How to Create Community and Reach Life Goals with Jeff Krasno [Episode #827]
This week’s topic is: How to Create Community and Reach Life Goals with Jeff Krasno
I am so excited to have my very special guest, Jeff Krasno, who is the co-founder & Executive Chairman of Wanderlust and CEO and co-founder of Commune, an online course platform featuring the world’s great teachers and thought leaders. Listen in as Jeff shares his thoughts on creating community, managing thoughts of judgment, creating a healthy container for connection, and so much more!
- Creating community…
- Unhealthy boundaries and how to course correct…
- How to manage thoughts of judgment and annoyances in others…
- Creating a healthy container for connection…
- Letting go of emotional trauma…

About Jeff Krasno
In 2018, Jeff founded Commune Media, an online learning platform for personal and societal well-being. As CEO & Chairman, Jeff focuses on business development and talent relationships. Jeff also hosts the Commune podcast, interviewing a wide variety of luminaries from Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson to Matthew McConaughey and Russell Brand. Jeff pens a weekly essay exploring spirituality, culture and politics that is distributed to over one million people.
Jeff is also the co-creator of Wanderlust, a global series of wellness events. In 2016, he was selected by Oprah Winfrey to be part of the SuperSoul100 as one of the nation’s leading entrepreneurs. In 1995, Jeff married his college sweetheart, Schuyler Grant. They live in Los Angeles and have three daughters.
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Transcript:
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Kimberly: 00:01 Namaste loves and welcome back to our Monday interview show where I’m so excited to have back on our podcast, Jeff Krasno, who is not only a dear friend of mine, he’s the co-founder and executive chairman of Wanderlust, the ginormous yoga festivals, which are in 14 countries around the world. And he’s also the co-founder of Commune, an online course platform featuring the world’s great teachers and thought leaders. And I’m grateful to say that I have also launched a course with Commune on creating Beauty from the inside out. And Jeff is such a brilliant thinker and one of the things we focus on today is his brilliance in creating community and moving his personal goals, what he wants to create in life into physical manifestation. You can see from these amazing things he’s created, he has been able to bring them into life and also bring so many other people along with him, which we will talk about today.
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01:10 I also want to give a special shout out to our amazing fan of the week, jdjejson, who writes, Kimberly, thank you for being a blessing for so many of us. You are helping to uncover our true potential so we too can be a beacon of light and love in this world. Thank you so much jdjejson for your amazing words. I send you so much love and I am so grateful for you being in our community. It really is our intention with the show to support you. So please be sure to check out all our offerings over a my sauna.com, including a place where you can submit questions for our Thursday q and a show. So all that being said, I’m so excited to introduce once again my dear friend Jeff Krasno.
Interview with Jeff Krasno
Kimberly: 00:06:13 One of the things that I wanted to bring up to you, Jeff, what did you hear on the spot? Is everybody now is talking about community. We know it’s really important to feel a sense of belonging. We’re part of this collective community. We want more intimate community, but it’s not always easy for people to find. It’s not always easy for people to create. As humans, we’re so complex and actually more and more keeps emerging about trauma. I did another show this morning about trauma. There’s all these trauma experts now, and this idea that we can feel separate, we feel triggered by other humans. And I’ll say that one thing I’ve known about you, and I’ve experienced it being with you many occasions, many different people, is that you have really high emotional intelligence. You have this ability to just bring people together. You’ve created wanderlust, you’ve created commune, and these are powerful skills. And they’re not as easy as taking an accounting class or something. There’s something about out melding with others that I don’t even know if you can. You’re so humble that if you can really speak to that, that just has come naturally to you. I know you mentioned you would do music concerts in college.
Creating community
Jeff: 00:07:44 Yeah. It’s funny. I mean, wouldn’t it be nifty if I had the equivalent of a continuous glucose monitor for my emotional intelligence? I know it’s a little off today.
Kimberly: 00:07:55 You could teach a course on that. I’m serious. Getting along with others, creating community.
Jeff: 00:08:00 Yeah. Well, I suppose if there is a thread that weaves through the fabric of my entire life, it’s been around fostering community, I guess, or creating a container for community to flourish. And I will say a lot of it is baked in to what I might frame as sort of the trauma inducing events of my childhood, where kind of my biggest flaw, my Achilles heel became in some ways my superpower. And that was as a kid, I was living overseas with my parents who were moving around every six months or so all over Europe
Kimberly: 00:08:50 Military?
Jeff: 00:08:51 No, my dad was a Fulbright professor, so he was getting grants at universities. And then we ended up moving to Brazil for three years. And he ran the Ford Foundation there and was somewhat responsible for bringing Sesame Street to Brazil in Portuguese. That was my claim to fame when I lived there. But yeah, we were bopping around to a new country, often a new language. We lived in Spain as well. I was a very chubby kid. And so all of this sort of paracetic to and fro in combination with sort of my bulging belly that would drift over the sides of my genes and cause my inner thighs be thread bear and whatnot, contributed to a very kind of difficult childhood. You were teased, I was teased, mercilessly, and of course all a child wants to do is to belong. Yes. Or at that juncture fit in.
00:10:06 And I didn’t really couldn’t gr at the age of five. The difference between fitting in and belonging fitting in is essentially a desire to be in connection, so much so that you’re willing to sacrifice your authentic self. And Gabor was up just tap Pango a few months ago. And I remember one thing that he said that really landed with me, which was that humans, especially children, will always sacrifice their authenticity for belonging. And I was like, whew, man, you just pegged me as a kid. And so I was always people pleasing. I was always trying to do everything I can, using every arrow in the quiver to create connection to a sense of belonging. I have some very, very unfortunate or so I would say stories of great misfortune that are quite humorous. Well, we can maybe save them for another time. But things that happened to me that were very, they’re sort of funny in retrospect, but they were very scarring.
00:11:29 And so I just was using the tools I had to do the very, very best I could as a child to make a connection. So much so that I tend to adopt the accent of anyone that I’m with still unconsciously sort of in this dance of connection. And if you actually listen to some of my podcast episodes, my kids and Skylar are mortified, but I’ll be interviewing Matthew McConaughey and I’ll be like, okay, here I am today with Matthew McConaughey. Oh my God, for Wim Hof. If you go back and listen to the Wim Hof episode, I said, okay, whim. Now you’ve got to tell me what it’s like to get into the ice. Or Russell, how we do Russell nonstop. I basically became sort of had some sort of strange received pronunciation, British accent for anytime I was with him. And in a way I can kind of point fun at myself and say, well, you should just be confident with who you really are.
00:12:41 But I do think that it was sort of like a vestige of this incredible adaptive capability to connect with people and so much that sort of came to a head. I remember when I first really realized that I started doing this, I was in, this is so embarrassing. I was in New York living, I lived in New York for a very long time. My kids were young. I got them into a cab, and I noticed that the cabbie, the taxi driver was Jamaican or presumably Jamaican because he had just dreadlocks everywhere. And I said to him, took me up town Mark.
Kimberly: 00:13:23 Oh no.
Jeff: 00:13:25 And he looked at me like, you’re sorry, white ass.
Kimberly: 00:13:29 Yeah. He’s like, white man, what are you talking about? Go back to, and your kids were like,
Jeff: 00:13:34 My kids were like, oh my god, dad. So these are some of the more humorous symptoms of it. But I think that more seriously, I so valued connection that I brought it with me like a rock sack through my life. And the things that I ended up doing were essentially around
Kimberly: 00:14:01 Connection,
Jeff: 00:14:02 Fostering connection.
Kimberly: 00:14:04 But on the other side of that, did you find yourself getting drained, losing yourself, having unhealthy boundaries, learning how to recorrect if you were going over too much?
Unhealthy boundaries and how to course correct
Jeff: 00:14:16 Yeah, absolutely. I mean, people pleasing is
Kimberly: 00:14:20 Exhaust Exhausting. Exhausting. Yeah.
Jeff: 00:14:22 It is exhausting. And now very, very concomitant with disease. I mean, Gabor’s, whole recent book, the Myth of Normal has significant sections on this where he’s studies the prevalence of certain chronic diseases in association with people-pleasing.
Kimberly: 00:14:44 Wow.
Jeff: 00:14:45 Yeah. And you can imagine why, I mean, we don’t need to do sort a physiological mechanistic breakdown here, but if you are always in a state of people pleasing, always in a sort of aggravated or agitated state,
Kimberly: 00:15:01 Hyper
Jeff: 00:15:02 Alert, hyper alert, always over-concerned with how other people view you, that is going to essentially put you in a sympathetic overload
Kimberly: 00:15:12 State, all always in fight the time flight.
Jeff: 00:15:14 And so we know all the downstream hormonal effects of that. We don’t really necessarily have to go into that, but I could tell you how being in a state of fight or flight stimulate steroid hormones from your adrenal gland that are going to raise your glucose’s, going to send them, and then all of a sudden you’ve got insulin sensitivity or insulin resistance, I should say. And then that’s upstream from diabetes and all these other things. So the connections are there to be made. And indeed, three years ago I was diagnosed with prediabetes.
Kimberly: 00:15:44 Wow.
Jeff: 00:15:46 And then that really is what propelled me towards my current health junket.
Kimberly: 00:15:53 Yes. Which I’d love to hear about in just a moment. But back to this for now, where it stands today, you notice there’s people pleasing. You notice there’s connection. I’ve wondered this, Jeff, I’m going to ask you here. It just doesn’t seem to me, but I want to ask you directly, if you judge people, you don’t seem to get annoyed. I’ve worked a lot on myself judgment and judging others saying, oh, that’s a different path or a different journey. Sometimes people will trigger me and I notice it and I see ’em within myself. But I’ve seen you with such different people and you have this wide variety of people you work with and on your courses, do you judge? Do people annoy you?
How to manage thoughts of judgment and annoyance in others
Jeff: 00:16:39 Sure. Yeah. I mean, if I said no, my kids would roll their eyes,
Kimberly: 00:16:47 Keep you honest,
Jeff: 00:16:48 And they would keep me honest. Well, listen, I have an awareness of my own judgment more or less when I judge people. And I try to be mindful of that. Of course. As someone who cared so much about being judged, I have a tremendous amount of, I guess I would say emotional intelligence or empathy or compassion to judging others. And we’ve all had relationships in our lives that are difficult. And I’ve had, when my parents had an awful acrimonious divorce that took 10 years and replete with Kramer versus Kramer, like court cases and all this kind of stuff. And I beared a lot of resentment around that for a very long time. And then at some point I just said, oh man, my parents were just doing the best they could with the faculties and the resources that they had, and I just have to let go because that judgment of them, that was really the ember that I was holding in my own head.
00:18:11 And of course, when you do that, you’re the one getting burned, so just let go. But it’s hard because humans are unique as a species in so far that we care so much about ethics. We judge through the lens of morality all the time. I remember it was a couple of years ago, there was a Muslim late teenager, or maybe he was in his twenties, and he went into a grocery store in Boulder, Colorado with a semi-automatic gun and started opening fire and killed, I don’t remember how many people, but eight people. Eight or 10 people was just an travesty, just tragic in every aspect. The very same day, there was a tornado in the southeast that came hurtling through a town and killed. I remembered 12 or 14 people, and they were both tragic, but one got, obviously the mass shooting got so much more coverage press coverage than the tornado. And it’s because we lop a moral judgment on top of that. Whereas that is awful. That is bad. That is morally bereft where the tornado is like, oh, well, we couldn’t really have done anything about that. That doesn’t really represent any sort of transgression that we can put our thumb on.
00:20:02 But of course, they were both tragic and we assume that this killer had some degree of free will to do what he did. And because of that, we judge, we put a moral judgment on that person and saying, well, they could have done something different and they didn’t, so they now must pay the retributive price. There’s a punishment that goes along with that. And yeah, I mean obviously you need to protect people from folks that are unstable and might shoot people, but I really started to think, when did this guy have free will? When was his choice? And when you start to really unwind that, I think you begin to judge less. You begin to sort of stop knee jerk reaction, labeling things
Kimberly: 00:21:10 As good and bad. These kinds of people, these extreme examples, which are great. We see judging people, you did this, the moral, the morals come out. But then there’s little micro judgements in a conversation like, oh, that person’s annoying. Or They’re unconscious. Or unconscious or they don’t know. And again, back to your ability to be really centered enough to hold the space, you’re around so many different kinds of people all the time. Right? These retreats, when you were doing wanderlust, when you’re doing commune or how did, or maybe you’re one of those people that didn’t, like you said, because of your upbringing, you didn’t have a lot of triggers. My triggers are different because I experienced more neglect. So my triggers are like, oh, you don’t see me. You don’t understand me. That’ll come forward that I’ve been working to heal. But with you, it’s really powerful to be stable and not have these what seem like you don’t seem to have these annoyances with all different kinds of people. So is that something you’ve worked on?
Tools for managing micro judgements
Jeff: 00:22:22 Yeah, I mean, I think it’s part of being centered quite literally.
Kimberly: 00:22:28 Yes,
Jeff: 00:22:29 You can’t really blow me down. I’m like a weebo wobble,
Kimberly: 00:22:33 Right? You have your center here. People come and go. They say what they say,
Jeff: 00:22:37 What is it? Seven times down, eight times up, such as life. And I’m certainly not immune to being annoyed, but I think there is, again, I think it’s partially due to the trials and tribulations of my upbringing that I’m very aware of how people are feeling at any time. And there’s this calibration that’s happening. I’m taking in all the periphery and I’m like, okay, that person might be slightly uncomfortable in this situation. Maybe we’ll do this here. We’ll bring this topic up. But that person needs to feel involved. And there’s kind of like this algorithm that’s just ticking away in order to try to make people feel comfortable and at ease.
Kimberly: 00:23:34 Yes. Empath, you’re very empathetic. You can feel
Jeff: 00:23:40 Yeah, I think so. And I move on.
Kimberly: 00:23:45 Yeah, you just say whatever pretty quickly. I love that
Jeff: 00:23:49 You’re there. You’re completely connected, and then you move on. It’s actually been tricky. I started leading these retreats with Schuyler.
Kimberly: 00:23:58 Oh yes. How was that leading it with your wife?
Jeff shares his experience leading retreats with his wife Schuyler
Jeff: 00:24:04 We have separate lanes and that makes it work. She leads yoga and it’s wonderful. And people have a spiritual sweat. And I just kind of blather on and try to make people laugh and cry mostly cry a little bit. We don’t know why we cry. We don’t know why we laugh, and I don’t remember. Oh, yes. Because then we’ll do, and when you’ve led many retreats and seminars and whatnot, and we always do a opening circle and a closing circle. So the opening circle, we just create a space for people to be vulnerable and to tell us why they’re there. And it’s so heavy. It’s so beautiful and raw, and just the stories intense. I dunno. We did one recently, and there was a single mother from Houston, a black woman who had been sold into sexual slavery by her own mother, molested by her own mother, was in a homeless shelter, ended up working at that homeless shelter, had two kids, has been sort of on a roller coaster of being depressed and suicidal, and now trying to break the cycles of violence in her family. And there she is, just sharing this with,
Kimberly: 00:25:35 Wow,
Jeff: 00:25:36 30 strangers. I mean, you don’t stay strangers for too long in that
Kimberly: 00:25:41 Context. Showing up. Yeah.
Jeff: 00:25:43 Yeah. There was this other, and then across the room, I don’t actually go, this is actually a good technique, little tip for anyone running a retreat. Don’t go around the circle in sequential order.
Kimberly: 00:25:57 Everybody’s thinking about what to That’s exactly
Jeff: 00:26:00 Right. And they’re not present.
Kimberly: 00:26:01 It’s not as fresh.
Jeff: 00:26:02 So what I do is I say, write your name down on a piece of paper and your spirit vegetable.
Kimberly: 00:26:09 I love
Jeff: 00:26:10 It. So I’m Jeff Sprouts often. I don’t know who you’d be. You’d be Kimberly. What’s your favorite
Kimberly: 00:26:16 Vegetable? Kimberly? Kale. Kimberly
Jeff: 00:26:17 Kale. That’d be good. And so then I put it in a hat, and then we just pick out of the hat. So no, I mean, yeah, people know that they’ve got to go at some point, but no one’s like, oh, I’m going next. I’m not here.
Kimberly: 00:26:29 That is brilliant. Because of that.
Jeff: 00:26:32 And people always have a good laugh because it’ll be like Zena zucchini or something. I’d be like, alright, so we’re going not around the circle. And then there’s this total hippie Grateful Dead dude who works at a soup kitchen who’s a diabetic, and he’s there to figure out how to reverse his insulin resistance and whatnot. And he’s sharing. And there’s a woman from Siberia who lost both of her parents before she was 10, somehow made it to Canada. There was another woman from Cameroon.
Kimberly: 00:27:16 This is all in one in the last retreat. Yeah.
Jeff: 00:27:19 Wow. I mean, I’m doing these and I’m like, oh, it’s all going to be like Julie from Santa Barbara and Lycra. It’s not at all that way. And that’s great. Julie from Santa Barbara and Lycra is completely welcome, but you know what I mean. It’s super diverse. This woman from Cameroon came over by herself as a teenager, put herself through nursing school and is a nurse in Minnesota. Minnesota. And they’re all here and she’s heavy. She’s trying to deal with weight issues and how it’s kind of a tug of war between physical issues and their psychological issues, whatnot. So then we have this completely immersive experience for two and a half days. We’re getting these people in the ice bath who would be like, oh, fucking hell, I’ll never get in an ice. Okay, whatever. And
Kimberly: 00:28:18 We’re like, wow. That’s the power of the group. The community cheering you
Jeff: 00:28:23 On. Cheering you on. Exactly. And whatever we’re doing all sorts of protocols, healthy food and movement, reconnecting with nature, rewilding, et cetera, get everyone doing pull-ups and squatting and going barefoot and all that stuff. And then by the end, we go back around the circle and people have this transformation. And it wouldn’t happen if it wasn’t in
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