrome, emphasizing the societal pressures faced by women. Snyder offers insights on transforming imposter syndrome through self-awareness, heart-led living, and celebrating personal achievements.

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Episode Chapters

00:00 Understanding Imposter Syndrome
05:03 Personal Experiences with Self-Doubt
10:14 Manifestations of Imposter Syndrome
18:00 Mental Health Implications
27:01 Gender Differences in Imposter Syndrome
29:06 Transforming Imposter Syndrome

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STUDIES AND RESEARCH

In 1978 a seminal study in the Journal of Psychotherapy first introduced the concept of imposter syndrome, particularly among high-achieving women. It found that many women felt undeserving of their accomplishments and attributed their success to external factors rather than their abilities.

A 2020 study  in the Journal of Internal Medicine found a significant correlation between imposter syndrome and mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and stress. The study highlighted that individual’s with imposter syndrome often experienced lower self-esteem and higher levels of burnout.

A 2012 Study in the journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking explored the relationship between social media use and feelings of inadequacy. It found that people who used social media frequently often experienced feelings of imposter syndrome, likely due to comparing themselves to curated representations of others’ lives.

A 2021 Study in the Journal of Addictive Behaviors examined gender differences in the experience of imposter syndrome among university students. It found that women reported higher levels of imposter feelings than men, particularly in competitive environments.

A 2016 study in the Journal of Psychology identified strategies that help mitigate feelings of imposter syndrome, including developing a supportive network, practicing self-compassion, and reframing negative thoughts.

A 2006 study in the Journal of Advances in Experimental Social Psychology explored the relationship between authenticity and psychological well-being. It found that individuals who embraced their authentic selves reported lower levels of imposter feelings, suggesting that authenticity can serve as a protective factor against imposter syndrome.

 

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Transcript

Kimberly Snyder (00:00.472)
Hi everyone and welcome back to our Thursday Q &A show. I hope you’re having a lovely week so far. Our topic today is what is imposter syndrome and how we can transform it or transmute it. This word which is very alive for me right now with the fires. Still, I’m just back a few days as I record this for you in our home studio.

And I’m so grateful to be here and I’m looking out over the scorched mountains and hills which are surrounding our neighborhood and home. And there is this very potent energy that I’m feeling right now around transformation. And I want to share this energy with you here right now because this is how we can all bring each other and support each other and bring more awareness to certain things.

And so imposter syndrome, as we’ll get into in today’s show, is a way in which our tricky minds and our egos make us buy into the lie of self-doubt and not deserving. It’s very mental. And so when I talk about transforming and transmuting this energy through especially this wholeness and this power in the gateway of our hearts, where we come into center, we get out of the mind, and we recenter ourselves in the truth.

that we are whole and abundant and we deserve all the good that comes our way. And we deserve to have beautiful, amazing accolades and experiences and achievements and successes. And when we keep coming back to center, we keep transforming this very destructive energy of self-doubt into even more of this resonant abundance of

grounded self-worth, radiance, and really imbuing more energy into our own vitality instead of depleting it with the mind. So going back to all the research that I delved in so deeply when I was writing The Hidden Power of the Five Hearts, one of the things we realize is how much our mental and emotional well-being has an effect on our bodies, on our physical health.

Kimberly Snyder (02:14.54)
So when we’re talking about imposter syndrome, and I’ll define it here in just a moment, talk about the ways in which you can tell if you’re going down this destructive mental pathway, it creates stress in the body. It’s a perception that you’re seeing, it’s like a lens through which you see life, you’re perceiving things, and it creates incoherence in the body. So it’s actually depleting energy from your different energy centers.

from the different functions in your body, from your body’s different systems, everything from immunity to your endocrine functionality, to your digestion, inflammation, so on and so forth. So this is really a total body, total life, total health approach we take here. And it’s such an important topic because so many of us feel what this is like. Before we keep going further in, I just want to remind you that our show notes are at mysaloon.com.

I will link directly to all the research studies we discussed today, if you want to check them out for yourself. I’ll also put links in there to other shows, other Feel Good Podcast episodes, I think you would enjoy, other articles. I continue to write more articles and I’ll produce more recipes around heart-led living. So our four cornerstones are food, body, emotional well-being, and spiritual growth, and really tied together with this golden thread known as heart and heart-led living, which allows us to really be at our center.

and heighten our intuition and heighten our physical health and vitality as we go forth and we make choices and we live our life and we have a family and work and career options and exploration and self growth. It really ties together and I’m so passionate. So please sign up for our newsletter as well. We’ll be having different offerings. We just had a New Year’s today at home heart reset, which is really incredible. We let it for hundreds of people.

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Kimberly Snyder (04:35.128)
Take a deep breath, shift your energy and your attention down into your heart so that you’re listening from this more centered place instead of up in your head. Where often we’re half listening, thoughts are coming in, we’re feeling really distracted, ground yourself. As we talk about imposter syndrome. So our question today comes from Ginny who lives in Seattle, Washington. Ginny, thank you so much for being here in our community.

I really appreciate you bringing this topic to the forefront of our discussion. And you write in, I had a question about imposter syndrome. I’ve heard a lot about it, but what is it and what are the signs that you suffer from it? So imposter syndrome, when we think about an imposter, it’s like this idea of being a fraud, not being who we say we are.

And there was a study back in 1978 in the Journal of Psychotherapy that first introduced this term, imposter syndrome, and it said that it was particularly common in high achieving women. We’ll get into some of the gender research in a moment. But it found that especially women felt undeserving of their accomplishments and attributed their success to external factors rather than their abilities.

So one of the things, before we go deeper, I’ll say on a personal level, I remember when there was a fairly quick transition for me when I was backpacking around the world and living this very carefree life of full exploration, really backpacking on a shoestring, living in certain ashrams in India for one, 50 cents was the cheapest I think I got, one, $2 a day, certain places in Africa, I was just camping.

And just coming back to the United States, landing in New York City in a very tiny rent controlled apartment and just starting to pave a new path forward. And I had an office job for just a few months. I worked at a beauty company that was not in alignment with my belief system and what was put into these products.

Kimberly Snyder (06:59.028)
as well as the corporate culture. I felt like it wasn’t really open and warm and I just didn’t vibe with it. So there is this departure into becoming a full-time yoga teacher and going back to nutrition school and then starting to get nutrition clients and starting a free blog. And then the next thing I knew there was a sort of intermediate, intermediary phase, which was, you know, some time. And then it just kind of

guyrocketed pretty quickly when I wrote the Beauty Detox Solution and I started working with all these different celebrities and I was suddenly on Good Morning America and then working with actors around the world and eventually moving to LA and they’re deaf and the reason I bring this up was there was moments where I was enjoying the journey but there was also a lot of questioning along the way and since then…

up until I would say, really came into this hard work and more into my center over the past few years where I would say to myself, am I really deserving of this? Am I really, should I, you know, am I that special? Why am I always in the press? Why are all these people coming to me? And there was a lot of self doubt. And it’s interesting that one of the things about imposter syndrome is that it manifests.

first of all, in people that tend to be perfectionists, which is how I would describe myself. I often say I’m a recovering perfectionist, but one who strives for flawlessness and feels like a failure when falling short. So if you would describe yourself as someone who has perfectionist tendencies, it may overlap into saying, well, I’m not absolutely perfect, so maybe this success

doesn’t really align with me because I’m not good enough. Another type of attribute to look out for that’s related to imposter syndrome is the superwoman or superman who often overworks. This is always on, I would say, which leads to burnout, which we’re working to constantly prove our worth and our competence. And it never feels enough.

Kimberly Snyder (09:15.362)
So in terms of our heart stages, this would be the propelled heart energy, which is stage two. After we transcend the dark heart, the propelled heart is this constant pushing and moving forward and achieving more and creating. And even when you get to a goal, it’s not really believing that you deserve it because you’re never, there’s never this solid place, right? And the solid place is in our.

hearts. To me, this is really the only core way that we overcome imposter syndrome is where and we’ll talk about some more specific tools at the end of our show today. But we have to start examining how much we buy into the BS of our thoughts and of our minds. And what are we really believing about ourselves versus into the more experiential experience of coming into your heart?

which does speak a different language, and the language isn’t going to be in fully formed sentences and thoughts. It’s gonna be more of this energy of intuition and deeper knowing. And once we start to contact this knowing of our wholeness, knowing of our energy inside, we become less susceptible to doubting ourselves and to believing that we don’t deserve good.

because this is all tied to the lack-based thinking of the mind, right? So we wanna again, transform and transmute these negative, limited, lack-based ideas and filter them through this organ of transformation, which is the heart. And from this deeply centered place, we can start to have a different perspective. And instead of apologizing our lives away,

Instead of giving all the reasons and excuses about why something worked out or didn’t, we start to just be in humble, but also very centered and present acceptance of who we are and acceptance of the good that comes into our lives. So we talked about perfectionism a little bit. We also talked about the superwoman, superman syndrome. Another one is the natural genius I want to bring up.

Kimberly Snyder (11:41.506)
which is this idea that, or belief system rather, that competence should come naturally and one could feel inadequate when effort is required. So this could mean you actually have to learn more, you have to go back and do more work to understand something versus saying, well, someone’s just this naturally amazing, talented singer. So, you know, for example, or entrepreneur and

I don’t have that natural ability, so I’m actually a fraud. And that is, again, a mental idea, an idea in general. It comes from the mind versus this expansiveness of all things, all possibilities, all different ways in which spirit manifests and creates out of pure potential. The Dao De Ching, one of the central themes is to empty the mind of concepts, ideas, identifications.

all the ways we put ourselves in boxes and we put other humans in boxes as well.

So another aspect of imposter syndrome is known as the soloist, prefers to work alone and avoids seeking help to maintain the illusion of independence. So this is where we can sort of cut ourselves off from, you know, sort of this muscled up, I can do it on my own and I don’t need anyone else. Instead of this more collaborative unity, realizing that we’re not isolated beings, actually we’re part of this one

unified field or the one unified heart field. And we don’t have to pretend to know everything. Again, the masks, the pretending. This is all our ego saying to us, you have to be a certain way to be successful. You have to look a certain way to be loved. Just these ideas again, it’s time to be aware of them so we can start to dissolve them and not buy into them anymore. So the last

Kimberly Snyder (13:45.108)
aspect that I want to cover in this section is the expert. So sometimes because underneath we are feeling the insecurity, you may feel the need to know everything and constantly seeking certifications or qualifications to validate their worth. I know someone like this and she comes to mind

And it’s like, you know, you want your friends, you want people around you to be happy. But it started with having all these kids. And then she started to, you could tell, just feel a bit inadequate, just being a stay at home mom. So she kept crying to go to school and get more qualifications. And she always just seems that she’s run.

you know, ragged and she’s never really present with her kids. And then she’s never really enjoying what she’s trying to do. It’s just always more, more, more. And, you know, I wish I could just say to her, you know, just really, you don’t have to do so much. You don’t have to prove so much. You are this amazing, true self. You’re enough just being in yourself. So.

Again, though, we can start to recognize it in others, we need to look to ourselves. And I can say I was in the propelled heart for so much of my life where it was never enough. The achievements were never enough. In high school, I had to be the president of the high school and I was the president of the National Honor Society and the captain of the track team. And it was always trying to load up my high school transcript.

So it would look good to get into college, the college I wanted to get into. And then once I was in college, it was also through that framework of what will look good when I start to interview for jobs. And then there was this huge departure where I sort of threw everything out the window and went backpacking. And part of that was this, you know, an intensity and stress just starts to build up and you reach this breaking point. And I was drinking a lot and I was studying a lot and I went abroad.

Kimberly Snyder (16:08.53)
Australia and this just started to open my eyes when I remember one month a couple months into it I went to Bali I went to Indonesia this was my first time going to Asia and I was just I really got a hard-hitting travel bug bite and from there I was wow you know just I’m not it just broke me out of that one-trackness and then I ended up traveling a lot more and I went to the Philippines and visited cousins that I had there

and just kept going and going and going. So we don’t know how everyone’s journey is going to unfold. I can say for myself, that wasn’t the end of it. There were still glimmers and moments, but it did break. It did pierce the veil for me for sure. When I started traveling the world, my hope is that this podcast will also bring some awareness. Maybe you’re aware that you fall into these tendencies.

that you doubt your own success, that you feel like you’re a fraud, that you feel like you don’t deserve your beautiful life, your situation, your partner, your family life, your job, right? So I’m hoping that this will start to allow for some questioning around why we buy into this in the first place, as well as the tools that we’ll talk about in a moment. I also want to encourage you to send this podcast and share it with anyone that you think

has these tendencies or could benefit. Sometimes it’s nice to hear about it from someone else versus you speaking about it. I know when I think of my friend who I’ll call Charlotte, I wish that she would enjoy her life more and get off the hamster wheel, although we can’t push anyone to see things that they’re not ready to see.

we can share information and see if that sparks something in their own heart and inside of them. So I want to talk a little bit about mental health here because it’s such an important aspect of wellness and the mental health aspect of imposter syndrome really affects our overall wellbeing, everything from our hormones, our stress levels, the cortisol, our nervous systems and so on.

Kimberly Snyder (18:25.858)
So a 2020 study in the Journal of Internal Medicine found a significant correlation between imposter syndrome and mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and stress. This study highlighted that individuals with imposter syndrome often experienced lower self-esteem and higher levels of burnout. So we have to ask ourselves when we are in periods, or maybe this is a chronic state of being for you, I know it was for me for a time.

Why am I pushing myself so hard? Why am I getting to this point of burnout? What is really driving me? Because as we come towards balance and centeredness, we can have a much deeper sense of, okay, I’ve done enough for the day. It’s okay for me to rest. It’s time for me to say no to this. I need to give more time and attention to myself, just feeling confident and that we don’t need to prove so much.

We have to see what is this inside of me that’s pushing me so hard. We need to see when we are not aligned with our hearts, with wholeness, with love, which includes self-love, when we’re not aligned with the truth of our nature, which is expansive energy that can’t be contained. So we just start to notice when we buy in.

And one of the signs and symptoms is self-doubt, constantly second guessing your ability. Watch your language. Do you put yourself down a lot when you’re talking to other people? Do you tear yourself down? And little ways are not so little when they’re chronic and they add up. Just notice how you speak about yourself and you constantly feel not good enough despite constant external validation. You may surround yourself with friends, loved ones.

that are actually exhausted because they had to constantly validate you and these may be very loving individuals, but if you did have an honest conversation with them, you could say, do you think I need a lot of external validation? Do I constantly seem like I’m in self doubt? Sometimes these very honest, frank conversations can be mirrors to you where your loved one can say, yeah.

Kimberly Snyder (20:46.752)
you seem to doubt yourself a lot. And sometimes we don’t see ourselves as much as our loved ones do. So this can be very powerful practice to do that. Another way in which imposter syndrome can manifest is when we attribute success to external factors. And what this means is that we believe our achievements are due to luck, timing, or help from others rather than your own skills or effort. So what this means is that

We say, you know, it wasn’t really me. It was just, you know, the timing of the market or the season, or a lot of people happened to be there at that moment. And so we sort of just dismiss our actual, our, our actual part that we play just from being, right? This is one of the things I talked about in my, are more than you think you are book. I am that I am energy.

which is I’m deserving and I’m confident because I’m here and I’m alive and I’m breathing. And pretty much that’s enough. The other stuff we try to add on on top, what the mind says, well, you’re only worth it if you’ve achieved this. You’re only worth it if you make this much money, if you have created this in your life, if you can have this amount of kids, if you have this type of, you know.

job, whatever it is, right? We start to peel back the layers of what we really bought into into those things can be wonderful and you beautiful things to enhance our lives. But when it comes down to it, I’m enough just because I am. So take that in for a moment. You can say it to yourself, I’m enough because I am. And focus on your heart when you say that I’m enough.

because I am. Because the mind can try to pick it apart, but when you really start to get more clear and coherent and you say this in your heart, there’s a truth, this expansiveness that starts to resonate and you will feel that as a direct experience. Beyond all of the societal constructs, beyond all the ideas, there is this incredible wholeness inside of you.

Kimberly Snyder (23:11.03)
And so another attribute is if we’re constantly fearful of being exposed as a fraud, if people will find out that you’re not as competent as you think, and this could cause self-sabotage in terms of avoiding opportunities to step into the spotlight due to a fear of failure. So I remember early on, I would be sometimes a little bit hesitant to do speaking opportunities and just to…

you know, even take some of the bigger jobs and positions I was offered because of this fraud, know, imposter syndrome. And again, especially early in my career. And so I relate very much to these feelings and perfectionism. Again, I also relate to sending unrealistic standards. Another sign of imposter syndrome is constantly comparing yourself to others.

and frequently feeling inferior, even when evidence suggests otherwise, physical and emotional stress and burnout as a result of trying to meet these unrealistic expectations. so contemplate and reflect to any of these speak to you. Can you relate to any of these? Because of course there’s this whole scale of full imposter syndrome all the time to maybe sometimes it manifests when something triggers you.

or a certain part of your life or pattern is unearthed. Now, there is a 2012 study in the Journal of Cyber Psychology, Behavior and Social Networking that found that the relationship between social media use and feelings of inadequacy were very much related. So we talked about this on other shows how detrimental social media can actually be because it can trigger unrealistic expectations, reality versus the highlights of someone’s life or their edits or their, you know,

Photoshopping and many people feel, performance anxiety that they have to put this idealized version of themselves. Otherwise they will get judged. So one of the things that we can do, especially if we feel susceptible to imposter syndrome is to limit our time on social media and to only follow accounts that make you feel positive.

Kimberly Snyder (25:35.104)
inspired and uplifted. You can mute people, you can unfollow people, give yourself permission to really be your own filter for your emotional and mental well-being. Sometimes we don’t do that and it’s just this onslaught of anything and everything coming into your phone, into your life and you want to avoid that. You want to be more discerning. Remember discernment.

is a heart-based quality. It means that we are able to filter and take in, which is nourishing, which is positive, which allows us to grow, and until we are ready, or we never may be ready, or we just want to avoid certain things, which feel that they are of dark heart energy, especially things that foster more feelings of fragmentation and separation, things that are triggering, things that don’t feel good to our nervous system.

things that we’re still working through and processing in terms of old reactivity or trauma. So we really want to control our social media space and sometimes take breaks, right? We don’t have to be on there all the time anyways and be discerning. Now, something I touched on earlier, and I want to circle back to this is gender differences. So this was really interesting. A 2021 study in the Journal of Addictive Behavior.

found that there were gender differences when it came to imposter syndrome. It found that women reported much higher levels of imposter syndromes than men, particularly in competitive environments. So one of the things that this pointed to was that there was traditional roles that came up. Women have historically been expected to prioritize caregiving roles. So

In the professional sphere, there was often feelings of anxiety, inadequacy, and also conflict around career ambitions, and just a really confused sense of focus and sense of self. The bias and competence perception stereotypes portray men as being more competent or natural leaders, which can lead women to internalize self-doubt.

Kimberly Snyder (27:58.648)
There’s also under-representation. In male-dominated fields, women can often feel the need to work harder, to feel like they belong, that they’re worthy, that they deserve to be there. Again, that burnout of, need to prove, I need to prove, I need to prove. There’s unequal standards. Sometimes women are held to different performance standards, leading them to doubt their abilities even when they excel. Competence versus likeability. Women are often faced the challenge

of balancing competence with actually being likable makes them feel that they can’t be really fully accepted for who they are.

And also there’s a focus on appearance. Even from a young age, girls are socialized to seek external validation, leading to a reliance on others’ opinions for self-worth. Women are also more likely to hold themselves to perfectionist standards, leading to feelings of failure when they perceive themselves as falling short. So there you have it. There’s so many contributing factors.

from our childhood, from society, from culture, from patterns that get acted out in our families, in our schools, in our communities, in our workplaces. And so we can transmute and transform these patterns through self-awareness and through the power of our hearts. So one of the ways in which we can really combat and transmute imposter syndrome is to acknowledge

your feelings. Start to be aware when these feelings are coming in. I feel like a fraud. I feel like I don’t deserve this. I feel like I’m an imposter here. Just start to note instead of glossing over instead of your normal patterns, which might include just working harder, pretending that they’re not there. Just keep going and going and going. We want to take the time to actually settle in and notice your feelings in the first place. And then we want to reframe our thoughts.

Kimberly Snyder (30:04.588)
which means we go to a different place to shift versus where the problem is, which in this case is the thoughts and the overthinking mind. So you shift into your heart and you do the first steps of the heart aligned meditation and some of the heart aligned practices, which you shift your attention. You can even place your hands on your heart. Remember your heart is another brain with 40,000 neurons and you can breathe in and out of your heart.

Kimberly Snyder (30:33.39)
And just take a few moments for this very vital sort of self-care to break a pattern of thoughts. And then once you get more settled, you can start to question your thoughts. Is this really true? And from a more rational place, what’s funny is sometimes we think rationality comes from the brain. And we think that the mind is actually more, the mind, sorry, is more rational and it is…

the heart that is irrational, but actually the opposite is true, meaning that it is our hearts when they’re calm and coherent that can give us more expansive, wider solutions. It can help us to zoom out and see more of a clear picture. So once we get a little bit more coherent, we come into our hearts in these moments where big feelings come up, we can really start to question the thoughts. know, actually, I did play a big part.

in this, I did work really hard and I did have this unique way of speaking about this so I do deserve this success. Or I have worked hard enough today, it’s okay for me to relax or let go, I’ve done enough, I don’t have to keep running and proving, right? So we wanna reframe by coming into the heart and getting out of the head and this is such a huge powerful self-care tip and tool. This is a huge part of heart-led living is to live more from your heart and your heart’s wisdom.

instead of the limited capacity of your brain to guide you into real truth. And then you really want to celebrate your achievements, even really small ones, and acknowledge, even if it’s a smaller project or something like a wonderful recipe that you made, you wanna start building this muscle of actually really celebrating yourself and being…

you know, acknowledgement, taking in compliments instead of being like deflecting, you know, but thanks. But you also have, you know, you also did amazing. Like we kind of do that. And I know I do that too, versus just taking in and letting it fully come into your heart and be felt and be acknowledged and to bask in that because that’s some of that receiving energy of abundance. When we’re whole, we can also acknowledge that we are.

Kimberly Snyder (32:56.878)
meant to receive as well as give. So I also like giving compliments and I like acknowledging and I like being appreciative. And then I also feel coherent, the more coherent I feel, I’m okay also receiving. One doesn’t have to negate the other. So take in those compliments, give yourself compliments and really seek support, find mentors, friends, community members that can be supportive.

but not overly, not being over a crutch. Like I said, if it means that sometimes you seek external validation in excessive ways, I can say this for my Basavaraj John, I can also say to him, hey, I think that I’m doubting so much or I know that I’m asking you so many questions here. And he’ll say to me, yeah, you have to feel good about this. You have to see that this was wonderful. You have to believe in your own success. And that’s the type of support system

that we want to be able to create around us that is honest and mirrors. So I encourage you to really reflect about not just people that are going to be yes people and support, but also people that you can be more vulnerable with and say, Hey, I’m starting, I listened to this podcast on the feel good show about imposter syndrome. And it brought to mind that sometimes I really doubt myself. I feel like a fraud a lot. you know, do I do

Have you noticed that about me? Or does it seem like I doubt myself a lot? Like what are some of the things I say? And you can take that to heart. You can journal about it. You can create more, asking these questions. What’s really going on here? Why do I doubt myself? Why do I always compare? Why don’t I feel enough? You know, and there were pivotal moments, I think, for all of us growing up. And I remember at school and in my childhood where I really started to look outward.

and compares so much. And I really lost a sense of deep connection with myself. And it does get refustered. And I can say how much more nourishment and connection there is these last few years. And once again, since the heart and the brain and the nervous system are connected through coherence, the neuroplasticity applies to the heart-brain neural connections, not just the ones up in your brain. So you can refoster, you can bring this back. And in doing so, as you bring back your heart’s connection,

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and you bring back these incredible ways in which you can really feel the depth of the abundance and the wholeness inside of you and start to doubt yourself less and less. It’s through this examination. It’s through shifting little bit by little bit away from a head-based mental life to a heart-based life.

that this starts to become our new norm. This becomes our baseline where we are less an imposter syndrome and then we recognize it when it comes up and we have the tools to come into our heart and to question our thoughts and to seek that powerful community and to really celebrate ourselves more by more. So it doesn’t happen overnight, but I can say from personal experience as someone with a lot of anxiety, debilitating perfectionism.

You know so much self-doubt so much low self-worth that it really can shift in the most beautiful incredible ways the more we connect in So along those lines I encourage you if you haven’t yet checked out the heart aligned meditation Which you can also check out on our website my saloon a calm to go and really connect with your heart To read the hidden power of the five hearts book which has so much more information about this To check out the show notes once again at my saloon a calm. That’s my

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