Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love [Episode #648]

This week’s topic is: Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love

We all have heard the term self-love, probably a bazillion times, and for many of us, it feels elusive. It feels like this thing that we can’t really quite wrap our heads around. And what happens is we don’t love ourselves and it’s like this illness that runs through our entire being, which causes us to feel not good enough. It causes us to want to chase more and more on the outside, whether it’s chasing more products to feel better about ourselves, more fashion, more clothes, relationships that don’t deeply serve or fulfill us.

We stay in jobs that are not expansive or where we can use our energy. And we know that deep down in contrast, when we are embodied and self-love, it means that every single relationship in our life will change. And it means that we will rise up with deep energy and this wholeness and this confidence inside of us so that we are more aligned.

We are more peaceful. We accept others more. We connect more. More opportunities tend to come our way because of this energy that we’re putting out, which is abundance of love instead of lack. And there’s just a different way of going through life. It just feels more fulfilling, more peaceful, more joyful. It means that we accept where we are. Again, we look with discernment where I can grow, where I need to improve, and at the same time, we’re connected to this deeper place. It puts everything into perspective. It creates more balance. As we get into the questions today, we’ll see how this philosophy can play out in very real, practical, relatable ways in your life.

Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!

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[Questions Answered]

Hannah – Nevada

Seems the beauty industry is finally catching up and is trying to go beyond the surface level when it comes to beauty and wellness. How do we gauge which area in life is worth more of our focus?

Lexi – Michigan

I’ve been raised in a religious household and know I have lots to learn but it seems like self-love is a bit on the selfish side of thinking. Can you share your thoughts on what self-love is to you Kimberly?

Melanie – Sweden

Hate to admit this here but my husband and I have been arguing a lot lately and it occurred to me that if I’m unhappy is this what’s causing me to argue or is it the other way around? I’m so confused that I don’t know the difference anymore. :/

Martina – Spain

I have this relationship with a friend where I feel like I can never truly say what is on my mind. Like I have to keep my thoughts to myself otherwise it will upset her and end the friendship. For me it’s debilitating and I feel like I’m not being truthful to myself.

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Kimberly: 00:04 Hi Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday, Q&A podcast. I’m so excited for our topic today, which is your roadmap to embodying true self love. And this is a huge topic. We all have heard the term self love, probably a bajillion times, but for me, many of us, it feels elusive. It feels like this, this thing that we can’t really quite wrap our heads around. We don’t really get it, how to love ourselves. And so what happens is we don’t love ourselves. And that is like this illness that runs through our entire, which causes us to feel not good enough. It causes us to want to chase more and more on the outside, whether it’s chasing more products, to feel better about ourselves, more fashion, more clothes, more know, whatever it is we get into really relationships that don’t deeply serve us. That don’t really, um, fulfill us.

Kimberly: 01:10 We stay in jobs that, you know, are okay. Maybe they tick the box or get a paycheck, but they’re not the expansive, incredible <laugh> ways in which we can use our energy. And we know that deep down on the contrast and in contrast, when we are embodied and self love, it means that all our relationships, every single relationship in our life will change. And it means that we will rise up with deep energy and this wholeness and this confidence inside of us so that we are more aligned. We are more peaceful. We accept others more. We connect more, more opportunities, tend to come our way because of this energy that we’re, that we’re putting out, which is abundance of love instead of lack <affirmative>, and there’s just a different way of going through life. It just feels more fulfilling, more peaceful, more joyful. And I can say to you that I have had quite a journey in self love just as I’ve had a big journey in food and die it.

Kimberly: 02:26 And my relationship with my body, it’s all interconnected. And even where I was 10 years ago, beyond that 20 years ago, five years ago, I was still attaching so much of my worth and my self love to the externals, you know, to what I’d achieve and what I did that day of that year, what I looked like, all the things out there, and that is not the path to self-love. I’ll just say this now on the top of show, real self love. Can’t come just from the surface. It can’t just come from the ego and the ego. It’s all the way, all the surface stuff, how we look, what we’re doing. And so when we over identify with that, it’s very hard to love ourselves because we’re human. This human part of us is going to stumble along, make mistakes, do things that he or she is not proud of.

Kimberly: 03:26 And what you know, how do we just love that? But when we expand who we are, our definition of who we are, we realize that we are this there’s this human part of us that’s stumbling along. And then we realize that there’s this expansive part of us, the true self part of us, which is infinitely just stable and calm and loving and intelligent and intuitive. And so self love to me is where we understand that we are both of these things. We are human, we are becoming, and at the same time, we are already there. We are whole and complete in the true self. So we love all the parts of us. And we are self-aware. We understand where we need, um, we have more work to do. And then we understand where we are feeling in that expanded place of wholeness. And so we accept that.

Kimberly: 04:35 We accept this human part of us and this divine part of us and all of that. And we, we continue to evolve and we go forward with this deep awareness. So self-love is not trying to be something that we’re not, it’s not trying to make the outside more perfect before we love ourselves before we believe others can love us. We understand that in this moment, we are the, you know, perfectly imperfect creations. Um, my friend Marin would say, we are works in progress, all of us. And that’s true. And so self love though, is that we are okay with exactly where we are and we accept. And at the same time, we know that we are unique and we are this unique creation of spirit and so that we are special. And so we’re all special in our own unique ways. And so when we tune into this part of us, that’s deeper, it allows us to not take the surface stuff so seriously, to not beat ourselves up so much how we look or how something did or did not perform, or how much, you know, where we are in our careers, or how much money we’ve saved or any of that.

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Kimberly: 05:53 It means that we accept where we are. Again, we look with discernment where I can grow, where I need to improve, but at the same time, we’re connected to this, to this deeper place. So it puts everything into perspective. It creates more balance. And so as we get into the questions today, we’ll see how this philosophy can play out in very real, practical, relatable ways in your life. But before we do just a little reminder to please leave us a review on iTunes, if you haven’t yet already, which could literally be one sentence, it’s more about the intention to support the show and to have this beautiful energy exchange. It really does mean a lot. It lead to support. So I thank you in advance and please be sure to also subscribe to our show and that way you don’t miss out on any of these Q&A shows, which come from our community and are amazing.

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Kimberly: 06:50 The questions are amazing. I love just this inner play because so many of us are always wondering the same things. So we get value from just sharing and asking and going on the journey together. This is part of the human experience. And so please be sure to subscribe in that way you have, uh, you know, consistent access to these, um, community shows and our Monday interview podcasts. And lastly, I will say that we are in it. We are in full launch mode right here, right now, as you’re listening to this show today, the launch has begun for the new book, You Are More More Than You Think You Are – Practical Enlightenment For Everyday Life. So if ever there was a tool for, for self love, if ever there was anything I’ve ever put out that I could say, sister or brother, please. This is something that I think will really help you.

Kimberly: 07:50 These are the tools. These are the teachings that have allowed me to create so much of what I’ve wanted to create in this life. Vitality, this beautiful family SA Luna, this brand that I love so much, this podcast was life. This land, where we get to be, and I just love our homes and the environments where we live. I wanna share this with you. I wanna share how you can do it to, because I truly believe in my heart that these teachings and what this book is about should be available to everybody. A lot of, a lot of this is, is ancient and it’s supported by science. So you’ll see this, um, combination of science, ancient teaching stories in the book. And so many of us, you know, aren’t able to access it because it’s a lot of it’s intense texts and it’s from thousands of years ago, which is why I’ve gone through and synthesized thousands of pages of texts. So it is available to you and accessible and useful. So I cannot wait, please order the book for your own benefit. And I can’t wait to hear what happens in your life. So it is available. Now you are more than you think you are practical enlightenment for everyday life can wait.

Question #1 around the topic of: Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love: Seems the beauty industry is finally catching up and is trying to go beyond the surface level when it comes to beauty and wellness. How do we gauge which area in life is worth more of our focus?    

Kimberly: 09:17 Okay. So now let us get into our, our questions today. All of that being said, I’m so excited about this topic. And the first question comes from Hannah, who lives in Nevada and she writes, seems the beauty industry is finally catching up and is trying to go beyond the surface level when it comes to beauty and wellness, how do we gauge which area and life is worth more of our focus? So thank you my love for this question. Thank you so much for being part of our community and just, yeah, just grateful. You know, there you are, Nevada, we’re able to connect. We’re able to exchange so beautiful. So lots of love sister. And when it comes to your question, I think this goes back to our four cornerstones. So here in, in my philosophy and in our Solluna philosophy, we say that self care and love is, and wellness is really anchored in four core pieces.

Kimberly: 10:24 And they work synergistically because our power is in our wholeness. And so we really want to support our energy in a holistic way in order to get the best results. We don’t just focus on one area, let’s say fitness or having a great diet, even because otherwise, you know, what’s going on mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and it’s all connected. So what I would do Hannah is if you’re gauging which area and life needs more of your focus and take out out your notebook, your journal, a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the middle, and then a horizontal line across the middle. And so now you have four quadrants and you can write in, in each of them, the four cornerstones, so food body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. So I recommend that you do a meditation. And of course you can check out our practical enlightenment meditations, which are about seven or eight minutes. They’re free check ’em out on the Solluna website or app. And so after you meditate where your mind is a bit more Jill, hopefully after we meditated and the thoughts and the resistances have started to quell, then you go into your little grid and you can write what comes up. Or you can ask the question, you know, what is going well for me in this area and what is not.

Kimberly: 11:59 So let’s say, you know, with food, oh, since new year’s, you know, I’ve gotten back on track. So feeling pretty good here, or you could say, yeah, I’m feeling pretty good. It’s not going well. So many sugar cravings right now. You know, when you go through each of them body, um, emotions, spiritual growth, which we define here as more awareness, more real self connection of this formless part of you, of spirit inside of you. So not just what you look like, but the real you, the real Hannah underneath it all. And so you can just journal, what’s working. What’s not, and out of these four areas, you can start to see, oh, I’m not really, I don’t really have any tools for emotional wellbeing. I don’t really have a great community. I’m not journaling. And you may see that usually if we’re not really taking care of our emotional wellbeing, there usually is a bit of a struggle with food or with how our bodies look because everything is interconnected.

Kimberly: 13:08 So imagine if you struggle with your mental health and your stress and your feelings, would’ve, it means is there’s this energy that you’re having a difficult time dealing with. So what do we do? We distract, we push it down, push it down with cookies or pizza, or a bunch of chips or third helpings, or we just distract away. We end up watching a lot more TV or doing different things, but it’s gonna manifest. It’s going to imbalance our hormones. It’s going to keep this reaction coming up that can be sensed in our nervous system. So it may imbalance our nervous system. It may cause us to just be so, um, more fearful all the time. We avoid situations, we try to control whatever it is it. So it’s really important that we create this awareness, this, um, sort of check in Hannah, where am I today?

Kimberly: 14:02 Here it is January 20, 22. How am I in each of these areas? And then this little self assessment tool will give you some guidance and let’s say it is emotional wellbeing, or let’s say it’s body. We have so many resources for you at Solluna in each of these cornerstones. So there’s, you know, recipes, supplements for your gut health, yoga series, sleep information, podcasts, you know, an emotional wellbeing. We have an incredible Solluna Circle, our online community, which is super we’re connected. We have a daily chat support group. For instance, journaling prompts, spiritual growth. We have meditations. We put out every, every week. So it’s important that we do this assessment. We see where we are. And I will also say Hannah, that these formless parts, the emotions and the spiritual parts, please don’t ignore them. Or, you know, think that they’re less important because we don’t see them.

Kimberly: 15:04 They are the most important. They drive the other ones. They are the root and the base. If we don’t have a healthy relationship with our bodies or with food, we need to nurture the emotions and the spiritual growth. So this goes back to connecting, balancing our outer world, how much attention we’re putting into the external and how much we’re nurturing the internal. And there’s a very strong relationship in allowing this, um, nurturing on the inside and the outside. The relationship is, you know, with creating real love, real self love, real support that shows up in our lives in more success, more true success, which is always marked by more peacefulness, more and also abundance and always compassion, financial, abundance, love connection. So check that out, Hannah, let me know how you do, and please keep in touch with me. I’m so excited to hear about how your journey continues to unfold. My love.

Question #2 around the topic of: Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love: I’ve been raised in a religious household and know I have lots to learn but it seems like self-love is a bit on the selfish side of thinking. Can you share your thoughts on what self-love is to you Kimberly? 

Kimberly: 16:40All right. And now our next question comes from Lexi who lives in Michigan. Hello, my love. Thank you for being part of our community. I’m so excited that you submitted a question today and your question is I’ve been raised in a religious household, and I know I have a lot to learn, but it seems like self love is a bit on the selfish side of thinking. Can you share your thoughts on what self love is to you? Kimberly? So Lexi, thank you so much for your question. This is, this is an amazing one. This is a big one. And so what we’re talking about here is, is energy. And it’s not about religion. So I just wanna say that off the bat, you can be any religion. You can be no religion, but when we’re talking about spirituality, when we’re talking about awareness, that can be layered on top. It can be integrated, or you may not have any connection to a, in either way. It’s okay. But sometimes we get programmed with some limiting beliefs. And what, what I, what I believe to be true is that we are all unique.

Kimberly: 17:32 We are all creations of spirit. So again, if you don’t like that word, if you can say universe, if you don’t like the word, God, you can say universe or source or infinite intelligence or whatever you wanna say. But to me, this, you know, whatever we came from, when you look around and you start to deepen your intuition, you realize that the truth of, of everything is awe wonder, love miracles. The fact that we’re here alive and breathing and interacting with the each other is just a miracle. It’s amazing. And so this trust of what cannot be measured with science necessarily, we go beyond that because all these tools of science are still tools of the limited mind. So there does come to this, this place of trust and intuition and knowing which comes from our meditations. And so when we love ourselves, there is, it’s not what you’re thinking, Lexi, as far as love in this egoic way.

Kimberly: 18:43 And I think that’s one of the things that’s been called out in some religions is, you know, being overly materialistic, focusing too much on self and possessions, all of that, but true self love is about respecting that we are unique and just being really excited about life. And like I said earlier, Lexi, it’s, it’s going past the ego thing. I’m more than just this form, this bag of skin and bones. What my features look like in my face. I’m so much more than that. I am a creation of spirit. I am that I am like, we talked about last week in our Q and a, I am here. I am a breathing. I am live. And so out of this deep connection and respect comes love. And self-love means I take care of my bodily temple. I take care of my body. I respect myself because I’ve been given a body I’m not gonna, you know, I’m inhabiting it for this time that you’re yourself.

Kimberly: 19:51 Part of us is eternal, but we have this body right now. So we need to respect it and care for it and love it. There’s nothing selfish about that at all. What happens to when we grow in self love in this way, like I was saying earlier, Lexi, where it’s, you know, this ourselves in totality, that’s what self love is. We realize we’re this human part is growing and evolving. And at the same time, we have spirit individualized inside of us. And so that is our true identity, but we have this other part of us. That’s human too. So self-love is loving the total package, not taking it so seriously. And also what happens Lexi is that when we grow way, we become more unconditionally loving. We take away all the walls and all the separation with other people, and we also become more humble.

Kimberly: 20:42 So that’s the opposite of being selfish. Selfish is me, me, me take care of me. I’m more important. And humility is like, we just bow down to this incredible divine connection where we’re all in this. We are all connected. We are all equal. We’re different, but we’re connected and we’re equal. So there’s nothing selfish about true. Self-love not egoic self-love Lexi, which some people may think is, you know, obsessing over and over about your looks or you, you, you, but it’s going in and connecting so that we expand beyond the little self, into the big self and the big self with the capital S is part of spirit. It’s part of wholeness and allness and inclusivity and connection and love. And so I think you’ll really enjoy in the new book. Lexi, in particular, this chapter called you are love where you will get this whole other perspective of activating love as a verb in your life versus this noun or this thing to be shamed about.

Kimberly: 21:56 You need to feel shameful about, but versus it’s the most powerful energy. And so when you love yourself more Lexi, when you connect when true again, truly self-love, you love the whole package connect to the true self part. You love the human part. What, what it means is that you can show up in so much more love for other people. You can look into their eyes and see that true self part of them to connect to the love, the true identity that is in other people, and it will change your whole life and other people will really feel it. And they will feel loved and held by you also. So you will spread the love. You will serve God, you will serve spirit, serve the universe. However you wanna say it by opening up to this love and helping it grow more on this planet. So thank you so much. My love for your honesty and your presence here. I appreciate you very much. And please keep in touch with me. Thank you. Thank you. Okay. My loves. We’re gonna take a short break here. When we get back, we have two more questions for you on this wonderful and important topic. Your roadmap, two embodying, true self love.

Break

Kimberly: 23:19 All right. My loves we’re back from our break. We have two more questions for you on, sorry. Hold on one second. I’m gonna restart.

Question #3 around the topic of: Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love: Hate to admit this here but my husband and I have been arguing a lot lately and it occurred to me that if I’m unhappy is this what’s causing me to argue or is it the other way around? I’m so confused that I don’t know the difference anymore. :/

Kimberly: 23:42 All right. My loves. We are back from our break. I’m so excited to hear two more questions from our community on this topic of really embodying self love. So the first one comes from Melanie who lives in Sweden. Hello, my European beauty. Thank you so much for connecting. We are just does connected as if you are here. Love connection, transcends time and space. So thank you so much for being part of us, part of our community. And you write Melanie. I hate to admit this here, but my husband and I have been arguing a lot lately. And it occurred to me that if I am unhappy, is this what’s causing me to argue or is it the other way around? I’m confused and I don’t know the difference anymore.

Kimberly: 24:35 So thank you Melanie so much for your question and thank you so much for again, being part of our community. Let’s get right into this. So it’s interesting when you ask a question, sometimes some of you and you know, the answer or your intuition points you in the way, or there’s some part of it, that’s like, Hmm. And it’s contained in the question, right? So you’re asking here is, is there some thing in me which is what’s causing all of this arguing? So there’s a couple things I’ll say here. Relationships are interesting and they’re especially interesting. They give us a lot of information and our relationships, as I said earlier, will all change across the romantic relationships with your friends, children, neighbors, every single relationship in your life will transform when you embody self love, true self love. Because what this means is that all this fear that keeps us you, you know, um, picking the wrong partners, wanting to be validated, um, all the fear that we go into relationships with, sometimes it just causes all this disharmony and harmony and, and drama.

Kimberly: 26:04 And it’s not peaceful at all. So no matter if you’re a relationship romantic relationship or not, or where your relationships are in your life, anytime you can put focus and starting to build your true connection to self-love, it will benefit all your relationships and really your entire life. So let’s back up for a moment here. And again, I get into this in so much detail in the new book, you are more than you think you are in the love chapter, which is called you are love. What chapter is that? I’m just gonna reference it here. Um, chapter five. So the way that we go about love, most of us is getting it. You know, we feel single. We feel a little desperate. We have to get more dating apps because we have to get the love outside in a relationship. That’s what we tell ourselves.

Kimberly: 26:59 Or we struggle. Our moods go up and down because we need to get that love from validation, from social media, from people telling us we’re pretty or complimenting us or telling us we’re smart or whatever it is. So it’s not a harmonious way of being, because if someone says something and it doesn’t match up to what we need for, for love, we’re gonna get annoyed. We’re gonna be overly sensitive. We’re going to push people out. We’re gonna have more arguments versus activating the love inside of us as a verb. And we realize that we are the source of our own love, and we never get love from anyone else. Some people may cause the love inside of us to light up, but really it’s coming from the inside. And so when we do this and I’ll give a couple quick tips, we activate, love, love is here.

Kimberly: 27:59 And now love is not something we have to get. So we spread kindness. We, in the morning, we wake up and we give love in the first few minutes, whether that’s texting a friend or a loved one, just to say, we love them or snuggling up with a pet or any of this, we, we start to activate the love inside of us. And then we, we are more grateful. We can do a grateful gratitude practice. In the beginning of the day, we just start igniting this energy through our lives. And so we start to feel the presence of love as a real alive energy and other people start to respond to us differently because we are the source. Not you in lack, we’re not trying to desperately grab for it or take it or get it. So what this means is when we start to connect to the love inside of us, and we do this again through these practices, through our daily meditation, I know I say this a lot, but this is where true self-love is born from connecting to the soul, to the, to this expansive part of you, not just the human part, which messes up and has messed up and will mess up again.

Kimberly: 29:15 It means that we are here to share life, to share love. And so we may have projected some of our needs onto other people, expecting them to fulfill a loss. And we take that power back. We realize I don’t need my husband to understand me because I understand me. I don’t need my husband to agree with everything I say or do exactly what I want him to do or to do the activities that I like, because I’ll do what I like and he’ll do what he likes. He can have his own opinions. I validate myself, this feels good inside of me. I align to what feels good in me. And so it just takes a tremendous amount of pressure off your relationship, Melanie. And again, I don’t know all the details. I don’t know what you may or may not be projecting onto the relationship, but it is often the unhappiness in us, the unfulfillment, the unalign with the true self we’re too alignment with the ego.

Kimberly: 30:17 So it causes this unrest inside of us that is projected it out in more drama, more arguments. You know, sometimes people are, you know, in a different place, they’re going through something. Of course that happens too. But if it’s chronic and it’s long term and underneath it, your intuition is saying, I St. You know, I love my husband. I’m really connected to him. This is something in me, which again, seems to be a little bit of what I’m reading in this question. The answer is in the, the solution is in the question. Yes. Go in and connect with Melanie, go and see the ways in which you’ve given your power away into other relationships that you can take back in, supplying yourself with the love and the validation from inside of you. Me. So connect again, try our practical enlightenment meditations. I’m so excited for you to read the new book.

Kimberly: 31:10 Just step back, ask yourself, sit with it. You know, what’s going on with me? What can I own? What is mine in these arguments? What is, you know, my husbands, what’s the other persons? What is, where am I crossing the line? Where am I being unreasonable? Where am I being repetitive? You know, whatever it is, and just take a real close look. And you might wanna journal about this and get it out on paper, which I like to do, because then it allows me to go back and to, to see things and to build on different is, and it pulls it out of you, so to speak. So you’re putting it on paper. So it can’t just be hidden away in the shadows. So try all of this, my love and let me know how you do, let me know how your relationship continues to unfold. I think you’re gonna love all the tools that I’m providing for you. And so please keep in touch with me and how they’re working for you in your life, in the new book. And yeah. So excited. We’re connected. Thank you. My love. Thank you for your presence.

Question #4 around the topic of: Your Roadmap to Embodying True Self-Love: I have this relationship with a friend where I feel like I can never truly say what is on my mind. Like I have to keep my thoughts to myself otherwise it will upset her and end the friendship. For me it’s debilitating and I feel like I’m not being truthful to myself. 

Kimberly: 32:12 Okay? My loves. And now we have one final question for you. And this one comes all the way from Europe as well from Spain, Martina. Thank you. My love for being here with us and you write, I have this relationship with a friend where I feel like I can never truly say what is on my mind. Like I have to keep my thoughts to myself. Otherwise it will upset her and end the friendship for me, it’s debilitating. And I feel like I’m not being truthful to myself. Well, there you go. The answer is in the question, Martina. This is so clearly spelled out and sometimes we need that third party validation. You know, sometimes it still feels good on the journey. So gonna give it to you right here, right now, you need to protect yourself. You need to care for Martina. You need to build that real self love that says, you know what?

Kimberly: 33:10 Some people feel inspiring and supportive. And some people we just, you know, we don’t have to say anything bad about them. We just say, Hmm, <affirmative> we’re on the same page. We’re not on the same page. It just doesn’t feels a little draining or it just doesn’t really work for me. If you’re not feeling you’re not being truthful to yourself. If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, it’s a sign to shift. You know, maybe you don’t have to give up the friendship entirely, but maybe you, um, manage it so that you’re spending less time with this friend. And maybe when you do see them, it’s in group situations. So there’s less of this, this pressure, this one on one. Um, you know, again, in your words, what feels debilitating or limiting someone is playing out their, you know, their ego, their fear, they’re overly sensitive.

Kimberly: 34:03 You need to put up a healthy boundary because that’s going to cross over into your mental health and your happiness. And part of self love started this acceptance of who we are and the fact that we have this unique energy that we can bring into the world to serve the world, to raise the light means that we can’t get trampled down upon. We can’t put ourselves repeatedly in situations that don’t serve us. And that don’t feel good. So it’s up to us Martina to put up that healthy boundary. And so, you know, really doing it with love and connection. You can say anything to anyone, as long as you’re doing it from this real heart space. So it’s something like saying to your friend, Hey, or maybe you don’t need to say anything at all. You just intelligently, you know, find ways that you hang out less, or if you feel she brings it up to you feel like you have to have some little, you know, sort of, um, confrontation.

Kimberly: 35:06 You just say with love, Hey, I care about you. We’ve been friends for a while. I think you’re great, but I just need to spend a bit more time like on myself right now. It feels good to me to be a bit more inward or just, you know, I’m just doing things a little differently now or whatever it is. So we’re not making the person wrong and we’re certainly not shaming them. We’re not accusing them. We just discern within ourselves with that love, Hey, I don’t feel as great around this person. So I’m gonna do things a little bit differently. And if we come from this place, you know, life expands, healthy boundaries are part of expansion. Healthy boundaries are definitely a big part of self love. So this feels pretty clear. You know, Martina from the way you wrote it out, you can love someone from afar.

Kimberly: 35:53 You can love someone and still put up the healthy boundaries, you to protect your own energy. So thank you so much. My love for connecting. Thank you so much for your question. I appreciate you so much. And I hope if I can get to Europe, one of these days, we can connect in person. It would be lovely, but you know, all the ways that we can zoom and the Solluna Circle, something you may wanna consider to would be really beautiful.

Thought of the Week

So thank you again, and thank you all my loves for tuning in before we sign off, I want to share the quote of the week with you, which comes from the new book. Page 60. You are love chapter one line. Once you give yourself away, you get yourself even more. So the context in which I’m talking about, giving yourself away is having to do with this activating the love energy, spreading the love, helping people, supporting them when you can being forgiving, being understand, being more compassionate.

Kimberly: 37:00 That is who we are. We are at the core. This true self energy is light and love. We are meant to be blissful. I truly believe that our natural state is peace. Our natural state is to be loving and then all along the way, all these things happen in little wounds. They don’t fully heal. We start to close up more and more, but when we give away this love, when we let it flow through us, when love is a verb in our lives, we get ourselves more meaning we, we reinforce our true identity. We align to the love, the formless energy of love, which is the most powerful force on the planet. And this will continue to open up our lives to more peace, fulfillment, abundance, everything that we want and life continues to evolve. So thank you so much as always for tuning in.

Kimberly: 37:53 I’m always here for you. Keep the questions coming. You can also find me on social on our website at mysolluna.com. The show notes will be there with other podcasts. I think you would enjoy. Please be sure to order your coffee. Now you are more than you think you are. You can go anywhere books or sold Amazon Barnes and noble target and so on. You can get your copy. It’ll be shipping now here, and just, um, maybe shipping now or just in the next few days. I can’t wait for you to read it. I cannot wait. This does not feel like my book. It’s the book with these teachings, which should be for everyone. I feel like I am in service to the book and all I want is to share it with you to benefit your life. That is my sincere intention. So thank you so much. My love I’ll be back here Monday for our next interview podcast to then take care and so much love.