Fully Healing After the Death of A Loved One with Theresa Caputo [Episode #591]
This week’s topic is: Fully Healing After the Death of A Loved One with Theresa Caputo
I am so excited to have my very special guest, Theresa Caputo, a Long Island Medium- Theresa has been seeing, feeling, and sensing Spirit since she was four years old, but it wasn’t until she was in her 20s that she learned to communicate with souls in Heaven. Listen in as Theresa shares how she communicates with the dead, creating energy self-care practices and ancestral healing, and so much more!
How young children are connected to the spirit world…
We discuss past life regressions and what this looks like…
Forgiveness and who it’s actually for…
Ancestral healing and clearing belief patterns…
Moving through loss…
Anxiety, depression, and suppressing spirit…
About Theresa Caputo
I’m the Long Island Medium and a New York Times best-selling author. I was born and raised in Hicksville Long Island, and have two children Larry 30 and Victoria 26 and a feisty Yorkie named Louie. My parents Nick and Ronnie live next door and my brother Michael and his family live a few towns over.
I’ve been seeing, feeling, and sensing Spirit since I was four years old, but it wasn’t until I was in my 20s that I learned to communicate with souls in Heaven. When I accepted my gift, I decided to use it to deliver healing messages that would help people learn, grow, and embrace life. I’ve been a practicing medium for over ten years now and tour the country with my live show “Theresa Caputo Live The Experience” and have written four books.
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Kimberly: 00:00 Hey Beauties. Welcome back to our Monday interview podcast, where I’m very excited for today’s guest. She’s a very interesting character. She has a lot of wisdom to offer in a very unusual way. Her name is Theresa Caputo, i.e., the Long Island Medium. She channels, she sees things, and she has chosen to use her gifts to help others. She’s been on “Dr. Oz,” she’s been on many national shows doing readings, she has several books, she’s a New York Times bestselling author, and she shares with us how we can allow spirit to guide us in our lives. She’s a wonderful, wonderful, kind, beautiful woman, and I really loved my interview with her.
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Kimberly: 00:49 But before we get into the show, though, I want to give a quick shout-out to our fan of the week. Her name is alyssany. She writes, “Love. Love this podcast. Kimberly is such a beautiful soul, and listening to her always makes my day.” Melissa, thank you so much. Thank you, thank you for this wonderful review. Thank you for being a sister on the journey; I am so grateful we are on this path together, and I’m so honored I can be part of any day of yours. Sending you a big, virtual hug and so much love.
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Kimberly: 01:34 And Beauties, for your chance to also be shouted out as our fan of the week, please take a moment or two out of your day and leave us a review on iTunes, which is a great way to support the show. I thank you so much in advance. Please also take a moment or two to subscribe to the show; there’s that “Subscribe” button, and it helps you stay on top of the interviews and the Q&A shows, because we get busy and it’s easy to forget sometimes. Subscription is always, always the best option. All right, all of that being said, let’s get right into our show today with the amazing to Theresa Caputo.
Interview with Theresa Caputo
Kimberly: 00:06 Hi, Theresa, thank you so much for coming on today.
Theresa Caputo: 00:10 Well, thank you for having me. This is exciting.
Kimberly: 00:14 You’re out in Long Island, huh?
Theresa Caputo: 00:15 I am. I still-
Kimberly: 00:17 How is-
Theresa Caputo: 00:18 People are so blown away by the fact that I live right next door to where I grew up. My parents still live next door to me. And people are like, “What do you mean, you didn’t move?” And I love the rumors when they’re like, “Oh, she moved here. She bought a mansion here.” And I’m like, “No, I still live next door to my parents in my little 1,300-square-foot house.”
Kimberly: 00:38 Did you ever leave and come back to Long Island or you just never left?
Theresa Caputo: 00:41 No, never left, never left the bill.
Kimberly: 00:44 That’s amazing. We have some team members from Long Island. And I’m actually from the East Coast. Now, I’m in California. But wow, for me, winter was really tough on the East Coast. But of course, New York is amazing.
Theresa Caputo: 00:58 It’s not that bad. It’s not that bad. It’s all where you get used to. I love the accessories for the winter.
Kimberly: 01:07 Well, I’m able to see you, some of our listeners can’t because well, soon, we’re going to be putting the podcast on video on Zoom. Maybe we can meet in person.
Theresa Caputo: 01:14 Yes, that’d be great.
How young children are connected to the spirit world
Kimberly: 01:16 I love your beautiful hair and your Elton John shirt. And you got some real swagger here. So, tell me a little bit, as we go in, I was reading a little bit about your work, a little bit about your background. And you mentioned that you started sensing spirit when you were four years old, which really struck me because I actually have a five-year-old. Five-year-old and a one-year-old. And I look sometimes at my kids, Theresa, and-
Theresa Caputo: 01:43 Are they looking? Yeah.
Kimberly: 01:45 The meditation and I think wow, these kids are so tuned in because they haven’t gotten programmed yet.
Theresa Caputo: 01:54 It’s not so much programmed, it’s on what young children sense and feel. And I try to explain that to people. For me, I don’t know any different. That’s why I share my story at the age of four because I thought it was normal to see things, and hear things, and there’s no one else in the room but myself, or to see someone walk across in front of the television and no one else saw it.
Theresa Caputo: 02:17 I thought that was normal. And it wasn’t until I was almost 30 that I discovered that not only was I sensing my own loved ones, but everyone else’s. Yeah. So, young children are very connected to the spirit world. Same thing with animals because their minds aren’t busy with burdens and guilts. So, I felt that they were sensing a mother energy that if they were looking past you, or above you on a corner that that’s what they were sensing.
Theresa Caputo: 02:45 So, now, a mom for me, when I send some mother soul could be if it’s not someone’s mom, it could be grandmother, it could be an aunt, mother-in-law, somebody like a mom and share that motherly bond. That’s what I felt.
Kimberly: 02:59 So, my mom passed away when my elder son was not even one. And for the first year, Theresa, he would bounce up and down in his crib every morning, he would point to a corner and say, “Lola”, which is the Filipino word for grandmother, and he just saw her everywhere.
Theresa Caputo: 03:14 Well, so know that that was… I think we’re literally two seconds into the podcast.
Kimberly: 03:20 Yeah, yeah.
Sensing and validating the spirit world and if you can turn it off
Theresa Caputo: 03:21 It’s just validating that what he was sensing and feeling was real. Because sometimes what happens as the children get older, they might not notice it as frequently, or it might be in a different way. It might not be like that they really actually, “See them.” That’s why a lot of times kids have imaginary friends. And I would tell people, if you have someone that’s past, show them a picture, and I guarantee you that they’ll say that is the person that has tea with me, or who plays with my stuffed animals with me.
Kimberly: 03:49 And so, can you turn it off sometimes, Theresa? I think about this movie, Ghost, where we [inaudible 00:03:57], but she was like, all these spirits are trying to talk to her, she’s like, let me sleep. So, I would say, do you feel are you able-
Theresa Caputo: 04:09 Ghost and The Sixth Sense were the best ways to portray, for me, how it is. That little boy in The Sixth Sense, that was literally me growing up, but I didn’t know I was seeing dead people. I just thought it was normal. Because no one in my family ever made a big deal about it. I come from a very spiritual family, and a very faithful family. So, for me, it was just like, people be like, “Okay, what is she going to say now? She’s crazy.” And they would just let me say whatever, and just go on with their day. No one ever made a big deal about it.
Kimberly: 04:42 But you see spirits all the time, even now?
Theresa Caputo: 04:47 Well, I don’t see the way we see here in the physical world. I feel more so. So, I feel and what’s happening, so I do feel the mother energy, and she is laboring my chest and my breath. So, that means that they pass through something of heart, lungs and/or chest. And then, did she pass suddenly?
Kimberly: 05:06 Yeah.
Theresa Caputo: 05:07 Because then, she hit me in the back of the head, and then snap my fingers, and snapped her fingers. So, that’s my symbol for where there was a sudden… where she passed suddenly. And again, that’s an interpretation for everyone. Sometimes, even if someone’s loved one is ill, they weren’t expecting them to pass at the time that they departed, or unless of a diagnosis, or an accident is this quickness-
Kimberly: 05:30 She was diagnosed on Valentine’s Day, and she passed by the end of March. So, it was less than-
Theresa Caputo: 05:35 So, that was quick.
Kimberly: 05:37 Very quick.
Theresa Caputo: 05:38 Validating, and I just asked her, I said, “Why was it important to say that?” So, was it something of the chest of what she-
Kimberly: 05:47 Well, he had colon cancer, it spread to her liver, and then her lungs. So, it that was a bit in her chest, but-
Theresa Caputo: 05:57 But you have to understand because I felt the filling up with a fluid and I was having difficulty breathing.
Kimberly: 06:04 You feel it in your own body.
Theresa Caputo: 06:04 I could feel it in my own body. So, they will make me feel how they passed, what it was like for them. And it not wanting you to feel that she suffered to her death. That’s why she’s making me feel, and she’s making me watch the breath. And that’s why it’s important for her to acknowledge not wanting you to remember her in her final days. And she looked at me and she says no regrets. No regrets.
Theresa Caputo: 06:29 She says, because I looked back or I was shown, if I found it sooner, diagnosed sooner, treated it sooner, it would not have prevented my departure. She says I am thankful for that. I did not have to sacrifice a quality of life versus quantity. And I would have always chosen quality over quantity. She says, ask my daughter about the beautiful meditation she has when she sees me. So, did you feel that you connect with your mom when you meditate?
Kimberly: 07:03 Oh, I connect with her all the time. Yeah.
Theresa Caputo: 07:06 And it’s so interesting. I saw her on a ship. So, I never saw this before. So, is there something where you do, or where you have a guided meditation when it has to do with water, or the beach, or where you feel that interaction with her?
Kimberly: 07:19 I talk about water a lot. They’re just like in the Dao, how there’s 18 analogies using water. So, in my first book, I talked about waterfalls versus stagnant ponds. So, I would say water energy is something I virtue a lot.
Theresa Caputo: 07:34 Oh, okay. So, it could just be a validation of that, and your connect… you know that it’s really, you know what it is, what you sense and feel, and you know when you feel her presence. That’s the whole thing why I try to explain to people, what I do is crazy. I’m the first one to say, what I do is absolutely insane. How could someone communicate with someone that has died?
Theresa shares how someone could communicate with the dead
Theresa Caputo: 07:54 And the thing that spirit talks about are personal things that nobody else would know about. No one could tell you how to feel. More importantly, what you’re showing me with your children, I didn’t even know you had children. So, to validate on how they would sense and feel her energy and her soul, the presence of that, to me is just always amazing on how spirit does that. So, whether someone doesn’t believe in someone being able to communicate, you have to believe in an afterlife.
Kimberly: 08:22 Yeah. So, I believe, Theresa, I get goosebumps when we talk about this stuff. There’s the yogic, I’m a yogi, so we talk about reincarnation and all the different lives. So, when you’re seeing these beings, do you get the sense that they’re between lives, or do you get the sense that they’re still here, and they’re transitioning? Or do you get the sense that some spirits can be in two places at once?
We discuss past life regressions and what this looks like
Theresa Caputo: 08:45 Well, the only thing that I know is from my experience, from what spirit has told me, and my experience with channeling the souls of the departed. So, from what spirit shows me is that we have a soul circle. So, once you know how you ever meet someone, and you like you look so familiar, and you feel that connection?
Kimberly: 09:04 Totally.
Theresa Caputo: 09:05 You would connect with them in a previous life because that soul bond, that soul connection.
Kimberly: 09:09 I believe that.
Theresa Caputo: 09:10 So, I’ve had time… so, this is again, something that people also struggle with, well, I refer to them as past lives, some people say reincarnation. I’ve done many past life regressions. And there were times that I’ve gone back into a past life regression, and they’ll have me look in the eyes of someone that I’m in that past life with, and I’ll see someone in my life now.
Kimberly: 09:34 Oh, wow.
Theresa Caputo: 09:35 Yeah. It happened with my nephew. I was doing a past life regression. And I was an older boy, young man, and I was looking for someone in a fire, and I couldn’t find them. And when I found them, the instructor said to me now, look in the eyes of your brother, and I looked in his eyes, and it was my nephew. I saw my nephew. Yeah. It’s because you’re actually looking into the soul.
Theresa Caputo: 10:00 So, from what spirit says when the soul circle is complete is when we reenter into a different physical body to have a physical experience to learn lessons. And I had one validation through a reading with that was I was reading a woman, and her daughter, and unfortunately, the woman had lost her daughter. And I had said to the sister, I said, I feel like you used to see your sister, but you don’t see her anymore.
Theresa Caputo: 10:26 And she’s showing me your daughter now. I feel like I can see your sister in your daughter. And she said to me that she used to dream of her sister every day, every night, and the day her daughter was born, she stopped seeing her sister. It was the one and only time where I saw a soul that reentered into the same lifetime. Yeah.
Kimberly: 10:48 So, do you feel like there’s people that are deceased. And I remember, when I was pregnant with Moses, there was a seer, it was at this dinner party, and he could see the baby around right before it came. Can you do that too? Can you see souls that are coming in, or is it mostly souls that are going out?
Theresa Caputo: 11:08 Well, as someone might say, they’ll show me, like they’ll hold a blanket. And then, if they hold, they place the blanket in my arms, it means that a child is getting ready to come here into the physical world. If they continue to hold the blanket, it’s my symbol for that there was a child that never got the opportunity to physically walk here in the physical world, whether they were lost to a miscarriage or a termination.
Kimberly: 11:31 Oh, wow.
Theresa Caputo: 11:32 And if the soul is safe on the other side, even though we didn’t have that physical bond, but we still have that soul bond.
Kimberly: 11:40 We could have a conversation, and you open to it, but you can turn it off. So, you’re not seeing all these souls all the time.
Theresa Caputo: 11:46 It’s almost like what I’ve noticed from when I started long on a medium, it’s more of because you have to understand, when I put my gift in God’s hands and understood that this was my soul’s journey, I said that I want to use my gift to help people. Because people have a hard time moving on after the loss of a loved one, they carry burdens, and guilts, maybe a should have, could have, would have, and only if.
Theresa Caputo: 12:10 And all of the negative emotions do not give the person the ability to heal. So, I use the work for healing, to acknowledge those things that we hold on to. So, we can fully heal with happiness, and joy, and knowing that our loved ones are still with us. So, I think spirit has learned those boundaries. Some people, I can be in someone’s presence, and they could lose someone, and their loved one doesn’t step forward at all. Or I can sense their soul, but they’re not pushing me enough to say something to them.
Forgiveness and who it’s actually for
Kimberly: 12:38 Do you feel, Theresa… let’s talk about forgiveness for a moment, which is such a strong, powerful energy in so many spiritual teachings. Do you bring that into your work, or does that come a lot? Well, I imagine-
Theresa Caputo: 12:51 Absolutely. Listen, what I do is so much more than me channeling the souls of a departed. It has reunited families back together, families who hadn’t spoken because of a riff in the family, and then someone will come for a reading, and then they’re speaking, or someone being able to say they’re sorry to someone. And forgiveness is really, really tough. Really tough. And I think the biggest lesson in forgiveness, what I’ve learned is that forgiveness is for us.
Kimberly: 13:22 Totally.
Theresa Caputo: 13:22 It’s for ourselves. It is not about the other person.
Kimberly: 13:25 It affects our energy field.
Theresa Caputo: 13:26 Yes. Because we could be so angry. And I say to people, do you think, let’s hypothetically say, I’m so angry at the person that cut in front of me at the line at the supermarket, by me being angry, right? do you think that person is worried about that they cut in front of me, and I needed to get out of the store?
Theresa Caputo: 13:47 And I used a silly example like that so people, because I think when I use simple examples, people really think about it. It’s silly, but it’s like, yeah, I’ve done that before. I become so angry, someone cut me off or beat me at a light. And I wasn’t ready to go.
Kimberly: 14:04 Oh, I know. You feel it in your body. You feel that anger rising up, but that’s the moment where you can make that choice to shift it.
Theresa Caputo: 14:13 A thousand percent. I think it’s so easy to say just let go of all negative emotions that don’t serve you a purpose. But it’s really, really hard to do. It’s really hard. I’ve learned over the years, Kim, that I take a lot of time to create amazing energy for myself. I work really hard at it every day.
Creating amazing energy and choosing who to share it with
Kimberly: 14:39 How so?
Theresa Caputo: 14:41 Yeah, but I’m very careful on who I choose to share my energy with.
Kimberly: 14:44 Yes, that’s a big one, isn’t it?
Theresa Caputo: 14:46 Yeah. And it’s hard. And I think a lot of people have learned a lot over this pandemic of taking care of ourselves. I’ve always been a big advocate for self-care that it’s not selfish. It’s a necessity. These things, it is necessary to take care of ourselves. And that old cliché statement that my grandmother used to say, if you don’t take care of yourself, you’re not good to anyone else. It’s true.
Kimberly: 15:10 What are some of your go-to ways you like to take care of yourself, Theresa, especially energetically? For me, I take a shower at the end of the day. I imagine I’m just post in cords, and attachments, and energy. So, it’s metaphysical, but it feels really good to me. Can you share some of your practices?
We share our practices to take care of ourselves energetically
Theresa Caputo: 15:29 That’s one of mine, too. I connect so well… water is huge for me. I get my best information in the shower. Because I’m at rest. And it is, I’m cleansing, and just imagining all of the negativity, or anything that attached to me throughout the day just to be released. I realized, also, I meditate subconsciously throughout the day. Whatever it is that I just close my eyes, I work on breathing.
Theresa Caputo: 15:58 Sometimes, for me, I know this might sound weird, but I can’t meditate for a very, very long time. Because I immediately go to the other side, and I start feeling and sensing. And then, it’s not about me and what I need. So, I do meditations in increments of 10 minutes. And that’s what works for me. But I also have incorporated in breathing is huge for me that I do all the time.
Theresa Caputo: 16:24 Those moments, if I just feel a little overwhelmed, I literally will just stop, close my eyes, and just be like inhale before out for eight and do that, just three to four times, just to bring myself back in the moment, and remember to live in the moment.
Kimberly: 16:39 Yes, that’s beautiful. I think it’s nice to have those tools. And it doesn’t have to be, like you said, an hour long, just many times to check in, check in with your body, check in with your breath pattern, see what’s going on.
Theresa Caputo: 16:52 And a lot of times I think that people don’t realize that it’s okay not to be okay.
Kimberly: 16:58 Yes. And feel uncomfortable.
Theresa Caputo: 17:01 Right. Well, feeling uncomfortable to me a lot of times is I feel like I’m learning and growing when I’m uncomfortable. When I have to have uncomfortable conversations, or do something that seems uncomfortable. I feel like you know what, I’m learning. I open myself even more because I feel like I’m about to change or learn something different.
Kimberly: 17:23 So, what do you think, Theresa, about this is something that’s come up for me in the past year or two, this idea of ancestral healing. And in this sense, it’s the idea that we take on so many beliefs from our parents, and then intergenerationally, all these ideas get passed on and on. And sometimes, or a lot of times as I started to go deeper and deeper, I think this wasn’t mine.
Ancestral healing and clearing belief patterns
Kimberly: 17:43 This was a belief, whether it’s a lack of belief or anything. And I feel that speaking about my mom, I feel like there’s been a lot of healing, and so much closeness since she’s passed and looking at that. So, does that come up in your work, just helping to clear belief patterns, or just entrenched energies, or I don’t know how you would explain it exactly?
Theresa Caputo: 18:04 Absolutely. I share with people, and I’ll use this as an example, I’m a practicing Catholic. I share that with people because people want to know, but there are a lot of things in my faith that they frown upon. For years, I-
Kimberly: 18:19 Reiki, Reiki is not allowed in the Catholic Church now.
Theresa Caputo: 18:22 No. I literally would go to confession. I go, “Okay, father, I’m still talking to dead people.” This was every Easter. This is what I did for years. I’m like, “No, this doesn’t work for me. I don’t need to go.” I take what I what serves me a purpose and what I need for my faith. And I believe in a higher power. And that’s what I try to tell people.
Theresa Caputo: 18:43 You don’t have to have the old beliefs or say, even an organized religion. I’m using that as an example. You have to believe in something. It doesn’t matter if you want to say God, Yahweh, Buddha, higher power. It’s believed in something more than us.
Kimberly: 19:01 Yeah. So, I was raised Catholic as well. And it’s just a little bit picking apart because I do feel very close to Jesus. I love the unconditional love. I’m also Yogi. So, it’s uniting this idea of spirituality versus organized religion, and feeling that personal connection to God and to spirit every day. I think sometimes, people could look at your work, and say, “Oh, woo woo, or this and that.”
Kimberly: 19:28 But it’s interesting, I don’t know if you know, do you know about Dr. David Hawkins, he’s a psychologist. And he’s written many books that I love, including Letting Go, Transcending the Levels of Consciousness. So, he has this scale for calibrating emotions. And he talks about reason being in the four-hundreds. And that’s a pretty high level, but then to get to real joy, and peace, and love, you have to transcend that.
Kimberly: 19:49 But that means you have to transcend limiting belief that everything can be measured by science, for instance, because it still comes from the limited mind. So, there is this more where, like you said, believing in something else takes that faith, and to someone who is really rational, and really literal. That’s a hard step. And so, they label things as woo woo or that’s crazy talk. What do you say to those people? Do you just accept and forgive them, that’s where they are?
Theresa Caputo: 20:20 You know what? This is who I am. I will give you my whole being of what I always say. First of all, I don’t know a lot of things about anything. I say to people, yeah, I went to DKS University, don’t know shit. I tell my kids college was up and coming when I was young. I didn’t wake up one day and say, “Oh, I think I’m going to talk to dead people for a living.”
Theresa Caputo: 20:51 I don’t mean to quote, Lady Gaga, I was born this way. I don’t know any different. Because when I accepted my gift, and learns how to incorporate my gift within my faith is when my soul felt complete. And I think there might be a lot of listeners out there right now saying, “I want to find that.” That’s soul searching. That’s true soul searching, and knowing your path, your journey here in the physical world.
Theresa Caputo: 21:18 And I know that this was, because I struggled with my gift for over five years. I was like, “God has blessed me with this gift, I have this amazing gift, but who in the world is going to want to come, and see a medium, and speak to the loved ones that have died?” I couldn’t understand.
Kimberly: 21:30 A lot of people.
Theresa Caputo: 21:31 I know. But I couldn’t understand that. And then, once 9/11 happened, my spirit guides came to me and said there are a lot of people that passed and people that are left with all of these unanswers. They can’t heal because of these burdens that they carry. So, I put my gift in God’s hands.
Theresa Caputo: 21:51 And I said, if this is my soul’s journey, then I want to help people move on after the loss of a loved one, to live a fulfilled life with happiness, and joy, and knowing that their loved ones are still with them, and not missing out. And I said, I will walk through every door that you open for me. And here I am. And I don’t know how this works.
Theresa Caputo: 22:11 I’ve said for years, when I start to connect with spirit, I sense and feel things that mean nothing to me, but can be life changing for the person sitting in front of me. And spirits, still, they have me say things that I’m like, “Are you kidding me?” And then, I say to myself, “how did I even say that?” I don’t even have a symbol for that, a sign for that. Because this has nothing to do with me.
Theresa Caputo: 22:33 Spirit is using my physical body as a vessel to validate their presence. And that’s the other thing. I understand there are a lot of common things that spirit could talk about and refer to. Some of the things that I felt while I just connected with you was it was almost like you were like this open vessel and you came in, you’re so open that it was almost like, I feel like I jumped into a pool of spirit.
Theresa Caputo: 22:58 That’s how I felt. But because you’re just so open. It wasn’t intentional. I don’t think that there’s anything earth shattering that your mom needs to say to you to help you move forward. she showed me that you connect with her, and feel her, and just showing me that your children had sensed her soul. You look like you’re 18, I didn’t even know you had kids.
Kimberly: 23:21 Theresa, when you said that you opened your gift, and in the context of your faith, in your religion, how did you do that exactly? Did you find an open-minded priest? Or did you talk to some of the bishops or people? Or did you just, within yourself, reconcile your faith with your gifts? Because otherwise, spirit wouldn’t have given it to you if he didn’t want you to… dare it man, woman, whatever, in India, it’s the great goddess. Whatever spirit wanted you to have these gifts because otherwise you wouldn’t have them.
Finding your gift in the context of faith and religion
Theresa Caputo: 23:53 I did. I reconciled with it with my myself first. I understood that where my gift was coming from. And I let go of the things in my faith that were holding me back from accepting my gift. And I think a lot of people can connect with that, feeling different. I used to say that to my mom. At four, I’d be like I feel different.
Theresa Caputo: 24:14 I don’t belong here. And my mom would be like, “well, you’re not adopted. So, you do belong here. You’re a part of this family.” But I used to say things like that. And it wasn’t until I accepted my gift until I felt complete, my soul felt complete. And then, I knew that this was my journey.
Kimberly: 24:31 Wow, so, Theresa, sometimes when people have a near death experience, or what I saw, my mom the last few weeks, just this peace, and this blossoming of her heart. Because you’re crossing over both worlds, what messages, or message, or messages do you have for us today about being here in this life? And seeing like those that have passed, what is it that we missed out on, or what is it that we should incorporate more of in our day?
What we should be incorporating into our daily lives
Theresa Caputo: 25:00 I think we miss out on those little signs that we get, the hellos from heaven, those little things that happen that we think that are odd, or weird, or we’re like, “Oh, is that a coincidence?” No. If you see something around you that remind you of your departed loved one, know that it is them. Know that that is a little hello from heaven of them.
Theresa Caputo: 25:21 Just saying, I’m with you in this moment, you’re not alone. And sometimes we get it at the lowest points in our life of reminding us, you know what, we’re going to get through this. You talked about the scientific part of it. I don’t know if you’re aware of this, but I did on Dr. Oz, I was on Dr. Oz with Dr. Ayman. He actually read my brain as I was reading someone.
Kimberly: 25:46 Oh, like with brainwaves?
Theresa Caputo: 25:49 Because I always say, I don’t know how this happens. All of a sudden, I have no personal thoughts, feelings or emotions. It’s just I start saying things that spirit is showing me or making me feel. And he said to me that they actually, I’m able to access a part of my brain that we typically don’t. And that literally, it looked like my brain flatlines, like there was no activity, he goes, but you were talking.
Theresa Caputo: 26:12 And it has validating what I felt. And I always say I respect how people feel, I get it. I’m the first one to say it’s crazy. But you can’t make these things up. That spirit has me saying, and to talk about spiritual experiences that somebody had, or how they feel about something.
Kimberly: 26:30 Because there’s so much going through you, how does it feel for you energetically? Are you still feeling normal? You still drink coffee? You still try to get to sleep? Or do you feel extra energized? Because talking to you, you have a high level of prana we say in yoga. There’re a lot of energy. So, I don’t know if that’s manifested, and you have very clear eyes, bright skin, you just feel this vitality going through you, or do you feel you have this gift, but then you’re otherwise pretty normal?
Theresa Caputo: 26:59 I think I’m normal. I think I’m normal. The only thing that I think people find abnormal is my hair and my nails.
Kimberly: 27:06 I love it. I absolutely love the hair. I love the long acrylic nails.
Theresa Caputo: 27:15 It’s actually harder for me not to read. So, that’s why I just blurt things out, because it takes more energy for me to block something. So, if you just go with the flow, and just say whatever it is that I send some feel, I actually feel very energized after I do a reading, especially my live shows.
Theresa Caputo: 27:33 There’re thousands of people. It takes me about two hours to wind down from something like that. I could be completely exhausted, and I’ll start reading, and it’s like I just woke up. Like I have the energy of a five-year-old that just woke up.
Kimberly: 27:51 Can you read something about the person, or is it always the departed loved ones? Can you look at me and say, “Oh, I have some messages for you from spirit?” Or is that a different- Theresa Caputo: 28:01 Yeah, I don’t usually work like that. Usually, someone comes for an experience, spirit will give me what that person needs to hear, so they can heal and move on with their life.
Kimberly: 28:16 Have you ever been frightened? Back to ghost for a minute, that creepy guy, the guy that killed Patrick Swayze, and the demons come, have you ever seen anything that was really scary?
Theresa Caputo: 28:31 So, when I first started working and accepting my gift, because I used to see souls in full form on how they looked here in the physical world. I would be getting ready for work brushing my teeth, I’d look up in the mirror, there’d be a man standing behind me. And then, I put my head down, look up, and then there’s nobody there.
Theresa Caputo: 28:48 And then, I would describe the person to my first client, and they’d be like, “Oh, yeah, that was my dad, or that was my brother, or they always wore that type of shirt. I kept that shirt.” So, what I ask for it was please don’t show… you can’t show yourselves like that to me. So, now, I just see them as far as shadows, and silhouettes, and I feel an emotional bond. And then, it just goes from there. Kimberly: 29:14 So, it’s not, like you said, an auditory message coming in. It’s more like a knowingness-
Theresa Caputo: 29:19 Okay. So, I typically don’t do this. But when spirituals several times, so do you have a daughter?
Kimberly: 29:28 No, I have two sons.
Theresa Caputo: 29:30 Okay. So, were you talking about children, or did you have a dream of a little girl, or a spiritual experience with a soul?
Kimberly: 29:40 Like a little girl?
Theresa Caputo: 29:41 Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Kim: 29:42 Well, I have friends with little girls. So, they’re around a lot. No.
Theresa Caputo: 29:46 No, I felt like it was more it was more for you. So, I’m just going to-
Kimberly: 29:52 What is it you’re going to say? Tell me. Tell me.
Theresa Caputo: 29:54 Well, what I felt. I felt that there was this presence of a child, and then I felt like, which typically, spirit doesn’t show it to me in this way of I felt like, I would dream of a little girl, or I would see a little girl. And I keep seeing this girl with dirty blonde hair, with big curls, and just really long hair. So, I don’t know if you ever had that experience in a meditation, or if it was something that maybe you were discussing.
Theresa Caputo: 30:22 Sometimes spirit will just acknowledge, sometimes people say, “Well, I was just talking with my spouse, and we decided we’re not going to have any more children. Or we were considering maybe possibly having children, doesn’t mean that we should, or that we have to.” It just validates that the soul is present at the exact moment of the conversation. And do you have your mom’s necklace or a necklace that you were in memory, or in honor of her?
Kimberly: 30:49 Yeah, I do have some pieces, actually.
Theresa Caputo: 30:51 Okay, I just asked, my job is always just to make sure that I interpret the information correctly. I never have to understand it. And it doesn’t matter to me if other people don’t understand it, as long as the person that spirit is speaking to understands it.
Kimberly: 31:04 Well, it’s funny, you say this, too, I feel like, and again, I’m saying this publicly, but I have to have this feeling like there’s this soul around, I don’t know what that means. But I feel like it’s a little boy. I don’t know.
Theresa Caputo: 31:21 Listen, everything is interpretation. So, what you’re feeling, is it just sensing of acknowledging what you’re feeling? It doesn’t mean that then that’s what we have to do. Does that make sense?
Kimberly: 31:35 Right.
Theresa Caputo: 31:37 Or is it a fear of you know what, and forgive me for saying this? Well, maybe I would want to have another child, but I would want to have a girl. We’ve all said it, or we felt that way. And is that part of it? If that is something that you want, put the fear, let go of the fear. And just if it’s meant to be. It does it mean that then we… if you feel a child president and like, “Oh, is this what I’m supposed to?” Because some people do-do this that are very connected.
Theresa Caputo: 32:07 They’ll say, “I feel this, oh my God, are they trying to tell me that I should have a baby?” These are our freewill choices. This is something that I am very adamant about, about the work that I do. When Spirit brings up things, it doesn’t mean that this is what we have to do or should do. Unless if it is connected to healing. In something in free will choices those are our decisions. Spirits just validate it if they’re not missing out, or more importantly, validating what we’re sensing or feeling.
Kimberly: 32:35 Do you do get the sense that in the future, more people will open up, their energy will open up to able to-
Theresa Caputo: 32:40 Absolutely.
Kimberly: 32:42 Yeah, it’s just the beginning.
Theresa Caputo: 32:43 My work is I want people to know that they have that connection with their loved ones. You’re very different. You’re very open. And you are literally like a waterfall. You just have all this information. A lot of people, and I’m surprised at that, that people struggle so much after the loss of a loved one. But they’re so riddled with grief, and sometimes burdens and guilt. That’s why one of my books that I wrote was Good Grief. And it talks about all of the points of grieving, you might feel those and you might not.
Kimberly: 33:21 Theresa, what it was for me, I felt like my mom by the end, her body was just, like you said, the fluid is building up. She was suffering a lot. People don’t always say how painful cancer is. But it’s very painful. And when she left, I felt this great peace for her. And I felt sad for me, I realized I was sad for me. And I realized and I say this with compassion. But there is this, I would say selfish.
Kimberly: 33:47 I’ll say this is part of grief that’s like, “Oh, but I don’t get to be with her. She’s not going to watch my son, me, me, me.” And it’s like her soul wanted to move on. And when I started to see it that way, I still loved her and missed her. But it took some of the sting out.
Theresa Caputo: 34:02 Yeah. And it’s true because parents, our parents are supposed to guide us, right?
Kimberly: 34:08 Yeah, totally.
Theresa Caputo: 34:09 Help us raise our children. What’s the next steps in life? Do you know how hard it is for me to read someone that loses their mother at the age of 10, or five, and then having to grow up without… going through so many milestones without their parents? Or what’s the other side of that coin, Kim, of a parent losing a child? Parents aren’t supposed to lose children.
Theresa Caputo: 34:30 Parents are not supposed to bury their children. But the amazing gift that spirit has, is to be able to communicate with us. I want everyone to know that that soul bonds can never and will never be broken. And I think another thing that I learned so valuable, which I wrote, and it’s so interesting. Everyone talks about the pandemic and loses. Two years prior to the pandemic, I wrote a book called Good Mourning, M-O-U-R-N-I-N-G.
Theresa Caputo: 34:58 And it was about that a loss is a loss, and that we mourn every day. And we don’t realize it. When we have big things that happen in our lives, like death or losing a loved one, that is when all these emotions and everything come to the surface. And it’s like a volcano, and we just explode emotionally. I wrote about mourning the loss of an argument.
Theresa Caputo: 35:22 And you know how many people wrote to me, and was like, “I never realized that I needed to mourn that loss or acknowledge the loss of that argument, or a friendship, or a job.” Like retirement, like things weren’t going to be what I thought it was going to be. Grieving and mourning is so much more than just the loss of a loved one.
Kimberly: 35:40 So, what are the steps you recommend in that book to mourn, to feel the feelings and let go?
Moving through loss
Theresa Caputo: 35:47 It’s just moving through everyday losses and realizing that no matter what it is, a loss is a loss. And it’s something that you have to continue to live your life without, whether it’d be a job, whether it’d be a friendship, a marriage, there’s so many things.
Theresa Caputo: 36:06 And it was remarkable about finances, a home, and think about, we’ve all lost something over this pandemic. Some people lost a feeling of themselves. And some people have gained so much as well. I think a lot of people have a different perspective on life as far as gratitude.
Kimberly: 36:26 Yeah, totally.
Theresa Caputo: 36:27 I just hope it stays that way.
Kimberly: 36:29 People could have short memories, right?
Theresa Caputo: 36:33 Yes. Very short. We want to keep it, like it… but it’s hard. And I think that’s the number one thing that people also realize, like you said it also, when I talked about my meditation. I can only meditate for 10 minutes. I knew this works for me. And I think one of the biggest lessons was like, it’s okay not to be okay. You think I have a perfect day, every single day? Absolutely not.
Theresa Caputo: 36:57 And there are things that I have to get reset myself, hit that reset button, and remind myself, okay, you have to start eating better. You’re not exercising. You’re not taking your supplements. And when I have that fat check with myself some days, I look in the mirror and I’ll say to myself, would you say that to your best friend? Would I say that to my friend, what I just said to myself? And 10 out of 10 times, I absolutely not. I would not say that to someone. So, I don’t deserve to say that to myself.
Kimberly: 37:26 Yeah. The self-love, the self-talk, the body shame, it’s so tough, especially for us women. It is, like I said, when I was talking about the ancestral limiting beliefs, I feel like my line was really tough on themselves. And I’m a perfectionist too. So, it’s that shedding of more softness, more showing up, and loving myself no matter what it is. It’s tough to rewire that. It takes a lot of energy.
Theresa Caputo: 37:52 It is, a lot of practice, it does. We have to do it every day. So, if I can remind myself every day that I’m beautiful the way that I am, even though I’m in menopause.
Kimberly: 38:07 Even if you’re seeing all these spirits around you at the same time, it is not part of my image in the mirror. Hilarious. So, Theresa, going back to your work for a second, are you able to see, or they ever come to you, maybe it’s just waiting for them to come, some of the saints, or Jesus, or some of the big spiritual figures from the past?
Spiritual figures of the past
Theresa Caputo: 38:28 I’ll see them during someone’s reading. It could be I’ll see the Blessed Mother a lot if someone’s loved one passed, and they had a strong faith. And again, it’s just my frame of reference. And I’ll say that to them, they’re standing with the Blessed Mother, because it’s my frame of reference. And a lot of times they’ll say, she prayed to the Blessed Mother, or that was her saint, or that brings me great peace because I was afraid she wasn’t safe in heaven are found her way to heaven.
Theresa Caputo: 38:59 A lot of times, I’ll see white and golden light around someone, that’s my symbol for God. So, it all depends on everyone’s beliefs, and how it’s about restoring people’s faith. And it’s amazing on how even if someone has to live a different religion than myself, even speaking a different language. How many times people come to one of my live shows, and someone is translating for them? And as the person is translating, the person is crying. I don’t even understand what they’re saying.
Kimberly: 39:31 Yeah. Imagine if it’s someone that’s Muslim, or Buddhist, or Hindi, the connection, the figures, it’s coming in different ways.
Theresa Caputo: 39:40 Right, right. And what you refer to of an organized religion, of having certain beliefs. I never looked at it that way. I found that so interesting. I never thought of it in that way of an ancestry, but it’s true, we all… because we’re a product of learned behavior, right?
Kimberly: 39:59 Exactly. So, we take in so much, we’re sponges, and we’re children, and we don’t have the ability to discern, “Oh, well, this isn’t actually true.” So, we take on that whatever body shame, not good enough, that lack. So, one last question, Theresa, when I was reading your bio, there was something you mentioned about anxiety.
Anxiety, depression, and suppressing spirit
Kimberly: 40:21 And when you release some of that anxiety, felt you were suppressing spirit inside of you. Can you share a little bit about that? Anxiety is such an issue today for so many people. I know there’s many different forms of anxiety. Share about getting past anxiety, and what you meant by suppressing spirit, and how you know anyone listening to this, as well as your story, you’re able to let that spirit really just flourish inside?
Theresa Caputo: 40:46 Well, first of all, I want to say that depression and anxiety is one of the most debilitating disorders out there, because it affects everyone so differently, like you said. And for me, I sense, and feel how someone is feeling, and also how someone has died. So, for me, that’s where a lot of my anxiety came in, because I could be standing next to someone in a store, and then all of a sudden, I would feel like my chest tightening.
Theresa Caputo: 41:16 And then, I would feel like my throat closing, and I was going to pass out. And that might have been the way that someone had passed. So, I was sensing and feeling that, and didn’t understand it. So, now, whenever I sense and feel things, even still to this day, almost 25 years later, I still say to myself, be gone, you will not have me.
Theresa Caputo: 41:39 If I’m feeling something that I shouldn’t be, if I all of a sudden walk into a room, and I instantly get a headache, I know I’m picking up, someone either has a headache, or someone’s loved one died of Alzheimer’s, dementia or brain tumor. So, I will say be gone, you will not have me. So, I’m letting you know, I’m acknowledging the energy, but you’re not a part of me. It is not my energy.
Theresa Caputo: 42:02 And then, if they start making me… if I continue to feel it, I say to spirit, then place an opportunity in my path to get me to say something. Nine times out of 10, someone walks up to me and says something or promotes a conversation, and then I end up channeling their dead loved ones.
Kimberly: 42:19 Just even a party all the time.
Theresa Caputo: 42:23 Oh, yeah. But you know what? I think it’s because, and you can see it, this is the way that I am. I’m not-
Kimberly: 42:30 Yeah, no, it’s organic.
Theresa Caputo: 42:33 It is one of one of the things that really incorporate my faith with what I do was one of the things was you’re not supposed to bother the dead, correct?
Kimberly: 42:41 Yeah.
Theresa Caputo: 42:42 Did anyone ever realize stop? And I realized one day, I am not bothering anybody. They’re the ones bothering me. I’m the one that can’t sleep. I’m the one that can’t shop. I can’t walk up to someone and say, oh, who would you like to connect with on the other side? It doesn’t work like that. It works where I do my little spoon. When someone comes for a private reading, I do my speech.
Theresa Caputo: 43:06 Spirit knows that that’s my sign, that I’m ready to work. And then, they just start with the information. If I’m out and about in my world, and I sense and feel something, then I know that that person really needs to hear from their departed loved ones. And if anyone out there has ever watched Long Island medium, and this is the God’s honest truth.
Theresa Caputo: 43:24 When out and about in my everyday life, I have never ever approached someone. And they were like, bitch, you’re crazy. Get away from me. Not once. I thought about that recently. And I was like, but because that it-
Kimberly: 43:43 I love it. First of all, I’m also laughing because you have this beautiful happy energy, like who would ever say that to you?
Theresa Caputo: 43:52 Someone who’s like you’re crazy. You’re not getting anybody. You’re out of your mind. People might look at me, and like, “Well, wait a minute,” but then spirit starts having me say things like, “Wait a minute, how would you know that?” That’s the other thing.
Kimberly: 44:07 The issue I think, too, is that there’s so many people that say they’re doing what you’re doing and they’re really not. There’s this woman, there’s this grocery store here called Erewhon. I don’t know if you heard of it. It’s a really trendy California place. And there was this woman, and she was like standing outside.
Kimberly: 44:22 She said to my husband, she’s like, “Oh, I’m channeling the higher spirit of your mother.” And like saying all this stuff, and his mother is in her body still. She’s just like, she seemed like a crazy person. So, the problem is when someone legitimately comes, it’s like, oh, there’s all these other people.
Theresa Caputo: 44:42 But look, you also have to look at it this way. No matter what it is in life, we have good and bad, the Yin and the Yang. No matter what it is, we have good doctors, we have bad doctors.
Kimberly: 44:53 It’s true.
Theresa Caputo: 44:55 So, why should that be different for what I do? And I’m not saying asking anyone to come. I consider it an honor and a privilege to do what I do for a living. And if I can share my gift with someone and improve their wellbeing in life, and they trust me with the souls of the departed loved ones, is amazing. And I consider it such a blessing. I know that sounds weird, but I could not imagine my life any different.
Kimberly: 45:22 I don’t think it sounds weird. It means you’re present. You’re here where you are and what you’re meant to be doing.
Theresa Caputo: 45:28 You just gave me the goosebumps, the chills.
Kimberly: 45:31 No.
Theresa Caputo: 45:33 I think a lot of people struggle to search to find that. You also have to realize I feel very blessed to the way that I grew up. I only lost my grandparents. I was well into my 40s. So, I was very blessed. I still live next door to my parents. My ex-husband survived the brain tumor. And I had all these blessings in life.
Theresa Caputo: 45:58 And I didn’t feel complete, my soul did not feel complete until I accepted my gift. But it is who God intended me to be. We’re born a certain way. Whether we want to believe that or not. I believe we’re born a certain way. And it’s up to us to honor that. To honor who we were meant to be.
Kimberly: 46:18 So, Theresa, do you feel… last question. I could talk to you forever. But in order to honor that, you said we all have this ability. It’s tuning into the inner voice, isn’t it? It’s listening to your heart. It sounds simple, but really, taking that time to go with the intuition, to go with the gut feelings.
Theresa Caputo: 46:35 Think about it. Any time you’ve went against your gut instinct, even if it’s driving in directions, making a wrong turn, and you go against you’re… it usually doesn’t work out. Always listen to your gut. And always look at things, don’t look at things as mistakes, don’t live in the past. Acknowledge what you did, or what the choice of decision was, take what you’ve learned from that.
Theresa Caputo: 47:03 And let go of everything else that does not serve your purpose. Because with everything we learn, and I also view things, as I look at things as things happen for me, not to me. Everything is about opportunity and growing. And the minute that we feel… I learn every day with my gift. I’m learning every single day. And I feel the minute I stop feeling that way, I feel that you’re done.
Theresa Caputo: 47:35 We’re always going to learn. We’re not always going to know everything. And it’s our job to do that, to love, honor and respect ourselves more than anything else in the world. more than any anger, disappointment. And we can be disappointed in someone or something. But we have to love ourselves more than that, than that anger or disappointment. And we have to learn just to respect the situation or a person.
Kimberly: 48:04 Powerful words. Well, Theresa, if there’s anything else you want to add or any other messages for me, otherwise, we’ll wrap up here. It’s been amazing. And I could talk to you forever, really. Theresa Caputo: 48:15 I feel the same way. I want to thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my story, my gift. And just to make people also, to be a little… this doesn’t mean run to a medium.
Kimberly: 48:25 No, no, no.
Theresa Caputo: 48:26 It means just to be open, and look for those signs and symbols to know that those little things that go on around you, they’re little hellos from heaven. And to know that you’re not alone, because I think a lot of people have felt alone over the past year.
Kimberly: 48:39 Sure.
Theresa Caputo: 48:39 I think that it’s important.
Kimberly: 48:44 So, Theresa, you mentioned some of your books, how else… and we’ll link to this, I’ll do this in the show notes. But how else can we find out about you, if someone’s curious, they want to work with you, or they want to check out your work?
Theresa Caputo: 48:53 Sure. I always just say, through my website is the best place, theresacaputo.com, and there’s everything in there, live events, books, my podcast, to be a part of. We have a hotline, 1-866 Hey Spirit, if someone wants to leave a message on why they… or know someone that could benefit from having an experience, and me sharing my gifts with them. Yeah.
Kimberly: 49:17 Beautiful, Theresa. Well, I love your energy.
Theresa Caputo: 49:20 Thank you.
Kimberly: 49:21 Grateful for you coming on. Thank you so much.
Theresa Caputo: 49:23 Thank you.
Kimberly: All right, my loves. I hope you enjoy this very interesting interview today. Theresa is quite a gem; she is amazing. We will link to her books and her resources over in our show notes, over at mysolluna.com, as well as other podcasts I think you would enjoy. Thank you so much for tuning in. Remember to check out our new Solluna app, as well, in the app store and on social at _KimberlySnyder. We’ll be back here Thursday for our next Q&A podcast. Until then, take care, and so much love.