Letting Go [Episode #472]

This week’s topic is: Letting Go

Our topic today is letting go, which is a huge theme for all of us right now. With everything going on in the world, from our plans, expectations and the way life was prior to all of this happening over the last few months.

It’s also our theme this month in the Solluna Circle, letting go for May, and that is our online tribal community program which you can check out on mysolluna.com. If you don’t know about it, it could be a really wonderful support to you right now.

Letting go is such a healing way to proceed. It’s been a big theme in my life. I will say for the last three years since I lost my mom, my life really started to shift. And there’s a lot of healing and growth that comes from letting go. We realize how strong and resilient we really are from the inside out.

Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!

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[Questions Answered]

Julia – Tampa, Florida

I’m having a hard time staying away from being on social media and the news.  I’ve heard your suggestions on limiting tv watching but I literally seem to be addicted to what’s going on, if I am not watching I am thinking about it. Can you share any other suggestions besides throwing out the tv, to get my mind to stop racing?

Allison – San Francisco, CA

My daughter was due to get married in May and her plans have been changed with everything that is going on.  She is heart-broken. Are there any tips I can share with her to help take the edge off the worry and disappointment she is feeling?

Michelle – Newburyport, MA

Can you share how these last few months have affected you the most behind the scenes? How have you dealt with things personally and professionally?

Sue – Scotdate, GA

How do I let go of the fact that I may not graduate when I thought? I know there are worse things in this world but I can’t help but think of my future and what will really happen. Any advice to calm the anxiety?

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Kimberly: Hey Beauties. Welcome back to our Thursday Q&A podcast. Our topic today is Letting Go, which is a huge theme for all of us right now. With everything going on in the world, everything from our plans, expectations, the way that we have life going on prior to all this that’s been happening over the last few months now. So this is also such an important topic. It’s also our theme this month in the Solluna Circle, letting go for May, and that is our online tribal community program which you can check out on mysolluna.com. If you don’t know about it, it could be a really wonderful support to you right now. So just wanted to give that quick shout-out before we go into today’s topic.

Kimberly: Letting go is such a healing way to proceed. It’s been a big theme in my life I will say for the last three years since I lost my mom and my life really started to shift. And there’s a lot of healing and a lot of growth that comes from letting go, and we realize how strong and resilient that we really are from the inside out. So I cannot wait to hear all your questions around this today.

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Kimberly: All right. We have our amazing, beautiful Katelyn with us who just moved to Virginia. I’m so used to saying, K, out in New York. But Katelyn who is in Virginia. She’s been with me since the beginning. She is our general manager of Solluna. Hi, K? How’s it going down there in Virginia?

Katelyn: It’s going well. I have to say I love New York and Long Island where I grew up, but I really enjoy the weather doing here. It’s just more …

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: I know the summer will be rough for me. I know you like the heat, K, but I don’t like it quite as hot as it gets down here, but I have to say spring’s been really lovely and my mood has been just so much better since moving down here. I think I sent you a picture the other day of just there’s lush greenery. It’s just like the ocean. Everything. So I’m doing pretty well. A little stir-crazy, to be honest. I’m feeling it. But other than that, doing pretty well.

Kimberly: Yeah. It’s starting to feel, for me, like a new normal.

Katelyn: Yeah.

Kimberly: And to be honest, there was more resistance for me a couple weeks ago. But oh my gosh, Bubby’s not in preschool. This is so hard. But now, I’ve just sort of resigned to it. I just feel like my days, because of that, are more chaotic, and I can’t get ahead as much as I want to, and the house is definitely a lot more messy than I want it to be, but I just feel … We’re so resilient as humans and things … We adapt. So now that it’s been going on for this long, it’s sort of in a weird way starting to feel normal this way.

Kimberly: And listen, I know when things get back up and running it’s going to feel good to be able to hug friends, of course, and do play dates again, and Bubby to go to school and see his friends and all this great stuff. But right now, I also do feel quite insular because I am so pregnant. We have less than a month to go. And by the way, happy early Mother’s Day to all the mamas out there. Sending you good vibes. Hope you have a wonderful, relaxing day and time with your loved ones. If you’re separated from your loved ones, if your kids have grown that you get to connect over video somehow. Sending all the mamas lots of love.

Kimberly: But yeah, it’s kind of interesting, but kind of an amazing time to be pregnant right now, K. Because at postpartum after this baby is born in a few weeks, you’re home anyway. So you’re already in quarantine. So in a weird way it’s sort of … I don’t know. It’s sort of a nice time. Definitely been able to bond a lot, Bubby and me. Me and Bubby were just home all the time. We’re playing in the yard. We’re gardening together. There’s been this huge simplification of life so we’ve just been spending all this time together. And I have to say that my gratitude levels or simple everyday things has definitely gone up.

Katelyn: Yeah, it’s interesting. I was reading an article on Facebook the other day that was talking about that with the blessing of having children during this time and things like that where you just … I think it’s all about perspective. We’ve been talking about that a lot the last few weeks of just changing your perspective. But I think we are survivors. We are molded that way to just do whatever we need to do to survive. So I think it makes sense that we adapt and overcome to these situations that are thrown at us. And I agree, when we … The less resistance we have, the easier it is on ourselves. Easier said than done. But whenever we can create that little bit of break for ourselves, then things don’t feel so bad because we have to just get through it so …

Kimberly: Exactly.

Katelyn: Well, speaking of all of this and letting go, the Beauties have been writing in. There’s a lot of questions just on a lot of different topics. I feel like we can just dive right in and-

Kimberly: Sure.

Question 1: I’ve heard your suggestions on limiting TV watching, but I literally seem to be addicted to what’s going on. If I’m not watching, I’m thinking about it. Can you share any other suggestions besides throwing out the TV to get my mind to stop racing?

Katelyn: … see if you have some tips to help them out. All right. We have Julia living in Tampa, Florida. I’m having a hard time from staying away from being on social media and the news. I’ve heard your suggestions on limiting TV watching, but I literally seem to be addicted to what’s going on. If I’m not watching, I’m thinking about it. Can you share any other suggestions besides throwing out the TV to get my mind to stop racing?

Kimberly: Julia, thank you so much for your question. I’m sending you lots of love in sunny Florida, which is a place that I love. I have a little house near Tampa, and I grew up going to Tampa because my grandparents were from there. I do feel a heart connection over there. Sending you lots of love. I can just imagine the beautiful tropical vibe right now. I think it’s the season when the thunderstorms start to come in. Really, I love Florida.

Kimberly: So back to your question, though, about social media and the news. This is very normal and common, Julia. We’re grasping for trying to figure out some sense of security, and answers, and wanting things to be the way they were, and wanting things to get back to normal so we keep looking for that externally. And what I would say to you is it can feel very addicting to grasp for that assurance, and it’s sort of like any sort of addiction, whether it’s chocolate, or food, or wine, or alcohol, or whatever it is. It’s something outside of ourselves. So what I think would be really wonderful is if we start to focus, for you, on some practices to really anchor in turning the energy inward because you’re home, because you’re quarantined because this is a great time to work on more self-reliance. And they don’t have to be … You still will probably be on the news to an extent and social media, but if we start to create some structure and practices, especially from the morning up, I think that’s going to help anchor you in to a focus. It’s not just outward, outward, outward but also going into yourself.

Kimberly: The way that you start the day here we teach in Solluna is to really sit in your body, and breathe, and do, even if it’s a few moments of meditation in the morning or at least some sort of breath practice before you go on social media. So I want you to remember that how we start anything has an impact on the whole thing, the whole process, and that’s very much true of our day. So if we start the day from a very grounded place where you’re breathing in you’re in your body and you’re going to … you feel more connected inward, you’re already off to a really great start. So I would suggest really getting into … We have led meditations, free meditations over at mysolluna.com. You can check some of those out. You could do that. Take your SBO probiotics. Drink your hot water with lemon, ground into your body, fiber-filled GGS. Really set up your morning in a way where even if you do a quick sweep of the news headlines or social media you’re focusing, you’ve created a structure and a practice for really going inward.

Kimberly: Now, I would suggest that … It’s almost like with Bubby, with my toddler. There’s only certain times where I let him watch videos. We don’t own a TV, and he doesn’t watch movies, but he likes these little dinosaur videos on YouTube. There are certain junctures in the day where he’s allowed to have them. Sometimes I think how as adults the structure that we give our children could really benefit us, like having a full evening routine, for instance. And I think in your case, Julia, it’s a really great idea. Let’s say you do a sweep on your phone of headlines and social media but to not actually turn on the TV, which is very in your face, visual, loud until X time. So let’s say, I don’t know, I’m just making this up, two in the afternoon, or three in the afternoon, or four, or noon, or whatever it is. You decide there’s a time and you just create that boundary for yourself.

Kimberly: Right now, there’s so much … There’s a gift in this time. It’s unstructured, but it’s up to us to create healthy boundaries, I think, and healthy structures within all that time that we’ve been gifted. So I would just say start the day off on a really strong foot. Start with going inward. And also create that evening practice with a journaling time, a come-down time, maybe a hot bath or a hot shower, elixir. Really anchor and end the day. Then just small simply steps. Just say to yourself, “Hey, I’m not going to turn on the TV until,” whatever time you decide. And that already is going to help break that addiction. It’s going to start to feel, I think, a lot healthier because you’re spending more energy going inward instead of constantly dissipating the energy out.

Kimberly: And honestly, as we’ve talked about a lot before and we always continue to talk about, we’re not going to get a sense, a deep sense of security from the outside world. The outside world is always shifting and changing, and that is the letting go, healing I think we’re experiencing as the collective is it doesn’t come from that and will never come from that. So this is where tuning in really connects us to our deep security, our deep strength, our deep foundation which is inside each and every one of us, the thing that doesn’t change as we age or with the outside circumstances. There’s a center. There’s a deep, deep center to all of us, and we can connect to it through our four cornerstone lifestyle, with our food-body emotional well-being and spiritual growth practices, including meditation, healthy food, grounding, all the things that we teach, all the things we talk about here, journaling. This is a really great time to work on that.

Katelyn: That is a reminder that all of us need being home and having access to everything. Some people may have been used to being at work so maybe they wouldn’t pull out their phone as much because they’re home and no one’s watching.

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: I know for me I started leaving my phone in the other room or I would just put it on-

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: … do not disturb or set 20 minute timers. I was like, “Okay, for this 20 minutes on working on this. So if anybody reaches out to me, I have to do this.” So it’s like, I think, like-

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: … you mentioned, structure just really helps anybody. I love structure. I find when I’m off it really affects my day.

Kimberly: Agree.

Katelyn: You like to be a little less structured, but I think everybody has their bandwidth that works for them so just finding that.

Kimberly: Yeah. I think just being awake to the fact that, yes, we’re adults and we’re not children, but structure is healthy, and within structure we can start to really thrive and healthy habits and practices can become strengthened. So I would just say, Julia, look at the morning routine. Look at whatever practices you want to instill, whether it’s a midday meditation, not turning on your TV till a certain amount of time, being on social media at certain times. Whatever it is, I think structure is really healthy, and I think it’s a good exercise in working to stick to it, and I think you’ll feel really good and satisfied as you do so.

Question 2: My daughter was due to get married in May, and her plans have changed with everything going on in the world. She is heartbroken. Are there any tips I can share with her to help take the edge off the worry and disappointment she’s feeling?

Katelyn: Yes. Very tangible tip to kick today’s show off. The next question I’ve seen a lot. Some of my friends included had this happen to them. So we have Allison living in lovely San Francisco, California. My daughter was due to get married in May, and her plans have changed with everything going on in the world. She is heartbroken. Are there any tips I can share with her to help take the edge off the worry and disappointment she’s feeling?

Kimberly: Allison, my heart goes out to you and your family. Big virtual hug. I have thought about that. Actually, we have a family friend where that also happened. They were supposed to get married at the end of May, and they have postponed it for that weekend next year. So their wedding got pushed a full year. I’ll say that I was really concerned about my husband not being allowed into the delivery and recovery room at the hospital, which was what was happening a few weeks ago. Luckily, yesterday, our OB-GYN said they have lifted that, that they’re allowing one person per birth. Of course it’s going to be my husband in there.

Kimberly: So yeah. There’s just a lot of shifting and changing things right now. I’m sure she’s feeling very disappointed, but I think there’s always positive that we could try to look to. It doesn’t mean that she and her husband aren’t going to be together any less. Maybe there is a way to … I don’t know what the policies are on this. I know my husband and I actually did a court wedding before we had our full family wedding, and it felt really good to us. So I don’t know if there’s any sort of possibility like that.

Kimberly: But in either case, I think this is a perfect example of our whole topic of letting go, which is where it’s the resistance that really creates the pain. And it’s in the acceptance where healing takes place. This can be really, really challenging, and really, really hard, but these are the moments where we really grow. This is the time, Allison, where I felt so much resistance when my mom got sick, for instance. It felt really unfair. It felt like, “Oh my gosh. This is so sudden.” She was only sick for six weeks before she passed, and there was this resistance. But once there was this acceptance, it was like this huge cloud lifted from my shoulders and I felt like I could really be present with her at the end and I could see her body wasn’t really functioning anymore, and she was wasn’t going to suffer. I felt like she was going to a beautiful place of light. It wasn’t until I accepted it that it lifted.

Kimberly: So Dr. David Hawkins talks about this in the Letting Go book. I suggest getting her that book, Allison. It’s a great one to read right now. You can get it online on Amazon or wherever. It’s called Letting Go by Dr. David Hawkins. He really talks about the resistance part of things. Circumstances are going to come and go. Things in life are going to change. Right now, a lot of us may feel like, “Oh, crap. I’m getting behind in work.” Or I know friends that are single that really want to have a family and start having kids, and they’re like, “I can’t go out and meet anybody right now. My life’s on hold.” And the more they dig into feeling that frustration that they’re being cheated by life, they get more and more upset and it doesn’t change the circumstances.

Kimberly: So what Hawkins talks about is letting yourself feel those feelings and not get into your thoughts but just feeling it in your body. Feel the frustration. Feel the worry, the disappointment. Then what happens is you can move through that. It starts to clear from your body when we let ourselves deeply feel. Because most of the time we’re distracting. We’re turning something on. We’re talking to someone. We’re justifying it with words. But if we can just sit and feel, we start to heal and heal. And then maybe she will see, oh, we’ll get married down the road. It’s okay. I’m sheltering with my fiancé. It’s actually an amazing time for us to get closer. Now I can spend more time on my wedding plans or whatever it is. But it lifts that attachment to things looking and being a certain way. And if she can do that with this situation, it will serve her for the rest of her life. Things will come and go. My birth plan with Bubby radically changed. I had to let go to things not turning out exactly as I thought they would, going from a home birth to a C-section.

Kimberly: So we heal and we grow from all these things and from letting go, and it actually makes us more resilient, and more strong, and just really more peaceful people. So I hope that maybe she reads that book, Allison, and maybe you can share this podcast with her. I know it’s disappointing, I know it’s not what her plans were, but hopefully she’ll see some hidden gifts in this. And when we look back, she’ll see that it was actually in a way a blessing in disguise.

Katelyn: Got to take a sigh of relief after that one. There’s just so many changes and so much-

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: … going on. Everybody’s kind of in their own bubble, per se. I found for me what helps is to always look on the outside a little bit and ill go, “My feelings are valid.”

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: I’m allowed to feel how I feel, but there’s … I just try to think of other people might be suffering more or … Not to reflect that my feelings aren’t right or anything, but just to put it in perspective of … I have my friends that are nurses in the hospitals. They’re out there every day where … For me, if I’m going stir crazy at my house, I’m like, “Okay. Perspective.” I think that those are great, and that’s a great book from Dr. David Hawkins, which I love personally also. So we will link to that in the show notes for you, Beauties. We’ll let Kimberly take a short break here, and then she’ll come back and answer the last two questions.

Break

Kimberly: All right, Beauties. We are back from our break. We have two more questions for you guys on this topic of letting go, which is maybe one of the most challenging things we can do. But, wow, the growth, the healing that comes from this, it’s in a way, K, this is a time of great healing. The planet is healing. We know that nature is healing right now.

Katelyn: Yes.

Kimberly: Many people, and I say this with compassion, are suffering financial and health-wise, of course. But those of us that are lucky enough to be home, quarantined, safe, and cozy, this is a time to go inside and to see what doesn’t serve us. What didn’t serve me was being so rigid with my time frames and my plans that I would beat myself up if I didn’t get through my to-do list at the end of the day. K, I know you’re exactly the same way as me. Remember, K, even a few years ago if things didn’t move along fast enough how upset I would get? What else could we do? Why isn’t this product launching fast enough? What is happening? And now I feel that if we know we’ve done our best and we let go, things are going to happen.

Kimberly: It’s like being a weeping willow, going with the wind versus cracking like a rigid tree when things change. We have to be little weeping willow. We have to go with the flow. We have to be more like water, like the Dao talks about. Go and shift and change. Water’s very strong, but it’s also resilient.

Katelyn: Yes. We can create a lot of our pain-

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: … when we fight against things. And a lot of things, especially right now for me with my perfectionism and the way I operate, I really try to just put down what is in my control and what is not. Because there are just certain things no matter what we do we’ll fail at, quote, unquote, in our heads because it’s just not within our grasp. It’s not within our control. So I think that’s always good, a good reminder if you’re somebody that struggles with that the way Kimberly and I do is just to say, “Have I done my best today?”

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: And if you can say yes, then try to take that breather.

Kimberly: Exactly, exactly.

Question 3: Can you share how these last few months have affected you the most behind the scenes? How have you dealt with things personally and professionally?

Katelyn: Michelle from Newburyport, Mass has a question for you. Can you share how these last few months have affected you the most behind the scenes? How have you dealt with things personally and professionally?

Kimberly: Great question, Michelle. I think when we share with each other in a very honest way it connects us and hopefully just helps us feel that we aren’t alone in our struggles. So I’ll share that, first of all, physically, I’ve had a really tough time being this pregnant and with Bubby not being in school. He is so active right now. And those few hours he’s in preschool were my time to do work, to do podcast, to do blogs, to edit, and to rest. So the last few months have been very challenging on my body. I am within a few weeks of giving birth, so it’s been a lot. I’ve had a lot more just sheer exhaustion.

Kimberly: And I love him, and I want to give him everything. So I felt exhausted. At the end of the day, I cry. Sometimes I just lay. I did it last night. I lay in my husband’s arm, and he’s … You know, he’s a man. He’s like, “What’s going on? What can I do?” He’s like a fixer. I’m like, “No, no, no. It’s just a hormonal cry.” And that really feels like a release to me. But the exhaustion has been at a maximal level.

Kimberly: Professionally, there’s been … Solluna has done … We’ve done well, thankfully because we are in wellness, but there’s delays on Amazon and shipping. And there’s just a lot of details. People are getting things a lot later that we’ve had to manage. We’ve had to push back on fertility and plan-based course because we’re not able to shoot right now in this climate. So there’s, you know, back to this idea of letting go. It’s like ugh. That’s annoying. We ran out of stock for a bit here on our vitamin C serum. We sold out. There’s these little annoyances, right, K?

Katelyn: Yes.

Kimberly: But then, I just step back and say, “Okay, there’s nothing I can do about the professional stuff.” We’re doing our best as a team. Thankfully we have an amazing Solluna team. And I trust everyone on our team and love them implicitly. So I think having that foundation is really important.

Kimberly: Then as far as Bubby and my exhaustion, I try to remind myself in a way this is a gift that I get to see him. We spend some much time together before this new baby comes. So even when I’m the most tired, I just let go of thinking that days when I have him just … I mean, a lot of these days when he’s not able to nap, I’m just not going to be able to do a podcast. I’m not going to be able to work at all. So I let it go. It’s a healing for me in a way because I’m someone that finds it difficult to slow down. When Bubby was born, obviously newborns sleep a lot, but I was doing page proofs of Radical Beauty within three days. I was editing hundreds of pages of a manuscript. Remember, K, I was doing calls?

Kimberly: I think there’s a lesson in this. I think postpartum with this baby I’ll find it easier to kind of let go of all my to-dos and just really ground in. So for me, it’s also felt healing, but the last few weeks, if I had to characterize a couple words, I would say exhausting, full of love, and healing. Difference.

Katelyn: Yeah, I think it helps for people to hear the personal sides and just that they’re not alone.

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: I think everybody has been affected on some level with what’s going on and just to hear a friend, somebody you look up to, just somebody else share what they’re going through, I think that can just be a sense of relief that you’re not the only one dealing with it.

Kimberly: Exactly. Exactly.

Question 4: How do I let go of the fact that I may not graduate when I thought? I know there are worse things in the world, but I help but think of my future and what will really happen. Any advice to calm the anxious?

Katelyn: All right, K. We have one more question today from Sue from Scottsdale, Georgia. Her question is, How do I let go of the fact that I may not graduate when I thought? I know there are worse things in the world, but I help but think of my future and what will really happen. Any advice to calm the anxious?

Kimberly: Sue, sending you a big virtual hug. My heart goes out to you. I know especially for people that are completing a educational program or finishing up a degree or something like that, it may feel particularly unsettling about the job market, and graduation, what’s to come in the future. So I will say, Sue, everything we talked about so far in this topic of letting go is to really remember that anxiety is exactly as you put it. It’s about future-based thinking, and we can’t … We just absolutely cannot deal with what-ifs because they don’t exist yet. So the most powerful thing you can do is to stay grounded into the present today and what is going on today, what can I do today. So if you have classwork that you can do today, if you … There’s things you can do today like getting your resumé ready or working on some skills, taking care of your body today, making healthy food today.

Kimberly: Our four cornerstones, which we haven’t talked about so much on this show, but this would be a really great practice for you, Sue, is to make a little square or rectangle on a page. Write food, body, emotional well-being, and spiritual growth, and work in each cornerstone. So from a food standpoint, some of the best practices for keeping anxiety at bay and staying present is fiber, which gives you that sense of groundedness in your body. So smoothies, soup, fruit, whole grains, earthy foods like sweet potatoes and carrots are grounding.

Kimberly: Body-wise, I will say some kind of home yoga practice, walking in nature, taking your SBO probiotics. Lots of earthy poses like child’s pose, warm baths, showers. Take care of your body. Try to sleep well. That’s going to also really help with anxiety.

Kimberly: Emotionally, join a really positive community like our online Solluna Circle program, which I’m personally going to be spending a lot more time within a … There’s a private Facebook group as part of the membership that I want to be nurturing a lot more, journaling. All this comes with the program. So getting into something like that where you’re processing your feelings in the present moment is also going to feel good and great. And again, we don’t know when graduation may exactly happen, but you can strengthen yourself right now.

Kimberly: And spiritually, meditating, being in nature, just sitting in nature. I find myself, and I go outside with Bubby, and sometimes we just sit. He’ll play with these different leaves, and I’ll just look at the rocks and the leaves. This wasn’t something I was doing so much a few months ago, K, but really simple, connecting, breathing, just being there is so healing and it’s so simple. I think that work around practices. Stick to even small simple things in each of the cornerstones. Try to stay off the news. Try to stop guessing and worrying what’s going to happen. Let it unfold. Let it happen and its own time. Remember, Sue, you can only do your best every day at a time. Remember that there are millions of others graduates in the same boat as you so you’re definitely not alone. And you can’t control it. So the healthiest thing you can do is stay grounded and healthy and connected in this present moment.

Katelyn: I think having those few things that can bring you back to the present moment really help.

Kimberly: Yes.

Katelyn: I often live in the future and the past so I am too guilty of needing to be more in the present moment. It’s quite difficult.

Kimberly: Yeah, it’s a practice. But as someone that has made progress in the area, because I used to be so future based, can be done. If I can do it, you guys can do it, too. And it comes with daily practices, daily little meditations, even if they’re short, reminding yourselves to stay present. The journaling has really helped, everything that we teach. Now I’ve been doing it for over a decade. Doesn’t take that long to see the results. You start to see results fairly quickly. But I’ll just say that it is a muscle that you build. It’s something that strengthens over time. But we just want to stay with our small but consistent practices and you will start to see great benefits.

Thought of the Week

Katelyn: Is there anything you’re thinking to round out the show today for your inspirational thought of the week?

Kimberly: Yes, Beauties. So I actually prepared this quote for you guys. I do love this author. I talk about him all the time. I talked about him today, Dr. David Hawkins. This quote comes from him. I think I feel so connected to him because I was reading his book to my mother in the hospital bed, and I read it after she passed. There’s certain books that come at certain points in your life. I’m sure you have them, K, and everyone has them that you really feel connected to.

Kimberly: So this quote is, again, from Dr. Hawkins. He writes, “Every life experience, no matter how ‘tragic’ contains a hidden lesson. When we discover and acknowledge the hidden gift that is there, a healing takes place.” So in the world today, it’s very easy to say, “Oh, god. This sucks. Why me? I wish it wasn’t this way.” That’s all the resistance. If we can just relax into letting go and accepting that this is what’s happening and we can either resist it or not but either way it’s going to happen, and we can start to find growth, and healing, and shedding, and tendencies for worry and planning that maybe never really served us that now we’re really confronted with and now we can really have the opportunity to let go of. So I encourage you guys to see lessons, to see gifts, to see growth, and healing right now in this unprecedented, challenging, unsettling, crazy time. How can we turn it towards a positive?

Kimberly: I know there’s so much that goes on every day for you guys emotionally, mentally. I just want you to know how much we’re here for you. I’m here for you. I’m thinking about you a lot and praying. We have our Instagram live where you can ask me more questions, which is Monday and Wednesday on my handle which is @_kimberlysnyder. As I mentioned, I’m going to be doing a lot more personal nurturing in our online Solluna Circle community, which you can check out on our site. And of course our SBO probiotics are a foundational product I highly recommend. The number one product I recommend right now for immunity, gut health, positive moods, all of that. So you could check out some of our resources over there.

Kimberly: Thank you so much for tuning in. As always, please keep the questions coming. There is a tab. There’s a way on the homepage if someone [inaudible 00:37:45] to answer the … to submit the questions, K?

Katelyn: Yes. Just head over to mysolluna.com and hover over the podcast or click the podcast if you’re on your mobile device. Then you’ll just see it says Ask Kimberly. Click on that, and it’ll take you to the form where you can keep submitting your questions.

Kimberly: K, I have to say that I am so grateful for you in this time being so grounded. So guys, I have this question Michelle was asking about behind the scenes. Katelyn is the person on our team that we call the earth mama. There’s a lot of things that go on behind the scenes with Solluna. There is warehouse stuff. There’s product development. There’s online courses. There’s just so much with our website. I mean, things that I don’t understand because I’m not a tech person, but we just switched our whole … I don’t know, K. What do you call it? Like platform?

Katelyn: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah, we just switched templates.

Kimberly: Yeah, there’s managing our whole team. We have a wonderful team from customer service, to tech, to just all kinds of people. Katelyn is the person on our team that manages everything, and we’ve kept her on the podcast because she’s been with me from the beginning. I just love her, and I vibe with her, but she’s very busy. And through all of this change, she just got married and she moved to Virginia, but she has not skipped one beat. So K, I just want to say for me, you’ve been a really big grounding force, and I love you.

Katelyn: Aw, thank you so much. Kim knows that I really don’t take acknowledgments well so she’s putting me on the spot here on the podcast as a real true test. But I will take that in and-

Kimberly: Take it in.

Katelyn: Take it in. I think you guys could take this as a nod to something you could do in your day. I think it really does feel good to feel appreciated. So if you have a friend or a family member or somebody that really means a lot to you, take a minute and give them a call today and let them know because it does really help when you’re in the thick of it and you are working so hard or you’re involved in something to have that moment to hear that. So thank you, Beauties. And as always, I love being in the show and being here and part of the community.

Kimberly: Thank you, K. And yes, thank you, Beauties, for tuning in. We love you. Check out the resources. Check out the show notes. We will back here Monday for our next interview podcast. Till then, sending you a huge, big, virtual, cozy, big hug. Lots of love, and we’ll see you back here soon.