This week’s topic is: Creating Abundance and Gratitude in Everyday Life
I love this topic because I’m someone that has ventured out on my own so to speak. I had this big around the world backpacking trip, which lasted over three years. And I came back with very, very little money. I was very broke, and I really had to create my life from the ground up. I know what it’s like to feel down on your luck. I literally know what it’s like to barely be able to pay the rent.
And I know what it’s like to go into Whole Foods and not be able to get all the organic food that I would like to have gotten back then, because I simply couldn’t afford it. I also know what it’s like to turn it around and to create your outer world from your inner world. Today I’m really excited to share some of the tips and concepts that have really worked for me over the years around abundance and gratitude.
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Diane – Oregon
Right now I don’t feel like I have much to be thankful for. I’m recently divorced, on unemployment and my ex-husband just got a DUI. Life seems like it’s crumbling underneath me. Where do I even begin to create a life I love?
Maryn – Washington DC
During quarantine, I’ve felt like my relationships have all been put on hold. Like, the world has stopped and no one puts any effort into trying to connect in other ways. How can I be grateful for what I do have and stop complaining?
Claire – Georgia
I want to start creating a better mindset around abundance. I kind of feel bad that I want more in my life, when so many people have much less. Have you ever felt this way and how do you rationalize this?
Wendy – Kentucky
Kimberly, do you find it helpful to write down what you’re thankful for in a daily journal? I wish I could remember to take time to reflect on what I need to be grateful for but I dislike writing my feelings down. Will I eventually start enjoying this habit?
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Kimberly: 00:01 Hi, Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday Q&A podcast where all these questions come right from you guys right in the community. So I absolutely love the show. I love to hear what you’re thinking, what you’re wondering about, how I can best support you. And speaking of which, I absolutely love our topic today, which is Creating Abundance and Gratitude in Everyday Life. So I recently did abundance video with my husband, John, if you happened to catch it on Instagram. And it’s so funny because my team had said there was so many other questions coming in around abundance that had come before I did that video. So it just shows how connected we are. And you know, a lot of us have the same thoughts and we have the same questions.
Kimberly: 00:45 I love this topic as well, because I’m someone that has ventured out on my own so to speak. I had this big around the world backpacking trip, which I’ve mentioned to you before, which lasted over three years. And I came back with very, very little money. I was very broke, and I really had to create my life from the ground up. So I know what it’s like to feel down on your luck. I literally know what it’s like to barely be able to pay the rent. And I know what it’s like to go into Whole Foods and not be able to get all the organic food that I would like to have gotten back then, because I simply couldn’t afford it. And I also know what it’s like to turn it around. And I know what it’s like to create your outer world from your inner world.
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Kimberly: 01:36 And so today I’m really excited to share some of the tips and concepts that have really worked for me over the years, and to get into your specific questions around abundance and gratitude. So, before we get into it, I just want to give you a quick reminder to please leave us a review on iTunes. Takes about a minute or so, and it is a wonderful way to support the show. We live in a world now where reviews are so important. So thank you in advance for taking a moment to do that. And please be sure to subscribe to our show. That way you get the shows coming in and you don’t forget about them or miss them. And it’s a wonderful form of self-care as well. And we all get busy and sometimes you may forget to actually tune in for the show. So that way, when you subscribe, you don’t miss out on anything.
Kimberly: 02:30 All right, let’s get into our topic today. I am so excited. I’m thrilled to talk about this. And I’ll say at the top of the show that abundance is something that isn’t relegated to just certain people. It’s easy to look out and say, “Oh, that person has so much, and this person has so much, and I have nothing.” I think abundance is the quality that we can develop. Just like we can develop being more kind, being more grateful, being more peaceful through meditations and other things. I think we can start to shape and hone our abundance mindset. And when we do that, it means that we open up to a whole world of possibilities. You see, abundance isn’t about one specific thing or specific things outside of us. So we don’t want to pin it to one specific opportunity or one specific person.
Kimberly: 03:27 But rather when we have this open mindset, openness, expansiveness is abundance. It means that we don’t close off anything. We don’t close off possibilities. We don’t think things have to look a certain way or expect them to look a certain way. We are open, and in that openness, and we’ll get into it more in the show, other qualities of abundance, it means that we allow more to come in. So there may be ways that we are unknowingly closing ourselves off or playing really small. And once we start to identify that we can start to shift it. So awareness is first. Then we start to shift it and then we consciously and purposely create that expansive abundance, abundant mindset, which is going to help so much more start to come into your life.
Question 1: Right now I don’t feel like I have much to be thankful for. I’m recently divorced, on unemployment, and my ex husband just got a DUI. Life seems like it’s crumbling underneath me. Where do I even begin to create a life I love?
Kimberly: 04:14 Our first question comes from Diane, and she’s from Oregon. And she writes, “Right now I don’t feel like I have much to be thankful for. I’m recently divorced, on unemployment, and my ex husband just got a DUI. Life seems like it’s crumbling underneath me. Where do I even begin to create a life I love?” Diane, my sister in Oregon, sending you a huge virtual hug, a warm hug. Thank you so much for being part of our community. First off, thank you so much for your question.
Kimberly: 04:44 And I love starting the show this way. I think a lot of us have felt these pivotal moments in our life that feel like everything’s crumbling away, that we’ve hit rock bottom. I know that I have felt that in my life, particularly in the period when my mom passed away really suddenly. And then a short time later I ended up splitting up from Bubby’s father and I was a single mom for a period and my life was so not going the way that I imagined or wanted it to go. And I felt like that was really my rock bottom place.
Kimberly: 05:23 So here’s the good news. Once you’re at rock bottom, there’s nowhere to go, but up. And sometimes, and spiritual teachers talk about this. Buddha had talked about this, this idea of suffering creates, it create a leap in spiritual growth. And Eckhart Tolle talks about that as well. When we have moments of crisis, when we have moments of great strain and what we may perceive as negative change, that is an enormous opportunity to create a shift. So what I would say, Diane is, if you just got divorced, congratulations.
Kimberly: 06:06 You know, sometimes people say, “I split up or I got divorced,” and people would wrinkle their noses and say, “Oh, I’m so sorry.” But honestly, if it wasn’t right for you or that other person, it wasn’t a good fit. It frees you to go on to bigger things and for you more aligned things and maybe deeper love, deeper relationships, more time to do the things that you love. And it’s also a time where you can start to evaluate and you can start to think about what your next career move is or what you do want to create in your life.
Kimberly: 06:39 So, first of all I would say, and you mentioned your ex-husband got a DUI, which is interesting because that doesn’t exactly apply to your life anymore since he is your ex-husband. So that also says to me, that seems to be more still entanglement. A little bit of, maybe a little bit more energy connected to him now that you’re divorced than maybe ultimately healthy for you. And only you know the answer. I don’t know. I’m just surmising that based on my experience and creating healthy separation and healthy boundaries once you do have a breakup and you know that you want to not be entangled in that person and their energy. And especially if they’re engaged in negative behavior, like your ex-husband drinking and driving of course.
Kimberly: 07:29 So what I would say is to start with just exactly where you are, Diane, and just take some deep breaths. And this is what I had to do to get up from rock bottom. We’re not able to move up from rock bottom until we accept exactly where we are. When we don’t want to be where we are and we’re thrashing around and thriving around. And you’re just saying, “I don’t want this. This sucks.” We are not creating a point of power, because our power has to come with the present moment. We need to harmonize with the present moment. We need to create acceptance and surrender. And these are Eastern concepts that I know in the West this concept of surrender can feel like giving up, but it’s actually not that at all. It’s this idea of harmonizing again with the present moment.
Kimberly: 08:27 So what I would say is, right here, right now, take some time to honor yourself to create some stillness and to just breathe. There’s a lot of perhaps radical shifts in your life. So just feel centered, just feel still first and breathe and see what comes up out of your body. It’s very hard to move forward until we process negative feelings, negative emotions, stagnant energies in our own body. So you just feel, right? You can start, for me I would start to feel this dullness in my gut. I would start to feel the pain in my heart, the pain that comes from that accepting, from pushing away, from saying, “You know, this is so disappointing. I so don’t want this to be there.”
Kimberly: 09:13 Instead of the thinking patterns, which can keep it in your body, just sit with your body and see what wisdom your body has to share with you. Then whatever comes up, I would recommend that you sit in it and you sit with it and it will start to dissipate in sometimes a few moments, but it comes in waves that could come back and back again. But I want you to start, Diane to just reconnect with your body and to reconnect with your point of power, which is right now.
Kimberly: 09:40 And from that place, from that place, from the most basic, basic things, we can start to create an energy around gratitude for the most basic things. I’m so grateful that I can take this breath. I am so grateful that I got out of a, I’m just saying this, whatever words feel right to you. I got out of a really unhealthy relationship. I’m so grateful that I don’t know what my life is going to be like going forward, but I have space to actually create it. I’m so grateful that I have an opportunity now to have stillness in my life. I am so grateful that there’s openness before me. I don’t want to be on unemployment forever, but right now it’s given me an opportunity to really think about what I want to create in the future.
Kimberly: 10:30 So we start with where we are right now, without trying to shift it, without feeling sorry for ourselves or angry or whatever else. I know those feelings can come and rise. It’s okay to feel them come and rise. But eventually we want to get to the point where we just are sitting where we are. And that’s what I had to do, Diana. It took some time to, like there was so much, and I was just letting it out. And it was coming in waves of crying, waves of anger. And it was the combination of my mom and the whole situation with my ex and I just sat with it and sat with it.
Kimberly: 11:03 And eventually what happens when we sit in stillness with ourselves is we get to a point of acceptance, which leads to a point of peace. And again, this, for any of us that have been through a crisis, I don’t want to say successfully, but we’ve breathed our way through a crisis. You know, for many of us, myself included, I will say that the level of strength that I found within myself, that I connected to within myself, was profound.
Kimberly: 11:34 And I don’t think I would have been able to access that had this period of rock bottom not happened in my life. So once you get to that point of stillness, I would say that the next part would be to write out on a piece of paper, “This is what I would like my life to be.” And maybe you haven’t thought about it without the constraints of the relationship or your current job. But just start to imagine what you would like to bring in, whether it’s an outrageous soulmate love, whether it’s a position, a job in another field, whether it’s taking some time to travel, whether it’s spending time with family. Whatever it is, I think it’s beautiful to be as specific as possible and to really open up the space for possibility. So don’t limit yourself, just think about it, feel it, and then take some deep breaths.
Kimberly: 12:29 And that is the beginning of a blueprint for your future. And that’s something you can start to get excited about. And over time you can start to, once it’s out on paper you can start to see, okay, well, this step would be necessary or this or that. The love part I have a lot to say about specifically. I will do a whole other podcast on that and clearing the path for the soulmate to come in is also something I have to say a lot about.
Kimberly: 12:58 But I would say that create your life on paper the way you want it to be, create that possibility. And that will already start to shift energy into, Joe Dispenza has some research around this idea when we can be excited about the future and see it, and actually clarify it. We can start to pull it into our present reality, even though our present circumstances may look very, very different. So this is a very powerful practice. Get to that point of peace and then imagine what you want your life to be.
Kimberly: 13:31 And then the next thing I would say is to really start to nurture yourself and to nourish yourself. When you are in point of crisis and rock bottom I know that it’s easy to let our self-care practices slip away. So I want you to take another piece of paper and write, make a vertical line and a horizontal line. And in the quadrants put our four cornerstones, food, body, emotional wellbeing, and spiritual growth. And then I want you to just write one simple tip that you’re going to commit to now, to start to really nourish yourself and start to soothe and rebalance and start to amplify by your own energy.
Kimberly: 14:08 So in the food quadrant it could be something like, “I’m going to go back to my GGS, or I’m going to start making dinner for myself again.” Maybe even doing takeout, whatever. Just one step, one tangible thing that you can focus on, and same thing for a body. “I’m going to to go on a 20 minute walk. I’m going to sit in nature for 20 minutes and not think. I’m going to allow myself stillness, whatever it is. I want to take my Detoxy every night to just help clear out any toxins in my body, stagnant energy.
Kimberly: 14:39 Emotionally. Another, this is a really important time, Diane, to nurture yourself emotionally. So this part could be, “I’m going to write in my journal for 10 minutes. I’m going to take the time to speak to a loved supportive one for 10 minutes a day.” Or whatever it is that helps you feel balanced emotionally and mentally. And then spiritually. And this is the really powerful one. The really interesting one, Diane is to sit in meditation for at least, depending on your time, 10 minutes in the morning, maybe 10 minutes in the evening. This is when you can start to connect back into your power. This is how I started to gain power, I went tremendously deeply into my meditation practice when I hit rock bottom. There was a period of months where I just stayed home by myself with Bobby, who was very young and I just meditated and meditated and meditated. In that stillness I started to reconnect back with who I was and with my center.
Kimberly: 15:43 And I had started to feel off in that prior relationship, I had started to feel disconnected. So when I started to do the meditations, I started to reconnect with my inner light, and that was a really powerful point of transition. So again, we have free guided meditations for you over at mysolluna.com. I also put out meditation, short meditations and tips every week on Instagram, which is @_kimberlysnyder. So either of those places, please check out, Diane, or any other meditation that resonates with you, of course. And take care of yourself. Remember that from here on and you are going to rise. Try doing these steps, keep in touch with us and let us know how you do. And I send you so much love and support. You will get through this. You have all the strength in the world.
Question 2: During quarantine I felt like my relationships have all been put on hold. Like the world has stopped and no one puts any effort in trying to connect in other ways. How can I be grateful for what I do have and stop complaining?
Kimberly: 16:35 All right, our next question comes from Marin and she’s from Washington D.C. And she writes, “During quarantine I felt like my relationships have all been put on hold. Like the world has stopped and no one puts any effort in trying to connect in other ways. How can I be grateful for what I do have and stop complaining?” Marin, this is a wonderful question. I thank you so much first of all for being part of our community. And I think that it’s easy to complain. I think that it’s easy to look at what’s not working and to focus on that.
Kimberly: 17:04 So all we need to do here is reframe our perspective. I mean, this goes back to the basics, is the glass half full or is it half empty? And remember that from a quantum physics standpoint, what we focus on tends to amplify and grow. When we put energy and attention on something, it tends again to just expand. So if we are focusing on lack, a lack of friendship or a lack of the communication that we would like, that tends to expand bigger. If we can shift into thinking about or focusing on the time that we’ve gotten to perhaps do our own self-care practices and nurture ourselves, the Four Cornerstones. Just like I was saying to Diane, this is a great time, Marin to dive into the cornerstones whether, and again, I’ll say to you guys, food, body, emotions, spirituality.
Kimberly: 18:01 Since I’ve started doing this work, and I’m really excited to talk about it publicly and to give a system and to give language to it. I’ve always worked with clients with the four cornerstones. There isn’t anybody really that I just worked with on a food basis. We have to talk about lifestyle. We have to talk about relationships. We have to talk about emotions and what they’re feeling and how they’re digesting and all these things. So rather than put all your energy into one cornerstone, for instance just eating perfectly. It’s better to put, to spread your energy into at least one step in the four cornerstones. So you’re treating yourself as a whole person. And remember, in our wholeness is our power. In our wholeness is our beauty. In our wholeness is our confidence and wisdom and all these things that we want.
Kimberly: 18:50 So that I would say, Marin, instead of looking like, “Oh my God, all of this stuff’s on hold.” We know that quarantine is not going to go on forever. And quite honestly, after quarantine you may be drawn to different people. You may want to spend time with certain people, just depending on how you’ve grown and shifted and your frequency and your vibration. So I would say to think about this period as a time where you can really go inward and you can really nurture yourself. And then I would say to seek out if, we all need tribes, we all need community. So find some really positive, beautiful online communities. That may be ones that you can call on, that you can connect with, that you can converse with.
Kimberly: 19:29 We have a really exciting revamp of our Solluna Circle, which is going to be in the form of an app that we’re launching early 2021. So I’m super, super excited about that. It’s going to be very active. There’s going to be tips and tools every day that you can access and community, and I’m going to be doing live circles on there. So that’s a wonderful place for you to connect in. I know it can feel hurtful, Marin for just feeling like, “You know, why aren’t you making an effort, or what’s going on over there?” But I would say not to take it personally. Everybody’s dealing with quarantine and with COVID-19 in a different way. So I wouldn’t make it be about you. Someone may be just going through a lot of anxiety, a lot of stress. We don’t know what people are going through.
Kimberly: 20:15 So instead of creating more suffering for yourself, I would say to just tune that wonderful energy of yours back inward, work on yourself, foster yourself. And again, look for healthy online communities or the friendships that you are feeling nourished from but right now. Just remind yourself, when this is all over, whether it’s through groups or yoga studios or whatever, if you want to shift your friendships there’s infinite amount of wonderful souls to connect with in the world. And so that may be something that you want to pursue later.
Kimberly: 20:49 But in the meantime, you have yourself, you have so much that you can connect with, so much rich resourcefulness within yourself. You can get to know yourself better. You can do more meditation, you can eat healthy food and take care of yourself and love yourself and go deep into yourself. And then everything else, I promise, when the more we work on ourselves on the inside, everything will start to magnify on the outside. Everything will start to feel like it’s falling into place more easily on the outside the more we do that. So thank you so much for your question, Marin. I love this, and thank you for being part of our community.
Kimberly: 21:26 All right, Beauties, we have a short break and I will be right back with you after the break for two more questions on abundance and gratitude. Sorry, I got to drink some water.
Kimberly: All right, Beauties. We’re back from our break. We have two more questions for you guys from the community on this concept of abundance and gratitude in everyday life.
Question 3: I want to start creating a better mindset around abundance. I feel kind of bad that I want more in my life with so many people having less. Have you ever felt this way? And how do you rationalize this?
Kimberly: 22:02 Our first question back from the break comes from Claire, who lives in Georgia. She writes, “I want to start creating a better mindset around abundance. I feel kind of bad that I want more in my life with so many people having less. Have you ever felt this way? And how do you rationalize this?” Claire, I think that this is a great question. I think that, first big, big hug. I love that we’re connecting through this cyber world, even though we live in different states. This hits on something that I think a lot of women, specifically and especially feel, which is guilt. I think as women we’re nurturers, we’re so used to thinking about other people’s needs and looking outside of ourselves to take care versus turning that inward. That this is a common thing to think, “Why should I have more?” And you’re looking at other people.
Kimberly: 22:57 Now, I want you to remember that, I know this can feel like an abstract concept, but in the heart of it, and I truly 100% believe this. We are one, oneness. So what that means is we all come from the same source. Whatever you believe. Some people like Gregg Braden, who was a geologist and spiritual teacher talks about this concept of the Big Bang Theory where we all are, we were connected and then it all kind of exploded outward. So energetically we’re still connected, even though physically we may feel distant and there’s a distance. But there is science that shows that we actually are connected. And I won’t get too philosophical here. I can geek out on quantum physics, but I choose not to at this exact moment.
Kimberly: 23:51 But anyways, what I’m saying is that this idea of me versus you, I have more, you have less, is still this idea of duality and separation. So the shift here in thinking is, “The more I rise, the more I can help my sisters and my brothers. The more I rise, the more resources I have to help others. The more inspiring I can personally be to others to show that they can rise too.” So I have found that, I’ve gone about my work. And as I mentioned earlier in the podcast, I’ve been rock bottom also financially, not just emotionally, but financially when I got back from my around the world trip. And as I continued to rise, there was literally thousands and thousands of women that said, “I want to do my own thing too. I want to be a nutritionist,” back when nutrition was my primary focus earlier in my career. “I want to do this.” So as you rise you can show other women and other people what’s possible.
Kimberly: 24:59 You can help to break through glass ceilings. You can help to inspire. And then you can get to the point where you can also give more and share more in infinite ways. So one thing I’m really, really, really, really excited about, and I will share this with you here, is that we are about to launch a charity T-shirt in just a few weeks, which I can’t wait to share with you guys. I think it’s beautiful. It’s organic cotton. And this whole project was born of the inspiration when my dad sent me this New York Times article that was highlighting how many more people are going hungry because of COVID-19. And I just felt deep in my core that I really wanted me and my team to do something specifically about that, our Solluna team. And so we created this shirt and a 100% of the proceeds are going to go to FoodForward, which is this wonderful, wonderful organization that pairs needy people with fruits and vegetables.
Kimberly: 25:56 And so for every shirt that we sell a 100 pounds of healthy produce is going to go to needy people. And you know, I’d love for you guys to check out the shirt and participate of course, but the reason I also say this, it’s irrelevant to this question, Claire. Is that if I felt guilty about rising up and creating this company Solluna and having a wonderful team, I wouldn’t be able to do this. I wouldn’t be able to necessarily put together this project, right? And through that, through my rising up, I’m able to give some of that out.
Kimberly: 26:29 And so I would think about it that way, Claire, in your life. When you have more abundance it creates abundance for all because others will see you. You’ll be able to give more, we’re all connected. We’re all one. Plus, your being abundant doesn’t take away from someone else. There’s enough for all of us. So we start to think of it that way too. Abundance is infinite. Abundance is all around us and everyone can access more abundance. It’s not that some people have abundance as a possibility and other people don’t. It’s something that we need to tap into and connect to within ourselves. So by doing that, you can inspire many, many other women and people to do the same. So I encourage you, Claire to be as abundant as you can be and share that with the world in all the ways that you can. And that way we can all help each other rise.
Kimberly: 27:24 So think about that, ponder that, maybe journal on that and then let go of all that guilt. Guilt is a very low vibration, negative emotion, and guess what? It doesn’t help anyone or anything. So I definitely, definitely do not recommend going down the guilt pipeline. It doesn’t help. So, hope that shed a little bit of light about abundance mindset, Claire. I send you so much love and thank you so much for being part of our community.
Question 4: Kimberly, do you find it helpful to write down what you’re thankful for in a daily journal? I wish I could remember to take time to reflect on what I am grateful for, but I dislike writing my feelings down. Well, I eventually start enjoying this habit.
Kimberly: 27:52 Last question comes from Wendy now in Kentucky and she writes, “Kimberly, do you find it helpful to write down what you’re thankful for in a daily journal? I wish I could remember to take time to reflect on what I am grateful for, but I dislike writing my feelings down. Well, I eventually start enjoying this habit.” So Wendy, thank you so much for your question. Thank you so much beauty for being with us. And I send you a big warm hug in Kentucky. So a couple things here. I do write down what I’m grateful for sometimes, but what we do as a family, what we do as a daily gratitude practice is we go around the dinner table every night we say grace, and then everybody says what they’re grateful for. Except for Moses, because he’s only five months old. But Bobby says it. I know I say it, hubby says it. And then if we happen to have any tight, tight pod or quarantine circle at dinner, like our uncle, then he will come say it too.
Kimberly: 28:49 And so for me the constant gratitude practice is more of a vocalness, but I think that having a daily gratitude practice and writing things down is something that can be very powerful. And if you don’t remember, it’s a great thing to pair it with another either morning or evening practice. You stack it. So what I mean is, you drink your hot water with lemon, and then you say, “Okay, I’m journaling for five minutes while I drink hot water with lemon.” Or you drink your evening elixir, and while you’re doing that, you’re journaling. So by active making the elixir, then it’s paired with the journaling. So it keeps it as more of a constant rhythm in your life versus something you forget, something you do sporadically.
Kimberly: 29:34 So that’s a great way to remember is to stack these practices and these routines on top of each. So they’re not disparate, they’re not separate, but they tend to flow better. And again, they tend to be more consistent in your life. Now, the next part of this is I dislike writing my feelings down. So while I enjoy doing this habit. So I would explore that a little bit one day, because I think a lot of us are scared to feel feelings. Sometimes feelings can be very scary if we’re not used to feeling them. Sometimes we’re taught and especially in the west to not really feel our feelings, to sort of numb them or distract, watch Netflix, go on YouTube, drink some wine, and not feel what’s coming up.
Kimberly: 30:16 So to me that’s a little bit of a sign that maybe there’s some stuff in there, some wisdom, and she wants to tell you, she meaning the feelings inside you wants to express something to you and you can learn from those feelings. So maybe there’s a deep, deep sadness and you can ask her, “What is the sadness?” And she might say, “I didn’t have this opportunity. I want to pursue this instead.” Or maybe there’s an anger. Maybe there’s, whatever it is. So I encourage you, Wendy. It may not feel as fun at first and it wasn’t fun for me. But now I really do like journaling about my feelings is to just sit with your body.
Kimberly: 30:56 And I said this earlier, it’s someday practice has been so powerful for me because our body holds energy. Our body holds emotions. Our minds can trick us. Our thoughts can play games with us and keep telling us limiting beliefs and validate and justify what we think, but our bodies have tremendous wisdom. So if we can go into the feelings of the body and sit with whatever’s there, it helps to dislodge these energies and it helps us digest them the way that we digest food. We need to process our feelings and emotions so we can release them. And when we do that, we start to feel lighter and lighter and lighter.
Kimberly: 31:30 Now, sometimes it comes and goes in waves, which is my experience with grief. My mom passed over three years now and there’s weeks and weeks where I don’t cry about it. And then like the last few days, I’ve cried three times about it. So whatever it is, we accept it. We know that there’s a healing process and a digestion process so to speak with feelings that is organic and can’t be pushed or forced.
Kimberly: 31:55 So I would just encourage you, Wendy to just see dislike your feelings, but just see what’s in there and explore and just write as it feels good to you, I wouldn’t force it. But you can start to be … You could start with the gratitude part and then as it unfolds maybe you start to write a little bit more about your feelings. But I would sit with them first and just see what feels best to you. Again, as we get going with our circle again in 2021, our online circle, and the new amazing form it’s going to take. I think that would be a really wonderful community for you to join, Wendy because it’s very safe. And I will hold the live circles and I’ve seen so much transformation and just being able to sit together and I will speak. You don’t have to say a word if you don’t want to.
Kimberly: 32:47 But some will come forward and speak. We don’t give advice. We don’t judge. There’s something very powerful about just witnessing, just stating your feelings. So it’s again, something that’s very unusual in our society and the way that we’re raised, most of us. But just something to explore and something to dip your toe into and see what feels best to you. I send you so much loved, Wendy, thank you again for being part of our community and yeah, I just love that we’re connected across the country and across states and around the world.
Kimberly: 33:21 I love you guys so much. I’m so grateful for this community. I’ll end by saying that gratitude really does help. I didn’t say this specifically before, but gratitude and abundance are linked. Because when we’re grateful for what we have now, it’s an energy that’s so expansive and open that it is the openness that allows more and more to come in. So think about abundance and gratitude as expansion and openness. The more open we feel, the more can come in. And when we feel small and limited, and these negative emotions like jealousy and guilt and shame keep us small. So we just want to notice when those feelings come up, we want to ride the wave of them so to speak. We want to let them play out and then we can digest them and let them go. So we want to be aware of them. We don’t want to push them down. We want to have them, let them have their day in the sun so to speak. We want to feel them because they have wisdom to teach us. And then we can start to process and let them go.
Kimberly: 34:18 But the more we do that and the lighter we feel, the more open we feel, and then we will become more abundant, abundant in our ways. Financially, love wise, wisdom wise, all the things can start to flow more and more into our life. We can also start to be grateful. So this practice that I said earlier with Diane, who is at a rock bottom point in her life, like many of us have experienced, including me. When we start to write what we do want our lives to look like, when we reflect on that we can start to put ourselves in the state of feeling grateful for all those things as if they’ve already happened. And that’s a very powerful abundance practice as well. Because when we’re grateful, it’s teaching our body to say, “Oh, I already have it.” You know, because gratitude is usually the end and energy we bring in. “Oh, I’m so grateful this did happen.” Well, maybe it didn’t actually happen yet. But by saying that it’s happened. By being grateful for the future, it helps to bring that in. It’s a really interesting rewiring in your brain.
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Kimberly: 35:21 And if you’re interested in that concept more, there’s a book called, what’s it called? You Are the Placebo, by Joe Dispenza that talks a little bit about this being grateful for future occurrences and that can bring more in. So check it out, try this practice for yourself. And remember that abundance comes from within you. Along those lines. My quote of the week that I wrote down is, “You create your outer world from within, including your abundance.” So I want you guys to remember that. It’s not something you have to grasp, it’s not something people have outside you, like this out here.
Kimberly: 35:58 Create that abundance energy inside of yourself with your abundance mindset and with your gratitude and your outer world will start to change. Things will start to shift for you, but it starts on the inside and all your power is on the inside. Oh, sorry. I love this show. I love these questions, Beauties. Thank you so much for tuning in with me. I send you so much love. We will be back here Monday for our next interview podcast or solocast podcast. I love you. Take great care of yourself. Again, check out the show notes at mysolluna.com as well as all the recipes and meditations, all the resources for you we have over on the site and also on Instagram @_kimberlysnyder. Lots of love, and see you back here soon.